【Apple】My future husband traded me for a more elegant girl because I'm 'stingy' but then...

[@franciskadescamps5728]

being frugal is a good thing, but going out to diner once in a while is not so bad. reminds me of the show "extreme cheapskates"

[@dolphindiver7724]

Lol fr. But from what I’ve heard Lucy was honestly made it look like she wasn’t even that frugal compared to how the people on that show acted.

[@dragonyami]

Tim, if you started hating her that soon into the relationship then WHY THE FUCK did you propose to her in the first place?! Your feelings are valid but there's a proper order to shit Break up FIRST, THEN go out with someone else!

[@Esiaa]

"She's so stingy she rides her bike to work" buster, if I had a bike here, I'd do the same thing. I'd save so much money! Plus, it's daily exercise.

[@kathleenherron594]

I admire that she’s saving money, but she’s really overwhelming with her constant talking about it. If she’s that overbearing now, it would just get worse. I’m a saver too, but you can’t let it take over normal conversations.

[@rosaleenstark9187]

Tim: I'm ashamed of my fiance because how dare she save money Also Tim: I hate my new girl because she wastes money Really? So what on earth do you want?????????

[@KCohere33]

Tim is just a whiner and never satisfied. He could have just told her how he felt instead of whining about how she’s “no fun” like a child.

[@BIGBLOCK5022006]

When will people like Tim in this video realize that dumping your spouse for an "upgrade" doesn't mean that you will be living happily ever after? And, in my opinion, Lucy is being smart by being conservative with the money because if there's an emergency like a busted pipe or something breaks in the vehicle she drives then she's covered.

[@smhaceofspades2813]

EXACTLY having a rainy day fund is an absolute MUST, but of course there is still millions of people who do struggle with being able to save money because living pay check to pay check is a reality and prices of goods increase without the wages to offset that gap so many people struggle to even put 20 dollars a month into savings.

[@aurorarosette5500]

Right, i;m trying to be that way at 26 now to save more money for emergency situations and stuff that way im not living pay check to paycheck with no extra money

[@ellenhage3611]

She's not stingy. She freely gave money for his mom's surgery. Lucy will always have money for a rainy day. He won't have anything and will work until he passes.

[@jonborchardt5548]

And now TIM is the one with a lot of 'splainin' to do. LOL

[@KCohere33]

I think her frugality is really admirable. She looks good, she saves money, and she”s happy. Having expensive labels is not that important.

[@selbarton]

She badgers people until they give her things they don't want to give up so she doesn't have to buy them. Notice future mil's dress was a designer name she wanted. She's not admirable in how she goes about it. She even demands his income be where she has access to it. How dare he not save as she wants despite it not being hers at all.

[@LoveOnTheInsidex3]

@@selbartondon’t put all the blame on her

[@KCohere33]

@@selbartonWhen did she badger anyone? All I heard was her asking her MIL for a dress and bargaining to get two dollars off something else. I don’t see a thing wrong with what she is doing. I wish I was that money wise. I wouldn’t be in debt now 😂

[@dragonyami]

Yikes Even making 60k/year, buying a 7k bag is way too expensive

[@angeliqueillstopprocrastin479]

Frugality is great-I practice it daily and in a lot of ways she talked about. However-being the ONLY thing you talk about would make me leave, too.

[@s.l.m6671]

A lot of people would be grateful for a partner who is smart enough to save toward their future.

[@cazia9]

Tim and Sue are the kind of people who would be screwed nine ways to Sunday if they suddenly lost their source of income come … ‘daily moderation, special occasion splurge’ is a concept neither are familiar with

[@dolphindiver7724]

I wish Tim had come to the proper conclusion that he wasn’t in love with Lucy before he had cheated on her 🤦‍♀️

[@filcannoypi1752]

If your gf is materialistic, her 30k/yr will not be enough. She or both of you will be in debt.

[@youmadhuh6375]

Tim did her a HUGE favor... had she married him she would've spent her whole struggling just to get by... tim seems to think you should spend the money on stupid stuff as it comes in. he doesn't believe in saving.. tim will be 100 and still working with that warp thinking... his mother isn't any better. I think tim and his new wife are perfect for each other.. they both love wasting money. That's what tim and his mom wanted.. why are they so upset?🤭

[@ange0919]

The new wife is spending his fortune, when Lucy wasn’t so he and his mom could spend it all on themselves…

[@jenniferbeyer6412]

Saving money is important, when possible. But sometimes it is impossible to save money. Like if you suddenly became disabled saving money is impossible.

[@2Fangirl]

I don't know why it annoys me so much, but I hate it when they say growing in your tummy as if they're a 10 year old who doesn't know that a baby doesn't grow in your tummy. It's actually very irritating

[@jenniferbeyer6412]

Yes. It's annoying and stupid. It's insulting to women everywhere. It sounds like the mother is eating the child.

[@KCohere33]

It’s a little cutesy but I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. We all know where babies come from.

[@PatrickA.Brandon]

This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@RoyJ.Tillison-tq5ed]

I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back.

[@PatrickA.Brandon]

Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?

[@RoyJ.Tillison-tq5ed]

Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being.

[@PatrickA.Brandon]

Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.

[@lindahill7315]

Good morning, everyone from Alabama. Everyone should always have a rainy day fund. I am very thankful that I have done this

[@JasperCatProductions]

Ridiculous story, they weren’t right for each other. The one so stingy and controlling, I couldn’t live like that either.

[@danielabolivar1761]

Great and cute story 😊!!!

[@georgiannmartinez8547]

Tim could have gotten a side gig for fun money, Lucy could have gotten coupons for nice restaurants or resorts for both of them and he would have his snack and beer money.

[@LeeTakarin]

Same story, different viewpoint Nice one

[@Mama_Bear_of_4]

Sorry, but with the cost of living in the USA, if one makes $30,000 a year they need to be frugal in what they buy. There is a running we have in our family. My husband says he wears the pants in the family but I just tell him which ones to wear (he is terrible at putting outfits together). Lol. When my eldest daughter was in school, she had a friend who would brag about having spent $100 on a pair of name-brand jeans. My daughter would then tell her that was crazy, and she went to a thrift store and bought four pairs of the same name jeans, which were in perfect condition, for $50.

[@joanns7007]

I was frugal and was able to payoff my home loan in 14 years with just my salary. But you still have to treat yourself sometimes

[@tswain92_]

You've raised a wise daughter.

[@dollypeeps]

Taking someone’s card that isn’t yours is fraud

[@crazycatladym3027]

There is nothing wrong with saving money

[@catrionamassey8521]

Theres saving, however shes to much. You need to treat yourself sometimes

[@sherrystearns7259]

I admire her. I want you to make over her mother-in-law's suit is very admiral

[@warrentreadwelljr.treadwel2694]

This girl is a horrible person. Everything out of this girl’s mouth is an order. She has a point to what she wants about saving money but her negative way of expressing ideas turns everyone off. If you don’t do what she orders, you earned a soliloquy that probably lasts hours. I wouldn’t last 10 minutes around her.

[@christopherburch1762]

My wife and I were blessed with one boy and one girl.

[@kalulugamer]

I always wanted to ride my bike to work.. its a BMX from my days as 90's kid. After the pandemic i started working from home.. I now just ride my bike as an exercise..

[@66DoodleGal]

Lucy dodged a nuke

[@horrorscope07]

Hang on. He never had an issue with her clothes until Mom said so? Also she's not a pony, you don't show off people. She's better off without him.

[@fabricdragon]

2 minutes in: girl! dump that guy! hes gonna get you in debt, you would think he would be HAPPY to have a good frugal wife!

[@patriciariley963]

Good morning from Oklahoma

[@BIGBLOCK5022006]

Greetings, fellow Okie from Michigan.

[@spoosieoopsie1616]

Greetings from a former Okie (grew up in Moore) who now lives in the Dakotas.

[@christopherburch1762]

By the time they make it to their 50th Tim would be in his 90’s.

[@tanithschneider3051]

Hermes is incredibly expensive. Like- no bags under 10k.

[@linexp274]

Op is a bit too much. She’s obsessed over saving money. It good to save money but she takes it to a whole new level.

[@norarivkis2513]

Tim is an ass, but he does have a point about one thing: it's not a bargain if it's something you don't need or want to buy in the first place! Buying something like tofu only works if you actually want to use tofu. If you don't have a purpose for tofu, then it's a wasteful expense even at one penny.

[@noxiouschocolate9644]

Yeah, the cheapest option is to not buy it at all

[@norarivkis2513]

Lucy sounds like she's really good at making things fun without spending money. That's the key to living that frugally without living meanly -- being creative enough and skilled enough to create the same levels of enjoyment without spending that you would have with it. If you can't do that, then it's better to be a *little* less careful, and give yourselves a limited fun budget. But it's best of both worlds to be able to make your own fun for free. All that said, Tim was right to break things off. They're clearly not compatible. Tim doesn't have that ability to make fun for free, and he also doesn't have the joy that Lucy clearly takes in the game of bargain-hunting. She belongs with someone who isn't going to drag her down, and he would never be happy with somebody who made him do it constantly; because if you don't have the temperament to be able to enjoy the sport of it, you'll never be able to sustain it on that strict a regimen over the long term. Ideally, they would have broken up and he'd find someone who lives sensibly... neither extravagantly nor as frugally as Lucy. She'd find someone who takes as much pleasure as she does in the process, who gets a kick out of setting the table like a restaurant at home and who loves to bring home the excited story of the latest bargain he found. They'll be happy together in a way that she and Tim never could be.

[@KCohere33]

I love that she set the table like a restaurant. That proved to me that she’s not some skinflint who doesn’t enjoy life. She just likes to make her money go farther.

[@norarivkis2513]

@@KCohere33 She does like to make her money go farther... but that's the thing; she *likes* to. It's a game to her. Listen to how enthusiastic she sounded about every bargain she scored or new thing she learned how to do for herself (the voice actress did a great job with that, BTW). It's not just *having* more money that makes her happy, so she saves. The *process* of finding ways to save money make her happy. I know people like that, for whom haggling and couponing are sports, and they track their successes, always trying to better their best score. They're wonderful people, but they need to be partnered with someone else who enjoys the same hobby.

[@KCohere33]

@@norarivkis2513 I definitely agree that she chose the wrong partner 😂

[@MacCrafter707]

Whoever wrote this can't math. Someone making $60k is not buying expensive designer clothes.

[@georgiannmartinez8547]

Right and 30,000$ A year is struggle money, they are absolutely right to look for deals.

[@conjumonblue6450]

I think you are severely underestimating how stupid some people are. There are a LOT of people making that much buying designer crap they don't need.

[@jadorianempire9754]

Tim….how does dating correlate to shopping?🤔

[@piestangram1361]

Lucy's not exactly likeable too. they're just not right for each other

[@acatnamedtaz2167]

I think Tim is right, not about how he handled it, just him trying to budget as strictly as she does and live like that for ever, not going to work. He needs outside stimulation like a lot of other people, so It would never work as she's not like that. She needs to find someone that enjoys never eating takeout and sitting at home checking the sales and cutting out coupons. That's a partner that could make her happy and not be stressed and nag her man for spend money on anything that's not a need So lighten just a little bit or find a man with her interests , but Tim isn't for her and he would never have made her truly happy

[@sliever4]

From one extreme to another..😥😤

[@KCohere33]

It’s not really that extreme. She is not going so far as to make their lives worse by being stingy. He is just complaining because they don’t go out and have fun more. And I bet if he spoke to her about it, she would be willing to compromise.

[@christopherburch1762]

My wife likes to buy clothes from thrift stores.

[@freyasslain2203]

I am a frugal person . But this protagonist isn't frugal , she is a downright cheapskate . I hate people like that . You don't have to wear Versace dresses and Chanel handbags or Ferragamo shoes , but you don't have to be such a penny pincher either.

[@christopherburch1762]

If I believed in karma, I would say this was it.

[@Wakilonzo]

Congratulations

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Why doesn’t he buy her expensive designer brands if he wants her to wear them ? Spoil her ? Instead he complains about her saving money.

[@freyasslain2203]

A HERMES handbag costs a minimum of 15,000 .

[@candicabral3767]

I am just like his girlfriend Lucy. I am very frugal. I don't buy designer bags and designer clothes. And even though we don't necessarily have to, we do everything as frugally as we possibly can.

[@petrabankeman8141]

Lucy must be Dutch.......riding a bike and being frugal. Btw Iam Dutch 😅

[@Mehp2]

You all need to stop saying “in my/her tummy” I don’t think the baby is in a woman’s “tummy”

[@andreahenggeler2333]

I did not realize that $30,000 a year was a lot of money. What the heck year does he live in? 30,000 a year barely pays for your rent and groceries and that's just for a single person. Throw kids into the mix of that $30,000 and you don't have anything

[@ejcastro9518]

What credit card company would issue new cards to those 10s of thousands in debt. Your score goes down when you cancel cards and how does one who makes $60000/yr spend $10000/mo?

[@johnprime1147]

I'm a sugar type of guy like Tim here. I really Love Candy. Less rhan Transformers but it's love nonetheless. But here's the thing. I don't eat candy everyday all day. Yes I'm not living alone or with my Gf yet do that might change. But it won't. Want to know why? Because I want to live to 100 and I have common decency to not chow doen on candy everyday

[@Shizaya4ever]

You know there's more factors into what will kill you than consuming candy/sugar everyday and sugars in everything, not just candy.

[@BearPawSwipe]

My dad had my brother at 40 and me at 42...it isn't that big of a deal XD. I did like how the future MIL was in this story. It felt a lil more realistic.

[@mariantabaksmith6557]

Tim was wrong to cheat, he should have broke off the engagement before he cheated. But it's not wrong to change his mind about who he wants to marry.

[@christinesmith3991]

This seems a bit more nuanced than the norm. Of course, Tim should not have cheated, he should have made a clean break before finding his new giri, but he was basically right about what he said about the differences between Lucy and himself. He only makes a couple of weak attempts at insulting her 🤣and when his new wife turns out to a spendthrift, he starts to kill himself with over work to pay the bills.

[@fabricdragon]

tossing away a WIFE to marry an expense

[@andreahenggeler2333]

Okay, I do understand being Frugal and cutting cost and things like that. However, spend a little bit when you have it and you can afford it. Don't be so tight first. She goes nuts on every little dime and that's frustrating

[@MCBRUCE76]

There's a difference between being stingy and wise/frugal.

[@oddsock000]

She's frugal but she buys quality. She's learnt how to cook well, so he's still being cooked for. The MIL complains about the pants, but they were worth more than what she usually spent, but bought them as they were on sale and didn't ask for the money. She even wanted more of them as her friends loved them. Lucy is clever, she'll have a home of her own and savings for a rainy day.

[@redconvoy]

$30,000 a year? No wonder she's frugal! Good Lord!

[@richardbassett9367]

Lucy please stick with your guns and don't back down no matter what you do

[@lisagill4139]

What is wrong with a stay at home date ? As long as your enjoying it shouldn't matter where you are or what doing

[@Mama_of_a_dragon]

Steak and salad is difficult to make?? Good grief.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Having depth is a threat to him and his mom. They lack the abilities to see anything besides labels and brands.

[@Shizaya4ever]

Really the mom was complaining about Lucy saving money and now she's complaining about her son cheating.

[@daynechastant]

Interesting, no confrontation after the breakup this time.

[@VickyfrenchFrench]

You can't afford anything but a 15 dollar dress on 30 thousand a year.

[@s.l.m6671]

Although she's a bit aggressive about it.

[@selbarton]

Wow, talk about selfish girl. "You have clearly stated you keep it as a keepsake, but I want to alter it and make it mine, so give me."

[@KCohere33]

She only kept that dress as a keepsake because she didn’t want to wear it herself, thinking it’s too old fashioned.

[@mysteryelysian]

How is she selfish when the future MIL didnt really want the dress but just kept it as a keepsake and she also gave (not a loan) the future MIL $20K for Surgery.

[@karenbrown1485]

@@mysteryelysian It was $7,000, which she gave out of her $22,000 savings.

[@jessdeeschulthz2427]

She’s annoying. He’s more annoying.

[@teagan-louiseberesford-pee5088]

30k a year sounds a lot but that's 2.5k a month before rent/mortgage, gas electric water food etc so there's not a huge amount left for fancy clothes or anything else

[@tumiemat]

Lucy is a problem ...

[@samanthashaver]

So let me get this straight Tim has a problem with his fiance NOT spending all their money on crap like expensive clothes and high brand purses? WOW that is stupid there is nothing wrong with her not wasting money. Tim really is stupid. So Tim do you like ALL of that karma that just slapped you in the face? Being frugal is not something that should be looked down on it's smart not to waste money.

[@karenbrown1485]

She was a bit extreme though - gotta have a treat once in a while! 😊