4 Things a Woman Should NEVER Do with a Good Guy

[@john6941]

1) Never tell a good guy what to do. Just ask him. 2) Never rush a good guy to commit to you with your words. She him he should commit with your actions. 3) Never give a good guy an ultimatum. 4) Never try to improve a good guy. Let him improve himself through his relationship with you.

[@freekraccbacc]

Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.

[@lgarcia4628]

Ladies, make sure you give a good man a "clean slate" when start a relationship with him. Don't make him pay for what an ex did to hurt you. Don't compare what he's doing and the ex did. If you are still at that frame of mind best not to get in a relationship until you are healed. 🙏

[@rosameijering5161]

Yes always

[@ana-maria448]

But they compare women also, only they do not vocalise it as women do. Women express more often what they think than men. Again, it goes for both men and women.

[@lizspinazola7674]

💯%

[@nankanglesley9529]

@@ana-maria448you are just the type with unhealthy competition

[@laurisher9006]

I agree. Not to make this comment about myself but I figure saying this people will read and might relate. I have been dating someone for a year and there were some toxic habits he was introducing that were very similar to what my ex did. It's not something very common so of course it reminded me of the past. I'd tell him not to do it because it reminds me of my ex. Also, the next thing is his dress code is very different from my ex which I like very much. He wears long pants to go out with and my ex wore lots of short to go out with. My partner wanted to introduce short outing pants and I didn't want him to because I love that he doesn't remind me of my ex in anyway. Now my only toxic trait is my memory, I remember details well so I wouldn't say I'm bringing my ex up because I'm not healed, I just need to let go of the memory of some details so I could accept the changes my partner wants to introduce. Can anyone relate to this?

[@QueenIsabella777]

As a woman you really have to respect a guy and I think the only way you’re gonna do that is if he is solid in who he is in Jesus. I was just engaged to who seemed like a good guy and he blew up and I guess resented me, said he was going along with me with religion. He called himself a Christian but I’m an observant Catholic. He liked the trendy idea of being Christian but didn’t like it once it required modesty and challenged his line of work. He was so “good” and “nice” but because he had no spiritual direction only knew that marriage and gender roles were good because of social media, I ultimately didn’t trust him and all the nice things he did didn’t make a difference because it was all superficial. A good guy is not enough, you need a man of God that knows Jesus. As a woman, wife, your virtues are above all humility, compassion, gentleness, grace, and forgiveness that should cover you with your behavior with men. And modesty. I would tell women to remember that the only thing that matter is your salvation and your path to perfect your soul in Jesus, if a man isn’t leading you to this - even if he has everything you could want in the material world, it’s not worth it. A lot of women want to think they can convert a man, but his conversion has to come from him and it’s best to avoid that risk that could cost you once you already have children. A lot of women bear this cross. A good guy is not enough, Jesus is enough - and if Jesus sent him he will cover you like Jesus does. You won’t have to direct him because Gd is directing him all you have to do is be kind, obedient, and pray before you take it to him.

[@Ang4God777]

Amen gf!

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

Amen, girlfriend

[@yeshuaministry1]

Amen and amen

[@pretty707]

All that you said is very true and I hate that you got blown up on (it does seem to have happened the way it should have) but have you heard that Catholicism is a form of idolatry?

[@QueenIsabella777]

It is the church Christ founded in his apostle Peter. He left specific instructions and Jesus dwells within the church. I think you can believe in Jesus outside of it but the church has the sacraments which help tremendously with overcoming sin and living a holy life. The church is of course corrupt but it still has authority, you just have to find the true traditional Catholics that are living the faith - this is like a 1-3%. Most people want religion that conforms to the modern world yet walking with Jesus is not comfortable at all. I think Christian’s miss out on the sacraments and experiencing the true holy presence of the Lord within the pure Catholic Church which is only a small percentage. Peace be with you!

[@cytinachavis9157]

Mark, my guy was wanting to move forward with physical intimacy before marriage so I had to let him know that I can only be intimate with my husband.

[@Ang4God777]

You go girl! And if he does not respect that,give him the 🥾 boot! A godly man will want to wait until marriage also and have the fear of the Lord regarding intimacy.

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

Walk away now This man is extremely immature and prob not saved Don’t give him chances Just walk away

[@danilaroche1156]

I told my ex no sex unless married and he dumped me. I was hurt but now I'm glad!

[@jamessharp9790]

@@danilaroche1156proper move and you also didn’t have genuine desire for him .

[@kevindavis4709]

Ladies if you’re talking to a Godly man never call him brother. Cause that’s a friendzone sign I maybe wrong but it’s not everyday I hear a woman saying amen brother hey brother unless she’s my sisters.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

I've heard people confused by this too

[@hildelautenhalvorsen9141]

My opinion is we should stop thinking like this. When we read Song of songs we see that the the man calls her sister. Phrases like «amen brother» tells me we are family in Christ, not in the flesh. It is not contrary to being lovers.

[@kevindavis4709]

@@hildelautenhalvorsen9141 yup just because they say brother sister don’t mean they a child of God.

[@nakiflo]

Hahaha! Awesome! Every guy who I know is in my friend zone I immediately call him brother. The one who I’m interested in? Noooooo noooo I don’t do that 😂

[@knatxkyngxkoldofficialpage3020]

I can’t stand that. 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@britanne6012]

It’s beautiful witnessing someone living in their God given purpose. Mark, you have help me in a multitude of ways. I know Christ more as a result of watching your channel. I get in His Word. I value His Word in a way I couldn’t before because I didn’t understand that it is indeed living Truth. I have left relationships that were toxic because I finally had my eyes opened! The Lord showed me I was the woman at the well and I would never find love until I first formed a relationship with Him. I value myself because I understand how much Jesus values me now. Thank you

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God is good!

[@em77775]

This is beautiful ❤️🙏🏽

[@rachelmartin2562]

Same, lady! I love the insight the Holy Spirit has given me 👏🏻 ⭐ He's so loving ♥️

[@FernGray]

Amen 🙏

[@hulady27]

I like the emphasis on a good man....not every man has good intentions.

[@kilodeltawhisky1504]

Great to come across this new video. Today I'd four weeks into my marriage. It's an incredible feeling to have a husband, to be a wife, to know that our union is God's own work and that we both recognize it as such. Your advice, as always, is wise. Thankfully I learned these lessons awhile ago, because it makes a world of difference as a woman, dealing with a man. God bless and keep up the righteous works!

[@dawnstonerock4253]

Congratulations!!

[@belovedbrother]

Mark is teaching the art of submission believe it or not

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Submission from a wife must be matched by the sacrifice of a husband, both are biblical! (Ephesians 5:21-33)

[@NicholeBump]

Thank you so much for this video!!!! I’m finally with a man that treats me right and I’ve found myself asserting my needs rather then just saying them…I’m saving this for future reference! He sounds exactly like the guy you reference in here about him wanting to make logical sense of things but also having a desire to make me happy…that’s my Ben..thank God that He has so much mercy and allows someone to look past your flaws into your heart…please pray I get better with this!

[@Hannah-wz1si]

I found someone who treats me well and did the same thing 😢 I was afraid I had ruined everything between me and him because I let my past negative relationships affect how I treated him because I was assuming he was like the last guy I was with. I still feel bad about it, but I’ve already apologized and we have to move past it. The thing about relationships is that you will always be adjusting and learning about each other and how to love each other. My grandparents have been married for 50 years and they still are learning how to love each other and help each other.

[@themusicalhallway3422]

I like that. It reminds me of moments in Phineas and Ferb when one of the parents or Grandparents are surprised to find out something new about their spouse and the spouse replies back with, "You don't know everything about me." 😆

[@psalmsgirl2023]

I needed this 10yrs ago when I was 20.

[@jaymitaylor9937]

I’m 21 ❤ you are so pretty girl ! And are you open to give advice from one Christian woman to another ? I would love to ask for advice from you because you are older and maybe can give advice since you were once that age at a point in time .

[@danmc7815]

One big addition to the asking. Please add the word "please." It makes a huge difference. Please is a simple word, but it shows so much more respect. Respect is the most important thing men must be shown to feel loved. Loyalty is right up there with respect, but respect comes first, it is needed to have loyalty.

[@maryjflanagan1922]

Exactly

[@horschiday9449]

This video is the very opposite of what society teaches women today about men. A hard pill to swallow 😬 but the truth. GOD bless you Brother Mark.

[@nerifterafrnam4682]

I´m a guy and I should add that mistakes are overcomeable, persistent clashes are not. If you are a faithful, empathic girl looking to nurture the relation, I am happy to overlook things and move on. Just a matter of communication.

[@nicolebelfiore7580]

Thank you for saying this, I feel like the speaker is training a woman to speak the “right way” to not be rejected, but not every thing gets said the “right way”. If the heart is truly humble and caring, communication will improve.

[@Cantthinkofwhatshouldgohere]

Mark always bringing the truth! Have a blessed day in Christ.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Thanks Sheena! All glory to God!

[@LandonD12]

“Behind every successful man there’s a strong woman” yeah careful to force yourself to live to those standards. I fell for the modern feminist lies that it was my job to make a man better. Thank you Lord for opening my eyes! I am not God, it is God’s job to change and improve a man.

[@cynthiawoods4512]

Makes perfect logical sense to me. All I need now is prayer, that the Lord would put the man God has for me in my path. I’m female & I think logically!!

[@phindz113]

Woow Mark, I really needed to hear this, this is definitely talking to me as I've just started a new relationship after being single for too long.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

So glad it was useful and timely!

[@pilgrim.on.a.narrow.road.]

God’s blessings in your new relationship 🙏

[@CrownedJulz]

Brother Mark, you have communicated this very well and conscisely. Thank you for using your gift of teaching to bless the saints - we hope this falls on good ears to hear as there's much competition in the world erroneously telling women how to be that is opposite of what God says

[@nearislespringdike3084]

This advice is 100% true. Your channel is amazing and your advice to women about what good men want is always spot on.

[@nearislespringdike3084]

Especially the point about ultimatums. Ultimatums are a huge way to show your ultimate lack of respect for someone.

[@jasminealexia]

This really blessed me Mark and gave me soo much insight and even confidence in men and myself to be a better woman. Will prob be revisiting this one. Thank you & thank you!! 🙏🏽🙌🏽😄

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Deba7777]

Mark, this is such excellent content, as I've found all of your videos to be! I'm a senior citizen & I've learned a lot! I'm sharing it with my daughters! Keep up the good work, thank you again! 🎉

[@SOGTJB]

Bro, you explain me better than I can think. THANK YOU

[@theodoreroberts3407]

A very big turn off is treating me like the guy who mistreated her. She took it from him and obviously said nothing. I wasn't there and knew nothing of her. More than likely I don't even know him. I refuse to pay for some other guys bad behavior. I don't bring what the last women did to me into her life.

[@rosameijering5161]

Well, trust always takes time but indeed it is not possible to be in a relationship with someone with that behaviour. With men too

[@CookieMonstro21]

Uufffff run my guy, run. Lord needs to continue healing that person and they will turn your life into a toxic environment fast!

[@patriciarose2342]

Same happened to me. I recently ended a "friendship" with a man who started to treat me the way he treats his ex, because he was afraid that I was going to start treating him the way she did.🙄

[@jamessharp9790]

Women make rules for men they have no genuine desire for and break rules for those they do have genuine desire for.

[@theodoreroberts3407]

@jamessharp9790 that doesn't make sense.

[@violetmarbel6006]

I take this as a lesson learnt positively ❤. Let me go slow and allow my man to lead in his pace

[@natewwc2741]

Great video, Mark. Exactly…. A good man wants and does good things for a good woman. We respond positively in ways a woman desires-to trust, respect, and femininity from her.

[@larissabewick6310]

Thank you! How to respect and treat a man makes that much more sense now! 😇

[@truthspreader1996]

I could listen to this dude all day.

[@danilaroche1156]

Me too.

[@dmitry3876]

These 4 things are true for any guy, and for any person. It is just the right behavior everyone should adopt

[@lonsp.t3568]

You're absolutely right. Must say, as a woman open to learning, Mark has taught me alot. As much as I know I am a good woman, alot of things I had to unlearn and be taught the right way with how women should speak, treat and allow men to be. Mark has made me realise that in singleness GOD uses you (me)in soo many ways and transforms your mind and heart in becoming the best version of yourself 1stly for HIM, yourself and for all others who are already apart of your life and those to come, whether it be a spouse, or friend - a GODLY life transforms you entirely 🥰🙏🏽

[@Ayivierica]

Thank you.

[@shayflowers8471]

I'm so glad you made a video on this. I guess these are the key points. Just as God has given us all the free will and He never forces in that, then who are we to force our will be exercised on others lives! Thank you for sharing

[@emilyingridlaura3419]

This was SOOOOOOO wonderful and so well broken down and presented. Thank you so much Mark! This helps me so much!

[@PrettyIndependent1]

Mark, I am always so impressed with the wisdom in the content you put out. You are true to your channel. You really apply God’s word to your life, and He gives you deep revelation of wisdom to edify the body of Christ! Thank you so much for your obedience! ✨✝️✨

[@mubangamulenga3404]

Thank you so much for the godly counsel, Pastor Mark. I love that it's rooted in God's Word. God bless you.

[@MyLogHomeLife]

If you feel you have to change a man, he’s not the right man for you. It’s not fair to either of you to continue the romantic relationship.

[@ST-rj8iu]

I am not religious at all, but really like your content. Very logical and easy to follow.

[@abundance3148]

It is awesome how you get messages when you need it. I definitely needed to hear this. I definitely said some of those things mentioned not to say. I now see how that comes off even though I wasn't intentionally trying to be that way. I now know to be more mindful on my delivery.

[@sirg-had8821]

Don't punish the new guy for what the ex did.

[@Mrs.WordSmith.GEN_8zero]

Ok then I would also ask that the new guy be willing to do some trauma work through counseling therapy so that the woman in his life doesn’t have to unnecessarily become categorized as the ex in his life bc of he HASNT yet dealt with & healed from first.

[@sirg-had8821]

Stop speaking and go wash a dish

[@sirg-had8821]

Go cheat on your partner and waste their money and be a failure of a parent.

[@Mrs.WordSmith.GEN_8zero]

@@sirg-had8821 again the NEED to/ of healing from emotional pain to become recovered from the wounding, to be made whole again…….in /over time. Let me SHARE in your current PAIN of dealing with a Depressed & neglectful husband that has developed a very calloused SPIRIT bc of the previous faces in his life.

[@deborahgloria3867]

You can let him know what triggers you especially if it’s obviously bad behavior.

[@Emily-ud2dm]

I love this channel! Thanks for this video. It was really informative while still being sensitive to a woman’s nature and tendencies.

[@cynthiamuthoninganga6564]

That makes a lot of sense,, thanks so much Mark for this great inputs,, especially no.3.

[@laurisher9006]

Wooow ❤ I mean yes!!! I needed to hear this message.

[@candacesmith5572]

This is right one I am learning a lot and this is much needed. Not sure what God has instore for me. But I am willing to receive whomever or whatever He has for me.

[@agnesr.4664]

Good points there! Thank you! I believe God is bringing a good guy into my life, I don't have much relationship experience (might be a good thing tho) and I have leadership tasks and a few dominant character traits (mostly at work and in ministry). This is helping me. Thanks again!

[@23livelovemanifest]

Very realistic and valuable advice. Thank you

[@speakintothemicb]

I needed this. I look forward to connecting with my person. I haven't came across a good guy romantically yet but admit in the past I wasn't ready. Now, I am open and ready. ❤

[@sicobain]

I need to improve in these things, thanks for showing in how to do it!

[@ThereIsHopeWithGod]

Like as soon as you started, I was like...well...I've failed already! Lord *please* help me to do/be better.

[@NoMoreTears64]

I give up on men. The only ones I ever meet, are all about their sexuality and I can barely have a long enough conversation with them to find out if they are a fellow believer or not. To me, if a man starts telling me in the first 48 hours, how "lonely he is for physical affection ", then he is operating in the flesh and not in the Spirit. How can I possibly respect that?

[@nappyfries]

The video is about good guys. I wouldn’t really consider that a good guy.

[@danilaroche1156]

Don't give up. What about your church community? The men there?

[@semharb6733]

Really appreciated this msg, very helpful. Thank you as always 🙏

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

So glad to hear that! God is good!

[@davidmaks5073]

Mark . Right on time again 🥺🥺. God is really using you to speak to me

[@JoshMitchell116]

5:16-5:44 Such wisely stated observations all throughout this video

[@lavished2lovedance509]

Super informative and helpful. Thank you!!

[@GermanChoc14]

These are all good facts. The proper implementation of these will change numerous lives for the better. God bless you for sharing!!!

[@pinkisaini1984]

Wow! This video is really a blessing.....Can you please make some more videos related to this topic. This will help me much. Thank you so much.

[@danilaroche1156]

Mark, you changed my life. Pure gold!

[@AIRULEZ]

I was with a good guy and everything suddenly flipped upside down, he didn’t give me any closure and he blocked me and told me to stop messaging him. I know obviously I should leave him alone but I still have hope for us… I feel like I need closure… I’m struggling a lot with this bc I thought he was the one!!

[@dionna3674]

This was sooo incredibly helpful and enriching! You gave me a lot to reflect on. Thanks Mark!💖🙏🏽✝️

[@frannyfran7157]

Thank you Mark I needed this. 👏👏👏

[@laetitiatrouchet711]

WoW by watching to this video made me understand more how to be yourself and a good woman by the presence of the lord. God bless you

[@amiejackson4582]

Wow this is so good and very helpful thank You Holy Spirit........

[@derxiong8304]

This is a very thoughtful and helpful video. Thank you. God bless you! ❤️ 🙏 🕊️

[@cwizzy13]

Mark, you are awesome. Thank you for everything.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

so glad you are enjoying the channel!

[@MrsTaylorAmidon]

Pure Gold

[@safsren]

Another one I learned from the book Wild At Heart is let him be the hero, let him come through for you. I'm not saying to put yourself in dangerous situations and ask for him to come beat the snot out of an agressor but say you need something moved and it's too heavy for you then you can go ask him if he could be your hero and move the object

[@irisdeniselopez7685]

Thank you so much Mark, I really needed this. Perfect timing. Blessings..🙏🏻✝️🕊😌

[@mal1075]

Thank you for sharing. Glory to God

[@DespensaFamiliar-zt3vh]

You hit the nail on the head how many arguments ive had because My partners always want to command me

[@kentaroproscovia1150]

I enjoyed it. Thanks 🙏. More blessings to you 🙏

[@username25256]

Can you do more of these please? Of what to say and not to say? And how to respect a man

[@leeleewaters1451]

Thank you for the great advice! Will you also do a video for men?😃

[@melr6235]

Thank you for showing us this! Needed to hear.

[@misslinda772]

Excellent video! I wish I had watched this video sooner and spared myself the misery.

[@chiomabukola1972]

🎉 couldn't agree less.

[@gracegomes9678]

Wonderful i am blessed thank you 💕❤❤

[@barbarajackson3901]

Thank you, God bless!!!

[@BecamePneuma]

Good channel brother. God Bless

[@antoinettevanstadenmeyer6302]

Thanks for this video. This has made me think!

[@GraciousGiftsofGod]

So helpful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Gloria-xz7yk]

❤ This was VERY Good❤ Thank you❣️

[@rosameijering5161]

Thank you for explanation in a way that is helpfull. To understand what is going on in their head

[@tukashabaedna5053]

Thank you so much Mr. Mark for blessing us.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

All glory to God!

[@vania698]

Precious advice! Thank you so much!

[@ericbush6124]

Beside every good Man is a Good woman a team God has caused paths to cross this is really good things that can only be fully processed thru God's word love obedience. And how and who raised you and Influence growing up it is taught and learned behaviors.if you've grown up never have seen a Parent or Friends asking respectfully dir something then it seems natural to demand and think that's love anything else that's more healthy is weakness but not in God's sight respect not emasculation.and a Man or Woman won't change because you love them but because they love you

[@curmudgeon52]

Lots of good wisdom here.😀

[@iammaximus614]

…. Truly insightful

[@marciaryan7713]

So very interesting . Thank you. I have learnt something. 😊

[@MARLA116]

Though there are some good points in this video, for the most part, all the 'nevers' to which we are to adhere sound like we are kowtowing to narcissists. The men can be who they are, do what they do, and speak the way they speak, but women MUST adhere to certain rules. That sounds extremely unhealthy and to what I was subjected in a 30 'marriage' to a covert narcissist to whom I was faithful and devoted, but from whom I never received reciprocal treatment.😢

[@nicolebelfiore7580]

Agreed.

[@nicolebelfiore7580]

But to be fair, there are probably NPD women he may be speaking to, he just doesn’t know he can’t change them. Notice any instruction in the Bible on how to speak is directed to all humans.

[@vania698]

Thank you!

[@hawaiigirl8089]

Yessss giving an ultimatum is acting like his mother, not a gf

[@MariacEsterri]

Every body should treat right every body and spetially nice good people and never take advantage of them, we all should learn from them. Real good people are so rare....😊

[@fifi5535]

Thank you.

[@a.krishna3924]

3:24 isn't this also applicable to parenting?

[@imlistening3218]

Key words here 'a good guy'.

[@stevenfromer3816]

Excellent

[@ellabella7071]

Brilliant video ❤

[@rene-angelfoh-amoaning8893]

Amen ❤ really needed that Thank you God bless

[@roothelegend182]

This video is spot on to what I went through to why we recently split up I was rushed and felt everything was about her and I wasn’t given enough time to figure things out while I was worried about my dad and I loved her with all my heart

[@Ad-Lo]

I don’t get the difference between: “It would make me really happy if you would come to a family gathering with me,” and “I would love for you to come to a family gathering with me.”

[@danilaroche1156]

The difference is telling him it'd make you happy puts pressure on him. Like he's responsible for how you feel.

[@teresafranklin5166]

Yes the big huge difference is the second one where you voice I feel it's less threatening and your voice and your concerns and then it's not coming across as you need to do this and you need to do that and I want you to come to my family affair so using I statements is always the best

[@2am2am2am2am]

Great video!

[@althealawrence4654]

Thank you for this biblical base dating advice 🙏🏾❤️

[@isagabrielini3904]

This is Amazing

[@lilas1024]

Oof. I have such a struggle with #2 and I have to keep working on it.