Are Asian Women Getting Too Difficult To Date?

[@tomsd8656]

If you're after material girls, none of them is affordable, not just Asian.

[@goodbad-boy]

The standards Asian girls set for Asian men is waaaay higher than the standards they set for non-Asian men

[@howardchen703]

And a LOT of Asian women prioritize materialism, closely associated with *status*. Why do you think Jewish men LOVE Asian women hard? 😂

[@allio3459]

But u don’t understand, Asian culture is all about materialistic things…. And asian women are into that

[@mko0lpmko0lp]

sure, but the pt is that the % of Asian girls who are materialistic is much, much higher than every other ethnic group.

[@Sweatsofficiallytheworst]

I'll be after "Material girls" when i get my bank up lol. I just need a price range and if it's affordable, the negotiations can commence. 😂😂💯

[@Lore-mn2xx]

Eat the food you can digest and date the woman you can afford.

[@bennytn5518]

My buddy who runs his own company and does reasonably well, met a girl who was at most a 6, but asked him for an Audi as a gift on the second date.

[@closequarters4575]

Lots of Asian girls are financially successful themselves and women in general don’t date down.

[@bruh-bn3ni]

so much for gender equality. women never want to be chivalrous and date the ones that are financially down

[@bigheadrhino]

Women only screen men like this if they aren’t that attracted to them to begin with. If the chemistry is strong enough, you can literally live rent free at their house with no job and they will still love you.

[@kelbyhaines]

^This for real, often times they’re inconsistent to what they say they want so yeah....

[@HigkeyRegarded007]

Yep...this is so true.

[@bigheadrhino]

@@kelbyhaines it’s scary for women to tell the truth and reject men. It can literally be dangerous so they beat around the bush and give irrational explanations. It’s not healthy and unfair to the guy but it’s a survival mechanism. Even if most guys aren’t dangerous there are enough to make women have to act this way.

[@Funkylover-sl7ew]

This is mostly for millienal or gen z lol girls from the 80s or 50s werent that anal

[@willblack8575]

Only for 3 years max...

[@timtam9673]

It's not an asian things. It's a class things. All wonen in higher class are expensive. "Up town girls"

[@ranx9078]

Women in lower class is expensive

[@gmwilliamsful]

Exactly. Middle class & upper middle class women want the best while lower middle class & lower class women are more hood in their dating life.

[@haha-noop7973]

I'm going to the homeland to get treated better

[@blume0121]

That just depends on you culture. In Germany its common to separate bills. When youre a couple you would pay together, but its common that sometimes the man, sometimes the woman pays. If he payed last time, i would do it next time 🤷‍♀️ As a german woman with japanese husband, we do it like that. He pays usually bit more than me, because he gets much more money. We are supporting each other and are saving money for a house

[@nosuchpersonexisted]

Yeah, it's like this in China. It's all about your income, houses, cars, and jobs. The thing is, when Chinese women date white guys, or other foreign guys, those do not matter that much anymore.

[@Lore-mn2xx]

Here's what my white friend said. He said that was true in the beginning, but after being initiated into her family and the novelty wore off, he was treated just like another asian guy.

[@alhkcblack9617]

It's about status. A white guy in China always has flocks of people always wanting to talk to them, taking photos with them, giving them thumbs up for no reason other than being his white self and visiting their country. A local Chinese guy is just another person so practical standards must be met. A white guy BF is like scoring some rare white dragon and you're like being seen as having married a celebrity. Once the honeymoon phase is over the woman has to deal with the reality. If he wasn't successful and just some passport bro sexpat English teacher, things not gonna be so rosey anymore. 😂

[@weifan9533]

The younger generation of Chinese women (those born after 95) are smarter than previous generations, and appearance alone isn't enough to attract them. There're less and less young Chinese women who are willing to give up everything just for a white guy, those types of stories are more common with Chinese women born in the 60's or 70's.

[@alhkcblack9617]

@@weifan9533 that means the younger generation of Chinese women are smarter than the typical young Chinese American woman then... 😂

[@silveryfeather208]

It doesn't matter because it often is implied they are connected or at least well off white men..none of them are chasing after trailer park men (nothing wrong with them but just given the explanation)

[@Rawmel84]

I’m pro pre nup as well. You said it’s a hard conversation to have but if you aren’t ready to have hard conversations you shouldn’t be getting married . Best time to talk about it is when you’re still madly in love , that way you can ask what you owe each other if things go bad , hopefully it doesn’t . It’s either the state figuring out or you two : might as well be you .

[@cindywhy2342]

Yes! My friend didn't and ended up paying alimony. Which was like rubbing salt in the wound. She was the sole breadwinner, supporting her husband when he quit his job to go back to school, where he met the woman he cheated on her with. Guy was clever, I guess? He was being supported by his new gf while living off his ex-wife.

[@rgx420s]

Standards are always higher for Asian men as compared to other men.

[@goodbad-boy]

exactly. there's even a meme out of it

[@aedaed3605]

too high bruh there was this case of some 6 foot Asian surgeon guy making a million dollars a year or some shet with a jawline that could cut an elephant he was cheated on by some brunette who was really an escort and hustling d*ck on the side dafuq is that

[@UpInYourGrills]

@rgx420s 💯 If you're a scrubby, broke ass white boy, Asian women will actually pay for you. But Heaven forbid, if you're an Asian man and don't pay, it'll be the last you ever see her. That's the power of white worship idiocy!

[@UpInYourGrills]

@rgx420s 💯 If you're a scrubby white boy, Asian women will actually pay for you. But Heaven forbid, if you're an Asian man and don't pay, it'll be the last you ever see her. That's the power of white worship idiocy!

[@Orange_DNA]

This is how Black men feel about Keisha.

[@monchichipower6334]

My gf is white and she’s also a nurse We split everything or close 60 to 40 Chinese girls I dated wanted expensive gifts and my kidney lol and more

[@savagecat5499]

🤣

[@weifan9533]

Not all Chinese women are like that. I've known a lot of Chinese women from smaller towns or cities in China who are quite approachable and aren't as demanding as the ones you met.

[@allio3459]

Yeah agree. Most Chinese women are materialistic as fuck. They want stability so they will be with anyone who is able to afford her lavish lifestyle

[@gustavoaguirre000]

Nurses are notorious for cheating

[@study4388]

Citizenship

[@EmperorOfTheDamned]

As a Black man from America, I feel for you Oriental guys. Sometimes Asians guys are talked bad about, sometimes by Oriental women, and I just shake my head because Asian guys are very family oriented and are generally approachable guys.

[@kazirahman-bw7cn]

😢

[@funasylumstudio]

To be fair, we Asian guys are nice because we don't need to be assholes like other groups.

[@spacewhale1948]

I suggest avoiding using the word oriental, just say Asian. Oriental is an outdated term and some people will find it offensive

[@EmperorOfTheDamned]

@@spacewhale1948 I used the word Oriental because I'm American, and when I say Asian, I mean Oriental, whereas when a British person says Asian, they may be talking about an Indian person. I'm going to keep using Oriental.💯

[@Olive_and_Pistachio]

It's not like this in western asia. western asian women prefer our own men.

[@stephanieeungel5147]

Lol...when he said..it makes him feel his applying for a loan😅😅😅😅😅😂😂😂..i can't 🤭😅🤭

[@DapperArtImagery]

It's been my perception east asian women are more status oriented and prefer lighter skinned partners whereas SEA women are more relaxed with their standards. That being said my personal experience has been more diverse. One Chinese woman I dated didn't care about materialism so much as long as I made a decent living for myself. Another Chinese woman I dated definitely wanted all the expensive instagrammable experiences like fine dining and vacations. A Korean woman I dated wanted me to pay for a full day trip to Disney on our 2nd date. Fun times and some expensive lessons 😅

[@goodbad-boy]

girl from HK that I matched with started insulting me when she realized I wasn't retired by the age of 30

[@DapperArtImagery]

@@goodbad-boy not surprised, they can be condescending. the ones from the mainland are even more delulu

[@weifan9533]

Depending on what type of East Asian women you're talking about, cause not all East Asian women are the same. I've known some Chinese women who are rather demanding with pretty high standards for men (usually they come from 1st or 2nd tier cities), but I've also met some other Chinese women (usually from smaller cities or towns, or ethnic minority regions) who are quite easy to hang out with.

[@letsgowalk]

First one sounds like the winner!

[@DapperArtImagery]

@letsgowalk she was an artistic type and easily the best and most easy going. Not uptight like a lot of asian women seem to be. She didn't mind paying 50/50 and even treated me out several times. Honestly my best dating experiences have been with women who weren't fussy about money.

[@Ash_Wen-li]

They're all foodies that expect you to pay for the food 😂

[@Darkknight0777]

Nothings wrong with paying a meal, but there’s a limit!

[@Ash_Wen-li]

@@Darkknight0777 Well I mean they want to eat out at restaurants 5x a week and you gotta pay for it all

[@Darkknight0777]

@@Ash_Wen-li ok five is excessive. Eating out should be a treat. Especially if, and I say this with love and respect to Asian women, they know how to cook. I’m not trying to stereotype, but I never met a single Asian or Mexican, that didn’t know how to cook!

[@WatchClyde]

😂foodies that can afford to pay for their own foods now but expect you to pay every time.

[@ChimChimChums]

Date within your social circle and you should be fine... You got many women for whom it's normal to function like that because they are pampered like that by their family of origin and that's how they roll with their friends. So , if this is the norm for the woman, but not for you, it just means you're not dating somebody from your social class. Simple. Social classes exist for a reason...

[@blaze14ZX]

You guys hit the nail on the head one you said the podcasts are skewing toward overly attractive women and blanketing those traits to a bigger population. Look if a girl is financially well off or desires a type of life with financial abundance then she should shoot for it but just don't punch down on regular guys. Some women who make 30k or lower are having these high net worth mindsets, dogging guys who make just as them and are coming off very entitled. People forget good women like good men just want someone who is respectful, loving, financially literate and practical. But social media kinda makes people forget that cause a lot of creators make their lives sound so opulent and perfect. Instead of how financially and psychologically draining they actually are. Go into dating being aware of the different people you'll encounter but try not to let that fill your head with the narrative that everyone is this one kind of person.

[@letsgowalk]

It's not always the case! I'm Chinese American, but when I worked in what might be considered "high class" jobs, e.g. real estate, tech, etc., I didn't get a ton of attention, but when I was in a "lower level" job being a fitness trainer at a bootcamp gym barely making more than a working wage, I got a ton more play.

[@monchichipower6334]

I’m a Chinese guy in LA and my live in gf is white Chinese girls I met weren’t into me even when I was into them. They have very high standards for Chinese guys . I work as a nurse and I’m 6 feet Most of the Chinese girls at my hospital have white or black partners .

[@BIGcoxMAN]

you call that high standards? lol

[@monchichipower6334]

@@BIGcoxMAN good luck to you The ones I know have very very high standard for fellow Chinese guys Doctor 200k not a nurse making 100k like myself

[@monchichipower6334]

@@BIGcoxMAN ok Mr Elon musk

[@kevinmiller8165]

I'm surprised about the Chinese girls with blacks partners lol. Chinese girls come off as the least open to that.

[@jjsamuelgunn1136]

'very high standards for Chinese guys'? are u implying they will lower standards for non-Chinese guys? just clarifying

[@inui12494]

Its not just asian women its all women

[@RaikaSTi]

But Asian women are on top of the women list

[@Theohybrid]

Fair but I really do think it's their cultural background rooted in class.

[@michaelsomething7674]

Cause we live in a materialist world and she just a materialist girl

[@allio3459]

East Asian women grew up with materialistic things. They want stability and people to afford their lifestyle.

[@BenLauPromKing]

I SECODN THAT. ALL OF THEM ARE SPOILED QUEENS AND PRINCESSES

[@raquille1]

i married an english girl. Luckily for me she comes from a well off family so she doesnt care about money

[@awakenow7147]

I have noticed that women who have experienced wealth and security early on realize that it isn't everything. The ones who haven't, often don't come to this realization until later...or at all. Wishing you two the best.

[@ranx9078]

You are the gold digger now

[@gmwilliamsful]

Dating rule for women: always date up; however, you have to have ambition yourself. If one is middle class/upper middle class, date a person with the SAME or BETTER socioeconomic background. Also date someone who has the same education as/better education than you do. NEVER date below you-whether it is income or educational level. This is from a 70 year old Black woman. When dating-think socioeconomics & educational level. Before you date, you must bring something to the table socioeconomically & educationally.

[@readyornot27]

This advice is necessary for upward mobility of a family.

[@readyornot27]

@Normalman777q Yet, suspiciously, wealthy people with status virtually never end up with good, well-behaved who are much lower than their own station in life. Imagine that.

[@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx]

Dating rule for men: never marry a non virgin woman or woman older than 27

[@effervescent_smegma-s1w]

😂 following the advice of someone whose culture has a 70% out of wedlock birthrate 🤡

[@monchichipower6334]

Mostly a Chinese thing than an Asian thing I’m Chinese and yes money is number 1 thing 😂

[@niamtxiv]

@@monchichipower6334 exactly. It's mostly a Chinese, Korean and Vietnamese thing.

[@KippinCollars]

Indian, Korean, Vietnamese, Chinese, Persian, Arab.

[@ranx9078]

@@niamtxivJapanese, too

[@cccycling5835]

Agreed. The Chinese have removed religion from their society and what happens is you end up worshipping Life aka Money.

[@ranx9078]

@@cccycling5835 lol really? Religious people don’t care about money and social status? Give me a break

[@KriticalThinker137]

"I don't want no scrub. A scrub is a guy that gets no love from me..."🤣🤣🎶🎶 We already told you.

[@yanyant-q1l]

i had a crush on a chinese girl back in 1st year of Unnie. I chatted her up but for most part she was cold. 3 month in i met a latina in fine art class. we started dating and she became my gf. one day at i run into her ralphs supermarket. i was with my latina gf. she gave me the non approval look. lol. few days later i see her on campus and shes all friendly with me. im not bothered anymore and lost interest as i got a good gf.

[@yanyant-q1l]

funny thing was later she told me whats wrong with chinese girls. lol i just laughed and walked away. these type of girls are drama queens and headaches. im glad she rejected me. im more into inner beauty now . im into thick latina now than chop stick skinny chinese lol

[@WattaVT]

It's a woman instinct they don't want a single man they want a man that is taken it's a pre-selection thing

[@letsgowalk]

It's the validation effect.

[@NotBrye]

Dating an Asian girl is basically getting a free accountant/financial advisor. Usually worth the money unless they seem to only be an extra layer of taxes.

[@AmandaRestivo]

I have seen men put their credit score on dating profiles! It's actually a thing. Not a bad idea to put on there honestly. It shows how responsible you are. I would never ask that in real life until way later and it was getting serious. Regarding the joke at the end, as a white woman, yes we can be easily impressed with any Asian dishes eaten on a wobbly stool. Haha.

[@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx]

Y'all only like Asian food not asian people. Especially not asian men. White people make me sickkk

[@JosephLee2012]

I had one woman asking me how many homes my parents paid off when I was dating her. This is why I stopped seeing her even though she is a Christian like me. She asked me to ask my parents to sell one of their homes so that I can go to graduate school.

[@blume0121]

Thats really a red flag. Wow

[@niamtxiv]

Not really, just materialistic ones.

[@niamtxiv]

@@DoubleDown310 Urm, there are different ethnic groups. They all don't share the same values.

[@essgee4225]

East Asian women like Chinese and Korean are materialistic and annoying gold diggers but Southeast Asian like Filipino are okay

[@carolinayu7540]

I’m not like that but agree that a lot of Asian women are like that.

[@goodbad-boy]

so almost all of them

[@niamtxiv]

@@DoubleDown310 Urm, again... All the Asian women in my family and circle are married to Asians. Not one is with Caucasian. You keep confusing Chinese, Filipino and Korean for all Asians. Chinese women in the US tend to be with Caucasians. Most Asians tend to marry their own ethnic groups before another Asian group. Stop sounding bitter just because I'm correcting your generalization.

[@sea_yung]

this applies more towards chinese/viet/korean girls than say, lao or cambodian lol

[@bobmishima3295]

I think a clear distinction to make for this is that the big city Asian women are very much like this but those who are not from that kind of setting can be quite different.

[@UniverseTruth-e4m]

Hello, it is an individual thing not an Asian female thing. I am a East Asian female/Mainland Chinese background who came to North America when I was 9yrs old and now fully integrated well in USA/CA with no accent and never been in ESL either (still also remain very much cultured with Chinese cultured like speak great fluent Chinese Mandarin read and write, and go back and visit families in Mainland often and nobody outside of close family will know I am now a ABC/CBC unless I tell them, and not that people care either since most people are doing well back in the motherland too), and as someone who is born between 1990s to 2002s. Majority of my East Asian specifically Mainland Chinese female friends in USA/CA all are corporate girlies, I think almost everyone in my circle are highly educated some have Bachelors and others even have MBAs, some are doctors, some are lawyers, some are IB Bankers/Consultants, some are Accountants, some are doing coding at FAANG, some are doing degree in Engineering and planning to become Engineers, and everyone of those girlies works hard and are trying their best at Life. And most those East Asian/Chinese background ladies I know do well in independently in their finances (since they make good enough money themselves) and most are not after dudes's money, since they don't really need to. Some of them are partnered up/married already to quality East Asian men who are also in Corporate in various industry. Others are still looking for similar level dudes. Whereas girlies like me who put emphasis on God/Spirituality/value/personality first typically will be less picky about Financials.

[@whythissucks829]

you sound like you have a lot of anxiety

[@jellyrolly]

The men who complain need to make up their minds of what type of women to pursue. Of course the wealthy, classy girl with a good sense of fashion would prefer someone who is just as rich or richer than her. Why would someone from a wealthy family look for a bum? Same goes for those who are high maintenance instagram baddies. Their makeup, hair, nail, and fit bodies require a lot of money to maintain. There ARE plenty of women who are low maintenance, but the men who complain about 'women having too high of a standard' generally don't go for these type of girls. They look after the bougie girl from rich neighbourhoods or the insta baddies, while overlooking the plain janes who don't wear a lot of makeup, dresses pretty simple, and don't have the super toned abs and love to party all weekend.

[@Sugas_Girr]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯‼️‼️‼️

[@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx]

Women who complain about commitment from men should stop chasing tall Chads then

[@Sugas_Girr]

@@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx What does height have to do with commitment?

[@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx]

@@Sugas_Girr lacking self awareness aren't you?

[@Sugas_Girr]

@@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx Again, you're just throwing out words that have no relevancy to the conversation, or even to each other... I've dated guys from 5'6 to 6'4, and none of their heights affected their relationship commitment in any way. You just sound like you're trying to make excuses for yourself and why women don't want to date you.

[@darrylt8502]

Yeah, my ex (Asian) asked me about my credit score. I just told her that I qualified for a 0.9% apr on my car loan and she got the hint lol.

[@TheJadedSkeptic]

15:05 高富白 (tall, rich, white) do you guys not speak chinese, tripping on the translation there a bit, however the saying is actually 高富帥 (tall, rich, and handsome) for men and 白富美 (white, rich and beautiful) for women.

[@invisiblerevolution]

Fung Bros.... stay LOW-KEY be over hypin wyte dudes. 😂

[@ennou1236]

It's worth noting that the "white" doesn't necessarily mean the white one normally thinks of but more "like fair skin without blemishes and/or tan", more traditional asians usually desire that trait because in ancient times was usually a sign of the person either rich or has a relatively significant status, sometimes used as an insult for being weak ot sickly so that's why the "white" is often for the woman and not the man.

[@willclouded]

As a Asian guy I can't be bothered with Asian women anymore they give me the most headaches, grief, tests, and dismissiveness.

[@allio3459]

Yeah same. I’m a Chinese guy and now have an Argentina girlfriend. She is less materialistic than other Chinese girls I date. Also Argentina girls they are super conservative!!! Similar to chinese

[@User.k3431]

​@@allio3459interesting..

[@RiruKrypto_]

I like Asian Women but it's just a turnoff the moment they talk about money or my job so I wouldn't mind dating another nationality.

[@bball3048mm]

Asian or not, Women in general cost too much money, headache, heartache,. Just go your own way.

[@Joekool88]

Asian guy living in south east asia. I do talk finances actually! But its when the relationship gets serious. I discussed debts and savings with my wife (then gf).

[@vinewood8295]

NEWSFLASH: This isn't just Asian women, it's lots of different ethnic background females. I've had the most job interview type initial potential dating meetups with black women myself. They ask those same types of questions as far as what's your current networth & where you see yourself in 5 years all while staring you up & down to see what brands your wearing... My experience with Asian women though is that Korean women tend to be the most materialistic & then Filipina after that...

[@problemperson4221]

actually the saying is that men should be 高富帅 (tall, rich, handsome) and women should be 白富美 (pale, rich, beautiful). it's actually not necessary for men to be REALLY pale, and more often than not, women want men to be slightly tanner than them (cuz it's masculine i guess? but due to colorism they shouldnt be TOO dark), and when they meant 白, they meant pale skin, and not 'white-passing'

[@johnnywang206]

Her money is her money, my money is our money. That’s how women think.

[@SK-ql3yf]

I agree with women.....lol

[@WatchClyde]

Sad…women changed pretty much having the opportunity to becoming a man but men have to stay with the same traditional values and end up looking like clowns being used

[@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx]

​@@SK-ql3yf then men should avoid non virgin women for marriage. You can't pick and chose traditional gender roles

[@kennedy6618]

@johnny, No, no, no! In America, What's your is my and what's my is non of your business!😂

[@gmwilliamsful]

Women should be RAISED to have HIGH standards regarding dating men. Jewish & Asian women are raised w/ high standards while until the 1960s, Black women weren't raised w/such high standards. It wasn't unusual for professional Black women to date blue-collar men who had LESS education-sad really. Jewish mothers exhort their daughter to date men of high socioeconomic & educational status. Black women are learning this. Check out Ebony K. Williams, a very successful Black lawyer, who stated that she wouldn't date a bus driver. She was HEAVILY criticized in the Black community for saying this-I totally agree w/her.

[@readyornot27]

Agreed. Women choosing lesser educated, lower earning men only devolves a community over time. Many men don't like to hear this, but it's true.

[@JimmyCrackCorn_]

Most Blue Collar fields actually make more than your professional downtown corporate 😂😅 And the difference is BW mock and disrespect BLUE collar, their have a condescending attitude toward Bk working class.

[@goodbad-boy]

thing is, they set high standards for asian men but have no standards for non. asian men

[@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx]

Black women look like dudes and most men are not checking for black women. Black women also hate men the most

[@effervescent_smegma-s1w]

Ebony is also having a child via surrogacy and will be a single mom 🤡

[@sweetsuite498]

Most men cannot afford a girlfriend, let alone a wife!

[@johnnywang206]

Yes. Pretty much all women though

[@Mayouk4]

Naah, you guys are not being honest about your Asian culture. Most Asian women prefer white men, they’ll accept any white man even poor white men. However, in order to justify dating a non-white guy, an Asian woman has to date someone who has something they can talk about. He’s rich or he’s famous, etc. That way she can justify to her family and friends that he’s not white but he’s rich or this and that. Because the ultimate price for an Asian woman is a white guy. It doesn’t matter if he’s educated, poor, rich, old, short etc, doesn’t matter.

[@Truthmaker882]

Lol what

[@theotherguy2675]

i remember telling this one asian chic that i'm a forklift operator. she walked away 😅 i can confirm that it's definitely tough.

[@johnnytran800]

Really need to start having a asian girl part of the cast if youre gonna continue making videos about them. Its been on repeat for the last 10 years.

[@x01021]

Women give the worst advice on how to understand women. You don’t ask fish how to catch them, you ask a master fisherman lol

[@zestycheesemaker4917]

Definitely a financial thing, to have money is not a sin due to societal uplifting and living the good life.

[@pragueexpat5106]

Boys read "The manipulated men" by Esther Vilar and wise up..

[@AtelierWong]

The tradition of men paying for everything is alive and well even if your lady makes bank. I’ve been married for 15 years and am expected to pay for everything, fix everything and take care of every problem that we face. This is not a problem or an issue of contention because my responsibility is to lead the household and provide safety, security, and stability. I enjoys this arrangement and do not view it as a burden, but as a blessing. While we work together as a team on everything, I make the final decisions and take charge of executing the plan. This works for us, your mileage may vary, so do what works for you.

[@kingkazuma2239]

You're a slave

[@MarbleCat.]

Ur just being use without conciousness

[@lyndapham3683]

Pro prenuptial for sure. If you want to date a gorgeous asian it does come with a price. Especially if she is a high value woman herself. She generally would date the same or above her level.

[@madterps]

What is a high value woman in your own words?

[@lyndapham3683]

@madterps someone who is confident, shows empathy towards others, who is independent, who is ambitious, always growing, and learning as a person.

[@madterps]

@@lyndapham3683 A high value woman for men is a woman in her 20s, looks good, have sympathy/empathy. Is easy to talk to and negotiate with. And she better not have a high bodycount. Anything above 5 is out of the relationship question.

[@itsatrap4986]

@@madterps We heard it from the horses mouth. Lynda Pham are the ones to avoid. But we all know they lower standards for non-East Asian guys.

[@MarbleCat.]

​@madterps that is mid requirements think with ur head not ur balls

[@ryryjagoat9494]

I'm not gonna say this to try to be overtly mean but the girl in the 2nd video was not a "baddie" she was mid at best and being skinny in your early 20s isnt that hard. You can tell by the way how she speaks that most would consider her to be "high standards" ... I think that alone is enough to answer the question to the title of this video... it's a bit of a cop out to always give the excuse that "not everyone/all asians are the same", thats kind of the given implication everyone should understand when questions are asked like this.

[@Xuekaiofficial]

Ofc u can get a pass with many fob girls at least if u look like jackson wang or their fav idol

[@Xuekaiofficial]

That being said i think many of us have more potential than we realize, we just either dont try, or we try to look like something other than what many actually want

[@ßhopkins]

Can you blame them tho? If they're wanted, they have the right to demand.

[@willclouded]

@@ßhopkins why's that?

[@KriticalThinker137]

Traditionally, marriage is a legally-binding, financial contract benefiting the entire family. Look at divorce proceedings if you are unsure. Petrarch's love-match preference marriage entered the conversation in the 14th century.

[@tre4993]

Its not even just the Asian girls you gotta worry about, its also the her parents, you gotta live up to their expectations too. Its just too much man, thats y Im with a Latina whose happy as long as I have a stable career. She has a successful family but they don’t hold ridiculous expectations for me as a future son in law. Just finish school and have a good job.

[@TomNook.]

Women in general tbh

[@jerichocarreon]

Dude, said was True..Im from Aouth East Asia most of them are like that ...i was ask what my job is i said i was just a farm worker below averge income in the province..17 out of 20 girls...never got a reponse...i never say i own a farm you'll see the personality shift thou and it throws me off..and if you have darker complexion or not having a East asian skin tone good luck out there just saying from personal experience

[@gmwilliamsful]

When it comes to relationships, HAVE HIGH STANDARDS in terms of socioeconomics & educational attainment. However, it must be a 50/50 contract. Each person has to bring something substantial to the relationship table. Rule is to NEVER DATE down. In other words, have the wagyu, not beef jerky.

[@davidh7832]

In other words be superficial 😂

[@itstheiceman11]

Dating in general as a guy regardless of race/ethnicity/nationality is difficult worldwide. Unless you are a rich guy or a fast money guy you don't stand a chance at getting women. Period. But then people have the nerve to call dudes Incels but with standards like this in the video it's no surprise. Just saying.

[@domizzi626]

What I’ve learned, if you want to date an Asian girl, you need to show off success. Dress nicely, clean car, clean cut etc.

[@Bluboy30]

I think the reality here is that all types of women are expensive. Assuming, you're going after the good looking ones, they're ain't cheap dating hot girls! 😂

[@CliftonDon74]

"Afro Noodles" is probably the best nickname!!! 👍

[@doxide]

The asian girl bubble done finally popped. Time to move on to better things boys

[@allio3459]

I’m Chinese man and I’ve already moved on. Now I’m happy with an Argentina girl

[@mattparke4370]

Asian girls presence makes me very fearful. Im more scared of them than a group of black men lol

[@dark_Kaiba]

You could get the equivalent latina immigrant baddie for way less simping. No joke. Don’t go for any Asian chick with a nice job, college degree, and hair/nails done, unless you tall, jacked, hapa, and working at spaceX, or just white and tall. If you a lowly, whatever Asian guy, a fine immigrant latina that works at the local tjMax are way more fly and down to earth

[@armorbearer9702]

I can understand asking a man what he does and how much he makes. I draw the line at bank statements that is too personal to ask for on a first date.

[@mosqutio88]

I’m a 6ft 5th gen ABC with a $2M+ investment portfolio. I have high standards for myself, so I can have high standards for women. I’ve left the US because women can’t meet my standards. I moved to Asia and women here are feminine in South East and Central Asia.

[@jman3657]

You literally have to be rich to attract Asian girls

[@kimchi_taco]

Expensive for only Asian guys tho

[@allio3459]

Asian women are expensive for all men

[@Willxdiana]

its only getting easier for me

[@flyinpug3791]

In the US, probably. In Thailand, Philippines, Vietnam or China if you’re Asian. You are good.

[@awakenow7147]

@@P.90.603 This. Western men going to asia are looking to "escape" from western women. The escape will only last for so long.

[@WattaVT]

@@awakenow7147 true, I see a lot of western men getting burned in South East Asia it hits the news too the guy became homeless in my country because his filipina gf scammed his money now the guy selling empanada in the streets in the Philippines a lot of simmilar stories too

[@funasylumstudio]

In Singapore, Indian man + Chinese woman outnumbers Chinese man + Indian woman, 50:1. The reasoning: Indian guys have way more money. It's not complicated but it's uncomfortable to hear, hence stuff like "Asian men are misogynistic" is more pleasant to hear.

[@truthseeker8139]

Good thing.. there are better options

[@PlayShorts3]

All women are becoming more difficult to date. It's worse in the Western world

[@TomChenLife]

They prolly don’t do that shit with non-Asian dudes.

[@Sugas_Girr]

For the majority of normal, well-adjusted, Asian women, non-Asian men are a 2nd choice (at best, if you are actually even attracted to that) when you can't get a decent Asian man. So, non-Asian men need to bring a whole hell of a lot more to the table than a decent Asian man.

[@Sugas_Girr]

For the majority of normal, well-adjusted, Asian women, non-Asian men are a 2nd choice (at best, if you are actually even attracted to that) when you can't get a decent Asian man. So, non-Asian men need to bring a whole lot more to the table than a decent Asian guy.

[@SuperPotatoes9000]

The Ivy League effect

[@mattparke4370]

You are 10000X% correct. They do not hold white and black men to same standard. We need a million a year to please them, the white and black guys only need to exist to please them

[@vickent2475]

Nah, Just reborn as a white guy and things become EZ.

[@Funkylover-sl7ew]

How does one find a non materialistic girl

[@Funkylover-sl7ew]

@@P.90.603 i got that already i just cant atract women cuz i got no game or i suck at aproaching

[@Funkylover-sl7ew]

@@P.90.603 im not ugly n im not hot im like 75 out of 100

[@gmwilliamsful]

Non-materialistic women are those from poor &/or large families. Such women LOVE POVERTY. Also, they aren't used to anything nor have any amibition to do better socioeconomically nor educationally. Project girls are totally non-materialistic- they DON'T WANT ANYTHING.

[@bennytn5518]

I believe China and Korea are at the top of the list in terms of women asking for money and expensive gifts, houses and cars.

[@CyberSecurityFashionDesigner]

As a Palestinian, I have never met a non-reliable Asian. Most come from good families and are genuinely good people!

[@andrews68]

Women don’t care about men’s struggles; they wait at finish line for the winners.

[@privateprivate31337]

Men, if you want the best, you best be the best. Nothing more to this than that.

[@privateprivate31337]

​@@flyrodmike What does that say about men motivated purely by appearance? Prioritizing financial security is not any less shallow

[@privateprivate31337]

@@flyrodmike I never said it wasn't, just calling out the hypocrisy of men. If you want the best, be the best yourself

[@ChelseyBunny]

TBH the first dude looks like he cant afford anything and lives in his Parents basement.

[@devilrider39000000]

Looks can be very deceiving, though. I've been to both Hawaii and Korea and have seen both opposite ends of the spectrum.

[@Orange_DNA]

Hell, I think men should do a background credit check on women. You don't want to inherit some unnecessary debt.

[@HelloKit-nc9gj]

You also need to factor in that many women in Asian families are the bread winners. And most of the time because of this they tend to or are expected to contribute to the family income --- parents, siblings etc. Like you said its about being practical. At the very least the man should be financially equal if not more than the women. And at then end of the day it's about being financially secure.

[@JosephLee2012]

I know one white guy who married a Korean woman who is extremely pretty. He is very fluent in Korean. However, they had a divorce. Can you talk about the divorce rate? I don't think marriage between white guy and Asian woman means anything unless they can stay married until the end.

[@possiblycurryddork]

Most divorces are instigated by women so you'd have to ask her why or him. Since she probably told him

[@weifan9533]

I think it's a huge generalization to say only Asian women are like that. There're women who value materialism in every ethnicity or culture. And not all Asian women are the same. Based on my experiences, I feel that Japanese, Korean, Asian American and Asian Canadian women from the west coast, as well as Chinese women from 1st and 2nd tier cities in China tend to be the most expensive, whereas SE Asian women (particularly Burmese, Cambodian, and Laotian) and Chinese women from smaller towns and cities tend to be more down to earth and easier to date.

[@weifan9533]

And nowadays it isn't only women who check the credits of their partners, men are starting to do that as well. Not sure about others but Chinese men are less and less willing to date Flower Vase Girls or Bonzai Girls (referring to women who look pretty but don't know anything and completely rely on their partner for financial support).

[@cambodianpleasuresquad1753]

can confirm. cambodian women just want a man with a stable job and good personality. you don't need to be ultra successful

[@michaelwatson9089]

The Japanese women I dated didn't care about that stuff and never asked. We go 50/50 on our dates. Most of the time we eat at a fast food restaurant or go to a 90 minute all you can eat buffet that was like $30 USD.

[@dtna]

This guy looks like a dork. No sense of fashion. What girl would want to date him? 😅

[@brandonnguyen9680]

I think they are talking about Asian american

[@TomNook.]

Asian women also have different requirements based on race

[@alistairt7544]

These are just not the right type of people(women/men) for you to date cause they all care about those superficial things. But obviously, not all Asian women feel that way. It's just the type of human being with that type of mindset. Def not the type of person I'm going for.

[@ponuni]

But aren't Asian guys the same or am I projecting because I for damn sure ain't dating a girl who's going nowhere in life. I think this works both ways for both genders.

[@Sugas_Girr]

@@ponuni 💯💯💯💯💯

[@ponuni]

​@@P.90.603 You're telling me a college educated Asian guy with a good salary will take a cashier at a grocery? That's crazy cause amongst my friend group alone there is not one single couple like that.

[@gametri-eq6lj]

no Asians have an Ivy League status where men are expected to be smart and have high salaries where as for black and white guys Asian girls are fine with them even if they make minimum wage

[@ponuni]

@@DoubleDown310 Lol I don't think most guys are looking for a financially successful girl, but if you have a career then you'd expect your partner to have one as well is all I'm saying. I don't think having a career means one is financially successful. It's a long life ahead and if you get into a serious relationship with someone who can't carry their own weight then it's going to be a hard and stressful life.

[@UniverseTruth-e4m]

Great, how about stop grouping all of us females together. Just because one is female does not mean she is the same as the next one. We are all individuals at the end of the day. Also positive attract positive, quality attract quality. If you cannot attract/get with quality mate, man or woman, maybe take a good look at yourself in the mirror and find out why you only encounter more materialistic, entitle attitude, low quality, not nice opposite gender. Maybe you yourself need to change and become better in your attitude, like stop acting all negative and salty first of all, since normal people can detect this upon first meeting, nobody is going to tell you this at work/professional setting, also your buddies likely are similar to you so they are not going to be aware of the negativity. Like one Asian dude (got promoted to Director level from Manager) previously I work with is not that fit, got jealous that I got myself a man/bf (hello my Asian/East Asian bf/partner is a actual gentleman and man of god and actually high quality dude) outside of work since I am hot and sexy in real life so guys at work are attractive to me always, but like hello I am here to work the job and not get involve in office romance okay. Like just because you are a Director or above or like well off (men or women) does not mean crap sh okay, yeah even if you got a great job/good financial situations but do you actually have good personality and is a overall positive kind person in real life that actually is datable and normal kind people can actually stand to be with you long term.

[@deyvontetravis1266]

I've been called "white-washed" & "European" for doing Asian things so honestly I think it's about the American inferiority complex towards Europe. It honestly feels like all Americans, regardless of their ethnicity, feel Latino.

[@deyvontetravis1266]

I agree tho about your comment: "everyone has an opinion on Asian women except Asian guys". I've never really gone out of my way to seek Asian women, not because I dislike them just because I never really thought much about them. I was born around them and grew up around them. Americans often feel like they "own" Asia because they "owned" them in the Second Great War. I say "them" here because I believe the Asians they feel like they owned are a figment of the American Imagination. Which considering the geisha culture of my Homeland.... 🤭. Make I No Speak 💀

[@ThheSlurpeeMaker]

i feel like the history of asian women having interracial countries is taboo to speak about - and its why theyre favored over others

[@darrenraphael]

You guys should listen to the 50 cent- "Material Girl" song.

[@iplayfoofee3547]

As an Asian guy, my advice is ignore Asian women (the pretty ones especially). If they want you you will know. Don't chase em, they have ALOT of options becuz just bout any1 will go for them unless you're all that then go for it.

[@mattparke4370]

Asian men should purely focus on goals, stay ethical, but be selfish with energy, time, and money, and resources. Help other Asian men too

[@knighnp]

so our goal is to get to a certain amount of money, in order for us to date a certain type of women? If women are going to judge us by how much we have then have every right to judge them, do you think asian women or any type of women that objectifies a 'man provider,' is the best woman for you? I always look at it as this, if any girl is humble or rates herself a 5 or 6, then that's the girl for you. if you're health or you have a sudden life altering situation happens to you, do you honestly think that this material woman will be around if shit go sideways?

[@domizzi626]

I’m a Mexican married to a Filipina. She comes from a humble background, but she’s hardworking and financially smart. I’m lucky to have her because she takes care of the money, and still expects me to pay etc. For those looking for an Asian woman, look beyond looks. Good luck.

[@ASCX770]

The jungle 😂😂😂😂.....

[@mariaalva5034]

Filipino woman here, I didn't look for a rich husband, I make my own money but I did look for someone with compatible financial goals. It's important that you want the same things long term.

[@plor3573]

We raised our daughters to not want mediocrity. Nothing wrong with that. I expect my sons not to be mediocre either.

[@patriceesela5000]

That joke is hilarious from the Afronoodles podcast

[@JORGINHODONASCIMENTO]

No woman nowadays is affordable for the average working guy. Even single moms are out of the park with their requirements.

[@invisibleadversary]

White guys get a huge discount.

[@weifan9533]

Used to be like that but it's getting rarer nowadays. Asian women are getting smarter and won't be easily fooled by looks alone. Not sure about other Asian countries but less and less Chinese women are willing to give up everything just for a white man.

[@allio3459]

Because white male is high is social hierarchy. They have the advantage, but those Asian women who marry white males, they doing it for their own higher standard. Still materialistic if you think about it.

[@aiarthermoon]

That is TRUE.