Are Dumpers Afraid To Contact Their Exes?

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@MrJaxDemon 9 ай бұрын

If I spot an ex on social media and she's happy, I'm happy. Way I see it is I got to create memories with them, fond memories and no one can steal that from me.

@flowerss.7222 8 ай бұрын

That's beautiful

@MrJaxDemon 8 ай бұрын

@@flowerss.7222 Best way to be imo.

@benjaminhies 7 ай бұрын

That’s great. Better loved and lost than never loved at all.

@LanaD.-ii9lk 2 ай бұрын

What a beautiful way to see things !

@baggergurl16 5 ай бұрын

I truly believe deep down they really are because now they are afraid of being on the receiving end of a rejection and this time coming from the person they dumped. Edit: I also think this is why they take a long time to reach out or you don’t hear from them at all. Ex’s would rather not risk heartache or embarrassment.

@CeeP211 3 ай бұрын

Agreed

@shehjadkushkiwala4199 2 ай бұрын

My avoidant dumped me few months back, it was a disastrous of course because i was anxious mess by then, she's 42 and I'm 31, my life has gotten way better last few months, started my own business which is booming, i have decided that I'll talk to her after 2 months, considering she might not contact me for various such reasons

@RichardHodgson-wb9lk 21 күн бұрын

I had an ex in 2017 that would do wild shit then left me frustrated and wanted to just understand and help her. Fucked up shit where I should’ve walk away. She’d suffered sexual abuse from more than one ex and she clearly hated men. Yet obviously she was in a relationship, she had natural urges to want to be in a relationship and make it work. We broke up after a year. Also a year later, I got a text saying she saw me on social media with someone new and I looked happy and she’d happy for me. I ignored it. I got home a week later after travelling and I had a handwritten letter from the same ex, in the post. She said she was in therapy and said I was the best bf she’d had and gave her 1% more trust in men. She said that she deliberately did all that stuff, to force me in to a situation to break up with her, under something she was controlling the outcome of, because she thought I would only leave her anyway. But I’m anxious preoccupied. I wasn’t leaving shit 😂🤪 haha! But yeah.

@petitcoeur-q6r 7 ай бұрын

Maybe the first time round they will contact you, but the second time they dump you they don’t come back. Currently going through nc second time round. They really don’t love you and they don’t care. Leave them alone. Take it as lesson from me - it’s not worth the pain and hurt. I’m currently learning how to heal my pain. No contact is hard for an anxiously attached person like me and as this video says no contact is easy for DA. They will monkey branch on to the next person while you’re still processing the breakup. They do it for ego until they find someone better than you.

@noussa-tf3lb 5 ай бұрын

He will never find someone better than me never

@cherylthompson2731 2 жыл бұрын

Iam a FA and would never block or ghost anyone I loved. My DA boyfriend had no problem with doing this. He's gone now but, yeah! He's going to miss me and remember me fondly. I don't need another man to move on. I can't ever trust anyone again. I'm not angry, just sad because I believe he was "The one"!

@chiranjit0 2 жыл бұрын

Same feelings here. But me believing she was the one seems like a misunderstanding on my part as more days goes by on NC. She didn't care for my love so now someone more deserving may have it.

@michaelvega3669 2 жыл бұрын

Update ? I’ve been feeling the same way.

@ADayInTheLifeOfJames 6 ай бұрын

If he was the one he wouldn’t have done that

@noussa-tf3lb 5 ай бұрын

Someone who doesn't treat you well can't be the one , live the deception ok it's valid but don't grieve them as if they were the one they weren't!!!

@taviastroup 2 жыл бұрын

It's been a year and a half, and so far I haven't heard from my dismissive-avoidant ex. I haven't reached out either. He knows I love him because I cried, and begged for him not to leave. It was all about him feeling controlled.

@kb.3589 3 ай бұрын

He is just not that into you :-/

@misspc78 Ай бұрын

Some avoidants have to much pride and high ego .

@derekazyan9942 10 күн бұрын

Understatement

@mrisa4682 2 жыл бұрын

It’s been 2 months since my ex dumped me , absolutely no contact from her whatsoever , I do miss her from time to time but most importantly I don’t really care anymore on how she’s doing at the moment

@mrisa4682 2 жыл бұрын

@@d.v.k.6592 we were almost engaged , I was sad at first but since she doesn’t want to be with me anymore , there’s no point being entirely depressed for so long , time to get up and move on with life

@mrisa4682 2 жыл бұрын

@@d.v.k.6592 Of course it was serious … i wouldn’t consider engagement if it wasn’t , it’s ok to cry and be sad once it ended , 2 months is enough for me to know she’s not the one and won’t come back , so why bother being sad and think about it when you can move on

@ab85main73 2 жыл бұрын

@@d.v.k.6592 I just got dumped 2mo’s ago too, after a 5yr relay.. first major heartbreak for me and will be the last, I was broken, even shed major tears, stress, anxiety was through the roof. She messaged me twice tho to see how I was “doing”, first time I responded, this past Sunday I didn’t. What woke me up was remembering how someone who was once so warm to me flipped and became so cold to me. She was also lowkey setting up a new connection while we were together so all the love I had for her actually turned into resentment. Now If I do think of her it comes with a feeling of disgust. I was gonna just chill out and keep to myself but I went out and met somebody new(same day the ex messaged me). To cut the long story short, at first I felt like I had taken the L, now it will be hers… Don’t lower your value for anyone, know your worth and don’t compromise your standards…

@ezikiah6871 2 жыл бұрын

She dumped me and I never look back. I'm one year and going strong 💪

@Wildanimal864. 7 ай бұрын

Let her suffer and keep it to herself……

@adoptioncorner1984 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your honesty coach. Praying my avoidant comes back and working on myself 🙏

@wendydaniel1110 7 ай бұрын

Anyone who is an avoidant that "dumps" me better keep it going because I have kept it going. Not their shrink or counsellor...If the person is "secure" their chances of me giving them anothet chance is good. Avoidants its a wrap..❤

@JC-sg5uo 7 ай бұрын

This reminds me so much of what happened to me years ago. I was involved with a guy in a long distance relationship who was crazy about me until he suddenly wasn't. I was young and chased him some until finally moving on. 5 years later I was working at an office in Atlanta. Out of the blue he shows up at my office building. We were standing at an elevator and I was with my boss who was talking up a storm. I feel someone out of the corner of my eye staring and I turned and saw him. I was stunned. We all got on the elevator, my boss still chatting away, oblivious to what was happening. We never said a word. He walked out toward the parking lot. I never heard from him or saw him again. And there's no way it was a chance encounter because I could think of absolutely no reason he'd be in that particular nondescript office building. He was from another state.

@Wildanimal864. 2 ай бұрын

🧢

@hayday9224 2 жыл бұрын

My ex texted me after a year 😂 what ashame, why they always come back these creatures

@dempseyroll1623 Жыл бұрын

Creatures🤣🤣🤣

@Grace_Psychology Жыл бұрын

Mine texted me after 21 days of no contact…. Tried to play it cool and panicked when I didn’t reply immediately

@nadiyafriesl6918 8 ай бұрын

Well my ex contacted me after 6 years. He thought we could continue where we left off. As if 😂😂😂

@vicart81 8 ай бұрын

17 months 😂😢

@Nami66148 4 ай бұрын

Mine came back after 45 days saying “how are you”?? I replied next day “just say what you want you don’t give a crap how I am let’s be real “

@Lady_Ra 2 жыл бұрын

He can stay gone.

@nickolazcarters Жыл бұрын

😂

@azoz158 Ай бұрын

Amen 🙏

@TheSamale 13 күн бұрын

👋 there, it's happened to me. I only texted my teenage daughter, but my ex avoided me. we separated for 16 years ago, and she remarried And she divoce again, and she's single mum now, but I support my daughter. I wonder if we are all human beings able to understand that She is the dumper, and I Healing for age's just trying to help them.

@AugustusTiberius-tq1gw 4 ай бұрын

My X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. She dumped me and blocked 🚫 my cellphone. It's ok. It's has been walking on eggshells with my X. I have upgraded and leveled up. Living the best day's ahead.

@peterpiper6878 6 ай бұрын

I wish i had handled the break-up call better. I didn't handle it badly, but i showed that i was anxious and didn't want it. I THINK now the best thing to do is be cool and be grateful for the "dance" (country song). Meaning nothing lasts forever but be grateful for the memories and wish them well. Say if this is how you feel i guess it is for the best. Take care. That will throw them off and wonder if they are tossing a high value person away. Why is he so secure in this?? Best method. Ill do that if there is a next time. Hopefully find one and keep it going no break up.

@neressakotas4396 Жыл бұрын

well I do not want to hear for them. they wanted to leave. I cannot see the point of contact them.

@neressakotas4396 Жыл бұрын

don't have to worry about them thay walk away from you that it. just get on with your life move on forget them.

@AnaSalazar-pi3gi Жыл бұрын

Not easy