Are Happy People Gullible? | Narcissism & Depressive Realism

[@elanahammer1076]

I am a depressively realistic introvert who cannot stand narcissists! Lol I enjoy your content dr. Grande 😊

[@TheEccentricLad]

Optimism makes your credulous. Pessimism makes you prudent!

[@kerijoh1425]

Thanks for always being lighthearted. I can always count on your videos to learn something and have a laugh. Hope this brightens your day too

[@cindyrhodes]

So.... a grumpy person is a pain to be around but they can be better witnesses for you at your murder.

[@awllypollyas8292]

Keep the grumps

[@rociomiranda5684]

I love your insight and your sense of humor.

[@skippy8696]

This explains why scams at carnival events are so successful, like those ones where you may have to participate in some activity rigged against you to win a prize or something. People are more likely to be in a good mood when they're going on rides, eating cotton candy etc. and probably don't care too much about losing say, 10 bucks trying to win a toy or something. In a more normal eviornment, losing that money probably would elicit a much more negative response.

[@lestranged]

It's interesting you said that people in a negative mood have better memories. Is this why the painful and traumatic memories of the past are so much stronger than the happy memories? It seems unfair that we are built this way, but I suppose this has an evolutionary benefit because traumas have to stick with you so that you can avoid those situations in the future. There's no survival advantage to remembering good times, other than comforting yourself.

[@ennvee3354]

This information IS life changing ie pay attention to your mood states, you can be a critical thinker and Remain in a good mood. Priceless, thanks Dr G.

[@qiuwbr091]

What a grande subject! Thanks again. From what you’ve said it seems important to learn not only critical thinking skills to thrive, but skills to survive as well. Being fearful that there is a crisis around every corner of life probably isn’t healthy, but if you get to that corner and are completely lost it’s not so good either. I feel sorry for people who weren’t prepared at all for this pandemic. With real sincerity thanks again.

[@winstoneschwarzkopf1993]

Finally some positives about the negatives....u just made my day more posit explaining negats. Thank u pls continue ur work!

[@marcelastacey890]

10:05 “. . . for some people, just interacting with a narcissist puts them in a bad mood.” I found so much comfort in this statement - realizing I’m not alone in this. I’ve berated myself for not “doing better, being kinder and more patient.” I still work so that being around the N doesn’t put me in an instant bad mood, I guess now at least I understand that it isn’t just me who has that instant visceral reaction. Thank you Dr. Grande. This is a great epiphany and actually quite comforting too. 🙏🏼 And the statement that follows, “Maybe that’s a protective mechanism,” is congruent with the poor mood and higher reasoning ability theory - because I was “happy” for many years while in the proverbial pot of hot water. Now it makes sense! I insisted in remaining “happy” with a positive outlook in life - and where did that get me? Hmmm one more puzzle piece just fell into place. Thank you! Dr. Grande you were inspired to post this video. Thank you! 🙏🏼

[@awllypollyas8292]

How can you detect a narcissist or a lie? I really wish i could be more careful and attentive but I always look on the good side of people, even horrible people. Is this wrong? How can I be more careful?

[@mcd5478]

I finally found a name for my go-to mood...Depressive Realism! 😂🤣👍🏼🎉 Loved this video. SO interesting.

[@dll6384]

Yes! That's how I've always referred to it.

[@DreamingInTechnicolor]

9:22 Reminds me of that scene and Ghostbusters when Ray was all about getting the fire house, and the rest of the guys weren’t too thrilled about buying a dilapidated building, with such a high rate of interest. The price probably could’ve been haggled down but Ray’s enthusiasm, killed that chance.

[@lesmorris10]

He has such a relaxing informative way about him...he makes me feel less nervous if I'm having a difficult day .

[@elisamastromarino7123]

I think there's an advantage to being gullible and happy. Those kinds of people live longer. They seem to have a keen ability to keep negativity away and just not think about things that are less than lovely. I prefer my skepticism, though. 😊 Thank you, Dr Grande. 👍🌹 Interesting thoughts.

[@richierobinson833]

What is the advantage? Trusting ignorance? Have you never heard that resentful people live forever? Negativity is part of life, choosing to ignore it is a detriment, at best willful ignorance.

[@awllypollyas8292]

You're trying to keep me down

[@xino_z]

This explains so much for me right now. THANK YOU

[@LizbetPCB]

I haven’t been happy in a very long time, but I’m not in a bad mood, either. I can also be easily hornswoggled, and being aware of it doesn’t seem to make me less so. I WANT to believe because I need something that seems good, to just be good. I’m a mess, come to think of it. Very nice of you to do so many of these videos, which I always enjoy. Thank you for giving so much of your time to help us learn what we need to know!

[@dll6384]

Fantastic video Dr. Grande! Thank you!

[@nanizro2840]

It’s funny that when your in a bad mood you are more aware of things and people around you.That’s because your looking for someone to fuss at or something to gripe about. 😂 Another interesting topic Dr. Gradesito 👌🏼

[@angelaheyhey8575]

💩rolls downhill! Without awareness of state you can't shift it, (power) or control it (force,) , or transmute that energy (transcend) so you end up starting or continuing a negative cycle and worse you pass it onto someone else. 🙂 Have a blessed day ✨✨

[@cindyrhodes]

I am happy, and part of that happiness comes from not being gullible! :-) Thank you, Dr. Grande!!!

[@ybrueckner5589]

I am happy go lucky but I seldom let on when I think somebody is lying. I expect people to be human and disappointing but I love them anyway. I love many but trust few and I'm almost always in a good mood. I know I'm not perfect either. GREAT TOPIC AS USUAL!!

[@cherylbaker3319]

I definitely experience a "depressive realism" which I was called pessimistic a lot for too, however I learned that I felt more cynical, as opposed to pessimistic, and explaining my realism throughout therapy I finally had someone whom knows me the best agree that in fact, my depression served as a realism and definitely a trait learnt from a survivalist strategy to protect self from extreme narcissism and antisocial traits in others. I really enjoyed this video, thanks Dr Grande :)

[@kellyannallen2454]

Oh my this was great. Thanks Dr.G😉 I’m loving all the different topics

[@rejaneoliveira5019]

Love the video!!!❤️ I couldn’t agree more when you say that emotions really come in the way when making good decisions. Thank you Dr. Grande! Will definitely watch this video a couple of times.

[@pocoeagle2]

Yes Rejane, I also have two watch it again.

[@rejaneoliveira5019]

So much information right? 😄

[@pocoeagle2]

@@rejaneoliveira5019 yeahhh 😁😁

[@EricPetersen2922]

Instinctively I have always put myself in a “bad mood” during the course of doing big biz deal. I’m a career entrepreneur and this analysis is spot on. This is a very very useful video for anyone interested in making the best use of their emotions in a biz setting.

[@lyndawood7937]

Like your insight and full explanation of various issues. Thanks for your hard work on this channel.

[@jobond3317]

I do like your statement about our world producing and distributing information, for example, social media and you are a part of this. However, you seek to provide scientific-based information and I do enjoy your channel. Always informative

[@dhobonov]

Thanks, Dr. Grande. Having recently retired, I'm always on the lookout for scientifically informed, insider advice to help out with my new life of crime. lol

[@FlatWorld_Jomhuri_Regime]

I love you Dr Grande. Few are familiar w/the 2- 1. Growing up in a very small, but very private Catholic school, my classmates and I honed dishonesty down to perfection. It's unlikely all 13 of us were psychopaths. 2. Eyewitness testimony is complete trash, and I can attest to this as an employee of a circuit courthouse, that's the type of court that deals with murders and felonies. :-D

[@cindyrhodes]

This very topic is one of the reasons that I am so interested in psychological topics. Thank you!

[@Jugivadi]

I tune in to all your work so much and I just now realized I hadn't subscribed. I just did so. I like that you don't embark on a topic without a superior command of the facts.

[@kimberlygabaldon3260]

*Great* video! You hit on a *lot* of things, here. And the information about bad moods, ironically improved my mood. Thanks!!

[@Rellikan]

You ain't fooling me Todd!

[@tashastarling870]

I loved this topic. As well as your recent Cluster B Damage Control video. Thank you Dr.! (And surprisely I enjoyed your Depp-Amber analysis. It didn't seem like an interesting focus but I should have known that would mean you would talk more on your own slightly relevant more interesting things. Fact is gold but your observations are grander) I'm still working your videos into my life even when I'm busy. It seems the emotional state functioning you are talking about today is definitely used in marketing. It does sound to me a lot like what the experience of a trauma victim may look like too. I've noticed myself I become more negative and on guard when being close with a depressive narcissist for too long, and it alters my thinking. Some describe it as a fog, and it's self-induced by being in divisive company. Your brain selectively uses the memory and responses that work in chaos, and that includes thought process. Long term it can be confusing especially if someone isn't self aware enough to feel the changes (in my early 20s I had a few scary moments where the fog came into my life suddenly and I didn't understand how why or what could change it, and it could be almost debilitating) I first noticed how easy it was to have control if I sustained an emotional state and boundaries while working and dealing with many customers. I am naturally anxious in company and introverted. With practise I learned to slip into character and feel personally removed when dealing with upset customers or situations, and stay fully functioning and happy and very energetic - essentially drawing on useful qualities and emotions when I'm in an environment that demands it. My memory would be sharp and responsive, and my temperament generous and accepting, and I just didn't let myself gripe about doing work. Made my work day easy and I was in a safe place to express certain 'availability'. I noticed I could be more gullible in that state of mind too, and had to become a sharper observer. But I was becoming emotionally drained after work, purposely forgot most of the things that happened there when at home, and realized I wasn't living my day properly and learned to substitute more natural attitudes and behaviours at work (still I practise this mental withdrawal a lot in many ways, even by just leaving my troubles at home while I go to work. It seems to me like something everyone uses to some extent. It's how we can most accurately respond to any situation, and then there is living with expression which is all the in between and more liberating) I'd like to understand more about maladaptive daydreaming and dissociative identity disorder too. It really does feel like to me there are different levels to the mind, or wavelengths or something and each person is capable of slipping into different states. It's seems to be how a lot of our random access memory works, using emotions to vaguely compartmentalize little facts until we need them again, then the info is suddenly there. Very fascinating topic

[@lilren8825]

Really enjoyed this Dr G, i always pondered on this concept, great talk

[@sjadzak]

Addicted to your channel- Keep up with the great work! Thank you Dr Grande!

[@merularubia5476]

Thank you for pointing out the advantages of critical thinking. It's been quite underrated for some time now.

[@paper-chasepublications9433]

Fascinating coverage of this subject. Thanks again, Doc!💪🏽💪🏽

[@asho345]

Critical thinking seems to be inherently linked to emotion from my experience. You can ONLY rationalize why one decision is better than the other IF there is an underlying value system, and emotions cue us into that value system. To distinguish emotion from logic/reason seems to be semantic flaw that has stuck around culturally.

[@sarahsmiths550]

Thank you Dr.Grande 🤗 I really love this video, interesting topic and great analysis. Btw, need to watch it at least 3 time! Not smart enough for it

[@qiuwbr091]

I think you are smart- consider the thousands or hundreds of thousands of people who won’t watch it.?

[@givepeaceachant108]

Thanks Dr Grande 💐🙏🏻🇨🇦 I have learned a lot from this video.

[@Matagot90]

My Grandma always said, "Don't believe anything you hear, and only half of what you see."

[@DreamingInTechnicolor]

6:11 Sounds like being naturally happy could have major disadvantages! 😳

[@rejaneoliveira5019]

Good point. If you look at a different angle, being not happy is not so bad after all.😉

[@robertimmanuel577]

Almost as if picking your own poison

[@hikerhobby1204]

It sure does! I’m a naturally happy person. I’ve been snowed so many times in my 62 years! Finally woke up to people’s motives. I can’t fathom how people sit around and dream up their conniving ways! All that made me swing the other way, now I’m to skeptical of people.

[@lazydaisy4453]

@@hikerhobby1204 I can relate to you except I am way to happy that I live in the moment and cannot think of the consequences properly.

[@hikerhobby1204]

Lazy Daisy : I hear you Lazy Daisy! What do you say we continue smiling and being happy! We do suffer some consequences, however, much better then being grumpy and angry all the time! Plus they can’t figure out what we’re up to, when actually we’re not up to anything other then being happy!!!!

[@goodintentionslifecoaching]

Thank you Doc! Your analysis is interesting 🧐 and correct in my opinion. I appreciate your videos and look forward to them every week. 😊

[@billhildebrand5053]

Comentó 4: 176+views. I woke up with a neutral mood, but when I realized I was three minutes late for Dr. Grande, I knew I could not be first to comment, but would be happy with fourth. I noticed some key words you mentioned and I believe you mentioned conspiracy theory only once. 😃👍 I now realize my life is not dependent on moods, but I can use whatever life brings for adv. Thanks for the good topic, Dr. Grande, as always I liked the four point analysis. 😀😂😀

[@GrandLuxx]

Dr. Grande, Do you ever sleep my man? Keep up the great content

[@erikl4821]

Learning critical thinking skills was easily the most constructive thing I've gotten out of my university learnin'. It always applies! So between that and my constant cranky mood, I should be in pretty good shape! 😆

[@MindBodySoulOk]

Did you graduate decades ago? You didn't learn critical thinking in any university in the last fifteen years.

[@AmyLSacks]

Thinking on the large purchases mention, I feel like there's a caveat. If a person's already prone to negative thinking, they may need to build up their mood and dial down that thinking just enough to get to a "neutral" mental space. Otherwise, they may not be motivated to even research and attempt to make the purchase. Just a thought. Thanks again for these interesting topics.

[@evelynwaugh4053]

That is why `knowing thyself' is important. We have to be aware of our biases so we can adjust for how our personal distortions inevitably cloud our judgement.

[@braindeadobserver1340]

I think that we should enjoy our emotions. But a person is not an adult until they can control their emotions.

[@ttuanmu]

Hi Dr. Grande, please do a personality and mental health analysis on Warren Jeffs, the leader of FLDS. Thank you. 🙂

[@ttuanmu]

Senpai noticed me! 😆

[@sdzielinski]

I've been a depressive for as long as I can remember. One cognitive habit that I have which triggers depessive moods and which fosters a realistic attitude is the strong tendency to see limits, limit that would hinder the ability to achieve goals. Depression and a realistic attitude may be related but only when the depressive mood is not so strong that the depressive mood distorts cognition. Catastrophophizing is one example.

[@ebonyj.......detroit5764]

I am subscribing.... you are great for my depression.

[@amanita1964]

It would be interesting to test this in relation with hormonal production, considering that happy and love hormone put you in a certain "mind frame" which is very well depicted by popular wisdom sayings such as "Love is blind". The correct saying may be "Love makes one blind". Thank you for this interesting video.

[@allyson5712]

Very thought-provoking Dr. Grande, sort of sad to think that being in a happy state of mind may make one more gullible. I say, go for finding the joy in every day life, take time to think over big decisions, and trust your gut instinct when you have a cautious feeling about someone or something. Stay well everyone, thanks Dr. Grande.

[@PulpTales]

Though it's possible to have extensive knowledge and experience in many areas, it's impossible to be an expert in everything. It seems to me that many people who appear gullible actually have invested their intellectual and cognitive trust in a person who acts as though he or she is an expert in everything. For example, cult followers, listeners to many well known pundits and conspiracy theorists, etc. A child invests this kind of reliance on a parent, instinctively and in the great majority of cases for the good of the child. Children are gullible, especially to things adults in authority tell them, in particular their parents. And it keeps them alive. It seems to me that gullibility in adulthood is often a type of submissiveness to authority; a subordination of ones own intellect to the forceful personality of another. It looks to me like a reversion to childhood, or maybe a failure to fully launch into functional adulthood.

[@evelynwaugh4053]

That's a good point. Or it could be reversion to the simpler developmental stages during a period of intense stress, like when a formerly well adjusted adult experiences a personal trauma: devastating divorce, abandonment, serious health crisis, or occupational disaster which their psychological defenses are inadequate to overcome. If they had been willing to suffer the pain, they would have gotten through it eventually, but by reaching for the quick solution presented by the deceptive guru, conspiracy, etc. they end up experiencing much more pain in the end.

[@camuscat123]

I think the good mood and bad mood are on a continuum that depends upon how you define and measure these constructs. Perhaps extremes in mood cloud objectivity. From personal experience, I would not judge my mood as bad or good when things run smoothly. So interesting! Thanks!

[@cindyrhodes]

The ONLY reason that I regret moving to the other coast is that I am still sleeping shen Dr. Grande starts posting his videos!!!

[@laurastrobel718]

He he ... You were describing my ex when tallking about a narcissist wanting to keep you happy so they can keep working on you Great topic and good for the times we live in Thanks☺

[@di3486]

I think the best trait against gullibility is intuition. I usually can’t exactly explain why I don’t trust someone and I know they are fishy and usually I am right. I am very high in negative emotion and have had depression most of my life.

[@morgangreen2601]

Di :3 if you’ve had depression most of your life, then that could be the more reason why you don’t trust someone and are right in your detection; negative mood makes you more critical. Your viewpoint is relevant to your intuition.

[@di3486]

Morgan Green True. It does make you hyper-vigilant.

[@machintelligence]

A healthy dose of skepticism works well, also. Perhaps you are intuitively skeptical.

[@Snickerdoods.x]

I'd love to hear your thoughts on manifestation/law of attraction. I've heard (and read online) so many people believe they can just think something into existence and it doesn't make sense to me.

[@am3342]

Gina Marie high risk for magical thinking, wouldnt be suprised if large schizotyp are there.

[@mattfritz1]

Yeah!!! Negativity wins the day. Misanthropes of the world unite!

[@ellenfalls1330]

Great post. How many times I have felt gullible. Definitely part of my DNA.

[@kesmarn]

My late mother in law would have been an interesting case study. She was a fairly intelligent woman, but she was so gullible that believed every odd story or conspiracy theory that was put out in the (then popular) supermarket tabloids -- some really bizarre stuff. Yet in real life when called upon to believe in the story of someone who was truly going through hard times or even to pay attention to a crying baby, she could be remarkably indifferent -- even hard hearted. She always suspected that -- in those cases -- the people involved were trying to cynically manipulate her (even the infants!) She was a very strange person. Gullible at the wrong times and incredulous at the wrong times.

[@machintelligence]

Could it have been the investment involved in each? The price of the tabloid paper versus the cost of actually doing something?

[@Anna-sg8wt]

Hello Dr Grande, i really enjoy your videos❤im really interested about necrophilia but unfortunately could not find good information online. Motionless bodies really turn me on, regular things can't, to pleasure myself i watch videos on how doctors are cutting dead bodies. Can you explain what causes necrophilia and how to deal with it? Im ashamed of it.

[@Shiiiveeers]

It's easy to be happy and critical at the same time when you're better than everyone else and you laugh at their inferiority 😎

[@user-fu1nw7kh2h]

Excellent Content. Thanks 🙏🏼

[@robyndawn]

So interesting 💜

[@solvewithwinnie]

Great video. Watching in Nairobi

[@sweetluvgurl]

I think happy and nice people are more trusting. Then, other people can prey on that. That is just my take before really watching the video yet. One thing that I’ve always wondered about is the parallels of having less kindness, and happiness, in relation to intelligence levels, etc, and vice versa. Ultimately, I do think it comes down to being trusting, and then potentially a self-awareness factor and just having awareness for our surroundings. Like most things in life, I think balance is usually the key.

[@jacydyer5489]

My problem is that I see the cues, but if I feel the need for a person's affection because they've already wooed me, I don't act on the cue. I try to give the benefit of the doubt when I can't prove something, and I wasn't aware that narcissists have no empathy. I saw that they didn't but I couldn't trust myself because what if he really was the guy that I'd met, he was just going through a hard time? That's why all of my own regimented inner work right now is on trusting this voice. I wish I'd had some of this info younger in life, but on my Spiritual journey it seems that I always have a realization about myself, and I find myself coming in contact with the same information to confirm or validate my hunches. Now that I just heard myself write that, I actually like it this way. I truly understand from experience, and then I get a "You're right" from the Universe!

[@pwrfl2357]

Would you consider doing a video on complicated grief? I lost my true love in 1993 but I still have grief, almost overwhelming sometimes, as well as a lot of guilt. Thanks enjoy your work.

[@MARYWTHER]

I'd be nice to hear your thoughts on Andrea Yates' case

[@thefall-downkings6556]

Yes, my happy little gullibility bubble made me easy prey to the charms of a narcissist. Live and learn.

[@sallylarsen1322]

Wow...you just ruined my day! My life feels more fulfilling and fun when I'm happy. Now you say to be more negative to function with better realism! Damn it!!!! 😩😫🤪

[@epicmercury333]

This is an amazing and practical analysis. Thank you. 🙂

[@qiuwbr091]

My critical thinking tells me that Dr. would do very well writing a book on this subject. It’s my observation that mother’s tend to create idealized worlds for children. But when does it become necessary to present reality? Do you let kids fall off the Matterhorn at Disney by themselves? Do you just leave them with the bitterness of reality vs. idealism?

[@Schreibtisch1]

Hey Dr. Grande, can you please do an analysis video about the serial killer Andrew Cunanan?

[@evelynwaugh4053]

He is really interesting.

[@wilsont8753]

Dr. Grande, is there a correlation between individuals who're prone to philosophical/critical thinking and a lack of happiness?

[@rejaneoliveira5019]

Wilson T - Good question, I also wonder about the same...🤔

[@tdesq.2463]

Wow! That was great! I'm wondering if it's possible that individual assessments of others' intentions and credibility flow strongly in positive correlation with mood, and the environmental variables (intentions & credibility of others) happen to coincide with the irritable cynics more often than not. In short, was it the accuracy of the subjective experiences of the assessors that we learned about? Or was it more about the objective ... and harsh ... reality of the intentions & credibility of most people? Thank You, Dr. Grande. Great stuff.

[@beverlya.8751]

This makes sense to me now looking back to when I met my husband. Without being aware, he deceived me by his charm and I was longing for companionship. I was caught off guard by my own optimism about love and connection (you know that happy place where everything seems just right?) that I moved to quickly into a marriage. 9 months later after we married he was fired for embezzlement. It wasn't until he lost another job (about 1 1/2 yrs later) that within a few weeks got another job but after 2 weeks of his employment they let him go because they found out that he had a warrant out for his arrest for his crime. I now find myself alot more discerning about his motives and actions. He did have to go through the legal process and he has to pay restitution. I'm still with him. I tell him what I think and he doesn't like it . I have set very clear boundaries of what I expect. In a strange way it has made me stronger and probably more cynical.

[@evelynwaugh4053]

Perhaps I err, but I think massive fraud is grounds for annulment, because when people conceal significant aspects of their identity to a partner that person isn't able to make an informed decision regarding the marriage.

[@pats3714]

There's something to be said for living your life in blissful ignorance. It's the default position a lot of us adopt, our attention mostly taken up with everyday concerns. Interestingly enough the coronavirus lockdown seems to have triggered a few existential crises. There's a reason solitary confinement is considered one of the worst prison punishments. Sartre said "l'enfer c'est les autres" , maybe l'enfer c'est votre soi.

[@nancywysocki]

HUGS FROM 🇨🇦

[@bjornodin]

I would replace "happy" with "positive". I find that term more easily definable. But the video is still great as I have come to expect from the good doctor 😊 I would LOVE to see Dr. Grande analyze US presidents, specifically those who became mired in scandals or were considered "larger than life" 😎

[@5fingerjack]

Since you're all up on your Netflix, I'd be interested to hear your take on the Netflix series McMillions. This has to do with the multi-layered fraud committed during the McDonald's Monopoly game promotion. The level of self-delusion of the people receiving benefits was amazing. Plus McDonald's had not taken many steps to protect the winning tickets, perhaps out of gullibility like you mention in this video. He's hoping you have time.

[@josephjude1290]

Very useful video.

[@GuRuGeorge03]

I never actually reflected on that thought, but I used to be depressive for roughly 8 years and I was definetly much more gullible during that time. The gullibility wasn't bad though because it "stopped". Meaning that after the fact I could learn a ton from all those moments that i was gullible in.

[@Zoe-rn5cr]

Hi Dr, just wondered if you have any thoughts on what is known as " attachment disorder" and the bizarre practice of "attachment therapy" - In relation to the tragic case of 10 yr old Candace Newmaker. That would be a very interesting video. Thank you for your work!

[@ebonyj.......detroit5764]

I know it’s not intentional... but the content and your seriousness of delivering information is hilarious. Everybody in a Walmart line is miserable.

[@tragicslip]

Interested in seeing if being in a good mood aids creativity, theory being finding meaning in abstractions that isn't supported is creative.

[@Meenadevidasi]

Dear Dr. Grande, I have a friend who has experienced near death several years ago. An experimental operation was performed by inserting plastic parts into his heart. It was a success, one of the first. His attitude is that he is special and has a special mission to tell everyone about his experience as proof that there is God. He lifts his shirt to everyone he meets and shows the long incision. He thinks of himself as a kind of Jesus most of the time. But at other times he is quite mundane about things like money. Serious trust issues. And finds fault with just about everyone. Cannot simply be in a room with other people without making a huge scene where he is the center of everything. And becomes very, very depressed to the point of wanting to actually kill himself because no one appreciates him. I'm sure he would benefit tremendously from qualified counseling from someone like you. (I rather doubt there is anyone quite like you. At least I don't see them broadcasting such valuable information for free world wide on the internet.) I am also fairly certain he would not surrender to counseling. It would spoil everything. He certainly can't be the only person to develop this post traumatic behavior. Can you talk a little bit about this? Thank you.

[@tashastarling870]

Agreed this is a great topic.

[@evelynwaugh4053]

Did you know him before the operation? I wonder if his behavior changed pre and post op, possibly due to brain damage if he almost died; perhaps his brain was significantly deprived of oxygen.

[@Meenadevidasi]

@@evelynwaugh4053 He says his life completely changed. Yes. I considered there may have been some oxygen problem. He really can;t work since he is so hyper now and very sensitive if someone says or does something that he interprets as bad... he flies off the handle. I would be very interested to hear Dr. Grande talk about similar cases of this kind of trauma.

[@machintelligence]

@@Meenadevidasi It sounds like the operation wasn't as much of a success as claimed. The side effect was pretty severe.

[@kenmcfann8128]

Right on doc!

[@koivunen2489]

What I've been thinking is how would you recognize happiness if you were never unhappy or in a bad mood? Wouldn't that just turn one into an emotionless robot?

[@meggallucci5300]

This is really interesting. I never knew any of this except that I am always in a bad mood in a checkout line at Walmart.

[@geico1975]

Yep, this explains what the hecks wrong with me. I'm just about always in a good mood:)

[@GwenISayJump]

Dr. Grande! Will you consider covering the narcissism and abuse of King Peter III of Russia from The Great on Hulu? I think it is a very fascinating case study for narcissism!

[@lajohnson1967]

Mood shouldn’t be influencing your impressions of people. People really need to learn how to use their intuitive mind, or subconscious mind to educate themselves about situations and other people. This is a skill that needs more attention from the mainstream. Your intuition will tell you everything you need to know when dealing with other people if you learn how to use it and trust what it’s telling you.

[@dreadfulhours88]

I am a new subscriber and I have been binging on your videos a lot lately. I actually have a question for you, perhaps you could answer this in one of your videos sometime. Is it normal not to remember your childhood? I only remember a few bits and pieces from it before the age of 14. I had an unhappy childhood but I would not say I suffered to the point it would be because of a very traumatic experience.

[@machintelligence]

Not the doctor; but a lot of neural development happens up to and during puberty. Some (or most) memories may not be preserved.

[@Caperhere]

Thank you.

[@DrGrande]

You're welcome!

[@Infernotaco15]

We need to help this issue by teaching critical thinking as mandatory in schools. We teach how to manage money, at least in a basic practice.

[@katieb.9556]

Dr Grande, can you do a video on BPD and manipulation? Or a video on mirroring in BPD versus mirroring in NPD or ASPD?