Are We Too Politically Correct?

[@Sheechiibii]

I do have issues with the whole politically correct thing. It *is* an attempt to control people's rights to speak their mind, 'political correctness' is a way of censoring people's opinions, criticism, and voice. I can't agree with that, even if the people being censored are saying things I personally do not like or agree with. I believe everyone should be allowed to speak, even if only a few people agree with them. I believe that if someone wants to be a dick, if they want to be insensitive, let them: they should have the right to speak as much as any other person.

[@TheNotAdam]

+Sheechiibii Fox That's a misuse of the word "censorship". Censorship can only be done by a government. Thus, if a bunch of people tell a vocal racist to shut up, that's not censorship. He has a right to be racist, and we have a right to tell him to shut up, and that he's a terrible person. It would only be censorship if the government decided to arrest him for being racist, or if they were to somehow alter or remove any content that he produces.

[@Sheechiibii]

TheNotAdam I agree to an extent, however I think many people who believe in 'political correctness' would like the government to get involved. And that is where it goes too far in my opinion. Hate speech is against the law and when people don't like what someone says they can be very quick to label what has been said as hate speech in order to try and shut down discussion that they don't like or feel offended by.

[@TheNotAdam]

You're completely off base in your use of the word "censorship". No one on the PC side is censoring anyone. They're simply speaking up in opposition to language they find harmful, which is their right, just like its the other person's right to listen or ignore what they have to say.

[@Sheechiibii]

TheNotAdam I think a lot of people on the pc side definitely do wish to censor people (in the full legal manner) and silence people they don't want to hear. At least that's been a lot of my experience with them. Personally I think that people should be free to do and say what they like as long as their not trying to take rights away from others. To me, the 'pc police' are definitely attempting to take rights away from others, so I can't support them in that. I don't believe that political correctness started out as a way to try and censor other people, I know it began as a way to try and protect people, but I think it has gone too far and as long as there are people actively trying to make it a crime to speak about something they don't like in the name of political correctness, then I can't support them, regardless of their good intentions.

[@Sheechiibii]

As Obama said (and I agree with him): "I think you should be able to - anybody who comes to speak to you and you disagree with, you should have an argument with them. But you shouldn't silence them by saying 'You can't come because I'm too sensitive to hear what you have to say.' That's not the way we learn.

[@brandonsaraniti771]

"I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it." -Evelyn Beatrice Hall People do say offensive and rude things in this world, but we should always have the right to say what is on our mind.

[@kelseyf2619]

I've been trying for so long to put into words how I felt about this topic, and you did it for me in a better way than I ever could. This was amazing!

[@Alien--Bunny]

In my opinion, we have become too sensitive now as a society, when it comes to gender rights, racism, etc. You can really see it on tumblr or twitter. For example; white women were kimono's at a museum is culture appropriation, and offensive to the Japanese culture, even though there were Japanese people coming over to see and appreciate the kimonos. A white girl tried box braids because she saw it on another girl and thought they were pretty, however people were calling her out for being racist to black people by taking their hair style. Drag Queens and genderbend drawings are staring to be considered transphobic, and when a group of Drag Queens did a race for charity, people protested it because it was 'offensive'. There's things called White Privilege or Male Privilege, when a privilege is something that be taken away. Then we have Feminist complaining about men spreading, when they can ask the man to close his legs and make space. Then being offended over a video game that wasn't made for them, and nit picking all the sexulized women in there, even though there's tons of men that get kill in brutal ways in the game. It's not men being kill the offensive thing, but women wearing a bikini. And I didn't mean to rant. Freedom of speech/media/press is not freedom from consequences/criticism. However there are things you can't help to wonder, 'that offends you, really?' Anyways all the things can be looked up. However, you want a source, I'll be glad to link you to one.

[@hazmaticx1994]

racist for wearing box braids?! LOL😂 i swear everyone these days are just a holes to be a holes or just plain idiotic and lack in the intellectual department,and always irrelevantly retarded

[@vaiseyangel]

I've always been someone who speaks my mind but I pride myself on the way that I do it. Sure I mess up sometimes and hurt people but I try not to. There is a way to get your message across in a strong way without hurting others. Another great video RJ.

[@webbedpaws]

+vaiseyangel and you're so right, no one is expected to be perfect, but it's important that you even recognize it! well done

[@aaronpelchat7699]

That face you made when you said, "IM RUBBER AND YOU'RE GLUE" flawless. Another great video RJ!

[@TheNotAdam]

Thanks!

[@jonathanstafford3984]

This made me think of something a teacher once told our class. Freedom of speech does not mean freedom of consequence. You have the right to say what you want but you also have to accept the repercussions of what you say.

[@Mountainkingmusic]

I thought this video was about personal computers. I am so confused.

[@seallofapproval]

How do we make this top comment?

[@sybilcollas]

+Eleanor Taylor Like it. Like it with all you've got. Tell your friends and family as well.

[@caffernnn]

Always refreshing views on important discussions that should be had. Thanks for not being one of those people with a valid point that gets muddied by outrage and emotion, I'm trying to follow in your footsteps and watch my words in the same manner. OH AND UNRELATED: I went to a convention dealing with the offices of different international thespian society troupes in the state, and in one of the discussion treks I was asked who one of my inspirations were and I said you. I hope ya don't mind :)

[@ArborealStop]

Nothing like a good rant. Totally agree. My personal bugbear is people who are direct to the point of being rude and then say it's ok because they're being "real". *growl*

[@TheNotAdam]

I mean I consider myself "real", and yet I'm not trying to make everyone around me burst into tears. A shitty attitude is not synonymous with a personality.

[@ArborealStop]

+TheNotAdam My issue isn't necessarily with people who utilise the label but rather with those who hide behind it as a excuse to be rude and/or cruel.

[@loudpacks7787]

You have know idea how much I actually take from watching your videos. everything you say make sense to me and I follow by it. thank you lol it takes a lot to be wise now and days. glad I'm learning all this while I'm young.

[@Justcallmecrazy747]

Yes. This is exactly my feeling about this.

[@StartSelectGay]

Not that RJ didn't cover this topic in a concise manner, but one of the concepts I'd love to tack on here that is still new to me but super helpful in framing this whole discussion is that of "systemic abuse". Some people may see a case in the news where they are not part of a group that has the ire of a majority leveled at them and say "why are you getting upset, it's an isolated incident?" What I've recently come to understand is that what may seem like an isolated incident to those not victimized can just be another example of a pattern of abuse. It is useful to take a moment to hear out someone who is upset by an incident because it may make you aware of other incidents that might just make a pattern of abuse more clear to you and in fact shed major light on exactly why the speaker is so upset. Doing so gives you a moment to connect with someone with a unique world experience and expand your understanding of the people around you. :)

[@TheNotAdam]

Well that would pretty much be its own video lol

[@TwistedTruffles]

It irritates me when people get criticized for saying horrible things and come back with "Freedom of speech!" Freedom of speech means freedom from the government taking away your right to say what you want, freedom of speech doesn't mean freedom from criticism. You have the right to say stupid shit, but I also have the right correct you and argue with you about that stupid shit.

[@Sheechiibii]

+Brooke Reinhart "Freedom of speech doesn't mean freedom from criticism' - very correct, and the same right that you have to criticise people for being 'politically incorrect' is the right that lets them be pc in the first place. The problem I have with the concept of political correctness is that it seems like a way to say 'you don't have the right to say stupid shit, because I and other people don't want to hear it'.

[@Annabelisahamster]

I live for your rant videos, they're so educational and honest.

[@TheNotAdam]

Thanks so much! 😊

[@toxikliz9610]

I think as long as a person makes an effort to be polite and apologizes when they mess up, that’s all that’s needed.

[@kizzume]

I was on and off with you until you started talking about guidelines at 5:50. I lived my whole life being worried about offending people. I was a shy person most of my life. My life was filled with panic and worry that something I would say might offend someone, and I'll be *DAMNED* if I'm going back to that kind of life again. I don't go out of my way to offend people. I don't purposely try to say things that hurt people. If I *do* happen to hurt someone, and they tell me such, I'll be careful with that person not to do that again, but I'm not going to categorize that and add it to a list of thousands of things not to do, because that's how I used to live my life. The panic associated with that crap is one of the major reasons I'm on disability income--I couldn't keep a job because of all the panic and from things related to my autism. So when you start talking about *guidelines*, I couldn't disagree more. As long as I'm not trying to offend people, and I'm trying to think about people's feelings, it shouldn't matter if I use a type of wording that isn't that great. It's the ideas that matter, it's the concepts that matter--but if someone is so concentrated on the words chosen, it can truly stifle one's ability to communicate, and I refuse to live my life like I did before August of 2013. It was a nightmare. I'd like to be able to go back to work again sometime, I'd like to feel like I'm a contributing member of society, and if I was to take *YOUR* advice here, I'd never be able to do that again and I'd be a shut-in. No thanks.

[@TheNotAdam]

No one is talking about thousands upon thousands of restrictions. There just certain guidelines that have been created so that people don't end up dehumanizing others or participating in systematic oppression, which one can still do without even intending to, and that's part of the problem.

[@kizzume]

TheNotAdam If one is thoughtful of what others go through, I don't think a need for actual guidelines is necessary.

[@frostfang1]

+Kizzume Fowler (Stinky) "A friend to many is a friend to none" you can't please everyone and living your life walking on eggshells making sure you haven't upset someone because you used the PC buzzwords incorrectly is just... exhausting. Having spent much time around people who were so emotionally unbalanced that I felt like I was walking on eggshells around them...I gotta say there's being a considerate human being and then there is today's current obsession with offense and political correctness. and while I support being considerate about the people you talk of and to, I think the conversation does get stalled and in the fevor forgotten when there is this uber focus on wording. maybe we do need to take a step back and look at our pronouns and adjectives. But don't let it drown the current message. Address it fully in its own time.

[@witch_of_thorns8393]

hey RJ!!!! Totally agree with what you're saying. Regardless of trying to be "comedic" or not, people really need to realize the impact of their words. Any ways love you and Will and Doby!!!

[@harrylaube770]

Excellent topic! Well discussed as usual. Words DO have power and many times the person complaining about political correctness is trying to claim the role of victim while dismissing the actual victims in society. We'd be better off if decency was a more highly prized virtue, I believe, but awareness must come first! THX! :)

[@TheNotAdam]

Couldn't agree more :)

[@Sheechiibii]

+Harry Laube Words do have power, you're absolutely correct, and why should some people be allowed to use their voice and be heard and others disallowed? That is not equality. Political correctness seems to be a very good way to control what people are allowed to discuss, whose opinions are allowed to be heard and in the end - if some of us don't have the freedom to express our opinions then do any of us have that freedom at all? Being a dick shouldn't be a crime. Having an unpopular opinion shouldn't be a crime either. But that is what political correctness is attempting to do: be judge jury and punisher to anyone who dares disobey.

[@JXJ83]

To the answer question, yes. America has become the land of wimps. I was bullied and called numerous names when I was in high school and survived. I was given crap on a daily basis about my religion, height, and because of the job that my dad had. Where was the PC police then? I just think it's funny that bullying is just "now" bad. When it happened to me, it was cool and encouraged. Everyone gets made fun of and bullied. Is it right? No. But you can't expect to go your whole life and never made to feel uncomfortable and offended. It's not realistic. Mean people exist. No one is perfect. Everyone stereotypes and judges and has experienced having a racist or judgmental thought or feeling. Everyone has some type of hate in them because every human being is imperfect. No matter how hard you try, you are not perfect. I just wish all humans from all walks of life could admit that and own it. Yes, you shouldn't be mean to people but at the same time you shouldn't expect a parade or an award every time someone hurts your feelings.

[@TheNotAdam]

+Jacob Johnson Just because you happened to go through bullying and survive doesn't mean that everyone is capable of such a thing. That's a bias known as Fundamental Attribution Error.

[@JXJ83]

Bullying is wrong but you can't honestly expect to go through your entire life without experiencing it or having your feelings hurt. We unfortunately live in a world that has mean people. I don't condone bullying but at the same time I don't think people should make federal cases when they do get bullied or have their feelings hurt.

[@Wolfenx3]

+TheNotAdam I think saying everyone isn't capable of it is sort of the problem. Everyone is strong enough to overcome it or any other social pressure, they just need to realize it

[@JXJ83]

Amen Woflenx3! Anyone can be mean. Anyone can have hate or prejudice in their heart.

[@Fellanoween]

How is this even a problem?? If people are rude, other people call them out on it. It's perfectly logical and nothing that should be debated. And if the people calling you out on it are rude - call THEM out on it. Simply: If you're rude - prepare to take the consequences.

[@vh5xvc]

Well the reason why people think and I think that the western world is too politically correct is people fear of being called a racist or a sexist and what I mean is that when someone says something that is not sexist or not racist, authoritarian liberals will misinterpret as it being sexist or racist. For example, libertarian liberals are so afraid to criticize the doctrines of islam because they are afraid of being called a bigot, racist, and an Islamophobe. In the world that we live in, any criticism against Islam is conflated with bigotry against muslims as people which is not true. I understand that muslims in the US are an oppressed minority. Since the 9/11 terror attacks there has been increased violence against muslims and that is wrong. However, liberals have to understand that in the muslim world, there is systematic oppression against homosexuals, women, and apostates (Those who leave Islam).

[@danmakely9294]

You said a lot, with wisdom and understanding, I like to remember to always think before you speak or act as you are responsible to yourself first. I grew up with the golden rule and pretty much abine.

[@nataliebeckett2147]

watching your videos helped me come out to my family xxx so thanks xxx

[@TheNotAdam]

Congrats! I'm so happy to hear that!

[@maxwellmediainc]

thanks this video really helped me out

[@SleepyTrist]

Another important thing to point out is that with greater influence comes greater criticism. As people, we're more than capable to say, think, feel, and act in so many ways, that it's just inevitable and completely reasonable that we're going to dislike or even disagree with much of the views and behaviour of other people. All of that being said, regardless of liking or agreeing with the views or behaviour of other people, we still need to acknowledge that those views and behaviour of that person existed at that point in time. As much as we ourselves need to be accountable for what we view and how we behave, we mustn't turn a blind eye on the fact that other people viewed and behaved in a certain way, as that is simply a double standard. Great video!

[@krazykrownk8689]

gon get it tristen.

[@sisandangundze5585]

+TheNotAdam thank you for making this psa for people who were a little confused on the subject and even the willfully ignorant who'd rather scramble to make excuses rather than change in any way. Thanks, also you're adorable and Will is adorable and Dobby melts my heart.

[@PhatAsPhoebe]

Well, while I agree there are people who practically demonize Political Correctness as a means to continue spouting off their offensive opinions; admitting there are people who abuse PC to basically form mobs lends validity to the argument that perhaps PC has gone too far. Don't get me wrong; I think bigots and racists *should* be pointed out and held accountable, but how would we know who they are, if they were _VERY_ skilled at hiding it by censoring their words? In some cases, it's better if they can be pointed out. #Politicians The internet has given a lot of freedom to a LOT of people, it's reasonable to say some of them abuse it, and a LOT of them hop on their bandwagon. To sum up; I'd rather live in an Honest World, than a Fake one...

[@PhatAsPhoebe]

***** Well, if the goal is to _conceal_ your true opinions as to not face the backlash or reveal your true intentions, then... *chyeah* _totes fake_.

[@alexanderpoth9995]

+PhatAsPhoebe In my opinion, there are no people, who abuse PC, since I think it is a concept, that per se can not be abused. Sure there are some, who insult others and then hide behind this phrase, but they're just misinterpreting and misusing the word itself for a cause, that has nothing to do with PC except for being the exact opposite.

[@snoopikitten]

I'm seeing a pattern, I think? Your rants are usually in the office, and the more soft spoken topics are in the living area. If that is intentional, awesome! I like the subtle categorization. Gives us a chance to subconsciously gear up for a new idea. I think this requires rewatching a bunch of prior vids to see if Im right.

[@hermitinthehills_956]

PC is great to the extent of just being moderately nice and considerate. The problems arise, for me, when I cant causually say, "Hey guys" to a group of women. Or describe a stranger by skin color when I have nothing else to go on. It just seems in my experiences that most anyone who feels the need to speak out at all on PC, are all extremists. I mean, a normal chill person is not going to be offended that i dont call them the most PC term possible. They just care that Im not insulting them. But thats just not good enough for many. I could go on for days about all these extremist movements parading as progressive and normal. Especially the medias spin on all of it. Just be nice and considerate! Dont belittle. Dont use obviously hateful terms. Even if met with an extremist, dont start calling them names. Just calmly address the issue, and if no resolution is being met, just walk away from those trying to pick a fight. Drop your ego. Its not a power struggle. Your life doesnt hinge on this one debate. Youll live. If you cant do that, youre part of the problem, I hate to say. Peace and love you fuckers lol

[@LaerenMisha]

Hey RJ: I'm going to disagree with parts of your argument - in general it's ok, but here's where I diverge. All meant in the spirit of discussion, btw. I don't mean this as an attack, and I hope you see that. The problem as I see it is that where do you draw the line of "too far"? Do you depend on "I feel offended" responses from people? Because that would mean no Muhammed cartoons in Danish newspapers. Do you depend on your own sensibilities of what *you* are offended by? Then how does anyone know where that line is, since we also don't know where your own personal biases are. You use a lot of language like "extreme" and "out there" or similar...but where is that line? Where do you put that line of "correct" Political Correctness, and "incorrect" amounts of it? There are many things that need to be challenged in our society, that being "un-PC" is a valid form of protest. Christians taking over our government and putting in place their ridiculous Christian laws or practices, for instance (i.e. Kim Davis). Calling out their hypocrisy of claiming "biblical" basis for their claims, while ignoring the mountains of other biblical laws, needs to be called out. And this is going to "offend" many Christians, because of the "how dare they defy our bible" mentality. Does your un-PC-ness apply to that. The problem with a majority of your argument is a matter of "hurt" and "offense". People are "hurt" and "offended" by a wide variety of things, and many of them are kinda stupid. For instance, students being "offended" by being required to read certain books by their school, books that contain positive imagery of gay people, for instance, or books that show slavery was a terrible, terrible, thing, and not the rosy "slaves lived happy lives" scenario that is making its way around the South. These students who are "hurt" and "offended" by these things are trying to change the way education and discourse are done, by limiting them to only topics they find "comfortable"...and when you do that, you fail to grow and learn. I think the problem with "striving towards PC-ness" is that the line is continually changing on where that is. It is changing to mean "eliminating anything that is uncomfortable", but facing uncomfortable things that are different than "what you were raised to believe" is part of life, and a great part of growing. We would never have gotten marriage equality if there weren't some un-PC uncomfortable conversations being had throughout the country. We would never have gotten what racial equality we do have, without a lot of uncomfortable conversations being had. And many of those conversations are "un-PC" conversations. Though I agree that watching what you say is important, I don't think "strive towards not offending anyone" is the right message.

[@lpforever6273]

+Wren Dart Maybe, but doesn't mean we shouldn't keep trying. I liked this nuance in the discussion and I can see there is no one answer, moving 'forward' is a process with all kinds of inputs. Nicely complicated now.

[@sinachiniforoosh]

+Larry Barthel (Laeren) Well, I think what you're mistaken about is that people who are indeed offended are just offended for the sake of being offended. Most people explain why they find something offensive. It's not a random occurrence. I think the difference is in the attitude. If someone tells me that what I said offended them, I'll ask them what did I say that was offensive, and try to understand their point of view. What I think RJ is against is people dismissing these objection under the blanket of "too PC" and not being willing to examine their own behavior. If you say something that genuinely hurts someone, and your knee-jerk reaction is to make judgments about the person's character (like thinking they're too PC, too sensitive, etc.) instead of thinking about how you might have hurt their feelings, there's a problem. That's a natural reaction, but it's the sort of reaction you should be resisting. Because in the long run, it's better to listen.

[@AllenKisuke]

+Larry Barthel (Laeren) I completely agree with you. It's like people want to avoid any form of negativity and they can't see how destructive that is. Being offended is good, it promotes change, and it doesn't mean that you're automatically right and who offended you is automatically wrong. There are too many variables to really think it is realistic or possible not to offend anyone. We are giving too much attention to individual feelings. Generally PC people have good intentions but they don't see when attention to personal feelings has gone too far.

[@LaerenMisha]

+sina chiniforoush The problem is in determining what is a "genuine" hurt/offended feeling, and what is just a lot of babycrying cuz they can't handle what was said. Take, for example, the Danish cartoons that were published in 2006. The publication of these cartoons offended many Muslims, not because it's really a valid concern or that the cartoons were doing actual harm to anyone, but because the display of Muhammed in any printed or visual form is an "offense" against their religion. Should the Danes have cowtowed to this religious tenet and not challenged? Were the Muslims right to burn down buildings and kill 9 people, due to being "offfended" by these cartoons? There are things where you can genuinely listen and change your position of why you said what you said, but for the most part, people are "offended" by so many things and for so many oddball reasons, it's entirely possible to be walking along a street and offend someone because you are walking with both legs and not just one. People have been much too immersed into what they see as "how things should be" that when something violates or is just different than that, they get offended that it's different, and cry out that they are offended, as if being offended is some kind of justification for others to take action and/or edit their own liberties. I think the conversation needs to shift from "who is this offending" to "why are you offended by things" and "how can you deal with your own internal feelings of being offended, by something that's not even related to or doing any harm to you?" Basically, make sure your own house is clean, first, before you start screaming that your neighbors are dirtying/offending your house with their own yardwork.

[@sinachiniforoosh]

Larry Barthel I think the problem of determining whether or not someone is being truly genuine or not is... well, irrelevant. The fact of the matter is you can't truly determine whether their concerns are genuine or not. What you can do, however, is to analyze the situation more deeply. People aren't "just" sensitive. I find that idea more of a cop-out from examining your own behavior, it's not a good representation of reality. I personally handle people saying shitty things about the social groups I belong to by, well, not saying anything. In real life I actually find it tiring to engage with people, and in the rare instances that I do, I'm very polite and apologetic. The internet is different, because there's no social bond that will be affected by me pointing out people's offensiveness. I think it's too simplistic to think that the Muslim people's outrage about Muhammad being depicted is solely because it is prohibited in Islam. There's much more to it than that. What happened was terrible, and I don't condone it in any way, but let's not forget that Muslims aren't exactly the most fortunate people in this world, and it hasn't always been like that. And the western influence on the Muslim world hasn't been exactly positive as a whole. And Muslim minorities in western countries deal with a lot of shit already, and maybe some of them feel like this is insult added to the injury. It's not the cartoon itself that is the problem, it's the fact that it makes their pent-up frustrations bubble up to the surface. I personally think that the attackers were fucked up people, but I also believe that, regardless of whether it's right or wrong, it's certainly understandable why Muslims weren't happy about the cartoon. My personal views on the cartoon is that it wasn't original, or necessary, or in good taste. They drew Muhammad solely in order to be offensive. And that's not very insightful, or high quality satire. Of course they had and have every right to draw whatever they want, but I can't help but think that the only reason they did that was to be edgy. Which is boring. I think I should also point out that there absolutely are a LOT of problems in Muslim communities, such as sexism, homophobia, racism etc. I'm a gay, atheist man in a Muslim country. I know what it's like. But I also think that the people coming from Muslim cultures are in the best position to criticize the state of their own communities. I know what to do to make Muslim people's mind about my sexuality. And I assure you that drawing Muhammad, trying to challenge them on their believes about the universe, etc. is not really the way. I think if western people are truly concerned about the state of human rights in Muslim communities, it's better for them to hear about what the people affected by those violations of human rights are saying. To put it in a better way, if I criticize my brother, he won't think I'm being aggressive, because he knows that i know him enough not to make ignorant comments about him, and that I really care about him. If a stranger makes the same criticism, my brother does have the right to feel offended, because it's not their place to criticize him, because they don't know him. Of course, he should be criticized, maybe I'll even learn a lot about the same stranger, and that may help me navigate my brother's problems better, but in the end, it's better that I handle the issues than the stranger, you know? Likewise, as someone who lives among Muslims, was raised in a Muslim country, and know and loves many Muslims, I think that if they have a bad attitude, especially a kind of bad attitude that affects me personally, I'm the one who should be handling it. I still believe that hearing what people have to say will make it more understandable why they find some things offensive. They may still be wrong or too sensitive, but at least you can learn where they come from and why they feel the way do. For example, one time I, a few family members, and their friends went out together to eat. While we were sitting at the table, the subject of gay refugees came up, which was followed by all sorts of nasty comments about how they find out people are gay. And keep in mind that this conversation is happening in a country where having sex with people of the same sex is punishable by death. While the person was making their comments (about how gay people are so effeminate, and that they may bring a guy and tell the person to have sex with him in order to prove that he's gay, etc.), I was silent (I wasn't out to the person saying those things), my brother was silent, his girlfriend was silent, and another girl I didn't know well was silent too, who I later found out had an older gay brother. If your comments in a group of 7 people makes 4 of them feel bad, you really need to examine your behavior. I didn't say anything at that moment, but I really don't think that it'd be fair to call me sensitive if I had told him to fuck off instead of staying silent. The truth is, there are certain kinds of bad behavior that are considered acceptable because they're common, and they shouldn't go unchecked. "I think the conversation needs to shift from 'who is this offending' to 'why are you offended by things' and 'how can you deal with your own internal feelings of being offended, by something that's not even related to or doing any harm to you?' Basically, make sure your own house is clean, first, before you start screaming that your neighbors are dirtying/offending your house with their own yardwork." True, but then, it's hard to determine who's affected by a certain thing or not, and even if they aren't, does it really affect the nature of what you say? For example, did my brother have the right to be offended by those comments? Because the person was after all talking about a social group his brother belonged to, he was talking about me, in a way. Would you consider him too sensitive if he spoke up? What if he wasn't my brother? It is complicated. And sometimes it really does go too far (like when people object about the use of the word "crazy" or "stupid" even when a LOT of mentally ill people don't mind it because these words aren't used to target them specifically). Things surrounding "offensiveness" can be complicated, but both sides should try to understand.

[@tom251017]

I think the key to this issue is mutual respect. People are allowed to have different views and they are allowed to express these views, but it needs to be done in a respectful manner. Not everyone is going to agree about everything, and that is a good thing, it keeps democracy and debate alive. When people don't agree with your opinion, that is okay, and people again need to respect this without hurling abuse at each other. I think sometimes people are looking for a fight, they want to debate something and that is when the respect flies out the window. They feel attacked so they attack back and that doesn't get the debate anywhere. In summary, debate and differing views are good, being rude and disrespectful of others is bad, but understanding where others are coming from and respecting each other and the views they hold is key.

[@starpasta]

Love this, especially in light of recent events and how people love to say college students are "coddled" because they don't want performers coming to their campuses who say offensive things. In fact, they are the opposite. They are becoming more engaged with how people get marginalized and such, and want to make sure performers who come to campus don't add to those people's stress. This is just one example, but you get the idea. Well said as always, RJ! :)

[@TheNotAdam]

I mean there need to be spaces where you're allowed to not be PC, but those are very few and far between.

[@DarkJediPrincess]

I always enjoy watching videos like this one and the 'Your Argument Is Wrong' series you have up here. Partially because I've yet to find one I don't agree with, and partially because of the way you explain things. Laying out every link in the chain of logic, clearly, concisely, and with a lovely side of Snark. :P

[@erikgraunke1655]

You are so right! Finally someone said it truthfully. Thanks :)

[@Msfever37]

yes more of these please

[@carlottafarnese]

I stand and just nod with a solemn look when you post these rant videos bc you're always too right to even say something

[@TheNotAdam]

Why thank you ☺️

[@carlottafarnese]

Eee you're welcome :D The one about abortion made me literally go "YES RJ TELL THEM YAAAS" ahahah

[@chrisaffambi127]

+Carlotta Farnese sooo me

[@mollyshaffer248]

Love watching your videos!

[@tibbarnogard8404]

Or they can be used ironically, and than taken out of context, in which case idk I’m a teenager my opinion is invalid until I’ve gathered enough knowledge

[@nicolevose3066]

0:25 Ben Carson must be anti-police.

[@julianbigelow2794]

I agree with everything that RJ said in this video, especially the part where the picked apart the absurdity of the buzz phrase PC police. Describing shame nuns that way is a complete mischaracterization. If you dislike an entire group of people and you defame them by calling them a term containing the term police, I take it you must be anti-police.

[@ralphiec4630]

FREEDOM OF SPEECH

[@KevOSMusic]

To those who disregard the power of words Think back to when you were in the classroom. Think about the teacher you may have had who everyone thought was brilliant. Now think of how they spoke. Use of language is so powerful. Respect it.

[@MaesterPeemore]

+Kev Anathra Now think about your biology teacher teaching you basic anatomy. A human with a penis is a male. A human with a vagina is a woman. Gee.. I'm so smart, and I guarantee Albert Einstein would agree, but people don't.

[@MaesterPeemore]

If I put a beak on my face and quaked all day, would I be a duck? Actually, I'm going to do that, and society will give me a standing ovation of how I'm a brave hero for transitioning.

[@KevOSMusic]

Yami Niisama Why would someone choose the life of being Trans? If the best way to help someone who's trans is by allowing them to be as they identify then what's the harm? Becoming a duck..whatever...let me know how that works out.

[@vmf4338]

One thing I'd like to add is that, people need to know the difference between jokes and insults. For example, Nicole Arbour's videos, those are insults. She is abusing the word "comedy" so that she can make horrible insults. However, what comedians like Jerry Seinfeld and others are talking about is the overly politically correct people you mentioned. Like, if someone said "so this lesbian", not even criticizing the LGBT+ community, but actually making a lighthearted joke about someone who happens to be a lesbian, they are immediately attacked by being called homophobic when they obviously are not at all homophobic. I'm a lesbian, and I make gay jokes all the time, and when people do correct me, I just don't make those jokes in front of them. At the same token though, it's like, "Sorry I was offending myself...?" And we force people to apologize for what they've said, and even after they do, we try to burn them at the stake until they basically fall off the face of the earth: for one comment. No matter how much people make up for it, we as a society are condemning people for a simple mistake, for simply being ignorant on a topic. I honestly think that's what's pissing off these older comedians/politicians who aren't used to a politically correct world. Don't get me wrong, I agree with you that political correctness is great. It's amazing how much more accepting and kind we have become as a society in general. The only thing that I am against is assuming that everyone who makes a mistake is automatically a complete bigot-racist-homophobic-sexist asshole. I do think that people should apologize when they make mistakes and hurt people as a result, but I don't think that we should continue to judge them until their lives are completely shattered if they do apologize. That's just cruel, no one deserves that. I understand doing that to repeat offenders like Nicole Arbour (sorry to keep using her as an example), but if someone makes one mistake, I feel like we should still give them a chance. That's just how I feel. I liked this video though, it wasn't too preachy to either side which I liked, and it's pretty much exactly how I feel on this issue.

[@lpforever6273]

+victoria marie Great points, I like to try to return to my 'intention' when I say something that might be on the edge, or when I hear someone else's comment: "what were they thinking that made them say it that way?" If I can clarify from them what was going on it helps, unfortunately though we are complex, totally agree words can wound and we need to be careful and responsible, while still keeping a place for humor.

[@lpforever6273]

I can't help but notice how the comments on these vids are so thoughtful. RJ you're broadcasting to that part of the YT audience where having intellectual points to make explicitly resonates (I'm gonna compare you to Matt Baume's commentaries here). I'm so glad we have LGBTQI+ spaces like this that do not just take up 'challenges', show pet antics, food and rollercoaster rides etc. (though we certainly need those too). You are giving us more substantial fare and it is valued.

[@TheNotAdam]

I mean I try to find a nice blend of the two. But there were just so many responses to "Dear Fat People" and almost no one focused on the next video and how vastly more problematic it was. But thanks :))))

[@BisexualRealTalkNow]

You did a wonderful job tonight at the Bi Arts Fest. And it was great chatting with you.

[@TheNotAdam]

+BisexualRealTalk Thanks so much! Great talking with you too!

[@sarae4009]

Love this video! Words have incredible power...well done, R.J!!

[@wackwackwackwack]

Also I mentioned politcal correctness in an essay about Fahrenheit 451 and censorship, etc. so its so strange this was your newest video... Either way my last two bits to say was that I do agree politcal correctness is fine- there are definitely great things with it and its good to educate people on what harm they can cause with their opinions, etc. But being on Tumblr (but its Tumblr so I shouldnt have expected much) it does sometimes go a bit too far maybe not too far actually....maybe its just how people reply to others who said somethin bad by accident Course it depends on how its typed out etc but I always feel people could be a little...nicer and calmer but again as you mentioned- pent up anger and frustration so I understand too

[@wildturkey3776]

If you're not allowed to express yourself it builds up and you will explode.

[@fzrm561]

You are basically correct but in modern media / politics caring is considered weakness great vlog :)

[@ORamirez0230]

Spill that tea hunty

[@webbedpaws]

it's people not willing to recognize their privilege. True, sometimes you don't choose what privilege you have or do not have, but you need to be aware of it and how your identity (or words) impact society or a given community or situation.

[@TheNotAdam]

+NotSoAverageIV Precisely. Well said!

[@BeHappyGoWesley]

nail it to the cross RJ ;) Love the shirt too!

[@RyanRuark]

THANK YOU.

[@TheNotAdam]

YOURE WELCOME. 😊

[@braking2]

well said RJ

[@victoriagay3657]

God you just explained my father and I literally feel so much better because I now understand people are just shitty sometimes to dumb it down.

[@samk5403]

The reason people are opposed to political correctness is because people are afraid to say absolutely anything on their mind because they are terrified of accidental offending someone, so instead of sharing their opinion about something they just stay quiet. Also that last clip with Ben Carson shows that not all people yell, because he actually always talks in a calm voice- not yelling.

[@yordankelnhofer5377]

Agree!!!!! I put me out of breath! whew :)

[@trishrowland7782]

I totally agree.

[@Rel1369]

While i do agree that being a considerate person is important, i also believe that one can not offend anyone else. We each make the choice to be or not be offended. If i consider your opinion to be valuable but do not agree with it then i will attempt to find out why we feel different, if i do not value your opinion then i disregard it. We need to teach kids that there are some not so nice people in the world (usually they are that way because they have not been taught otherwise) and give them the skills to deflect or ignore it. Of course physical abuse is not included in this.

[@TheNotAdam]

+Rel1369 The only problem with this is that people don't always have the luxury of dismissing someone's opinion. If a guy on the street starts shouting a bunch of awful bs, you can pretty much let it roll off your back. But if a teacher, family member, coworker, boss, or other person that you're forced to interact with regularly says something awful, you don't really have the luxury of dismissing them.

[@zombieedrea]

My fucking parents have been constantly (and I mean CON. STANT. LY.) bitching and bitching about the world being "too PC" and I want to tell them WHY being PC isn't a bad thing but I can never articulate it properly because it just makes me so angry that they just...don't get it. And they absolutely refuse to see it any other way. I'd show them this video but chances are they'd just turn their blinders on and plug their ears to any of this. (And - surprise - they're both privileged people.) I've begun to feel like I'm the only person who feels this way about this subject so it's really nice to see a video like this. Thank you.

[@zombieedrea]

***** lmfao good lord. I'm not policing what anybody says. I simply don't want people to be assholes. That's literally it. you're on the wrong video, bro.

[@TheNotAdam]

+VelaToNorma7 Not censorship.

[@gavinfonger7260]

Remember sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me

[@FuyuFunny]

yes

[@jamiemoss5811]

Background music on point though💁👏🙌👏🙌👏🙌

[@PuprleFox]

I always look forward to your videos!! :'))

[@Rianeze]

I completely agree with you, RJ. Let me also add, you look gorgeous by the way.

[@TheNotAdam]

+Rian Merrick Stoppppp

[@tyroneonphone]

the word for the so-called shame nuns is social justice warriors, lmao

[@chandabicknell3962]

Well said sugar! Well said.

[@feitocomfruta]

This is like those people who say "I'm not racist but..." being upset when they get called out. The only time I will use that is to say "I know I am not a racist, but I acknowledge that I can say or do things that can be hurtful to those of other races." Why is that statement okay? Because I am acknowledging that yes, even decent and kind people can sometimes make mistakes, but that does not excuse those mistakes, and I should strive to reduce those instances.

[@Rdsxfn17]

Anybody hear of "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"? Apparently not.

[@TheNotAdam]

+Rdsxfn17 We've heard it, it's just not true. "While the truncheon may be used in lieu of conversation, words will always maintain their power. Words offer the means to meaning and, to those who will listen, the enunciation of truth."

[@Rdsxfn17]

TheNotAdam Yeah it is, it's very true. Just ignore somebody it's not that hard. Words truly mean nothing. If somebody bothers you and offends you, you just walk away, it is really simple.

[@fetseb]

+Rdsxfn17 I'm glad you can just walk out of a classroom every lesson and out of your house. I get where you are coming from, but sometimes escaping the situation is just not possible.

[@Rdsxfn17]

Felicity Talbot Whenever I was a kid and someone made fun of me, you just ignore them and they give up because they were likely a real life troll and couldn't get enjoyment out of harassing you.

[@fetseb]

Unfortunately the guy who asked me to prom at least 30 times over 4 months, and sometimes made lewd comments, to make a point that I couldn't get a date in my year (I've ended up with a great guy from year above) disproves that. I ended up getting the student support manager to intervene as it was disrupting every lesson. This is bearing in mind I ignored him every time until I finally had enough of being harassed.

[@user-jr2iu7ks3x]

I loved your comment about people who are religious and are "sane" and "rational." I probably should not have enjoyed the the comment, because I have a background in religious education. :) Excellent video. Being politically correct is just being kind and respectful and I do not think there is any law against showing respect and kindness.

[@matts1392]

My issue with Political Correctness is that it masquerades as respect but often just teaches bigots how to be more discreet about their beliefs. I would like to see our society promote cultural relativism, awareness, and respect over political correctness. This might be a slightly different issue but I also would like to see our society promote self-awareness, self-reflection, and internally derived well-being over stamping out bullying and shaming. Bullying and shaming are despicable aspects of human nature but I think we need to equip children with the psychological mechanisms to protect themselves and be mentally healthy and strong. That isn't to say that we shouldn't actively work to stop bullying and shaming, just that I think we're not attacking the problem in a meaningful way. I enjoyed your video, these are just my opinions. Also, totally going to use "Shame Nun".

[@DarkJediPrincess]

Also, I think I'm turning into a rhetoric nerd because of you. >.>

[@videohead]

When Nicole Arbour made that video and said that political correctness was killing comedy I thought a few things: 1.) That's a pretty subjective statement and I have no idea what makes her an expert in comedy. Never heard of that woman before that video. 2.) If anything it's supposed to challenge comedians when creating their material. Because let's be honest, running around making fat jokes (if you could even call them that) like Arbour did is in my opinion, one of the lowest forms of comedy. As a side note though, that new South Park episode was a pretty good example of those who do that the political correctness to the extreme. However I believe those who do so are just a small percentage of the majority.

[@Flareontoast]

what I think about using politically correct terms, especially when it comes to oppressed groups (for example the LGBTQ community or people with skin colours other than white) it's not gone too far. Discourse and its expression rules society. people say, oh you're so sensitive. but in fact, nowadays, oppressed groups only realize how much power words have over them. how slurs were /are used to control them. we're only NOW fully comprehending that this is in fact wrong and that we actually have a reason to be offended. i might be off topic now... anyway love your videos🌟

[@edrycp]

Those who complain about political correctness the most are the same folks who say ignorant things about people but don't wanna be called out on it. It is absolutely annoying if you ask me.

[@loner844]

I do on occasion have problems with PC Culture, but I think in large it has to do with the attitude of particular kinds of participants in that culture. For example, the kind who tries to act privileged over the experiences of others, like someone LGBT trying to determine certain sexualities' validity; or someone enforcing certain rigid rules on others, like claiming cultural appropriation on someone simply trying to express themselves uniquely using something they like as opposed to putting forth an offensive stereotype on a culture out of ignorance to how that culture truly represents itself. I totally understand the need for sensitive language, but sometimes I think it does go too far even within its own borders, to the exclusion of people who don't understand, or who's personal viewpoints could be just as valid. Censorship is certainly a misused word in that respect. Perhaps oppression of opinions is more accurate. Then again, in an open discussion like this, perhaps it's more accurate to say shaming of opinions is what sometimes occurs. Sometimes you have to be so careful to keep from tipping someone over the edge, and some people get sick of it. That's why I think we get people saying people are too sensitive. Sometimes I agree too, when I feel tired enough. Sometimes I think people expect too much of people, who can't instinctively know what to say. Which is why communities exist, so people can find others who do understand. One thing I've learned, though, is never assume someone knows something you think they should. You need to tell them, or they'll never understand.

[@ristin59]

Excellent way of stating the situation. I think that has stemmed from the entitlement attitude. Us old farts used a term that has been buried by time, The Golden Rule: Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you. Don't insult someone and you won't be insulted, you have an opinion, but not everyone needs to know it. Live and let Live...

[@stephendepaoli3813]

No, we're not too PC. Yes there are a few who go too far, but it seems in general it's more of a case that people are so desensitized to what they say that they spew forth rubbish. People seem to love to hide behind what is almost anonymity in social media & the press. I'm all for free speech but seriously think before engaging the mouth - I don't like being treated poorly, why would I want to do it to others. Yes we all make mistakes, just as I've done a few times - but deal with it appropriately. If you don' t want to deal with people calling you out, don't give anyone the opportunity - i.e., keep the yap shut ! Well said, well read and well written. I completely agree. Cheers!

[@MrCrimzo]

from 0:01-7:37 "YES"

[@gracewatches]

"PC" has become a way to turn respect into a dirty word. When people argue against PC what they're saying is that they want to be able to disrespect people without consequences.

[@MidnightEkaki]

YES thank you. Totally agree with you (as always :P) Great video.

[@killlamas57]

Genuine question that may or may not be dumb but: how exactly should a person call someone out for being problematic without being a "shame nun"? Lol. It seems no matter what you will get accused of being one anyway?

[@TheNotAdam]

I mean it's an easy defense. But I always say that if you attack an idea and not a person, you're good.

[@LaerenMisha]

+TheNotAdam I responded above, but replying this also seemed to be on the topic. How do you curate your own "PC-ness" when the other person cannot separate the idea from their own personal attachment to the idea? I think the conversation regarding PC-ness is driven by this inability to separate the criticism of my ideas, from a personal criticism, so conversation is turning towards "Well, just don't say anything that could be remotely interpreted as offensive by anyone around you", which I don't agree with.

[@TheNotAdam]

+Larry Barthel (Laeren) well if a person can't divorce themself from their ideas, then that's really on them to work on. You can't really force someone to mature if they don't want to. All you can do is make sure you've got your shit on lock.

[@theresacook2186]

Dude I just gotta say. I'm from KY nuff said right lol contrary to popular belief alot of people here are actually as you say religious sane people...With that said I'm a guy who absolutely loves a good rasist joke ALL RAISES! there's a point there I'm not raisest at all but I've never been a fan of PC AT ALL until now you make alot of genuine factual points that changed my outlook on things keep this up and you might just make a difference man;)

[@vollkornflocke]

The king of intelligent rants has spoken - Thank you!!! :-) A well-balanced summary; I agree completely!

[@jamiebacklin1194]

Who defines these guidelines?

[@jamiebacklin1194]

The general ones you speak of, I mean, for what is appropriate?

[@2FlyCaptain]

Great points but I found the background music distracting

[@loyalhufflepuff8869]

You're amazing, dude

[@BeautyandtheGeek71010]

can RJ run.for president in 2020 ?

[@tam9639]

I'm continuously surprised that I agree with every one of these videos. I find them very interesting, too, just to see someone give their opinions unapologetically.

[@TheNotAdam]

I mean I don't really think this opinion is all that controversial, but I'm glad you're ok board :)

[@SandyRief2023]

When I make a comment somewhere and immediately people are jumping in with things like "drag the bitch"... I'm like, no... No no no, there is no bitch dragging, just trying to have a conversation here🎈

[@TheNotAdam]

I mean it's like the whole internet chants "Fight! Fight! Fight..." at the drop of a hat.

[@MultiKidhero]

I had no idea what PC was until south park lmao

[@DJWhovian]

It shouldn't be known as being political correct but the way you should treat or talk about people.

[@TheNotAdam]

That's very true

[@DJWhovian]

+TheNotAdam Thanks :)

[@guitarfreakirl]

The problem with PC is that it can (and actually does in many cases) morph into a form of fascism where anything you say can be construed as offending someone. We should all stop being so offended for five minutes and maybe, just maybe, we can talk through the real life issues that bother us and reach some common ground instead of suppressing them and creating resentment all round. No offence :-)

[@miriamalexis]

Great video, ily 💞

[@elspethsmale3982]

I've been told so many times that I'm too politically correct because I've challenged people when they say things like "you run like a girl!" "Get up you gay blade!" That's not me being politically correct, I just know that they're insulting groups of our population.

[@TheNotAdam]

I just say "what are you, twelve"?

[@LaerenMisha]

+Elspeth Smale I get that a lot when I call people out on saying "That's so gay!"...but I learned that humor works. So when I hear that, I just say "Yeah, it's absolutely fabulous, isn't it?". It gets a laugh, but I see the person who said it become a little sheepish at the implications.

[@TheLeonSilver]

I am not a U.S. Citizen but for what I think is most of those people live and grew up in a way too comfortable environment. Hence they do not realise the consequences they can make by uttering such words or thinking voting is a game and others. I'm not saying they should be punished or anything but people tend to ignore the harshness in this world because they simply never experience once. In my country, every words you say if it's considered even a little offensive to the government, you WILL be put into jail, in UK, words you express on social media can directly affect your chance of getting a visa. My point is, when people are being given too much freedom and so called rights, many things are expected to happen. The way to avoid it is, imo, to educate the people correctly, parents and guardians play very important role in this by teaching their kids such matter. Go travel, learn about the culture in other country because you can see respect and thoughtfulness in people.

[@Flareontoast]

I'm sorry I just gotta say your icon is cute as hell! dnangel?^^

[@TheLeonSilver]

BeaSan95 aww why thank you, yours is really cute too, I love Koala

[@rundan8620]

the problem with political correctness is there are sensitive topics that people wont discuss that need to be discussed.

[@hedgetwentyfour2708]

While I agree I the whole, I do think the definition of censorship in this video is slightly problematic. If a newspaper editor removes certain parts from an article simply because it doesn't agree with them, that is using a position of power to promote an opinion or an agenda. This doesn't mean a editor should leave everything in, if there are errors or statements that don't fit the audience it should be edited, but this should also come up in feedback at some point.

[@SMi-tq6rg]

P.C. also means something else in Canada...especially during election season....and it is a dirty word!

[@sweetdeserts]

love this video pls send this to Nicole Arbour

[@TheNotAdam]

+mike asas I really hope she does see this.

[@sweetdeserts]

+TheNotAdam I hate the fact that pc haters are kind of againts inequality