Are We Using Positivity as a Mask?

Real fam, do you think always being positive is just a way to avoid admitting that it’s OK not to be all right?

[@shadezxz]

glad this topic was touched on. being an introvert, it’s a mental reflex to keep my answers short cause i feel like people don’t listen so i act like everything’s all good and deal with the situation on my own.

[@as19J01]

I relate so much! I say i'm fine to avoid going into detail as to why I'm not okay, because most people don't know how to just listen but instead give their unnecessary opinions

[@ndeka4536]

That is soo me. Oh my God.. Sooo me

[@Doreenabbanja]

OMG this is really me

[@seeyouagain911]

I thought I was the only one.

[@yaalouise]

This is meeeee 👌🏾

[@chrison1604]

This makes me miss them sooo much. Their dynamic ✨✨

[@nubian5485]

SAli amanda quit the real so it’s gonna be this dynamic again

[@irakaye]

Likewiseeee....!!!!

[@jemimajanvier4706]

I love what Adrienne said 🙌🏾 But I’ve recently discovered that it’s good to not put on a facade of positivity, it’s good to break and to fall into God’s hands.

[@Feraanmii]

Yess ma !

[@Vanessa-ev6qe]

It's ok not to be ok

[@octavia8942]

❤️

[@clarissambera1899]

period

[@SSBMA1994]

"Theres just some people who use being real as an excuse for being rude~" ❤ 👏🏼F👏🏼A👏🏼C👏🏼👏🏼T👏🏼S👏🏼 And I cant stand it either. Being rude is not being real. Being real is when you can admit to you own flaws and take accountability instead of highlighting the faults in other. Some people are just 🙄

[@sammierose1150]

Tbh the American façade of always responding with “I’m doing great” or “I’m fine” always disturbed me, because it’s like, if you’re used to hearing I’m fine all the time - what happens when you ask someone how they’re doing and they’re not doing well? It becomes awkward, revealing the ugly truth that you didn’t really care how they were doing in the first place 😔 *🎶 It’s ok not to be ok 🎶 - Mabel 💕*

[@NellieKAdaba]

Yes, but I don't want everyone to know that I'm not OK.

[@SandraBanse]

I'm from europe and when i first came to the US on a holiday trip i noticed that people (especially the people from the hotel etc) were overly nice and bubbly, like it felt kinda fake. My mom and i constantly joked that 1 time we should say we're doing terrible to see their reaction. it came across as if their response to us saying we're great was like a reflex, always immediately awwhh that's lovely 😃😃😃😃😃😃😃😃. i'm the kinda person where you shouldn't ask me if you don't wanna deal with the honest answer. sometimes i'm not okay. not that i wanna talk about it with strangers, but you should be able to respond in a normal way to me saying i've been feeling better. it's nothing weird, we all feel bad at times. so why are we so scared to honestly say how we're feeling? psa: obviously not everyone is the same in a country. i was only in a hotel, a few restaurants and a lot of amusement parks lol. Don't mean it in a negative way 💖

[@houstonej105]

Honestly I stopped asking people how they’re doing if I’m not able to have a conversation with them and listen to their answer. I stopped answering when people ask me that question and a majority of the time no one notices.

[@Tan87ful]

Agreed

[@leswestla6528]

Exactly.. i work in fast food mostly in drive thru (chick fil a) and I hate the "hows your day been?" Unless im going to actually have an actual conversation with you. I hate the teeny tiny small talk. I usually ask questions based on what i see.

[@markb0n]

I think it is healthy to be able to accept the reality of our situation, whether positive or negative, with a sound optimistic mindset that we will surpass whatever it is that we are going through. Much love from the Philippines!!! 💙💙💙 i always watch ur episodes on YT. I always wanted to participate as one of ur live audience though. 😃

[@femalerobbery6822]

like when ppl use their zodiac sign as an excuse for being rude

[@sharonkarabomongale6250]

Andriene you better preach....I loved everything you said.

[@janabel23]

Absolutely loved this conversation - hits on so many levels especially relating how we interact with ourselves and each other AND our individual relationship with faith

[@cooolness3]

Wow! I love what Adrienne said. I am not a religious person and I always wondered how people could believe so wholeheartedly in religions. But what she said touched me and it makes sense to me.

[@nastashia6186]

It’s obvious Adrienne don’t have a real relationship with God as a Christian. He proves to his children how real he is . He’s a living God . If we truly seek him fully. He’ll reveal himself to you. He’s full of love and actual speaks to u . He’s coming again and this time to judge his people

[@Shiann444]

Love conversations like these 😍 miss them at the table so much 😩

[@ambermoodie5315]

you beautiful btw ❤️

[@jmdoromal1288]

I've been dealing with the serious mental issues with myself for many years and I feel doubtful when I ever go to the church Im glad Adrienne tackles about that issue I guess I'm not different

[@jmdoromal1288]

@jinminkook thanks Bless you have a good day 😊

[@alicia8643]

Jeannie always makes such good points.

[@BATOOLESK]

when tamerah talked about real vs rude , i couldnt help but think of amanda

[@danielasoyos-garces9260]

Gurllllll Same..

[@seeyouagain911]

Amanda is not rude. Whoever thinks she is can't handle the truth or woman with strong opinion.

[@Smallie__]

Sis.. I'm in the comment session after that part.. Yes.. I peeped. That 👀☕

[@BATOOLESK]

@@seeyouagain911 thats ur opinion and i respect it , to me not necessarily its not her opinions that are rude its her eye rolling and dismissing others opinions .

[@8luvbug]

I was thinking about Tamar

[@aceee9813]

I know some people mad as hell at what Adrianne said but she told the truth that goes through a lot of people of Faith's minds. Heck it went through mines and I'm an agnostic now which means I dont know what god is real but I still believe in a higher power just dont believe in a certain religious god no more. Dont judge me lol😂

[@BA-rm1mi]

Me too! I have certainly questioned all these religions and how many people may have lied about them. The original people who lied are dead and we have no one to verify it. I have questioned Christianity and feel agnostic now.

[@BA-rm1mi]

Me too! I have certainly questioned all these religions and how many people may have lied about them. The original people who lied are dead and we have no one to verify it. I have questioned Christianity and feel agnostic now.

[@donnadixon1838]

No judgement, there is only one God. A God who loves you enough to suffer and die a human death to save your soul and mine. You will know and understand in the midst of the most awful challenge of your life, when you realize you have absolutely NO control. I'm speaking from experience, not blind belief. God bless You.

[@seeyouagain911]

It's been 10 years since I stopped believing in the religion nonsense.

[@annahbelle9019]

I am a Christian, but I do agree that it’s actually refreshing for her to admit that because that is a thought that goes through so many people’s minds.. and to me, I feel like if you’ve never taken the time to actually question it.. then you don’t actually BELIEVE.. you were just socialized into it.. does that make sense? I think you need to question what you believe and why you believe it, and I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing.

[@jvin8098]

@Tamera I always say there’s a difference from being “Real” being “Rude” & being “Real Rude” The difference to me is Real: Being honest Rude: Just being mean/inappropriate Real Rude: Being honest in a harsh way/ throwing a little shade in with the truth

[@GoodOlAllisonHarvard]

These four vibin’ here, UGH! 🙌🏾👌🏾🔥✨✨

[@cbreporter3]

Great explanation Tamera! Well said 👏

[@_KINGACH_]

3:21 I don't know why buth that seemed to me like a shot at Tamar 😂🤣

[@RaffyCasino]

There is this culture of toxic positivity where the situation/feeling is devalued in order to project optimism instead of fully understanding it. Like someone is in a worse situation than you do so shake it off and be okay🙄

[@yvettelocadia6656]

When you look at the creation you know there was and is a intelligent mind behind all this. An unbelievable power that humans cant understand.

[@stanbalo]

Amen!

[@J3juanna]

This reminds me of Janet Jackson's character in Why Did I Get Married? ... she felt like everything would be okay and never dealt with her loss until everything built up.

[@BeautifulDelights951]

Omg I remember seeing a trailer of her in that scene. Still want to watch that movie.

[@simonnader8173]

Omg the first 20 seconds are hilarious😂I instantly knew this was gonna be a great video (and it's almost 7 minutes!!)

[@tomionabanjo9919]

I’ve never agreed with something so much. I can stand and say that I’ve lived a life of hope and faith if someone was to ever doubt me

[@MajesticMyronn]

Ok so...I think with that...there’s nothing wrong with focusing on a negative aspect of something and choosing to accept that it’s not a bad thing to look at a “ unfortunate event “ because instead of seeing it as this terrible thing to ignore... it’s ok to accept something that happens in ur life and think that it’s meant for your better good!

[@magpiecake1067]

Couldn't put it any better I gotta say. In our insane culture we are very ashamed of feeling pain. Brushing things under a rug isn't very helpful.

[@gem100]

At the end of the day... we just tryin

[@alejandratolentino3513]

Yes definitely a problem! To me it means you want to avoid opening up & analyzing that you’re not okay because you can’t deal with your emotions. Instead you always say you’re fine to float over it. Not dealing with your emotions can be unhealthy, I’ve seen people explode 😦😱

[@tamerilee]

They allll preached on this, especially Tam how she explained how it’s not that positivity is fake but it’s just the other perspective 👏🏾

[@photosbydal4369]

4.45 😂😂😂 that mmmmm together haha

[@MasonPerry7]

Should keep things real, tho be logical, like it’s good to be positive and maybe it will help inspire people to do things and get things done successfully. But at the same time acknowledged the difficult obstacles. I try to stay in the “everything is fine/It is, what it is.” In my career I should say. And I saw a meme where people who are like this, have hearts of Stone. And I agree. Like I know everything is not fine but I say it’s fine.

[@stanbalo]

Amen!!! Love what Adrienne said. Praise Jesus! To me this is the essence of this show. Talking about daily stuff we all deal with..and not about the race issue that someone is so obsessed about

[@Drehgab]

Jeannie Mai is a real one

[@ohsnap7879]

Allowing the acknowledgment and reflection of all the negatives in your life and who you have become is only good and helps elevate you as a better human. Those who pretend that living with a optimistic lens all the time are usually empty for the soul as in you cant be the real you around them because they rather hear only good things.

[@cozy_bella_me]

I don’t think it’s fake. Why give false hope when we don’t know why we live to die. Having faith has really helped me when I can’t help myself. Miracles, things just flowing..people don’t understand that faith that surpasses all understanding! It makes a difference when you have it. Sometimes I do loose hope in self and humanity but I always bounce back..

[@nastashia6186]

It’s obvious Adrienne don’t have a real relationship with God as a Christian. He proves to his children how real he is . He’s a living God . If we truly seek him fully. He’ll reveal himself to you. He’s full of love and actual speaks to u . He’s coming again and this time to judge his people

[@shashavengesayi6055]

I loved Amanda on the show, but there's just something about the show being just the 4 of them that feels nice.

[@xXxmissemmaxXx]

Jeanie is mostly the only one who answers the actual question in all of these videos.

[@indigobeauty1]

It depends who's asking. I just try my best not to say good, it becomes too routine.

[@rebeccar6263]

I love this show and i cant believe this is the first time im seeing this clip But Going off on what Adrienne said ive thought about that before, but i learned I’d rather live my life in Jesus and find out it was a lie than live without Him and finding out that He was real

[@randoomly39484]

"When you name it you team it". -Jeannie-

[@Bluecape5]

Loni forgetting Munchkin's government name 😂 👌🏻 I remember in this video kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4bCapKEe9xgfrs (@1:22 for full context) Loni looked towards Adrienne's direction and had a brief pause lol Maybe one of the crew members, or maybe not, but anyway I love it 😂😂😂

[@victoriamciver9900]

I Love Loni's top!

[@Jesse-rj5et]

It’s so cute

[@idc528]

I loveeeeeeee Tamera and Loni’s relationship lmaoo 🤣

[@korrabel]

Yes, Jeannie! Thank you

[@maliksomers19]

Tamera is ME 👏🏾💁🏾‍♀️

[@noodleislife4572]

3:23 Well said Tamera!

[@samsungsaul978]

A couple days to get over the break up?? I eat the ice cream for months

[@rethamaphanga774]

I can differentiate between being hungry or being angry. I only ever get to know after having a meal what the source of the intsense feelings was😂😂😂

[@AndresLopezZarate]

Maybe this is why im always not very stressed or worried cause I know when Im fucked 😂and I talk to myself about me. I legit talk to myself saying "you'll be okay" I always let out my emotions, when Im sad specially. Like I tell people randomly , you know I dont feel like myself today & they never understand, but I know me & i know when somethings off

[@BluntSpeaker]

Tamera’s so smart. 🥰

[@Resu23567]

I agree with Jennie

[@SSBMA1994]

I love these ladies 🥰

[@purisuu]

adrienne looks so good!! seems like she lost some body fat % and gained some muscles! Good on her!!!

[@avafreeman336]

For some reason, as much as I love Tam, Jeannie and Loni, I will never see this show as the same again

[@irishquilos2759]

Wdym?

[@totallyque]

Me too

[@CharlesJrAverys-c8z]

You mossie ass people kappa con always playing mind games player con in arties😮😂!❤

[@BeautifulDelights951]

OK, so when someone asks me 'how are you doing?' my real answer 'I'm so tired' (after a busy days work and the first trimester of being pregnant, this person knows this.) Their response 'Everyone gets tired, you're not the only one.' Next time I'm not feeling well, got a cold and feeling overwhelmed, same person 'how are you?' me 'I'm not well, I've got a cold' I burst out crying, them 'oh no, it's got to be something else, not just a cold your hiding something'..... Like no matter how polite and real I am this person down plays my feel feelings and emotions. So next time they asked me how I am I got defensive and said 'please don't stress me out, I don't want to talk' they literally came after me acting innocent and provoking me further. Point being even when you are being polite and not in a good place personally, there comes a point when it's others who are not sincere in their asking 'how are you.' Or did I miss something??

[@dscjmc6513]

Ppl ask how are you to be polite no bc they care. It’s sad but most of the time it’s true

[@JennHayden]

is the audience muted/empty this episode? did hear any response to what loni said at the beginning. you would think the audience would have a reaction.

[@keleighnycole2758]

I neeeed to know where Adrienne’s dress is from!

[@courtneypillay2606]

Adrienne 👏👏👏

[@CharlesJrAverys-c8z]

Forgive me for saying so but bent in price check ok😅

[@MJS.94]

03:15 Amanda 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@saylolcool]

🤣👏

[@toastdude1587]

Ehh, I kind of thought of Tamar when she said that. I love Tamar and I think she may come off rude, but I know that Tamera was talking about someone else.

[@xomcrrockstarxo]

I have that same shirt as Tam in a different color.

[@demibydesign5288]

Loni 6:01 😂

[@erikjj235]

Adrienne always sounds like she's shouting lol. Like calm your voice you got a mic gurl.

[@alexisgeneve2471]

Thank you Adrienne

[@fawnedcan4215]

Finally subscribed again since Amanda left, look it up if you don’t believe me

[@wadiahal-filfil1598]

I love u all girls ❤️

[@VintageGal2]

I love them♡ they are real

[@Malakmystical]

BAAMM BAM BOOM.

[@LKH98]

Maybe when I was a child but when I did my own religious search I knew God and Jesus were real period and that’s why the Bible says those who believe and do the work shall be saved cause this satanic world will try you

[@michaellapulga9224]

looking back on this clip there was defo tention, Tam was talking about Loni. Bet.

[@hadeelbanat3965]

did loni and james break up?

[@nidiraa7462]

In Short, Yes

[@liviennenonord928]

Wednesday, July 8th, 2020. For that question a A question And an answer.... Is there a difference between being: Faithful and true Verses Faithful and truth? Go read, think, then reason! Love! Aaaaaaaa that's a kiss Ms. Luvienne Nonord [It's important to know when to say: 1. I don't read this language 2. I don't know.... 3. I don't understand.... 4. I don't have not only the answer you're looking for I don't have an answer at all, but living in silence until we find the answer is good as common ground Until....

[@seeyouagain911]

I miss Amanda!😢

[@MsTolerance1616]

I ask that too what if it was all a lie. This christian religion? And my answer is the same. It has made me and my life better so it is worth it.

[@SetsoAmantle]

Tamera, you talkin bou Tamar? 💀

[@tibuCooks]

Wow Adrienne

[@jonnydavis6066]

yup😂😂😂

[@aymanalisuleiman3306]

i would love if you guys could use your platform to talk about george ffloyd

[@Jesse-rj5et]

His lengthy violent criminal record?

[@Jesse-rj5et]

About his violent past yes.

[@bambilove1897]

YES

[@starbright247]

yes

[@JohnDoe-wr3qg]

Yeah We iz whuympd

[@Ayeshazaheer444]

Adrienne looks so hot 😍

[@CharlesJrAverys-c8z]

Ooh tired soul tired I'm tired and frustrated comedy 😢

[@malva6176]

Wait there not wearing masks?

[@jackieagard537]

Adrienne is never convincing when she's talking and then she just juck the Lord's name in there, she always sound guilty, like she knows she is calling the Lord's name in vain .

[@karmartinez5996]

mmmmmmm

[@ProjectOcean259]

So basically you choose to see situations in a positive standpoint to cope for yourself while some of us have to deal with god chose this blah blah crap.

[@jeupshaw]

It is a lie.

[@adityabrahmachari6466]

And I hate people who think like tamera .I love the glass being half empty.