Are You A Liar In Your Marriage?

[@antoinitaviolette4067]

I really enjoy the "simplicity of the Gospel," that you share, and even of your own lives.

[@karencallahan3332]

I shamefully have been doing this and taught to lie about things to protect myself or others as a child due to abuse we had to hide so I struggle with lying this message made me cry and think of my shameful ways I want to take off that old person and do away with it so I’m going to start by asking Yahweh to forgive me and to help me walk in truth as I do want to make my Heavenly Father happy please keep these messages they are so helpful to us to make us realize our need to rid ourselves of our old self Scripture I must say is key in doing this reading of gods word and listening to messages that pin point areas that we need to focus on Thank you

[@aleechaadams2691]

My husband is....and he didn't think he is. That's why I don't TRUST HIM AT ALL.

[@mirrembecolour4768]

Help....my husband keeps lying. I've got to the point when I just don't know what is truth with him anymore and I don't know who he is.....

[@143CHANTAL]

Mirrembe colour I know the feeling. 😔

[@aileenkrauchi6553]

Same I just found out my husband has been lying to me for 11 years. I want to divorce him so badly.

[@keishadvm]

aileen krauchi lying about what? Are you divorced now?

[@efehr5919]

I feel like I've learned more n gotten a better understanding of a godly marriage from u guys than I ever got from church marriage classes. U have a gift for explaining things in a way that actually makes me finally understand the why which instantly turns a switch (I'm the kind of person who needs to know the why in order to want to change lol. Wrong I know...😔) I pray all the time to be a better wife n person regardless of whether or not I feel like I shud towards certain ppl and situations.. this seems like the answer to my prayers 🙌 giving me the strength n willpower to try harder

[@rhondaprice4805]

I have all of your books❤️

[@aleechaadams2691]

Yes.....everything you're saying is so TRUE. This is a problem in my marriage.

[@Sathiera]

Hey there, I am currently 14 minutes into the video...loving it by the way...and I had a conflict in my heart about what you just said. You are talking about answers to people who ask how you are and genuinely wanting to know the answer. I wish I could tell you this is really important in my church. Unfortunately, no matter how genuine a “friend” at church seems, they really just want me to lie. Isn’t that totally and completely sad?? I am not one to lie about how I am feeling. If someone asks, I’m honest. Being honest and open is how you become family. I don’t understand the people at my church. 😞

[@karencallahan3332]

Lauren Lange that’s what I’ve experienced especially those who serve they want to be looked upon as all together family or person so they hide or keep the truth to themselves lying to others this happens in my inlaws family they feel it’s none of anyone’s business and don’t want to look upon badly

[@ChristinSlade]

What about when your spouse asks you if something is wrong, and you say "No" because you don't want to get into it all, you know? I think that happens a lot--I know it does for me. :( I commend you both for sharing honestly about your lying! LOL I know that sounds strange, but it's so easy to do and eventually, those "little lies" can turn into big things later...because we can become comfortable with those little lies which then makes it easier to move to "big" lies. Such an important topic!!

[@MarriageAfterGod]

Hey Christin, Thank you for your honest question. We have dealt with this very thing before as well. We desire to be Godly men and women and lying, at any level, has no place in the body of Christ. If you aren't ready to talk about something or do not have the energy then tell your husband that. Saying nothing is wrong when there is something wrong is lying and it doesn't allow you spouse the knowledge they need to walk with you in an understanding way. Remember what Proverbs 26:28 tells us "A lying tongue hates its victims, and a flattering mouth works ruin." not trying to be harsh just trying to cleary answer your question, espessially because I know others will have this same question :)

[@rebeccadvnprt85]

I think the best thing to do is to say that you are not in the right place in your attitude to talk about it and that you need to pray about what you’re going through and and ask Gods help before you talk to your spouse.

[@trishawhitehouse4226]

This is a fabulous topic! What I find is that in the humility of repentance, the other person can self- reflect. As in the tooth brushing discussion, it is possible that there was some , “shaming tone” in the accusations about the children’s lack of “serious” brushing, even if that wasn’t the intention. By coming up with some defense, the whole issue of the, “ feeling of being attacked” gets side-tracked. I think that receiving feedback that is negative is very hard and is related to this. It is on the burden on both, as the liar can reflect on why they were tempted to lie, and on the other person, who is responsible for how they are coming across. By repenting for lying, you can also use this to deepen your relationship by being truthful about how you filtered what was being said and how it was delivered. It’s tone and inflection and body language we hear much louder than actual words used. Instead of lying and being defensive, I think it’s helpful to say, “ I can see the kids do need more help in brushing technique, I feel you are blaming me right now because you are frustrated. “ As you said, you were in a rush, and trying to get out the door. Clearly, this wasn’t about the need to have better training techniques, because you could have easily, noticed it, and brought it up later, which leads to topic timing discussion. Later on, in a calm moment, you could have said, “Honey, you do such great things with the kids. I love what a great mom you are. I appreciate you so much! I wanted to tell you I noticed the kids brushing their teeth this morning, and I think they need some more help in making sure they get all their teeth. Maybe we could buy some of those color tabs that show where they miss, and that might think it’s fun. What do you think?” No one feels attacked, and it’s a discussion to problem solve. Often , I find repentance in relationships is loaded with wonderful treasure on both sides. Rarely is it one -sided. We don’t always know how the other person is filtering our message to them, and sometimes, without realizing it, we trigger something in them, say from childhood, that God is using that situation to help heal, and correct. Great work, both of you! This one is not as easy or simple as black and white. It really is, as our entire walk on planet earth, dependent on walking moment by moment with the Holy Spirit to be our Helper and Counselor.

[@w3n33dam1racl3]

Yep Ive been a liar all my adulthood. I learned being open and honest was dangerous and forbidden in childhood. When Im honest about myself its a weird feeling like Im afraid but I feel free.

[@lydiawisan9404]

Love it! great message! I would just like to suggest that it would be helpful I think to look directly in the camera more than at each other because it makes it feel more personal for me as the viewer and helps me receive the message more. Just my opinion. You guys are awesome!!

[@bettystroh6504]

She lied / exaggerated about the teeth brushing because he shamed her most tender place. Her motherhood.

[@bridgetlopez7406]

Thank you for your videos

[@cassiearrowood1471]

i feel like a liar in my marriage i feel so sad and so unhappy

[@SalLy-dt7vx]

Same here😥

[@carolinar3638]

Love you guyz. I admire your relationship. ❤❤❤❤❤💖💖💖💖

[@knollycooper2387]

Never

[@EvAuger]

Good word.... but you also gotta talk about where lairs go. Speak more truth about hell.

[@aileenkrauchi6553]

I would like to address the husband in this video. You snapping at your wife and asking her if she had taught the kids to brush their TEETH, was demeaning and actually disrespectful and belittling her. You could of told her that you notice the kids were struggling with brushing their teeth and you want to help sort it out. You backed her into a corner and it was out of anger. and you need to notice that what you said was an assumption out of frustration. She could of been struggling brushing their teeth, but you have impressed on her that she failed in that area. She may need your help. That is the definition of team work in a marriage.

[@31StatusNailsandBeauty]

Sound like Jacob. He was a master of deceit. He had to get outdone by another deceiver and deal with God to finally be a man of Integrity

[@christabelokonta4868]

I don't think wives should feel guilty for their kids not been able to do stuff when it comes to things like brushing teeth. The bible says train your child in the WAY they should go so that when they grow they will not depart from it. The training involves both parents in everything so husband instead of getting frustrated you should rather say we have a problem and see that as an opportunity to teach your kids how to brush their teeth instead of sounding like it is only your wife's responsibility. If you don't know how learn , so your wife doesn't carry the burden alone. I understand that there are duties for both husband and wife but gone were the days women were stay home Mom. Now more mother's are working and so both husband and wife has to learn each others duties so they can help each other. So that in case one parent is not around for whatever reason the children will not be lacking. Otherwise good topic on LIARING

[@kar3n35]

Lting is a habbit and telling the truth is a habbit not only in marriege but also in every aspect of live. I make it a habbit of just being honest no matter the consequences. Because if u tel the truth the result might be difficult but is better dant having to make 10 more lies to cover i lie. Also lying is a sin. And the bible describes the devil being a lyer. So lying is a big sin. Is also the nine comandment is a really big deal.

[@31StatusNailsandBeauty]

How long have yall been married?

[@cassiearrowood1471]

yes i am liar

[@erickajen]

oh Jennifer, can i "subscribe" to your maternity clothes?! they are all so classy and i have NOTHING like that. im basically living in crappy tshirts and some hand me down maternity basics... :( :P