How to Tell if Someone is a Pathological Liar?

How to tell if someone is a pathological liar? Watch this video for all the signs and tells!
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There are nine types of lies:
1. Utilitarian: a lie that is intended to accomplish something, a lie that is goal-oriented, a lie whose structure and content are planned to promote or inspire changes conducive to the furtherance of the liar’s aims and aspirations;
2. Smokescreen: a lie whose purpose is to obscure, conceal, or remove true information and thus mislead others (common in espionage or military operations) or to avoid facing a humiliating or shameful truth;
3. Compassionate: a lie that is geared towards sparing other people’s feelings, catering to their sensitivities and vulnerabilities, and allowing them to save face and avoid shame and embarrassment. Most white lies are compassionate and empathic;
4. Ceremonial: lies and dissimulations whose function is to establish a pecking order by demonstrating reverence and glossing over facts and behaviors that inconveniently contravene the accepted hierarchy. Manners and etiquette are highly-elaborate forms of ceremonial lying;
5. Compensatory: lies that are used to disguise the oft-humiliating fact that we do not know the truth or can’t remember it. Lies of this type amount to fiction, but with most of the interlocutors being unaware of it;
6. Confabulatory: intricate lies that weave a fabric of alternate reality which is frequently an exaggerated form of the liar’s traits, conduct, and personal history (though it can, of course, be completely unrelated to anything real in the confabulator’s life);
7. Inferential: fallacious conclusions or extrapolations based on true assumptions or statements. Most logical fallacies are inferential lies;
8. Hybrid: lies that contain markers of an occult truth or pathways to true information, allowing its recipients to “read between the lines”. Hybrid lies are common in authoritarian and totalitarian regimes;
9. Fantastic: wishes and dreams dressed up as facts.
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[@Veeisforvictory]

The worst and most dangerous liar is the one who lies when there is no need to lie. It is a symptom of someone who fabricates their reality instead of living in actual reality.

[@yanamicheala3800]

This!! And the ones that believe their own lies 🙌🖤

[@buncey2536]

It is repetition, which is why they believe it themselves.

[@thelaziestbee]

Fabricated reality is just more alluring.

[@dave86407]

Peter Pan merciful narcissistic who has little other personality disorder who is a smart strategic thinker very clever who can look you straight in the eyes ans lie for at least three years before making cover-up mistakes. I live with this everyday. DO NOT SPEAK TO THEM. Be polite but you cannot have a relationship with them. The key to maintaining a living in condition with them is accepting without criticism who they are. It's not personal if you see through it all and can differentiate. God forgive them for they know exactly what they do to others but not to themselves.

[@DivaDivine88]

Psychopathic schizoid behavior

[@mamitalinda3915]

A person who lies to you is stealing your trust.

[@rosemaggie4745]

💯👌

[@Chris-tg3qy]

Growing up I lied because I had one parent place extremely impossible demands on me as a child. To get out of listening to his 3 hour tirade, I would lie about having a homework assignment. To have a few moments of social time with friends, I would lie about going to their house to study because doing normal kid things like attending a football game or movie with a friend was almost always met with resistance and a firm no. Sometimes lying is a survival mechanism. Unfortunately, lying became very easy for me to do. After getting away from my abusive parent, i have come to value honesty above almost anything else. I don’t lie anymore, but I maintain firm boundaries with anyone that seems to want to control something about me and I remind myself I don’t have to explain anything to most people. If you want your children to be honest with you try to be reasonable and not overly critical. Let them be who they are and embrace that with them.

[@k91985]

If a child has to lie to get by, say at boarding school, it could open up and prioritize all those particular pathways in the brain as it is still developing

[@graceg3250]

Another way to keep your child from lying is by not asking them if they have/haven’t done something. Instead, point out evidence that you see and ask them for clarification. For example, I see your toothbrush is dry…

[@mrsqueakthecat.8061]

I grew up in a similar situation. Lying was all my parents did (I didn't know what narcissism was back then) so I did it too as a way to counter the nonsensical stuff they would come up with. I knew it was wrong but when telling the truth all it did was make them come down harder on me for more made-up stuff that was not real. Lesser of two evils sort of survival tactic in a way.

[@undepressing]

this is so real.

[@jellybean6778]

Good advice.

[@ljmotivate4u680]

If a person finds that lying is more rewarded than the truth they will use that to get their needs.

[@berzerkfury1459]

By lying to themselves about the outcomes.

[@lucylawrence6268]

A lot of people found lying more rewarding than the truth telling, and still they don`t use that to get what they need. What you described as `a person` is a severely disordered person.

[@paperjawa]

Maladaptive behavior

[@Gemmarose9012]

Only a toxic person.

[@classycatsden5017]

This is so true. It’s funny how they validate the lies by telling the truth shortly after the lies. It’s as if it redeems them. I pay very close attention to details, eye contact and body language, not to mention that I am a highly sensitive empath. I have the ability to somehow get the truth out of a lot of people eventually by simply not judging them. If they feel like you won’t judge them or like you mentioned, lying to benefit their needs, they feel no reason to lie. I have also noticed of course that most narcissists are the biggest liars ever. They lie so much I think they manage to interweave the lies so intricately with the truth, they begin to believe their own little fibs. Oh and yes this is a very compulsive tendency.

[@shinonkim4814]

I’ve had two pathological liars as friends in my early life. The thing that doesn’t make sense is they lie about everything, even things that they don’t seemingly need to lie about.

[@Hiddenplace414]

Pathological liars are literal nightmare

[@TheBigdog868]

The differentiation of a social liar and a pathological liar is the harm they cause. For me, it doesn't matter if some guy at a cocktail party lies about the size of the fish he caught on vacation. Whatever makes you feel better, man. But then, there are those who use lies as venom to poison their subjects into submission. Those are the harmful ones, friend. Woe unto you who fall under their spell.

[@jengable4888]

It is almost impossible to have a genuine relationship with a pathological liar. It comes to the point, with certain individuals, that you come to expect them to lie, and it is not shocking any more, which is sad.

[@LibbySlaughter101]

You cannot have ANY relationship with a pathological liar. Everything they say is a lie so why would you want to even have a conversation with them? You're wasting your breath. Once I understood the person I was with lied constantly I terminated the relationship. There WAS no relationship bc it was all based on lies. Just a waste of time.

[@carlacrystal955]

Give me the ugly truth any day over a beautiful lie 😑

[@lisasykes624]

Then you know where to start the work😊

[@traxikscifi8105]

Good evening, We are told as children, that it's ugly to lie and later we realise or not that our parents are the biggest liars.

[@barrywhite1770]

Only if you are unlucky.

[@traxikscifi8105]

@@barrywhite1770 Well! They would have to know everything there is to be known and still risking missing some of the unknow, to be able to tell the "truth".

[@startingbrandnew3055]

Yup! As a child my narc mother always said she can only forgive me if i tell the truth and never lie. In the meantime she had tons of secrets she made me promise never to tell anyone. I didn't realise it as a child how contradictive these two things were until i found out that she was a pathological liar herself. Plus people who are honest have no secrets but she had tons of them. I found myself in many very uncomfortable situation when i had to keep her secrets but i couldn't lie or tell the truth either... 😒

[@traxikscifi8105]

@@startingbrandnew3055 I Totaly understand and its totaly sad... Nowadays i can see them as unconscient beings, like a Cat or a Dog, that react to the current situation with no selfreflexion, that is why i don't hate them, but avoid them... hope you are ok and on the freedom path. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@startingbrandnew3055]

@@traxikscifi8105 Yes, i left a lot of these narcs behind and i am on a healing journey. Thanks for your kind wishes. I wish you to have a free and peaceful life too! 😃

[@kristiansnipen645]

Lying is a hard drug.

[@goddessroot4501]

Yes indeed just say No OOO!!!!

[@lisasykes624]

😳🤯🙈

[@clairecalitz]

If someone lies to me once I never believe anything they say again. Also I don't consider them a friend anymore. If it's necessary to spend time with them I limit it down to the minimum. I don't mind having few to no friend's. I choose real relationships and am willing to be alone if there aren't any available.

[@M4K9G22]

Wouldn't that mean you have borderline tendencies?

[@levinitabarlow9569]

💯

[@jeanniejeannie7258]

Claire, i feel the same as you, and i no longer waver or give 2nd chances, but, i smell narcs replying to your comment, they gaslight to make us second guess what we say, lol, i can spot em a mile away

[@clairecalitz]

@@jeanniejeannie7258 yes I can smell them too and boy does it stink🤣 nothing stinks as bad as a narcissist. Have a beautiful life my friend and we know how that infuriates them. ❤️💮🌼

[@arthurbalcita4851]

Better be alone than in the company of LIARS!!!!!! By Amelia

[@a.c.1877]

I’m honest to a fault, which is probably why I get along best with toddlers and dogs. In all seriousness I suspect I might be slightly neurodivergent with honesty being the main criterion of that suspicion

[@JohnWayne-86ed]

How do I know you're not lying about not lying?🤔 My ex wife (a vulnerable narcissist) would say "I'm honest to a fault, I never lie"... which was a massive lie😂... almost ever word she spoke was dishonesty.

[@dropbearjd8986]

I'm feeling ya man. Dogs and children lol The world hasn't broken children yet... dogs are just man's best friend, end of. The sheep are exhausting lol

[@dropbearjd8986]

Neurodivergent? Mannnn... why label yourself? 😅 Maybe you're just a good person? They do exist you know, despite the programming the media shoves down our throats. Honesty is normal. The liars are the ones whom are different.... they're multiplying at an exponentially faster rate than the truth tellers. That doesn't make them the norm. That makes them the cancer. The corruption. The rot. THEY are a bug... WE are a feature 🙌 🙏

[@KB-ih5gf]

I can’t trust a thing that comes out of someone’s mouth once I find out they’ve lied to me. I don’t keep those people in my life, especially the people who lie for no good reason. Other than keeping themselves out of trouble 🤦‍♀️

[@sambhavi16]

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[@PENH5428]

I had a friend say that he lies so much he doesn’t remember the truth and so his lies become the truth . I thought it was a joke- a rip off of something George Costanza said on Seinfeld . But nope . He was dead serious . I saw it play out ( big lies, small lies, lies that ruin peoples lives and f with their reality) and started seeing him as a demon and ended the friendship . He is proud of being able to lie and manipulate people at the drop of a hat .

[@DivaDivine88]

🏃🏽‍♀️💨🚨🚨🚨

[@jellybean6778]

This is so true. I have experienced it in both a romantic relationship and in work relationship, a so-called supervisor. I have escaped both of them. The lying was almost constant, and it didn't even matter what the situation was, they both just lied like they could not control themselves. People who haven't experienced narcs like this in their lives just don't understand.

[@user-oy4vu3ck3u]

My Husband lied so much I felt insane. He kept telling me his family didn't hate me, even though I had never made that accusation. In the end I did, it wore me down so much, but there was distinct times where "My parents said they dont hate you" that really messed with me. He'd also tell me the truth in the middle of arguments to blindside me and throw me off the original argument. His biggest lie was 8 months of therapy and a therapist who never existed. This included fake phone calls if I was home. He said he was a pathological liar and that he lied from anxiety. He also wouldn't lie with a lot of details, so it often sounded like the truth. It's not always too many details.

[@levinitabarlow9569]

That's rule number 1 in lying,if a person has too many details or "overtaking"most of the time it's a lie.

[@user-oy4vu3ck3u]

@@levinitabarlow9569 And I'm saying my ex did the opposite.

[@SDsearcher]

My boss lies so much that he lies about things that he doesn’t even need to lie about. He lies to cover his lies, and then he cannot remember all of his lies, so he lies some more. He lies right to my face without blinking an eye. Sometimes, if I already know the truth about something, I will test him to see if he will tell me the truth. Most of the time he will lie to me, and if I call him out on the lie, then he will lie again to try to confuse me. Or he will launch into some exaggerated fantastical story to distract me. I’m exhausted by him.

[@ShanaGarrett]

I worked for a guy that seemed to purposely misunderstand people when whatever they were saying was inconvenient or to use against someone later. For instance if I said, "Our staff will need training before attempting this task," he would report this to our upper management as " Shana said she is not going to do this task." Of course, I would get chewed out and when I explained what I ACTUALLY said, upper management would tell me that I wasn't communicating effectively if I have to explain what I meant. I wouldnt have to explain if he weren't misrepresenting me! Over the course of about 3 months, I asked innocuous questions like "Where is a particular file saved?" or "Will we test multiple lots or only one?" and the questions were answered. Nothing seemed amiss. Then, suddenly, I hauled into HR to be written up for "Not knowing important info about our work." I asked how am I supposed to know these things without asking? He said, "You just have to know." This dude was a piece of work. I really wanted to like him, but he was just an illogical, liar who screwed up frequently and blamed it on the people beneath him.

[@catlorecj424]

I have been destroyed too many times by false witness liars to even respect any form of lying. However, I can forgive anyone for telling 'a little white lie' to protect someone's feelings. I'd still rather hear the truth. If I ask a friend how my hair looks, and she says, "Oh it's fine!" and it looks more like a witches mop... I could go out and make a complete fool of myself, right? 😂 In all seriousness though, some lie simply tear a person down. I've had art classes in college, and the instructor would compliment them no matter what. He came to my graphic which I was not happy with, and I requested the truth. He said, "Are you sure? Can you handle the criticism?" I said, "As long as it's constructive criticism, I want to hear what will make my artwork better." He smiled and told me the truth. It's not always easy to hear the truth, but sometimes it will make us better.

[@spashia7028]

When you surrender to the truth you align with reality and why wouldn't you want that? I have a deepened understanding of the phrase "the truth will set you free" after watching somebody's web of lies fall apart. All the lies put you into a corner and you can't get out. It's imprisoning. You are constantly on the run from the truth. If you are wise enough to speak truthfully you are not afraid of being exposed. However, yes, at some points lies are ok, but generally you shouldn't lie.

[@jengable4888]

I agree, as long as it is presented in the correct professional manner.

[@jengable4888]

@@enraged1584 the truth is the truth no matter what the race, creed, culture, or lifestyle is...

[@jengable4888]

@@donnawaters4700 yes !! But then again....why would someone HAVE to lie ? Right ?

[@catlorecj424]

@@jengable4888 Perhaps to preserve their life. Was done during WWII when the Nazis came knocking at the door looking for a loved one, so what would you do? Protect them, or give them over to a bad & murderous "authority"??

[@rondasparks]

How can someone live with themselves with all of the lies ? I can tell when someone is lying, because it makes no sense!

[@Francisqolito]

'Fake it till you make it' lie

[@sandragalloway3275]

I knew someone who said they liked lying. Never knew when the truth was being told. That you for this video.

[@nickd4310]

I have known several people who were compulsive liars. Some would brag about wealth, position in society, academic degrees, the high awards (such as a VC or Congressional Medal of Honour) or heroism, while others would tell stories about other people, both positive and negative. If you want to meet these people, stay in a rooming house or hang out at a bar. What I noticed was that although they never had long term friends, they were always the center of attention. People wanted to be around them, they got dates, people lent them small amounts of money. But they never crossed the line into offences that could get them arrested. I think that their lying was behaviour learned in order to cope with childhood. Their phantasy self made them feel better about themselves and helped their popularity around other children.

[@jellybean6778]

Santos

[@uweellinghausen2993]

Thanks a lot for this lesson, it's a great description of my wife who is very familiar with all kinds of lying

[@ThisIsSarcasm]

You're my favourite psychology professor and I don't care who knows it

[@samuelfoston4556]

If they pretend to be martial arts expert pretend to be a psychologist, pretend to have treated people for trauma for years…. When really they are just an ex-cab driver - red flag. All Grannon.

[@Theresa-Lottodo]

People who lie pathalogically have probably learned to use lies either to avoid punishment by a parent, or to pacify them and curry favour. It is a coping mechanism. Trauma ingrains this behaviour.

[@RS-ww8jo]

Sound seems good to me. Thank you for all you do to help us understand so many things. You are truly helping many who really need the help. ❤

[@fionahawkes1758]

Hi Professor Vaknin... Much respect for you & appreciate you sharing your knowledge with us 👍 You have helped me a lot regarding all the info you have given & continue to give on narcissism especially... Thankyou 😊

[@JusticeForSome]

My ex-wife would lie for no reason at all. It was like a game to her and if you couldn’t detect her lie then she felt you deserved to be lied to…🤔

[@lisasykes624]

😳🤯🙈

[@CallMeNevermore]

Nuts. Absolutely nuts.

[@swordoftruth8031]

Sam... you are much loved and appreciated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! big hug!

[@Nidhi_Maheshwari]

Wohaa! On point lecture Dr. Vaknin. 🙆🌄

[@Dae-Dae3000]

The audio is sharper than usual with a mild echo, and the voice is still tolerable. The video quality is clear and no more offensive as usual. Everything seems to check out Doc.

[@samvaknin]

Thank you.

[@animalia9114]

It's even better as with a bit of echoing due to lack of the furniture, prof. Vaknin sounds like a very passionate priest😂

[@mariavaleriagiacaglia8974]

Professor, your videos are always great! Thank you!

[@Dave-bt8pm]

Thank you for this knowledge. I never understood the connection between personality disorders and pathological lying. Very empowering information.

[@raahustaja7267]

There are also movies that challenge in truthful manner. They are rarely made to make money..and seldom made these days. Lies sell well, always have.

[@Kloops]

My ex lied to me about small tiny things when we first got married. Hiding things too. And lied about big things. Lied by omission the most though. That is what he does so often don’t know what he is like if he is not doing that.

[@LauraFlores-ge7qx]

Thank-you professor. I've been so busy but I'm glad to fit in one of your videos. Fantastic video today, I really enjoyed it. Thank thank you again. 😊

[@alissaward2632]

Maybe that’s why I find so much tension (mostly with my close friends and family) and I always thought it was just all of my Aries. I don’t understand why people think they can actually get away with the bs. Not with me, not for long.

[@brianbrian9759]

Good Call

[@alissaward2632]

@@hallmark1 Had a bad experience with an Aries? Your sun sign is actually not the most important placement in your chart. So, that blows your theory. Also, if you research the qualities, tendencies, behaviors, ect. about Aries, you will find that they are known to be brutally honest. However, this is speaking of sun signs and not other placements. Also, it’s a generalization. As for your comment about me, I see that you’re obviously very damaged from something that someone did to you. That person was not me. So, don’t try to take it out on me. We, as a collective, are attempting to become more kind, compassionate, loving and understanding. Speaking like that is going in the opposite direction. Take responsibility for your own pain, talk about it, release it, process it, surrender it. Do whatever you must do in order to heal and grow from your experiences. Be better than the person who hurt you. 💕

[@jenniehallmark-platero2325]

Thank you and sounds great

[@CanisLupusSteparium]

Just wondering, if lying is a universal characteristic of normal social intercourse, is there such thing as a pathological truth teller?

[@samvaknin]

Yes. A misfit. A form of aggression: samvak.tripod.com/journal50.html

[@deborahyoung9437]

Well that can happen to autistic people. They don't necessarily understand when a lie needs to be told in order to be social.

[@HEDGme]

Evidence required. And follow-up questions. And somatic reactions. And protection. And third-parties involved who can help stick to the reality

[@niteal1255]

Think I am going to listen to this several times.

[@martineldritch]

If I were another listening to some of my own true stories I would think, gawd, what a totally bogus person. So I do my best to be honest because the results can be so tragically funny. Plus being honest makes me feel better.

[@conniej9729]

"Some people would rather lie and climb a tree backwards..than stand on the ground and tell the truth...you know where you stand with a murderer, cuz theyll kill you..a thief will steal all you got..but you never know where you stand with a liar"....my Daddy. Unfortunately..I met this person .this kinda liar..(several times now.) Thank you for sharing these informative vids and sharing your wonderful gift of knowledge. 🙏🥰🦋 Thankful I found you during my journey to heal from my devastating realization I had no choice but to face when the mask fell off. Truly and literally "mind blowing" the effort and time put in to destroy the ones you vowed to protect...its been 9 years of aftermath. Healing from it has been traumatic in itself.. Scary "truth" I appreciate being able to listen you...truly. Thank you again.

[@Kat-tr2ig]

My ex is a pathological liar, and it's almost funny because he'll lie about things that are so obviously not true and are very easily proven. The other day our daughter started to go to the therapist for her anxiety issues. He was the one to schedule the appointment and then he resent the message the therapist wrote via WhatsApp to me. I then asked him for her number so I could write her. He flat out said that he doesn't have her number! Like, dude, you literally just sent me a message from her! It's mind boggling.

[@lisasykes624]

,😐😳🤯🙈😂😭

[@dkaur454]

Which symptoms he have?

[@shakirajameel8042]

Sound is great

[@WanAhmadLuqman]

The volume is less than usual, yet the quality is somewhat better

[@peaceofmind1930]

Sound is perfect

[@mrgoodman6620]

I think its a big problem that most people are taught to accept lies at a very crucial time of development. If someone finds what others do acceptable then they are likely to do the same. Examples of the early lies that are accepted are santa Claus, Easter bunny and the tooth fairy, this is dangerous because its a case where believing and promoting the lie is profitable!!

[@deanshort9011]

Audio was great, but the screen kept bouncing. Other than that no other issues. As always great content!

[@Adhara740]

I enjoyed this video

[@Mark-ml3nv]

My (ex) neighbour had ASPD and was a pathological liar and used those skills to create a fantastic story to the Police. Statements that could not possibly be true, but she could not say those in court as she knew the consequences for her. But it still did the damage to me.

[@helinatomeh9571]

Thank you so much prof. Vaknin for your work and informative videos. The sound quality is very good now. Hope you get your other furnitures very soon. I get a little confused, i remember you mentioned on your videos that boarderlines are very manipulative, on the other hand, on another video you mentioned, boarderlines are very easy to manipulate. Could you please explain how someone who’s very manipulative can be also very easy to manipulate? Thank you so much.

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel for "gullible".

[@helinatomeh9571]

Thank you.

[@memecathar1263]

I just don’t believe anything anyone says ever. I get by on context clues, body language, tone of voice, and what history I know of them. It’s not that I think they’re being malicious, it’s that I don’t care what they’re doing (making mouth noises lol) unless it requires some action on my part. I think it’s from truely hating what I call high-jacking my brain, where everything a person says is like a picture in my brain and if they mess up saying something while they have my attention… I feel incredibly angry but I don’t act on it. Not physically anyway.

[@lisasykes624]

Air talk is what I call it....

[@memecathar1263]

@@lisasykes624 I go with Mouth Noises. Yours sounds less insulting…maybe.

[@vnd629]

❤ ty for your help ❤️ Eleni, Athens, Greece

[@sunnysmile4642]

I listen to all of our videos. The last few I have had to turn my volume to the max and the audio is still much lower than your usual.

[@whynottalklikeapirat]

Sign #1: They lie all the time …

[@sotecluxan4221]

Happy Easter!

[@JudyMikeska]

We need to accept that with social & News media we have the emerging view of a self-fashioning lie, then I wish that I were like that lie, fantasy type lie, the lies

[@Ax.DaEdge]

Easy: Listen/Watch for every time they breath. FULLSTOP!!!

[@agniem9698]

I used to work as a mentor with a student who had social Anxiety diagnosis. Towards the end she opened a lot about personal and family life. Everything she said was self-contradictory. I was so exhausted and doubted the story as nothing made sense and yet I wanted to emphatise with her. She is a compulsive liar and everytime excuses herself it's because she is anxious!

[@SuzieQ7779]

I’m getting away from a friend who is a pathological liar. She and her church friends coached her daughter to lie in a job interview. She’s lied about being ill and that she got tested about it. She got a bunch of people sick over it. I’ve been hanging with her for four years one day a week to make art. I originally thought she would be my bestie and sad about that but I’m over it now. Of course I know she’s lied to me too but they are so random I can’t tell what is a lie and what isn’t so I now don’t believe anything she’s ever said. She doesn’t know it yet but she’s banned from my house.

[@justynabecla5748]

Dear Profesor Vaknin! I recently found out that my husband is a covert narcissist. I started my research and got here. I am a little overwhelmed by the amount of knowlegde on your channel. Please, tell me in which order should I watch the videos to make sensesense of it?

[@k91985]

I think there may be a link between really pathological lying and eventual memory problems

[@RyanE49]

The sound is fine

[@Val-mi3nx]

great video but it's on the lower volume side

[@dayc801]

Cell phone propped just so at the breakfast table. Beautiful

[@luvcreate]

Sound is good

[@Princesslatifah]

much better sound

[@nickd4310]

I think compulsive liars can tell fact from fiction. I was speaking to one about a certain island. Realizing I was sceptical of his stories, he said he really had been there, then told me some things that one would only know if one had been there. We got into a discussion where it was quite clear he was telling the truth.

[@EMGoudsmit]

My sibling didn’t start lying until he was in his 60s. When mother had cancer.

[@rsnnrichardsnydersnewsnetw5388]

Time tells all Truths

[@c.1211]

I lie to keep my life private. Thats considered a good lie.😊

[@kelb6073]

These type of people (narcs, liars) tend to avoid me. I think its because i dont care about attention or likeability, so i do nothing for those types of people. Im not easily impressed and they dont care to impress me because they know they arent gonna get anything. Which os absolutely fine lol, i rather have one or two real people in my life than crazies.

[@_FMK]

It should be included in the DSM

[@Marvin-dg8vj]

So why is it not included? If it is so important then there should be extensive literature on it

[@_FMK]

@@Marvin-dg8vj Maybe data collection is hampered by the difficulty of establishing (legally) what has been a lie & what hasn't? Extra expense, etc?

[@kennkenn117]

Bruhhhhhhhh, I was just thinking about some issues with people I find myself connected too. Thinking about how to handle the situation and all of a sudden this video just pops out of nowhere. What are the odds of that.

[@beyou3886]

I hear a slight echo, Dr Vaknin

[@jeanmitchell5834]

What about tactfullness

[@mamas-jeep1984]

Every human has told lies! If someone asks if their jeans make their butt look big and you say NO( BUT they actually do... you're lying to protect them).. We have all done this a time or two. But liars lie just to be lying! I'm seeing quite a bit of this in my realms. Ppl that want to keep you around by lying to prevent you from making diff choices that would not serve them. Another type of liar I hate is adult kids that lie to get all the money in the Will to prevent the others from getting any then when confronted w this behavior.. they begin to paint you as bad to minimize their scam! Another type of liar is Scott Peterson.. lying about killing his wife/ son to recruit new ppl to his worthless cause😂

[@petermad7476]

I know someone from high school who every single time he lies like literally every single time. He went to Cadets like Boy Scout, and since then, he thinks he's in the army. Every post is something like that he really thinks he's a veteran and is funny but kinda sad. I remember trying to confirm if he was always liying, and one time, I told him if he watched the new Cod Mw3 ( the OG ) with zombies, and he immediately said, " Yeah, i already played it" I died

[@WhoDoUthinkUr]

My first clue is ,They almost always say They never lie. Everyone lie’s

[@goddessroot4501]

It's a choice unless life and death

[@veritasprojects8064]

I invested to find the truth and as such have the hard core evidence in hand and she still denies she is loving another man then she is pure wicked evil. Assumptions are one thing but hard core irrefutable visual evidence is a slam dunk against her and her character! Her deceit and deviousness are extremely painful to endure and I did walk away because her bold faced pathological lies when I have all the direct proof render her unworthy of my attention, my energy, my support and my love. She only wanted my money while making plans with the other guy behind my back while plotting and misleading me until I gathered all the real world evidence. So she said it is a bad trait to be insecure to which I replied it’s a bad trait for her to be a major league liar. The one attribute all women possess is their innate ability to look deeply into your eyes and fully intentionally lie/deceive you. Yea I acknowledge We all lie but this pathological liar weaves her course against me to harm me. I had to test the veracity of her stories. Many men are aware of the devious nature of a woman but we tend to blindly believe women’s lies because many men Dont want to face tue truth that the woman we love does not reciprocate love and desire. Men love in a very deep way. Women love only what they can get out of a man. She doesn’t care I’m gone because she wants him anyway so I’m nothing at all to her. She is cold hearted and ungodly.

[@pecentric]

audio is better actually

[@numbynumb]

Are octopuses lying when they transform their shape and color to disappear into their surroundings?

[@ak-47intelligence75]

No. It's a self defense mechanism.

[@dangelamarx80]

Anyone have any good friends that you just realize lie for absolutely no reason .

[@nightflight7878]

I just had to take a road trip with an old friend who has a problem with the truth. At one point, I had to tell him I was not interested in hearing his stories for the whole trip. He wouldn’t stop at first, when I was audibly groaning. I had to be more forceful. After 30 years, I think I’m finally out of patience.

[@elisamartinez8888]

Hi , speaking for myself it would be great with captions please if it’s posible thanks

[@vexedvixen]

Tap the “CC” for the captions.

[@feleciagoldson2834]

Why do people continue, to ignore red flag's? Why consistently, entertain untrustworthy, individual's? One strike, is all that is needed. Why be a doormat, your entire life? 🐂💩🕊

[@KLASSCULTURE]

💯

[@imogenereeve6512]

Will you make a video on obsessional neurosis?

[@samvaknin]

Yes. Soon. stay tuned.

[@MonaLisa-ur1px]

It’s ok

[@JaZmine147]

When you get punished every time you speak the truth, you learn to lie to just have peace of mind. Not everyone deserves my truth. If I don't care about you, I'll tell you I lived in Dubai for 3 years that's why there is a hole in my CV instead of telling you that I was in an unemployed depressed period of my life where I wanted to unalive myself. So I'm a pathological lier and I don't care.

[@alicebowen1018]

Lot that going on oh when truth marches in 🐺🐑👀🙏

[@lisaleonard244]

Sound is better

[@Salmanaseh]

Liars can’t have real connections with people unless the second person is unaware of their lies and believes them to be a truth teller or atleast not being a compulsive liar. And if the second person know about his/her lies then they can’t connect with them either. So it is both ways. Liars can’t connect to people and people can’t connect to liars either.

[@beegee5305]

Liars may know the fact that liars overexplain . so s/He may consciously make it short

[@penijoni1316]

do people who always bait with future fake consider pathological liar also?

[@samvaknin]

Narcissists do not future fake: they really believe their own fantasies. Psychopaths future fake and, yes, it is a premeditated form of lying.

[@penijoni1316]

@@samvaknin Thank you so much for answering me🙏

[@BeaIEngio]

We have a family member who takes benign stories and exaggerates them to a ridiculous extent. A bumpy landing becomes a plane doing a 360 spin on the runway. A ring being tight becomes a hospital visit bolt cutters and a finger almost lost. A brief conflict over a parking space becomes hurling a poo at a man's face. We have no idea how to deal so just grey rock and don't react, but it doesn't stop. How do you manage this in someone you cannot cut off? It's hilarious but also frustrating and boring.