Are YOU in a relationship or entanglement? The R Spot Episode 23

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[@sabriyapassmore3609]

Who’s here after Jada claimed she was in an entanglement lol

[@Rasta_Queen97]

I was here looking for a comment like this 🤣🤣

[@Teachingtea]

Sabriya Passmore I hollered when I saw this title

[@miritzaakerlund6100]

😂😂

[@acharich]

I sure am.. lol had to check if this video was new or old..

[@aiziajackson-bartholomew7346]

Never clicked faster ✨entanglement✨🤣

[@myabanksie]

This woman speaks truth,is wise and speaks with such calmness and grace.Her point is brought across without beating around the bush.

[@carmel-wayfinder5401]

I'm healing my personal issues, truth be told i can't believe my attachments.... i was so so lacking within myself thats why i excepted so little....I forgive myself I AM IN HEALING....

[@Slayton701]

This woman has a " Satanic anointing " and is on the way to Hell. the Bible says in Hell there wont be a moments of rest. Jesus warned against man and his idols" serving the prince of the air aka Satan. it gets kind of complex bcz some ppl, Believe in the Devil & God . the text says *** No man can serve two masters. Yes here in the short period of x. but the end result is the lower parts of the earth. You would be surprised how many celebs worship Baal. and are apart of the "occult". this oppressive. driven society is at its wits end. a fools eyes are in the ends of the earth. the prudent has understanding. DO not be deceived Beloved "" if you are serving 2 Masters when #ChristheKing returns the enemy will take your Soul. He is a liar and has been since the beginng of time.

[@VesicaChloeAstrology]

same here

[@carmel-wayfinder5401]

@@VesicaChloeAstrology 🌹

[@StartheCreoleQueen]

Entanglement is such a tricky situation to be caught in, glad I am free from that now. Took a step out on faith and walked away from it it was indeed scary but I did it because I had to. For me

[@princesscrystalisnice5417]

It's sad to be in entanglement. I am in it. Pattern pattern. I rebuke it in the name of Jesus.

[@fruitsofspirit6903]

A relationship is a mutual agreement between two consenting adults, wanting a connection with one another. Entanglement is an involvement of two or more parties, where there is no desire, but rather a co-depended need for someone to be in your life. Entanglement will keep anyone of us on an emotional merry-go-round. Prayers up, for all who feel as if you are in an emotional crises, if you feel as if there is no hope.....Please let go....Let God!!!!!!!! Only God can break the cycle if allowed/set anyone of us free!!!!

[@Atl404sFinest]

Uh uh! Correction-a relationship is a mutual agreement between two or MORE consenting adults. Don’t twist the words here.

[@metiya11]

So basicly being in a entangled relationship is almost living with a narcissist

[@Talube101]

Listen to the video again--completely.

[@lizbethbrady8308]

Mz Reems ..Eyes, you got it..Narcissist

[@sdreynolds67]

@@lizbethbrady8308 I feel that I am in an entanglement, and have been for 30 years. I don't don't think either of us are narcissistic but we are unhealthy in that we are co-dependent and I know on my part I expect my husband to fulfill me and make me happy. I wonder if maybe that's just being married to your high school sweetheart for over half my life. I???

[@lizbethbrady8308]

@@sdreynolds67 yes indeed.

[@didifghnlie283]

Absolutely not. Completely different.

[@johnnyarellano7653]

WOW!!! TALK ABOUT AN "AHA" MOMENT. "We attract to us what we are INSIDE, Not what we SAY we are, Not what you THINK we are, Your going to attract who you ARE"

[@elegancewithalicemuhirwa9680]

Johnny Arellano well put

[@MelaninMonarchy]

Johnny,,,, you took the EXACT words right out of my mouth!! WOW!! Just WOW!. Now it's time to do the work.

[@Pagingnursejackie]

Johnny Arellano facts!!

[@cardinep4213]

Johnny Arellano Awesome words!

[@vernitabrunson4258]

Nope don’t believe that I didn’t not set myself up or go looking for a entangled marriage. I have been married before for 15 yrs until he passed away an their was nothing entangled about my marriage. But this one here is another story 5 yrs I am a mess

[@rb5959]

This broke my current situation down. I am not in the relationship I want instead I am in an entanglement that is draining me emotionally. Now that I can name it, I know what needs to be done. We will either be happy together or happy apart. Thank you, Iyanla. This video was a healing.

[@lyndy-annphillip-york7198]

My marriage is an entanglement!!! This truth hurts.

[@Talube101]

What she is saying is not even debatable--it's the truth. You will find evidence in yourself and your relationships that she just spoke of so eloquently. Iyanla is a master on relationships and I hold her in the highest regards.

[@tystays0fly]

This video must have been sent from God 🙌 RIGHT ON TIME!! I just ended a 2 year entanglement and I feel like I knew this the whole time but I stayed because we had a baby.

[@sabduljelil1987]

Same in here. We can transform the intanglment to a relationship with the help of God. Pray for change.

[@maxtheknife]

My God! I have been in an entanglement for 25 years!!!

[@MelaninMonarchy]

It's okay Sweetie. Now you know. And now you can do the Work to a Better You. Praying for you.

[@royaltypatterson2478]

I just got out of a entanglement. Five months, short lived but i know my worth.

[@arieallewis1]

Jackaline Patterson how??? I'm struggling!!!!

[@royaltypatterson2478]

First i didnt let fear stop me. Second i packed my stuff and moved with my mom. Yes im struggling but im happy.

[@arieallewis1]

Jackaline Patterson that is so courageous. thank God for moms

[@ceeg821]

I'm in an entanglement for four months I can't do it anymore for the sake of my sanity

[@unbalancedlibra6273]

i just realized that im in an entanglement...damn...now im finna watch your video on how to leave a relationship

[@ChuksNkem]

I am in tears...i am completely in an entanglement.

[@jlovesg8088]

Pamela Ibekwe-Uche I feel like that sometimes.

[@mariahb8927]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. I am in an entanglement & I have been for two years too long. I need to let it go. I'm not sure that my heart can withstand anymore breaking. I want more & we just aren't on the same page. We've tried, but he's broken my trust several times and now I'm at a point where I don't have any energy that I'm willing to give to try. It's very hard to let go, but it is necessary.

[@strethy]

Mariah B well done for having the strength to consider change and doing the right thing. I pray for spirit to give you wisdom and courage to do what is right

[@deborahpeter4200]

Mariah B how I got out of my last relationship I had to literally talk to myself out load and remind myself that I'm a good woman and I deserve the best. I deserve better. what u have to do is make the decision to go or stay and stand your ground. hope this helps.

[@mariahb8927]

Absolutely. I so agree.

[@mariahb8927]

Agreed! It was very hard and painful, but I felt so stagnant with him and it felt more painful to be with him and it also was painful releasing. lol

[@mariahb8927]

Yess! Thank you. That was needed.

[@Galaexius]

This woman’s content popped into my feed when I needed just a little more ammo for my spiritual weapon to get through this world. 🙏🙏🙏

[@r.m5883]

Every man in my life has been an entanglement. !.

[@jzloveinfinite]

R. MacDonald Me too

[@javis3059]

SAme here

[@sdreynolds67]

@@javis3059 Tricky...

[@dbedazzling1]

You're attracting the wrong ppl. Heal n love yourself first.

[@sonia-fm6jp]

@Get IT J same here

[@zanichar]

My marriage isn't really a marriage at all. It has all been a 15 year long entanglement. Realizing this is both great and devastating at the same time.

[@missBonita318]

Don't feel bad, I stuck in for 30, Yes 30 yrs . Never too late to do the work & get healthy & happy

[@tribblegirl2]

Do you want to change it to a real relationship? If not, why do you stay?

[@tsich3226]

So sorry. :(

[@yvonnelashay8438]

Same here with the same number of years

[@honorineuwase6733]

I feel you! 10 years here! But it has to stop.

[@macphallic]

These R spots have brought crucial knowledge that aids in the healing we all need and deserve. I just released myself from two entanglements. One with a friend, and the other with a romance partner. I'm grateful I used the knowledge given and recovered the self-respect needed to do it. It was not easy, but I did it and I'm not going back. My mantra is: I'm releasing myself from negative patterns of behavior and moving forward in love with my life!

[@terriesmith8219]

I'm in a relationship and NOT in an entanglement. Thank God. Lol🤣😆😆😆😆😂😂😂😂😄😀

[@jinxjink7457]

Terrie Smith Good for you! I wrote the same thing above... Amazing to see how many entanglements there are by the comments, but been there done that and happy to be on the other side of that!

[@teeloveslife6820]

Oh dear I'm tangled the hell up 😳

[@phillygyrl34]

This came RIGHT on time!

[@EmilijaV]

Two equals celebrating who they are 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@hjohnson6346]

Damn if only August had seen this 3 years ago

[@NephiiBillion]

🥴😂😂

[@ronacameron5999]

Right

[@nicolasnunoo1858]

Nephiilove 😂😂

[@acharich]

4 years ago.. lol

[@misschevy6520]

😭😭

[@sashabarber8675]

A timely word! I have been watching your videos and started reading your books (in the meantime & Art of faith). I came to realise that i was broken and needed to learn to love myself before anyone can love me. This video has just confirmed that I am in entanglement but I am not sure my partner is willing to put in the work for transform it back to a relationship. Quite frankly I am tired of all the effort I put in and the lack of I get back. I do want to leave but having 2 children keeps me where I am.

[@LuxuriousInteriorDesigns]

you are an amazing woman I'm speechless I'm married been married for 7 years together for 11 and this relationship has been an entanglement the entire time I'm going to work on some things as well as him he has to or this has to end thank you so much for helping me to identify my issues within myself as well as the dysfunction that is within my life things are clearing up since I've been watching you day by day you're such a blessed woman

[@princesscrystalisnice5417]

I feel you sister. I just don't know how to let go . Its hard . I wish you the best hope things work out

[@mesheepooh22]

Crazy ... I and most other people I saw laughed hysterically when Jada said it was an "entanglement with August". Everyone was like, "girl, please! You know you were cheating! " Now after watching this, I've realized that I and probably a plethora of other folks have been in entanglements thinking we were relationships! Incredible! If it weren't for the wisdom and love this wonderful gift from God named Iyanla demonstrated, soo many of us would still be jacked up! Thank you, Iyanla. Wow! Just ... Thank you and God Bless You!!

[@newdawncummin474]

thank u thank u thank u. i need 2 b your apprentice because i have been preaching this sermon all thru my neighborhood to educate my young blk men/wmn so the family structure in our community can one day come bk to wat it was intended. ily iyanla. u rock. and are a rock love 313

[@Menyett]

I'm trying so hard to get out of my entanglement relationship of 8 years. It's so difficult because we live together. And I can't afford to move me and my son into are own place. So every day is a struggle.

[@alinam4577]

Baby Doll same page as you, car and place together and children together,7 years...wish us luck 😔

[@princesscrystalisnice5417]

Well for me I don't know what to do I have no cash to go anywhere

[@raennajohnson6151]

I'm in the same predicament, you just have to make a choice to leave. I refuse to spend another month in this situation. I know it will be difficult, but it's for the best. #movingin23days #makeaplan #sticktoit God bless Sis

[@salexander9106]

I'm also in the same position and I'm ready to part ways I'm a new person n it's time I prove it. Good luck to all you guys

[@rasleak8714]

Baby doll I feel you on that I'm a man and want out but fear the threats and the damage to my property also the stalking. shit is a drain yo.hope the best for you "freedom "shall come one day oh yeah 13 years of this down fall

[@se4109]

OMG. I needed to hear this so badly today. Very convicting.

[@cedricjennings8360]

Bingo, Iyanla...bingo! Thanks for the clarity.

[@kutaahungi2967]

When we first meet them, just because of what we feel "mind you, feelings are driven by many factors e.g prolonged loneliness, heartbreak, need to settle etc" we conclude that they are our soulmates. Instead of getting into the real discussion in order to determine if they are compatible, the fear of loosing them starts haunting us. we then start focusing on pleasing them for them to never find a reason to leave. We get them soo comfortable to a point that they forget our needs. After we've given more then enough and we start expecting back, the frustration of us thinking that its supposed to flow naturally or like you did, gets us bitter, angry, lonely and disappointed and we explode. Than boooooom, the relationship that could have worked if things were clear from the beginning is ruined. I've been in entanglements all my life and the last one was the easiest to walk away "thanks to Iyanla" because i knew i didn't do the work. I've learned the hard way and i promised myself to never lie to myself ever again. From now on, whatever it takes,iam gonna do it the right way, step by step, then wasting my whole life with the wrong person.

[@fennygypsy]

very very true

[@SunGathersDust]

Love this

[@kenisylvester]

Wow..I’ve just realized my 15 year relationship has actually been a 15 year entanglement. I’m speechless. I definitely needed to hear this.

[@nataliewilliams8489]

I already knew but this put clarification and a word to it...entanglement.. not a relationship

[@feliciajames5032]

Confirmation that I'm in a entanglement. Truth sets us free. Truth is a beautiful thing. I'm so thankful for this video. God revealed to me that I have a pattern of settling, not being honest verbally with what I really want & feeling frustrated & bitter afterwards. I'm 41 & lately I've become completely emotionally exhausted from the entanglement I'm in. In the past few weeks, I made up my mind to truly put my feeling first & say how I feel even if it hurts his feelings. Then I came across this video & it's been such a blessing. Thank you for clarity on healthy relationships & entanglement. God bless you!

[@angelah6472]

This woman is the truth. I watch her show on OWN ..what a treat to have these videos on utube.

[@jessicajones2351]

I am in an entanglement, and I know we have the potential to get better. We both to save our relationship and family.. I want to so bad show this video to my significant other and hope that he receives it well. I want to begin the process of saving our relationship and overcome our down falls.

[@renaed5015]

Same

[@chilloften]

Wow girl, Wow. I wasn't even able to come up with the language about my experience in this life...entanglements vs relationships. And I would NEVER have imagined that relationship needs this big work. Thank you for sharing your insight, it is fascinating. xo

[@theresamcpherson9676]

I now know why my caged bird sings!!! I want to be free after 20 years of marriage and seven years dating. I just want to be truly happy. He never satisfied me, But I held on for the security. Time to take a deep look within !!!

[@lisadeangelo244]

Yes...holding on for security. I know the feeling!

[@ptolemygray3422]

wow be there too... holding on for security an afraid of being alone but I was truly lonely in the marriage.

[@missBonita318]

I so understand this after 30 yrs in a dead end. Security. I too am fearful, but I can no longer go on this way. I'm tired & want to be healthy & happy. Pain is a great motivator .

[@josepht.7937]

An outstanding video, Iyanla! You've unlocked the secrets of a foundational relationship. I plan to replay this video several times and share this video as well. This is a prerequisite video to benefit ANY relationship. God bless you!

[@Lilstarplayz]

Iyanla you are so wise. I could only hope to actually meet with you one day to personally thank you for all your help.. Thank you for your advice as always.

[@algerenecobbs3362]

Thank you so much Iyanla for sharing your knowledge and insight with me.This was the missing piece of information i needed to move forward in my relationship with self and others .

[@aeolainf]

Algerene Tarver Exactly!

[@tinahrichley4074]

Fahrenheit jghr

[@jxzminn7897]

Lmao here after Jada and will

[@acharich]

💯

[@AbubakarSeif]

Thank you for the clarity .. it's timely.

[@aeolainf]

Iyanla, you're awesome. This video has put words to my feelings! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

[@kimla1394]

Thank you so much for teaching and reaching and you look gorgeous Ms. Iyanla

[@asiamohamed1640]

Thank you Iyanla, this is truth ... I live in entanglement relationship, same argument over n over , try to move on but he holding me back for the sake of his investment of the business we share.

[@delovelyday430]

this is spot on..

[@muwaahib2366]

So after seeing this, i found out i was in an entanglement for 8 months. Thank u Iyanla

[@bethatperson516]

This is one of my favorites so clear and concise! Thank you Iyanla 🙏🏻

[@AF-qn6fx]

Thank you so so much for this disctinction! Food for thought..what an eye opener.

[@NefertitiindaHouse11]

This was so deep and thorough Iyanla! I enjoyed it and it brought meaning to both terms. Thank you.

[@casmommie02]

i feel like she has so much knowledge. Every episode speaks to my life.

[@mdmmalou]

Thank you for your effort and humor too in other vids! I am so entangled with a person, that even now that I have been away for more than 1 year it still feels like his energy is pulling me. Even while I don't see him or want this. Feels like crazy.

[@msparks1251]

Omg!!! This video spoke truth! Very insightful!🤔

[@Glo_up576]

This video made me cry...... I'm ending my so called relationship.....thank you.

[@mesheepooh22]

You mean your entanglement. Yes ... you're not alone, sis.

[@Royalty405]

God bless you! This video just spoke volumes to me. Much needed. Thank you.

[@danielles8584]

You are spot on 😢😢.

[@davidbondotcom]

Yes, this helps. Thank you.

[@anniewhite4046]

I'm in a relationship because we do our work. We read relationship books together, pray together, go to church together and love and respect each other. I used to be in entanglements and they feel awful. My parents have been in an entanglement for over 20 year. Bbut I've broken the cycle 💃🏾💃🏾 Won't He Do It!

[@rocksteadynina]

WOW. This puts so much into perspective. Love The R Spot :)

[@carolynrandle7040]

Thank you!!! This has helped me soooo much.

[@jujubee90275]

Love it. Thanks!!!

[@ann7299]

This gave me clarity 🙌🏾

[@hienienguyen6766]

I am healing through unresolved issues. i am happy that i got to see your channel you are awesome! I am definitely going to work on these issues. I want the best love life for myself, and i know that i need to work on myself to get there. Thank you

[@glittersparkle5148]

yes so true. thank you

[@elizabethchambers312]

I don’t have to watch this twice, because I lived for 10 years in and entanglement! And out now free for 13 months - I am mid a psychological come back! Praise God!!! Thank you for your videos Iyanla! ❤️

[@lashonknox9024]

Thank You, this was most insightful!

[@breannsharp107]

Love your stuff!

[@wintersstar5830]

Love your books. They're very inspirational

[@nothingbuttthis]

When an 'entanglement' comes to be and the other person just doesn't want to recognize their repetetive wrong doing and is not willing to work on it just usually means it needs to end rn and forget about all about it and start fresh

[@lesliejefferson5453]

Wow, can you see me!!! One of my favorite books is Acts of Faith its behind you the small purple book. It's a daily meditation for people of color. Great inspirational book.❤

[@jblaney-bolansouthworth7646]

OMG entanglement: you described my parents n family no wonder why friendships n such didn't last long even tho some longer than others wow. Glad i'm working on this n self improvement now so hopefully this next relationship is better than i've ever had. Thank you

[@joi4705]

I’m sitting here realizing the same exact thing: my family relationships are all entanglements first set up by my parents, then it trickles to my sister, cousins, aunts, etc., And that surely explains why all of my friendships & romantic relationships have been the way they have. Crazy

[@diane2413]

This is just what I needed to hear because I am in an entanglement right now. I love listening to Iyanla. I could do it all day but then I would never get anything done. I love the sound of her voice and her words are so inspiring

[@torrihoward9729]

I now know what Entanglement defines... it's been 18+ years and listening to this video is Confirmed that I have to get out before I'm completely destroyed.. Thanks for sharing this with me and others. GOD BLESS 🙏

[@merolin5975]

Such a powerful video!

[@natashagumede2759]

Awu Amen I needed to hear this.

[@sonia-fm6jp]

Watching this made me realize that I am in an entanglement

[@sweetcakes1509]

Wow! You have really help me understand what a relationship is vs an entanglement, this information is golden. Thank You Iyanla.

[@lorna1222]

Woah... 💡💡💡 my first marriage was an entanglement. Very interesting!

[@dbedazzling1]

Ayanla you n I hv the same mentality. I learn a lot in the years. I feel like we can talk for hours.

[@Ketler829]

Thank you.

[@Feliciastarksfitness]

This is a GREAT one!💙

[@luvinme9271]

This is soo true and powerful. WOW!!!!

[@llluuubluetigers4838]

I'm living and learning . 🙏

[@marawheeler9172]

Thank you so much for this message.. This gave me a clear understanding on why most of my relationships have failed. But now I have identified my blind spots and will enter meaningful relationships❤

[@rietta1166]

Wow! Just openned my eyes to my relationship. Thank you

[@AdrianDeVore]

Thank you!

[@petercord4300]

thank you god for miss iyanla.

[@jinxjink7457]

Just as I suspected - really knew ... I'm definitely in a relationship lol! It's sooooo amazing to have the love, trust, kindness, respect - from a sweet, goofy, honest person. Having been caught up in entanglements galore before, after which I did a lot of work on myself, I am grateful for this something refreshingly wonderful. I now see that we really do attract what we are and that our relationship with ourselves (and whether we even have one to begin with) sets the standard for any other relationships - especially romantic ones! Thank you for tbe wisdom as always Ms. Iyanla!!!

[@chrissypacheco9635]

Thank you so much Ms. Iyanla. This has made me realize that I was in an entanglement for 18 years. It ended by him texting me that it was over.

[@AC-tk5iw]

This is fucken gold 👏🏻

[@Nise_R]

Wow, this was truly eye opening...

[@nscales20]

Love ❤️ the hair!

[@bcvc3365]

I'm totally in an entanglement....ugh

[@nicolettelovingood9999]

This is so very true. Sad to say pretty much all my relationships were entanglements, especially the one with my kids father. This is right on time. Thank you queen!

[@ritusrivastava9750]

she is tooo good ,, she helped me to get the clarity, I thought I was in relationship,, thanks to her .. it's visible its an ENTANGLEMENT

[@loisjohnson-mead7304]

SPOT ON! EXCELLENT! I am sending this to my brother and his woman. They are in an Entanglement, both are entangled but think it's love. No. It is not. I love them and it's tough to watch but they can do Their Work, Sit in Their Mess, and Grow. Blessing to you, Ms. Iyanla!