When You Are The One Being Left - The R Spot Episode 5

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[@chazieantunes6732]

I also refuse to chase after someone who's ok with losing me.

[@CPR4THEBODYlivingaenrichedlife]

Powerful sis!!

[@gwendolynlee3202]

AMEN!!!

[@msbarbhenry]

This is what I need to come to terms with!

[@mmowec8159]

You shouldn't have to. I had to learn this the hard way

[@Star-sj6pe]

I’m glad you said that speaking from experience I left they behinds right where they at

[@senoviahankajena6458]

Being left is one of the most hurtful and embarrassing thing that happens and i dont wish it apon anyone...

[@danyellg3079]

Yes it is!! I will never forget this pain. 💔

[@teathepot525]

To be left, Droped, Rejected, and Abandoned! The words seem to burn like acid!

[@siajambuba]

Me right now.

[@arnettra]

Stranded. Abandoned, rejected. But I'm better person because of it. It didn't feel good at the time. I've seen them get their payback too. God is good🙂

[@TheRonskins]

😔😔😔

[@coolcat6341]

I almost had heart attack,,, it was not the break up its the way he don it,the way he treated me toward the end,, to be dropped after I healed his soul,,, he left me for the women who cheated on him..

[@freedomprime4733]

I’ve been left, dropped, abandoned, ignored, rejected and I was angry, I was in rage, I asked why..then I began to go within and heal my own hurt. I am the love I choose to be and attract! No more dependency because of daddy issues. Thankyou Iyanla ❤️ acceptance is healing.

[@latonyahoward3017]

This is where I am at this moment. I’m trying to figure out how to be this for myself.

[@hersheisme915]

I have had to look at this every time I feel like calling him.

[@thelovely1553]

me too😞😞

[@thelovely1553]

me too😞😞

[@jessicawilliams8302]

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[@lisag6959]

Kels Harden

[@somikazimtiya5871]

ok

[@ghanyathomas9538]

I refuse to chase after someone who doesn't want me! The love ❤️I was giving is who I am! 🏅🌟👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@caramelveganprincess6389]

I couldn't agree with you more.

[@ms.kanderevised1802]

yasss girl

[@ms.kanderevised1802]

yasss girl

[@sofialovinglife597]

Amen

[@lucyluca6680]

Ghanya Thomas stay strong .....u deserve better. do something else when u get that impulse

[@sodiumfree9185]

I wanna get over this so bad.. I've passed the angry stage. I'm tired of crying myself to sleep at night..

[@KB-504]

#metoo

[@cecakhan2581]

Me too

[@arieslyfe3955]

Me three

[@jackieh7546]

I do too.

[@doncorleonen3521]

Me tooo :(

[@noziphowabatagore3765]

"I refuse to want someone who does not want me."

[@phoenixrising4719]

My husband of 31 years left me with 1 days notice and then 2 weeks later he's in another relationship. Listening to these over and over again have helped me so much. I am so grateful thank you ♥

[@justme7520]

How are you doing today? I am going through something similar . I knew the guy 17 years off and on the last 10 years we where together. He dumped me for another and is still with her. It's a year now he left me for her and it has been so very very hard for me to move forward. I think of him everyday and then I start to think of them and it hurts so bad. I get mad at myself for missing him when he doesn't even seem to think I exists . He seems very happy with the new one. How can someone just forget everything you did for them and move on like nothing. I don't understand.

[@PTALARA1]

i listen over * over

[@susaryla]

I feel so sorry for you, hope you feel better soon.

[@justme7520]

@The Queen and Her castle... . Anything right now will help so I can try to understand what happened because I will never get closure from him . I woke up this morning missing him so much and it hurts but I have to try to move forward. Thank you

[@justme7520]

@The Queen and Her castle... . Thank you for your words and your information I will definitely look at those videos. Maybe I will understand more. Like when he looked me straight into my eyes and said I love you and then he was gone he wasn't even going to tell me he was ignoring me he didn't call or see me for 4 days until I approached him and then he told me no more sleep overs I've been causal talking to another woman. Again thank you for advice I will look into Narc more.

[@zaydozier]

I feel so broken. 2 and a half years and now this. I don’t understand how someone can promise you forever and then just leave you behind like your worthless.

[@mypersonal1575]

Antonio DelQuan hold your head up, stick your chest out! In due time you'll be just fine! Just let it go, know that if a person leave you, they wasn't meant for you! Focus on yourself, please don't run behind them don't wonder who or if their with anyone else it's no longer your business. Do absolutely no contact. As time go on you will feel better.

[@tracyndiyob]

💔

[@maxamilien285]

Fuck I feel the same thing!! Same thing happened to me

[@jujubee90275]

I am a psychotherapist and you're teachings help me to help my patients❤

[@hanzannalyn16]

can you help me? I need therapist.

[@chattingcarter8212]

This is my testimonies of what the great spell caster DR. Barry can do, THANKS TO THE GREAT SPELL CASTER CALLED DR.Barry FOR SOLVING MY PROBLEMS, i was married to my husband for 5 years we were living happily together for this years and not until he traveled to Italy for a business trip where he met this girl and since then he hate me and the kids and love the other lady only. so when my husband came back from the trip he said he does not want to see me and my kids again so he drove us out of the house and he was now going to Italy to see that other woman. so i and my kids were now so frustrated and i was just staying with my mum and i was not be treating good because my mother got married to another man after my father death so the man she got married to was not treating her well, i and my kids where so confuse and i was searching for a way to get my husband back home because i love and cherish him so much so one day as i was browsing on my computer i saw a testimony about this spell caster DR.Barry testimonies shared on the internet by a lady and it impress me so much i also think of give it a try. At first i was scared but when i think of what me and my kids are passing through so i contact him and he told me to stay calm for just 24 hours that my husband shall come back to me and to my best surprise i received a call from my husband on the second day asking after the kids and i called DR.Barry and he said your problems are solved my child. so this was how i get my family back after a long stress of break up by an evil lady so with all this help from DR.Barry, i want you all on this forum to join me to say a huge thanks to DR.Barry , and i will also advice for any one in such or similar problems or any kind of problems should also contact him his number on whatsapp ) [phone] he is the solution to all your problems and predicaments in life. once again his whatsapp number is [phone] HE IS SPECIALIZE IN THE THE FOLLOWING SPELL. (1) If you want your ex back. (2) if you want money 3 if you want to be move up in your working place 4 if you have HIV 4 if you looking child 5 if you need a good husband or wife 6 if you want a good buiness 7 if you looking for job or want a job in a company what is the problem you ben pass writ to Dr Barry on whatsapp ) [phone] you will become happy man or woman boy or girl thanks to Dr Barry

[@MsMarkeila]

Wow so many people going through the same thing I thought I was all alone

[@mightyme.makingitnew9979]

MsMarkeila @ been there myself hun , god looks after his children..... it’s only been 6 months of getting that person out of my life , but I feel and see better . I was hurt so bad but I’m glad he wanted to leave as I know and can do better💯🙏🏾👍🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🥂💋

[@LibraChick43]

I know right...I thought I was alone as well.

[@maricrismagcaling526]

Me too

[@DimpledNatural]

Me too, satan likes to make us feel that way

[@Plussizebaddie24]

The hardest thing is loving someone that never loved you like they claimed they did...To find out at the end you were in a relationship alone they never was all in. I was with a guy from my past for 4 months I knew better but I still accepted how he was treating me...I am very angry at myself cause I knew better. I ignored the signs and red flags....I am glad I went through this it taught me alot...I am hurt like hell!!

[@angiejordan2120]

I’m going threw the same exact thing but have been married to this person for almost 5 years. I’m sorry your going threw it but pls keep smiling and pray for peace and strength to understand there is something better.

[@Plussizebaddie24]

@@angiejordan2120 thank you Angie!!!🙂🙂🙂🙂

[@SlimmBeauty89]

KP Incorporated AKA Selfloveyou!! It is always like that. You ignore the red flags and then end up with the short end of the stick. But things happen for a reason and if the person didn’t leave you might not have ever left so it’s like in a way God did the work for you

[@nala4177]

FancyFrancey loveyou1st I’m in the same situation after 9 months and our first argument he left me. Told me he was too angry at my for hurting him that his feelings turn off. It was just one day from another. Is weird because I feel sad not hurt in a way relieve tbh like I knew it was there but I was trying to make it work but how he ended things show he was always with one foot out never fully invested like me.

[@angelbasham6631]

Same girl same

[@vcampbell11]

She just gave me my life back!

[@Msjuju20131]

Right. Ive been suffering for 3 weeks now. I got to let him go. He totally dont want me at all.and he told me. What was I thinking???

[@eliz8294]

GIRL. This video saves lives and souls. Do not feel bad about being left by someone who doesn't want you. Give all the love you gave them to yourself Be gentle with myself Talk to god Journal your egos anger Iyanla is golden with wisdom and self care I thank god for her.

[@shanaydee]

Iyanla is sent straight from God, I refuse to give someone all of my heart who won’t give all of theirs to me

[@romeytube26]

so true 🤗

[@georgiaj5301]

He told me it was over and to leave his home. I didn't ask why. I just went to my car and drove off. That was 9 years ago and from the day I drove off until now, I have not called, texted, emailed, written or anything. I have never begged anyone who didn't want me and I never ask why. Iyanla you are right, that the relationship had been going downhill way before that last day. Thanks for these lessons Iyanla.

[@SlimmBeauty89]

Georgia J this literally just happened to me🤦🏽‍♀️

[@elenageorgiou6345]

Have you moved on these 9 years? If yes after how much time?

[@marcyallison5996]

When you no longer want them, they want you. Why does this happen????!!!! Reject the rejecter.

[@KOLAkola]

Marcy Allison haaaaa cuz they have to earn key word earn ur trust again gotta keep them chasin

[@ando1135]

Man, it's hard. The negative thoughts and the "why" are strong when someone doesn't reciprocate back to you what you give to them. Slowly, I am learning to distance myself from people who simply don't care about me as much as I care about them...it's so tiring to give so much effort for crumbs in return.

[@DontDooTooMuch]

Yes it's like a slap on the face.

[@tashaequeen8935]

So hurtful

[@stephaniemac7635]

Six weeks later I’m still feeling my heart is broken I’m so sick of being left like I didn’t even exist

[@KOLAkola]

Stephanie Mcallister time heals all wounds stay busy meditate drink a lot of water and stay prayed up.

[@Fonzi79]

I see this is 9 mos ago . I hope you recovered. My x just left me over Xmas Holiday . It was devastating i was a good very good girlfriend but he just left and abandoned me after 3 YEARS... I wanna hurt him so bad.....

[@cecakhan2581]

@@Fonzi79 same since October

[@MsJerrySparkle]

same here everyone, 2 years, my first serious relationship. i love him. but this has been creeping on us, if im honest. its just so devastating, losing all the time and the plans we made and the world we created

[@parandjalali8028]

@@MsJerrySparkle I felt that. I'm here with you girl.

[@jacobbaker4545]

very true what she is saying...I went through the same thing and confronted the hurt. After i was done healing my entire life changed for the better. I found love, first within MYSELF and then from a wonderful man, who treats me with the utmost respect who I will be marrying soon. Really good advise.

[@lovelock1994]

Alana's Take how did you confront the hurt

[@thatgworl2504]

Alana's Take 🖤

[@Itsacamlife]

Alana's Take congratulations girl!!! I hope I can heal soon but it seems like I’m not. 11yrs with someone is a long time and he leaving and wanted something new and wanted to be with many women broke me. I hope o get to where u are. But it is hard when I shared a son with my ex partner.

[@pinkysaha430]

Thanks 4 sharing

[@amymeibauer9079]

You are awesome!

[@ashleyjackson2143]

The worst feeling in the world!! Especially when you gave your all! After 3 yes all I could think about is what did I do wrong.

[@caramelveganprincess6389]

Probably nothing, sometimes people just don't get it until it's too late. I am a firm believer in Karma. What you do to others will eventually come back to you.

[@klove33]

We in the same boat , I thought about what I did wrong but in all honestly I did the best I could , so what more can I do

[@gugukhumalo9313]

"never ask why"...

[@martaalvarez7478]

I’ ll write everything in a paper, turn it into a small ship, and let it go in the river. I will give my feelings to the universe through this

[@glynisrobertson9757]

I have been running after people who didn't want me, a light bulb just went on... the love I gave is the love I have for myself, yes.

[@kikinyte6806]

@Glynis In October 2016 When the GUY LEFT ...i was HURT HEARTBROKEN & WORST OF ALL I KEPT MYSELF STUCK and this lasted 3 years and when i said ENOUGH you will not go into 2020 carrying this broken Energy...LET GO LET GO LET GO . Iyanla drops nothing but total gems....But honestly, KZbin cured my depression and inspired me to start my own channel. It was a risk I was willing to take and I decided why not begin with documenting moving out of my Depression to Self Love stage.....and Boom I just took the leap. I am not fussed about being popular, I think its my message which is important.....but if the channel can flourish and grow then that's a BONUS!!!!. I CANNOT WAIT TO GET BACK TO MYSELF AND NORMAL ROUTINES AGAIN BUT IN THE MEANTIME AND WHATS HELPING ME REFICUS AND HEAL IS MY YT CHANNEL. I created a KZbin Channel Documenting my Self Love Journey 2020 & Would Love For You All To See and Support My Channel. Check it Out >>>> kzbin.info/door/64VqNHt4-TG7R-To31cFAg. I hope You Like It : ) and it inspires you to just TAKE THE LEAP....Do it for Yourself not for anyone else and enjoy the process. Its tough but worth it.....and as we stuck in doors we might as well kill sometime and get creative. Have a blessed Weekend xo

[@Nahnie-jb8wo]

I wish I listened to this prior to me losing my dignity and lashing out at church!! Thank you, Iyanla. ☺

[@Dream-Me]

Did you get your happy ending ?

[@mymoodmyvibez7111]

how are you now?

[@ayodejiboyede4594]

All the love, energy, time, companionship that I was giving to her it was mine, it was my the depth and capacity of my own love....OMG!!!🙈

[@EM5959]

Ayodeji Boyede omg is right- you’re walking away with the gold.

[@kevinseaman6070]

Wow.!🙏ing for you and that's what I will always do.

[@tretreh4456]

I'm on the floor in tears this is so good. I just saved myself from catching a case.

[@rubenrichrodriguez1146]

I swear I’m a 49 year old man… I’ve never cried so much like this… watching her and listening to her videos… I’m hurt and I’m dealing with it… it’s not easy… but I’m getting through it.. the more I cry the more I’m letting out the pain I’ve been feeling for 7 years straight… I’m starting to build a new me… breaking all bad habits…

[@serenaessed9637]

i just got an AHA moment and I will forever refuse to want people who do not want me.. Thank you so much Iyanla. God bless you!

[@iamsodapop4947]

I feel like I just want to run to you, hug you extremely tight, cry my lungs out til I fall asleep. The pain is beyond words..

[@nikkyshamz2696]

You'll be fine in time, it happens to the best of us.

[@iamsodapop4947]

@@nikkyshamz2696 Aameen Trying hard to look at the positive outcomes; yes, it such a homework..

[@maricrismagcaling526]

Time will heal us🙏🙏🙏

[@jackieh7546]

It takes time

[@OLatreil]

The end of this is melts my heart. I'm working on self-love and each time I hear it it's like I'm hearing it for the first time.

[@versipelliss]

I feel exactly the same way. Have to watch/listen again and again this kind of video to remember it : love yourself first. Everyday. :(

[@legslipsandlashes9831]

What a blessing. I workout in a place with mostly other women. I know that I am experiencing my own hurt and pain over the relationship that I am ending. But today, while waiting for my exercise class to start, in walks two women who I have talked to before but we don't know each other personally. Well, suddenly we were all talking about relationships and one woman begins to cry almost hysterically. Through her tears she was able to say, "I'm sorry y'all. My husband left me and moved in with another woman, TODAY!" Wooo! She was about to make me cry, shit! I just said to her, "Come on girl. Let's go outside and get some air." I said to her that this is not a new relationship between them, this was already organized. I advised her to allow herself to feel exactly how she felt and to do absolutely nothing with the anger. Don't get divorce papers. Don't call. Don't throw his stuff away. Just be still. She assured me that she wasn't going to do anything. A few minutes later I told her to put her angry energy into the workout. She said she would. Poor thing stayed in class as long as she could but as she passed me when she was leaving, she said goodnight and so did I. When I came home and settled down, I prayed for her and him. Even though I'm going through my own mess, later for my stuff; it's so minor compaired to this. Now, I had no Idea, hours ago, that I was going to come across this video. The Universe is moving and working and we don't need to do anything, really. When I see her again, I'm going to send this video to her. Especially since I'm sure that somebody prayed for me too. Please be kind to one another because you never know the pain that other people are going through. Lord, I hope her ass ain't locked up!

[@lovelock1994]

Legslipsandlashes hi have you seen her since? If so how is she? How are you?

[@33ladyRAM]

Thank...I could of used you when I caught my ex on our anniversary night and in cone waking in a 22 year...she had been messing around for months...karma is real...the energy we put in does cone back...it comes back. I dodged a bullet...rather us getting married, she is now marrying the girl I caught her messing around with...crazy

[@LDYMedia]

😂, true. I’m laughing at the end of this message. Thanks for making me laugh. I’ve been in a relationship for 8yrs with Kendall, left me for another woman. The funny thing is that he is justifying his actions to make himself feel good for moving on with another women. Yes sisters, you have to channel your energy towards God, acceptance is one out of many steps to healing. The way we heal is so important. This process is just like an open wound. In order to make the skin look healthy during the scaring process, we must take care of it with dieting etc. hurting is part of the healing process. When we heal, we have to incorporate truth and faith for healthier skin. God bless you sisters. “No nation can rise higher than its women”

[@latonyahoward3017]

Thank you for this response. It made me laugh out loud in the mist of my crying. We are all warrior women.

[@TheChuckie23]

I held on for so long and the writing was on the wall. I did not make myself a priority. I am learning every hour and minute. Thank you Ms. Iyanla for your inspirational words.

[@bowlegg41smith71]

3 year relationship and he left me when I say I was devastated it hurt me so bad smh

[@loyalroom182]

Wow

[@patriciavandevelde5469]

That happened to me i never want to go through that again never better the love of a dog

[@Fonzi79]

Same thing just happened to me during the xmas holiday. 3 yrs without any talking about if he wanted to work it out , he just We grew distant and NEVER let me know he was feeling like that and thats basically all i got from him after 3 yrs together happy.. I asked him to bed honest if it was another woman involved he said no but I dont know if this is true or not. Im devastated...

[@shanayw3010]

I can relate 3 years together and i just loss my mom a month later he starts distancing himself we didnt bring in the new year ..he stop answering my calls and he would text back after i sent like 20 texts ...i called him 3 days after my birthday which he didnt wish me a happy birthday i call him and a female answers his phone talkin about they together and After doing some digging i find out its this female i caught him texting last year ..so after all the blaming me accusing me of cheating he was pursuing someone else ...im so hurt this just happen last night ..he wont even let me come get my stuff out his house Talking bout he gon mail it to me😡😡😡😭😭😭💔💔💔

[@ladennayoung2939]

I'm sure he showed signs of not being fully present. Unfortunately we refuse to accept and acknowledge it. Prayerfully things are better for you in Jesus name.

[@justinsenior8264]

Lord this lady has reached depths of my soul.. everything she said is the truth this is my current situation.. she ministers from the heavens..I wish I could hug her

[@desativado9332]

I just wanna cry watching you. You made me feel warm.

[@knucklehoagies]

My significant other just broke up with me yesterday. I really did love this person and the pain can be unbearable at times. Watching this did give me some hope. Thank you.

[@mariahmysticx]

Jason Rittle god bless you ❤️

[@davidgutierrez6398]

Me too I feel the same

[@angeliqueesprit9155]

"What I've learned is the dept and capacity of my own love." #SelfLove is so beautiful!

[@happythoughts505]

Im still wanting & loving him 2 years later, i want it to end so i can move on!!!

[@mindingmyownbusiness6194]

I needed to hear this my man left me for his side piece I felt like dirt I was hurt I fought to get back question everything. in the end the side piece won. it hurts but don't lose yourself ladies trust me I know. let it go it will make you lose your mind if you dont.

[@kikinyte6806]

In October 2016 When the GUY LEFT ...i was HURT HEARTBROKEN & WORST OF ALL I KEPT MYSELF STUCK and this lasted 3 years and when i said ENOUGH you will not go into 2020 carrying this broken Energy...LET GO LET GO LET GO . Iyanla drops nothing but total gems....But honestly, KZbin cured my depression and inspired me to start my own channel. It was a risk I was willing to take and I decided why not begin with documenting moving out of my Depression to Self Love stage.....and Boom I just took the leap. I am not fussed about being popular, I think its my message which is important.....but if the channel can flourish and grow then that's a BONUS!!!!. I CANNOT WAIT TO GET BACK TO MYSELF AND NORMAL ROUTINES AGAIN BUT IN THE MEANTIME AND WHATS HELPING ME REFICUS AND HEAL IS MY YT CHANNEL. I created a KZbin Channel Documenting my Self Love Journey 2020 & Would Love For You All To See and Support My Channel. Check it Out >>>> kzbin.info/door/64VqNHt4-TG7R-To31cFAg. I hope You Like It : ) and it inspires you to just TAKE THE LEAP....Do it for Yourself not for anyone else and enjoy the process. Its tough but worth it.....and as we stuck in doors we might as well kill sometime and get creative. Have a blessed Weekend xo

[@ashleyayane4625]

The love of my life of six years left me for his side and he married someone else now after 3years my husband of one year has left me for his other woman I blame me and iam here to stop hurting my self like that😔

[@gowithin1116]

I listen to you before bed as I’m going through a breakup. You are so comforting and I appreciate your work. 🙏

[@juliebeilin6441]

God lead me to you Iyanla! I needed to hear this right now! My depression has been deepening after my ex broke up with me 6 months ago. Thank you thank you so very much for your advice!! Love to you ❤️❤️

[@andrewrobinson8019]

My partner and I had been doing great. He disappeared all day yesterday. He resurfaced with the truth. He's struggling with addiction and a job loss and he decided that the relationship was not a good idea at this time and asked me for my friendship instead, as he works on himself. In all honesty, while it hurts a little , I'm relieved he spoke his truth and I told him yes, I can be his friend and be as reasonably supportive as I can as he faces his demons. No ego here. People are free to do what they feel and if that doesn't include a relationship with an individual that so be it. Its not healthy to want someone who really doesn't want you. Its not fair to either party. I let him go easily this morning and told him I want what he feels is best for his life. I also don't want to be with someone struggling with addiction who won't get professional help. He thinks he can kick the habit on his own. He tried that before and relapsed yesterday, on his birthday. I'm praying for him but I refuse to be hurt by the break up, I'm more hurt by the addiction.

[@camipinto9865]

He left me twice in TEN years and got 2 people to call and convince me each time, that he truly loves me. I brought him back twice. He is leaving me again today- this needs closure. Thank you Lyanla, i weep when i hear your messages but i know in time, with your advice i'll be stronger and find the right one who will love and respect me and help me fulfill my dreams.

[@michaelmartinez1860]

Oprah who?? Girl you are amazing! You gave me so much clarity and understanding. God bless you.

[@sinairesse]

Especially being left via silent treatment. I almost lost my mind, I couldn't understand how anyone would treat another this way. After 3 months I reached asking to talk and end things appropriately, promised to but never did. I had to admit this person is a horrible piece of human!

[@GoldenG225]

@Rebecca Last year at about this same time I was going through a breakup similar to yours: silent treatment then got dumped via text. Never thought I would make it but a year later here I am laughing at it. Just want to encourage you and send you tons of love/ good vibes. This is just God redirecting you to something and someone better. Hang in there

[@babacool81]

had the same!!!!! its the most horrible thing because you have no closure. you only have whys. it hurts soooo much. i hear you... both in recovery mode. we will make it though! sending love to you!

[@Thee740]

I feel u sister I went through the same thing years ago and I almost went crazy. that guy was a horrible person and after 6 months of silent treatment he advised me to go see a shrienk. I was young and he was older and I felt used.

[@mixedchickULike]

My husband is giving me the silent treatment now after 35 yrs of marriage. So cruel.

[@cath7099]

Going through the same. It hurts so much 😐

[@shantayhightower8850]

Iyanla just fixed my life at 2 a.m. in the morning. 😂

[@maybeni288]

I hope you are feeling better

[@desariewalker2471]

I needed this so bad, I was going through depression from being left and having hurt I see what she’s talking about when it comes to my ego

[@victoriajohnson1956]

Thx Iyanla for ur wise advice. I was left by my husband of 25 years and it was very painful but I cherished my children and thought of the good times and relying on God and prayers to keep me sain. I thought I was not going to make it, but God is good. It has been 2 years now, and am still going strong. Am waiting for ur video on how to heal the children.

[@vanessacs538]

The funny thing is i'm good now i realized i deserved better and will get better than what i thought i needed in God's time, he will come into my life and i will be ready, until then i will enjoy everyday God gives me!!!!!!!!

[@crystalgrose]

Vanessa Cs AMEN!

[@peightonmarie7434]

Same here 💯

[@maricrismagcaling526]

@@crystalgrose amen 🙏🙏🙏

[@paigejude3655]

I started crying when you spoke about your revelation. This video & that moment changed something in me.

[@mantsopalebohangpatriciamo1166]

Sad thing is I knew he no longer wanted me and I was on a no contact rule for at least one month ....the next thing I did, I am still shameful of it I showed up at his door at 6:30 am and begged him to take me back...he never replied till this very day....there signs were always there never ignore them

[@normajeanweimer1709]

I'm so glad I found you❤ my husband left me after 38 years of marriage for someone younger, someone he worked with, people say there must have been red flags, but honestly didn't see. Its been 2 years I'm doing better but the sadness comes and goes. I have three grown children and there my constant. Thank you for this video, so very hard to let go when you love someone that doesn't love u back and that you've loved for so many years. Thank you Iyanla❤❤❤ Norma Jean

[@danielle1905]

Norma Weimer wow just wow. 38years? That must have been heart wrenching. Mine just left after 11 years and I feel sick all the time and don’t know what to do with myself. I pray all the time and try and keep it together. It’s very difficult. I just want to send you love and peace.

[@KOLAkola]

Norma Weimer that selfish fool, that young girl gon leave him for someone younger just watch and u will have the last laugh with that 😂 he just want to feel young and that he will never be again😂🐇

[@fadwajapan6404]

Really sad..I knew it was not ideal relationship from long years back but I pushed the relation till the kids left home and I left with them also.

[@bparis5]

Wish I heard this a month ago... my ego was bruised. But I knew the first month of our dating and 4 years later... I let him walk away with my dignity.

[@TheDivineI]

I have not been in a relationship since I was 38 years old when my last relationship reached its end...I am 60 now. I did not plan for this, it literally took me years to learn how to love myself, fully...not through the lense, attention, affection or approval of another but though clarity of self and self-worth. I had layers of stuff I had to work through. However, I have no regrets because it was work that had to be done sooner or later and work that only I could do. I AM GRATEFUL for all of the lessons, blessing, teachers and students...THANK YOU ALL, THANK YOU.

[@TheGodsRain]

I LOVE you Iyanla, I think I just got it, IT'S NOT PERSONAL, we can only control ourselves and how we respond to everyone outside ourselves!!! Don't focus on why, just pay attention to their actions and the signals they give us!!! And I've come to the conclusion that I want to love with the best of my ability those that I am connected to by nature and by choice!!!

[@shamandahartsfield1946]

I NEEDED THIS LORD KNOWS I DID ❤️ 5 years I gave my all into someone I didn’t think would give up on me. He left me because of his own feelings towards me which made me feel like I was losing myself. I had signs and etc but I still wanted things to work out because my love was so strong I thought it was capable of rebuilding. I cried begged pleaded and even asked why. I couldn’t get clear answers except “I don’t want to be with someone I don’t want” I left with my dignity and he also gave me tools to help me stay strong it’s just bittersweet because as he was tearing me down he was trying to build me up. I’m a STRONG WOMAN and he knows that I will get through this like he told me “it’s never the right time to say goodbye”

[@mayprise]

This is just me. . . 5 years I gave ended on Dec 30th 2019 and I never thought he would give up on me

[@shamandahartsfield1946]

Oluwasefunmi Ayorinde now I understand all the reasons why we couldn’t be together no longer as I go through My process of healing. It really takes one day at a time & genuinely very good Friends 🙏🏾❤️ And most of all God ! Life passes on ❤️ you got to keep going

[@kikinyte6806]

@Shamanda ME too :( In October 2016 When the GUY LEFT ...i was HURT HEARTBROKEN & WORST OF ALL I KEPT MYSELF STUCK and this lasted 3 years and when i said ENOUGH you will not go into 2020 carrying this broken Energy...LET GO LET GO LET GO . Iyanla drops nothing but total gems....But honestly, KZbin cured my depression and inspired me to start my own channel. It was a risk I was willing to take and I decided why not begin with documenting moving out of my Depression to Self Love stage.....and Boom I just took the leap. I am not fussed about being popular, I think its my message which is important.....but if the channel can flourish and grow then that's a BONUS!!!!. I CANNOT WAIT TO GET BACK TO MYSELF AND NORMAL ROUTINES AGAIN BUT IN THE MEANTIME AND WHATS HELPING ME REFICUS AND HEAL IS MY YT CHANNEL. I created a KZbin Channel Documenting my Self Love Journey 2020 & Would Love For You All To See and Support My Channel. Check it Out >>>> kzbin.info/door/64VqNHt4-TG7R-To31cFAg. I hope You Like It : ) and it inspires you to just TAKE THE LEAP....Do it for Yourself not for anyone else and enjoy the process. Its tough but worth it.....and as we stuck in doors we might as well kill sometime and get creative. Have a blessed Weekend xo

[@jackmeoff9116]

when you are left, It ain't right!! A women Left me 6 months after my Mother died!! You talk about pain, But I'm getting thru. God Is good!!

[@soleil7259]

I am so sorry to hear that Jack. That women wasn't for you ! Take you time and grieve ❤️ Stay strong. A Men left me a few days ago and told me one of the reasons was: how unattractive it made me that i was grieving over my sister who died young 2 years ago. He told me i never was his priority because of my sister... that statement was really hard to swallow it hit me like a rock. This men was so insecure. He himself was still after his first love and didn't had much feelings for me in the first place, but that women is still alive that's the very big difference (he sometimes acted like you could compare the two situations) but instead of leaving him, i stayed and tried my best to be what he wanted and that was a big mistake. Jack i wish you all the best. Your mother would be proud of you ❤️

[@jackmeoff9116]

@@soleil7259 Think you for the kind words but more importantly thanks for sharing your story and your pain. I wish you the best that life has to offer!! Take care & be safe.

[@soleil7259]

@@jackmeoff9116 Thank you !

[@d4bluegj]

When a bad person leaves you, you have a huge sense of relief. It is funny when he thinks he left you for someone else and he has that sense of superiority thinking he won. It is funny when he finds out that you were planning to leave him for a long time. Actually he did you a favor by leaving! The funny thing is that he is in a rebound relationship with someone worse than him.

[@tandyarmstrong5373]

IAM just tired of giving and showing my love for someone who can't reciprocate it back

[@Laura_111]

I really needed this. My spouse of 10 years has cheated several times, threatened to leave me, has a serious gambling problem, works when he feels like it and tells me to get over anything that makes me upset because my feelings are not important. I have finally built up the courage to end it. My happiness comes first. I love your show!

[@gugukhumalo9313]

Never ask why.! Thank you for this.

[@Msjuju20131]

My husband of 10 left me for another woman and he kelped playing games with me saying he would come back home. Meanwhile he said he was just telling me that cause I was calling acting suicidal. I was....my ego got the best of me and I wanted to confront the new lady to tell her he tried to play both of us. I gotta move on and let this mess go. Im so agree I been played by a man I supported for 10 years. I gotta get this out my head and move the heck on. Thanks Iyanla

[@KOLAkola]

Damn 10years that’s a lot.

[@Msjuju20131]

@@KOLAkola im fine now.

[@userofyoutuve]

In the same boat,no contact to the new lady she probably knows most don't care there are women/men out here targeting married people look we put the work in these people took and used what they could and found what they want,in the end she got a puy together piece of shit, we have to move forward count it all on joy there's something out there first heal you 💯 💪 🙏🙌 because they jumped off the ledge doesn't mean you go jumping behind them,let them drown you go back to the foundation and start repairing it within you...

[@tsholofelomokoena]

I cannot believe I’m here again.. but it will all pass... I’m loving me now..

[@debbiekiser7178]

My husband went to the store for milk and got Bread instead!!! Seriouusly he left me laying here in the Floor handicapped! No income, car, food nothing!!! And a year and half I have not heard from him!!!! We had been together 17 years!!- And I'm FINE💜 actually I have not cryed a drop or even missed him HELL I had to GET BUSY!! BUT I AM SOO MUCH BETTER OFF SINCE THEN!! And I'm Great All around!!!

[@yasminehayles692]

Debbie Kiser, I am glad you are well and I hope that each day that your life gets happier. Are u sure that he is alive? Was there an accident? Have you out a missing person report? Some people leave, because the can’t get back. Either way u have to move on, and u seem to be doing a good job!! God bless.

[@katelinnelson6894]

This exactly the talk I needed to hear....thank you...from the bottom of this broken heart...thank you

[@tashaequeen8935]

Our hearts will heal its hard right now but God sees us and he's here w us thats why we are still breathing..even while our hearts are broken hope all is well and Happy 2020!

[@katelinnelson6894]

@@tashaequeen8935 faith is a whole other thing ive got to work on. Haha, but I got all the bad,out of the way. 2020 will be healing and revitalizing for me! (I hope) and for anyone else reading this! Thanks positive words!

[@tashaequeen8935]

@@katelinnelson6894 yes faith is the key. But as long as you are embracing yourself through the dark times and seeking and asking God to renew you it will workout Amen!

[@rubix1cube]

Wow I needed this. I am currently in the anger stage and hearing her words has put some peace in my heart.

[@jamilahs2747]

I have to listen to this everyday

[@ramithapalyam8189]

I refuse to want someone who does not want me! REVELATION!!!

[@audreyshea1891]

When you got to the part of giving love to yourself for the first time in weeks I felt like I could stand up again. Thank you for being so real and easy to understand. I like your honesty!

[@TheM0B11]

Anyone here get used to sleeping next to the person u care about? Now ur alone and feel like something is missing

[@shawntalayshumpert6480]

I’m glad I listened to this because this is so accurate in my life . The question “ Why “ will run you crazy ! I started to question myself . It’s not easy ! But I will get through this ! Thanks IYANLA:)

[@jonathandagher520]

Thank you Iyanla, this video really helped me going through a heartbreak. Thanks a lot. I'll keep watching till I get this.

[@333stella]

I feel SO grateful to have come across this video and hear these words. I absolutely needed this... I cannot thank you enough.

[@karenmitchell5809]

I am so broken today. Gave almost 3 years to a person I believed to be my soulmate. He made me believe he felt the same. His actions did not add up to the words coming from him. He often made me feel less then and not good enough. I couldn’t understand why he would not just say it. Thinking I needed to hear it. Right now all I can do is cry because I gave my best and it just seems I keep choosing those who want my good care for them but never give it to me. I am just emotionally numb right now and just want to continue to feel nothing. Humans are the worse to expect anything from because your expectations are often let down. Just a tired heart

[@aenese34]

My boyfriend broke up with me a month and a half ago. It's been hard but when I discovered this video I felt like suddenly this huge weight was lift off my shoulders and my heart. I've been feeling better but still there are days where I lose myself to sadness and I can't help but think about how much happier I was with him and how those days will never come back, and being paranoid about what if he's with someone else...but then, I remember to watch this video again and I feel better, not so hopeless.

[@kasilversun951]

Thank you, Iyanla. For the past two weeks, and as I approach my 60th birthday, I've embraced the mantra, "I'm healing" and have been working toward spiritual decluttering; putting out the trash of the last decade of my life. I'm finally healing from a sudden break up and this video is clarifying how to put the final pieces of my heart back into place. I did see and hear whispers in my soul that the relationship wasn't as "magical" as I was spinning it to be and am meditating on what I did with that "knowing". Today I looked into the mirror and said, "The love I gave is the love that I AM. And I REFUSE to want to be in a place where I'm not wanted, honored, treasured, and respected and where my love cannot be returned in FULL measure." It's now my new practice as I continue to heal and move forward. Looking up, looking out, and being love & light. Peace & blessings to you. 💗

[@nazraahmed2881]

I cannot believe last year this time I was heartbroken and then A friend of mine told me about this woman and send to me her videos. only I can say my dear thank you so much to make me stronger God bless you

[@nfin248]

Thank you Beloved....my friend sent this to me.Girl you are speaking everything I was thinking and needed to hear.Bless you as I realize we all are going through

[@lindsay5348]

You are an angel 😇 and saved my life !!! I needed this right now !!!!!. Can’t thank you enough!!!🙏🙏🙏🤗

[@iwitness173]

I needed to hear this! Although it was my desire to get closure from him I now realize that my closure is knowing who I am and who I was in my entire relationship. I didn't lower my standards just because he showed me in so many ways that he did not value me as his wife or mother of his children. Now I need to shift my focus and see why I stayed and put up with the nonsense for so long. Thank you so much for this video!!!!!!!

[@corrinderby4657]

I have been watching videos similar to this, reading and seeking out materials of this like, and this is the Best place I have found, the best advice I’ve come across. Thank you so much Iyanla!

[@TheKe1a]

I cant even leave your posts/videos..whomever left you must have been scared. Your strength shines through to the world and I honestly love you for it! Also you are very youthful and I love the hair too!

[@aneleboligello8742]

"Relationships don't just end, they end over time" true

[@Reina-mu1bd]

This is going to be rough, but im ready.

[@mmowec8159]

You got this! From someone who has been there. You will begin to see you have more strength than you think. Believe it

[@maricrismagcaling526]

Just believe

[@lilfeluvskobe]

Perfect timing, needed to watch this. Thank you.

[@softbrowneyes5008]

This is so powerful. Thank you so much, Iyanla. The world needs more souls like you, helping us all get through it❤💫

[@aasmahsohbat6154]

She exuberates such warmth and empowerment. Thank You for such beautiful pearls of wisdom.

[@jmabraham22]

God knows I needed this, right now today! Thank you

[@tinachristine4573]

The ego can never be satisfied. Thank you for this. Lately I've been feeding my ego and it's not pretty.

[@talisiaross5405]

Day 3 and I needed to hear ALL of this as I begin to pick up the pieces of my life! It’s funny how my breakup had taught me sooooooo much about myself! And while the pain is gutrenching, I am going to be alright! I’ve learned and accepted that the relationship was seasonal and the lessons it was supposed to teach me! I’ll cry but they are definitely healing tears! This video was right on time as I was already journaling this morning!!!

[@trina2thfari]

Yes, came home from work one day to empty house and empty bank accounts. He took the dog the boat and the keys to our storage rooms. We have been the back and forth story for 3 years. Tired of being tired and lonely. Time .....

[@chelsealynn3814]

I had to take some deep breaths cause that's some real stuff right there! My love goes deep and now I know I deserve to give it to myself first.

[@joannasaad298]

Thank you so much for this Ms. Iyanla 💜 as always the advice is exactly what I needed to hear.

[@jj-2223]

This is so powerful it spoke to me in a way I could not find in all my youtube video watching and google search reading 🤦🏾....Thank you Iyanla! Thank You.

[@blondiemarian2109]

I love you❤. The best advice I have ever received. No one has ever helped this way, not even my family or friends. The why always makes me crazy and you helped me to release it and stay away from anger. Taking the love I have for someone who loves me no more and giving it to myself really made a difference. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart!!!

[@kayalex83]

Wow!! This is heavy, you're right it's not for the faint pc heart. This touched me to the core. I really one mistake I made was not putting space between us after the break up. I don't know why if I just wanted to still have some connection, he didn't give me the space, but I didn't ask. It's been 3yrs this last time around. I've been putting in the work, healing myself and channelling my every and love towards me. My lesson from this is I won't give it anymore energy. Stop trying to want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. I have too much to offer, and now I know, that he wasn't worthy of me. God bless you Iyanla, you break it down precisely.

[@sbusisiwelinshaba7841]

Miss Iyanla thank you for your powerful words, they are healing and helpful. I have been left too and i can relate with that pain of i cant breathe kind of pain, of my friends getting tired of hearing me talk about it, and asking myself and them if i would ever get over it. i hear of others who havent gotten over a person after months, even years and i didnt want it to be me. I was angry, hurt and bitter and i wnated to scream out loud and i cried my lungs out and one day i asked him why and he told me why and your right it didnt make me feel better, i felt like i was getting dumped all over again i cried. I read somewhere about feeling the pain and letting go so i tried that, then i did things to get myself distracted i focused more on achieving my goals and prayer. I forgave myself and stopped blaming me and him for evrything that happened, i let go of hope and expectations that he would come back. My best friend told me "hey you still got your first love and thats you", thats me, I cut off all communication with him, now i able to go an entire day without thinking of him, i am able to smile and laugh genuinely, ofcourse there still those moments now and again but am healing and i refuse to want or chase someone who does not want me!! i refuse!! God bless you miss Iyanla for this video it has given me more courage and am sure me and many others out there, thank you again.

[@sexybatch21robinson70]

same with me

[@kimpayne8869]

So glad I found this lady, just listening, is helping, thank you

[@israelitequeen86]

Just started listening to your life lessons and I'm sooo thankful for your words of wisdom. I been hurting for years and finally took the stand to let go of a person. That love was draining my energy. Letting go already made me feel better and hearing you confirms that I made the right decision. Time for me to love and heal myself.