Are You Living in CHAOS? Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome!

[@chloe-d5h9y]

Rewatching after yesterday's tea time- I cried the first time I watched it and I cried again now. Everyone who has been lucky enough to stumble across Flylady knows the feeling of relief when you start this process. How desperate you are before you find Flylady, how depressed you are and how frustrated you are with yourself. I remember how silly I felt cleaning my sink when there was so much else to do, but I decided to try it anyway as what I'd been doing hadn't been working! I cried as I scrubbed, ashamed of the stains and the piles of dishes. Once I was done, I stood back proud and amazed at how much better my kitchen looked. The next morning I woke up feeling ahead instead of behind ❤ that boosted my confidence and bit by bit I added more habits till I could have guests over! At that time I was a young mother living in a not very nice apartment in a really not nice area. I had such little confidence that the first time I went to a mum and baby group I walked past it 3 or 4 times before I had the courage to go inside. I made lovely friends there but I was still ashamed, what would they think of me and my home? With Flylady's I cleaned, fluttered and decluttered until I felt ready to have people over. My area and apartment block may not have been nice, but my home was a cosy haven I could be proud of. Through every up and down since then ( about 10 years ago) Flylady has been there to guide me back up when I'm falling 💜💜💜

[@MataH1]

That's the first one I look at of her, I hope they are not all about a sugar song and a few photos!!? 😳 Will give it another go because someone recommended it to me but so far I'm not impressed.

[@anyat686]

@@MataH1 unfortunately she’s not great on the videos. But there are loads of other KZbinrs that do Fly lady system. They are the fly lady’s rules for the systems. Try A slob comes clean and Diana in Denmark. You should really give it a go. Very worthwhile. I wish someone would take this lady’s videos and advise her how to do them better. She would then have a million subscribers. It’s kinda like her followers can explain the system better than she does. I’m just not into the waiting and singing or the praying. I much prefer the doing. Even if it’s only a two minute video. But oh how it’s change my life this lockdown! Thank you flylady !😍

[@MataH1]

@@anyat686 thanks, good feedback, I'll give it another go (much needed). 😊

[@anyat686]

@@MataH1 it’s actually “the secret slob”

[@TheFLYLADY]

Now you have me crying!

[@everaymitchell4100]

This woman Marla Ciley changed my life when I was about to give up hope on my home and myself.I was overwhelmed and Marla became my cheerleader and my inspiration.I trust God my family and husband will also start supporting me in this,but until then I,m shining my sink and it makes me smile every time.

[@ronnalambeth6226]

💕💕❤❤

[@akmediascope]

I just pulled everything out of my car-- horrible stuff , rotting and broken stuff . I stopped and call my daughter and she told me to find your website . I did not even know how bad my car was and it is my business delivery car. I am crying a little because the shame hurts but your message of hope helps so much and lets me know my tears are valid-- I have a plan

[@michellegibson1933]

I cried when I saw this video...I am not alone and their is hope.

[@ronnalambeth6226]

Amen I did the same thing but now it's such a wonderful blessing 💕💕

[@miamay8069]

Me too. I feel like in running in circles. Getting nothing done. I get so overwhelmed and depressed I just watch KZbin and escape. But not I have fly lady. I’m hopeful again.

[@sylacaugachildhood]

I actually appreciate this encouragement... my house depresses me and I'm so overwhelmed, that before I start I give up somedays

[@lindahill1199]

One good thing about FlyLady is she's here every day for encouragement to keep you on task. We're all in the same boat and try to encourage each other. Give it a try...

[@h_sth_r6942]

13 years ago… And i’m going through exactly this for over a year now. I’m 28 and feel like a failure for not being able to keep my household up. This video helps. I hope you’re better now! ❤️

[@Onecocco]

Thank to you FlyLady, I've been flying with you since 2009. You are Mom to me, love you !!!

[@pistolannie0714]

I am a fairly new fly baby. This video is very inspirational! My life is chaos my house is chaos. The other day I looked out the window and saw a very dear friend of mine WALKING UP THE DRIVEWAY! I literally started to cry. My house was disgusting. My kitchen a TOTAL mess. My bathroom DISGUSTING! This is a very DEAR friend who has a cleaning business. She knows my problem because we used to barter hair cuts/color for cleaning services. I am a hairdresser.. When she went thru my house I was watching. How does she do this? She had a SMILE on her face her rubber gloves on. We turned up the Yacht Rock radio station on Sirius XM 70s music. And as I helped tidy up we had a BLAST! She moved further away and dont see her as much but she was "in the neighborhood" and stopped by to "say hello". UGH I was SO ASHAMED! I've been like this my whole life. ADD/DEPRESSION which has gotten worse since I lost my 24yo son to addiction 3 years ago. I started seeing things piling up. There was a path for me to walk thru to get into a bed that was piled with stuff. I started to see a future hoarder in me! I found the Fly Lady. I started getting emails I watch your videos. You understand us! You speak with so much kindness. I'm starting to speak that way to myself. I deserve a house that can have people stop buy and that I CAN BE PROUD OF! Well my friend did indeed use my bathroom that day. Never so embarrassed in my life. But its improving. My morning dressed to shoes swish and swipe dishes routine is a big help. My timer is set for 15 minutes at a time. I am so sad that my sons (and ex husband) dealt with this. I knew they deserved a neat clean house, but never kept it all together! Thank you so much for your help! God bless you! ❤

[@mikaelavalete870]

It’s never to late to start again! God bless you!

[@kellieduke1002]

love this video - it reminds me that I am not alone when feeling overwhelmed by the house work.

[@melissawarner2466]

Her message is one of hope. If you are down and depressed about the CHAOS in your home, this simple video can instill some hope and encouragement that number 1 you are not alone and number 2 you can accomplish anything a little bit at a time. Not to mention it gives a simple starting point when you don't know where to begin. I have issues with clutter, too much on my schedule and getting overwhelmed with wanting to get it all done at once but not having the time to do it all at once. I have returned again and again to my sink as a starting point when life has gotten overwhelming and I feel like I will drown in the mess of my home. Just doing this one simple task; cleaning my sink, gives me the clean focal point to encourage me to keep moving. But don't forget to take breaks too...I plan 15 minute breaks during every hour of housework. Sometimes it is just to sit down and read a book or go outside and walk on my porch and enjoy nature.

[@drpaddi]

Thank you so much for your kind words Melissa. You did a great job explaing how the heart of the system works. (FlyCrew member Paddi)

[@Lorgayle1]

I cried watching this! The hope of living this way is so lovely! I can't wait to be healed.

[@mmcgarryful]

Anyone with a negative comment simply DOES NOT get it, or FlyLady. Check out her site before you judge!! This woman has saved my life and the lives of many, many, MANY other people!! And the song is NOT sappy!! It is inspirational and motivational and Amy Lacey is stupendous!!

[@banana.blossom]

I am in tears! My prayers were answered as I found this video and now know that I am not alone. Thank you! Thank you! 😍

[@IamSnowbird]

I'm starting, taking baby steps. I shined my sink and then decided it looked so good I would empty the dishwasher, load the dirty dishes into it, empty the dish rack and clean the counters. Maybe a little more than baby steps, lol. I really felt motivated. Thanks.

[@shepaluteprez]

Cleaning your sink until it shines is doing something good for yourself and taking the small amount of time to enjoy something beautiful that you've created and maintained. I believe it does have to do with a person's spirituality or whatever you want to call that place inside that shines, too, when you know that your sink is shining back at you. When you have been living in depression and guilt and feel overwhelmed, the simple task of creating one clean and shining thing in your life is hope.

[@lindahill1199]

I TOTALLY AGREE! I love Flylady and am so happy I have found her website. Just one little shiny sink gave me the inspiration to continue on and keep on trudging.

[@MeShelRenee1]

We all Love you too Flylady! Thank you for helping us find our way out

[@angryoldman9140]

I always come back to this video when I need encouragement from Flylady. She is the real “fairy godmother” all of us women need.

[@lawaincooley6788]

Maybe it is because I am pregnant but this made me cry!! I've been studying your ways Flylady!! I'm getting much better!! Life in our home is much more peaceful and I don't feel so overwhelmed! I am tackling more clutter with my extra time. I am getting my children in the habit of helping to clean up their own things and toys. Life is feeling blessed!!! Thank you!!!!

[@susansauls8902]

Beautiful FlyLady Marla! I love that smiling picture of you at the end. Thank you for blessing us all with your encouragement.

[@lindahill1199]

I TOTALLY ENJOYED this video! It was so encouraging and at times funny. I've been to her website and starting her program, it has given me much inspiration knowing I can do it with just baby steps. She started just like you and I, totally in chaos in need of help. I think we all need to support each other in our messes and be a cheerleader for each other. 5 min of cleaning or decluttering is better than nothing. Loved this video, I know exactly why she put it out there. And for anyone annoyed about the babies butts in the sink, lighten up. Brought back old days for me and my sisters because we had to bathe in the sinks being a young child and also sitting on the washing machine when we moved into a different house. If you dare to have an open mind find her website, she's quite helpful and motivating!! Have a beautiful day,

[@jenniferchase4310]

I've really made it a priority throughout my day to keep my sink empty by loading the dishwasher as I go thru my day. At the end of the day I start it and when I wake up while making coffee I u load it. It doesn't take long now as the dishwasher isn't stuffed to capacity trying to fit several days of dishes in. I love this system. I don't dread cooking anymore. A dirty kitchen no longer holds a raincloud over my day. It all started with putting my shoes on!😀

[@Me-tl7yi]

You understand me! Love this video even though it made me sad, it was also very motivating. Thank you 🙏

[@noritasorenson8400]

This video is how I will start my day!! When I started reading Flylady I received too many emails and got slightly overwhelmed so I started to cancel but I loved how I felt when I first started, so I was given the option of less emails, like Baby STeps so I signed up just for that and I am back to loving it and before I go to bed my sinks,all of my upstairs sinks and surrounding areas will be clean!! THANK YOU>

[@evaharrison9863]

This was so special to me today! Thank you for helping me change my life.

[@h_sth_r6942]

Keep going! ❤ One day at a time.

[@galememeeof6688]

This is exactly how I feel about my house. My 6 kids are grown and 5 have moved on and I'm a widow. I just ordered your book. You seem like a nice person with great ideas. I forgot, I'm also disabled. This really makes me sound old. Then why do I have so much "kid's stuff" everywhere. lol I think I might have made this comment already, it sounds familiar and I fell asleep watching FLYLADY last night. Looking forward to watching your videos and thanks for making the comment about not having to catch up now that I see the first one was 10 years ago! I'd love to have the holidays at my house this year but it is in "CHAOS".

[@lynnsoccasionalcookies]

Wow that was a great production for a sink! Really enjoyed it and the pictures of the little ones were so cute!

[@teacupjojo7437]

Oh my gosh, this video may not be a how to, but is definitely a CAN DO. The song was overwhelmingly encouraging and I am definitely clinging on for a brighter tomorrow. Thank you x

[@avantgarden2438]

I'm a secret slob and I only clean the house when I have visitors 😬 Thank God I found your channel! Thank you! I'm starting my FlyLady journey today!

[@TheFLYLADY]

You don’t have to live in CHAOS! Take babysteps! The new habits will stick!

[@lynettea2920]

I've just done mine. Thank you so much. Has given me hope and inspiration to keep going. Love from the UK

[@cozzyk]

Each day I get more things done. I tackle some little thing and inspires me to do more. It does all start wth a shiny sink! Anyone can do it.

[@faithingod2457]

I am no longer living in CHAOS thanks to your presentation and caring heart. God Bless You!

[@AROMAULTIMATHULE]

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! My dearest Flylady! You have changed my life!!! I love you!!!

[@JewelBlueIbanez]

Finally, a realistic video. I have a small kitchen and no dishwasher, so it doesn’t take much for dirty dishes to pile up.

[@blayze1114]

Thank you, FlyLady! While I didn't like the song very much (lol), I totally appreciated the sentiment. I have been cleaning my sink for two weeks and it feels SO GREAT to wake up to that!

[@DabbyBug]

You are such an inspiration to me. Chaos is no way to live!

[@corine1014]

Thank you FlyLady! I'm going to start now :)

[@Cheleartsanddesigns]

you don't need any chemicals, grab a sponge, wet it and dip in in a bowl of baking soda, once rinsed rub some olive oil on a paper towel and that will be some perfect shiny sink =)

[@melissagilbert8558]

I love this video thank you Flylady for all you do for us....

[@sheilahebert6605]

Too bad for the negative folks. They make life sad and miserable for others.♥♥

[@juliekostas7322]

The message is important. It all starts with the mindset that the clean sink gives one when they're overwhelmed. 👍

[@meyshalomisrael9860]

thank you for this reminder - once I used this fly lady way - and it helped me a lot - now - probably I am about to start again

[@lauracragun]

Beautiful video! Music helps the heart. And so do shining sinks ❤️

[@ScarletFaeriewind]

Day 1of the New Year! Time to start with Baby Steps!

[@marydrummond5451]

Thank you Fly Lady ...👁💜👸🏻🧚🏼‍♂️

[@lynnettapierce1741]

I love this video and the message that it shares......hope, faith, baby steps. But the music, while it was beautiful, beautifully sang, and beautiful harmonies, was depressing! This video needs upbeat inspiring music! Just my thoughts.

[@gracefoster4861]

I agree, I had to silence it!

[@tamadonnat.299]

Agree! I had to immediately stop the video. It did not inspire me!

[@phoenixrises1845]

thank you Flylady!!!

[@goldnchocolate]

Yep, me too! My kids had their baths in the kitchen sink until they were about a yr old. So-o-o much easier than using the big tub. Thank you, Fly Lady, for all the encouragements that you give.

[@junebailey9444]

Look this Shiny Sink Video cause of the music Which I been listening to each day. It relaxes you and feel good. Is this one you can purchase?

[@lbinstpaul]

Love it. Thanks Marla!

[@eternalili5301]

This is so inspiring and touching I feel like I am change already

[@jeanettegrisham2361]

I have boxes on top of boxes, dirty dishes, dirty clean clothes, and I've been sick. We just won our case to keep our house... that's why we have so many boxes. My husband tore our carpet out two years ago and the dust and dirt is overwhelming. What do I do first!!!!????

[@paulaw418]

Jeanette Grisham start with the smallest easiest room. Even if it's just the guest bathroom. As a recovering hoarder I can say that FINISHING one room gives you an immediate feeling of accomplishment that you want to keep on feeling. Then when doing a bigger room, when you get overwhelmed go back to that tiny but shiny sparkling room and sit in it for a few minutes. Just to get that feeling back. Instead of tackling your entire kitchen at once, start with cleaning the sink and then under the sink. Before moving onto the rest of the room. Good luck.

[@briannab5296]

what a BEAUTIFUL song! brought tears to my heart & eyes - and i am NOT the teary type ;-)

[@Zoziau83]

And once I have put the dishes on the floor and made my sink shine, what do I do with the dishes ? Keep them on the floor ? Put them back into the sink to make it dirty again ? before being able to shine the sink ; fill the dishwasher; start it; wait until it's finished; empty the dishwasher; fill it again; start it again ; it takes two or three hours, then it is time to prepare the next meal, and you need the sink to rince vegetables, to put into the knife and the bowl used (DW is running !)

[@arielmermaid8785]

I love the song and I have just shined 3 sinks

[@rodjiejohnson9352]

I have water, bleach and a lil soap in the sink. I still need to go clean, but I don't feel like doing it! I need big help!

[@kateelizabee]

I never really thought about it, but my mother did it with us, so I'll probably do it too. I think it's safer than doing it in a large, grown-up size tub, and there's no cost like there is buying a baby bath.

[@mnhsty]

I'll need to buy a new sink if it is ever to shine.

[@nomadicwmn6073]

How is it a clean sink video can make me cry? 🤧

[@ronnalambeth6226]

I agree 💕💕

[@ernietollar407]

nice words and photos thanks... I myself had to mute volume of video and viewed more happily w'/ silence or other music

[@ginnydoll0703]

I thought this video would show the steps you take to shine your sink. I'm looking for a video demonstrating how you shine your sink. I have a new IHSS Provider who needs to learn the steps is how to do this, I'm unable to show or walk him through how it's done myself. Videos with music, & various other messages outside the actual steps confuses him

[@MommaKnows]

Come on, many of you are taking this much too seriously. I love the corniness of the video. Just takes us to the humble place to start and the victory of a clean sink. We are all the same when we are in need of FlyLady accountability

[@ixiasantiago6447]

I love it!!! Thank you!!!

[@ymaeder]

So for now I'll just keep cleeeeeaniiiing... #misheardlyrics :-D

[@johnroekoek12345]

3:23 I heard this too 😄 0:49 Today my heart is SINKing

[@jeikas1092]

love this song!

[@doubledancer]

@Brittanyblh Every journey begins with just one step--- whatever your journey might me. . For you, shining your sink might not be the first step in a journey you long to take--- your path may not be the path of the householder... But, I'll bet there is something you long to do- and that you will find the first step that will help you get there.

[@elenabobkova2296]

very motivating, thank you

[@sophiamartel7497]

i needed this

[@miazagora]

@MsAvignon I always used the sink for bathing the kids when they were babies. A lot safer than the big tub, and saves your back as well. The little sprayer comes in handy, too. If you're a germaphobe, a little sprinkle of Comet and elbow grease after baby's bath does the job. :)

[@GospelTruth37059]

When I went looking for tips to polish sinks I didn't know Id find such enthusiasm hahahaha. Thanks I needed that hahahaha

[@Elias_-_-]

Thank you ❤️🥰

[@hpyrkh3]

@revoloveution I remember in The Beautiful Mind movie, John Nash was bathing his baby in a tub, so I think bathing babies in a sink is not a must in America. Although, I was surprised to see babies in a sink as well, because i'm also from Europe. Oh btw, John Nash almost drowned the baby.

[@lilylangman5620]

Such a beautiful song!

[@TheFLYLADY]

Thank you

[@mln56100]

I love this CD!

[@MarianaLopezz]

there's also a "light" version :)

[@TBTnightcore]

Whats this song called? its so pretty. And thanks so much on the tips :)

[@penny7537]

Where's the fly lady book so us slower folks can follow along

[@stmargaret33]

😮😮😮😮 Thank you! I just discovered you!

[@UFOCrochet]

It's so nice to know I am not the oy one with floor dishes from time to time

[@sylacaugachildhood]

@JesusOurSalvation thank you for sharing.. I appreciate it.

[@patriciasnodgrass6697]

That was beautiful and inspiring, thank you.

[@rhoyost]

I love the light version. Only 1 email a day to get me started on task. :)

[@robindikos8937]

Love the song!

[@dorothybennett6596]

Thank you x

[@pegggy4b]

Nice song, and video but I genuinely thought the words of the song were "for now I'll just keep cleaning" 😂

[@sallychewter264]

THIS WORKS!

[@cocoajo]

I am watching with the sound off as well. The song makes me want to jump off I-285! LOL

[@sherrymurkland606]

Just love this song 🎶 ❤

[@annalauryn966]

Ok so I habe questions about shoes. We absolutely do not wear shoes inside my house. So how does that work

[@TheFLYLADY]

You get a pair of shoes that you only wear in the house!

[@majdanej5208]

thank you from morroco

[@TomlinsTE]

Who told you about my sink? We don't wear shoes in the house in Hawaii. Maybe I can put some slippers on to be fancy.

[@bluewaterdesignstudiosllc2647]

I don't agree with the bleach. Bleach is so destructive to clothing that I don't use unless absolutely necessary. I have a SS sink and Bar Keepers Friend by far cleans my sink beautifully and there are no stains on my clothes.

[@charlottecooke9735]

Great videos 👍

[@ЮлияМ-ъ5в]

Ну почему , почему , почему я так плохо знаю английский😒 книгу читала, все русские форумы изучила, хочу смотреть в оригинале👆хоть бы где с русскими субтитрами найти. Девочки русскоязычные, может подскажете если есть такое где, буду благодарна😘 обожаю эту систему, супер, большое спасибо!!!!!!!!👍😘😘😘💋

[@LifeAdventureswithMichelle]

Aww. Super!!!

[@madammartini]

lol I love the picture with the kitty sitting in the sink. He's looking up and saying, "What? You made this space for me to sit in, right? I mean seriously, look at it! I fit here so perfectly!" lol

[@ibbiwho]

I have just recognised my kitchen in the starting pics hahahhahaha

[@lindahill1199]

Me too!!

[@LoganWandell]

I actually liked this video! No offense, but I had to watch the video with the sound off, it was too "girlie" for me...LOL! Thanks for posting it though... I'm inspired to make my own routine video.......................... maybe??

[@starrlight2367]

That title has all sorts of possibilities. A sappy song isn't one of them.

[@snowsamurai00]

@canadaeast How? That was really random/trolling of you. I used to be an Athiest too, so don't think I'm faulting you for that.

[@ramonamcdowell2813]

Harley is telling his stories. I have 2 storytellers. They write their stories on the inside of my car's windows

[@Cheleartsanddesigns]

I'd suggest that you learn how to pack your DW very efficiently, you should NEVER need to start it twice after a meal, or a day unless it's an occasion. I often repack my DW after my partner is done with it, and I can rearrange and add twice as much stuff. If done right, we don't have to start it everyday. you'd feel less overwhelmed if it was a one time thing.