Are You Ready for Marriage? (1950) Part Two

A short film

[@eldar600]

these 1950's educational movies are good !

[@margolou2010]

I noticed. But as a whole this video is one of the more intelligently done in that time period. Very wise advice, and it mirrors what I'm studying in Social Psychology, that people are attracted to those with similar interests and values.

[@junkboxxxxxx]

In the meantime Larry, use your left hand to make yourself go BOINGGG

[@Salamon2]

I'll agree that the idea of longer engagements sounds like a better idea than the "boing" that goes on nowadays.

[@margolou2010]

I like the fact that he's helping her with children and chores. This is a much more progressive video than some I've seen.

[@Salamon2]

Well she's the one actually taking the thought seriously. Larry, is just staring blankly and the thought isn't really registering--which in and of itself says a lot.

[@nebslie]

"Consider how often you think about yourself, and What *I* Want..." * zoom in on the woman*

[@50zcarsman]

This is a darned good film -- with a message as fully as applicable today as it was then. After WWII, the average marryin' age for white working- and lower-middle-class women was 19, IIRC, and some got hitched as young as 16 (14 wasn't unheard-of in Appalachia). Middle class+ tended to delay until a couple of years of higher ed were achieved. With less labor-saving gear and old-fashioned notions about putting in 8 for 8's pay, and little social safety net, a young couple could have it tough.

[@SteveCarras]

I like the way they speak in those days..

[@paisleypeach44]

All about selflessness and having the same Philosophy of what a marriage should be.

[@seraphim196]

despite this is from the 50's it's spot on. What is the rush to get married when you're young and be married after only a year of engagement?? I agree that longer engagements to figure out the ups and downs of a relationship will end up in a longer marriage. I mean why become in debt from a wedding at the age of 20? Use that money for school, traveling, for being 20!

[@RoalDeePR]

If you can wait for almost two years. All I'm saying it is better to marry than to burn in passion!

[@MelanieLouM]

Sue went to State U, met a "James Dean" type of guy while she was there...left Larry and lived life on the wild side...Larry died a lonely, bitter old man! ^_^

[@eldar600]

wow i like the physiological chart ! something to think about

[@hhvelasq]

The counselor is Michael Schumacher's American uncle.

[@margolou2010]

This actually is less mysogynist than some others I've seen. At least it portrays him helping her with dishes. As was pointed out, it does zoom in on her when he discusses depersonalization, but the rest of it contains much common sense, that couples need to reduce the psychological distance between them and start out with similar values and interests ... otherwise, they are merely "playing house" and their relationship is doomed to failure.

[@petfaxmachine]

I was engaged for 2.5 years, and I thought that was ridiculously long. I guess that was the norm back then?

[@Khloe_dancer_model]

Wow,even if this video is from the 50's,i like it.Nobody thinks in these things anymore,you know...slow down and THINK.Marriage is sacred.You are not supposed to do it for money or any other reason than just to BE with that person.

[@lawshorizon]

Marriage is a complete gamble. There are no rules or ways to guarantee anything - if there were, it would have been figured out by now, and we wouldn’t have such big break-up and divorce rates these days. Because life moves faster now, mentalities, values, and interests can change faster then in the 1950’s. Good video, though - something to think about.

[@megaswenson]

Well, at least they're telling kids to marry their own race, religion, and social class (in a roundabout kinda way). Even then, I guess they couldn't come right out and say that, no matter how important it really is.

[@eldud00]

Such a cheesy film, but very very logically correct. They make things so simple and fake, but who am I to talk sense this was in the past not like todays relationships. Same problems different title.

[@toyrocketastronaut]

Today's relationships suck in comparison, I think they got it right back then.

[@kimmariebimmarie]

Maybe if people actually took it slow nowadays they might actually end up staying married!

[@heavym3tal]

@ThatSmartHotGuy Did you tell that to your invisible wife?

[@IwillKillYourCereal]

the average marrying age for women was about 20-21 in the 50's

[@tackyman2011]

Dabney Coleman @ 5:34

[@theboombody]

@seraphim196 But when I was 20 I didn't do anything except go to the gym. And I don't even do that anymore.

[@Cangeltibon]

....shouldn't you be real friends before you get engaged? Also background sounds like racism, classisim with a dash of sexism. You should know yourself, your partner and have an idea of your shared future before engagement much less marriage ever enters your mind.