Are YOU the Problem in Your Relationships? (Watch This)

[@nicolaandrews2402]

You're not loud. You're exciting... which in turn makes me excited to listen

[@Sultan88888]

YOUR soulmate is NOT married. NEVER hook up with a married person. No matter what their marital issues are. They are STILL married. Would YOU want someone to go after YOUR spouse? Then don’t do it to someone else.

[@WVgrl59]

Sometimes when you're young you are not thinking with the right part of your body.

[@jtlegionnaire6310]

She cheated with you, and then cheated on you? I'm shocked, shocked I tell you!

[@jtlegionnaire6310]

PS I'll never feel sorry for cheaters, and those who cheat with married people.

[@TheDriller100]

🤡🤡😂😂😂right

[@staleydu1]

@@jtlegionnaire6310 Which is fine, but this guy is a real person, acknowledged his errors. I have a lot of compassion for that.

[@Buchananmtrspts]

I think he's learned the hard way, cut the poor guy some slack!

[@jtlegionnaire6310]

@@Buchananmtrspts cut him slack, he was a homewrecker with another guys wife! lol

[@PBR.StreetGang948]

"This is a tools issue; not a character issue." Felt that in my soul...

[@lisarivera4730]

Narcissist follow the same cycle over and over again

[@krsmedley]

My heart breaks for the lady, pregnant, struggling with her current kids, and recently losing their home. That’s soooo much to deal with at once. I’m so sorry you have that much stress on your plate. Stay strong! I also will no longer yell at my child. Thank you Dr. John.

[@ivnehaas]

Every child deserves a mother, but not every mother deserves children. Good luck to this beautiful man, I hope to find a high quality, family devoted man to grow old with!

[@katedurr9160]

Poor man. One can judge him but he seems sincere. I think he has a good heart. We all fall short in different ways.

[@andreabrunkow9314]

Yeah.... Just don't "fall short" with someone else's spouse.

[@dianac6250]

Dr . John, don’t change! We love your personality!

[@aleksandrabarbina4691]

My thoughts exactly!

[@amsterdamblondie7610]

Agreed!!!

[@lavernemusic]

Your personality and advice is why we are here...

[@urbansurvivor360]

I had to leave a gambling addict I was utterly heartbroken over him. My rule now is absolutely no addicts of any kind whatsoever.

[@brandyk]

Yes it's a tools issue unless they refuse to get new tools from the hardware store n or learn how to use them from a counselor, trusted friend or family member or podcaster, then it's a character issue.

[@saywhatnow57]

This man needs to realize that he doesn't have the biggest mess by any stretch. Dysfunctional families are not that rare. And John's answer is spot on. This guy's gotta make today the day he lets it all go, recognize what is great in his life, and move forward.

[@thekezzey95]

I immediately thought of the episode where the husband called in about his son trying to kill his wife (the son's mom.) That sounds worse to me. But being in the middle of this situation, I am sure, is very overwhelming and feels like the end of the world. I feel for him.

[@mariahconklin4150]

Exactly! He seems so sweet and I'm hoping he finds someone new.

[@javaskull88]

I think that’s a clue to how isolated he is. If work is his only social outlet, then he’s getting a false picture of humanity. He needs to connect with people, really connect on a deep level, with people outside of work. Maybe it’s through church, or AlAnon (if alcohol is involved), or Parents Without Partners, but here’s the thing - it needs to be in person, not online. He needs to really see and get to know these people week after week. He needs to break that isolation to get past his self blames and learn how to avoid another woman like this. I hope he does well, he seems like a good guy.

[@SweetEssie]

​@@mariahconklin4150 So sweet that he took a man's wife. She's still married to the husband now and he's just the baby daddy. What a sweet way to create a family

[@daCubanaqt]

Honestly, it’s all relative. Of course there is always something or some situation that is worse. It doesn’t make it any less worse to the person experiencing the situation. The caller will eventually figure it out, but to him right now it’s a mess.

[@junkmail9190]

OMG people NEED to go to therapy before having children. Broken people are raising broken adults.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Since the beginning of time… until the end.

[@MistyEry]

Everyone has brokenness in some area. Sometimes trauma happens in the thicke of having children, other times you don’t realize you have trauma until after you have children. It’s about working through it, not avoiding it.

[@a.b.2850]

Not all. For many of us, they are why we get help and become ourselves better.

[@HeidisHereAndThere]

😂Imagine being told this back 100 years ago...🙄 They wouldve laughed in your face!! Its called LIFE! SUCK IT UP, BUTTERCUP! 💪

[@user-jk4jj4nm1q]

​@@HeidisHereAndThere Yeah, it's life. Life that you put someone who didn't ask for it in. The least you can do is try to understand yourself before trying to raise someone else.

[@larissagonzales6075]

Michael got a big taste of karma. You don't pursue a married woman period. She is a liar and a cheater why would you think she would stick to you only?

[@angelesgutierrez8912]

Best comment also

[@Xorgye]

Because he didn't think that. He was lonely and he loved the idea that he was so special and 'not like that other guy'. Its a sad world, everyone lost here.

[@DaleRFetz]

How does a married woman get pregnant several times with a man who's not her husband?

[@temposhop8739]

​@@Xorgyeyep. Now their kids are going to be part of the wheel that keeps turning. I hope he's able to resolve his own pain and shift his focus to the kids, rather than seeing himself as a good dad while chasing the ghost of their mother.

[@andreabrunkow9314]

Yup. Actions really are a language.

[@DragonForceSGG]

She gave him two wonderful kids, now its time take care of them. Single dads can still be a solid foundation if they are serious about it.

[@BrotherhoodWorkshop]

"I'm a quiet guy" - every loud person ever.

[@ekatrinya]

The most dramatic, extroverted person I know is always calling herself a shy introvert

[@kellibuzzard9431]

😂

[@marissa7459]

Yep. It’s a bit too much like calm down this is a serious show. It’s not party time. God bless his wife for being able to deal with that everyday.

[@verykimberly]

“This is a tools issue, not a character issue.” Such a powerful statement, Dr. John! 🙌

[@sammybam77]

This is how I feel like I don't have the tools to regulate my emotions and deal with the chaos appropriately. I didn't have post pardom but I relate to this woman so much. That's why I am in counseling and enrolled in a parenting class so I can be better

[@Jazminksie]

Rooting for you Sammy! Me too.

[@sammybam77]

@@Jazminksie thank you

[@JJtvee]

John you got to where you are by being yourself! Never change.

[@3roachkidsdhe]

He seems like he is a great dad!!! I’m glad the kids will have consistency with at least one stable figure in their life.

[@cassandrad831]

In these situations, remember one golden rule if you find yourself there: how you get them is how you lose them. I hope he will be ok ❤.

[@brightpage1020]

Loved this guy’s “ok” after Dr. Delaney told him his dad left because of problems in his dad - not him - and that this lady stepped out because of problems in this lady, not him. He’d seemed desperate - like in despair until that “ok”. You could tell Dr. D. Really got through to him there. Even his voice sounded stronger with more conviction and confidence after that in this call. His vocal chords stabilized. Nice work. That “ok” was him accepting permission to take the focus off his girlfriend, off the mess, and out it onto himself, and it gave him choices - options suddenly seemed to open up for him. Dr. Deloney didn’t minimize his pain, he acknowledged the validity of the mess, the depth - out of compassion - but he wouldn’t let this guy stay there in pain. This is a beautiful call. What a brave soul. I hope he find the support he needs to get through this with those kids, and that it winds up for the best for the three of their family from here in our, whatever shape that family might take, so all can get healthier and stronger from it. Cheers.

[@csleung444]

It was a beautiful call! When someone with so much talent (Dr D) and someone who is going thru the worst moment of his life can find each other, its beautiful to watch. And it teaches us how we can have the honor to be there for someone in our own lives at their most critical moment and hopefully help them find peace and their next steps.

[@Silirion]

I have been with a woman that made me feel like Michael describes What she made him feel. She wasnt married, my one, but she had a past with broken, terrible relationships. Thinking Id be one that fit in her life, I got tossed around and was left completely confused with a big aching wound. Thank goodness Ive managed to keep to myself and stay away from women whilst healing and finding a path and sense of purpose again.

[@jomontanee]

“Is there something wrong with me?” The first caller he is a good guy who screwed up because he has inner child wound. I wanna hug him. And his “fiancé” I can’t judge her from the radio show but she has the clear “PATTERN” here. SHE DIDN’T FACE HER MARRIAGE PROBLEMS, SHE CHOSE TO “CHEAT”.

[@sarahhunt2376]

The sin of adultery... It always comes full circle...

[@tinam761]

Lainey, I’m glad you came forward for help … your kids also DO NOT deserve this!!!! PLEASE!!!! Do whatever is necessary to protect them … and protect them from you. Get yourself well … the kids just don’t deserve it.

[@debbieherman2410]

Dr. john, Keep yelling. I am a loud talker when I am passionate about a topic. You’re just passionate and it resonates. ❤️.

[@jocelynems5]

What a great guy Michael is..... I'd love to find a man who has that kind of determination to love his kids no matter what and better himself for his and his kids' sake. Way to go Michael!

[@danieldoca7158]

It's actually a lot of us out there. However it seems we all end up with bad women

[@saltandpepperandmint]

@@danieldoca7158Yes sadly ☹️ you guys need to believe in yourself because you deserve the world

[@zeekay3205]

​@@danieldoca7158Same. And the sweetest most giving women end up with abusive men. It's a miracle when they find each other and they make some of the most heartwarming and fiercesome marriages. They make the world a better place, not just by being together, but they're also a team that chooses to spread good everyday.

[@a.b.2850]

@@danieldoca7158then your work isn’t done. You’d be easily able to stay away from all those bad women if you did.

[@funicon3689]

@@danieldoca7158you need to take some accountability. it didnt "end up" this way. you make terrible decisions like the caller.

[@mmbovilladardh]

I went through severe PPD and my firstborn having developmental disabilities. I went through a period when I couldn’t STAND the sight of her at times as ashamed as I am to say it. I realized that I didn’t like myself, I hated myself, my moms abusive screaming had created a horrible inner voice that added to the other layers of my first experience as a mom. It all robbed me of so much. Then best thing I ever did was learn self compassion. Once I was nicer to myself and loved myself and saw myself as more than just good enough - I loved my children and my husband the way they deserved.

[@juliabotros]

Dr. John, you sir are blessed. Much love & admiration. ☺️

[@sarahbelo8891]

Lainey, every mom can relate to this on some level. You are amazing for acknowledging the problem and wanting to fix it. I struggle with this same thing sometimes. Celebrate your small victories in your good reactions and dont give up!

[@sakurisake4201]

Cheaters bring it on themselves. No point in having a blow out fight when the cheater fucks up first. If the woman already had a bad track record than why even consider dating or getting engaged to her? Both are the blind leading the blind. Obvious red flags when a woman cheats on her hubby with you and you become cheated on.

[@genxx2724]

The bad language is not appropriate here.

[@starlingswallow]

Laynie, I just want to hug you ♥️ I was neglected as well, my parents were working all the time and I felt like (what I remember) the attention I got was a lot of reprimanding for being too loud, not doing chores right, etc. I was spanked, knocked on the head, pulled into a room by my ear... It hurt that little girl in me so badly. I'm 41 and I'm finally getting out of this "Something is _wrong_ with me" attitude and talk in my head. You can do this! Get some help and get your daughter help too...you are *WORTH* giving that little hurting girl inside of you some comfort and help. I'm praying for your house situation, jobs, marriage, connection with your kids (and the baby on the way💕) ....many are standing with you, dear stranger-friend! Big, BUG internet hugs!!!!🤗🤗

[@kimberlymorrison4880]

I'm in line just like you. Married 11 years, husband adopted my biological kids. Biological dad an alcoholic. Husband has Bipolor undiagnosed until 4 years ago. So much damage has been done. Gotta pull my big girl pants up, get therapy for my kids and move forward. Good luck

[@fionared8240]

Do you take any accountability that you choose bad men?

[@kimberlymorrison4880]

@@fionared8240 Absolutely!!! I've been in therapy trying to find out "why my picker is so bad".

[@christinamartinez8132]

My mom is a narcissist and in therapy, my therapist told me the guys I pick are narcissists and they shared the same characteristics as my mom. Mind-blowing, let me tell you. ​@@kimberlymorrison4880

[@AN-jw2oe]

I agree with Dr. Jordan Peterson… he says, don’t allow your children to become people you don’t like. If a parent does not like their children who are on the older side (meaning, not infant), I think often times it is related to their own failings at drawing and enforcing proper boundaries for their behavior. Also, I know she does not want to implement negative consequences in order to not make her kids fear her, but she is sadly blind to the fact that her constant anger and yelling is much more fear-inducing than any negative consequences that she could put into effect. The big difference between John’s daughter and Lainey’s daughter is that John’s daughter declines politely without any resentment or animosity, but it sounds like Lainey’s daughter does not ever have that love and connection with her. HUGE difference, I hope she is able to realize that and take the steps to change her behavior.

[@kristenness6034]

That's what I was thinking. Anger and yelling isn't part of the positive parenting curriculum... So...

[@kita3256]

I’m actually really worried about Lainey’s kids. I’m sorry but their response to their mom is tragic and very telling about what they feel. If she doesn’t change things ASAP and learn new parenting skills (which is ironic because she works in mental health or something like that) if she doesn’t change things fast, she will ruin those kids. I had a mom like Lainey, and it was HELL. And to this day (I’m in my 30s) my mom could care less about changing still. I’ve given up on her being a mom in my life. I disagree with Dr. John when he said that her daughter is just 6 and doesn’t mean anything if she doesn’t want hugs and looks at her with hate. That’s a huge. There is a difference with a child who doesn’t want a hug because they are playing or whatever but when they don’t hug back when you hug them and they look at you with hate. No no no. That little girl is SUFFERING!! Lainey you need help ASAP. For you, your kids, your unborn baby, your husband. You can do it, you are strong. You can do it. Get help. Oh and Apologize to your kids. Own up your terrible behavior and tell them you’re going to do better. You gotta rebuild what you tore down. Your kids will start to heal.

[@paulaqueirosz]

Couldn't agree more

[@anyagee9467]

Agreed. I remember as a six year old not trusting my mother. I just didn't. And now it makes sense. Laine, if you get help first everything else will start falling into place. Please get help. The number one thing I wish was different in my childhood is that I wish my mother was happier. That would've taken off most of the problems of her behaviour...

[@jomontanee]

YOU look at this caller’s problem as the extension of your childhood. You comment from your wounded child’s point of view. Dr.John answered to her as HER problem. That is why you disagree with him. You know what I mean?

[@findingnory]

Why do some moms not get the memo that you give up self once they're born? She calls in crying, but the real victims are her children. Look, I'm sorry you were abused, but now YOU have kids and have become the abuser. I know "abuse" is a strong word, but they need your love right now and you're not giving it to them. What will this relationship be when they are 14, an emotional wreck, and need you the most?! At some point we gotta stop looking for the perfect answers in life and just make sacrifices for one another...especially for our kids and our spouses!

[@kita3256]

@@jomontanee I don’t look at it as an extension. I say this because of experience, and Dr. John helped with his own limitations and expertise but those kids are not ok, and many of us that know that first hand can also give advice, not as an extension but as a help. This mom needs intense help. There might be undiagnosed mental illnesses, like depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, etc… she needs to heal and learn coping mechanisms. But she also needs to know that 6 years old CAN GET TRAUMA FROM HER YELLING, just like she said she felt growing up with her mom. Plus, John was trying to be nice to her because in other calls, he has said it the past that yelling and all that is abuse and causes trauma. I respect Dr. John but I would have been a little bit more brutal and upfront with her.

[@Bryn_G_Mama_of_3]

Thank you so much, second caller, for being so open and honest. I deeply appreciate your courage more than you know (you’ve helped me tremendously, and I just setup an appointment on BetterHelp to help with similar issues you mentioned from your past and present). I’m praying so hard for you that things have gotten much better and turned around ten-fold! Also, congratulations on baby #3!!! 🤗 Hoping you had a healthy baby, that you’re healthy and that your little girl that you spoke about is also doing great. 💝

[@mariemelendez917]

Lainey is just overwhelmed and needs support, Lainey it will get better, the start to fixing a problem is knowing there is one. Your very brave resting out for help.

[@theresaroybal9599]

These kids know their mom doesn’t like them. My mom was the same way and I knew she didn’t like me it was in her body language and just the way she looked at me. When she would try to hug me I knew she was forcing it and I resented her even more for being fake. When my kids were little and I felt myself turning into my mom I went straight to the Dr I was put on lexapro and it changed my life.

[@christinamartinez8132]

You are a very loving and awesome Mom for seeing that about yourself and choosing to seek help. ❤️🙏🕊️

[@marissa7459]

Her kids are screwed. It’s so sad. The daughter is already sexual at 6 and hates her mother. She will seek attention from boys and may end up a teen mom. I hope the entire family gets help. No home baby #3 on the way (why!) and an unstable unhappy mother. What a tragedy.

[@LeahSevier]

OOOOOOFFFF! Dr. John, you really know how to make the tears flow. Blessed to be able to listen to you help people

[@lynnebucher6537]

Laynie, I would advise you to NOT comment to your daughter if she doesn't want to hug back. But keep on hugging her and telling her you love her, and affirm that you think she's wonderful. This is separate from correcting BEHAVIOR. And make sure she knows you want to protect her and it is always ok for her to come to you and ask about anything that's on her mind. And give yourself credit for everything good you've been doing now.

[@kristenfitch9710]

If they will cheat with you they will cheat on you.

[@kyrieteleison3009]

What a heavy day! Praying for all!

[@elizabethjohnting446]

I love the high energy intro don't stop!!🎉🎉🎉

[@truckingwithtobee]

My dad told us all the time he loved us but didn’t like us. My father was also a narcissistic abusive POS. I left home at 15 Watch what you say to your children!!!! Bite your tongue. What you say effects children their ENTIRE life!!!!!!

[@HannahLola-v6n]

Broke my heart when he said is there something wrong with me… or thinking she left because of him. Poor man he is so worthy and I hope he believes that soon

[@msb6337]

Listening from Sweden and I just want to say thank you. I am single mom of 3 girls and you show helps me understand what some situations were and also understanding my ex and his journey as a man. Knowing male vulnerability is life changing 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@fivekfamily]

You are worth being well. Wonky is attractive! Be strong. You got this!

[@musicalatv]

I think it's just that you're excited and when you're excited you talk louder. I can get the same way.

[@SacredBrandStrategy]

She cheated on her first husband, it moved really fast, she seemed perfect. Then she cheated and basically left. He seems like a good person who ran into a narcissist.

[@B1mindLove]

Wow 😢😮 you are so good May God bless your show ❤in Jesus Christ name

[@user-fu3to4vc8d]

Sometimes when I feel overwhelmed with my kids and I want to tell. I just say I love you.

[@jenniferlynn3721]

Yes it’s messy, it’s life, who are we to judge? Lessons: Do not have a love affair with anyone who is still married. Even if the marriage is over. I hope they both get healed. The children require love, and stability.

[@suz7082]

Dr. John - don't change a thing. Your energy and delivery are just perfect!

[@janinevandenheever3898]

My heart is just breaking for you! I am actually crying..... i have been in this situation.

[@djm322]

She needs to be the mother she wanted, not the mother she has/had.

[@sophiaiswisdom1]

Just like adults, many children do not like to show connections through hugging. People in general should not be pushed to express love through the ways they aren't comfortable.

[@gmamose9152]

I can handle happy-type loud voices... you know, like touchdown yelling. I dont like angry yelling and I tend to want to excuse myself, Dr. John, but that's not you. I would say that you are lively and animated, and thats part of what keeps me interested. The other part is the topics and absolute sense you make while counseling others. It helps me too 😀

[@pond9200]

Dr.John, your channel has helped me so much. Thanks for being you and sharing the wisdom.

[@Goddess.Cash7]

My heart goes out to the first caller. I hope he finds the love and happiness that he deserves.

[@theshellest]

(First caller) she cheated to be with you and then cheated on you... DEFINITELY. you should DEFINITELY be shocked. Can't believe someone that has proven to cheat on partners cheated on you as well. Mind. Blown. Common sense is out the window.

[@AllThingsSoul]

Dr. Delony, I like when you yell 😊. Don't change a thing.

[@novocaine09]

Has anyone noticed that as far as relationships go it seems like the 7-year mark is a really hard one to get through for people.

[@himynameiswaylon]

Oh yeah. It's called the seven year itch.

[@novocaine09]

@@himynameiswaylon My ex and I split up after 7 years (also my ex and his wife just split on their 7th year), and now me and my current partner are on our 7th year but it's a completely different landscape for us. We've been able to build a really great relationship , and in our 7th year I would say we are stronger than in the beginning.

[@larissagonzales6075]

on OKCupid literally, people choose the "just want a relationship for several years" choice. People are so insane I don't ever want to be in a relationship.

[@SparkHomeschool]

Our 7th was 2020

[@alqoshgirl]

No, only fools. My husband and I are 7 years married now and we are just getting better and better

[@LOADING...o.o.o]

I cried with the first caller.

[@kendrayahns8125]

Whatever, I LOVE the energy on the show & that you "yell!" Keep being you!

[@christinastoltz2688]

You are loud and that's a good thing it works. When you tried the quiet thing it was boring. I met a woman teaching a psychology class in college that was a therapist in real life that said she found it helpful to talk low and calming to people. She sounded like she was speaking to toddlers. It didn't make me calm at all. It felt patronizing and I was infuriated every time I went to her class.

[@Batirtze-b6x]

Jeez..... What a phonecall. Best of luck to this gentleman. Thank you so much, doc!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@ambersullivan9024]

"There is not an inappropriate curiosity when it comes to their bodies", then "your daughter was sexually assaulted." These comments are conflicting. But I do agree with the, "balance curiosity with behavior."

[@sarahcouture24]

"It's about 15 John" - that was hilarious :)

[@lizaw.7313]

Oh Laynie, sweet mama. Their are so many things we don't talk about these issues enough in motherhood. So many mamas have struggled like you have, you are not alone. Try and tell your kids 5 things per day the things you love about them. Take time outs, as many as you need. Work on one thing at a time, little by little. You all should find a great family counselor together.

[@Mahomesfan615]

I think you are just an excited speaker and it’s totally fine!

[@swayzieandchinita]

So many comments attacking the first caller for being with a married woman. Understandable BUT once you get past that there is a man who was duped, manipulated, and used by this woman. If it was the other way around people would feel bad. I hope he was able to get custody of his kids. That woman sounded like a terrible person and that man just wanted to right all his wrongs. He learned a tough lesson. I hope his kids grow up knowing their dad made mistakes but loves them dearly.

[@blueseptember2174]

There was a call the other way around and people were just as brutal to the woman in his shoes. I believe she miscarried as well if memory serves correct. People don't like it when people cheat but there is redemption for those willing to change❤. Hopefully he moves on from this and doesn't involve himself in anyone's marriage again.

[@ryanbwilkinson89]

Dude was willing to be a home wrecker. Then acts the victim when his home gets wrecked. Birds of a feather flock together and he proved to have low values and principles so he attracted those people. Has a lot of work to do on himself.

[@jocelynems5]

I'm as wonkey as they come.... I love that. We all are! Just do what's right... I love this.

[@katherinebohrer6828]

I agree. John. Great show with great advice that can be applied across the board. Thank you so much for all you do!

[@debbieanderson6740]

I feel for Michael. She said the right things to you..he said the right things to her. Hoping it would work. Concentrate on the kids. Focus. You are their world now.

[@lindafish2789]

John, you are raising people up!

[@stephaniem2743]

Hey, you used that song before! I really liked the show today. You were right, these calls really showed the messiness of life. So many interconnected issues. Thank you for this quality content. You help more than just the callers.

[@joesillamanrs7189]

So she cheated on her then husband with you, and now you got cheated on. Karma. He’ll be ok. DR. John super solid

[@findingnory]

This lady believes that if she shows love randomly one day, her kids need to respond. Consider if you passionately hugged your kids every day? What if you expressed genuine care and affection towards them regularly. Not just once in a while. She knows she's not a good mom and told John her strength is broken. I pray she continues to pursue a solution to her emotional issues until she finds it!

[@maryfrench1940]

thank you for listening.....I appreciate you trying to talk not yelling.

[@codybennett8247]

Laney, (Please forgive me if I misspelled your name) I hope you are doing better. I cannot imagine all the difficult things you have struggled through. As hard as it is, you need to affirm yourself. You are a good mom. You see your deficiencies and you want to change. That is incredible. Never give up on yourself. You do love your kids. You were overwhelmed with past trauma and present trauma. I wish you nothing but the best. It is always ok to get help from others who care such as professional therapists and close friends.

[@germanarovinelli5893]

Great show You softly told a part of my family’s story Stop ~ Feel the loss Own it

[@jocelynems5]

I love the slower, quieter version. It demands attention. And I love giving it.

[@salaltschul3604]

Sorry, Delony. That six year old girl knows mum isn't a safe place for her and the only way she can keep herself safe is by choosing not to engage. She's angry her mum isn't what she needs her to be.

[@braziliannigga]

The first caller is great example of how a karma avalanche builds up. It has already started rolling down the him, smashed him...

[@colleengarcia7752]

Mom their behavior isn’t about you or meant to make you crazy. They are trying to figure out themselves and their place in the world. This is how they are communicating. It isn’t toward her. Pull back and change your perspective. Look at what started the behavior and it’s purpose. Address it from that point of view without anger and emotion.

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

I accept that each of us plays a role in a relationship. I am willing to accept I am at least oner half of the problem. But, I also would rather put my energy towards solving the problem (s0) that placing blame.

[@Luluorange569]

"She's six" is plainly TERRIBLE advice John. I remember my relationship with my mother at six and it very much laid the foundation for our future relationship. Lainey, you need to sort your relationship with yourself out now, as another comment said I remember a parent like you even at six. I have a level of empathy for you as an adult as you are clearly struggling and had to deal with some really difficult circumstances, but listening to John in this regard is setting you up for a fundamental untruth.

[@5thdimensionliving727]

Thank you Dr Delony 👍 brilliant guidance..so on point..I am hoping and praying for the gentleman and his kids 🙏🙏 such a bad, toxic situation. We all make mistakes. That lady is going down a vicious path. Someone connecting with us can be overwhelming but we always try to put our feet on the ground. Maybe the reason why this happened is for that guy to become a good dad out of all of this. 😊 another much better person will come into his life.

[@rachelgooden9981]

My heart goes out to this guy. Wrong woman he ended up with. When he broke down and said he doesn’t know what to do, I’m thinking whoever has him is lucky. He really wants to fix this

[@noahdeets9965]

He took someone else’s wife. Why do you feel bad lol

[@rachelgooden9981]

@@noahdeets9965 true . I’m sure if the husband called in, I would be feeling sorry for him and super annoyed with this guy. Maybe it’s the voice of the caller and how vulnerable he sounds that got me 🙈

[@COINsimp2024]

@@noahdeets9965 he didn't take her, women are good at manipulating men into thinking they are a damsel in distress.

[@goodyangie1]

@@COINsimp2024 I was just about to say this.

[@goodyangie1]

I feel so bad for the first guy. He made a mistake but I wouldn't be surprised if that chick manipulated him so she could get out of her first relationship. His kids will remember him for his strength regardless of his mistakes.

[@hillarybillary21]

You’re delusional. He put his pecker first and got what he deserved.

[@emlylemly9748]

To the second caller, if you want to fix your parenting, that's a pretty sure sign you're a good parent. You want to be better, you are honest about what you are doing wrong, you're on the right path.

[@France149]

Congratulations on your wedding bro 🎉 God bless you neighbor 🙌🙌💜🙏

[@LeaverWild]

YOU’RE NOT THE ONLY ONE LAYNIE! ❤❤❤

[@kristenivory628]

Caller 1- woman probably looks for rich guys or bad guys, took a break with a simp/boring guy wants the excitement back. Women like this exist beware nice guys!

[@larissagonzales6075]

yep she preys on men at work too.

[@JradEasy]

Make sure those kids are yours...

[@kellibuzzard9431]

Dr. John at his best. ❤

[@chippedcup]

What did Micheal expect?

[@javierhuizar4207]

That stealing someone's wife would result in no consequences.

[@TheGreatCheyenne]

Keep your you Dynamic!!!

[@katedurr9160]

Dr Delony! We like that you're a lot!

[@TCAPRecipes]

I wonder how this dude is doing now. We need an update.

[@marisolpooh1]

Prayers for all the callers, specially the last one, it’s hard to loose a loved one to addictions 😔