ARGUMENTS, SECRETS, BREAK UPS, CHILDREN - COUPLES Q&A WITH THE HUSBAND | VLOGMAS WITH VICTORIA

[@Raine278]

I agree about Alex’s talent..... he is so good at what he does and doesn’t realise just how good he is! A very talented couple ❤

[@jojodesrosiers8096]

Alex you should be so proud of yourself. You have accomplished so much. You’re such a wonderful human being. I think you’re well loved by many. Love you to pieces…

[@Missy182]

I have 6.5 years sober. I as well struggle with mental health issues. Getting sober was imperative for my life! Congrats to you Alex. It’s quite an accomplishment

[@mars_1214]

I love how respectful it is Alex of your work and how much you admire his. I feel that in order to have a healthy relationship is better to keep your jobs separate even though you work together. Happy holidays to both.

[@ataylor3955]

My husband and I have been married for 33 years and we have no children. I don’t regret that at all. I love babies but I’m always happy to hand them back. I find it’s other people who have a problem with our decision. I get asked quite often, and when I say we have no children I’m usually met with silence or a quick change of conversation. Or even worse, they might say “oh, we couldn’t be without our children. We love them so much”. That’s very hurtful, it’s implying we’re in the wrong 🤔

[@VictoriaMagrath]

Im hoping that sort of mindset will begin to change soon. I mean it has to - so so many places in the world have such low birth numbers now that soon it won’t be so unusual to say you’re not having kids. I’ve only ever had one or two people be a bit taken aback by saying we’re happily not having kids - luckily most people are super normal about it. I also have about six very close couples to us who all don’t want children - I’m sort of positively hoping there’s a change in perceptions coming for the masses soon x

[@kateleeder7191]

I don’t think it is wrong for someone to voice their opinion and say they couldn’t be without their kids … it’s how they feel … just like it is how you feel about not wanting kids

[@claudiamann7111]

Congratulations Alex for not drinking. I haven't had a drink in 20 years and I don't miss it all. So glad that everything is going so well for the two of you. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@AlderaneConseil]

I love seeing you both from time to time, also adore the inserts in the editing. This is Alex's way of being in the video without being in it at the same time ... ✨Hope this makes sense, love it anyway! And Victoria, true, your positive, intense raw energy is inspiring 🌟

[@sfikoura]

My husband and I don't go to bed at the same time. He works late and when he comes home he needs time to decompress. In the beginning it bothered me, but once I realized it had nothing to do with me and it was actually a need for him, I just started going to bed when I wanted, giving him his time to play games and talk with his friends. Now I just go to bed feeling excited knowing that I will wake up with him next to me! I love morning snuggles 🥰 Sharing this to say that not everything needs compromise and all couples are different ☺️

[@jennifer6833]

So happy that Alex was able to join you with him not feeling so great. Alex you’re a rock star editor! Feel better soon Victorias husband. Victoria you are born to be in the spotlight and a true gem 💎. I’ve seen you grow so much over this year with making good decisions for your mental health which truly is your greatest wealth. So much respect for the both of you. Merry Christmas 🎄✨❤

[@VictoriaMagrath]

Merry Christmas lovely xx

[@jennifer6833]

@@VictoriaMagrath, 🎄✨❤

[@SeannaMiriah]

These vids are always so helpful for people in a relationship with someone ADHD! My, The Husband and I have been together for nearly 14 years, and have learned how to manage. We both are 3 years sober now and it has done absolute wonders for our relationship but would love if he would watch more of Alex talking about it because he would relate so much to just about everything he said. I'm going to have to replay this for him. I actually had to unfollow so many creators because the drinking was just so in your face all the time, it's hard to watch once you gain new perspective on it and see how it changes so many people's mental health and rational thinking. I appreciate you guys showing insight into what marriage really is like-cause it ain't all rainbows and unicorns all the time, it takes work, lots of love, and communication like you said. Thanks again you two!

[@sandrex1978]

Hi Victoria and Alex. You have each other. Children are a great responsibility. Nobody should tell couples to have children. They know themselves. Good luck, Alex, with your journey.

[@mariehygge54039]

100% agree!😊

[@katiesmith3242]

Exactly it’s not for everyone and people shouldn’t push it on people

[@joelsy9336]

Ahh loved this, thank you guys for sharing. You are such a talented team and create amazing content! wishing you a fabulous festive time and take some well deserved R&R ❤ xx

[@andreafrith9043]

Love watching you two so much, it's such a breath of fresh air to see Alex so... I'm not sure what the word is... authentic and confident, maybe? He seems so in tune with himself and emotionally intelligent. As someone who has done their fair share of therapy, I find it so reassuring to see someone else whose done the work and has come so far. I'm intrigued to see how this dynamic will continue in the future.

[@leanneodell5847]

I’ve definitely seen your relationship get more solid this year and it has absolutely shown through in your videos and social content. I’ve truly enjoyed those intros of little Victoria. Thanks for putting those together Alex.

[@AmyEarls7683]

OMFG you two are so flippin' cute! Lots of love! Thank you so much for all your hard work.

[@Ccgemini]

Alex you do a great job editing these videos.

[@zuzismo]

It is so inspirational to see how much effort you both put into your relationship ❤

[@MrLebro11]

You’re both so generous with sharing! We all can relate & learn from each other. Thank you for your positive and inspiring vibes. ❤️🥰

[@nancyleedaws7736]

I love it when you call him husband I think it is so endearing

[@Lisag-i3w]

You have done a fantastic job on the vlogs alex. Love the honesty of this video, you both have smashed it! Appreciate the huge effort that has went into vlogmas, enjoyed every one of them ❤ xx

[@QueenV14]

This has just been the best 💜🙏🏻

[@VictoriaMagrath]

Ahhh thank you!! xx

[@serenesoundsportugal]

Boe's definitely the star of this one hehe. Also, love the honesty in this! It was definitely my favourite so far. ❤

[@VictoriaMagrath]

haha always xx

[@CallMeLilly1]

I absolutely adore how you call Alex, The Husband ❤

[@VictoriaMagrath]

Thankyou lovely! It’s just sort of stuck now 🥰 xx

[@ElianaRosalind]

i was so excited for this video i paused another episode of vic's vlogmas lol, just me cooking dinner & doing some catchup 😂

[@VictoriaMagrath]

haha love this xx

[@homewithIsabelleS]

Oh guys I’m going to miss vlogmas so much. Love love love seeing u guys most days ❤

[@dougwafaallshouse8196]

Loved it, so open and wonderful interaction between you and Alex. It is never easy to open up and own stuff and both of you came across so real and I wish you two all the success. Relationships are work in progress and I truly believe when we stop ‘working’ on relationship something is not where it should be…just personally speaking, so keep working and making life beautiful ❤

[@lynnlanzoni2342]

I love Q and As, especially you two because I cannot imagine working with and living with the same person every day. You both have such talent and that compliments you both, so I guess it’s the professionalism between you both that makes it work, and kudos to you both ❤

[@MariamN-w1t]

I already stopped the video at 1:27 just to admire your look and how Alex is looking at you! These looks in his eyes to you 😍😍

[@A.A-j5c]

Thank you so muchh for this open and vulnerable conversation of you two!! Alex and you are adorable, and deserve all the love and health you are working for🫶

[@nessiesmakeup6244]

Quality over quantity. Such a lovely chat. Love Alex knowing where his limits are. You guys are fab x

[@laurenzopie7922]

I’m so sad there’s only 1 left 😢 but I hope Alex feels better

[@VictoriaMagrath]

starting to thank goodness!! xx

[@amandagordon220]

Love this vlog thank you for talking about mental health it’s so important and just reminds people like me we’re not alone . Sending so much love hope you have a lovely Christmas xxx

[@jimbaugh6943]

This account is under my husband’s name but this is Sharon commenting. We have been married for 48 years with no children. We are on our 11th St. Bernard. At one time we had four and have always had two until Henry died last year. We now just have Edie. We have been very happy with just our doggies to love. However, now I am missing having grandchildren and them coming to visit. I just think you might end up regretting your decision. Maybe you should have your eggs frozen in case you change your mind one day. I jyst have to say that youtwo are adorable and I love your style. At 72, I am still into fashion. I enjoy your videos so so much. I live in Tennessee. Happy Holidays to both of you.

[@barbarallewellyn7425]

Really enjoyed your chat! Authentic. Great to see Alex understand his brain and put positive things in place. Wishing you a great christmas and new year. 🎉

[@AllsWell77]

Alex is an amazing editor! You cannot run yourselves into the ground for the sake of vlogging. I know its your careers, but your mental and physical wellness must be a priority, individually and as a couple. Love your honesty. If you decided to have a child, you would absolutely would be amazing! You could afford a bit of help so you could rest a bit when needed. I think you would both surprise yourselves. But, enjoy life and eachother!!! Life goes fast.

[@nickied3517]

Alex is looking so healthy lately - love to see it.

[@linktfl1]

Trinity from the matrix 😂😊❤. I love you both being in the vlogs! So happy you two are healing and are the happiest you have ever been together. ❤

[@Nicolajane1796]

I would have been in a strop for a full 48 hours after the Trinity comment 😂 Alex is skating on thin ice 😂😂😂😂❤

[@VictoriaMagrath]

hahahaha this made me lol xx

[@forever-rosebud]

This was so lovely - and I struggled so much to stop focusing on your beautiful, beautiful dog!!! Thank you guys 🤍🤍

[@NaNi4]

Love the honesty and realness, disagreements and all, but there is so much love❤ best the wishes for both you!

[@sueburkhalter8045]

You guys have the number 1 problem in marriages taken care of.... Communication! You communicate with each other very well. Keep it up!

[@Alice-yu3km]

this is absolutely my favorite video I've watched this season, thank you Alex for gracing us with your presence!! you guys are a beautiful couple 💓

[@sabrinab7385]

You are so inspiring as individuals as well as a couple. Bless you.

[@Laura-g1c1l]

Lovely video. Not one you'd maybe expect to see at Christmas, yet perfect for Christmas as this time of year sees so many couples stressed and at each others throats. I commend you for your openness and honesty. I agree too, that if your marriage was not in a good place, kids would have torn you apart--they are not the "bandaids"(plasters) for relationships that some couples use them as. Glad you have reached this level of respect and acceptance at this stage in your marriage. I've been married 42 yrs to THE HUSBAND and there are always peaks and valleys----as long as you don't go off the cliff, you're ahead:).

[@Andreasleayf]

Absolutely loved this video and teared up at the end with your genuine appreciation of one another. Its so beautiful to see your relationship growth and how many positive changes you've seen this year! It's apparent your communication style has really evolved and its so refreshing to see a genuine relationship online speaking about the difficult times and how you support one another. Thank you for sharing and wishing you a very Happy Christmas 💕🎄

[@ataylor3955]

Well done 👏 You’re both so brave, to give such a lot of your own personal feelings as a couple to your subscribers Victoria is amazing 🥰. We all love you, and I am always waiting eagerly for your next vlog. Victoria, you’re such a whirlwind of positive energy. You’re beautiful, kind, funny and extremely talented. Alex is also kind, funny and extremely talented. His editing is the best. It’s a match made in heaven. I know it’s your channel Victoria but, as you say, it’s good for us to see Alex too. Thank you for sharing 🥰. I’m looking forward to seeing you next year, when I have a feeling you’re going to surprise us all with a few new projects. 😎

[@shaminimunusamy9535]

Love this QA session Vic & Alex. Love how guys compliment each others . Have a good break and enjoy your holidays . ❤

[@lisa_loves1621]

Looking forward to watching this! Your makeup is stunning Victoria ❤

[@VictoriaMagrath]

So kind thank you lovely xx

[@rhondalozon2546]

I love you both!! So happy you’ve came out of this journey stronger than ever! Truly admirable to stick through the tough times ❤❤

[@wildfamilyadventures58]

Alex referencing Brene brown ❤ so important to have that self awareness and be aware or eachothers needs. ❤

[@debbieb2584]

Always such a treat watching you two as well as inspiring. Wishing you Alex and Bo the most joy bringing holiday season and a very merry new year!!

[@sallykins3800]

Awww . I love that Alex . He’s a talented man, really good to hear both sides and understand the dynamics actually. Healthy balance of work and lifestyle is the key for mental health! Good Tidings to you both 😊

[@LJoyce93]

Your previous ADHD video, and now this one, is a wake up call that my husband's therapist needs to be more open to medication. Similar issues..low drive, no routines (chores or self care), easily overwhelmed, chasing the next dopamine rush, up playing video games, drinking heavily 5 nights a week. I just gave up with the reminders and stay in my lane because he makes me sad. I'm hopeful by next Christmas he will have more of this figured out like yall do, because look at you!! So happy for yall. 🥲

[@tinapharand8621]

I just love love the intro it's the best I've seen so far of all the creators

[@VictoriaMagrath]

Thankyou so so much!! X

[@Missy182]

Victoria. Thank you to you and the husband , Alex for your honesty surrounding the kid question. I have heard you speak of this before. And I greatly respect and admire you. Please know your honesty, humility, and devotion to your self , your husband and your life means a lot to me. It helps me navigate my life in my own brain. And to not be so hard on my self. So you’re making an impact on others ..always 🫶 also you both have an amazing & genuine connection. It’s beautiful to see

[@celinedebruine]

Loved seeing the husband in the video's and getting to know him more!

[@kaneezbhojani6128]

Thank you both for being so vulnerable and sharing ❤

[@stephmud]

Love when you say "the husband", it's beautiful that you call him that! Don't come to BC, canada, if you have a problem with the weather!!! It's rain and dark from November to March!!! It's so sad

[@kateleeder7191]

That depends on where you live in BC … not always that way … there is certainly sunshine around and clear skies

[@clairehawkes1112]

I haven’t watched your vids for a while. I found your relationship triggering if I’m honest. But I clicked on this just to see. I am so pleased for you both. To see how hard you have worked on yourselves in order to have respect for each other and yourselves. So pleased for you both ❤

[@GinaAngels]

Really enjoying Vlogmas but enjoy seeing your chemistry even more!! You can tell you love each other very much !!! Vic continue calling Alex your husband. It’s endearing… And lastly Alex you are very talented and thanks for your humility!! God Bless and Happy Christmas

[@smithaevol5547]

You guys are so f'ing authentic!!! Gahh!!! Thank you for another wonderful vlog!!! Happy holidays! 💜💜💜

[@jojodesrosiers8096]

You guys are absolutely amazing. Love the honesty you share with us. You have such good advise. I think sharing your life on KZbin is grueling. It looks easy, but I know it’s not. You’re one of the nicest and natural couples on KZbin. Thanks for being true to yourself and us. Jojo

[@Missy182]

Such a fabulous video!!!! Much luv

[@marisaalvarez8624]

Such a lovely couple. Been following you for years. Your hard work really shows. You are both such talented and creative. And you are lovely. I really admire you both! ❤

[@Dani-lt9ts]

I love this is so many ways. You are both such deep interesting. humble souls and this has made my day. Love you both xxxxxxxxxxx

[@HodayaDWild]

I love your videos!!! Please do a home tour! It will be so inspiring ❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏 you are inspiring ❤

[@nwms5597]

Omg... Happy Holidays!! I love love that you say Husband!! It's adorable... Who the hell is anyone to tell you what to call your husband. Love you and Alex... Great couple!

[@lorraineallen9297]

Great to hear you speak so complimentary of each other 🥰 you are a lovely couple. Yes Alex is talented the vlogs are brilliant 🙌 xxx

[@stephhart7578]

Love these videos, I just couldn’t take my eyes off beau! Omg he was absolutely loving all those pats ❤❤❤

[@sharonevans6261]

Thanks for this. I appreciate the questions. They have been so helpful. I enjoy seeing you and Alex together. I really appreciate his prospective. You are both so amazing and talented in your own right. ❤

[@juelclyne7392]

So proud of Alex and especially proud of you both. As so someone who choose not to have kids, I have no regrets and I love my life. ❤❤

[@kristelle9876]

I could not have loved this video more!! Thank you for all the hard work on the videos, Alex you’re editing and creating skills are the best in the business and you should be so incredibly proud of your year. Excited for you both to have a break from creating but have got very used to watching a video every night after work and will miss the uploads! Also come to Australia!!!!! You would LOVE Hamilton and Hayman Island and the weather is amazing!! Then come to WA we have the best weather and the most incredible beaches!!

[@ritaarmstrong]

Thank you for being so open and generous with your personal life. It was really heartwarming to see and hear your honest feelings. Before I say this, I want you to know I never had the maternal instincts either so I certainly understand and so I am not judging at all, but with that being said you may want to consider freezing your eggs, just in case something does change as you get older. I understand that your life is very busy right now but as you get older it’s natural for things to slow down a bit and for priorities to shift, and you just might find yourselves feeling like you have the time, and have a desire for a bigger family. It wouldn’t hurt to be able to have children at 40, or even later if you did change your mind. Like you both said you can’t look into the future so you don’t really now how you’ll feel 5 or 10 years from now so why not just hedge your bets just in case.

[@laurenterry4891]

I love everything y’all do! I really look forward to every time I see a video! Y’all are so kind and funny and sweet!❤ what a great couple and sweet little boy Beau!!

[@HelenT-nw4vk]

Love you guys and your genuineness, wish you sold friendship vouchers so we could all get some time being your mates for a bit🥰 Also, not to persuade you, but you don't have to give up everything if you have a child, you work them in and adapt things, life carries on although in a different way granted. But you're right, if it's not right for you now then you've made the right choice for now. Finally, hang on in there Alex, I know what you mean about the dark nights, but after tomorrow the nights will starts getting shorter again!❤

[@NishaMalhan-my9tw]

Loved this!

[@c2reativ]

Beautiful video and so glad you introduced us in your lives. Just a glimpse but cherish each other and continue to create memories together with laughter. I agree Alex is super talented should create more definitely 👍🏾Love you guys 💕💕💕💕

[@angelarawl388]

Please do this more often! Absolutely love this video of the two of you ❤

[@dorothysliben3382]

Nice to see such a healthy relationship ❤ it takes time and work but you’ve done it.

[@anyejansenvanrensburg]

This was so good. Missed Alex. You are too cute together.

[@Mors-j6s]

Loved this! - So genuine, full of love & growth. Beautiful.

[@fitnicstudio7483]

You guys are amazing ❤

[@barbaraash6191]

Thank you for your life conversations! You two are so talented & enjoy your videos! Have a very Merry Christmas to you & your Family! ❤🌲

[@selinabrown4896]

I love that you call Alex 'husband' its sweet. You are a gorgeous couple

[@senta4950]

This really touched my heart , you both are such sweet souls 🥰❤️

[@MartinaAdair]

Wow what an amazing vlog. Such honesty and many couples wouldn't go there. U can see ur on the same page. Well done u too ❤

[@cindymoore5005]

So glad to have husband in vlogmas today 🎄❤

[@mariehygge54039]

Very interesting Q&A! 😊

[@Nicolajane1796]

Yess Alex on the sobriety! Fellow ADHD sober person here 💃🏼

[@irenekilroy7617]

I love how honest and real you both are❤

[@janevivian-smith4578]

Your both such a lovely couple wishing you a very happy Christmas and new year keep talking ❤

[@kateforsyth1133]

I hope Alex feels better. I know he’s been not well. Rest up and restore. Merry Christmas 🎄

[@yovkashopova6801]

Thank you both for your hard work. I’ve been enjoying every single video. Even my partner will ask “did your friend post today” and he’ll watch along side me 😄. You are greatly appreciated 💕

[@VictoriaMagrath]

ohhhh this is so sweet!! xx

[@KNe-jt8wj]

You're right about New Zealand. And better weather ❤ Maybe it's another option...for when you're 60 😂 As much as I have loved vlogmas, I'm mortified that it may have put stress on your relationship 😢 I'm glad you can talk things through.

[@keziarosedh]

Such a lovely real and honest chat, also great to get so much of Alex's thoughts. As a childfree by choice 40 year old, I get asked similar things but I have a million reasons why children arnt right for me, but if I wanted one enough those reasons wouldn't matter... so obviously I don't want one so I shouldn't have one.

[@letstraveltheworldtogether5311]

Absolutely loved this vlog guys!

[@Girlytang]

I have immense respect for Alex as a person, a creative, and as a husband. He is real and unvarnished and so exceptionally talented. As clearly devoted as he is to Victoria, I respect that he has his own voice and honors it. I truly admire your relationship dynamics and wish you ongoing happiness and success!🤍 from North Carolina 🇺🇸

[@mynamesholly]

Such a lovely couple! Loved this video 😊

[@honiej00n75]

You guys look gorgeous.

[@danishpastry6137]

The thing about pet names is they can sound off to other people, and often they're not. If both of you are okay with a pet name and it comes from a place of love and respect then that's all that matters! It's so obvious that you love and respect each other, you could call each other almost any name under the sun, it doesn't change anything. I'm sure you have many pet names for each other that only the two of you know, just as it should be! ❤ As for the kids thing, even if you have kids, there's no guarantee that they'll be around when you're in your old age. And to be honest, that's totally okay. I'm 53, and don't regret not having kids, I did think that maybe, when peri hit, that might be the point where I may have regrets, but that just hasn't happened. To me, choosing not to have kids is no more selfish than choosing to have them - each to their own.