Types of Dyslexics: Life Traps and Steps to Freedom

[@Bluebell-17n]

This updated version has helped even more. Thank you for making it.

[@yvonneimongan313]

I have tears running down my eyes watching this 😭😭😭

[@ShivamSingh-vk5yi]

Same feeling:)

[@105cruiser]

Thank you for this video, to be honest the majority of it is me . I am 56 and only in the last few years I have learned that my dyslexia is why I feel so different to others and why I try to please people so much, also my never feeling good enough. These types of videos really do help people like myself so thank you.

[@ArijeAikedeHaas]

Hi Robert, I am really glad you find my videos valuable.

[@LDRight]

I’ve excluded myself from life… but I feel guilty about it. I just don’t know how to get out of this phase. You’ve been a help!

[@ArijeAikedeHaas]

I hope you like the updated version of this video! Regardless, these life traps are a really important discovery--not only to the dyslexic adults that I work with but also to me personally. Having identified the patterns that apply to me has allowed me to give a name and context to many of my own traits, preferences, and behaviors. It has been a lens through which to understand myself more clearly. I now understand that the failure and subjugation life trap still play a role in my life and how some of that has to do with my childhood experiences as a dyslexic. Which of these resonate with you?

[@user-qz2zw4py8y]

thanks to this video i was able to identify many glaring issues in my life that i never even thought about looking into, i knew that "coping" mechanisms from childhood persist into adult life but this truly put it into perspective

[@sandrahartman7078]

I'm not sure if other people feel the same way but I have a bit of all of the above.

[@joshuaslotin4189]

Thank you so much for this video. I especially love your videos on emotions

[@ArijeAikedeHaas]

@user-qz2zw4py8y So glad it did put it into perspective!

[@ArijeAikedeHaas]

The ones on emotions are certainly the ones I also enjoy making :)

[@mightycatdavid7143]

Great video, thanks so much! If one struggles with directions and driving in unfamiliar places is that a form of dyslexia? I lose my left from right etc. If the turn should have been left I will definitely turn right. It helps so much now to have map apps but I still stress because I’ve had years without help and it’s deeply ingrained. It feels extremely disorientating like the world being upside down.🙃

[@Bluebell-17n]

WOW I just realised why I was the way I was 20 years ago, I've overcome some of it, but have now discovered a bit more work needs to be done. Thank you for these videos they are so helpful. Exercise has helped me massively to avoid addictions, which I still do 6 days a week. If I hadn't of discovered that, I would of surely become addicted to negative substances. Could you do a couple of videos on the positive of having adhd, dyslexia and discalculia please. My daughter has all 3 like me, but she is more extrovert and fun to be around, however she has learnt the importance of down time to avoid burnout. Thank you ❤

[@hannahteddyschachter7407]

I see why you made the changes you did-thanks for giving a positive outlook of how to go about overcoming these problems so many face ❤

[@user-qz2zw4py8y]

there might be many great channels on youtube for self help/improvement, but none of the advice or information there is really useful to me as someone with ADHD , Asperger / autism and dyslexia ( for extra spice i was considered a child prodigy by every single person that met me until i was 11-12 , when feel into a decade of severe depression ) On the other hand almost every video that i have watched on your channel has given me great information and insight ,into what is going on in my thoughts This video might very well be the next big step forward in my life , im extremely grateful for your content the book "reinventing your life" looks really promising

[@ArijeAikedeHaas]

Reading this truly means a lot to me, and it makes it all worth it.

[@fumblingthroughjavascript]

Dang, this video hit hard. I fall into all these life traps with my dyslexia. I guess I have a lot of work to do.

[@ArijeAikedeHaas]

Recognizing these patterns is really the first step without knowing about them there’s nothing you can do. So you’re already on your way to make a positive impact for yourself.

[@craigmerkey8518]

Thank you for ll the amazing information and work you put into this ! For me you really hit a lot of nails on the head!

[@ArijeAikedeHaas]

I'm so glad!

[@DiamondMind630]

I was wondering are there any links between Dyslexia and Addictions?

[@ArijeAikedeHaas]

Pretty sure that there is and that there are studies already done on it. It would fall under the category of avoidant behavior that results from the fear of failure that a lot of dyslexics especially struggle with. Happy to discuss more if you want to set up a session. See my link above

[@DiamondMind630]

@@ArijeAikedeHaas thanks for getting back to me and explaining much appreciated.

[@tarajenkins1435]

hi! love your videos, they’ve been very helpful for me when discovering my specific learning disorder in reading. just wondering (if you haven’t already done it) if you could make videos that go into more depth about the variety of specific learning disorders? upon being diagnosed i actually learned that my disorder wasn’t technically classed as “dyslexia” in the dsm5 but just a specific impairment in reading rate. there are 3 potential impairments: 1. reading accuracy 2. reading comprehension 3. reading rate/fluency i think it varies but my psychologist told me that to be dyslexic you have to have problems in reading comprehension as well as other factors. it is all very nuanced but going into this would be really helpful for me and others as it was hard when i could neither fit into the category of dyslexia, or being neurotypical at the same time. thank you and keep up the good work :)

[@ArijeAikedeHaas]

Hi :) I suggest that you watch this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gWjHn3mflMuJm9U . In it, I Explain a bit more about the different classifications in the DSM-5. If you take a look at the DSM-5 itself and your specific diagnosis (A specific learning disorder with impairment in reading) you will find that it says right underneath it "Note: Dyslexia is an alternative term used to refer to a pattern of learning difficulties characterized by problems with accurate or fluent word recognition, poor decoding, and poor spelling abilities." So I would say you do fit into the category of dyslexia. However, diagnostisision seems to prefer telling people what is going on in a very specific way, which makes sense. You do not want to make the struggles you have bigger than they actually are. But even the dim-5 itself tells us the dyslexia is an alternative term for your diagnosis.

[@tarajenkins1435]

@@ArijeAikedeHaas thanks for the video, i hadn’t seen that one :) and yeah i guess it depends on the psychologist but dyslexia can be a very broad term and i think is typically associated with having multiple prominent reading impairments grouped together. for me i didn’t know i had a learning disorder until i finished school because i masked it so well, and i never had much trouble with spelling or writing fluency growing up. so i guess what i was trying to say is my dyslexia was mild enough to go unnoticed but severe enough to cause lasting mental health issues. i guess these are the consequences of overgeneralising, and i hope in the future people start to see “dyslexia” as a more diverse term :)

[@Zcat222]

Where do I find somebody to help me with my dyslexic situation?

[@rg6427]

hum yes but I have already put these things down to my ADHD and Chronic migraines a i’ve had my whole life.. I feel these can apply to many types of people. Confused tbh I guess dyslexia and ADHD came about because of the migraines?

[@ArijeAikedeHaas]

You are right. Not only dyslexics or people with ADHD develop these patterns. However, the childhood experiences that we tend to have does seem to make it more likely that these patterns develop. Regarding migraines, I have never heard or read about migraines being a leading cause for ADHD or dyslexia. That being said, we do diagnose based on symptoms. And that means that the core cause can vary.