Asexual Royals from History

[@tplayzroblox]

4:13 “Selecting a bride at this point would have helped him to expand his kingdom by peaceful measures. Instead, he chose violence.” I love this channel

[@Juanita-gf4te]

He'd rather fight than shag......"I'm a fighter not a lover"....

[@Nikki-tx6kh]

While you were banging, I studied the blade.

[@Saffron-sugar]

Hmmmm. Asexual people choose violence….. I knew there was something up with them 😉

[@Hintedbymarina]

same lol!

[@arualblues_zero]

"They set off in a medieval version of a couple's retreat: a crusade" I LOVE IT 🤣🤣🤣

[@falconeshield]

The Elizabeth and William power couple of their time haha

[@willowravenwright5518]

My dear, dear Lindsay… I cannot thank you enough for this unexpected video. As someone who is Ace, I almost cried when I saw this video. So many people do not see us. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for seeing us. We are Ace and we are valid.

[@TIFFANYDlAS]

@@WillmobilePlushow disgusting of a comment- if you lived in a world surrounded by people who are nothing like you having representation through time matters. And I say this as a heterosexual female, it’s so easy to be compassionate to people- why would you choose to not be?

[@nyxspiritsong5557]

Maybe don't let your sexuality define you? I'm being there's plenty of interesting things about you...sexuality has become a personality trait when it wouldn't be. Respectfully, an "ace" who tries to have a real personality.

[@burgundybabyy]

@@WillmobilePlusyikes. Hope she bans you from this channel.

[@LindsayHoliday]

You are so welcome!

[@LindsayHoliday]

yep, banned. I'm not having that

[@samanthakoval5795]

The royals cause themselves so much unnecessary stress for prohibiting females from ascending the throne baha

[@lifeissobeautiful6404]

Exactly. The amount of pressure Empress Alexandra Feodorovna of Russia was under, for example, to have a son, she even had a phantom pregnancy after giving birth to her fourth daughter😭

[@brookelynnwu8016]

@@lifeissobeautiful6404 yeah. Peter of Russia was a føol and his “son” Paul almost single-handedly ensured the monarchy would fall, since the past women empresses had ruled the country bringing stability and prosperity.

[@lifeissobeautiful6404]

@@brookelynnwu8016 Yes, him deciding to change the succession rules to ONLY allow men rule as a way of getting back at his mother, was definitely one of the numerous factors that set the Romanovs on the path to their downfall.

[@SaurianCYH]

“Increasingly ironic hobby of locksmithing” 🤣🤣🤣

[@Nikki-tx6kh]

This is the Lockpicking King, and today we have...

[@williammorris584]

Hilarious.

[@est9949]

That's one of many reasons I love this channel LOL her sense of humor just beats any other history channels hands down 😂

[@Z3r0_g]

As an asexual person myself, it’s safe to say that this is a very good way to get our attention.

[@threnody789]

RIGHT?! 🤣🤷🏻

[@Z3r0_g]

@@marniekilbourne608 I know that. It’s still an interesting topic to discuss, especially since asexuality is rarely talked about.

[@falconeshield]

We all came faster than Denmark conquering hijinks

[@hstm1258]

As an asexual myself, I must say I've never clicked this fast. I feel ✨represented ✨

[@MelaninCosplay]

I hope I'm not rude, but can you please describe how being asexual is for you? I guess I'm trying to come to terms with a few things and you're the very first asexual person I've seen/spoken to. You don't have to answer btw! I would totally understand. 😊

[@Juanita-gf4te]

I've only become asexual since menopause....it was a big relief. No more sexy bad boys. I gave up dating 26 years ago and never looked back.

[@lizk2378]

Me too! Aroace technically, but was super excited to see this!

[@agiel7791]

Same!

[@hstm1258]

@@MelaninCosplay You're not being rude at all! Trust me, there's some people out there who make us feel invalidated from the start, but there's nothing wrong with wanting to know more. MY asexual experience is not THE asexual experience, everyone's asexuality tends to be different, because, as in any other aspect related to humans, there's a wide range of differences in the spectrum. That being said, personally I don't feel sexually attracted to anyone, neither male, nor female, and I also could live my entire life without having any kind of sexual experience. I'm 21 years old and I've never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend and I also don't feel any desire to have one. Personally, I feel disgusted by the idea of having intercourse with anyone and when it comes to relationships in general, I have rejected several advances because I just couldn't reciprocate their feelings. I've heard things like "don't worry, the right one will come one day" but the truth is, I couldn't care less about that. I'm just not into anyone. I'm not sure if I explained myself that well, but I hope this helps.

[@agiel7791]

Thank you! No one ever talks about asexuality. It's easily ignored or skipped over. It's nice to be seen!

[@agiel7791]

@@marniekilbourne608 why are you so aggressively angry about this?

[@falconeshield]

​​@@agiel7791Some people just can't accept that we exist.

[@Trini0408]

Every time I hear that someone died of dysentery, all I can think of is Oregon Trail, lol.

[@falconeshield]

​@@marniekilbourne608Apparently it's a horrible death.

[@valenciageode25]

I remember that game. I’d create a family member named Crazy Annie and blame random injuries on her being nuts. Got weird when she died first.

[@soulfoodsmama2980]

Watching Maria Teresa give birth a dozen times would probably make anyone not want to have sex 💀

[@falconeshield]

Poor Queen Anne. Now that one over there was a tragedy.

[@Juanita-gf4te]

Apparently it was when Marie Antoinette's brother came to visit from Austria that he got tot eh bottom of the young kings problem. He simply didn't know what to do and had to be taught the mechanics of intercourse, which his brother in law gave him exact instructions - a how to lecture. Soon after the young queen became pregnant and delivered a daughter. Two sons followed. He was a good husband and never took mistresses, sadly he was a bumbling king who took wrong advice from the wrong people.

[@KL-ki8db]

I think it is hilarious to be taught sex ed by your brother in law.

[@KristenK78]

I thought I heard there was also possibly a physical irregularity? Or am I thinking of someone else?

[@iimuffinsaur]

I feel like there were a lot of rulers who were horrible rulers, but if they never had to rule would have been fine people)

[@piratesswoop725]

@@KristenK78No you’re correct too, it was both an issue of anatomy and not knowing what to do as a result of that issue. He had a surgery to correct it and that, coupled with Joseph’s advice, helped them finally consummate their marriage.

[@Juanita-gf4te]

@@iimuffinsaur Marie Antoinettes hubby was a kind and gentle person, a decent man and not a brutal ruler at al, in fact he was so lacking in confidence he couldn't make any decisions at all and left all that to his ministers. He also suffered severe depression which his wife tried to nurse him through. Neither of them deserved to be executed.

[@writinggamer8059]

As an ace/demisexual person who is married with children, this video is excellent, thank you. I didn’t know what asexuality was until adulthood and never understood why I was different in that area. I’ve always felt so out of place in our very sexualize culture, and often wondered if it was just easier to be ace in historical times, but this shows that it probably wasn’t, especially for nobles. It is a lot more difficult than people realize to be different in this way, and not being on purpose, or because of religious views. It is good to learn about other people in history that could have been, and learn their stories.

[@RcsN505]

Catholic people always had the option of joining a monastery etc

[@Saffron-sugar]

Out of curiosity, I went ahead and read up on things like greysexuality and demisexuality but my poor little brain can only contain so much. What is an ace/demisexual? Ace as in #1? Of course I knew what asexual meant because A means without. Like asymptomatic Means without symptoms. asexuality has been used to explain certain types of reproduction in the animal kingdom for centuries. But these new terms and so many categories 😰

[@Saffron-sugar]

@@RcsN505 well, not always. It was often very important for families to blend with other families. Historically, a lot of people fought to join religious life rather than get married, they weren’t all successful. Also, it’s not just Roman Catholics that have Convents and monasteries, although a lot of people do imagine that. There have been monasteries in England since the 500s that we’re not Roman Catholic, then there wasn’t, then there was again . Last, not everyone would be accepted by a convent or monastery. Just like today. So, it wasn’t always an option.

[@UnaOwens-g1q]

@@Saffron-sugar​​⁠ And the prefix demi- means “half” or “partial” :). Similarly, grey is halfway between white (“full” sexuality, aka allosexuality) and black (asexuality). So demi- or grey-sexual is a term people can use to describe themselves if they feel somewhere in between those two poles. ::shrugging:: Different people experience it different ways? And we’re at the very beginning of this conversation: I’m sure terms will shift and evolve. But one common description of demisexual experience right now is, perhaps you don’t feel sexual attraction until after you’ve formed an emotional bond with someone. For example, that sitcom trope of seeing a beautiful person across the room and finding yourself immediately attracted to them? Probably doesn’t happen if you’re demisexual. Hope this helps a little.

[@blue366]

Didn't expect this video, not a lot of asexual representation out there, even from within the own lgbtquia+ community

[@tygersongbird8208]

As an asexual myself, I'm always pleased to see a video about asexuality. TV won't ever put asexual people in any shows, because they don't find shows without sex involved interesting. It'd be great to just get 1 TV show with an asexual lead character. It would be excellent.

[@ShawnMarieRichards]

Sherlock?

[@tygersongbird8208]

@@ShawnMarieRichards Steven Moffat didn't even want to make Sherlock asexual because he said "there would be no tension or storyline in it". He essentially tried to erase Sherlock's asexuality.

[@falconeshield]

​​@@ShawnMarieRichardsThe og of Doyle yes, but BBC Sherlock got queerbaited by every male who wasn't his brother and given his classic love interest Irene at the same time. There was Molly but who cares she was there to stop the bait when the writers got tired of it. Most interpretations love to stick to Irene. Funny enough the Frogware games are the closest to ace Holmes we'll ever get.

[@pompommania]

Because it shouldn't be a thing. Who cares about people's sexual life, or lack of

[@Bitterblue55]

AroAce here and I think you did a good job on this video! As you said, it’s complicated putting modern day terms on historical people. Elizabeth I is probably the most iffy, but a lot of ace people do consider her as part of the asexual spectrum. This comes from the fact that Elizabeth didn’t seemed interested in sex (admittedly she did have a lot of reasons to avoid sexual liaisons) but did enjoy romantic relationships and playing at courtly love. Many asexuals are not aromantic, and do want romantic relationships. Hence why a lot of ace people look at Elizabeth as one of us.

[@lauramason5667]

I’m not completely convinced that Elizabeth the first was asexual. It’s pretty clear that she was in love with Robert Dudley, and of course it’s even clearer that she knew the consequences of certain actions. I think her choices were politically based. I think the foundation of her supposed celibacy was self preservation.

[@ErinH-430]

I agree. She saw what happened with her father’s wives. She saw what happened with her half sister, Mary I, and Mary Queen of Scots. She knew if she had a son, it could mean her husband or someone else would just kill her to rule through him.

[@phlackbillip]

You can still feel romantically for people and not want the sexual stuff - hence why in this video they suggest that Elizabeth was "hereroromantic" - romantic attraction and sexual attraction are separate

[@iimuffinsaur]

​@@phlackbillip this. You can also feel sexual attraction and not romantic.

[@lauramason5667]

@@phlackbillip her sexuality is completely speculative. What I am pointing to is where her feelings lay. Self preservation comes first. She did what she had to do.

[@phlackbillip]

@lauramason5667 Yeah, i'm aware lol. I never disagreed with that or tried to say what she was or isn't - I was just explaining the difference between romantic and sexual attraction

[@kalnfornia]

Your respect for those you speak of and who are no longer here is first class. Kudos to you.

[@revanius2213]

Another possible Asexual or Aromantic royal is Basil II, Emperor of the Eastern Roman Empire, who in his fifty-year reign as Emperor never married, had no known lovers, and no children. He had a younger brother who did marry but he never did.

[@lilacgirl-z8w]

Never heard of him but now curious.

[@hippolyte90]

Louis XVI sounds pretty slam dunk. If Josef II quoted him correctly in his letter, the king saying he has no desire for sex and only does the deed out of duty, and had no mistresses, then that is as asexual as it gets. As for Elizabeth I, not convinced. Not saying impossible but unlikely. After almost losing her reputation and life multiple times and seeing the disastrous marriage of her sister Mary (the first queen regnant of England) I think Elizabeth's desire for survival was stronger than her sex drive and becoming a lone queen would give her the most power.

[@psychicmediumlisamarie3235]

Queen Elizabeth broke off the relationship with Dudley because of how his wife “passed away”. She had no choice ; staying with him made her look bad. They did reconcile but Elizabeth knew better this time. Dudley then became involved with Lettice. Elizabeth had other companionship after that.

[@Moonewitch]

Exactly. Elizabeth wasn't asexual at all. I'm like...🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@falconeshield]

For her time, not getting married for heirs (possibly as an eff u to her father who killed her mother for not producing a healthy boy) made her relationships outside the throne rather quiet even to this day. Whether she slept with Dudley or was platonically involved, for the time she was alive, she could fit in the ace category without the nun habit. Also, ace people can fall in love too, just not be addicted to sex or be dependant on it for social or emotional needs. ​@@Moonewitch

[@psychicmediumlisamarie3235]

I’m not saying she wasn’t LGBTQA. Anything is possible, I’m stating historical facts . Elizabeth was closely watched by the court and her ladies in waiting however she and Dudley had adjoining rooms and went riding alone together. But she did break up with him for political reasons. Maybe more proof will come about saying if she was LGBTQA . Of course representation is important

[@Rose-jz6ix]

​@@psychicmediumlisamarie3235she made a promise to be Queen alone and not give up her power to a man and then be less than, while he ruled as king. Many people decide to be celibate, not all are asexual.

[@LB-ou8wt]

To be fair though, she still expected complete loyalty and was infuriated by his marriage. So it seems even though she finally gave up on marrying him, they still had some form of romantic relationship and expectations.

[@areiaaphrodite]

Sometimes, I wonder if Edward the Confessor could have also been asexual. He was married to Edith of Wessex but died childless. It was said that he never even consummated his marriage to Edith because he eitger took a vow of celibacy or just wanted to be abstinent.

[@craigrm74]

You answered your own question: he was celibate. Having little or no sex drive is not a sexuality, nor is taking a religious vow.

[@cursedwyvern3044]

He could have been both celibate and asexual - being a celibate doesn’t automatically mean he wasn’t ace

[@Alex-zs7gw]

Agree with Lindsay's disclaimer about labelling people in the past - but Jamie from BHPod suggests some scholars believe he would fit a diagnosis of BPD today and I couldn't agree more Lots of childhood trauma, a narcissist mother (the cliché relationship of NPD:BPD ...and forever acting on his emotional splitting. The whole episode where he puts Edith in the nunary and his responses to negotiating with Godwyn show unmedicated impulsivity. A-sexual? Maybe. But clearly lots of emotional baggage with hot and cold interpersonal relationships... I imagine he struggled letting anyone in permanently

[@Alex-zs7gw]

@@marniekilbourne608 not the celibacy thing - a monarch's duty has always been encouraged by the church to ensure the dynasty over any "celibacy" merits - after all, of all the monarchs not to have had an heir, this one led to the worst consequences in English history! This is also the era when the clergy could still marry (especially in Britain). Yes to infertility - don't assume everyone is ignorant.

[@areiaaphrodite]

@marniekilbourne608 I mean.. if he refused to consummate his marriage, then we can't know if either were infertile since you need to have sex to have children. (His wife outlived him and didn't remarry, so we can't know about her fertility either) and honestly, just like Louis XVI, there's no record of Edward ever having had any mistresses in his lifetime. Furthermore, I said it was celibacy OR abstinence. The point is that it seems he refused to engage in intimacy with his wife or any woman in his lifetime, so it begs the question.

[@blacademics]

The speed with which I clicked and liked!! Thank you from a long time ace spectrum follower, fellow history lover, and new content creator! Mostly was on TikTok but now want to expand to KZbin❤

[@danielsantiagourtado3430]

Not a Lot of asexual examination of Royals out there! Much thanks For this Lindsay! You're the Queen of History! Will learn much from this👸👸👸👸👸

[@MegCazalet]

So true. There’s been more recent new historiography in studying the wider range of possible sexualities of past royals, but not specifically asexuality. So much of history has been based on a heteronormative approach. In fact, who knows what valuable historical information we may have lost through prejudice and ignorance in the past?

[@christinaclark9754]

I think Queen Elizabeth decided it was too dangerous to get married. The simple fact that a husband would have complete control over her. Add in her experiences growing up showing what men could do with that control, especially a king. If she took a lover and news of it got out it would have caused huge complications. Not only for herself but also for her country. Even if she wanted a sexual relationship the simple fact was she couldn't have one and remain safe.

[@falconeshield]

Just look at Matilda. At least she won in the long run.

[@Kenzalina_]

Interesting, I have always thought that Elizabeth I was definitely a virgin. She knew all too well to trust no one. Plus she had no privacy. If she had given into Dudley. It would have been used against her.

[@Kenzalina_]

@@marniekilbourne608 What romantic drama did you get that from? There is no contemporary evidence that backs up those claims. In fact, after the death of Amy Dudley, there was zero chance of them being together. Elizabeth had a lot of people who wanted her crown. She understood that by, not being married to a man, was the only way she was going to hold onto power. If you can find me one source of contemporary evidence, I would be happy to change my mind.

[@falconeshield]

​It is juicy tragic romance though. Sucks to go through it, but amazing to read about. Here's hoping they found each other in another life. ​@@Kenzalina_

[@LindsayHoliday]

If you are asexual, please let me know if these royals' experiences ring true to you. Thank you!

[@TheDemonAscended]

I’m AroAce, specifically Aromantic Cupiosexual.

[@Y0ur_M0th3r]

Wait, what's cupiosexual?

[@TheDemonAscended]

@@Y0ur_M0th3r Cupiosexual is an Asexual Spectrum identity that means “Someone who experiences no sexual attraction, but still wants to engage in sexual activities.” It’s like not being hungry, but still wanting to eat chocolate cake because chocolate cake tastes good.

[@heathermicheel5865]

I loved what you had to say about there not being a need to pathologize Louis's apparent lack of sexual interest in Marie. For some people, sex just isn't an interest or a need, and I always got the impression that he was just an Ace fella who loved his wife but wanted to be left alone at night.

[@dalhousieDream]

This video has helped me define myself, so Ty for making this video.👍

[@Smoobles]

I will never understand how anyone can look at someone else and demonize them simply because they don't have any interest in sex, dating, or any of the like. Some people are just busy living their own lives and don't want to be bothered with any of it. It doesn't mean that anything is wrong with them either.

[@falconeshield]

Jealously. You can't have them so they became a monster in your eyes. Typical in humanity.

[@tricorvus2673]

Marilyn Monroe wrote in her autobiography “My Story”, that she was “as sexual as a rock.” She was famous for being pretty, developed, talented and the object of other people’s interest. Think how many people throughout time suffered with being Ace. I’m Ace and didn’t feel the need to ahem until my 40s.

[@AquarianZenaida]

Both of my closest friends are ace, and my sister is demi. They aren't the history nerds that I am, but I extend thanks on behalf of them for putting together such a good video in honor of all the asexuals out there. I've loved your videos for almost 5 years at this point and always get so excited seeing your notifications. ❤

[@AquarianZenaida]

@@marniekilbourne608 u good fam?

[@Sunshine-zm1fx]

Lindsay, I want to thank you for the class and dignity that you always have when you are discussing sexuality and history. You give a rational point of view and you never let classical historians get away with sexist or racist nonsense. Thank you! When are you going to write a book?

[@LindsayHoliday]

Thank you so much! What would you want me to write a book about?

[@LJB103]

Please remember that Philip was not yet King of Spain when he married Mary. He was King of Naples (given to him by Charles V so he would be equal to his wife). Edward the Confessor also never wanted sex with his wife.

[@angelicagaldos]

Lindsey Holiday's videos are always a treat. Thank you

[@frybreadgrease374]

Yess!!! As a asexual myself I'm glad to see more of these!!

[@Juanita-gf4te]

I don't believe Elizabeth l was asexual.....she just couldn't have the man she wanted, her Robbie. I believe they had some intimacy between them when they were able to snatch time alone but she couldn't go all the way with him. She was a passionate woman who loved flirting with her courtiers and perhaps teasing them to a degree. That was her womanly power besides her queenly power. But she loved her sweet Robin all her life and her devastation at his death was real. I can only imagine the self control it took when they were both young for her not to yield to him.....I couldn't have done it when I was deeply in love. She must have been deeply frustrated at times and this may have caused some of her moodiness.......but as she saw it she had so much to lose and indeed she would let no man rule over her.

[@RayanNamii]

While i agree with many of your points, i'd counter with the fact that asexual doesn't equal aromantic. And also, asexuality is a spectrum, not a black and white thing. She may verywell have loved Robbie but not been necessarily sexually attracted to him, or she was demisexual and their deep bond led to sexual attraction. At the end of the day though, we'll never know.

[@drangonfliepink79]

Yes there are 5 attractions only one is sexual attraction im attracted to peoples intelligence and admire beuty but I don't want sex with anyone just want to spend time with people if that makes sence ❤

[@JDM-is-my-name]

Making love about sex is so weird. I know that it's how it's taught, but it's still weird to make the assertion that being in love means wanting sex with that person

[@Juanita-gf4te]

@@JDM-is-my-name Lust is a natural part of romantic love, especially in the early honeymoon stage. Eventually if you grow together as a couple the lust lessens in intensity but making love is still an important part of expressing love for each other. Its a deep connection that some consider spiritual and it goes beyond lust. We still like to know we are desired by our partner and many marriages go wrong when this is no longer the case, when one feels deprived of both that physical and spiritual love.

[@JDM-is-my-name]

@@Juanita-gf4te but that isn't necessary. That's the whole point. I am asexual and if my partner needs me to have sex with them, then we simply aren't compatible. Why are you even watching a video on asexual royals when you seem to take the stance that asexual people can't be in relationship?

[@dajanae1216]

While bisexual myself, I really appreciate these videos Lindsay! They're always so well done and you're always incredibly respectful! You're honestly one of my favorite history channels! Keep up the excellent work!! 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

[@LindsayHoliday]

thank you so much!

[@TheDemonAscended]

I’m AroAce, specifically Aromantic and Cupiosexual. I say AroAce for simplicity. I love your LGBTQ+ videos. Acespecs and Arospecs don’t get talked about a lot.

[@twentynineteen4687]

The Trevor Project is a heroic organization. Thank you to all who donated.

[@thecalicocat6657]

I’m gray acesexual and this is very nice to see that not everybody doubts our existence thank you so much Miss holiday

[@Moonewitch]

How is Elizabeth I considered asexual? She had a longstanding affair with Robert Dudley. She was heartbroken because she couldn't have him & he was married (twice), which is why she probably became "The Virgin Queen." Had she been able to marry him, she would've done so had children with him. I don't consider her to have been asexual. Coretta Scott King never remarried or dated after her husband Martin Luther King Jr was assassinated. I didn't consider her to be asexual, just because she didn't want to be with another man who wasn't her husband. Elizabeth just didn't want to marry. She didn't want a man ruling over her. That has nothing to do with her sexuality. It had everything to do with the trauma of her father beheading her mother. Why would she want to be married & be ruled over by a man? She couldn't marry whom she wanted so she didn't want to marry, but you best believe Queen Elizabeth I was never lacking in male companionship & intimacy. Take her off this list.

[@rosymaze]

Thank you so much for making this! Many don’t even consider this as a possibility let alone make a vid on it.

[@joannacrickenberger7627]

I despise our extremely oversexuelized society that real love is based entirely on sexual desires and surface lust. IT ISN'T. Real, romantic love is heart to heart, soul to soul with healthy sex being a healthy part of it, but so much deeper than so much more then just sex and surface emotions.

[@est9949]

THIS. I think people are often satisfied with surface analysis of sexual activities just because it is just easier to be done--settling with a simplified model of the actual complex events where sometimes it's very hard to tell what people thought and felt inside.

[@sarahd.5244]

As an ace person, thank you so much for this well researched and very considerate video! For Elizabeth I, hard to say for sure if she was ace or not, but considering her life I was never surprised she was so against marriage. Her own mother was falsely accused of adultery and beheaded by her father! She grew up neglected and seeing her dad go through several stepmothers. Her dad had Catherine Howard beheaded and then Catherine Parr narrowly avoided being imprisoned or worse. Her creepy uncle preyed on her when she was a teen then proposed and almost dragged her into a treasonous plot. Then she saw what marriage was for a Queen Regnant with her older sister Mary, which was pretty depressing. Even her favorite Robert Dudley neglected his wife and then she died under suspicious circumstances ... people often speculate Elizabeth loved him, but he's yet another man in her life being horrible to his wife. Why would Elizabeth risk her independence and freedom and safety by getting married? I think she was very canny and smart and protected herself in a time when that was extremely difficult for women.

[@LindsayHoliday]

Thank you. I agree on Elizabeth, but I've seen a lot of discussion about her, so I wanted to include her.

[@sarahd.5244]

@@LindsayHoliday I think she was a great inclusion! "I am married to England!" is such a badass declaration. Ace or not, one of my favorite figures in history.

[@falconeshield]

​@@sarahd.5244I've always said it to myself that she was the matriarch of Britain and her subjects were her children so it was amazing to find out that was a quote she really said.

[@carleyberndt8398]

Thank you for the asexual representation! It's quite rare, but always appreciated. 😊

[@MarcPagan]

Who first thought of asexual reproduction? - asked the high school biology teacher. "Your wife" Mathew Broderick ..in the fine film "War Games"

[@MegCazalet]

This is a fascinating subject, thank you! I love how you are careful and respectful, while also helping people see themselves possibly represented in history. Teaching people how to look at history with a queer lens is extremely valuable, for the very reason you say: there’s often very little obvious evidence, and it takes a different approach to whatever evidence we do have. It also brings history alive in yet another way that can inspire more people to study and love history. 🎉 🌈

[@EdithFlowerzz]

Louis is crazy to put on here. He was NOT asexual. One time Louis went into Marie’s room and came out looking sad. Why? He was turned down sex time bro💀 Also Marie Antionette sent CRAZY letters to her mother. Often detailing the sexual life between her and Louis. They were very freaky

[@kosatochca]

Weren’t more steamy letters forged in the wake and immediate aftermath of the French Revolution? I heard that descriptions of Louis and Marie life in bed were mostly attacks by disgruntled Parisians

[@susanmorgan8833]

You could have included Richard I (the Lion hearted). His Queen, Berengaria, saw little of him, even with his mother Eleanor of Aquitaine following him practically everywhere, taking his wife with her, to try and get them together to produce an heir.

[@lilymarinovic1644]

Richard had at least one known illegitimate child so probably not asexual

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

Richard I was rumored to be bisexual with a stronger preference for men.

[@Alex-zs7gw]

And described by contemporary scribes as having shared a bed and ate from the same dish as Philipe Augustus... Their "strong shared love" having infuriated Henry II. Gay men can be strong warriors and belligerent. Straight men can be homoerotic and affectionate. Until the time machine comes along who knows 🤷🏼‍♂️

[@Dale0888Jr]

Maryanna sounds like a fascinating person. I feel like shes one who would thrive in modern times.

[@FrankieJayUK]

I’m asexual and Elizabeth is my favourite monarch - thank you for representing us ❤️

[@therewillbecatswithgwenhwyfar]

I love that you are such an ally unless you're also part of the community… Either way I love these videos and really appreciate them! We have always been here!

[@Arcadian-Nova]

thank you for this video!! i got so excited as soon as i saw the title, we asexual get so little representation TT-TT it would almost be hilarious that the idea that some people just arent interested in sex is so foreign that potential asexual historic people MUST have had something wrong with them, if it wasnt something we still get told nowadays. luckily personally the worst someone called me was "a prude" but that did still hurt bc it was my supposedly best friend at the time (it was not a good friendship for many reasons)

[@yashmitperera]

Hi Lindsay! Thank you for sharing such wonderful historical moments with us. My mom and I truly enjoy watching your videos during our meals; they make our mealtime even more interesting. I have a suggestion/request: could you please do a video/series on female writers throughout history, like Jane Austen and Beatrix Potter? We would truly love to watch such a video from you! Lots of love from Sri Lanka!

[@franziga]

As someone on both the aro and ace spectrums, thank you so much for making this video! It means so much to me!

[@danielsantiagourtado3430]

Surprise upload! Much thanks Lindsay! You're the Best ❤❤❤❤❤

[@FormerTory92]

Aww, Lindsay, your intro genuinely had me crying😭 your way with words is beautiful and thanks for quite clearly being an ally❤️❤️❤️

[@LindsayHoliday]

You are so welcome!

[@FormerTory92]

@@marniekilbourne608 you ok hun? Idk who you’re even talking to here bc your comment isn’t even vaguely related to what I said😂

[@Amelia-kl1oo]

Yet another banger! Miss Holiday, your videos never disappoint!

[@Liv69696]

I have an ace friend, and he is the coolest. Thank you for showing this ❤ So many people don't recognize them, and its so sad.

[@iimuffinsaur]

Fr. My gf is ace and she is amazing. Asexuality has a big spectrum too

[@ellaeadig263]

Lindsay I'm sure this video is going to mean so much to so many people! Thank you!

[@whatsaryn]

Is this an early post or am I just up too late? Either way, I’m happy!

[@Levacque]

Eleanor of Aquitaine might be the most interesting woman in medieval Europe. She might be worth a video essay all of her own. Somehow I didn't know how cool she was in her 20s, though I learned all about her incredible political career AFTER marrying Henry II.

[@elsakristina2689]

I know she doesn’t feature in this video but I think Queen Kristina of Sweden was probably either asexual or demisexual.

[@kimberlycolunga8559]

Such an early surprise , thank you so much Lindsay ❤👑

[@williammorris584]

Eleanor of Aquitaine just wasn’t having it; or rather, just wasn’t *not* not having it.

[@Nikki-tx6kh]

I've heard historians theorise Elisabeth, Empress of Austria, was asexual too. The gap between Rudolph and Valerie's births, and the way she retired from Franz Joseph's side, even introducing him to his mistress Katharina Schratt and how she stopped allowing people to take photographs of her from the time she was barely on her 30s used as proof.

[@piratesswoop725]

She didn’t like photographs taken of her because she was obsessed with her appearance and probably had an eating disorder.

[@AliSakurai]

I've recently discovered I'm demisexual but I oddly found this video relatable. Being demisexual means that you have no interest in sex unless you have developed a strong bond with someone. That someone for me would be my husband.

[@peggysyri3193]

I'm also demi and I feel you! I've only felt attraction for guys in my school/uni that we had interactions or for characters in movies. It's particularly hard in this hook up Era but let's not lose hope ❤

[@starlightbard]

I'm demi as well! Feels nice to be validated by others

[@AliSakurai]

​@peggysyri3193 It took a while for me to figure out my identity. I always assumed I just had terrible luck with men. Until I met my husband. We were friends first, and I felt butterflies in my stomach when he asked me out. That was something I never felt before with the other guys I dated. He respected my bizarre boundaries before I was comfortable to be intimate. After ten years, he became my husband. I recently came out to him as demi and being the goofball that he is he playfully said 'Oh wow, you're only sexually attracted to me~'. Jokes aside he was glad that I trusted him enough to finally be myself around him.

[@peggysyri3193]

@@AliSakurai that's so sweet I feel like crying 😢 I'm so happy for you and your husband and I hope to find my special someone one day 🥺

[@falconeshield]

Is your husband a demihubby? :P

[@eliscanfield3913]

It was fricking hard to figure out I'm ace-spectrum. I happen to be the sex positive (within my romantic relationship) demisexual type, a type that hadn't even had a name when I started college. My spouse and I have had what appears to be a typical allo relationship, except that he's my first & only boyfriend. We were platonic friends for a year before I fell in romantic love with him, and shortly thereafter felt all the other attractions. He's still the only person I've ever been sexually attracted to. That was an interesting revelation for someone in their mid-40s to have, lol

[@klinky20]

Thank you for your videos on the many identities in the queer community. And so appreciate the Trevor project fundraiser. Just donated 💜

[@sammitaylor3942]

The Asexual in me instantly knew this would be a good video

[@danielsantiagourtado3430]

What a pleasant surprise Lindsay! You always know when to upload! Love your content! Never miss a video! Hearth please 😊😊😊😊

[@lisalee9182]

Queen Elizabeth wouldn’t marry (IMO) because she would have had to give up control to her husband. She fought her battles!

[@lilymorris1342]

okayyy history tea time ace representation slayy

[@Reticence9zen924]

I didn't initially get the 'I'd rather eat cake' joke on the thumbnail!! What is 'cake' a reference to when Asexuals/ Ace people use it?

[@oliviablackburn3907]

I agree but also disagree. I think enough trauma and mental illness could make anyone A-sexual. If I killed lots of men in battle, probably got sexually abused as a child, lost many loved ones, and heard of so many women/ babies die in child birth. I'd probably be a-sexual too. Also being told from a early age sex is a sin and dirty. That doesn't help.

[@loveli420]

Thank you for your inclusion of asexuality! I'm not asexual myself but I have dear friends who are and I love to see normalization.

[@davidringmann3395]

There is also Alfonso the Battler of Aragon who didn't show any interest in marrying. He was but the marriage was annuled and he did not seek another marriage to secure his dynasty in Aragon. And Salic Law did not exist in France until 1316.

[@HideYourKarmaChameleon]

Happy Pride Month! Thanks for repping Aces in history and time 🏳️‍🌈

[@onagaali2024]

Quite interesting subjects you never run out of Lindsay.

[@emilynam6084]

I love this video since asexual people don't get a lot of representation even in the lgbtq+ community. I like knowing royals back then may have been ace too. Right on. 😌

[@emilynam6084]

@@marniekilbourne608 That's why I said "may have" and not "must have". Don't have a cow, dude.

[@StiggusRattus]

As an asexual this is awesome ☺️

[@ThouWho]

Tysm for making this ♡

[@psychicmediumlisamarie3235]

Great topic and representation; I wonder if Elizabeth was just extremely careful. Robert Dudley was a controversial choice for her and married Lettice because she was “with his child”. I think Elizabeth and he were “active” possibly. Also she did want to marry the Duke Of Anjou possibly but she was 50 something by then and he was Catholic. She probably wanted to marry Dudley too at some point. Again Robert Dudley wasn’t serious about Lettice. It was an affair that got out of hand. Anyway it’s interesting to speculate and talk about LGBTQA history 🌈

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

I wonder that as well. I do think that Elizabeth was traumatized as a child with seeing how her father treated women (including not thinking twice about k1lling them) as well as strong evidence showing that Thomas Seymour may have repeatedly mo1est3d her as a pre-teen.

[@susanfabian1521]

I'd love to see a program about Eleanor of aquitaine's children!! 😮

[@here_we_go_again2571]

🤣🤣 They were a violent nasty bunch! But given the times they lived in; I suppose that one could not survive being a king without being that way.

[@xQueenyBee]

Yay finally Ive been hoping for this one for awhile.

[@masassin58]

I literally just thought I would find a new History Tea Time to watch and there you were. Thanks for giving me my history fix.😊

[@josepinheiro6064]

Thank you for posting this and as always in such a respectful way!

[@anniel6479]

What a pleasant surprise!! Happy pride month aces!! 🖤🩶💜

[@Ruki9410]

Happy Pride month!!

[@chl8760]

Equating celibate with asexual is crazy, asexuality is more about if you identifed with that label because a lot of people are no sex craze

[@Marie_Antoinette_18]

Oh.... So that's why my husband, Louis XVI, didn't involve himself in intimate relationships.... Oh well, still love him 😗💗

[@falconeshield]

You watched Lady Oscar have you? ;)

[@Marie_Antoinette_18]

Maybe 😗🍰👌

[@HopeGardner3amed]

Do you have a video about royals who possibly were neurodivergent?

[@LindsayHoliday]

not specifically, but that's a good idea!

[@paulad.patterson4732]

​@@LindsayHolidayPrince John comes to mind.

[@scotto9591]

Well DONE Lindsey 🙌🙌

[@stellas.lipgloss]

Marie Antoinette: “let them eat cake” King Louis: “I’d rather eat cake”

[@samuelcohen2362]

Midnight release! Sweet

[@PipsKay]

For years I didn't even know or understand my lack of sexual desire was a thing and what I was but I am Asexual and glad to know that I am

[@anntee9036]

Yessss ❤ representation! The A in LGBTQIA+ doesn’t the recognition it deserves.

[@nevaehonrefni]

My brother is asexual so I really appreciate this ❤ my father thinks it's not real 🙃 it's very infuriating

[@falconeshield]

​@@marniekilbourne608Chill. These people are from the past so it is possible they were just shy in their youth, as was Louis 16th. Isaac Newton is our Ace King though and none of you can have him.

[@nevaehonrefni]

@@falconeshield Isaac forever ace king

[@fabulouschild2005]

I do love how Maria Anna was like "who needs love when you have SCIENCE" I also love the smiling photo of Helena Victoria. She looks so happy

[@jenniferellsworth1226]

I always wondered if the stress placed on these very, very young royal couples created certain aversions.

[@bethhealey3601]

I think Elizabeth I had an intense desire for self preservation and I believe that if she had a desire to be intimate, she had the power , intelligence and the loyalty of many in her household to have an intimate relationship without anyone fining out.

[@ahmedelshafey7602]

Hey Luis, Do you expect to insert the key into the lock and not even turn it, and ask the lock to open? Ha? Sad Marie Antoinette 😂

[@falconeshield]

I am tempted to make a soaking joke but the young ones will not get it. 😂 (Hey, we're ace not naive :p)

[@ahmedelshafey7602]

@@falconeshield well, Lois and his wee wee are a joke factory, the word "soaking" alone made me laugh 😂

[@daveatron_]

Happy pride month, aces 💜