Telling Him NO to SEX (Negative Reactions)

[@downtownon7thavenue]

Not having sex with someone before marriage also allows you to think clearly. You are less likely to accept disrespect because there's no soul tie. Great video as always.

[@Stephaniealicianaturalhair]

Agreed! I had never heard of soul ties until last year. When people talk about having to know about sexually compatibility, I feel that they are either just saying whatever or they just do not know what it takes to sustain a lasting loving relationship. Especially, one that is suppose to be showing unconditional love. I had a guy tell me very recently ago that you have to know if you satisfy the person. Well basically I responded to him by stating that what if that person is diagnosed with cancer and the sex is no longer good or "on point" anymore. Are you going to leave that person because the sex is not good anymore because they are sick?

[@emeraldblessings]

Ashley is looking like, "yasss babe! Share that Word!"

[@kloves3910]

I recall telling my friend as a woman your body should be the last thing a man is interested in when he REALLY wants to get to know you, your interests and life and friends and childhood job you walk in God, etc should be on his mind. If its just sex then that's all he see's you as. These men don't value you...keep it moving

[@ashlyn8642]

My guy friend who has been wanting to date me for 3 years told me a few months ago that he won't wait with me. Like said to me he won't marry someone unless he sleeps with them first NOW says I need to prove to him I'm worth the wait......excuse me? I am worth the wait and I have nothing to prove. Sorry not sorry

[@kittygalore2010]

Ashlyn You are a Queen hes not the one

[@malaikakirby242]

This is highly important because instead of no flex zone I say no sex zone! Till ya go to God and put a ring on it!

[@FatimaBWriting]

Yasss "this ain't gonna work then, hair flip". You know your confidence is rooted in Christ when you can just say , "welp it was nice but I'm good, I have standards and there's a man out there who will meet them!" I've noticed great growth in myself when suddenly, men who are carnal minded and led by their flesh were no longer attractive to me. It takes real strength and courage to pursue a life that is lead by the spirit.

[@SoulStyleBeauty]

I agree, his comment was extremely disrespectful. Carrington better go in! This is such great advice and I pray that it's taken. The nerve. Wait on the Lord and be patient because the guy that God wants for you would never cause you to compromise.

[@stephaniealicia7870]

Agreed. In 2017, unfortunately there are so many men that want to have sex with you within the first month of dating. This causes a lot of women to compromise and it is sad to say but some woman become pregnant like this. Unfortunately in today's society sex before marriage is cheered and single parenthood is glorified so much. I even hear people talk on my job about the tax benefits of having children and getting all kinds of other benefits. One of my friends who got pregnant and her boyfriend left her shortly after got so many benefits. She even got a single mom scholarship for college. Now with incentives like that who needs marriage.

[@jelicianorwood24]

Stephanie Alicia I though i only one noticed this like sit there bragg about having benefits they get from having kids. Like im single with no kids so i be looking at them like. 🤔 Wow is the reason you all had kids for benefits?

[@TheGracefulGlowup]

He said punch em in the throat two times lol! 😂😂😂I agree though. That's Super disrespectful! Great video y'all 🙌🏾

[@HeyIff]

Carrington HAD. A. WORD. This video came at just the right time for me, as though God is using you guys to speak to me so I thank you both so much 👏👏👏. I don't know what it is with these Naija boys, they're all the same 😒

[@michellenyabera7478]

HeyIff L.O.L!!! GURL!!!

[@HeyIff]

Mhmm, sounds like you know the struggle!

[@Msdeekay]

Great advice, love what Carrington said about our worth and value...if a guy says that, I say just move on, you know he isnt the one God has for you, because the one God has for you will respect you and lead you in purity, Ashley love how you put the guys in categories

[@feliciasjourney]

Ashley sittin there looking so proud 😂 👏🏽

[@shanaeb7327]

Love this video! Wish I could've told myself this in my early 20's. I've been celibate for over a year now. And it's one of the best decisions I've made.

[@laranson892]

Carrington dropped the mic!!! Awesome Word!!!

[@CYaya88]

Where are men like this?! Lord.

[@ChOsEn7VeSSeL]

Carrington's counsel in this video is STRAIGHT. ON. POINT! 👏👏👏👏👏

[@thembicosta4394]

Anyone who tries to talk you out of your decision; is not your king or your friend

[@elizabethl.1143]

wowowowow Carrington thinking definitely gonna use that next time someone hits me with that...right on the money....you betta preach

[@mskinalenee]

Great video!! Waiting until marriage to have sex is amazing because you save yourself from so much heartache and soul ties!! Carrington just dropped an awesome!! Love y'all videos!! 😄

[@Grace777-m7o]

The analogy of sex prior to marriage and a depreciating vehicle was extremely on point. Keep up the wonderful work you two! God Bless.

[@lauraholt9056]

You guys are great! Beautiful inside and out! I think I've encountered the same 3 types of guys. I'm 60 and you'd think guys in their 60's would be more willing to wait, but I had a 70 year old that was as handsy as a 17 year old! Thankfully I'm now dating a guy who's fully on board with waiting! So thankful for him! Hoping that the relationship continues to grow and looking forward to learning from the relationship.

[@kimreveil]

What blessed me even more than the words of wisdom and truth that you both shared is the peace and confidence Ashley exudes as she watches her husband give it! She knows Carrington is really "about that life" and can be trusted even after marriage. That should be a testimony and reason enough to anyone who is still on the fence about waiting or struggling with how a guy is going to react- You want to know with all your heart that who ever you end up with can cover you mentally, spiritually, and physically just as God intended a husband to do and that is made very clear in this relationship! Thank you Ashley & Carrington for being amazing examples!

[@ashleynicole2980]

Thank u guys for sharing because that was basically my story, and I know if a guy can't respect the fact that I'm waiting until marriage for sex, then I know their not the man for me. I am setting an example for my son

[@thejasmaven]

This might be my fav 802 video! Y'all shut it down. Saving this for continual inspiration. Thanks so much!!

[@talawoods25]

Standing for your purity against the odds is empowering and liberating. Btw,love the sweatshirt Carrington!

[@sassarific]

Back on this journey again - I dated a guy who seemed to down for the cause but then turns out he never intended to be celibate smh

[@richardjackson9958]

wow give me hope cause when we try to talk to our brothers and sisters they be fighting to word hard all praises let your light shine before men so they may see your good works

[@masantillo7732]

I love when Carrington gives the male point of view. Ashley love your womanly/ wife point of view.

[@LeratoWomanOfFaith]

It's so wonderful to receive this type of advice for a man sometimes....feeling so motivated

[@nosweatsports]

I just started watching your videos 2 days ago and I've been hooked, watching non-stop lol. Carrington TOOK OVER this video 😂😂. You guys are such a phenomenal team, and I pray that God continues to elevate your relationship and platform!

[@chanellie1550]

I absolutely loved this video and I cracked up laughing when you said "well we ain't gone be nothing the " hair flips all day!!!

[@eneali8308]

Thank you guys.... @ some Nigerian guys need Kingdom deliverance 😂😂😂. love the voice mimic. love you gal!

[@leftey85]

lol its true

[@honeytrionia7299]

Elizabeth Ali lmao

[@nadine7327]

Ashley that hair looks awesome on you.

[@mariadelagarza0928]

Thank you Carrington!!! nailed it brother...God bless y'all and I love y'all!!

[@UnknownUnknown-eu5ch]

Come through Carrington, Come through ! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@thatholygirl33]

You better preach Carrington!! I just love y'all! I agree with everything that was said.

[@masantillo7732]

Ashley love that you said you wanted to wait until marriage❤️.

[@dolapoo.7896]

SOOO happy with these frequent uploads 🤗😘

[@ME-xe4sk]

Awesome! Awesome! Awesome! Keepi holding up Gods standards & sharing the beautiful word of God with No compromise regardless of the backlash. God has given you both a platform & you both are using it to honor Him. Awesome.

[@lanisethrasher7563]

Thank you for such a good video! Being celibate is cool! And I'm glad yall encourage it.

[@beautyonthebeachfl445]

I love that intro, you compliment each other so well, Godbless your marriage

[@tomiprincewill7474]

Man was preaching

[@ilka3785]

Yesss Lord! 👏🏾👏🏾 Carrington went in! SN: Can you guys put the verses that you refer to in your videos in the description box please? Thank you in advance.

[@p31ChicaLove]

Short but powerful message! Love it! Now back to work.... 😀

[@heyalainanicole]

Breh Carrington killed that! Mic drop. Nothing left to be said after this 😭

[@masantillo7732]

You guys are great together. The best part is that you truly believe in putting Jesus head of your life. Love Carrington and Ashley!

[@metriad]

Can you guys please start leaving the verses you mention in the description box! That would be helpful 🙌🏾 love you guys channel and purpose behind it

[@simozedorleans2298]

AMEN!!!!!!!!! LOVE THIS WORD. THIS REALLY EMPOWERED ME.

[@ThenJessiesaid]

you guy are like my parents...I love you!!!

[@raeofsunshyne]

I love you guys, thanks for the videos, they're very inspiring.

[@EnchantedStringsToronto]

The Nigerian accent at the end just killed me😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@nieceygrice6553]

Thank you guys....y'all hit it right on target!!!!!!!!!

[@daniellehoward5011]

AMAZING! Great advice! Even better when you're allowing God to speak through you two!

[@LiaRene]

Y'all are so awesome ! I worked at Stoney creek this summer as a counselor and saw Carrington

[@chandravinning1933]

Thank you both...I love all of your vids.

[@lisanicolew.5241]

I really enjoy you both, you make an awesome team

[@abmoazhe]

Like Nigerian.... Ashley baby... laughing hard

[@danishaevans8707]

Amen, love both perspectives.

[@ShevelleRoberts]

I just discovered your channel and I'm loving this video

[@90zmom]

Lawddd bring that Word!

[@tiffanymcquater2156]

Y'all are too cute! ❤️

[@ThePosh777]

LORD I LOVE YOU TWO!

[@elishai.1181]

This answered my question I just emailed!

[@LaWillz]

Tell 'em!

[@mimisweetpea19911528]

thanks so much guys

[@SuccesswithLatoya]

Question: I was active having intercourse with my Partner pass few months. Though during our dating period I found God. And NOW I do want to wait until Marriage even though me and my current partner already been there. So I express my feelings to him. His response was “I need time to think about it”, he said if we never had sex he could do it but because he already had a taste he is not to sure. I feel a little annoyed because I figured it be an easy decision, but I’m glade he is honest and he will let me know if he can or cannot deal. If yes, then great if not then it will make me feel bad but I know God wants the Best of the Best for me, if he is not the one. Then I’ll just have to sit somewhere else in Church lol and Bless him in his Journey and my Own. ❤️🙏🏾❤️

[@xtioltillz5153]

lovej418 I’m the same. I’ve just expressed yesterday I’d like to be celibate and he said the same thing which then ended with “we already made love, it’s disrespectful to stop now”.... my heart hurts, because an hour later he decided to end things with me... working on my relationship with God right now and I hope to overcome this situation soon

[@ughnotuagainughnotuagain4275]

@@xtioltillz5153 I'm sorry to say that it was just all about what he could get out of your relationship, which is sex. If he couldn't find any other reason to continue being in a relationship with you, he didn't really love you :/ hard truth but it's good you found out now than later :)

[@lynnlove4127]

Always great, sound advice.

[@theeelevatedsongstress]

It is, it’s so disrespectful!!! 😠😠😠😠

[@abuayatullahahmed7883]

what is song name at d end...

[@nicholettejohnson3347]

Tell him you are not a drive through

[@KenyaDenise1]

Thank you so much You guys!!!!

[@valerielinares2068]

Carrington, you can punch him in the throat three times because it's also disrespectful as he is basically saying that a woman is no more valuable than an inanimate object - he is basically objectifying her and degrading her to being no better than a machine. That ain't right either.

[@thembicosta4394]

Met all 3 of those dudes

[@VickyJ31520]

Yassssss!!!!🙌🏾👍🏾🙌🏾

[@toyag638]

Amen and fasho!

[@laayytbh9153]

has anyone noticed they look alike? 😭😭😚

[@EthneImages08]

He's so disrespectful. I'm glad she cut him off. He doesn't respect her or the God she serves. I'm glad she left him alone.

[@yarwinbarton7732]

Amen!

[@theeelevatedsongstress]

Now hold up! When you go to the store and purchase an item you don’t open it, tasty it and then decide not to buy it!!NOPE!You purchase the item first then you decide if it’s what you want or not...and if you don’t somebody else will!!! In that case if you aren’t the one God will send someone else who respects her values and not only respect them but has the same values as her or even him so let’s not go there with all of that FOOLISHNESS!!!! 👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽

[@tweetybirdgirl07]

This topic is me smh it’s sad that we can’t wait to have sex ASAP instead of waiting till we are one

[@elizabethoyelade]

No not Nigerian 😩😩 smh our men are not like that please don't do it too us lol good video biblical advice

[@evelyneernest8854]

THE WHOLE VIDEO JUST STARING AT THE GIRL LIKE I JUST FIND HER ATTRACTIVE

[@wynneyourawinner4456]

You guys are starting to look like brother and sister!!! Sorry😂😂😂

[@laayytbh9153]

Sha Daniels right ive always thought they looked alike!

[@thelovelymissmonica1938]

#hairflip #boybye

[@brandyapplez5321]

👊👊

[@LovelyMocha12]

👐👐👐👐

[@JK-qw4xs]

OMG HE IS SO HOTTTT

[@JK-qw4xs]

Nikki Johnson what's the prob haha