Her boyfriend shows her NO affection, always on his phone after she moved in from across the country

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Never move for a man when you're not married. Never be afraid to start over.

[@starrjohnson1327]

A boyfriend wanted me to move across the country to be with him. We did long distance for a year. I figured out that he was lying. He wanted me to move in with him, help him raise his child and work fulltime so he could work part-time! And he lied about wanting marriage. I'm glad Gabby walked away like I did!

[@loungelyric]

Would it be the same to say a man should not pay a woman's bills until they are married?

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

@@loungelyric how you spend your money is your business.

[@rororidley5829]

My husband still sweatin me after 20 years because on my worst day…. I’m the prize. Good for you Gabby! You’re absolutely stunning and deserve to be a priority.

[@_michelemichele_]

She kept thinking it was her 🥹Girl no these men be bugged out and detached!

[@delightserene]

She shouldn’t move in with him before marriage because she’s giving him wife benefits for free. She’s 27 in her prime!!!! She needs to move out and date other men who want to get married and honour her. This situation is creating unnecessary insecurity.

[@Sky97531]

That’s it! Unnecessary insecurity. Been there and done that

[@TheLifeofStephh]

Exactly

[@ImThePrizeXY]

You've got it exactly backwards

[@Teetoy4]

@@ImThePrizeXYI agree these women be giving these young women the worst advice. And it’s scary because 163 women agreed with the comment.

[@armaniganevia892]

@@Teetoy4how? moving in with this man is just causing confusion and heartbreak

[@katherinekier]

All the mistakes I made with men in my twenties have taught me a few things: 1. I come first always. 2. Know the difference between compromise and adjustment. 3. Wanting all my needs met doesn’t mean I’m high maintenance. 4. I can always start over, as many times as I need to. 5. If he wanted to, he would. 6. I fall in love with myself FIRST, and I can share that love with that person only when it overflows. 7. I am the prize, even on my worst, most crusty days. 8. We don’t have to live together to have a healthy relationship.

[@simplyshatice]

I know my comment is late but thank you for sharing this. Thank you a thousand times ❤. Often we leave comments not thinking it will help someone but your comment means so much to me where I’m at in my life. I hope you are blessed and having an amazing day/year/life!

[@WARxxECONOMY]

THE COPE IS REAL YOUR A LEFTOVER WOMAN

[@Papiup18]

Selfish people should be selfishly alone. Two people who want a relationship to work will both look to compromise on MOST things, while understanding their partner has a breaking point. Compatibility pays a huge part in that, but if you only consider your needs, then you need to be by yourself lol

[@TheLifeofStephh]

He’s losing interest. I’ve been through it before and it may be time to get space and focus on yourself. Proud of you Gaby❤

[@barbarablackmon7807]

Ladies please QUIT shacking up before marriage! She is giving him husband privileges...lingerie, cooking, cleaning, etc. at boyfriend prices. I am sensing that he is just not into her ANYMORE! So sad indeed.

[@svetikchum6988]

What would be the difference if she's not the type of person to appreciate that for example Will miss you think he's going to appreciate it he's married say it's not. It's a character issue. Has nothing to do with the marriage, if anything, you learn that if you propose that this is the baseline that it's not going to change because hes married

[@Habeshamorena8]

6 months and SHE MOVED ACROSS SEVERAL STATE LINES....🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@SinaAla]

She made a mistake but she fixed it! Good for her!

[@rayc8769]

U MUST NOT HAD THE GOOD YET . ILL HAVE YOU MOVING ACROSS STATE LINES TOO

[@Habeshamorena8]

@@rayc8769 😂😂😂😂😂😂 mannnn I needed this laugh

[@whatthe3504]

Yeah she not that bright or immature for her age you not even married and moving across country smh

[@Blahblahblah-b2d]

@@rayc8769😂😂😂

[@robbievalen4364]

Gaby is a grown woman and she did what some 40 or 50 year old women would not do, which is move on. I am super proud of Gaby!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@pthesmith]

Yes, indeed!

[@Osnapzitsbernice]

At 33 a man knows If he wants to marry you/ be with you, he unfortunately probably didn’t take the relationship as seriously and her moving in made it serious in his face. But men never leave when they want out cause they don’t want be the bad guy

[@rosewatersweettea]

BINGO

[@tarahbruno3793]

That part

[@delightserene]

Proud of Gaby for taking the initiative to move out and to leave him - she is way too good for him 🤍 God is with you

[@theanswersisinsideu]

I feel sorry for this generation of young women you where raised in good homes with good families because the wolves are robbing them

[@DanielaWilliams-qk5xg]

You talked to Gaby more like a daughter which is sweet 💞

[@babylink12]

She moved in too early etc ladies don’t move to another state for no one unless there is a marriage like NOT a promise of marriage like you actually get married!!! Plus you shouldn’t have to “train” a man to be affectionate they do it and show they love in their own way! Gaby is still extremely young and very beautiful she definitely deserves better !!!! ❤

[@BrandiSB95]

I’m proud she let him go too. I really thought she wasn’t going to take yo advice; it was all over her face. Ladies pls stop doing wifely duties with no ring.

[@MissBunnie0407]

She always knew what she needed to do. Good for her.

[@sadelorraine8437]

Two certified ways to eliminate doing wife duties for a man and getting heartbroken: 1. Moving in with him before a ring and marriage license 2. ⚠️trigger ⚠️ Having sex with him before a ring and marriage license. I know most women think that saving the kitty is of the old days but you protect yourself from unnecessary emotional attachments to the wrong man, pregnancy risks, STDs, and a ruined reputation when you save yourself for a man who wants to provide for you and honor you in legal marriage. Close the legs and close the wallet around a man

[@triplebz9963]

I needed this reminder

[@AudaL]

This

[@MalevolentElephant]

Men should also turn close their wallets as well. No husband benefits!

[@kayyjohnson8325]

Why would she not move in before marriage? You don’t really kno a person until ya live together. You see their true colors.

[@summersday7894]

​@@kayyjohnson8325 if You truly believe You can live with a Man BEFORE marriage WITHOUT intercourse involved then congrats! You have YourSelf a great Gay bff 🎉

[@Queenbelieveit]

Glad she’s choosing herself. When a man is intentional you don’t have to second guess anything. He will tell you and show you by his actions. Praying 🙏🏽 for the best and may your husband be all you wanted plus more. ❤

[@birdiebanks]

So proud of you Gab. I was worried at first because I could tell that you were not receiving the info. I went back to my 27yr old self in my head and saw your resistance. Congratulations again for not ignoring your intuition and making excuses.❤

[@luwilliams1059]

She followed her intuition. This was great!

[@kimjames6028]

I hope she RAN away from that relationship and spends some time alone loving herself❤

[@disha5147]

I was scared she was going to stick around. I could tell by the way she was describing their relationship that he was not into her anymore. I’m so happy she moved on.

[@earthzone85]

She’s in denial. Lady sounds like that man checked out. I would move on

[@Debra-OK1955]

These women start telling their story then they pull back out of embarrassment and to protect the man - Just keep it real - Judge your relationship the way you would judge someone else.

[@maggien222]

Yeah,they are always blaming themselves, and i don't understand why...?

[@icequeen491]

True, it’s soooo cringe. Like tell it exactly how it is so that people can get the true picture. Usually the story is worse than they are actually telling and it’s only when the rel gets to the point of no return that they have no other choice but to end it. If only they would leave at the first sign of disrespect.

[@mofull-dw8gs]

It could be that she told him what kind of man she wanted and he showed her that representation. Now he is showing her who he truly is.

[@VirgoDluxe]

As someone who has been there and done that, NEVER move in with a man before marriage or at the very least engaged with the wedding day approaching. Best advice, you are single until you are married…. ! Don’t let these men pretend to wife you without marriage if that’s what you desire ❤ I’m happy she decided to out herself first and not settle 🎉 The right man for you will never have you question his actions towards you.

[@kayyjohnson8325]

Couples should definitely move together before marriage. That’s how u see their true colors. You don’t really kno a person till ya live together

[@yapadyahbanyahawada3011]

A sister is supposed to go from her father's house to her husband's house. This way she is always covered. She should not be with anyone who has not paid a dowry. This way the men in her family understand that he's financially ready for husband responsibility. All the move in first talk is delusional. When that first move in doesn't work it's off to the next rod. Okay the second time didn't work on to the next so forth and so on. We used to know that.

[@SinaAla]

@@yapadyahbanyahawada3011 100% agree! Dowry is standard in so many cultures in Africa, Asia, and even parts of Europe for reason

[@starrjohnson1327]

I dated a man who wanted me to move to Seattle. I would be leaving all of my family, my job and friends. I found out he was a liar and never wanted to get married. Good for Gabby for leaving. Many women stay and give the man their good years!

[@shinashina602]

I feel the chase was over once she moved in. 😢 in his head it’s dang there marriage. He possibly feels he doesn’t have to try now. He got to his goal.

[@AS-ji2wc]

You don’t relocate for anything less than you are Married. No Ma’am!! Absolutely not!! Stay in your own place unless you are married.Not engaged but actually married. If you move in your’e the maid.

[@Jasminemarie94]

Proud of her. Sometimes you need someone else to give you that push, tell you to listen to your intuition.

[@1120forevrr]

I’m so glad you said “33 is still young” i just turned 29 and I spent my entire entireeee 20s thinking that I was old (I guess bc I was on my own & treated like I could do everything alone) and till this day it makes me sad bc I was so young fr! But that made me happy loll

[@swanpapi7932]

She is lying to yall. It isn't old, but it isn't worth checking for when someone younger gone give you they prime years, especially if we the same age

[@SinaAla]

@@swanpapi7932 Many women marry in their 30s. As long as she is intentional and working on herself, she should be fine.

[@amandaspaintinglessons9908]

I’m 39 and the quality of men I date keeps getting better and better and I don’t feel the need to marry because life is a lot longer than it seems when you’re younger and hormones can cloud your judgement. I feel young still!!

[@vanessal.7637]

So happy that you choose YOU, Gabby!! Can’t wait to see you level up and grow into the best version of yourself!! 💛💛

[@erikam9997]

I could tell in the beginning that Gaby wasn't ready to receive the advice she was getting. And that is ok. It is a process sometimes. I am so very glad that she allowed herself to receive the advice and was able to talk with her boyfriend to get the information from him to make an educated decision about her life. This is a tough but, important lesson. Now Gaby can move on with her like and be free. Getting her career together and building her network. Congratulations Gaby! You will go far!

[@anndiestephen7671]

This young lady was clearly misguided but Ashley advised her rightly. Sad internet aunties are now taking over the role of parents.

[@alizewilcoxen9787]

In a world like this, it is a blessing to have valuable information. Everybody don’t got the parents.

[@Msd4-13]

I don’t think she was misguided. I think she’s a very strong minded individual and knows what she wants and goes and gets it. She didn’t move in with a bum. She was with someone who was where they needed to be financially, just not emotionally an it just didn’t work out. She realized that’s not where she wanted or needed to be after taking that long move and moved on. She’ll find someone that’s good for her and when she does she’ll be ready for it. She has clearly been raised right.

[@mrshappilymarried1]

Super Proud of You Gabby!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❣️❣️

[@Blahblahblah-b2d]

Who’s gonna tell her he is cheating or fell out of love ! Girl you are young and beautiful don’t stress and do what’s best for you ! Gabby !!! ❤❤❤❤ you go girl !!!

[@naturallytajy973]

Good for her for choosing her; he was using her as a place holder. He only wanted what she did at the time to get what he really wanted easier. Happy for her 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@kayjay9428]

Gabby is so cute...reminds me of my niece. Gaby is fit too. Girl, you're the prize here 🙂

[@Gabrosoft]

aww i love this and when you said “this is for all the gabbys” I definitely felt that and needed to hear this ❤❤❤

[@Habeshamorena8]

She didn't have a choice BUT to leave HE SAID HE NEEDED SPACE WHIXH FORCED HER OUT

[@icequeen491]

Yep, he basically ended it

[@CinemaDoll137]

he'll spin the block soon enough

[@smithj8026]

Some people aren’t raised to give or receive hugs. He may love you but, in his family or culture there is no random intimacy. He is probably a decent guy that loves her. But, never up and change your life for anyone. Go home dear. He will come for you if he wants you. Good luck.

[@VelvetNocturne]

It sounds like she’s not giving him enough space. It sounds like she doesn’t have many friends in CA, so she puts her all into him and he may feel somewhat suffocated. She needs to find some hobbies and make some friends so that her man is not her entire life. It’s seeming like he’s not that into her anymore or he needs some more space.

[@heruuniverse]

when she came on here smiling I couldn't help but to smile

[@CarribeanDiamond]

Yessssss I’m so happy for her. She gets her do over and will be focusing on herself ❤️❤️❤️ I WISH HER THE BEST

[@bxgirl2930]

I am absolutely so proud of Gabby she was sure to PUT HERSELF FIRST! SOME WOMEN IN my age group 45-50 have a hard time leaving bad situations smh we know her dude was not actually wanting her to move in absolutely things probably started to look a way he wasn't prepared for or he actually could have met someone and knew she moved for him so he didn't wanna hurt her feelings because he didn't want the fast track to marriage

[@_NiaJ]

So proud of you Gaby!!! I think most of us have been in a similar situation and tried everything to make it work even though the red flags were obvious. It takes time to come to your own conclusions about people and their intentions so don’t beat yourself up. You’re moving on to bigger and better things now. You’re a gorgeous young lady and I wish you all the best in the army and finding love again ❤️

[@quetta561]

Dam this hit deep she’s absolutely correct I have somebody my late teens and twenties 32 and finally learning to love me it’s so very saddening but thank god I don’t look like how I feel deep down. These men’s are beating us down and we have to stop it. I’m proud of u Gabi

[@glamourdarling]

good for you gaby!!! our womens intuition never decieves us, but our ego does. she did the right thing and she will be so much happier. congrats girl!!!

[@Herjourneyforward]

I just love your energy it’s raw and you can tell that everything that comes out of of your mouth is said with love. I needed a big sister like you growing up. The way you speak and carry yourself you are real life role model keep putting the content out it’s greatly appreciated

[@Msheepz]

Gaby, I understand when you get to a certain age and you just want to be married. I cried and asked God to make me get married before 30. I did but I wish I had waited, I’m still married but I feel I would have known more what I want beyond 30. Work on yourself, focus on you! Date girl, until you find the right one for you. Six months is too early to move in with anyone. I hope everything works out for you.

[@Chanel_Azure]

Super proud of you Gaby!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@nikjalik03]

Ashley is the truth!!!!!!! She is spitting nothing but game!! Young ladies please pick up what she is laying down!

[@jazzie.c]

Good nuggets!!! Needed this even in my mid 30’s.

[@beautyinthedark7406]

Ashley is the friend I needed yrs ago. She’s dead on with the advise. I made all the mistakes she mentioned and ended up wasting yrs. I lost myself and unknowingly made him the prize which made it easier for him to walk all over me 🙄. But I’m awake, rose color glasses crushed. If any situation doesn’t serve you emotionally and physically leave. Always be good with walking away. Your person is out there and life is too short to settle for 🗑️🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️❤️

[@rashidapurvey3207]

Gabby honey , babygirl he doesn’t like you . At your young tender age and his age both of them hormones and affection should be in full effect .

[@avamcnealy4310]

Proud of you Gabby !! Ashley great advice!

[@lillywidawski9282]

Per the rules. You don't move to the man. He turns his life upside down to be with you !! . She shouldn't have moved with him across the country.

[@icequeen491]

Exactly 🎉🎉🎉

[@fitzgeraldsemelfort3938]

No way bad advice🤦🏾

[@AngelaDenise35]

I was so proud of Gaby!!!! She looked so refreshed and more happier! ❤

[@brittneydavis8662]

Sounds like a huge success to me with the update! It’s only up from here Gabi❤️

[@dskye2634]

good girl Gabby... so glad to see this positive update for HERSELF

[@sheenesechambers7144]

Im proud of her. Yes Gaby! Its his loss

[@FeminineBarbie111]

Baby come back to Florida we lit over here !

[@Cvsvi]

I’m so happy for her. Congratulations Gaby!

[@EdlyneFrance]

Sooo proud of you beautiful stranger!!

[@KDStyle1]

When people show you who they are believe them...yeah I culd tell he didn't really like her..but she seems to "RUN" & rush and not working on TRUE SELF love...BE your own company to see if YOU even like YOU

[@ZaraSalkida]

So proud of her, I love her ❤️

[@mrscdenise]

@Gaby -- Are you speaking to him respectfully, showing gratitude. Men thrive on respect not love. You seem sweet. Does he have any outside stressors? Sometimes stress can reduce a man's libido too. Definitely talk, creating a safe space for him to be really honest...and be ready to listen to whatever he says good or bad.

[@sherleyeugene]

I've never been so proud of somebody I don't even know. I am like, girrrrrrlllllll❤

[@rosalynm9521]

She shouldn’t have moved in. Did he asked her to move or did she do this on her own?

[@Deevine_]

Marriage wouldn’t change this. This is ur future with him. Ur new normal

[@shonniec_dnp9462]

Beautiful story. So happy for her!

[@donnasissoko8289]

Red Flag! Bate & Switch!⚠️ There is no Commitment! Time to go back to Florida! No living together ever without a Commitment!

[@Kira-berry]

I’m tired of women settling for this type of treatment and then want to share it with the world for attention YOU should be embarrassed.. stop putting what you want in a relationship to the way side just to have a SHELL of a man.. he with you bc you provide something else he likes Like putting him before You.. you allow F up treatment.. you dnt love yourself.. HE Don’t Love or Like you. When a man loves he show actions you wouldn’t have to ask.. a man wants to see if you love yourself if you put up with BS that’s exactly what you will get no learn to love you bc if you dnt AINT no way he gone love you! PERIOD!

[@lezenamamo7012]

Ash the ending was so beautiful you are a such a beautiful person I love seeing what you do for the girls🫶🏽

[@SinaAla]

Such a great update! Very proud of her :)

[@MitistkaMitistka]

He does not want her just using and wasting her youth. Run from him girl

[@tina247diva9]

Proud of her!!!! Cuz she had me screaming at the phone😂😂in the beginning

[@Xoxoquan]

Good for you Gabby!! 😊your husband will come

[@theehardpill]

Super proud of her!!!!❤❤❤ go Gabby

[@Tanialebratz]

I love this update 🎉

[@Brownsugaandspice]

So proud of her for choosing herself. ❤️🥰

[@user-dx4ge5yr5d]

Proud of you girl.

[@michelleray9143]

Truth does hurt. You are young and beautiful. Sis there is someone else. There is nothing wrong with you. Life goes on.❤❤

[@brooklyonscott3970]

I’m so happy and proud of you Gabby! 💜

[@winterazulec]

Good for you gabey. Yeah the fall back and respect his face and do you. Listen to your intuition, trust it.

[@Noir_Nouveau]

She is a good woman glad she saw her value.

[@ItsmeCR-g8j]

I’m so proud of Gaby! She almost fell in that rationalization trap. But she had the conversation, offered a solution, accepted his response and acted accordingly by prioritizing herself.

[@ashleycampbell8025]

The ending of this video made me so happppyyy!!!!!❤❤❤❤

[@Debra-OK1955]

I'm so happy 😊 for beautiful Gaby

[@Chrisia-Queens]

Moving in with a man without a marriage certificate, is free labour with high risks. Me just spending 1 day at my boyfriend's place feels exhausting. I can't imagine live there for a week 😅😅😅. I don't how i will cope if I'm married, living in the same house 24/7. The only thing that will make me compromising and giving up my space is a marriage certificate.

[@Sandra.-.]

Young ladies should stop rushing into relationships. This should be the best time of her life for self discovery but she's here being stressed out by some loser. She's not even mature and confident enough to express her needs and concerns, chile! Going around in circles trying to justify this weird behavior playing house. Should be having fun,making money, enjoying time with your friends etc.

[@richardbell1614]

Never date a cop..

[@abbybritish]

So happy for her!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@leolad.4701]

He isolated you and now he has total control over you. He has conquered you and he feels he doesn’t have to put in any other effort.

[@donuts5710]

I looooOOoooove that update! ❤

[@ThatgirlM92]

Rooting for you gabby ❤

[@antoniomcnair8481]

Coming from a man...... he's gotten bored sweetie, the lust is gone he's just dealing with u atp

[@AudaL]

15:21 ASHLEYYYYYYY IM CRYING NOT SPIRITUAL JOURNEY

[@lkofie6670]

To be honest, I've never been a believer in girlfriends moving in with their boyfriends, how much more moving across country. I look at it as "a do it at your own risk of being no more than a girlfriend forever." You'll be doing all the things a wife is obligated to do for a man who has not entirely committed to you. Not to mention the higher risk of bringing children into the mix for a man that has not entirely committed to you. BUT people do as they will.

[@melissag.428]

She's thinking about it too much. I used to be like that. He's got something else going on and not telling you about it. Not to say he's cheating on her, but he's not telling her something.

[@user-ep6bo3in2z]

Been there no lies told

[@scorpioroyalty6942]

Good job Gabby!!! 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽