Why I QUIT teaching

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Күн бұрын

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I make mostly vlog style content with my partner Cameron. I love making memories that I can look back on in years to come, while sharing little pieces of my life with the KZbin community. Thank you so much for watching.
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I left teaching. It's been a crazy journey and I'm so grateful for the love and support of those around me!
If you're going through something similar I hope this video resonates with you...if you have any questions about my experience or want to share your teaching journey or career change, please comment below!

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@arthurdevrome8925 7 ай бұрын

"Respect is the cornerstone of any meaningful relationship, especially between teachers and students. It's disheartening to see a dedicated educator driven to leave their passion because of a lack of respect and chaos in the classroom. Teaching isn't just about imparting knowledge; it's about fostering an environment of mutual respect, learning, and growth. My heart goes out to this teacher and all educators who face similar challenges. Let's use this as a wake-up call to prioritize respect and support in our schools, because every teacher deserves to feel valued and appreciated for the incredible work they do."

@tiggs5591 9 ай бұрын

It doesn’t seem like you failed at teaching. The profession is too demanding; the expectations for teachers are unreasonable. As teachers we should NOT be expected to work 12-16 hours a day. I set boundaries and do not work after hours.

@jadespade99 9 ай бұрын

You're absolutely right. In Scotland we have some of the highest contact hours in class.... I had no idea what I was going into...I have so much mkre respect for teachers now having experienced the working conditions. It needs to change! That's really great you can be firm and have that work life balance! 🙌

@roundtwo3321 5 ай бұрын

@@jadespade99 The real tragedy is that everyone you came into contact with knew the hardships you would face, but did NOT lift a finger to warn or help you. Instead, your school just took your money and sent you packing. The principal showed you your classroom and closed the door behind them. All aspects of that neglect and indifference is a form of gaslighting. Everyone's pretending that all is well when they know it is not.

@Senacacrane 4 ай бұрын

@@jadespade99you wanting to teach kids is very important. I don't think that you wanted to quit. You didn't fail at teaching. You just had a lot of stuff that you couldn't cope with. My heart. Goes out to you.❤

@johnwall7968 9 ай бұрын

I’m (currently) a history teacher in NY: I had a VERY similar experience throughout my student teaching placements, and in these past 2 years of having my own classroom and teaching full time. I too have decided to find a job that will not drain my physical and mental health, cause me all kinds of anxiety, and take over My entire life. Your decision to leave this profession and find something else is NOT a failure. It’s simply a change of the course of the path of your life. True failure would be to stay in a job that would end up killing you with stress and anxiety. You know what you want; go get it.

@jadespade99 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and share your own journey. I'm so sorry that you're experiencing something similar. I wish you all the best in whatever you chose to do next, and hope you can prioritise your mental health and wellbeing moving forward!

@loomonda18 8 ай бұрын

I'm in the process of transitioning careers as well from teaching! I think I always new deep down it wasn't truly for me...one thing I will tell anyone who is thinking about going into teaching is this: Ask yourself if you are willing to spend everyday micro managing students, constantly managing behaviours and repeating yourself nonstop, trying to get people to do work who do not want to do work (no matter the grade level). No fault of the kids, but that's what teaching is EVERYDAY. It's the reality of it - and I wish I really sat down and thought about that aspect of teaching before I got into it. I have no regrets because like you said, it's part of the journey, but as I got older, I realized the parts of teaching I did resonate with (the creative side of it, the "casual" ease, working with kids, and designing a class that resonated with me) were far overshadowed by the consistently rude behaviour of students, the disrespect that they were not taught, the constant nagging on my end to get their work done (I hated how I felt/who I was in these scenarios)...it didn't align with who I was. I wanted a place of peace (which is not found at school lol), I worked better independently (you hardly get any quiet time at school), and the kids I enjoyed interacting with were kids who WANTED to learn and were responsive....and this was actually really far and few. Sorry for the long rant lol - but these types of videos are super encouraging to know that we are all in a similar boat! Also, may I ask what job you are going into next?

@jadespade99 8 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing your own journey, and best of luck with whatever comes next! I've started a new admin job which I'm really enjoying! I always hated the idea of sitting behind a desk, but there's so much to the role and every day is different! My confidence was completely knocked after teaching...but I'm starting to build it back up the more Im settling into this new job!!

@loomonda18 8 ай бұрын

@@jadespade99 that's amazing!! All the best with your new position!

@rebecca7410 6 ай бұрын

So true! I hated having to be on behaviour constantly and being an insufferable nag, when I am naturally a happy go lucky soul. Before covid, humour used to work, but it seems I can't reach students thst way now. It's almost like they want to be antagonistic for the sake of it, like a sport. When I trained in 2007 it was not like this 😢

@eightiesmusic1984 15 күн бұрын

@@rebecca7410 Very valid points. I used to use humour in my teaching but gave up probably about five years before I stopped after nearly thirty years because there was a discernable shift in the general attitudes of students some of whom seemed to regard it as a sign of weakness and almost like a character defect. I always had good classroom management in an atmosphere of mutual respect but this change which is hard to pinpoint or describe precisely was noticeable and disconcerting but regrettably abandoning humour was the right call when it was not getting through. Maybe I just wasn't witty enough but I suspect it was more the shift I cite.

@thetruthwillsetyoufree891 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing ❤ don’t feel like a bum, I too left public school teaching and I am older than you and don’t have a job lined up yet. I’m not stressing, I’m enjoying my well deserved time away from work and the constant struggles of the public school. I still teach, but I volunteer at my local church and I love it!❤

@jadespade99 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching and sharing your journey too! That's fantastic, slowing it down and prioritising your mental health is so important. Goodluck with whatever you move onto next! ❤️

@themaximum97 7 ай бұрын

I teach history in Texas. You’re not a failure at all. This job is overwhelming and nothing adequately prepares you for it. In Texas, all you need to do to become a teacher is have a Bachelor’s, take an online alternative certification class that you can finish in 5 months, pass a content exam and then you can get hired (this is what I did). I walked in on that very first day having never taught a class before, with no idea of how to plan lessons, no clue as to what the language of the discipline meant at all (my degree was in English, not Education, and I was teaching World History. I cried every single day those first two weeks. Even now, a year later, I still feel like I only KIND of know what I’m doing. You did the right thing by prioritizing your mental health and well being. Thank you for sharing ❤

@jadespade99 7 ай бұрын

That's so interesting and so different to how we do it here...I can't imagine how you must have been feeling on that very first day! 😭 goodluck with your teaching journey, I hope it gets easier!

@Existmusiccloud 7 ай бұрын

Teacher training courses are designed (improvised) by those getting paid by a hierachy of theorists. They make something up and proclaim it's official, until the next promoted method comes along. Certificate courses should just be a few days of learning general tips and confirmed methods.

@michaelpaterson732 8 ай бұрын

I started my probation year as a secondary music teacher in 2023 and had officially resigned by Boxing day of the same year. In the end I left for mental health reasons. The teaching staff and regent were extremely kind and supportive in this regard although I could have done little else in the end. The extent to which the job is extremely stressful is actually quite disturbing. My reasons for quitting were not just to do with the demands of the job and the horrible, disgraceful behaviour/attitudes/ language of (some) of the pupils but also at the thought of doing this job for potentially years to come and feeling as miserable/crappy as I was feeling. There are too many stories of teachers quitting to 'reclaim their lives', or because they feel unsupported or smothered with work each day from dawn to dusk. It's just not a good way to live. I am going back to China to teach English in universities and despite everything, I am happier with that. Perhaps ironically, I don't want to live a life where I am constantly under scrutiny and constrained by the narrow parameters of a failing system. Also happy at the prospect of not having to suffer the slings and arrows of stroppy, rude adolescents anymore. I wish you luck with your own life post-teaching.

@rebecca7410 6 ай бұрын

Ah that's amazing! Enjoy China! I taught in Asia and had to come back to UK secondary schools and am v v v unhappy now. I wish I'd been able to stay in Asia.

@michaelpaterson732 6 ай бұрын

Sorry to hear that. I am back now in (East) China and I am the happiest I've been for ages. Everything is just falling into place. It's borderline ridiculous. I suggest you go back if that's how you feel.@@rebecca7410

@06hurdwp Ай бұрын

You chose quite possibly the worst subject if behaviour was your concern

@michaelpaterson732 Ай бұрын

@@06hurdwp Probably.

@michaelpaterson732 Ай бұрын

@@rebecca7410 Thanks. I've been back for nearly six months now. Absolutely no regrets. Still plenty of teaching jobs here at all levels just as before.

@byeteaching 8 ай бұрын

Great video! As a former teacher myself, I can totally relate to these mistakes. It's so important for educators transitioning into new careers to be aware of these pitfalls. Thanks for sharing!

@rebekahmontesdeoca565 7 ай бұрын

You might think that's it's you, that you just weren't cut out for teaching. But it's not you. Teaching sucks for everyone. I don't encourage anyone to do it.

@roundtwo3321 5 ай бұрын

Lesson planning is the worst part of teaching when all things are going well. Curriculum should include all forms of lesson planning. Teachers shouldn't be forced to write. Teachers should only teach in the classroom.

@DelythDazeley 7 ай бұрын

I was in early years for 20 years. It never got easier, in fact it just got harder and more demanding. My colleagues were never supportive. Teaching is so competitive, teachers always compare themselves to others . They resent others, don’t support each other and suck up to the boss. I didn’t sleep, spent hours planning and got loads of health issues. Since leaving although I have no regrets I have low self esteem. Teaching should be such a lovely job but the profession is ruined by horrible, competitive and unsupportive colleagues. The government setting impossible targets and socially and emotionally damaged children which the curriculum doesn’t allow for. It’s an impossible job. Don’t feel inadequate, you tried and you realised far earlier than me that it was no place for a lovely, sensitive person. Go and throw yourself into a rewarding job that will allow you to flourish.

@thatguy00842 7 ай бұрын

Taught for over 20 years- mostly history. The planning, structure, management does get easier over time. But teaching never gets easy. Ever. A perfectionist streak is pretty common among many of the good teachers I know, but it makes it even harder. You can never be perfect as a teacher, the job is too complex, and with too many conflicting priorities to do well all the time. Some people can deal with that reality, some people can't. It's much better that you got out early. You did exactly the right thing. Although you might feel that you "wasted" all that time, you shouldn't. You tried, you learned, and you will be better for it. Good luck

@jadespade99 7 ай бұрын

Thank you 😊

@TheRyguy79 6 ай бұрын

I'm in my first year teaching in the US through an alternative certification program. I feel this right to my core. I've been considering switching to teaching since around 2005 and now that I'm in it, I hate everything about it except the kids. I have no life. I plan, I grade, and I work on my coursework. I live on 4-5 hours of sleep a night. I spend maybe an hour with my wife and kids on weekdays, and that's when we're preparing and eating dinner. My wife has taken on the workload of household chores that I no longer have time to help with. If I take a Saturday or Sunday to spend extra time with my wife and kids, I just stress about the work I'm not getting done. I'm just trying to make it to summer vacation and then who knows. I'll have 2.5 paid months to figure things out.

@jadespade99 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this. I absolutely resonate you. Fortunately I only had myself and my partner to worry about. But even that was crippling, our time together was so strained. I hope for you it gets easier, but if it doesn't, you sound like you need to find something else that suits your work/life balance better! I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a hard time. Best of luck❤️

@pagandeva2000 6 ай бұрын

I’m a nurse, so, I’m an outsider looking into your world. From what I’m seeing, you didn’t fail, however, I do say that teaching failed YOU. They placed unrealistic demands upon you. You aren’t a glorified babysitter and it takes a VILLAGE to raise children. The natural instinct is to preserve self first. They tell us this each time we’re about to take off in a plane…put that mask on yourself even before you place it on your child. Save yourself. The children who are meant to survive will make it, because their parents (who are ULTIMATELY responsible for their children) will have to pull their bootstraps to make it happen. When you see your community and society render support. Only then should you grace yourself to even wade in those waters. I wish you well.

@Indikid19914 3 ай бұрын

I've been teaching for 7 years abroad, online and in the UK. A range of issues I have come across is severe behavioral issues, large classroom sizes, lack of support, terrible senior leadership, too much admin, awful parents, little teacher autonomy and little time to plan/ mark tests. When I started abroad I loved my job, but 7 years on I have been close to handing in the towel. Education Reform is needed for the well being of both teachers and students.

@tgab3301 6 ай бұрын

I greatly empathize with you. I just finished year 29 and am counting down till the end of next school year. Best wishes on your next journey.

@esthelaa5028 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for talking about this. I just quit and I’m so sad. But I was getting really sick. 😞

@teej7946 9 ай бұрын

Hello! I have a very similar story to you but you got much further in your teaching career than I did. I also started my PGDE but dropped out after a couple of months of placement. I had the same feelings of guilt coupled with shame - it took around five years to recover from the anxiety the course had given me. Teaching is far too regimented and political these days. I wanted to teach children about the world around them but you can't with the veritable minefield you have to walk across. On top of that, I feel that the course pushes a set of values that does not quite line up with my own, but if you don't share those values then you will fail. Equity/equality of outcome versus equality of opportunity being one of them. It's all gone too far and teachers are suffering for it. Well done for getting so far. For me, being a teacher was the best thing that never happened. Good luck with your future endeavours; your experience in teaching will be a great asset for your CV and future interviews. I hope you find prosperity and fulfillment in your future.

@jadespade99 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for being so transparent and sharing your own teaching experience. I totally agree, trying to juggle all the competing demands and agendas was exhausting. And i love that quote btw! It's the best thing than never happened to me too! I've learned so much from this year and met some incredible people. I'm hopeful that i don't carry my anxiety into my new workplace (starting in Jan)...but I know it'll take time to rebuild my confidence. It's reassuring to know you experienced something similar. All the best on your journey, too!

@TonyTheNerd 4 ай бұрын

Gosh, you certainly tried hard for something you wanted to do. Well done for sharing. Good luck for the future 🤗

@08emily89 2 ай бұрын

EVERYTHING you said resonated with me. I also find planning excruciating. I stare at the screen for hours only to write nothing. I’m leaving

@jadespade99 2 ай бұрын

Best of luck in whatever you go on to do next! 🤞🏻

@badabing5103 7 ай бұрын

I quit last week it was a safety issue for me kept getting threats of violence from mentally ill children at an inner city school. I want to change subjects to math and move to a richer neighborhood district and give it one more chance if it doesn't work out after that I'm switching professions lol

@hillcatrogers9086 9 ай бұрын

Hi - Congrats on making the decision to leave a job that was destructive. I too am a teacher, currently in my sixth year and looking to transition out soon. What is your future job and did your prior teaching experience play a role landing your new gig?

@jadespade99 9 ай бұрын

Hi there! Thanks so much for watching and sharing a part of your journey too! I'm starting a job in a charity as a buisness/finance administrator- so no relation to teaching at all! I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling too...Best of luck with whatever you go onto try next, do what feels right for you! :)

@guidofeliz8384 4 ай бұрын

I wanted to be a math teacher but school officials, particularly the DOE, discouraged me from chasing my dream. I also recall CUNY guidance counselors discouraging me from pursuing my academic objectives. This was all done in an effort to keep certain minorities from reaching success and job security. So, I did others things with my life. Now at 59 years old with three college degrees, I find myself working as a security guard making peanuts for a living in a dead-end job. How about that for a story?

@outdoorgearguy6823 3 ай бұрын

😢

@uzairmehmood16 7 ай бұрын

I would say I found lesson planning and processes challenging. There are many ways to teach different topics it can be overwhelming. But wanting to work in education is definitely an aspiration of mine because I want to work with young people... I wanted to share knowledge and education with others and I also wanted to work and travel and teaching can give the opportunity to go abroad. I totally get what you mean about the basics of a 50 minute lesson... There are many variables to what makes a lesson successful. I want to go back to it in years but for now I'm looking to work a 'regular job.'

@abc_13579 4 ай бұрын

You've succeeded in discovering that teaching in a classroom setting isn't for you. You had every reason to assume otherwise because you're good with kids. As an aside, your intelligence, authenticity, and kindness shine from every word of this video. Be proud of the person you've become. I'm sure you have many friends who enjoy your company. What's more, you have the potential to be a wonderful wife and an outstanding mother. Not everyone can say that.

@tamie4504 7 ай бұрын

I’m sure they have teaching planners that help you meet all the standards. I used them when I homeschooled. Your a great person and will find your path.

@tamie4504 7 ай бұрын

I’m 40 and have found joy in many different careers. I gained so much experience and knowledge from all of them. You will find your path. You didn’t fail. You learned that it wasn’t for you. Good luck with your future endeavors.

@PescesKitchen 4 ай бұрын

I left 3 months ago, after serving 10 years in a system who didn't value me on any level. The kids are out of control and the administration is wacked out of shape when it comes to standing up for their teachers. The system is broken and teachers are leaving everywhere but leaving was the best thing I ever did, because it showed me how valuable I was for the company I now work hard for each day. And i'm getting paid well better than before.

@nellybrown9127 7 ай бұрын

Well done in leaving what now has become a toxic occupation. I taught primary school for 34 yrs and took early retirement. At the start it was a dream job , fulfilling all my expectations. At the close of my career it was nothing like the job I had signed up for. Mentally challenging and unattainable. You did the right thing. Good luck in your next venture.

@강경화-j8s 8 ай бұрын

When you are new to teaching you are best off just following the Textbook available and improving your technical ability of the process and developing a good classroom management strategy.

@anonanon1344 6 ай бұрын

I handed in my notice today, which means I will be leaving teaching at the end of my 3rd year in teaching, one year after completing the two year ECT program. I recognise everything you have said here. It’s not you. It sounds like you really cared and were very dedicated, but it’s just a completely punishing and unreasonably demanding working environment. I burned out in a way that almost completely destroyed my mental health. You did the right thing by listening to yourself and not accepting feeling exhausted, stressed and exposed every day.

@jadespade99 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm so sorry to hear that you have struggled too, but equally reassured to know I am not alone. Best of luck for your future!!! X

@nuhabashir1672 15 күн бұрын

I've started my ect year and I'm regretting it

@eightiesmusic1984 15 күн бұрын

@@nuhabashir1672 I taught for nearly thirty years and can still remember my first year as an NQT in 1993. It is a long time ago and it was in inner city London near Grenfell Tower. It was a challenge to establish myself but I did both during the year even when I doubted myself and could not see it, and over the next two years. The amount of work was a shock compared to the PGCE which has been straightforward. I have always had the capacity to work hard but there are only so many hours in the day to do everything and when I started the demands on teachers were less. The number of things required today in each lesson and all the other things such as meetings, contact with parents, etc, is excessive. Few schools for anything about workload. It may not be much consolation now but it will become easier during the course of the year and you will see this as you work your way through tasks and establish routines. I learnt in part by listening to older, experienced teachers about different aspects of the job and also seeing how they dealt with students over behaviour and pastoral issues. Over the years as I got older I worked alongside many colleagues in their twenties who were new to teaching who proved to be excellent after a short time in the job ( a year or two). I was a head of subject for 23 years in total in two schools and saw many excellent trainees do their teaching practice who were clearly going to make great teachers in no time at all, including in the last decade when the demands of teaching have been so high. It is always a work in progress as teaching is challenging and relentless as well as quite lonely and isolating stuck in your classroom all day. Good teachers are self critical because they strive for the best but it is important not to put too much pressure on yourself and to try to pace yourself. Your best is good enough,please remember this. Everyone is different and responds to the job in their own way, I realise. Teaching is not for everyone and there were many times I wanted to quit but I lasted nearly three decades. I have typed my comments to try to be supportive because I know how important it is in teaching and can pinpoint numerous occasions where positive feedback helped me in my career. I hope nothing I have said will seem patronising and wish you every success in your first year and really hope everything works out well for you.

@davidthomas9276 5 ай бұрын

The planning thing got me, too. So much stress, so much time spent on it. Maybe teacher colleges should devote more time to helping us become better lesson planners.

@jadespade99 5 ай бұрын

For sure! I think for some people they can thrive given the creative freedom. Whereas I was the complete opposite - totally paralysed by indecision.

@brandonfouts4074 7 ай бұрын

I can appreciate your honesty

@karen_g8373 19 күн бұрын

I have just handed in my notice. I also done the PGDE primary in Scotland and started my probation year. Everything you said in this video has resonated with me. I have experienced exactly the same as you and even the skin picking 🫣 my last day was on Friday. I am now currently sitting wondering about my next moves and what types of jobs to apply to. What types of jobs did you apply to and what are you working as just now if you don’t mind me asking?

@jadespade99 19 күн бұрын

Hi Karen. Thank you for watching, and sharing your own journey. I'm so sorry that a career in teaching hasn't worked out for you, but more relieved to hear that you have chosen to put your health and happiness first. I might make a video about it but I'll give you a quick summary of what I am doing now! After I handed in my notice, I felt a lot of pressure, like I had to figure out what I wanted to do straight away...As a result, I panicked and bought a £600 online CeMap course (which is what you need to be a qualified mortgage advisor). I did this course from home, while applying for other graduate jobs. In hindsight, I think I felt the need to do this course to feel productive/like I wasn't having a bit of a quarter life crisis as an unemployed failure lol😅 I reached out to my old university for careers support with this, and they were great. I read some books on interview and CV guidance, and basically just applied for any jobs that were within commuting distance and suited to newly qualified graduates. In other words, any job where no experience needed. This included mostly entry level finance/buisness positions. I didn't want to work with people in any support or social care sector e.g. as a support worker, or anything remotely close to teaching. I just needed a 360 change. I ended up getting a job as a finance officer and business administrator for a charity. I basically provide admin support for different services within the charity (basically a lot of spreadsheets, emails, MS Team calls, etc.). I wouldn't say I am particularly passionate about admin or business, but it is perfect for me now. It's only 32 hours a week, so I am getting a chance to recover from the last year and put my mental and physical health first. It's also a brilliant company. I've been really well supported into the role, and there's a lot of opportunity for growth and development- im currently doing a leaderhsip qualification. At the end of the day, I don't bring any work home with me. I couldn't have imagined having a job like this a year ago...I am so much happier. I still don't know what I want to do. The truth is I don't want to work at all. I dont dream of work. The ultimate goal is financial freedom at the end of the day. So I don't feel the pressure to find something I am passionate about any more. I just want to go to work, do a good job, save money, and have my work and personal life be clearly separated. Which is what this job is giving me ☺️ Do you have any idea what you would like to do next? best of luck with whatever you choose and if there is anything you want me to speak more about let me know and I'll try make a video 🥰

@karen_g8373 18 күн бұрын

@@jadespade99 thank you so much for your response. I wanted to take the time to respond to your message as I appreciate that it must have taken a lot to document your experience and relive those thoughts again. You are totally not a failure and I think it is so admirable how you prioritised your own health and what you want from life. It takes a great deal of strength and courage to comeback after what I know is a very emotionally exhausting experience. I feel like a bit of a shell of my former self just now trying to figure what is next. It is so reassuring to hear how you got back up again and didn’t let this experience hold you back! Likewise I done the PGDE at Edi university and found the placements so very challenging as you are in someone else’s classroom and I honestly find the ordeal to be like social experiment were you feel like you are playing mental games to get people to like you so that you can pass your observations etc. Probation has been awful for me as I was given the most challenging class in the school and I don’t want to say too much as I know this comment is public. I had no one to plan with and I just found it all too much to begin with. I don’t think I would have made it to Halloween break. I know exactly the feeling you went through. Today I am sitting thinking to myself what should I be doing just now and how can I gain more qualifications to get another job. I think I probably should try to recover first as no doubt I would end up jumping back into a worse situation. I was actually looking at admin roles over the weekend and I do think that is something I can move forward with. Financial freedom is top of my list and just being able to come home and having the time to spend with my husband and be able to exercise is so important to me. I love running and the morning has been the first time that I have managed to get out for a run in I don’t know how long. Thank you so much for sharing your journey about where you are now. You’re an inspiration! I hope this time next year I will be in a better off situation. I would love it if you made a video about your journey so far. I think the education system in Scotland needs to change massively for me to even consider returning to the classroom. I think the most important thing in life is being content and it might mean not earning a lot but mental and physical health are so important and without them what is really the point as yes you can earn more money but you won’t be able to enjoy it. It’s just trying to find a healthy balance I think is tricky plus I don’t have a clue what I actual want to do now so that scares me a bit and concerns me that an employer will look at my CV and see that I have done a whole mix of different things.

@jadespade99 16 күн бұрын

@karen_g8373 Thank you again for taking the time to share your experience, and for your empathy and understanding. I loved reading this❤️ I should definitely reframe the way I talk about it because you're so right, I'm not a failure. And neither are you. The PGDE is definitely the hardest thing I have done in my life, and you should be so proud for even surviving that year! I'm sorry to hear your probation has been so challenging. I was awful at managing behaviour- I just wasn't firm enough and couldn't set boundaries. I felt like I was failing the kids every day. I also didn't make it to halloween...😂 you should definitely give yourself time to heal and rest. Like you said, putting pressure on yourself to jump into something super fast paced might do more harm! A job in admin is really easy to get your head around with a bit of practice and training. Plus, loads of skills are transferable from teaching, like organisation, digital literacy, communication, etc, so I wouldn't worry about your CV! Try to frame the experience in a positive light and talk about what you have gained from it. I'm sure you have loads of amazing stuff to talk about and reflect on in interviews, along with your qualifications that will speak volumes alone. Just go for it, apply for everything even if you don't feel qualified, and see what comes back. I applied for my current job on a whim and never thought I stood a chance...but here I am! I was the same with exercise...all my energy went into teaching. I didn't exercise for so long, and I gained weight from stress eating. I'd never felt worse i had so many health problems! I hope you get your energy back to start to running again and regain that part of yourself. You're so right. A healthy balance is key. Some people are lucky and know what they want to do from a young age.. I still don't know what I want to do at 25! Now is the time to try different things, and eventually I'm sure we'll both find something we take pride in, that strikes a healthier balance. You're an inspiration too! honestly, I have so much more admiration for teachers now having experienced teaching myself...I wouldn't change any of it. In a year from now I hope you're happier, and can look back with no regrets!

@karen_g8373 10 күн бұрын

@@jadespade99 thank you for much for your lovely response and apologies for the delay in responding. Over the last week I have felt a big sigh of relief and I think that is telling me everything I needed to know and the fact that the situation was never going to improve. The PGDE was probably the year of my life were I cried the most and didn’t sleep enough 😂. Before going into it I had looked up PGDE experiences. what folk had said online about it should have put me off but I still went through it thinking it would be different for me 🫣 Also, I am 29 and still don’t have a clue what I am doing so don’t worry about that. I am friends with people in their 30’s going through the exact same thing. I hope that takes some pressure of you. It’s so tough to know especially when you go into jobs and it might not be the work that is bad but the other factors like environment and management make it intolerable. I think from what you have said regarding your current role it seems like you have a good gig going and are able to train and gain more experience. That’s far better than being in a situation with teaching we’re there are no guaranteed full time posts at the end of probation especially for Primary. I know teachers that have been on the supply list for 5+ years and only managed to get a couple of days work a month. Financially for me that is a nightmare. I want to move on with my life and it’s a job that won’t provide a solid income to do that. I agree with the admiration though as looking at what the job actually entails and how teachers manage to stay in the profession for longer than a year actually is amazing. I had the fear of burnout from day one. We both 100% made the right choice. I think it takes a lot of courage to have done what you have done and went and tried something completely new. That’s inspiring and you should be proud of yourself for what you have been through and how you overcame that 💖 it’s so nice to be able to speak to someone who has experienced the same situation as me. It’s very reassuring that there are other things we can do and don’t have to tolerate the misery of a job.

@Wtizreal Ай бұрын

Why don't you go freelance work when you want leave at 3:20 pm no marking jsut being a teacher and go home

@guidofeliz8384 4 ай бұрын

Why not be an in-home private tutor?

@stewartbone4236 7 ай бұрын

Odd how schools have gone awry. It seems to be global but there are good schools, great kids and great admin. Hard to find but you can get lucky. Otherwise, life can be challenging in a dodgy school. Giving up is so common that it is normal, wise and justifiable.

@percubit10 7 ай бұрын

I left my good life for trauma. I had panic attacks and anxiety.

@jamesdeagle 8 ай бұрын

Nice, honest presentation! James

@marcmeinzer8859 5 ай бұрын

Distilled down to its essence the central problem with the public schools is that they are no longer operated the way in which they were designed to function so the system has in fact broken down. And it’s no fun working for a broke ass entity like today’s schools. And since teaching doesn’t pay very much if it’s not even fun then it’s time to get your resume polished up to go job hunting. And not getting paid enough is virtually tantamount to not getting paid.

@donteatthedaisies 5 ай бұрын

The way teaching is taught and discussed in the education field is really not helpful to perfectionists, or anyone really. There's no way you can possibly to do all the things they tell you you're supposed to be doing all the time, and a lot of it is just pseudoscientific bullshit anyway, weaponized to scapegoat teachers for the system's failings. What helped me get better as a teacher was learning to trust my own instincts, values, and common sense, rather than worrying about whether I was ticking all the boxes for some administrator who doesn't even teach. (I find it odd that teachers are evaluated and "supported" by administrators who left teaching because they were no happier and no better at the job than the teachers they supervise, and were probably worse teachers in many cases. That's how it seems to work in the US anyway; the worst/least dedicated teachers rise to the top as vice principals.) Anyway I quit after four years so don't feel bad for quitting after one.