Asian American Kid Struggle | WahlieTV EP680

[@tiffanymckay5997]

Girl, these are the types of vlogs we love! No need to apologize!

[@alliebens4263]

Tiffany Mckay agree!!! I like these better than the camping ones fo sho

[@whoisforeveryoung]

I mean where ELSE can you watch butterflies updates

[@Kayfour888]

I can relate about Asian parents not giving their kids affection. They love from within their hearts but not with physical or verbal love. Hope that makes sense, it’s hard to translate it into English 💛

[@jenntruong6023]

My Filipino parents were the same too mainly my Mom

[@officerdandy]

Lmaooo weylie. "Who is all that food for" weylie : "me and me tomorrow"

[@cindyb2299]

I’m Asian American. My grandma once light-heartedly told my aunt, “I get embarrassed because Cindy is always kissing and hugging me in public.” My aunt laughed and responded, “She’s American and that’s what Americans do.” Not until then did I realize that my grandma rarely hugs or kisses me back; but even so, I never question her love for me. I don’t even care that she doesn’t say ‘I love you’ back because she communicates her love by cooking for me, checking up on me, and spoiling me in other ways.

[@sokiepokiee]

Cindy B I agree. I am 30, my dad is 82, he doesn’t show affection physically nor emotionally. I cannot remember a time that he told me that he loves me but I never thought that either. After my kids are born, he shows affection towards them. :)

[@sarahaljeraisy5851]

I have never hugged my parents or my sister .. as you said it is just so weird to be hugged from them. also hearing I love you is just I don't know I just didn't use to ..

[@KiraKhaophachanh]

Oh yeah and in addition to your Asian parent conversation I feel you girl, I’ve barely hugged my parents or telling each other we love each other😂 we just cook together and eat food together lmao

[@rachelwkau]

I love how Wah is just casually dancing in the background in the beginning LOL

[@SabrinaNianWang]

I loved it when you guys were trying to save that butterfly. Precious.

[@clairyairy]

I'm also super terrified of butterflies... 😂😅

[@angelachoi5240]

그리고

[@baokachi9767]

Weylie your dad with his tattoos! was not expecting that. your parents look so young

[@imannechoi]

Weylie's mom: "Hug her! Say goodbye abs hug herrr" Weylie's dad: "NAH nah" Me and my parents too😂

[@hanamairecp13]

I can totally relate to not being affectionate with my family but have absolutely no problem displaying it with my friends! I used to think about it a lot once I realized my friends would tell their parents "I love you" at the end of phone call or before they leave the house but it's not something I need to rethink because like you said, my family knows how much we appreciate one another even if we don't always acknowledge it! Great vlog as always :)

[@Jane-dc5ot]

I can totally relate on the butterfly thing. They are scary!! The way they flap so much and the pattern is creepy af

[@111uckylibra]

I’m weak!! I don’t like butterflies either! I’m scared of any insect that flies- insects in general

[@clairyairy]

I totally agree with the whole family situation as a first generation Taiwanese American. My mom is physically affectionate, but we never talk about any deeper problems or any emotional issues that we are having. A lot of my friends growing up could talk to their parents about anything, but it always felt weird for me to show my parents who I "really" was as a person (if that makes any sense) 😂

[@tinnie_996]

Weylie, I don't know whether you will see this but I just want to comment and say how much I really admire the way you care about the people around you and also love for nature and animals. It was so sweet of you to try and save the butterfly and did the best you could to provide for it (even though you are not the biggest fan of them). This just goes to show what a big heart you have. I really love your vlogs because they are always positive and lighten up my mood when I watch them, good job Weylie and Wah for all the effort you put in to share with us. Keep up the good work! Love you!

[@tragedyrushh]

I never really experienced physical affection with my parents or my brother. It was only until I moved out to go to college when my mom and I began hugging each other whenever I’d say goodbye to her. My brother and I never hugged until we lost my mom last year. I really wish I gave my mom more hugs when she was still alive, but I cherish all the ones we gave each other. If anything, my mom showed affection to me by cutting up and packing fruit for me to bring back to my apartment. For many Asian moms, feeding their children is how they display their love. 🥺❤️

[@michellehuang5684]

i watch weylie so much because i can relate to her more than any youtuber/influencer out there.growing up it was easier to show affection but now that im 18 its sooooooooo awkward lmao, dont even get me started on saying i love you in cantonese i dont think ive ever said that even once. were all kind of comfortable with it which can be "sad" to other people but theres so many other ways we show appreciation to each other. i love when you talk about being asian american because i relate to it completely!!

[@denisemarquez1398]

The butterfly rescue mission was eventful 😄😆 RIP 🦋

[@ceetei9073]

i love how navi's so comfortable with the rabbits so cutee😄😍😍😍😍

[@caritasum6260]

It’s ok weylie. I like anything that u vlog. It still brings joy to my day seeing u film.

[@kbonilla98]

I think it is something that all first generation kids experience. We compare our situations with our non-immigrant friends and their family and how Americanized they are. We see their situation as the right thing and how families should be, so we see in our families that that affection is lacking. But honestly, I am so proud of being a child from hardworking, immigrant parents who fought for what they wanted. We are a group of people that come from possibly the best generation America has seen.

[@lifebydimps5987]

I am African- American and have some of the same struggles with my parents as you! I think maybe it's generational also. I can remember distinctly the first time my parents told me they loved me. I was in my teens. I am super awkward with my siblings now but we started expressing more affection after starting college so it hasn't been that long. Sometimes I see other families and feel weird. I think it is important to say it though because, like you, I think life is short! Like John Mayer said " it's better to say too much than never say what you needed to say". We are all slowly getting more comfortable so yay us! I love your videos btw! They have gotten me through some sleepless nights!❤

[@RawRawrYan]

I'm Chinese American as well and no lie, its awkward to share my feelings and thought with my family. I don't mind if we don't hug or say I love you since I see how they express their love to me. I know that if I'm in trouble, they would drop everything for me but hugging and saying i love you, yeah they won't say it to me unless my life depends on it; and I'm fine by that. :D

[@aimeevang3145]

A chill low-key vlog is still a great vlog!

[@celineo0]

I can definitely relate to the Asian parents not being affectionate. I only really hugged my parents when I left for college & when i left to go back to school after breaks. Even those hugs were really awkward. Their love language is def through acts of service (i.e. providing for the fam, cooking us food). Thank you Weylie for using your platform to talk about more things like this!

[@sreylax]

I'm chinese/cambodian and my parents have always been super affectionate and open to the point that I feel bad whenever I hide stuff from them. every family dynamic is different and I can only imagine what it's like to have love shown a different way but I hope everyone is still happy and appreciative with their loved ones 💖

[@premwarde1004]

These videos are awesome! I honestly don’t care if there is content; I honestly can watch these videos of you guys chillin with yours pets, making food at home, and the Lo-fi music in the background!

[@lucyx5645]

Navi is too cute @ 9:13 😂😂 she's like "what? Imma just scooch away...slowly"

[@leeleeg4169]

Omgoodness, your care for that butterfly Weylie (even though it didn’t make it.🦋RIP) warmed my heart. ❤️😊❤️

[@tinayangxd]

it does feel weird to say i love you to my parents but when my dad said it to me through the phone the first time, I cried. It felt so special and I'm glad that we don't say it often because then it means so much more when it happens.

[@mlcymc1]

The part about hugs in Chinese families is so true. I’m in my 50s and it so weird to hear someone as young as you experience what I go through.

[@minadaniels]

I'm at working Laughing Out Loud when you put the butterfly on the plate and it killed over!!! OMG!!!! Sorry to laugh but not really. I love your kind heart and your attempt to save it. I'm gonna have to rewind and rewatch it.

[@elistafne92]

All I have to say is: you always make me smile and laugh😂😃 I love you guys💟

[@alenawu5383]

i couldn't agree more with showing affection between you and your parents/sibilings. I had the same issue growing up and to a certain extend I came off awkward in high school, where my friends would know me as the awkward hugger or I just dont really know how to show affection. But now, I have learned to embrace the other person whether its a greeting or goodbye. I try to hug my parents more now whenever I am go home. Everytime I do hug them, it made me realize how small mom and dad are physically. It just makes me want to appreciate them even more.

[@adrianamunizfernandez]

You guys are truly amazing human beings I appreciate you guys I missed the cooking videos! Nice too see your parents, they look so young ❤️

[@connierosales6193]

I can also relate. I'm Mexican American and I had to learn to accept that my parents and I have a weird bound. I hope that over time our relationship gets better. Love you lots Weylie.

[@clairyairy]

I started following y'all around the time you first adopted Navi and it really warms my heart to see her getting happier and happier!!

[@stawbewii]

Exact same struggle here! i'm always trying to get closer to my parents, but it's always been very hard. I admire all those people who can easily open up to their parents.

[@blurvhee]

ugh... navi is SO FREAKING CUTE tgt with the rabbits like dude life’s good man :(

[@jasminxcheng]

I just love watching Navi, she's actually the perfect mixture of energy and derp! Me and my fam are not affectionate either! It does feel weird and awkward but we have other ways to express love and care towards each other. It's better if it's natural rather than forced so if you know you all love each other, do not worry about 'I love you' and hugs. My family has always showed tough love and I think that goes for the majority of Asian households~ One thing that is consistent that does not feel awkward and I am happy for is how me and my mum give each other a cheek kiss whenever I leave for work or leave the house in general. I don't actually remember the last time we've hugged!

[@111uckylibra]

Literally was on Netflix trying to find something to watch while I eat and then I get a notification that you posted! THANK YOU. I LOVE YOU GUYS XXXX

[@kabliaxyooj300]

Me: love you mom (goes in for a hug) Mom: what did you do? What do you want? 🙄😒

[@thynguyen2168]

I can relate so much. i’m glad I have you to empathize with. love you both so much, been watching for so long and I plan on sticking around til the end❤️

[@sylviayung2049]

I really like this plain and "boring" vlogs as u call them

[@nb-user25]

Weylie, you are NOT the only one dealing with the Asian family dynamics!!!!

[@abc123IamUrGirl]

from butterflies to family affection, everything was so relatable LOL

[@Jessica-ji5lz]

What store were you at? Looks amazing want to check it out :)

[@KiraKhaophachanh]

Lmao I can relate with you weylie trying to save insects that I’m still scared of😂 if I find an insect in the house I try to catch it and let it free outside rather than killing it😂😂

[@imjenniferpham830]

Gurl I’m Vietnamese American and I can totally relate. I’m tryna work on it too but it’s still hard haha

[@kls-9589]

I too am Asian American, I think it depnds on the household. My parents rarely showed us affection when I was young. As an adult now, I show affection my hugging, touch, and verbalizing my love towards my parents parents and siblings. I don't hold back on my affection and am not afraid to show it.

[@keithhamburger5235]

Can you start doing sek fahn series again i miss it so much, rewatched them too many times. I love you guys 💖💖💖💖

[@ohhireneexo]

I’m not Asian (obviously) but I’m first generation Caribbean and I’m definitely dealing with similarities with my family. It’s just hard for them to understand, especially if they had to go through hardships that you haven’t gone through. I have children now and I try very hard to be different with them

[@t4bbycat700]

omg your parents literally look like they’re in there late 20’s HOW

[@whoisforeveryoung]

I think it’s my favorite vlog now, it’s just so... plain in a good way, best thing to watch in the morning

[@saaammage]

I was pretty lucky. My family is super affectionate. Which I found really weird since most first gens aren't! My dad will chase me down to hug me if it's been a week. Watches all of my uploads and texts me about the videos. My mom is a bit less cray but I can feel the love with her "you crazy" comments and hugs. My sister - overly cuddly lmao. Plus my parents speak english (with a thai accent) pretty well so we just talked all of the time BUT my parents both worked two full times jobs each and still do so that was the big problem because we didn't have ENOUGH time together and that was the only constant disconnect. I maybe saw them 1-2 hours a day if I was lucky and my sister raised me.

[@andreasummers1955]

Thanks for being so kind to animals ❤️❤️

[@tiffanytrinh9014]

i love these vlogs u guys are backkk

[@naatizzle]

‪omg. weylie, you're not the only one! I'm afraid of butterflies too 😭‬

[@d.o.licious5149]

Love seeing the dogs interact with the bunnies 💛💛

[@kiizutsuita]

Me and my parents are the same way! I don't say love you or hug them either. I'm pretty sure it was because of how I was raised (they were working long hours, not affectionate). But we do know how we feel for each other I suppose. No need to display cause it's hella weird!

[@iSayiLuvU]

LOL GIRL I thought I was the only one also terrified of butterflies. Just something about the way they jerkily fly around and that spongebob episode was so accurate😩

[@cheess330]

omg the Dr Jart Ceramidin ones are so good - and the rubber masks!

[@cheess330]

okay also now that im at the end of the vlog... asian life for real

[@katchup]

this is very impressive, Thanks Wahlie TV!!

[@Kimprendo]

I can totally relate to this! I was always so frustrated my parents never expressed their love to me physically and verbally. Their love language is through acts of services (providing a roof for us, paying our tuition, cooking meals). I can't never get myself to say "I love you mom" over the phone, it just doesn't feel natural to me like my friends. We never really talk about our feelings and our personal problems. I thought it was just my family. I've learned that we just express love in different ways but I've also learned I wouldn't want this for my future kids.

[@carolineeaston8752]

only you guys would get a bread sponsorship LOL!

[@therobiachannel]

Lol, Weylie! I completely understand the whole Asian family thing. I think as we mature together as siblings it’s gotten easier but there are times where it’s a bit awkward seriously! As an adult now I find it much easier to tell my parents that I love them and give them “side hugs” but yea totes awk. Lolol. So I feel ya.

[@jvang067]

Yes! I never said I love you to my parents, didnt even say it to my dad when he passed away (this makes me sound horrible). But I did hug my parents as much as I could! I think my sister and I got "closer" after I moved to another state with my little family.

[@teuwbz]

I laughed when you took the bug net out to protect the butterfly 😂

[@LaLaFifty5]

As a 1st gen Filipino-American, I can completely relate. It wasn't until after my dad passed away that I started to regularly hug and say I love you to my mom. My sisters and I just give each other fist bumps when we say hi or bye. Sometimes I feel that the more love I have for a person, family or friend, the less affectionate I am with them. I totally get that awkward feeling 😂

[@nicoleesays]

thank you for sharing your thoughts on the struggles of growing up as an asian-american! when you say you're sure you're not the only one, you're absolutely right. i can attest to this & you're not alone! to me, it makes sense, because first of all, "love" (as with language) is subjective, and is not expressed the same way between eastern and western cultures. so communicating love from chinese to english, and vice versa, does not always (culturally) translate the same way. for example, we use "i love you" to our friends, lovers, or even objects, like "oh, i love that ramen place" in america. but in chinese, "i love you" is reserved for lovers only. this is kinda long but hope this makes sense!

[@kimberlyfxy]

There was a period of time where I felt like I had to show more physical affections to my Grandfather because he’s getting old and I thought to myself that I should hug him a lot while I have the chance. But time went by and I couldn’t do it and I also imagined how uncomfortable he would feel because his generation just didn’t practice hugging or physical affections a lot. But I also realised that it didn’t matter because he had the brightest smiles when I come in the door and visit him every weekend, brightest smile when I tell him I’m going to bed, he’s happy when I bring him food, and I know we both love each other so so much there’s so many ways to show it that physical affections didn’t matter anymore. If that’s the way with your parents then just show love in other ways there’s just too many ways❤️ and also I didn’t find this vlog boring at all! I think the point in us watching your vlogs is just loving to peek a little into your lives. As Long as its real and you guys are being yourselves it’s 💯

[@stinadan12]

I can sooooo relate to having Asian parents. My mom and I never hugged or said “I love you”. I never heard “I’m proud of you” and I think growing up with mainly white friends whose parents were affectionate (and more lenient tbh), it caused a lot of resentment. We used to argue a lot but my relationship with my mom definitely improved after I went to college and moved out. And I will never forget at my college graduation, my mom cried and told me she was proud of me. know logically that my mom loves me and she shows it in other ways like feeding me when I go her house, always sending me home with food, and the fact that she supported me through college. It seems so dumb and petty to let stuff like that affect your relationship with your parents but you don’t know any better as a kid.

[@sherryfaith1]

Yeap.. it’s so hard for me to say “i love you” or “i appreciate you” to my asian parents, they do not say it either, but it’s displayed in the things that they do for us, example, cooking our favourite dish for us, or just doing our laundry when we do not have the time to, things like these!

[@spotlight201]

At 5 am, when I already have my stuff packed to drive down to SoCal for college... I gave my dad a hug for the first time and it just ended up as him patting me on the back telling me to do good in school “get that degree and get a good job, bye bye.” looool 🤣

[@mel_04]

I relate with the family thing 100%! I’m Mexican and my family is not affectionate at all as well. I don’t ever remember telling my dad that I love him and I’ve only hugged him a handful of times. Same goes for my siblings. My mom on the other hand gets all the affection from her husband and three kids so it balances out I suppose lol.

[@joonyroc99]

I was literally just looking for a great video to watch before going to bed and BAM, just like I hoped, Wahlie upload 🥺❤️. (much love from South Africa)

[@ThaoLe-lm1wo]

Please start a podcast!!! I can relate to so many of your talks and I’m also training for a half marathon so your girl needs something to listen to :)

[@shelleyhuang1257]

Girl when I got my career after graduating college, my dad said good job and gave my shoulder a hard pat enough to buckle my knees looool that's the extent of contact affection I get from him

[@jayeelle0827]

I love vlogs like these!

[@stephaniedoan6472]

I love that sea salt and olive oil is now a premium ingredient 😂

[@summerd3674]

Butterflies creep me out too! My Asian parents aren't affectionate either, although they've been getting better at it. I remember feeling very awkward when my Dad once told me he loved me cause it was just something we never said in the family.

[@eldsflamma8286]

This vlog was the funniest vlog!!!

[@aljoharahmansour9011]

Wow I was just having a thought of " ugh i really nead a vlog from thess guys to brighten up my day" and you just uploaded 😢💕💕 I'm having a bad day and watching this will surly save my day Love u both

[@zhixuan96]

totally could relate what Weylie was saying about asian families

[@christinah.8985]

im always so happy when you uploaadd 🖤

[@wendyschnapa7582]

I can certainly relate as I am a first generation Asian-American. My mother was more affectionate with hugs and saying I love later in her life. My father was not affectionate to me or my siblings but we knew he loved us. He showed affection to his grandkids though, which is easier for him to display than to his adult children. My siblings and I don't show much affection either because of our upbringing but when I hugged them from time to time, it felt weird. LOL!

[@sherriallen917]

Oh my god, i can totally relate!! I'm from a Mexican/Black family and it was exactly the same...for different reasons, I think, but the results are the same. It is sad, but it is what it is. There is a lot of love though, just not physically or verbally shown all the time. I am the complete opposite with my friends and my nieces & nephews. It's a weird thing. The love is there so don't worry. Just change it for yourself in your daily life.

[@SW-ek1ut]

Navi is probably half rabbit, seeing how much she loves spending time with them and trying to eat their food and play with their toys 😂 also I love how weylie is so compassionate for all animals despite being terrified of them

[@espoir8131]

Yes, I can relate as an Asian American. I was brought up in a very stoic family.

[@heyanjulah]

does anyone know what asian store they're at; 5:29?

[@chawwy]

There’s a spongebob episode with a butterfly, I swear that episode made me scared of them lmao

[@atyuuu]

Navi with the rabbits is so cute!! 😭

[@Lotusxurl]

Im out here trying to figure out if weylies dad really vlogs cause of what wah said when they were bbqing hahaha

[@lilysitu4418]

I relate so much!!! And I don’t think things will change much even after much progress cuz that’s how things are... my dad often complains how I don’t ever hug them or kiss them when I see them, but what they don’t understand is that, even if I want to do it naturally, it still looks awk, since we are NOT used to do that since we were kids.

[@sweetheartycandy]

This vlog was good, super lax and enjoyable!! Don't always need something eventful in the vlogs :)

[@kimora617]

I can totally relate lol!!! That unspoken nonaffection.

[@avo0cado00]

haha weylie!! you're not alone.. i'm also super awkward with my family, i can't even hug my own brother.. the last time i hugged with was sooooo awkward lolol. even having affection for my mom too! everyone is like being best friends with their parents or siblings, but i surely can't relate haha!

[@juliantran3379]

Yay! Perfect timing. I’m about to go on my lunch break at work. Good thing too because your bibimbap sandwich looks so good! 🤤 going to go to target to find those sandwich thins ASAP.

[@ninid1333]

So so relate to the whole no hugging/not saying "I love you" thing with my parents or siblings. I hugged my mom for the first time this year since my childhood when I dropped her off at the airport this year, and I'm 23 now lol.