Janet’s Dating Again - Advice for Entering Relationships After a Breakup | AsianBossGirl Ep 298

[@AsianBossGirl]

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[@dyhppyx]

I've also been listening to you guys for years. Janet if hearing from a guys perspective means anything. You are genuinely attractive with a cool personality. Your maturity in life matters makes you even more interesting as a person. Life isn't fair and it's full of good and bad luck. I don't know exactly what happened but I'm pretty sure it wasn't because you're lacking. I know our default is to blame ourselves and in many cases that is objectively correct. But I can definitely say you are not bottom of the barrel at anything and should be proud of all you've weathered.

[@kshiosaki]

Thank you for sharing Janet! I have been through very similar experiences. To hear it on a platform like this just validates that we are human, need to keep encouraging each other to feel all the feelings- and to heal in our own time. Will always be a fan of you ladies and sending lots of love from Hawaii!

[@raerre9563]

I echo this! Thank you so much Janet for your vulnerability. Our hearts go out to you and it's not easy but you are so strong and inspiring. Sending big hearts and love from Canada ❤️

[@Pinkelephant10]

Janet is a sister we all need❤

[@Crystalclear0]

This actually made me cry. This year has been soooo tough. I’ve gone through a break up and break ups with friends as well. Like Janet said, there comes a time where you ARE so fragile and everything feels hurtful and scary. Thank you so much for opening up. I plan on getting myself a therapist as it’s been really incredibly overwhelming and I just don’t feel the same. Can’t even have the energy of dating men, they scare me. Just super uninterested in other men. I wish you the best of luck with everything Janet… this stage is most likely when you will find your person. You seem healthier and more confident. :)

[@baekhapx133]

Don't restrict yourself to a timeline. Everyone is essentially on the right path at the pace they're supposed to go. It's a matter of needing to learn the lessons you need to learn in order to get you to the next level. These experiences, although painful, will surely get you to where you want to be. Sending hugs and well wishes to you Janet! 🫂

[@minifuzz]

hey Janet, thank you so much for sharing your story - i related so much to it with someone I previously dated. we were radically different and that contributed to the struggles of doubt and friction early on, at a stage where we were just getting to know each other. I have felt like I was doing sth wrong because I havent been able to find the same understanding from well-meaning friends of why I felt the connection was special and why we remained in contact after. thank you for validating my experience in having the courage to share yours, and I wish you all the best!

[@imsocorkyy]

This was such a great conversation. Thank you Janet for being vulnerable and sharing what this past year of dating has been like. As someone in a similar boat, I resonated HARD. Play was also my word of the year so that was a fun little nugget to hear as well! Wishing you a lovely end to 2024 and joyous 2025. 💕

[@truclinhpham7553]

Janet. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your story. I’m going through a tough break up right now. Still crying and heart broken after 4 months so your story made me feel so relatable and healing in some way. Thank you and I know you will be happy again soon! :)

[@jacquelynchin5513]

I had a friend break up earlier this year and a romantic breakup literally TWO DAYS AGO, the timing of this is a MASSIVE sign for me. Thank you I needed this 🫶 for me, it was also a shorter relationship after a long-term relationship, so it was really different/weird to let someone in again. Soooo relatable Janet, I really appreciate you sharing your experience and letting us into this side of your life ❤

[@Lczzy]

Janet, thank you letting your walls down and letting us in. Yesss, as Asians it's hard to go against the grain and let things happen.... excited for you to find your own path. Wishing you the best!

[@katll-p4r]

Thanks for sharing with the community, Janet. As an outsider who has been following your story for a long time, I can understand how hard it is to go through life changes during a difficult time when things don't go the way we want. I will always be a supporter of yours. My input on this topic comes down to adjusting decision-making skills. Perhaps it was not a good idea to start a new relationship with someone when you were not fully healed. I know that sometimes, the right person comes into your life regardless of when it is a good time or not, but I always believe to find the right person, we have to be the right person ourselves, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It takes time for those things to be fixed after a break-up. People on the older side have usually developed a certain way of how they view the world, their personalities, and their ways of taking action. It's harder to accommodate another human being when a romantic partner comes in. That's why those relationships failed. I don't mean that you need to change yourself, but learning to adjust, adapt, and communicate healthy boundaries are better solutions. Before trying to find red flags from the other side, maybe do a quick flag check on ourselves first. I agree with your new goal of being open and receiving potential possibilities in the new year. I would add one thing, always be PATIENT. Hope everything will go well with you! You've got this!

[@peache8]

I love hearing Janet and her dating experiences. There's definitely a lot of pressure when dating when you want marriage and kids. After the trauma of my last serious relationship, and also the pandemic, I stopped dating altogether. But I have never pressured myself toward any destination because it depends on your person. I just want to find the one I was meant to be with forever. And that may or may not end up in marriage and kids. Sometimes magic happens when you leave things open to surprise.

[@BNcherrypeppermint]

Janet, thank you for being vulnerable & sharing your personal story. I really loved this conversation the two of you had in regards to your experiences and what you took away from it. It feels like you’re a sister to all of us. ❤

[@momshiebells]

Janet's life update ❤ I started watching your show from the episode with your significant others (last year), and I've been hooked on your life insights and perspective ever since-especially Janet's!

[@roxanneubana1409]

Janet you are beautiful on the outside and inside. Helen it’s so nice how supportive you are to Janet.

[@tracyalan7201]

I tend to think that people always go through phases in life, romance, profession, work, personal growth, relationships that aren't predictable. People try to schedule everything in life, wanting to be structured, organized and control. However, there are somethings that can't be controlled or predicted. I have confidence in all the three ladies of ABG. Sometimes, depending on that schedule/person, we get let down or thrown off the game. We question our beliefs, worth, thinking. Regrouping, taking stock, being flexible and more open to life's unpredictability. Be cautious, wise like I know Janet is and she'll do okay. Janet like the other ladies are fine and capable at whatever they choose to do.

[@desigurlie15]

So proud of you Janet! ❤ Whatma meant for you will always happen to you

[@christygirl1993music]

I needed this episode. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your experience like a sister Janet!

[@boarding711]

my advice is today there are options if you freeze eggs. I know a 46 and 48 yr old who became mothers. So if I knew what I know now, freeze them. I also had a rule: date someone anyone 3 times. if you're free, you meet. And just give it a whirl. Be open minded. Don't come to the table w demands like a perfect product you're designing. This is not a user focus grp. -a mid 40s fellow ABG

[@lilianr513]

GOOO JANET YOU ARE ENOUGH ❤❤❤

[@mrgarywong]

Is it just me or does that shadow of the mic on Janet's shirt look like a cat? lol. Thanks for opening up to all of us about this difficult situation, but its all for the better now. Enjoying all the fun things you put out on IG so keep doing what you're doing. Wishing you the best on your romantic journey.

[@elvee8888]

It’s always hard to accept things that don’t go as planned. Just like dealing with a loss, we also have to grieve the plans and future that we lost. Janet is still in denial. Her breakup was definitely life shifting but she’s still hesitant to admit it. Sometimes new mothers go through depression because they are grieving their pre-mother selves. It’s okay to grieve the person you once were when you were in that relationship. Love her. Remember her. Accept that she’s no longer a part of you anymore. I also don’t know if keeping in contact with him every two weeks is beneficial. I understand that they don’t want to cut the relationship cold turkey, but I think the distance would really help heal the wound. Then after the wound is healed, they could potentially reach out to continue their friendship.

[@peterchen7166]

Sometimes it’s good to embrace differences, Janet gives too much consideration to friends and families, maybe put all that away, and focus on yourself and this person, it might be more relaxing, well, you guys are probably not the right match at the first place. Nevertheless, still it’s great to experience that, I wish you meet the right one soon. Sorry for being judgmental and thank you for sharing everything.

[@87holdfast]

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[@Crispycheeez]

Helen is pregnant! 🎉

[@turnipandradish6664]

The amount and the length of advertisements …. Urgh…. It’s jus very distracting

[@Cygx]

Janet is dress up as a rapper hahah

[@Cygx]

is it really a good idea to have a kid in your 40s for women?

[@TheSunshinefee]

yes

[@waves.of.indigo]

No