We Gave Up Our Cell Phones For Our Mental Health • Ladylike

[@meganwaldorf4318]

The problem with burnout from school is that you can't disconnect from it. You hit the burnout point and you have to just keep pushing on.

[@jennalakes6334]

Megan Waldorf this happened to me until I literally had a mental break and had to medically withdraw and I’m just now getting my mental health back to a place where I feel I can go back to school... it’s so crappy honestly how that goes with school. I guess just trying to do as much self care as possible in the little free time you have is vital...

[@abigailcrosbie8688]

I haven't slept more than 4 hours a night in the past two weeks because of the anxiety and stress school has been giving me. It's horrible!

[@meadowsart]

Megan Waldorf true!! I have been so stressed to the point that all i can do is cry and feel sick,,literally EVERYTHING around me makes me feel like this but i can’t miss any schooldays because of all my tests :((

[@caroline.m]

This is so true, I'm in college, taking 5 classes, one of them being a language course and my advice to you is NEVER do that. I'm constantly stressed, upset and tired.

[@EarsToTheSpeaker]

Very true. I feel the same with chronic illness.

[@kyrahmosley3262]

Devin: Jen whatcha doin babe? Jen: I'm throwin sticks... I would be Jen in the situation... 😂😂😂

[@cookie.cailey]

Same 😂

[@myrad9253]

Kyrah Mosley when

[@rynn6615]

My favorite part!

[@Adn251]

Yep that would be me too! 😂

[@teddybearaf1477]

I would kayaking or knitting

[@its_savbowler]

"Jen whatcha doing babe?" "Oh, throwing sticks." "Okay"

[@elizabethmarston9402]

Jen is me

[@tansyfryer9680]

Jen is awesome she is like my entire family rolled into one. That particular quote sounds like something one of my siblings would say, including me.

[@hahalol290]

When you realize that you’ve been in a “burnout” for the past month+

[@ScreamingAtSquirrels]

*year :p

[@cheyanneturnidge1915]

*years

[@spacey_star_dust9518]

You two get me ☝️

[@carolined716]

L

[@ashyarts8516]

School 🥵

[@twosdaybear]

I loved that they included Mike in this experiment. He was so genuine and I always love his funny comments in the other videos. It was incredibly interesting to see them just talk, just being human beings. I love this video so much, they just keep getting better. Keep being amazing, Ladylike! ❤️

[@safala]

Twosday Bear Right?! I loved it too. Really, Mike is as much the part of LadyLike as the ladies. I missed Chantel, though. This video would’ve been better if all six of them were there.

[@maryjodennis5688]

I agree

[@Kombatkittie]

Hes a member of lady like.. no question

[@ellelockwood3102]

@@safala I know. I love Chantel! She is one of my favorite anchors or.... people in/on the show LadyLike.

[@rhaestewart7466]

@@Kombatkittie definitely

[@gabbygabbyrocker8855]

when mike said that he expected his phone to blow up with emails and notifications but didn't have any *I FELT THAT* on a daily basis...

[@izzywilson89]

me 2!!!!!

[@lifeoflily6111]

Right😂😂😂😭

[@Zrosepetal722]

Same that actually happened when I went overseas

[@hottiealerrt3918]

Everyday every minute

[@mood006]

Lonely we are so lonely 😅😔

[@TheNikkePikker]

Mike is such a sweetheart.

[@recoil53]

From previous videos, Mike is also a better cook than the rest. Part of me think that's why he's there.

[@trashyarts5999]

*Also Is His Hairline ;)*

[@YukiKuranIkuKasahara]

I feel guilty watching this on my phone...

[@jaspertrip7524]

Sasha Hallmark I was literally thinking this exact thing in this exact wording.

[@tansyfryer9680]

Same

[@alyssap5553]

yo that's what i was thinking!

[@asher9558]

I mean what else would you watch it on your iTree jk lol

[@mariah8368]

I feel guilty about not feeling guilty about that

[@leeyongbok9701]

Devin- "Jen whatcha doin babe?" Jen- " Throwing sticks" Jen is my spirit animal

[@cydniwaldner8593]

KK Kitty Kat she is mine too

[@mocakitsune2192]

The only problem from burnout from school is you can't just take a week off it effectively hurts your grades and effects your future career and causes you to work harder to get your grades back up causing you to burnout faster😐😖 Edit: I made this two years ago and people are still replying and liking! Thanks!

[@sonyaberry9805]

Oh my. I'm 27. When I was in school my senior year they let us play around with our schedules to figure out if we could get a break during the day and they made either cooking music art or even gym mandatory so we could have a non class type class. They also offered online classes we could do from home as long as we took the test at school. Schools have changed. I'm sorry there is so much pressure on you. See if you could take a hobby class like art music cooking or something to get a break. My favorite class was screen printing.

[@hollywoodsfuckingdead2446]

Sonya Berry School is so stressful deadlines get so short and assignments get so hard and it’s just awful half the time.

[@kaydenharrison7864]

Sonya Berry its sucks cause alot of schools dont have those kind of options, or someone might not enjoy something that they do offer causing more stress when they have to do something they dont enjoy

[@mocakitsune2192]

@@kaydenharrison7864 I'm a straight A student so...Teachers expect me to do my best. Which causes a ton of pressure on me. But for my school you CAN'T CHOOSE ANYTHING!

[@idontknowdude3021]

Maybe you can try to like, take one weekend of when you don't have too many tests coming up. Also try to not expect too much of yourself, I was also a straight a student and I still struggle with this... The amount of pressure they put on us is ridiculous, you don't need to always be the best. You don't even need to always be good

[@elyssadingman3700]

They beat the system: they figured out how to get paid while not working.

[@emilylucht5397]

ElletotheDman Dingerz most companies offer some form of paid time off

[@oliviastevermer2647]

Were they really not working though? Because they seemed to be working really hard breaking habits and on their mental health as well as obviously capturing it all on camera. 😊

[@elyssadingman3700]

You guys, it was a joke.... lol

[@tinymac7718]

Working is doing an act for money, they were getting paid, therefore, preemptively, they are working.

[@safala]

😂😂😂

[@HELLOitsME393]

I think we ALL appreciate that the whole team of LadyLike is able to, and WILLING to talk about more than just beauty.

[@jasz28]

Yessss

[@hinak3411]

We commented the same thing!

[@iisa929]

Chantel...

[@mona-o7r1l]

I hope to one be working in such a team

[@Bigmoodx]

Devin - “... those oral directions!!” Jen - “I LOVE ORAL!!!!!!!!!!!” 😂😂😂😂

[@esmeraldaalvaradogonzalez3981]

What time

[@Bigmoodx]

Esmeralda Alvarado Gonzalez 9:32

[@esmeraldaalvaradogonzalez3981]

@@Bigmoodx thx

[@mollycouture8208]

When it really matters that you forgot a word

[@sageiwashyna3525]

Mike is so wholesome wow we love a king of breaking toxic masculinity

[@chaosasitswirls6125]

Kristen dresses like Harper from Wizards of Waverly Place

[@arrowbutterfly3207]

ChaosAsItSwirls OMG SHE DOES

[@mistyeyes3311]

What do you even mean she IS Harper I'm convinced

[@xoxonoulee]

Yasssss

[@BellaFox_YT]

Not even close. She constantly looks frumpy. Harper's outfits were all well suited to her body type and she put a lot of effort and thought into each ensemble. Let's be real, K's the DUFF of the group and she just hasn't figured it out yet because she's simply happy to be included.

[@lyndsaymiller4492]

Bella I think Kristen dress full out and really does think about what she wears and what looks good on her and like if she should wear this hat with this dress or this necklace with this dress and it doesn’t matter what your “body shape” is she would look good with a tube top on Also she is the 2019 Harper 😂😂

[@sierraperry9889]

“Jen what are you doing, babe,” oh iM tHrOwInG StIcKs.” And also “Were gonna let them free.” “No we’re not, no we’re not.” We’re GonNa LeT tHeM gO.” “No we are not.”

[@ShadoWolf43]

Acting Life don't forget "I love oral" 😂

[@boldbookhoarder]

I laughed so much at that haha

[@leighainaclement2881]

Jen is so funny

[@GBfanatic15]

she's fucking hilarious XD

[@raspberry101]

I like how Jen just has her own little area in the back of the car. How adorable.

[@samiaastitou9433]

It's awesome how BuzzFeed is addressing issues like this

[@denisehoffmann5006]

I adore Ladylike. Glad Mike was included in this video. Shows that "work" friends are real friends.

[@emilyliving]

Devin's skin is absolutely FLAWLESS!! Am i the only one feeling so IMPRESSED?!?!

[@HELLOitsME393]

The girls have shown sooo much personal growth this year and I’m so proud of them 😭

[@safala]

HELLOitsME393 Right?! It feels like they’re getting closer. Even Jen cause she looked so awkward in the earlier videos.

[@camillegraham2078]

Poor Devin, her dissappointed face is so sad

[@marianap.5778]

I know. :(

[@racheltherrien-macleod2833]

I think mike really needed that little break he looks super tired at the beginning of the video .

[@Lovely-xr3hj]

"...I just cant stand other people,I just can't take their energy" Same girl,same

[@ahmedbisevac8702]

Kristin: *wears a strawberry dress* Also Kristin: *wears a cherry necklace* ALSO Kristin: *😌😌😌*

[@gaelk2301]

:-) You should do a birthday episode for Mike!!! :-)

[@debeanz5790]

Gael K yaaaas

[@gaelk2301]

Right! :-)

[@gaelk2301]

Right! He deserves it! :-)

[@megangerdes3975]

YES!

[@hellothere4485]

Yeet

[@MithrilMagic]

I did social work for 13 years...I am aware of “burnout” also “sympathy fatigue”. Thanks for making this video.

[@dianabutnottheprincess]

C L as a social worker who has only been in the game about 2 years I feel this comment. Every day I worry I’m closer to burnout and getting to that point of sympathy fatigue. This video helped me a lot too.

[@erikawebb5091]

I'm a social work student and we talk about burnout all the time, but even as a student I feel super over stimulated and like I can never fully disconnect.

[@shannanigansisme]

Preach! I worked with sick and dying kids for 3.5 years. I was good at the job but it wasn't good for me.

[@lotte4612]

I'm still a student but I felt this even in my internships. I love the job, but it also drains me, like you called it: "sympathy fatigue". I can't imagine how it feels after working in the field for decades when I already felt it in my 9 months of internship.

[@harsharnkaur2075]

I'm working on my BSW right now and I am super worried about this already! I am always overwhelmed.

[@hinak3411]

I appreciate the fact that Ladylike is addressing the problem of burnout,it is an important issue that should be talked about.

[@raa4351]

Everyone: **not allowed on their phones** Kristin: **Brings laptop**

[@-solar-system-4]

Pffft yeah

[@kaidanariko]

See, my mental health would be decreased with unplugging. Don’t get me wrong. I get burnout a lot. But I also use my phone for mental health. I use it to distract from my severe panic and anxiety. I use it as relaxation before bed. And being able to know I have all of my friends and family at the touch of a button. Like they are my support and I know that I can have access to them all the time.

[@ME.S.E]

That's exactly how I feel. I have many mental health issues and knowing I can always talk to specific people is just really nice and helps me to cope with stress, anger, anxiety and sadness. I just always need someone to talk to...

[@cynthiagichuki2825]

kaidanariko This is EXACTLY what I feel

[@jennagrace4697]

I don’t think I have ever related to a comment more ❣️

[@oodlespaos]

I have never agreed with a comment more

[@oliviarose4494]

But if that relaxation is social media , it’ll overall hurt your health

[@johnbrown8679]

I’m having burnout from school right now. I desperately need a break, but I can’t. If you miss a day of school, you just have way more work built upon you for the next day and it’s just a snowball effect. The school system is seriously messed up. Almost every single one of my friends have experienced some sort of depression from it, and I even have gotten suicidal thoughts because of school. Things need to get seriously changed.

[@LaraInTheFrame]

We should all have an amount allotted “mental health days” to just take some time when It’s all too much. In school and work. Because you’re right. It snowballs if you can’t catch a breath between stressful days.

[@laura_h383]

John Brown we have weekends you’re overreacting it’s fine just be bormal

[@Jacqueline_333]

Laura Nothstine does your school not get homework on weekends?

[@laura_h383]

@@Jacqueline_333 I have a shit ton of homework on weekends but its still time off everybody is just overreacting and its fine.

[@ME.S.E]

Exactly. Even when I was on vacation I was like: "well.. next week school starts again.. the holidays are over again then..." and started crying for 3 hours straight. School makes me stressed and anxious. Not even holidays make it better..

[@jillwadsworth9889]

This is an awesome experiment and I'm living for Fred's hair in this! Absolutely gorgeous!

[@kricket9533]

I'm jealous of how yal are so self confident

[@johnnywoodland6219]

"If you're someone who has to check their school/work email-" *immediately checks school email*

[@emiliew5553]

OH RIGHT this reminded me to check the cast list for Advanced Acting wish me luck

[@harshithaa08]

good luck ​@@emiliew5553

[@faythplays93]

My social work agency should REALLY, REALLY, look at this video and understand why so many of us foster care case planners end up quitting after months (not years) on the job.

[@BigBri7647]

Social workers are always being kicked from all sides. Kudos to you ❤️

[@paigebailey6391]

As a fellow social worker, I concur!

[@TheAliceP]

My cousin worked at a nursing home but she had to quit bc they kept making her work hours on end. She had no time to sleep. After a 8 hour shift they would ask her to work for another 4 or something crazy like that. She had to work night shifts too.

[@Eldalote87]

Just curious, in the netherlands it's also because of a to big caseload. Like 40 families in 36 hours next to your meetings and traveling time. How's that where you are?

[@flavender2938]

Kristin after like 1 minute: ... I really want my phone GIRL SAME

[@rdfx08]

BeagleBiscuit omg yes

[@niliaolsen6347]

No after 1 min

[@teatime5125]

That is me in 1 minute

[@heidic2740]

Jen: “We’re going to release the animals into the wild” Everyone: “No we’re n-“ Jen: “We’re going to let them goooo!!” Everyone: “NO WE’RE NOT” 😂😂😂💀

[@sarahcastillo7524]

I LOVE MIKE I WANT HIM IN MORE VIDEOS

[@moristulti9806]

“Jen what you doing babe?” -Devin “Throwing sticks” -Jen JEN, MY LONG LOST SISTER

[@ElvenSailor_Main]

Them: *talking in one on one therapy* The therapist, while the other is speaking: " mmm.....MMMmmmmMM...mmuuuh....mmhmmm.........mmmmmmm"

[@reveluviee]

*Tbh i really want to do this.* School has been stressing me out so hard my grades have been failing and i havent had any good sleep for the past few weeks because my parents have such high standarts and they always want me to be the best.

[@bakergeetee]

In order to be your best, you must take care of yourself, and getting proper sleep is VERY important to young people. Don't feel guilty carving out time in your day every day giving yourself some care.

[@miniminerva9120]

Omg THISSSS IS ME RN

[@vickysu6934]

You need some down time

[@artytalks3464]

Try talking to your parents about how you feel

[@armature]

Talk to them about that. Tell them you feel pressured and that you need to unwind.

[@SCBJQ]

Mike has such beautiful eyes.

[@LadyKatherineAnn]

But he looks so washed out...

[@brooklynginter4726]

It's weird how it is a about unplugging and we are on our phone or computer watching this video

[@maggie5134]

Brooklyn Ginter iPad

[@mcmeadow8591]

Woah Ye. I watch videos about how blue light makes you more insomniatic and I'm laying here at 3am watching it 😂

[@erinmyers3430]

I can't get over Mike's eyes!! 👀

[@djmadz6333]

Devin: “Jen, watcha doin babe” Jen: “I’m ThRoWiNg StIcKs” Devin: “Ok” Me: 😂 😂 😂

[@erinhuggins3938]

Yay mike is in the video!!!!!!!

[@evaterry2267]

Erin Huggins &554

[@greendaylover629]

every college student: there’s a word to describe how college makes me want to sleep and never wake up?

[@safala]

aeronelise Also, every student ever.

[@A.renee1998]

Its crazy that such a little device has such an influence over us Like leaving your phone at home to let it charge is wierdly liberating

[@YukiKuranIkuKasahara]

Amanda Andresen I want to do that but I’m always so worried my car will break down or something and then how can I call someone to help me? Lol I’m too anxious to leave my phone at home

[@masonfox1173]

if your views ever drop it’s because we unplugged

[@chickenlittle7139]

So one time I literally cried because I forgot my math homework at school. I was super stressed. Now motivation is literally dead. I never really care to do my homework when I get home. Instead of being like “oh no I really need to do my homework!”. Its more like “oh right I have to do my homework. Meh I’ll do it sometime before class tomorrow”. I do actually do my homework sometimes at home before school though. (ok so turns out i actualy have adhd. makes alot of things make sense.)

[@gwendolyn.thatsme970]

Dumbest Productions Same. I have panic attacks almost every morning before school because I’m so stressed about it

[@oodlespaos]

I really do agree I have been in the same situation I forgot my homework and gave a homework pass and I still had to do it because I forgot my book and had a panic attack and I have one usually before school

[@emiliew5553]

i got diagnosed with ADHD too this summer, and i struggle with this a lot. my therapist says it's called executive dysfunction. your brain decides you can't do something because you have to do it. also there's a lot of stigma around ADHD. because really don't understand it. it gives me anxiety attacks and puts me into severe depressive episodes (although i already do have depression) and people really just think i can cure myself by putting in effort.

[@chickenlittle7139]

@@emiliew5553 one thing thats helped me work with my adhd instead of against it is the spoon theory. the spoon theory is mainly used by people with chronic illnesses but can also be used by people with mental health issues/neurodivergencies/disabilities. so you start the day with a certain amount of spoons. those kinda represent the amount of energy you have. every task or activity you do costs a certain amount of spoons. sometimes you can get a spoon or back by eating or taking a nap but not always. another thing that helps is if you think of your energy as three batteries. one for mental energy, one for physical and one for emotional. i also spend a bunch of time looking through the adhd tags on tumblr to better understand the lesser known affects of adhd. it also just helps me feel less alone in my experiances. i follow this one blog called tfw-adhd and they answer questions about adhd. they also have a few venn diagrams showing the differences and similarities of things like anxiety, depression and adhd. i'd recomend that you check them out if you havent already. good luck navigating this weird world!

[@Growlicous]

This video came at the perfect time for me. As a student who's doing full time school, working part time to pay my rent and bills, and trying to save while also trying to fulfill my interests and live life I'm really depressed right now. I didn't know what burnout was, and everything you guys said about it - what you thought it was and what it does to - I related to every single one. It feels good knowing that what I'm feeling isn't invalid and I'm not crazy, because just knowing that this is a thing helps me make sense of why I feel so sad and depressed all the time. I wanna thank you guys for making this video; maybe it was some kind of divine intervention that you released it at the exact time I'm feeling these things; but it really helped lift my spirits. Even now as I'm typing this I'm crying but I actually don't mind them because for the first time in a while they're tears of joy, and you guys did that. So thank you.

[@lauramc5688]

Jemilla Mills-Smith. I hope you will be ok. Please take time for yourself. I care. You are not alone.

[@serenitynow8892]

Take care. Be brave and strong. You go girl.

[@ididntasktobehere]

Thank you for saying everything I was feeling. Girl, you are not alone. We got this! You can do this! You are amazing!

[@victoriakerr5130]

I feel you Jemillia. It's really starting to effect my test grades. I feel like all I do now adays is school, work, internship, and sleep. When I'm not doing school, work, or the internship I just want to relax. I hate having to think about the homework I need to get done and push it all off to the last minute (like with everything I have to do tomorrow)

[@karensargent6052]

This is late but I’m also a grad student working part time along with full time school. It’s gonna be okay and you’re doing amazing! Try to find small ways to recharge throughout the week - and NEVER give up that one thing that brings stability, whether that be cooking a meal, or going to the gym, or watching an episode of a show.

[@amyigbo6395]

Am I the only one wondering where Chantel is?

[@aubreyking6089]

Amy igbo she produces a lot of the videos and I only think she mentioned she was going on vacation

[@remorbits]

Aubrey King that’s exactly what it is

[@oofimaqueen7260]

Nope😣😣😅

[@eggnuggets697]

So I'm not the kind of person that usually comments on youtube videos, but I am really impressed with what you guys did. I've read a few comments about how getting a therapist for not checking your phones is over the top or dramatic and I hope no one takes that too much to heart. Burnout is not about being on your phone all the time, or working a few extra hours... it impacts all aspects of your life and your health and talking to a professional about that is an amazing step to take. I am a therapist-in-training and as someone who has both been the therapist and gone to therapy, I acknowledge it is a very brave thing to do -- to post parts of talking with a therapist is extremely vulnerable. Definitely appreciate the honesty and vulnerability you guys brought to this video.

[@christinam3700]

I agree. Also I feel like a lot of people miss the point, not realizing what the phone represents. It's not "oh I stopped my social media and gossiping" , its them trying to enjoy their lives, in the moment, without focusing on their work. So much of their jobs are through their phones so they used them to illustrate burnout. I thought it was clear.

[@rachelbaby2417]

lmaaooo devin lookin like shes about to cry and so disappointed

[@romanar2967]

Can we just stop and appreciate how Freddie looks? Shes gorgeous 😍

[@alicem828]

Lady like should get a PO box

[@taeyungismybiassofindanewo3130]

As we all watch this on our phones......😂

[@gracepyne7934]

Taeyung is my bias so find a new one V my iPad.........

[@laura_h383]

I’m using a kindle and that wasn’t even funny

[@brookelovsu]

My phone is across my room on my dresser and I'm too lazy to go get it so I'm on my laptop.

[@urprobablyanidiot8684]

Laura Nothstine ur joking right?

[@Zephyrus.cos.00]

Mmm. I feel guilty

[@claire7418]

Freddy's hair looks so cute in this vid

[@tiffanymartin2448]

Like always. Must be niceeee

[@jenniferdavidson3977]

It always does😂

[@MooseTrack_Inc]

Devin: “Jen, watcha doin babe?” Jen: “I’m throwin shticks :D”

[@zzilcat4545]

Grad school burn out is real. I'm in my second year of full time grad school to get my MSW. I am at a part time internship that I not only don't get paid at, I have to pay almost 5k to do the internship. My internship is at a community mental health center. My role is as a therapist seeing severely mentally ill clients for hour sessions. It takes me an hour to get to my internship in the morning, sometimes longer depending on when I leave at the end of the day. Burn out is so real and self care is easier said then done. Its weird that I talk to my clients about self care, but haven't practiced it in a VERY long time. I make excuses like I cant because I have papers, or I have to do my notes for my clients or I have to work. It sucks that burn out is talked about, but isnt focused on in graduate school. I need a weekend like this. I just used the comments section of youtube as my therapy. It's come to youtube as my therapy.

[@ashleystanley7941]

Grad school is ROUGH on mental and physical health. I got my master's degree right after college, and then I started teaching full time. At the end of my first year teaching, I went back to school to get an additional teaching certificate (online, while still teaching). While working on that, I decided to wait a year before considering going back to school for a doctorate. It's the BEST decision I've ever made. I may end up taking another year to make up my mind which type of degree I want to pursue, do applications/interviews/auditions, and then actually get started on a doctorate. It won't be time wasted because our health is integral to our ability to finish school, do our jobs, etc. Also, I'm very sorry you're having to pay to do work. It's so wrong that in the US so many students have to pay for the opportunity to work an entry level position (internship). I really hope this changes because it's unethical for companies to require unpaid experience before offering to actually compensate workers. I was fortunate to make minimum wage at my internship in grad school. Several of my classmates worked for free, and a couple had to pay to work.

[@t.w2144]

zzilcat well I know this is late but you sound do dedicated and resilient, and if no one believes you can do it, yourself or others know that you can. Even if you don’t believe it, just think it and it will eventually give you some release. Keep going!

[@laura_h383]

zzilcat that’s not bad I’m in school for a physics PHD dance for 10 hours a week go to piano lessons am on a chess team and am the section leader in my marching, concert, and jazz band. I also live in the mountains about an hour away from where all that stuff happens and they are all in different directions so it takes a couple hours to get from place to place

[@marijamilovanovic8524]

Jen is my favourite LadyLike member, but I love all of the members 💕 💕 💕 💕

[@msjelly1987]

I didn't just burn out I exploded out a few years ago. I worked & studied constantly from 15 years old up until I was 27. I was a cardiac/emergency nurse and never took time off. was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, PTSD, bpd and epilepsy. now I suffer from mental meltdowns, physical pain and chronic fatigue. I don't own a mobile phone now because it caused me too much stress and it was the best thing I've ever done for myself because you can still contact people via email, home phone or online private msg. I do mindfulness, listen to music, go for drives into the country etc. Now I am starting up a small business by making custom clothing and accessories. we need to care for ourselves much more frequently, my job caused me alot of trauma and there isn't anyone at work who really cares about your mental health. listen to your body and mind. Janelle (Melbourne, Australia)

[@alixnorman7389]

I always thought 'burnout' was an excuse made up by weak-minded layabouts with no drive or ambition. Like you, after 15 years of 16-hour days (working simultaneously as a teacher, freelance journalist, and editor), 7 days a week, I imploded. The physical went first (gall bladder, Guillain Barre, endless back and leg issues to name just a few). Then the mental started to kick in (chronic fatigue, an inability to remember anything, brain fog). Eventually, after 3 months of being in too much physical pain to even get out of bed other than for endless, useless doctors' appointments (and working all the while, just to pay for the visits, the CT scans, and the MRIs), I was mere days from a total body shutdown and death. Luckily, I called my Dad, who flew in from the other side of the world (I live alone in a foreign country), correctly diagnosed complete burnout and got me to the right doctor. Fibromyalgia is the least of my issues, but I am now 2 months into my recovery, learning to quiet my mind (so hard!), calm my body (so much cortisol!), and approach life in less of an 'all-or-nothing' manner. I still can't stand or sit up properly, and walking is months away yet, but the meditation and mindfulness is helping. This is what happens when you burnout and Keep Going... #cautionarytale

[@jennalakes6334]

Janelle Blossom wow reading this I was like OKAY ME... because I just had a total breakdown from complete burnout and lack of self care/caring for my illnesses (both physical and mental)... I also have BPD, PTSD, fibro, and this thing called (Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, EDS; you should look it up and see if it fits your symptoms because it often overlaps that stuff) and it just became too much and it’s been about 5-6 months and I’m just now getting back to thinking about going back to school and work. Self care is soooo important and not taught. We should be doing self care as religiously as we brush our teeth and shower and take care of our physical health... but we as a society just don’t value that. Thank you for sharing your story it really made me feel not so alone 💕

[@nicolewood6159]

A really similar thing happened to me! I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and CFS at about 14/15 years old and started therapy for depression and anorexia around the same time. I was eventually hospitalised at 18 for 3 months after a completely melt down and I was basically catatonic for the first couple of weeks. I was diagnosed with PTSD while there from various things. Its been 3 years since I was first hospitalised, I’ve been in a couple more times for about 2 months each time, and I’m still incredibly burnt out and find it hard to be around people and be outside because I get sensory overloaded. So I can sort empathise with you on some of those things, obviously not everything and I can’t imagine how hard it must have been being a nurse, but it sounds like you’re doing better now which I truly find inspiring! I hope you’re as happy and healthy as you can be😊

[@opalstarling9164]

I completely support you! But I have one question, how are you watching this video?

[@whitecloudov968]

Opal Starling probably a computer?

[@haleybug2208]

Honestly, I put this video on every time I clean my room. Theres something genuinely healing about it.

[@britneeleighton]

I love how the therapist stressed mindfulness. It is so vital for mental health. I also like how this brought attention to the workaholic mindset of a large portion of the United States population. In the US, our identities are tied to our careers and how productive we are. We need to learn that people are valuable just because they exist.

[@ann-sophie8876]

Watching this I get the feeling that a lot of people are anxious about being alone with their thoughts. We all need something to do because all our negative thoughts come up and you start to think about everything and we don't want that. I believe that thinking about your life (past, present and future) and being by yourself is one of the greatest fears we have without really realizing that

[@animetrash3405]

Can we just address Jen's beautiful hair in this video?

[@LillianADow]

Jen is me I am Jen Let’s throw some sticks

[@Eventide215]

She made the best of what was available. If I was there I'd have been trying to get everyone to go for a walk or something. I think that's one of the main issues with burnout.. you just forget you can find pleasure and fun in the simplest of things.

[@LillianADow]

I would also look for frogs

[@Eszra]

Sadly the internet is something I need to coupe with my depression. Currently my library is my therapist. Also this guy at work I like. We talk awhile doing our field work every time. Such a joy.

[@maddiebernard2520]

I loved hearing devin go “Jen, whatca doin babe?”

[@anabunarkic1807]

this video made me somehow sad, cuz they were in such a beautiful location and all they did was thinking about their phones. my dream is to have place like that. its so sad to see how people are addicted to phones and dont know how to function without it. go to nature and enjoy in that beauty

[@emiliew5553]

i think it'll reassure you to know that they probably did more than think about their phones, they probably mostly just vlogged the parts where they were talking about it. i totally agree with you though, i'd love to go to a place like this and unplug

[@dudesama2748]

Devin is so precious 😭 I just love her😭💙

[@TheWillemyn123]

I think we are all forgetting the most important part about this video.. DID FREDDY ADOPT THE CAT

[@latronqui]

Exactly

[@tromboneforlife6574]

Yes it's on her channel

[@TheWillemyn123]

Trombone for LIFE no it’s not that a whole other cat😂

[@mcmeadow8591]

I KNOW RIGHT

[@Sakuems]

one thing : FOMO those girls are living in a social media word and work environment. unplugging means being dead to the world. but in reality NOTHING happens. Notifications can wait a day unlessi someone dear to you is in the hospital, you didn't miss anything. I tried a couple times, being away and unplugged for a day not looking at my phone at all and when i turn it back on, I didn't miss anything at all. People have lives, you have a life. You don't need to stay connected. It took me a while and i'm still rather guilty because part of my job is online but I do know the benefit of unplugging and going somewhere with no cell service is fine. Wether i'm alone or not. If I'm going to unplug, I'll let my friends know, they know where to find me. I think it's very symptomatic of the millenials but more so recent generations. At least millenials remember the time without internet or cellphones. I mean it's easy to remember, I spent the first 13/14 years of my life being unplugged. It's a recent system, we are prone to connecting with people but not via a device. If you go deeper, you'll realize you can connect and stay relevant in other ways. Just go to place, to people. stay connected with yourself, I didn't even have internet on my phone for a long time I spent 20 years without a cellphone. I think it's important also to teach to kids that it's only a tool and you shouldn't become a slave of it.

[@katicat7580]

I agree but you absolutely can miss out on things.. and you should at least be aware of your loved ones in case of emergencies so you can be reached and so you can reach them.

[@doggygirl6453]

Sakuems girl this is more than a dr.seuess book

[@safala]

My country is a bit back on technology, so I can clearly remember how it was without technology and internet and I honestly wish I had that time back. A few years ago, when me and my best friend used to meet up, we could to play with dolls, play chase, act as power rangers, play with children (aka lil cousins and siblings), pretend picnic and things like that. The last time we met up (two years ago) both of us were on our iPad, and playing games all day long. I can remember what it was like ; how we used to do things/play when we were 5 years old but not how we spent the whole day when we were 13.

[@riyabhatti24]

Who has the time to read this 😂😂

[@KelseysWonderland11]

💖

[@caitlinoreillyautoparts87]

So this past weekend I had the best experience of my life. My school had this trip/camp thing called Minitown where everyone goes up to a camp for a weekend, surrenders their phone for the entire time, and talks about feelings and identity and such. I went, and without my phone I wasn’t stressed AT ALL. It was soooo amazing. I didn’t think about school or my various sports and clubs or drama and instead focused on finding myself and my identity, and learning about other people and their families/experiences. It was honestly the best choice I could have ever made to go to Minitown and I felt safe and loved and accepted and carefree. I know it’s not practical for many people to give up their phone for long periods of time, but just a weekend with your friends and without your phone makes a HUGE impact. 💙

[@sairax_2968]

Devin - “Jen watcha doin’ babe?” Jen - “Oh, I’m throwin’ sticks!” Devin - “Oh - Okay.” 😂🤣😂

[@Lucien-si5yx]

I relate to this so hard. I always feel so much pressure to check texts and emails and notifications because there's such an expectation in society today to be always be available and be immediately responsive. IMO it's not unrelated to the increasing amounts of stress we face from work and school. Anyone else know what I mean?

[@HelloMsAnny]

Yeah, I totally know what you mean, especially work. I don't have many friends so no one's expecting me to respond, but if I'm not available for my job, I'll be unemployed in a very short amount of time. I can't change my need to be available until society changes and stops expecting it. It's great to disconnect and have good mental health, but I doubt being unemployed and homeless is gonna make me happy xD

[@Lucien-si5yx]

@@HelloMsAnny Exactly! It's like a deadly trade-off

[@babybirbs]

Damn, Mike's eyes are absolutely amazing.

[@mochann1133]

My parents did something similar to this recently. They didn't completely unplug, they stopped watching any form of television for a week so instead of watching netflix they listened to music and I can say on their behalf it greatly helped them

[@YukiKuranIkuKasahara]

Crab Apple I’d like to do that but thinking about how many KZbin videos I’d have to catch up on stresses me out! Lol oh gosh I really need to do this...

[@mochann1133]

Sasha Hallmark I personally really want to try doing it as well, I just need to take the step and try

[@HelloMsAnny]

I don't see the purpose of this. I mean yes, mindlessly watching shit tv for hours on end is probably a bad habit, but whenever I tune into Netflix it's to watch a certain thing. Why is it better to listen to music than watching anime or whatever?

[@atm1821]

All of your mental health is so important to all of your followers and your subscribers! Do what you need to stay healthy physically and mentally

[@auroraivanchenko9718]

Devin: Jen, whatcha doing? Jen: Uhh, throwing sticks... Jen is literally ME

[@alishacallovi2017]

Where is Chantel? I miss her!

[@amellim5429]

me too

[@tiffanymartin2448]

Vacay I think. everybody in the comments has said this about every Ladylike girl missing in a video they post. Especially Jen!

[@alexthagoat1738]

Yes where is she

[@qbbey367]

ALISHA CALLOVI aa

[@keepitugly21]

Probably working on the Instagram thing were she's playing juliet or some other project

[@angelicajoy9474]

17:44 Notifications make me nervous too. It takes a couple days to a week before I log back in my apps/social media because of the stress response I have to the notifications

[@angelicajoy9474]

Also, I'm so proud that you all trued your hardest and did this video ❤

[@Mackenzimcdowell15]

Turn your notifications off in the settings.

[@rubylightshow1585]

I was in burnout for about a year before I quit my job and it was really taking a tole on me and my personal life. I got another job and manipulated my schedule so that I quit my previous job, went on a beach vacation and when I came back I started my new job which really helped. It pulled me out of my slump that I was in and My life is so much happier now.

[@hilzbilz09]

I've seen this one at least 3 times, and every time I am always thankful that I don't have a job like this team. Soooo many times I've wondered what it's like to work making internet content, but then I remember that I get burned out regularly with a people-oriented job that doesn't require constant social media access. I can't even imagine how quick burn out sets in with this career. Thank y'all for doing what you do!

[@mayaisabelle3709]

DEVIN: I’m going to follow those directions those oral directions JEN: I LOVE ORAL! DEVIN: 😐👆👌

[@FaithlynZoe]

Literally I could just get rid of my phone in terms of communication because literally no one ever talks to me whatsoever, but I just keep it around for entertainment because I have no friends and I would lose my mind lol

[@Lucien-si5yx]

YAS LADIES!!! LOVE the meaningful content! Please keep doing things like this!

[@chelsealee1271]

I applaud all of you for this. Unplugging is a wonderful thing for our mental health and a necessary thing sometimes, but it is definitely not easy to do, especially when you work in fields that require so much use of phones and social media,! Great work ❤️

[@WishYouLuckInLife]

I didn't realise how much I needed more of this! I could happily watch hours of their progress of becoming for in tune with their own selves, and hopefully being able to do it myself, one day. Thank you, Ladylike

[@abigailjohnson615]

I think we've all known this for awhile now, but Devin is going to make an amazing mother someday! She's full of empathy and compassion. As a viewer I could see how hard she works setting up these trips, planning the activities, and being a team leader. I love that!

[@danikaetty]

I’m so attached to my technology that when I watch KZbin on my iPad and it’s loading or an ad plays I go on my phone to wait for the video to continue.

[@ocean-tigerlilyharris16]

I struggle with anxiety low self esteem and worry and this such a life affecting thing and is great to see people acknowledge it I love you and this video *keep being fabulous* Xxx

[@diamondfeather6]

Jen's definition of burnout is something I've experienced before, and i love it 😆😆 Edit: i don't love burnout. I love Jen❤

[@kai-zr9kb]

Well I guess I'm always burned out, STRAIGHT UP!!

[@mariedixon1962]

i loved the horse therapy it is really amazing how horses and donkeys can help you open yourself and not be so stressed. I live with horses and one of them is my own and he is a baby and when i am stressed i just go out there and hug him it really helps.

[@sandrabennett2341]

Every year my family and I rent a cabin in the woods and stay there for about four days. This cabin is deep enough in the woods that there is no wifi or cell reception and it just me and my family. We have fun in the outdoors, play games, and just enjoy each others company. I look forward to this trip every year because it's nice just getting to leave the world behind for a couple of day. It's a really nice, beautiful place. There are about 15 cabins on the grounds so there are other families as well. But it's nice to sit around a table and get way too competitive over a game of trivial pursuit.

[@themonsterunderyourbed7651]

This is a great video! The whole topic, what happens and the moral in general is just great! I love you guys, keep up the good work and ideas! Lots of love! ❤️ 💕

[@snowandfrogs]

*FIRST* Time my notification bell worked

[@beccaviljoen]

Truly empowering. Thank you for speaking so openly and honestly about mental health and unplugging and how toxic phones can be. It feels SO much better to know that you guys experience the same things as me and that there is a way out. It is wonderful to know that you guys managed to power through it and have boundaries with yourselves. Thank you ❤❤

[@brydon5721]

Would've been interesting to see how they got on longer being unplugged. I've had a rough 6-8 months at work, dealing with a mountain of stress and pressure that I've burnt out and had to take time off to focus on myself. Something I have learnt is that you have to be selfish, you have to put yourself first because no one else will, and if that means washing your hands of work for a week then so be it--things there will carry on without you, there is no point being a martyr for work.