Ask Ashley - Your Lies Are In The Way Of Your Level Up

[@ttfells2020]

One of the most mature lessons I learned is "he's a good man, but not good for me" ... once I excepted it, we were both set free❤

[@CommeLePapillon]

About the whole pads/tampons conversation - LMAO!! My dad always bought my mom’s pads. As he once said, the cashier can clearly see that they are not for him, so why would he be embarrassed about buying them? And that is so true!! Absolutely NO man should take issue with shopping for his woman’s hygiene supplies. There’s no need for embarrassment or feeling put out.

[@cjones4047]

when i was in high sch my boyfriend which is now my husband got me pads lol

[@aquafina6544]

Jaz had me crying. Bcus i could feel her pain. I'm disabled physically and it happened while I was on vacation and my discs in my lumbar ruptured. I didn't do anything to cause it. I walked onto the plane to get there and came home in a wheelchair and was in one for 3yrs. I'm still going through it after 2 spinal surgeries.

[@annabellak4033]

Jazrali is lovely, all people have some type of challenge, whether they admit it or not. I hope the best for her ❤

[@jayscott5618]

When I gained over 50 lbs I felt heavier AND was depressed. I’m so glad I dropped 35 lbs BUT I still have more to go. In addition I just got a thread facial lift & doing other things to level myself up. So NO dating for the rest of this year nor will I be entertaining BS. I gotta keep fighting for myself.

[@cheriew2512]

👏🏾❤👏🏾

[@martmonroe11]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@legallycurvy]

this comment hits hard

[@prettypri1740]

Gotta keep fighting for self 🤝🏽👏🏽

[@youtubestreets3915]

Hey Ash, I totally agree with you at the beginning of this live, because I used to be also afraid of change! But life is ever-changing ever evolving, and people just need to wake up and accept that❗💯

[@trishag.971]

Hey Jaz! I'm disabled as well. Please don't settle. You have options and you deserve the love that you want. Be careful of people who may take advantage of your vulnerability

[@annabellak4033]

Jazrali, never forget, you are loved and can achieve great things, Smile❤

[@laurasmith2157]

Yes indeed

[@melaninandaura9713]

If nothing ever changes nothing ever changes! ❤

[@hellothereyouall]

I couldn’t be someone’s sole motivation to do better. That’s a lot of pressure. As long as he’s leveling up because he wants to truly be better and not counting on me to make him, then that’s healthy

[@elainaifill996]

Rani's story - It doesn't matter that she BELIEVES she will make more. She said the guy is stepping up, she said he has a plan. I think she is imagining a possible problem. Currently she is studying and he is working, he seems ambitious to have changed career to have a plan to retire early. I think she should enjoy the relationship and show patience, not everything happens at once.

[@elainaifill996]

If he can provide, he will provide within his means, the guy seems responsive. Doesn't sound like she needs to use her money but I understand she's thinking about private school costs for future children.

[@RaniaLights]

That’s a good outlook❤

[@GegeP1804]

She thinks that she can do better and that is why she is hesitating. I really don’t think that he will be able to satisfy her really…

[@Not_A_Hopeless_Romantic]

She’s been in the relationship for a year and a half. She doesn’t need to waste her 20s in a relationship that she perceives isn’t serving her. If their vision doesn’t align, it will be a problem in the future and they will inevitably break up.

[@Not_A_Hopeless_Romantic]

Ranii should leave. She’s young and ambitious. She will meet other men in life. Don’t settle for potential. It’s rarely worth it in the long run.

[@robinsnestradio]

Love, love, love your show Ashley. Im over 65 and happily divorced. The advice you give your guests is on point and needed as they level up! Congratulations on your success as your show is growing! 😍👍🏽😍

[@Krys-r7s]

I like this young lady, she's incredibly intelligent I can tell...her concerns are so valid. My only advice is not to follow your heart entirely. If you're feeling this, you're not going to UN-feel that. So he may need to be someone to come back to in the future if she's committed to the idea of this ambition level. Also, 23 is too early to lock in so heavily on one person. Maybe they can be friends and she can continue to explore her options and he can continue to level up and win her love by actions and results rather her waiting and hoping. Just my two cents. Also, your needs shouldn't be compromised he needs to aspire to that for himself. If he doesn't if won't stick!

[@Powerdriver777]

Hey Ashley i just started watching you. YOU ARE ABOUT TO BLOW UP🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@Royal-kg8wp]

I love how you drop gems for tge ladies . Giving knowledge can be the best gift you give someone. Some ladies werent raised with someone teach them about femininity and fitness and nutrition . So alot if the ladies are learning or forming healthy habits.

[@dr.johnson007]

Jaz you got this! You’re a beautiful woman and don’t let your differences make you think you don’t deserve the best… you do! Never give up on your dreams ❤

[@FortunateFortunate-x4r]

Rani, he is just telling you what you want to hear. There's no way a 29 years old man can be changed by a 23 years old lady.

[@bsamy]

Ranii sounds crazy. She keeps talking about everything she wants done I didn't hear her say how she helps him. I'm glad this man isn't taking her serious

[@Powerdriver777]

Exactly 💯 He had to change himself

[@hildarivera9245]

Hi Miss Ashley!! I've been seeing you for a while and this is my first comment I believe in your channel. I commend you for standing up for Jaz and addressing the disrespect. I love what you are doing and stand for. You inspire me to be and do better. That video hit on "LOOK AT YOUR STOMACH" got me in order!! Working currently to lose weight

[@Pre0115]

May God bless and keep Jaz! And all the other ladies too but Jaz really needs some help and reassurance right now 🤗

[@cheriew2512]

Lovely advice for Jazz! Sending you positive vibes 🤩

[@Khumo_Mpho]

Dating a man with no ambition sounds scary

[@prettiilexii672]

To Love- It is definitely hard to take care of yourself when trying to put career and family first.

[@Pre0115]

That’s right could be them today and you Tomorrow!!!!! BE KIND BE GRACIOUS!

[@melaninandaura9713]

I wonder why she felt uncomfortable saying where she is from on the continent of Africa. I’ve never seen that. Is she ashamed of her country??

[@RaniaLights]

Maybe she just didn’t want to say it like that !

[@Chikou14219]

😂 Ashley that intro 😂😂

[@cheriew2512]

I thought it was a mistake at first!! 😂😂😂😂

[@GegeP1804]

Raniii thinks she can do better and that’s why she is hesitating. There is potential for a lot of resentment in the end…

[@nikevabrown6614]

Agreed! She doesn’t revere this man. I personally don’t believe in a woman marrying a man she doesn’t revere. Reverence is key because reverence begets voluntary and complete submission.

[@laurasmith2157]

Ms Ashley you are an incredible woman! Beautiful, smart and kind 🥰😍🤩

[@daniellepaylor2840]

Ashley your hair looks gorgeous❤

[@laurasmith2157]

Yes the consistency is very inspiring

[@mrsp5808]

55:37 amen ASHLEY😊

[@AnnPattieamillion]

Ashley is so pretty I love her style

[@shabariism]

Yay! I love fashion Friday

[@Chikou14219]

The second girl (African), it’s a no. You *will* (I promise) meeting another person with the positive qualities. You are too young to settle on such core values

[@tenekag0522]

Ashy how do you keep it together... i feel for that baby girl with the disability...😢😢😢..but you gave her great advice...

[@laurasmith2157]

NEVER GO WITH THE FLOW

[@Roses-Peonies]

I am a born, raised, lifetime Californian and I disagree that CA has a hookup culture. I truly believe it is how she is dressing while out as well as location. I have never been approached by men in that way.

[@raerae9246]

How did I miss this again 😢

[@Isika123]

What time are these lives? Keep missing them man..!!

[@breanna834]

8:45pm, she should be going live again thursday

[@IdeastoIncome]

I guarantee you, if you leave that man after he has leveled up for you, he will level so far up that you will regret leaving him.

[@deannajohnson2673]

Ash!!!! We missed you..needed to hear this videooo

[@theanswersisinsideu]

What is the point of your money if the man is fully providing? Some women need to examine their logic and really see if they are creating fair and healthy dynamic in a marriage or relationship

[@dr.johnson007]

Exactly. I don’t believe in 50/50…..it’s 100/100 over here! Put all the money in one pot and meet everyone’s needs. I don’t understand what’s difficult about that.

[@Not_A_Hopeless_Romantic]

Ideally, both partners should be able to afford the lifestyle on their own. So one income can go to bills and the other can go to savings, travels, etc. Now, if the women is having children or if the man’s income is significantly high enough to afford their lifestyle on their own, there may not be a need for her income temporarily. But a woman should always earn her own.

[@AngieM285]

Raniii you gunna break that mans heart let him go and be great for someone else ...

[@annabellak4033]

Ashley is right, nothings funny. When you're in a position needing love and support, remember the times made fun, Mercy 😔

[@rayskianno415]

welcome to the new era Ms. Aishat its bad buisness outside love. it aint just you

[@mrsp5808]

My husband doesnt want to buy them either(pads)..oh well I haven't asked him in years

[@brih4776]

I get the sense Rannii thinks she’s better than her partner. I think it would be much easier for her to find an African man who truly understands her culture and expectations since that’s most important to her

[@Mzlouluv]

Sir dating that 2nd women run sir even if its just to therapy cause something definitely not right in that buttermilk.

[@sweetness_k]

Jaz is beautiful

[@yvettea6350]

Rani, level up your looks, finish school, and run! Your 30-something year old self will thank you for it. A privileged man that will be earning less than you is a recipe for disaster. YOU CAN FIND SOMEONE BETTER EMOTIONALLY

[@suec8337]

Never seen her before, but I’m curious as to whether she’s married. Is she?

[@roybatty6952]

There are literally no men in the stream 🤦🏾‍♂️. Cant have a dating show with no men 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@melaninandaura9713]

Most men these days really don’t want to put in ANY effort at all. Everything they had to work for 15-20 years ago is readily available for free online. The desire to work to get their rocks off is gone and they don’t realize the other side of what they need and think the emptiness they feel is bcz of modern women and single mothers.

[@NiaFoster-km1me]

This stream is ask ashley not her dating show; it’s for people to go up and get advice about their lives

[@roybatty6952]

@NiaFoster-km1me Okayyyy even on the dating show, their are no men 🤷🏾‍♂️.

[@mahlatse8605]

​@@roybatty6952 then go to another platform 😊

[@fitzgeraldsemelfort3938]

Women don’t see the logic

[@siphelelezulu2555]

Hi

[@themoonbleu627]

I love my man he’s disabled I don’t care about that ❤

[@loverofwmn]

Ashhhhh🥰😍😍😍

[@aquafina6544]

I think men should be mature enough to get pads bcus he may one day have a daughter to take care of ALONE and should be a man and buy fkn pads for her

[@Secxysauce]

The first girl needs to figure out her own life that young man is still trying to find himself! She wants wife treatment at gf prices go look for a sugar daddy because she doesn't know what it's going to take to be a wife!

[@IfUdntknwMebynow]

40:56 KS voice, what do u rate yourself in looks? Hoodie, weave smh.

[@lillianjohnson7719]

she is deff giving west african vibes, but she wanna say im gonna say east to throw people off but nobody cares where u from, Ash is asking u for a reason, to give u better guidance. The young lady seems worried about a future that hasn't even happened yet. She hasn't began making more money then him, they're both still in school. ur career may look like you are in the making of making more then him but u don't know what god has planned for his finances or yours. If he is not meeting ur standards stop settling and stand on ur standards and go find someone who will take u on dates and provide financially, and make more money then u. It sounds like u want your man to be financially ambitious and driven. BUT If u want this man, poor into him! don't complain about his mindset differences, instead compliment and praise him when he does take you out and when he does pay for something let him know you appreciate him and maybe he will do more. but pick a side n stick with it

[@NatalieCarter-fr5lh]

WHEN YPU EVIDENCE IT'S NOT LIES. EARN RESPECT... AND STOP TALKING THRI THESE PEOPLE AND USE YOUR MOUTH

[@uhsaywhat]

Raniii is talking in circles. He’s not motivated but he’s motivated for me. Later on once the newness of you and the relationship wears off…he will resort back to his relaxed mode. When you build up a man and then keep trying to motivate him he will resent you at the most important time of your life. Imagine him working for the 1.5 mil house…both of u working for years. You decide to stop working…and u having to be on top of him for bills and other responsibilities. He’ll start looking around for another 20 something that will appreciate what he is bringing to the table. Don’t do it. Let it go!

[@markdavis7118]

Ranii is completely lost, why if she’s African with strong African values is she not first dating a man from Africa? Second, why aren’t her parents and father involved? Why isn’t she dating the men at her college, the truth that women miss is relationships aren’t a one way street. There are lots of African men in college and med school, but I guarantee she’s not the woman they are looking for so she has to date down😢😢

[@SallyBabyy]

The audacity of Rani. She looks like shaq but wants a lavish lifestyle. Girl you lucky to even have a man. 🤣

[@monicachantee]

So just because someone doesn’t meet the beauty standards they shouldn’t want a lavish lifestyle?

[@SallyBabyy]

@@monicachantee yes if you look like the female shaq you shouldn’t ask for luxury lifestyle. Let’s be realistic. High value men want beautiful ladies.

[@monicachantee]

@@SallyBabyy As a woman how do you feel comfortable putting another woman down ? Look at the misogyny you’re spewing. I am being realistic. Women who aren’t the beauty standard get married everyday & have access to nice things.

[@_astraeus_9045]

@@monicachanteeShould ugly broke men expect super models with both to offer? Of course not ! Why would a man with money settle in any way attractive wise in a female partner? You lie to women and pretend ugly women don’t exist , ugly men exist and y’all crap on them lol

[@monicachantee]

@@SallyBabyy As a woman how do you feel comfortable putting another woman down? Look at the misogyny you’re spewing out. Women who aren’t the standard get married all the time & have access to nice things!

[@faithreader2267]

What accent is this?

[@shabariism]

Ashley is from Harlem New York

[@rasun316]

...i knew there was a reason I liked her ​@@shabariism

[@Watercandle0219]

Getting Emotionally attached to someone is a choice. You vet someone BEFORE emotions get involved, not after!🤷🏽‍♂️

[@jl6523]

Why Ashley look like your fairy god mother? lol

[@hellothereyouall]

No offense but he’s going to need more than an associate degree to meet those expectations.

[@LondonLady24]

Im sorry but Russian men dont do 50/50. Their women dont play about being taken care of. If he doesnt want to provide and plan dates best to date men who do.

[@dinajones2761]

The caller with the hoodie looks like a bum talking about lavish lifestyle

[@GegeP1804]

Raniii thinks she can do better and that’s why she is hesitating. There is potential for a lot of resentment in the end…