Should Single Friends Be Around Your Man?+ We discuss best friend breakup + Her boyfriends in prison

[@prettiilexii672]

The first mistake is getting a $1,000 car note. -live below your means

[@kimberly329]

EXACTLY!

[@Quinten4M]

Too too expensive! 1k carnote. No,No

[@007b.2]

🎯🎯🎯 That part! I mean people need to tell "grown fokes" the truth! Why are you even going to Starbucks and all these other places if you out here asking people for money! 🙅🏽‍♀️ go to the goecery store and make your own 🥴. Don't ask anybody for money. That's were DRAMA always starts🌱

[@allendaniel7405]

The late Maya Angelou said it best "If someone shows you who they are, believe them."

[@Fashionisme]

Absolutely just cut a friend off because of jealousy,she copy everything I did from makeup,on to perfume,these maggots are crazy

[@lavenderangel2655]

Sounds like kiki's friend has been jealous of her the whole time and waiting for the moment kiki would fall off even a little bit so she could feel better than her.

[@youngj00]

“They don’t smell cologne as often as you do, they don’t see a man taking garbage out, they don’t see a man kissing them on the forehead, they don’t hear the sound of a deep voice often enough.” ASHLEY SPEAKING THE TRUTH and telling women to be careful out here.

[@HerbeyStudies]

I agree I have a lot of guy friends and I make sure to never hang out with them while Im ovulating. It’s not that they’re the kind of guys who make friends with girls just to sleep with them but my brain says one thing my body says another when Im ovulating and I just don’t wanna have to deal with those uncomfortable feelings towards people I have a familial type of relationship with.

[@trishag.971]

Kiki expresses her self very well. I'm glad she got to experience this friendship. Time to find a new friend in this new season

[@aliciakeels2183]

I will be your friend Kiki. You didn't do anything wrong. She just took your friendship for granted. Keep your head up and move on. You got this.

[@gottaluvpink89]

Kiki just block her and move on. It’s easier said than done, but she’s showing you who she really is. She’s got to go ✌️

[@DBrown-vg1fi]

It’s better to not ask friends for that much money. Some people are used to people asking for a hand out and maybe she felt her friend was trying to do the same thing which is understandable. It’s never anyone’s obligation to pay us money. It’s maybe for the best that she went no contact

[@crystalwaters513]

@@DBrown-vg1fishe said that the friend has borrowed money from her so many times and this is the first time she asked

[@DBrown-vg1fi]

@@crystalwaters513 from what I heard I really need to hear the other person’s side

[@megayummyrockstar]

Engage but borrowing money from others Ashley called it out very well. It was a life Lesson learned for her and her finances. She definitely in a roommate situation with her man.

[@Lastdayone]

agreed. Because I honestly do not give friends money if they have a man. I think there's more to this story. She said she paid her back out of her check but she also said that the man gave her 800.

[@007b.2]

Yea, she definitely lied in there about the timeline because why would "her friend" said I don't think we need to be spending money like this.. if you paided her back in a timely manner

[@Natasha-oz6ik]

Yup!

[@youreincredible1648]

Stop hating he pays for the car, he just went through a family tradegy and she didnt want to burden him that month, relationships are give and take.

[@betty568]

People go through stuff!!! That’s what friends are for tf . Both her and her fiancé are going through traumatic experiences and they needed the help of a friend. Why are you a friend of your there to judge

[@cletang88]

Ashley gave great advice. You gotta have saved for a rainy day.

[@konye618]

Um first of all never borrow money from friends!!

[@PSYCHDEGREE63]

Or family NEVER and don't exchange money if you don't need it back, it's a bad bad business period , it's a hard lesson, don't do it ✍🏽✍🏽

[@SweetysMega]

Why not ? Are we not around to support one another ?

[@Richard-Reloaded]

Kiki has very nice skin.

[@NeeceeDior]

Kiki seems so sweet. I really hope she has learned from the experience. Don’t chase friendships dear… real friendships don’t require that. God bless her

[@jenetsyamaris]

This is sad☹️ my best friend is engaged and we’ve been close since we were 13, we’re 25 now. I will NEVER cross those boundaries. Kiki, cut her OFF, she’s not a real friend at all!

[@shaybae111]

As you get older, “friend” groups get smaller and eventually you’ll learn you only have ASSOCIATES (people you work with) women are so catty and be easily envious. I am 32 and learned forget a friend especially when it comes to women. Women love to talk about other women, ESPECIALLY IN TAMPA.

[@Kaneshaa]

Yesss, I am 28 and women did me so dirty in my younger years. Never again, im good on friends.

[@breanna834]

Ash is such a new yorker and such a capricorn with her advice! Lol just like my mom I felt like I was on facetime with her. Great advice

[@PSYCHDEGREE63]

Caps keeps it 💯💯😁

[@tinawalker5335]

Heavy cap!!

[@NahlahontheMoon]

Yeah, I’ve thought myself it’d be hard to ask someone for money when I have a man. But I wouldn’t switch up on my friend, esp someone I care for.

[@BeauTCravez]

Yes Ash!! Im tired of women down playing their successes and wins. Kiki Im SO HAPPY FOR YOU 🎉🎉🎉🎉Stay away from the single miserable friends and married miserable ones too! Surround yourself around positive friends!! We are rooting for you sis!

[@opulence_prime]

To add content the so called friend was talking about KiKi behind her back to the guy who was treating her funny in the section. Girls do this all the time instead of creating boundaries and directly communicating with their homegirls. KiKi being a girls girl didn’t see anything wrong bcus she and the so call friend move different. My heart goes out to KiKi

[@shachede6828]

It doesn’t matter, if my friend needs a $1000 I will give them, I will not judge them. Especially if they paid back on time. I don’t do such. The audacity to keep pocket watching her 😒😒 not a true friend. Ashley advice is true though keep an emergency fund. I feel bad for Kiki 😢😢😢 let her go. There are many great women out there, don’t be desperate she is not God!

[@TiffanyG41]

Truly she feels u are not on her financial anymore. Any sign of struggle or financial issues, send women running away from you. Real friends don't run from 1 🌧 raining day out of several years. Lol

[@konye618]

You are young but understand every "friend" is not for every season!!! All highschool friends are not meant to come up with you. It's okay, you make new friends! But use discernment when you meet people, is this meant to be a friend or an associate?

[@Mother.Millions]

Ashley is just simply that girl! The Grace, The Wisdom, The Transparency is top Tier ♥️ That’s it: I’M BOOKING A CALL

[@paigeonpurpose2062]

she is not lying when she said that friendship breakups are more painful than intimate relationship breakups sometimes. I am a hairstylist for a living and my best friend of almost 15 years sent me a new guy she was talking to to get his hair done. He kept coming back to get his hair done with me and one afternoon after getting home I saw a vicious and nasty text message from her claiming that I wanted her man. when I tried to respond I was blocked on everything, when I went to her social media she was virtually nonexistent. It hurt me to my core because I would never do anything like that to someone I called a friend. Especially not a man that she claimed her self was broke and dusty. But people will be people. Keep your head up Kiki! NGL 4 years later i look back in restrospect and i swear it feels like the trash took itself out ✌🏾😌

[@starznmyeyez8906]

Sometimes our lives take different paths. We have to bless people (friends, family or associates) and release them. God got us.

[@danielplain8762]

Great advice from Ashley!!! When you evolve in life. The more you grow. You will have to cut people off and keep your inner circle very small. Walk away and don’t look back

[@wavesonswim8738]

This is what credit cards and lines of credit are for. Don’t mix money with friendships.

[@deeb.3518]

The friend borrowed the money from the ex to give KiKi, but when KiKi payed her back she probably didn’t give it to the ex and told him that KiKi never payed and probably sprinkled in something like “he should be fine if he’s making so much money. So now the ex dosent like her and she sold it to all the other friends too!!

[@gaudylady7]

This is why I would never be friends with a single woman if I was married & vice verse. Women can be crazy. For me I can generalize for my safety, sanity and peace. I don't care of thinks what about my statement. It has kept me happy!

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

As a married woman, I recently learned my lesson with this. I see no more single friends in my future... 🙅🏿‍♀️😬

[@gaudylady7]

@@doll.ov.poetrii4682So sorry that happened to you!!! Stay safe out here❤

[@cm88__ny]

Sounds like you've made some bad choices in friends and now you're scarred from the experiences. I have wonderful friendships with my friends' husbands/boyfriends/ex-husbands. I've also had these girlfriends since HS. I'd focus more on having friends with morals and good character rather than solely who has a ring. At any time, u and/or the girlfriends can become divorced and single. Then what? U get rid of them? They get rid of you? Sounds like a fear-based way of living.

[@gaudylady7]

@@doll.ov.poetrii4682I can understand this and I’m currently single.

[@gaudylady7]

@@cm88__ny Ma’am I did not make “bad”choices in friends, I am actually an introvert. I took a year to be open to people (the extroverts, those different from me), all of this because I did not want to be “judgmental”. The very people y’all may think have it going on are monsters behind close doors or mask the fact that they bring chaos. It was a waste of my time, so I will only deal with those who are truly into the arts, introverted, compassionate, etc. and move how I do based on being naturally that way. I stand by the comment I made a while ago. It has been peaceful 😅❤.

[@_belloty1394]

Yes . Friendship breakups are very heartbreaking.

[@TheStamps]

I don't know if I'm a good friend because I'm not loaning you money, I'm not your therapist, I don't like talking on the phone or texting daily or weekly(I'm a once a month type of person), I do not want anyone staying or hanging out at my house often. But... I will listen to your problems and give you light advice. I will go out to eat with you, go do activities and trips. I will celebrate you on your special days baring gifts. I will show you comfort during hardships. I'm a light type of friend. I don't want a deep emotional relationship because that's what prayer is for and the marriage bed, not my homegirl.

[@omowhanre]

So you only want acquaintances, not friends?

[@youreincredible1648]

Depends on age 21 year olds with out children, have more time and energy for deeper friendships.

[@bitokay147]

I want to hug this girl - she will need to learn HOW NOT TO GIVE AF! Its okay to be by yourself. By 40 you will be lucky to have 2 women friends especially when you are married. It will be peaceful trust me by this time you dont want any more drama after years of life experience.

[@karessk9972]

Don’t chase her..I know it hurts and I know she was like a sister too you…but love you don’t know WHO she really is and if she even was a friend too you although you were a friend too her. LET HER GO and know that there are other woman that you will meet that want to be a real friend to you….just like the seasons change people change too…my father told me “If people want too leave then say BYE BYE and keep it moving” they got the problem not you. Don’t worry about why she acting funny. That’s her problem not yours. GIRL BYE!! You going to meet plenty people in your life. She isn’t worth your tears.

[@ProfessionalSmilesRDH]

Preach, Ashley!!! They watch your man's interaction with you. Keep women out of your house and from around your man.

[@ashakaron]

Aw, I feel your pain keke! This too shall pass. Betrayal hits you hard when your loyal, genuine, real, and just can't fathom whyyyy? But the why doesn't matter move on with grace and your head held high girl! Go find people who are going to give you what you give them. I'm 30, married, and have a son so although keke is only 21, I relate with her a lot! I've been with my husband since 19, so I was once in keke's shoes. Alot of 21 yr old women are in a completely different phase of life so as a women who is more mature or got off the market early it feels like you don't have a place with people your age sometimes. Good friends are hard to find, especially as an adult woman. Idk why it's so hard for women to come together and be great without the drama. If I was in Tampa, we could be friends girl ❤ if your ever in NY, let's have a girls meet up lol!

[@ijmimi9186]

Kiki is so beautiful. I hope she's not forgiving serial cheating in the relationship.

[@LadyPR1]

I really appreciated this chat. Went through a similar relationship issue.

[@badgyal4576]

Kiki is wise beyond her years on this earth!!! She seems like such a sweet person too! She definitely needs to release & let go of that "friendship." Ashley, I LOVE your makeup look😍 it is giving what it needs to hun🤩btw, great advice as usual😘

[@kendras.9772]

I think this is more about the friends relationship status and because Kiki is connected to it,their friendship is a casualty. The BF probably wants to be engaged and distanced herself from all of them. Jealousy could be the issue.

[@naijalovin]

Yep

[@avamcnealy4310]

Kiki is such a VIBE !!!! Blessing to you Mama !!! GREAT advice Ash ….

[@justshanequa3776]

I love your Channel ..watching u is. A staple for me . The beautiful Ashley i appreciate you Godbless . I can tell u are so caring and thoughtful with your advice . Love alll the way from Queens❤

[@ceciliaparker6291]

Ashley, I Love and Respect You So Much Sis!!!🥰🤗💋💋💋 I’m so Glad she has You to talk to and Receive council from 🥰🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💞

[@ceciliaparker6291]

We Always hear about the evil that men can do. I’ve also heard mean speak on the evil of women! As Women we Know.👀😬🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@candycotton2]

I love that Ashley kept it real with her w/o hurting her feelings. She was wrong for asking her friend for $1,000. Girl what. You got food at home. Don’t ask me to go to Starbucks😂. Friendships shouldn’t be a burden…that girl probably had things going on in HER LIFE as well.

[@shaybae111]

Then as her”friend” she could’ve express that and Kiki most likely would’ve apologized for asking. Y’all do too much, exactly why I don’t care to have female friends

[@Kaneshaa]

True but she didnt have to make shady comments. That is not a real friend.

[@shaybae111]

@@Kaneshaa I thought I was the only one who noticed

[@CookieC23]

I agree

[@leah8112]

We wish Kiki the best❤

[@reetasopretty]

I love kiki!!! Spread your love to ppl that appreciate you ❤️ 💕

[@donald104]

Did you give her the interest payment that you promised?

[@maryakpadock34]

21 and a $1000 car payment?

[@PSYCHDEGREE63]

😮😮😮🤦🏽🤦🏽🤦🏽

[@PSYCHDEGREE63]

A car payment of 1000 per month, and she doesn't even have 1000 in a savings account for a rainy day 🥺🙄, priorities are very backwards

[@JayBee-cv6ko]

Her fiancee pays for it. That was just for the moment. He also gave her the money she paid.

[@sweetjanejonez]

​@@JayBee-cv6koIf he left her or lost his job, she's screwed.

[@shachede6828]

@@sweetjanejonezit is probably in his name.

[@ArtLee68]

Ash give the best advice!

[@rosewatersweettea]

It really depends on how confident they are within themselves and how successful or unsuccessful they are when it comes to dating. Or if they’re on the spectrum or mentally ill. In the past, the only friends that I’ve had try to come on to my man after breaking up were friends I shouldn’t have had around in the first place. Insecure, always having boy problems but never celibate. You know the ones that will date your ex and get dumped even after you told them how horribly they treated you, yeah those ones lol. I’m in my late 20’s now and both my man and I prefer to have married or long term relationship friends unless they are close family.

[@feliciasjourney]

Kiki! I moved from Tampa Bay, but currently live in Central Florida. I would love to have a friend like you! I’m married with two kids. 😊

[@jrenee34678]

She's a very sweet young lady. Be careful with your gift. You're a giver but you can't pour into everyone. Sit back and pay attention to how people treat you before you invest in them. People prey on people like with your spirit.

[@Haz2288]

Why is she borrowing money, but getting sections in the club with a $1000 lease 🤔

[@sweetjanejonez]

1k car note that YOU can't actually afford...time to downgrade.

[@123paramorefan]

FaceTime while taking a shower ? I don’t do that with my friends …

[@cutlyfe]

Me either

[@shaybae111]

Your point?

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

​@@shaybae111 That's weird. The point is, the boundaries were way too loose with that "friendship".

[@shaybae111]

@@doll.ov.poetrii4682 according to you. judge yourself before you judge someone else and their comfortability with their friend

[@tanbutterfly8282]

I want to give Kiki a hug. 😢❤ I just had this happen

[@kissedbythesun855]

Kiki is beautiful inside and out.

[@TheQueenrevolution]

17:45 This is GOOD Grandma/Auntie advice from the OLD SKOOL that still very much applies. Keep those friends out of your relationship space and out of your man's face.

[@patriciahercules6852]

Never borrow money from friends and family.Why is she so desperate for friends when she has a fiance?

[@tatijas]

I assume because of her age., it takes for certain individuals to go through situations like these to understand some people who they call their friends really aren’t friends at all.

[@shachede6828]

A finance of husband is not all you need fam. It’s terrible to make your SO everything. You need friends and family for support and joy. Not burden one person. Doesn’t mean you should be desperate though

[@ashleyparkinson5797]

Hey Keke you got a fellow nursing student friend here!!!!

[@godsmercy3333]

Gotta understand some people are only around for the benefits you can give not who you are. When someone shows you who they are believe them. Some people are great at wearing a mask. Just move on and guard your heart.

[@bxgirl2930]

I allowed this woman to be in my life that clearly had NO BOUNDARIES and she was married and still was falling for another woman's husband i told her to loose his number she said THAT EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS MARRIED ALSO SHE SAID THAT OTHER WOMAN DIDN'T DESERVE THAT HUSBAND AND SHE WANTED HIM . SMH she would always find her way around my husband smh .What was hard is that even though she was nuts she was a complete HATER we still did fun girl stuff movies brunch etc... shopping etc... so i was sad when i had to distance myself from her .😫😫😫😫😫

[@billybob5043]

As someone working on my trouble with saying NO. The friends probably didn't want to let her borrow the money and when she did and she is feeling some type of way and being passive aggressive. IDK thats just what I'm thinking could have happened.

[@babyfacebora]

ashley! do you have a schedule for when u go live on tiktok?

[@rozaleos]

I agree with your friend. That was a real friend . You did not deserve her. Also, your fiancee should run. The entitlement to think you deserve to have a car for $800 a month. Run!

[@InTrex00]

Kiki such a sweet heart wish she was in Cali♥️♥️✨

[@aquafina6544]

Say that Ashley. People that are your so called friends can be envious and jealous secretly. Kiki block her. She's showing her true colors.

[@empresswalters9042]

Kiki not u watching her pocket saying money isn’t a issue for her

[@evev-cm9qs]

Sis I know it hurts my friend for over 30 years she has walked away from our friendship. It hurt to the bottom of my heart.

[@Clearbluesky771]

Move on from this friendship. Take this time to grow strong so when she try to come back in your life you don't let her back into your life. Let it go girl. Move on. You don't need to know all the details about what they are saying, but this is your eye opener to cut all contact with her

[@OFFICIALOFFTHEHEAD]

There are 2 sides to every story. I had a friend we grew up together and then when we reconnected. she never had any money I would pay for us to go out cause I didn’t mind but , then it got to a point like u have a man why do u never have money. Then one day she asked me for money I gave it to her and never talked to her again . Cause if she do it once she will do it again I want to spend my own money not take care of my friend all the time.

[@jupiter4351]

$1000 a month car payment , she should’ve gotten a 2018 with low mileage all cars 2018 are basically the same just more unnecessary features

[@chicopeegirl5738]

Wow... she ghosted her over money that she already paid back? Funny she was PLAYING ride or die. It may be immaturity it is weird... don't lose any tears over her, things happen between friends just know that she is not what YOU thought she was, keep it moving.

[@bxgirl2930]

ALREADY REACHED OUT ...SHE IS COMPLETELY DONE WITH THE RELATIONSHIP SHE DOESN'T WANNA BE HER FRIEND SHE PROBABLY WAS NEVER HER FRIEND ANYWAY

[@sophiasmith5715]

You are so beautiful ❤️ you will have many friends 😊

[@The_1_She]

Also the other friend may think you are a flexer… which is why you can’t always show ppl ALL your wins- some are meant to be enjoyed between you and your creator. Always can tell the right hand what the left hand is doing. I don’t think it’s beneficial to insert/invite outside friends to other friend groups you may have that they are not already apart of. The only thing both friend groups have in common is YOU. So what you think they are gonna talk about 😂😊 it’s sad but women are conditioned to compete- unless you are healed and know better.

[@vanillaconover3484]

Dont care if married,/single no women around my hubby!😊🇵🇦nyc

[@betty568]

Friend is jealous of her…. Also, if my friend needs money, I could care less of she has a man. They’re human beings so they go through stuff. She paid her back in less than a month. That’s a responsible person

[@lyfewithfena843]

What’s her information?

[@lillianjohnson7719]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Ash said she like the glock glock boom boom

[@kimberly329]

😳 Can we discuss why you have a $1K car note? What in the world are you driving?

[@Quinten4M]

Right! Unless you make 100k -200k . Most ppl 1k on car note too much

[@kimberly329]

@@Quinten4M Even at a $100K to $200K salary that’s still too much on a car note

[@bitokay147]

These girls today are acquaintances - dont give BEST Friend or Friend labels. How many girls have been murdered by their friends this year alone???? It has to be earned over time.

[@bcimterriblewtitles]

Not Glock Glock boom boom guys 🤣

[@The_1_She]

Get a used car. Take public transit. Problem solved. You can’t want to look posh as a struggling student. Be where you are in life. Embrace it. The discomfort will help you get to your goal. ❤❤❤

[@shaybae111]

What’s Kiki’s socials??

[@CookieC23]

Unpopular opinion. She should be asking her fiance for money regardless of his situation. So sorry but I do think she should’ve gone to him instead. I think also don’t ask any friends for money. It puts the friend in an uncomfortable position possibly and she didn’t want to say no…maybe. The friend is also single and probably thinking she doesn’t have a man to ask for anything so why are you asking her. Sounds like it might’ve always been something there in their friendship. It’s unfortunate but sometimes things change in friendships. People move on and circumstances change. I’ve moved away from friendships without explanations as well because maybe I see some things I don’t want to be involved in or I’m tired of their stuff. I feel for this girl she’s so sad. She shouldn’t take it personally. Move on and don’t even try to make up scenarios. Let it go and go live your life with your man. Also get a cheaper car that’s too much to pay for a car note.

[@aquafina6544]

My parents wouldn't let me date til i was 18. My dad would of killed me and massacred the guy

[@yanou4u]

I fail to understand how she was able to pinpoint all the red flags from her friend and still ask her for money. What about all the older friends she mentioned? Couldn't they help? Also, her asking for money while she is engaged makes her fiancé look bad. He should have been on top of it, especially if it took her 2 weeks to give back the money. Lastly, when you are in a relationship is normal to be disconnected from your single friends and them from you. Better hang out more with people in relationships, if you can only talk about your man.

[@rosemiller4622]

Before you ask for money just take out a loan

[@nokiamouton4754]

What’s Kiki socials ?

[@pro-muffins2721]

😂big CAp 🧢

[@Natasha-oz6ik]

This story is missing some sentences

[@arielparadise2229]

She might be salty and jealous that she’s getting married