you know what’s a horrible feeling? Being asked these questions by grown men twice your age and still feeling the need to laugh it off politely rather than put them in their place🙃
@straykidswoo48502 жыл бұрын
Not standing up against it cause it will get you in physical trouble and zero sympathy from whoever you ask help from is an even horrible feeling
@decentgrocerybag40032 жыл бұрын
@@straykidswoo4850 if you speak against it you’re a bitch, if you do nothing you agreed to it. There’s no winning.
@HyperfixationStation2 жыл бұрын
@@decentgrocerybag4003 ^^^^^
@Euxiphipops772 жыл бұрын
And why do you feel like you need to laugh it off politely? Just tell them to piss off and tell them to look at themselves and mind their own business.
@decentgrocerybag40032 жыл бұрын
@@Euxiphipops77 We can’t just tell them to piss off. We will be labelled as bitches and hard to work with, lose good connections, risk being followed after the interview, harassed and so many more possibilities that seem wild but are way too real. Telling someone physically bigger than you and more influential to piss off is a death wish.
@rigelr53452 жыл бұрын
Every single one of them hesitated on the question "are you a feminist?" Because people have forgotten what the definition of the word is, and they now confuse it with misandry.
@strixthebasiliskandhalfphoenix2 жыл бұрын
soo true ... at my side of the world being a feminist it's like a sin.. here arrange marriages are a norm where people go on looking for women who are NOT feminists .. like a whole survey whether u are or u are not in fact a feminist , whether u believe u have rights or not.. and yes alot of feminists' themselves have forgotten the actuall meanig .. alot of feminists' ive met so far in my society are in fact misandrists, but i can't happen to blame them the society i live in is in fact alot misogynist it self .. and to be honest not only men here are against women speaking up but alot of women themselves are against women speaking for themselves ... messed up world
@calyco23812 жыл бұрын
@@strixthebasiliskandhalfphoenix yes. That called internalized misogyny.
@forgetfulstranger2 жыл бұрын
Feminism is especially a sensitive topic in South Korea
@beepingbeepbeep34132 жыл бұрын
Feminism is considered as equal to feminazis in SK
@liandrysanguish31032 жыл бұрын
It's because the radical feminism overshadows the innocent one, just open reddit and look up for anything related to feminism, what you will find is hatred after hatred. Unless the ideology clears out it's problematic parts I don't see it ever succeeding tbh, and they happen to be quite many on political level. As a guy I wouldn't never call myself feminism, but that will not stop me from striving for a fairer and more respectful world.
@carr07602 жыл бұрын
I got unreasonably happy when the one boy said he would talk with his spouse and if they made more than him he would take care of the house and child. Someone is raising that boy very well.
@oreradovanovi52042 жыл бұрын
I was pleasantly surprised, that was the most positive part
@dadadaidk93522 жыл бұрын
Fr his parents did a good job
@alphamail89742 жыл бұрын
@Louis Kingsta It's different for men and Women though... Women are expected to take care of kids so the question wouldn't even be asked 😂 cope harder
@mcruff32 жыл бұрын
@Louis Kingsta Absolutely no one would be "pressed". His line of reasoning is common among all genders lol.
@wormworm5802 жыл бұрын
I can’t speak on Korea but I did do a unit on discrimination(gender studies? It was mostly societal gender stuff) in Japanese society. There are different ways to speak about marriages, and some of the more traditional terms essentially equate the husband to the ‘master’ or household head while the wife is “house woman” or “inside the house”. Nowadays such terms are rare and generally much lighter terms are used, ones that don’t have archaic connotations. It’s becoming more common for both parents in a family to have successful careers and maternity leave and daycare is a big part of this. The term used for “house wife” is gender neutral, and as society changes more men are going by the same term. There is still an imbalance in terms of things like work life balance though. Usually, women still do the majority of the housework, even when also working full time. This kind of parallels with what the kid said, about how if his wife was his main source of income then he would try to do more, not all or the majority of the work. In the inverse situation, a stay at home wife would be expected to do all if not most of the housework. There’s also workplace discrimination, etc, but things are getting better and are not just archaic as some people expect foreign places to be. I think a lot of Japan’s development in this regard has been stunted by their history with invasion (lots of major cultural shifts that changed their views on sexuality, power dynamics etc, thanks America) and also their culture of “don’t stick out, don’t make a fuss”. Besides hetero couples though I know the attitude towards same sex couples is pretty mild. My Japanese teacher’s sister is gay and when her Japanese in laws met her sister and her sister’s girlfriend(or wife idk) it wasn’t really a big deal. Even if it was, the cultural attitude leans much more towards keeping to yourself if you don’t like something, maybe being a bit passive aggressive, but generally no bible bashing. There’s also the fact that gay couples are generally more prevalent in Japanese media, even if they’re more so treated as a novelty. In a way, Japan is simultaneously more and less progressive than many western nations. Religion is less prevalent and far less extremist, but a culture of “not sticking out” simultaneously softens hateful words and acts, and makes it harder to rally against unfair systems and biases.
@kayseacamp2 жыл бұрын
One question that really irritates me as a woman is when we plan on having kids. People have zero regard towards how this question can make a woman feel. You don't know if we're struggling with infertility, miscarried, want kids but isn't the right time, want to adopt/foster, or just don't want kids. I know a large part of the time the question isn't being asked in a mean way but frankly unless the person is actively speaking to you about their family planning it's no one else's business.
@LondonOak.2 жыл бұрын
It's no one's business, plus every time I told someone I don't want kids, they say that every woman wants kids...
@kayseacamp2 жыл бұрын
@@LondonOak. I'll never understand why people are so "involved" in women's decisions to have children. Last time I checked my uterus is MY uterus.
@sarahsays1942 жыл бұрын
@@LondonOak. If I ever got that reply I would probably say something along the lines of well since I'm apparently not a woman what am I then?
@1vy-t0wn382 жыл бұрын
@@sarahsays194 yeah, and they’re always like “b-but you were born with…OVARIES,how could you not want kids!? It’s the womanly instinct!” Like,ok Derick,you try pushing a baby out of your vag**a. Oh that’s right,YOU DON’T HAVE ONE
@KayRenae4092 жыл бұрын
Couldn't agree more!!
@user-ly8hv9te8s2 жыл бұрын
“All human beings have emotions” !!!
@justuravergekpopluvinfeminist2 жыл бұрын
I love his answer
@Niki91-HR2 жыл бұрын
The answer was pretty good.
@growwithbhushan2 жыл бұрын
I don't have emotions
@Niki91-HR2 жыл бұрын
@@growwithbhushan and how is lifr without emotions?
@rosalin77472 жыл бұрын
@@growwithbhushan edgy
@KiaraClaw2 жыл бұрын
The whole period thing always makes me mad because it's very sexist and gives less value to whatever the girl might be feeling. Like assuming that we're mad just bc we're bleeding is hurtful.
@rayezx2 жыл бұрын
Yes, the sad thing is I would get this from my own mum. But I have to forgive her because she has internalized misogyny. PMS can aggravate already existing anxiety or depression, but I found a lot of my anxiety around that time was because I was afraid my mum (or anyone) would find out I was on my period, so I would feel shame.
@soumya58322 жыл бұрын
@@rayezx my mom is also similar and despite the fact she is educated ..I would have become like her if it were not for my father ..
@mr.milquetoast90432 жыл бұрын
That remark has always hit me hard even though it's never been directed at me before. As a man I really do find it really hurtful since it assumes that people who do experience periods in general are only mad because of the bleeding and whatnot.
@mediocrebankai2 жыл бұрын
I mean, I feel like if men bled they would be mad about it too. Also the fact that the question is far too personal, like why do you think its okay to ask me something like that? Both incredibly invasive and demeaning.
@devashrijoshi90792 жыл бұрын
IKR. That one triggers me the most
@rachelw27422 жыл бұрын
I hate being asked why I look so serious- It’s just my face! I especially hate when they then tell me to smile or say I should smile more
@wlfrndz87432 жыл бұрын
joker moment
@daylightchim1272 жыл бұрын
ugh, i got this a lot growing up and from my own family too :,,( and it was even harder ‘cause i just struggled with coping with what was going on at home
@Eliany19992 жыл бұрын
It's worse when you have a brf, people just assume you are angry, no, I just don't have to go around smiling all day
@ob1jakeobi4162 жыл бұрын
we live in a society...
@candygonzalez65962 жыл бұрын
That's right!!! What I do now even if it sounds "irrespecful" it's tell them: "Did you say something funny? If not why should I be smiling all the time??" And I don't care anymore, I guess as I grown up now I just don't let it pass, I don't have to try and be "polite" anymore, You get tired.. but no more
@RoronoaEmi2 жыл бұрын
I think the toughest thing is realizing that as women, we say or receive the same things from our female peers. It’s just as much an issue with women/girls making their own community self-conscious and uncomfortable with an image of what a woman “should” be.
@Cat-kj1be2 жыл бұрын
Yes! And don't be labeling them if they are working in fast food. I had an older woman say 'If you stayed in school, you would have a better job.' 🙄I had my Bachelors degree for about 3 yrs by then.
@kittenmimi53262 жыл бұрын
I think a lot of these question are from women directed towards women yeah...
@francinev39712 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY. in my case, it comes from my own mom too who's supposed to be a role model for me as the closest fellow female in my life. Apparently, I act too masculine for them and I should be more ladylike (I really don't want to and I just want to be comfortable, not minding gender roles)
@RoronoaEmi2 жыл бұрын
@@francinev3971 My mom is exactly the same way. She has a lot of good advice, but I found that much of it did more harm than good when I was a girl and young woman. We can be classy and dress/appear in a way that is appropriate for the situation but still be comfortable in our own skins. Sweat pants aren't appropriate for a dressy event, but that doesn't mean I can't wear a pant suit instead of a cocktail dress and heels. I really didn't find my own style until I was in my twenties. And at 30, married, and a mother myself, my mom still nitpicks me. But I've gotten better at standing my ground and knowing myself. And she's gotten better at realizing when to back off. Hoping things with your mom get easier.
@beltashazzar52772 жыл бұрын
It’s true, people of the same sex can be vicious towards their peers. I mean, just look at what happens to boys who don’t act like other boys expect them to. They’re harassed pretty much throughout their youth and then they have much lower chances of getting a mate in adulthood because women generally prefer a certain stereotype of men. And quite often they might get belittled by their girlfriend for not being ‘man’ enough (Lady Macbeth style - I’ve seen my own mother do this to my father and have witnessed him literally restraining himself from getting physical and removing himself when she goes ‘Other men would do x-y-z for their wife’ amongst other things). Sadly, people don’t just need to fight ‘the others’ they need to constantly resist their peers, who’re meant to be supportive and understanding.
@mellalanny9572 жыл бұрын
3:08 this was adorable, the way he just completely ignored gender roles and went with what would make more sense for him is awesome. the complete lack of hesitation when he said he would be ok with staying home to take care of the child was really admirable in my opinion.
@notalive54422 жыл бұрын
Right? I felt my heart warm at that. We need more people to understand that gender roles don’t matter.
@thevioletskull81582 жыл бұрын
That was based
@anotheridentitycrisis3542 жыл бұрын
Absolutely loved that :)
@genderfluidlygay71462 жыл бұрын
Same tbh. We need more people like him!!
@carr07602 жыл бұрын
It made me unreasonably happy.
@tiffanypersaud35182 жыл бұрын
“I wore base makeup today.” Yes honey. “Well, humans have emotions.” Indeed. “Well, I’m ENFP, so I suppose that makes me emotional?” I felt this in my soul.
@lorranycarvalho94322 жыл бұрын
He was perfect! 😭
@salonii63452 жыл бұрын
FR
@fireandsomethingsomethings88872 жыл бұрын
ENFP community here 🌟
@lorranycarvalho94322 жыл бұрын
@@fireandsomethingsomethings8887 you guys are incredible ❤️
@tiffanypersaud35182 жыл бұрын
@@fireandsomethingsomethings8887 I was ENTP ten years ago but hey, I get the ENFPs. I am just so HAPPY this lad said it like, "I'm emotional, so the freak what?"
@sadblob45772 жыл бұрын
“yeah, I agree my outfit looks bad. But yours is worse” best line from this whole vid lmao
@darkacadpresenceinblood2 жыл бұрын
ikr it was such a mood
@flyingspacebrainedidiot2 жыл бұрын
I'd argue it was "I'm an ENFP, can't help it"
@adrenalineactivate2 жыл бұрын
@@flyingspacebrainedidiot yes I like that one to
@yowwowtow2 жыл бұрын
That kid did not back down at all
@raraavis77722 жыл бұрын
I replayed that. I like that kid. 😄
@hannaht79702 жыл бұрын
ENFP boy was precious!😭 "I would discuss with my spouse and if my spouse makes more money than me then I will take more care of house chores and parenting." Finally someone understands that the goal is to make sure someone is at work making money and another is available to raise the children not trying to conform to what society deems as a 'normal' family life.
@mprsnl902 Жыл бұрын
You know his social media:)
@ai_ht5630 Жыл бұрын
I loved him before knowing he was a ENFP 😭👍🏻 I think as a ENFP I can sense who is part of my community 😂😂
@tonik1546 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, exactly, I would just add that it's not even about simply distribution the roles and who makes more money, cause it would be one-sided (though in our society it WILL be one-sided most of the times); it's just that for me I would want to alternate these roles and make it more balanced, for example, I spend some time home with children doing chores, and then when I have some work to be done, my husband replaces me for some time or takes a paternity leave and so on, but it's not quite possible when one has a stable job from 9 to 5 and the other doesn't have any at all. That's why most couples quarrel and can't find the common ground. But I'm really pleased that this boy is ready to communicate and discuss such things with his future wife so he will be a good, responsible partner. Such an understanding at this age, really mature)
@sadiauddin87012 жыл бұрын
Interesting how they’re basically talking back to the interviewer for asking these questions, but if a woman talked back to a man who asked her these questions, she’d be labelled as “rude,” “un-feminine,” “doesn’t know any manners,” etc.. It goes to show that even if a woman tries to defend herself, no man would take her seriously. These boys keep bringing up “should it be different for boys and girls then?” as a response to the interviewer, but watch what happens if a woman says that. Good video!
@jkv53322 жыл бұрын
true!
@adrianramirez68482 жыл бұрын
they were not really talking back. they were answering the questions and laughing it off awkwardly which is what i imagine most women would do. some women would get really pissed off and fight tho unlike these guys.
@malachilucky41422 жыл бұрын
None of those matters. What other people say is irrelevant. The mind is where the matter is. It doesn't matter what society thinks, it is what is inside your head that controls you.
@eduardolopez55512 жыл бұрын
Maybe it depends on where you live on the world? I don't hear that a lot where I live but maybe it could be the case for a place that has supported suppressing women for years? I don't know I would let someone who does live in those areas talk about stuff like this
@althea71812 жыл бұрын
SO TRUEEEEE and it hurts like hell
@aarna68532 жыл бұрын
that kid bringing up his mbti to explain his emotions is literally the story of my life
@tiaradesilvanita20192 жыл бұрын
HAHAHA same here
@loremipsum9802 жыл бұрын
It can certainly be changed though. I was an ExFx when I was little, always optimistic, emotionally sensitive, and outgoing, and I had tons of friends. But after certain *impactful* events during my teenage years, my personality took a 180 degree turn and I'm now a full-blown INTJ. One's personality is shaped based on one's genetics, environments, and life experiences after all.
@luna-p2 жыл бұрын
@@loremipsum980 That test is the equivalent of a horoscope.
@salonii63452 жыл бұрын
LMAO
@MrBezazel2 жыл бұрын
@@loremipsum980 Expecting your MBTI to not change as life continues is like saying you’re not bound to change as you grow as a person. Not saying that you were saying this but there’s a lot of people who say that MBTI is fake because they got different results between the years when that’s what’s supposed to happen. It is concerning if someone who is 18 has not changed at all by the time they are 25.
@adoration75102 жыл бұрын
Hearing these questions being asked as a girl made me so uncomfy because of the fact that I often hear them in my everyday life and am expected to answer politely or to just brush them off. The sad thing is that you could see on some of the boys that they felt uncomfortable hearing some of them too... Words really are powerful and I do not stand behind people who throw awful comments at others without thinking about how it could impact them first. Everybody is secretly going through something, so back-handed comments like these only make it worse.
@xXGestoerTXx2 жыл бұрын
Yes 👏👏👏👏👏 It is so "normal" being asked such questions over and over again😩 Even my mom asked me such questions from time to time🤦🏻 it's crazy considering that these questions are just the harmless ones ..... Sometimes it really sucks to be a Woman😒
@notwerkinginthishouse86342 жыл бұрын
@@xXGestoerTXx Feel you
@xXGestoerTXx2 жыл бұрын
@@notwerkinginthishouse8634 i really hope society will change for the better ... It were the best for all living beings on this planet
@elttttt14902 жыл бұрын
@@xXGestoerTXx yeah :( People often greet me by commenting on my weight they say it’s “for my own good” but it just makes me feel bad about myself
@notwerkinginthishouse86342 жыл бұрын
@@elttttt1490 Ignore them!
@vedabala72092 жыл бұрын
"Yeah, my outfit does look bad, but yours is worse" Fucking legend
@chaeryoungsmidzy82122 жыл бұрын
when they asked him what a “boyish manner” was, I could see him question every gender norm he’d ever been placed under
@conho48982 жыл бұрын
Now let's bring in the parents and have them answer frequently asked questions by parents to their kids that are mentally damaging!
@tetsusumu2 жыл бұрын
Like what questions? edit: thank you to everyone that answered me i get it now, i dont need any more answers. 2nd edit: this is 7months old and ive read a lot of interesting answers. no offence but ive read enough answers. thank you! Dont tag me anymore plz
@KshipsinKchups2 жыл бұрын
Yes
@jennies3rdpetdog5272 жыл бұрын
Yes let's do that
@dyxtopia212 жыл бұрын
YES
@rj45102 жыл бұрын
Omg thisss
@tutsbrasilio2 жыл бұрын
the boy with purple tie was clearly so uncomfortable but kept answering all by smiling and being positive/honest about his style and mannerisms and it was quite interesting to see but also quite relatable to some extend, being nervous and uncomfortable but still trying to stand up for yourself (for reference I'm a trans man so I grew up hearing these a lot "as a girl") that was a very intriguing experiment
@forgetfulstranger2 жыл бұрын
He's so cute
@Percy1800sDetective2 жыл бұрын
O: Hello, fellow trans dude!
@bazdog44642 жыл бұрын
Im also a trans guy
@xenhazenzen2 жыл бұрын
Yooo trans dude here too so i feel u man
@teumeato2 жыл бұрын
Sending you love
@borderlinenocturnal61952 жыл бұрын
“Why are you so emotional?” “Umm you know all human beings have emotions?” I’M DYING
@misshope82972 жыл бұрын
BUAHFHHZ I lost it when the purple tie dude mentionned his MBTI, I never thought I'd witness someone do it✋🏻😭
@Nickilob20062 жыл бұрын
Same 😭
@myragingwhormoans2 жыл бұрын
i'm a scorpion, so i can get a bit wild sometimes 🤪🤭
@mbrunnen042 жыл бұрын
Ikr😂😂😂 I was like "mood!" infp here btw :)
@Nickilob20062 жыл бұрын
@@mbrunnen04 same :D
@aspannas2 жыл бұрын
@@myragingwhormoans ???
@sarahcoleman52692 жыл бұрын
I like the answer "I'm acting boyish..." "What is boyish?" "Uh, me...?" That says something about being secure in your gender identity. You can't define what makes you feel like a [insert gender here], you just know that you are.
@magnarcreed38012 жыл бұрын
Penis is also an acceptable answer.
@sunnyscript12242 жыл бұрын
@@magnarcreed3801 your mom is an acceptable answer.
@Joseh-le4yl2 жыл бұрын
No. You can define it. The definition is right here: mas·cu·lin·i·ty /ˌmaskyəˈlinədē/ Learn to pronounce noun qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of men. "handsome, muscled, and driven, he's a prime example of masculinity" His words don’t prove that you can’t define what makes you feel like a specific gender, they only prove that he didn’t have a ready answer.
@trustfratedwithmuggles37982 жыл бұрын
Yess
@trustfratedwithmuggles37982 жыл бұрын
@@Joseh-le4yl do keep in mind that the defination of "masculinity" has and does keep changing, it differs to various people. So idr think their argument is "invalid" Just cuz u see masculinity with a different view.
@moon15112 жыл бұрын
"Why are you being so sensitive? Is it that time of the month for you?" Faced this more than once!
@wolfgangamadeusmozart15322 жыл бұрын
Right!! I had a panic attack once and the blame was put on my period
@dracofirex2 жыл бұрын
"Hysteria" being named after our parts!!
@soakedcroissant16022 жыл бұрын
Every.fuvking.time. And now I just don’t show any emotion even to my family.
@lyac042 жыл бұрын
Someone mind explaining it to me? I'm girl and I have periods and stuff but, why other girls get offended by this question? Like, if it's not the case you could just say so.
@moon15112 жыл бұрын
@@lyac04 During periods many girls have mood swings, sometimes it can make us really depressed, or agitated with little things, etc. Therefore, when we get angry there are many people who disregard our emotions by assuming that its just 'that time of the month' and probably we are having a mood tantrum. This kind of thought process invalidates our feelings as if whatever happened is not a big deal and we our simply overreacting, thats why we get offened.
@majaeriksson64952 жыл бұрын
The fact that this is still a very "kind" version of what we get to hear on a daily basis is so sad.. And when we complain about it its always "well they meant it as a compliment" even tho it sticks with you and make your stomach hurt all day. I will never raise my daughter to take any negtive comments from stangers, and I will always listen and be on her side. You dont always have to "make a scene" when someone is acting bad, but I wont raise another generation who feel like they need to agree and laugh it off to feel safe and aproved. So many times I can think back to my teens and think about what strangers have said and get so angry for not standing up for myself. Just because I was raised to never raise my voice or talk back to adults. That ends with me.
@sophiafenger2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, the fact that we should be HONORED and THANKING them for asking such intrusive and insensitive question makes me so angry and sad and disappointed
@celianunn2070 Жыл бұрын
@@sophiafenger That's what I was thinking during this. The responses given were things women were taught NOT to say as children!
@jaky411 Жыл бұрын
Growing up as a teen, my 1st generation immigrant mother grew up and being told to be a goody two shoes people pleaser and I came out as a complete opposite temperament and I respected some of the morals she taught me but also didn’t approve the fact that she never stood up for herself to people that had their way with my mother but preferred to just ignore and keep being nice and generous.
@alyl.9430 Жыл бұрын
We need more parents like you that will stand up for their children against questions like the ones in this video. My grandfather used to ask me questions such as "how much do you weigh now?" starting at the age of 11 and it made me incredibly uncomfortable. Being so young, I never thought that I should stand up for myself, but I was very thankful when it stopped a few years later. I thought my grandfather had just lost interest, but I recently found out that my grandfather actually stopped because my dad had overheard one of the most recent inappropriate questions and swiftly made it very clear to my grandfather that unless he was complementing me in a way that would not make me uncomfortable, then he was not allowed to ask about or comment on my body under ANY circumstances. Parents like you help children build self-respect and feel like they have a support system. That is such a paramount thing for kids. Thank you so much!
@jaky411 Жыл бұрын
@@alyl.9430 I think as a parent, it is a very important responsibility to keep children feeling safe not only physically but also mentally/emotionally. The problems that I have faced being raised in an immigrant household is the notion of children being conditioned at a young age that they are suppose to behave/be obedient toward adults b/c we are made to believe that adults or just any person older know more as well as suppose to set a good example. This is clearly not a reality unfortunately and parents need to step up and let their children know that even their own friends and family members are capable of being toxic and not saying anything will only make it worse…
@isabella47932 жыл бұрын
Oh and this isn’t even HALF of the bs most women hear on a daily basis. But I’m really happy that this was brought up, specially the “are you a feminist” one since it has such a negative connotation in Korea because people will immediately assume you are a radical feminist. Keep up the good work 👍
@jamais_vu32 жыл бұрын
i agree that last question was a good one considering the contextual situation there
@verjuices2 жыл бұрын
wsp whitey
@verjuices2 жыл бұрын
arent you the same person who mocked jin's pronunciation..?
@HyperfixationStation2 жыл бұрын
@Ruth Zamorano well, "radical feminism" is a subset of feminism that can be described as TERF ideology (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminism) which isn't radical at all, it's just transphobia disguised as "feminism." If someone's idea of feminism doesn't include trans women, and reduces women to their genitalia, it's not really feminist or radical. Not sure if that's what OP was referring to, but that's what the term means if that helps :)
@vamp68692 жыл бұрын
@Ruth Zamorano to add on to what Hyperfixation Station said, "radical feminism" or "radfem" ideologies typically revolve around the idea that women (usually means people who are AFAB to them) are inherently better than men, and that men are less worthy or less pure because of their state as a man. There is also the idea that sex work and kink are demeaning, and anti-feminism, regardless of any reason for doing so. Hope this helps !!
@uncreativename42492 жыл бұрын
Asking someone "are you on your period" when they're upset is extremely rude and belittling. It is the equivalent of telling someone they're being overdramatic because of the connotation that question has gained from society.
@juliee5932 жыл бұрын
Yes, because sometimes people are indeed upset because of their period, and that's okay, but the implication 99% of the time is "your emotions are not valid if you're on your period". It's basically blaming and gaslighting the person for having a working uterus... Instead we could all be considerate of people being emotional during their period and take their struggles seriously, and then that question would become okay, because it would imply "are you going through a hard time?" instead.
@scrubkaekz32312 жыл бұрын
I think it depends. As a woman I've asked and been asked that. Because we're women. We literally can sense, smell, and know when another woman is upset because of her period so I think we have that right. Example my boss was pissy and snapped at me on the phone. An hour later she's apologizing and literally crying. "You're on your period aren't you?" We get it. Hearing it from a man is like... Not the same.
@BlueDragon-vm1bt2 жыл бұрын
That's such a personal and private question that I would be very offended no matter what the context was.
@uncreativename42492 жыл бұрын
@@BlueDragon-vm1bt like the person above you said, it really depends on who's asking. If any man other than maybe my dad asks, it's rude. If it's my mom, or my sister, it's understandable. Especially my mom, since mine is extremely punctual and her's comes right after mine.
@BlueDragon-vm1bt2 жыл бұрын
@@uncreativename4249 That's understandable. It also depends on who's being asked, though. Personally I have no exceptions and I would be extremely uncomfortable no matter who asked me, even doctors. I know that's bad and I shouldn't be like that etc etc but that's how I am right now. My point is that no one should assume you'll be okay with them asking the question, no matter how close they think your relationship is, unless you've already talked about it or brought it up yourself
@unoreversecard13112 жыл бұрын
“Don’t you think cooking is a boys job?” The sudden look of death is his eyes was my everything. His eyes said in panic ‘there’s no right answer to that question’ and he’s completely right.
@MoonCheetahAnimations2 жыл бұрын
Personally, I think cooking is the job of someone who actually knows how to cook (male or female, they just need to know how to cook)
@magacofi Жыл бұрын
@@MoonCheetahAnimations This. Although, everyone should learn how to cook, even if it's just a couple basic but overall complete meals.
@theshermantanker7043 Жыл бұрын
I mean I can only cook basic noodles, that's enough for me. What's the controversy in that?
@MoonCheetahAnimations Жыл бұрын
As long as someone doesn't burn their house down when they cook, and it doesn't taste totally horrible. They're more than qualified to be in the kitchen, no matter who they are.
@rays9147 Жыл бұрын
@@MoonCheetahAnimations the way I wheezed reading this
@DaniS3982 жыл бұрын
They should have done this with adult men. It's really hard, at least as a mom, to watch kids smile and try not to cry as adults are asking them mean insensitive questions. I get what they were going for but, when I was a teen, it was grown men, not my peers that made me uncomfortable. Like, it was easy to tell a boy my age who was being rude to STFU...but the men always came off more threatening.
@anvitamohan7939 Жыл бұрын
Ikr. They are kids darn it. Making them uncomfortable just to prove a point seems like bullying rather than a social experiment
@bpv8816 Жыл бұрын
This is the entire point of the experiment. Teen girls, and little girls alike go through this on a daily basis. These kinds of questions are asked to those girls by ADULT MEN. That’s exactly what is happening here. An adult asking these questions and making them cry or uncomfortable is exactly the point being made.
@anvitamohan7939 Жыл бұрын
@@bpv8816 So we are going to bully kids just to prove a point? What is the difference between those men and us then?
@bpv8816 Жыл бұрын
@@anvitamohan7939 hun its called a social experiment for a reason. It doesn’t make us better or worse. It’s just informational, a lot of the times boys my age(im 17) and even men wont grasp the position they put us in until it’s being done to them. this is definitely not bullying btw… if this is bullying then what would you call the things that we’re told? And the people who say these things irl are definitely not trying to prove a point, they’re dead serious.
@anvitamohan7939 Жыл бұрын
@@bpv8816 they are also bullying and so are these people and advertising it as an experiment for the world to see. If they wanted to go with this concept and prove a point they should have made a scripted skit or something. Grown ups are making children uncomfortable in both scenarios. This is not done. Plus, how do we know these boys who have done that to someone? They are sobbing, are you immune to that? If someone asked such things to girls I would still be angry and I am still angry when these boys are asked these. Both are bullies Two wrongs don't maje a right.
@dudaljkk2 жыл бұрын
at every question i was about to throw hands fr,i didn’t expect this to upsets me that much😳
@dudaljkk2 жыл бұрын
@kodura vivasayi i said it wrong or smth? english is not my first language so…
@Someone-fo5bt2 жыл бұрын
@@dudaljkk You said it right. I think the other person was trying to say that you wouldn’t really do it. Don’t know why they felt the need.
@user-vc9ko4ih9v2 жыл бұрын
@kodura vivasayi uhhhh sorry-
@hearts4b1llzo2 жыл бұрын
@@dudaljkk You said it perfectly fine, don’t worry about it.
@dudaljkk2 жыл бұрын
@@Someone-fo5bt oh okay,thank u
@akuaik.1002 жыл бұрын
I really like this type of videos, it just reminded me why as girls we tend to be so insecure growing up. I heard this types of questions daily when growing up whether it was directed at me or women around. Even if you try to ignore them at the end of the day they will affect you and you start having thoughts like "maybe I should loose weight to look better", "if I behaved more 'like a girl' people would like me more" or "maybe I was wrong for defending myself and I was overreacting because 'women always act like that'"... It honestly f*cks you up real bad and it's hard to ignore those thoughts even when you have grown and know these thoughts are wrong 😔
@aaa-tp6ud2 жыл бұрын
And it's so integrated in each generation women really do believe in it. I grew up with my mom always trying to loose weight, saying she was "fat" when I didn't see that at all. My grandmother was annoying, too. Was always saying I had to behave more like a girl, the way I sat with my legs slightly open wasn't "girly". Even when I had a friend who was very affectionate and sweet she'd complain when we were hugging or close to each other because she was worried we might 'turn' lesbians. I think what bothered me the most was everytime both my mom and grandmother would say that we couldn't go out at night because "two women and a girl alone at night was no good" as if if a man was there everything would be magically okay. One day my grandma even told my cousin, who was 14, to accompany my mother who was getting some luggage from the car in brought daylight although he didn't want to. Her argument for this was because "he's a boy, he's stronger". Everytime I'm upset, sad for no reason or angry and my mom says it's "probably just your hormones" or "your period must be coming soon". That absolutely disvalues someone's sadness or pain because "op, women have hormones and aren't emotionally steady" I don't know. You could tell it pisses me off a bit. It's a bit worse growing up with a sexist religion where men are put above women, yet if you ask them it's because "god gave us different privileges" yet he gave much more to men than women.. (Sorry for the long text)
@Freyay-yo2 жыл бұрын
@@aaa-tp6ud trueee like let me just sit how I want to for god sake
@devashrijoshi90792 жыл бұрын
@@aaa-tp6ud I do encourage you to stand for yourself. Ik your self later on will question it, but never bother to that voice. This standing up & defending yourself will save you tons of time. I actually have my best friend's mom here telling how I am "living an ideal life" living with no care in the world.. going on walks at evening etc. Although it's not like I don't have my problems, I just tend to not to show it, well... Atleast "prefer" not to...
@NoOne-fb7xu2 жыл бұрын
@@aaa-tp6ud you mentioning the religion thing reminded me of when my older brothers would pray my mom would cover her head out of respect or something like that and I never understood why and my grandmother when she lived with us would always criticizes the way I dressed saying that my shorts were to short and that was provocative and the way I would sit too she’d say it wasn’t lady like and when I burped too and she would tell me I should try doing my hair more often and would annoy bc for so long I was obsessed with the way I looked and how others viewed me and now that I was finally ok with the way I looked she moves in and starts saying things like this that kinda made me go back to that
@piii65702 жыл бұрын
I grew up with 3 brothers and 6 sisters. I have to admit my dad was pretty sexist af sometimes. He would say how women should be dressed up nice and clean. I would play outside all the time with my brothers and sisters so it wasn't bothering me at all. Sometimes I would be told by my dad that I was skinny and shit but I did not give a single fuck. Sometimes my brothers would tell me why don't I leave my hair down. Reality is I just like pony tails. I don't act like the typical feminine girl ig. But it doesn't matter to me. Just know you are responsible for letting your thoughts affect you or not. In the end negative shit like that shouldn't make you want to change if you know it's just ignorant comments.
@i_iphis2 жыл бұрын
The obscenities that are said or even implied in questions like these is infuriating a lot of times, but if you show any ounce of announce or anger, it’s your fault. “You’re being too sensitive” or “it’s just a joke”.
@cloudsn2 жыл бұрын
Yup. Classic victim blaming said by bullies.
@ana.twilight2 жыл бұрын
the amount of toxicity and manipulation on those 2 phrases are scary
@kur0_m1112 жыл бұрын
fr. this is why im having trouble finding out my emotions back then bc people would talk down on me then I'll become upset, they would tell me that "ah it's a joke, you're so dramatic". young me would ask "oh am i being too dramatic?" and that shit affected my whole life and i couldn't distinguish my own feelings and emotions as if im invalidating myself. but gladly im starting to validate my feelings now a days, no more listening to other people's bs !!
@sawaalbino2 жыл бұрын
@@kur0_m111 u see..one time a boy classmate called my girl friend "fat", i scolded him, and he said "but, it's true though. Why r u angry?" Then i said, "do u like if i call u stick skinny?(add on multiple insults that really describe him)". Then he just shut up. So, my anger was valid. Everyone else would be angry if they r insulted
@djbella2 жыл бұрын
exactly!
@Commenter3392 жыл бұрын
"well, people have different tastes, you should respect my taste, please" wow, what a good comeback! polite, yet firm in their stance:D
@StreamHypeBoyByNewJeans Жыл бұрын
Well it doesn't make sense cos' ppl are the one judging your style, not the other way around. So no. Shush
@Commenter339 Жыл бұрын
@@StreamHypeBoyByNewJeans in most western countries, for the kost part, everyone has the freedom to dress however they want and wear whatwever they like. it is only a matter of their taste/preference.
@kimry18422 жыл бұрын
The fact that they couldn't answer when asked if they were feminists is so sad. It's seen as such a controversy to say that you're a feminist you'd literally get attacked for even implying that and it's just sad.
@KshipsinKchups2 жыл бұрын
It's a good thing. Women asking to be treated fairly!
@mseb39092 жыл бұрын
Yeah its a scary topic in Korea. Toxic masculinity is so huge there that men are even offended by the 🤏 gesture.
@KshipsinKchups2 жыл бұрын
@@mseb3909 What a joke. They think being toxic masculine is better lol💀
@shakira73012 жыл бұрын
What makes you think they support equality in the first place ? Men usually don't like women being equal to them lmao that shit hurts their sensitive snowflake masculinity ego so bad 💀
@mseb39092 жыл бұрын
@@KshipsinKchups well yea cus a lot of men are and since their culture is basically build on it they don't care if they are being toxic
@shanellebolden93922 жыл бұрын
This really opened my eyes, because I’ve actually asked some of these questions and I’m a girl! What this taught me is that I don’t have to be a boy to be sexist to a girl. And just like that guy said, I really need to be careful with my words. This an implicit bias I didn’t even realize I had. Thank you for making this video.
@AliceEcila982 жыл бұрын
Strong of you to realise it!! And to make a change instead of denying it. There’s way too much denial of peoples poor behaviours bc it puts them in a bad light, but in reality admitting and committing to change shows just how much wiser and good-hearted that person is and have potential to be!
@althea71812 жыл бұрын
"R u on a period" attacked me lol, bcz i ask that to some ppl too (as a joke but still), and im a girl. I felt now how unconfortable that sounds to the listener ;-;
@R3FL3CTI0NS.2 жыл бұрын
I gotta say, you must be oke of a kind to realize your mistake, admit mistake, and actively try to fix it. Many people would deny it or say that it's fine. I think that's really admirable of you! 😊
@devashrijoshi90792 жыл бұрын
Only if my mother realises it like you did
@sarahsays1942 жыл бұрын
Respect to you for owning up to the mistake and also trying to be better about it. It's its own struggle to just have people accept that they're wrong about something, and then an entirely different one for them to decide to change and be better. Emotional intelligence is very good to have.
@nanda_2 жыл бұрын
The question about being a feminist was pretty interesting, cause I think it can get misinterpreted really easily if you have zero clue about SK. They weren't just afraid of responding to that question cause they're not feminists (necessarily), but because stating you're a feminist can get you very serious backlash in South Korea, as it is seen by a great part (perhaps even the majority) of the population as an unacceptable thing. That doesn't go to say they are or aren't feminists, I just thought it was pretty interesting to see the fear of saying anything at all when asked about it. I'm not from South Korea, so seeing that as a bit of a 'third party' was really revealing about my own society and the global context we live in as a whole. I think a lot of people from around the world would have the same reaction, cause there's stigma and backlash for either saying you are or saying you aren't. It's a good measurement of the way feminism _is_ and is _seen_ nowadays, regardless of right or wrong, and it paints a good picture of where feminism is now and where it's going. Again, saying this without any judgments of value. It's just that seeing it from a 'detached' perspective in relation to SK has made me able to see it in that sort of 'detached' manner in general. It's even interesting that I feel the need to say this, cause I just made this whole comment about how it can be difficult to take a stance and I already now the kind of ideological comments I might get just by mentioning the word, even though the comment isn't meant to talk about the ideology itself at all.
@aishwaryaahirrao2 жыл бұрын
Perfectly put in words
@barbaravitoriadesandealcan33942 жыл бұрын
yeah...
@maiadraconica64882 жыл бұрын
South Korea think women are man haters for having short hair so yeah :/
@genderfluidlygay71462 жыл бұрын
Very perfectly put!! Thankyou.
@DimaRakesah2 жыл бұрын
This reminds me of a recent discussion with a man. The topic was the problem of misogyny in a community we were both members of. He felt that we shouldn't use the word misogyny to talk about misogyny because "some people may find it offensive". Giving these definitions a negative connotation just makes it easier to ignore the problem because no one wants to even talk about it.
@bazilda2 жыл бұрын
I adore how there questions make them visibly uncomfortable. Kinda makes you see that it was not just you, those questions do suck universally.
@wwxx232 жыл бұрын
Friendly reminder that if someone asks you a rude question you’re totally allowed to give a rude answer 🤪♥️ it’s a service to society really
@skengels2 жыл бұрын
It's even better actually. Lol, most of the questions in reality would be followed by the asker interrupting and not caring at all what the answerer thought. Best thing to do is stop engaging, because even answering rudely, though far better than a polite answer, is encouraging them by means of entertainment.
@yeonbinluvs2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. No-one should sugar coat such things. It's really okay to come off as rude if all you did was school someone
@lifefan12 жыл бұрын
Ignoring is the best as if you don't even consider them as a human anymore, but I know it is hard to be silent for some people like me 🙃
@Poodle_Gun2 жыл бұрын
The fear is that they're going to act like you're sensitive, but I guess you can always act like they're a lot of drama.
@macyskaggs37722 жыл бұрын
Well I think safety is more important than sticking up for yourself sometimes though…upsetting the wrong guy can get you assaulted or followed home. There’s also the situation of a guy bugging you while you’re at work, showing attitude (whether it’s deserved or not) towards a costumer can get you fired. It sucks but it’s the world we live in unfortunately
@chadstchad2 жыл бұрын
i know this is an experiment, but if anyone needs to hear this: as a male, you do not need to be masculine. if someone ever says that, they have a lot of their own shit to get through that they hate about themselves. you’re amazing. ♥️
@courtney76812 жыл бұрын
I completely agree, I think masculinity being a normal thing should be left behind. It shouldn't be a thing to hide your emotions and nobody should have to
@pramada94312 жыл бұрын
Tbh I feel like a portion of these questions are also asked to men. Not all of them obv. But questions like,"why are u emotional" or "shouldn't u act like a boy" and stuff asked to them a lot too. I feel bad for these boys even though it's an experiment
@Harkz0r2 жыл бұрын
Nobody _needs_ to be anything, but I find it difficult to deny that people will respond more positively to you if you inspire them or surpass their expectations, or otherwise make a positive impression on them subconsciously. On the other hand, focusing too much on external perceptions like some sort of performing monkey is not how you become truly comfortable with yourself. I've never been the stereotypically masculine type and I've made my peace with that in my own way. I just try to improve myself day by day.
@Kid_Charlemagne762 жыл бұрын
Masculinity is necessary for all men. It's what makes us providers and protectors. There's no need to abandon your manhood just because feminism says it's "toxic." That's just anti male propaganda. Be proud of your masculinity
@pramada94312 жыл бұрын
@@Kid_Charlemagne76 tell me u don't know what toxic masculinity is without telling me u don't know what it is. Also u sound like exactly the person who loves to put other men down by saying they aren't masculine enough. It's funny u think we are putting them down.
@ems54542 жыл бұрын
"why are you so serious?' "are you on your period?" "you lost weight! & you gained weight right?" "WHY ARE YOU SO EMOTINAL?" or any comment about my clothes, these ones are always the ones that really makes me angry, like i can't keep my mouth shut, so uncomfy, and I've heard them way too much in my life and when we reply with an anger tone they just generalize the term"feminist". sending love to all my women out there, it's an everyday fight, stay strong
@---fp3hz2 жыл бұрын
“Yeah this doesn’t look good but hey you should look at yours first looks way worse” THIS GOT ME WEEZING 😭🤚🏼
@hitiiii2 жыл бұрын
I have broad shoulders and thick thighs and I'm 5'5 and I'm a girl. I was often told by my relatives and all about how "masculine" I was. About how I acted as a boy more than a girl.I love wearing hoodies, I'm sporty and I have been always body shamed because I was skinny growing up but now that I eat everyone comes up with "you are fat".I was judged and told whether I was loud or quiet. I became very quiet after all this happened and affected me and then people were like "she's so quiet". THAT'S WHY DO WHATEVER THE SHIT YOU WANT. YOU RESPECT YOUR OWN MASCULINITY AND FEMININITY AND PEOPLE WILL TOO.
@jennies3rdpetdog5272 жыл бұрын
Louder!!
@lisastolejiminsjams19652 жыл бұрын
SAY THIS TO THE PEOPLE IN BACK!!
@disha21_2 жыл бұрын
i get called out for “acting like boy” for sneezing loudly 🥴🥴
@jennies3rdpetdog5272 жыл бұрын
@@disha21_ you know people are fucked up
@DimaRakesah2 жыл бұрын
You can't win. The goal posts are constantly moving so you will always have someone telling you that you should change this or that and if you do someone else will tell you that you shouldn't have.
@vishrutipandey17462 жыл бұрын
Listening to these boys' thoughts I have realised, the world is going in the right direction
@nrag54392 жыл бұрын
April fools
@ctashi70812 жыл бұрын
Open your eyes and ears. It isn't.
@fabplays65592 жыл бұрын
@@ctashi7081 Wdym? Their responses to most questions were very forward-thinking. One boy even said he wouldn’t mind being a stay-at-home dad if his spouse had a more high-paying career than he did and could provide better. Another boy mentions there no longer being a boundary between boys and girls. I think that’s quite impressive considering how far we’ve come.
@alisonmccain2 жыл бұрын
@@fabplays6559 they mean that in reality it's not like that, these are just a couple of guys they picked out
@Bee173792 жыл бұрын
I didn’t need to listen to boy because I know they can relate to questions like theses too so it’s not really that surprising. What is surprising as that they admit since a lot of guys are insecure.
@SakuraMakii2 жыл бұрын
As girls/young women/older women, it’s just straight up universal. we can be from completely different countries and probably recount the similarities of what we’ve been asked/told throughout our lives by boys/young and older men. I felt mad uncomfortable watching because it took me back to so many experiences I’ve had.
@SakuraMakii2 жыл бұрын
@@HaroldIsCool based on your name I’m going to assume you’re not a woman/girl. Therefore you speak for not one single person that has experienced this. Your opinion is null and void. And if you are, then your are so blind. It is very universal, you’re just clouded in your own personal reality.
@ItsViolaRose2 жыл бұрын
“Yes, I agree. I don’t like my school uniform either” 😂😂😂😂😭 but seriously can we get some male people with this level of security on THIS side of the border?
@RandyButternubs9172 жыл бұрын
5:38 really got me. There's zero way for someone to "correctly" answer that question, much like the others. But that one is just specifically intended to be degrading. My family used to call me fat, so I take that kind of stuff with a grain of salt now, but asking if I'm on my period is a hugely inappropriate way to ask "are you okay" or "why are you upset"
@hennasalokangas2 жыл бұрын
in a way saying women tend to feel that type of way ONLY when they have hormones acting up as if we cannot be upset otherwise😣
@devashrijoshi90792 жыл бұрын
IKR? That question upsets me the most
@timefliesaway9992 жыл бұрын
@@hennasalokangas yes basically how men see women Emotions = hormones
@DimaRakesah2 жыл бұрын
IMO it's often a way to dismiss and invalidate a woman's feelings. A guy can say something really rude and disgusting and if she reacts with anger he can blame it on her, imply her anger is unreasonable and absolve himself of blame all in one.
@FlamesAndShadows2 жыл бұрын
@@hennasalokangas yup, and if we are around our period time then our feelings are automatically not valid, by that logic
@lelmdrWHO2 жыл бұрын
This is so harsh, but also part of me thinks everyone should do this. Everything is just a matter of perspective. It only takes a little compassion to realize it’s not that hard to be kind. But compassion can be hard unless you truly take the time to try and see from others perspective. We normally only live as ourselves
@nillabean60412 жыл бұрын
“You should look at yours first, yours is worse” LMBO WHAT 🤣 I love this guy
@faylafaeira2 жыл бұрын
I thought all these boys were very sweet. They were put in an uncomfortable/different situation than they're use to and you can tell a lot of them really thought about every question. It was wonderful to see them reflect on the questions and their answers when the experiment was over. Every one of them definitely left with a different outlook on the expectations women are held to and the comments/questions people think are okay to say/ask. Just like one of them said, they can sound caring, but they really come off as sarcastic and uncaring.
@yjw41272 жыл бұрын
"i see those questions are frequently asked, and that fact made me feel worse" 🙏🏼 we need more person like him, thank you
@Iminlovewithmycar392 жыл бұрын
*we should be more like him, people always say we need more people like him/her but it's us who should become better.
@eggstrodinary13552 жыл бұрын
bro the way their answering it like it’s just some easy answer. When girls retort to these types of questions, we just get more shit thrown at us. It’s a continuous conversation that we just can’t seem to win. It’s not just a one and done deal, it’s constant harassment and then being told to deal with it and not be so sensitive
@shakira73012 жыл бұрын
They're facing it for the first and last time, women are used to this shit now that we are tired and we if ww talk back we're getting labeled by some sensitive mf
@pennypurrfect2 жыл бұрын
@Smallville trust me, it doesn't matter whether you're acting calm in the situation or not.
@kdmac19182 жыл бұрын
@Smallville Okay, you're done.
@kdmac19182 жыл бұрын
@Smallville figures.
@shoyohinata57442 жыл бұрын
So glad you did a video like this. Even tho topics like these still get empathized a lot these days, it can never be too much to talk about them. Those kind of questions can be hurtful and by teaching everybody that, maybe we could reduce the level of them being asked in a day-to-day life. Thanks Shine Teen!!🥰💕
@0kayts4422 жыл бұрын
Shoyo youre here too???
@user-dh5pm9bv7n2 жыл бұрын
I love you Hinata!!! 😭
@shoyohinata57442 жыл бұрын
@@0kayts442 AKAASHI??? W-WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE???
@shoyohinata57442 жыл бұрын
@@user-dh5pm9bv7n Omg hi random friend😭
@lianicole37042 жыл бұрын
AHH HINATAAAAAAAA
@justlola4172 жыл бұрын
The way they looked so shocked and the hurt was so clear on their faces... That was agonizing to watch, both seeing someone experience that for the first time and knowing girls have learned to go through it all the time without even flinching (which doesn't mean it hurts less, just that it's internalised)
@biaswreckage2 жыл бұрын
Just felt the need to say that- normalizing empathy and validating emotions can cause more boys like these to grow into men with these same values and opinions
@yty40432 жыл бұрын
Hope this experience could help these guys to avoid making certain comments towards women in the future because if they felt uncomfortable with a few questions, imagine what women have to go through hearing this everyday
@yjw41272 жыл бұрын
for me, as a girl, the one that i most heard in my life is "are you on your period?", it's making me soooo mad... and something that wasn't mentioned here is "what boys are gonna think" i heard it soooo much, im like ??? do i need boys approbation ? no i certainly dont need it
@witchdust89002 жыл бұрын
This is so true, like are we not allowed to feel anger without it being invalidated by the question "are you on your period?" And this is part of the reason why women arent taken seriously most of the time and it really is annoying.
@aiiiia99712 жыл бұрын
It's so dumb that it's ever even suggested that we need to do things to impress boys, and on the other hand that if we dress up or something it must be for the boys. Who said we wanted to impress a boy? Or anyone for that matter? Maybe we just did it for ourselves to feel good. And we don't need to make ourselves more appealing "for boys" we can just be ourselves.
@screamingrat2 жыл бұрын
The purple tie guy ( 1:38 ) reminded me so much of Taemin from Shinee… His attitude was just very sweet even in such a painful situation.
@ayayaya_aya2 жыл бұрын
As a girl, I also keep receiving statements like "Why aren't you smiling?" or "You should smile more!" from other people. I am generally a jolly person and I really smile a lot, but creeps tend to take that as an invitation to harass you. I mean, you don't even need to do anything and some would still be catcalling and follow you like you owe then something.
@FlamesAndShadows2 жыл бұрын
My default face screensaver when the thoughts are miles away is apparently too scary for people with little to no familiarity to approach. XD
@Harkz0r2 жыл бұрын
I don't really understand the point of questions like that whether you're a girl/woman or not, tbh. Like, you're just... being? Yourself? Why is whether you're smiling or not important? lol you're not doing it as some sort of public service, and even if they want you to be happier so you'd smile naturally, being asked that directly is a surefire way to get the opposite effect. I know I've had people ask me if I'm okay before because sometimes when I'm deep in thought it looks like I'm zoning out or staring into the distance. I haven't had smiling, though.
@GaryHighFruit2 жыл бұрын
I've been told that, and I'm male. Women are being conditioned to assume they are treated worse. That's non-sensible.
@R3FL3CTI0NS.2 жыл бұрын
@@GaryHighFruit Bro why are you getting so defensive over this?? Huh, must be that time of month 🤷♀️
@Ruby...X2 жыл бұрын
@@R3FL3CTI0NS. lmao
@mxchilogy37952 жыл бұрын
Is no one gonna talk about the guy at 1:47 ? He ate and left no crumbs 🔥
@Mochi-bts2 жыл бұрын
THE BOY IN THE STRIPPED TIE NEEDS TO BE PROTECTED AT ALL COSTS OMG 😭😭😭🤚🏽❤️❤️❤️ HES too cute, bless him 💟
@rararaka23482 жыл бұрын
Don’t forget about the “You’d look so much prettier if you smiled more”
@r00b1t2 жыл бұрын
the “are you on your period” question always hits me, just because I have attitude or is in a bad mood doesn’t mean I’m on my period, even if it’s a “joke” or they’re sarcastically asking if I still think it’s really insensitive to ask someone that unless you’re really close to them and are both female
@ray_x69592 жыл бұрын
bad take
@witchdust89002 жыл бұрын
@@ray_x6959 how?? Its a really annoying question because it's like women arent allowed to feel anger without it being invalidated with the question "are you on your period" and its part of the reason why women arent taken seriously and it is a bother to most women. Of course men's anger is never invalidated because they must have a "good reason"
@r00b1t2 жыл бұрын
@@witchdust8900 facts, I really appreciate that you understood what I was trying to say because I get asked this question very often and even by my own brother which gets really really annoying, because to me, talking about my period or like talking about personal stuff makes me feel uncomfortable and so I never know how to reply or I lie saying “no”
@GaryHighFruit2 жыл бұрын
Those people are trying to give women an excuse for their bad attitudes. Those dudes refuse to see that women can be crappy people or pains in the but.
@lucerotorres14912 жыл бұрын
remember when my brother was mansplaning a topic I'm deep into and then, when I told him to let me talk, he said "you're being too sensitive, control your hormones, are you on your period" and that freaked me out because it wasn't the first time he said something like that being attacked like that in your own family sucks btw the guys were so sweet with some of their answers that I totally melted with the one saying he is willing to take care of the children and the house ;;;
@karanaher50302 жыл бұрын
Wtf is mansplanning?
@elistari10502 жыл бұрын
Typically mansplaining is when a man explains something to a woman that is ABOUT women (periods, childbirth, the female experience in general), but some people misuse it and claim that a man explaining ANYTHING to a woman is "mansplaining". Honestly, I'm not a man and I do that to people ALL THE TIME. I'll be telling my dad about something he already knows about ALL THE TIME. So "mansplaining" as a word is, virtually, just sexist. I've seen more women "womansplain" to men ABOUT male things, than I have men to women.
@karanaher50302 жыл бұрын
@@elistari1050 I see, thank you for explaining.
@giornogiovanna41402 жыл бұрын
LMAO he's funny
@giornogiovanna4140 Жыл бұрын
Your brother is a W btw
@crunchykarat43892 жыл бұрын
Some more: “Why were you out so late at night? Don’t you know what can happen?” “You’re acting too bold/straightforward/confident for a girl” Generally anything condescending or implying that females are weak just makes me want to throw all of my 3 hands.
@shakira73012 жыл бұрын
People : will you have a baby? Me : " didn't you say i was weak? Ask your son, he is strong i guess 💀 "
@loremipsum9802 жыл бұрын
As a girl with tomboy streaks, whenever people tell me to be "softer" cuz it's more "proper" for a girl to be that way, it just motivates me to behave even manlier and more aggressive lol Just to flip those people off without actually flipping them off.
@devashrijoshi90792 жыл бұрын
@@shakira7301 🤣
@Dandelion333F2 жыл бұрын
I am a lady and have been asked these uncomfortable questions often. I felt bad as I could visibly see how these young boys were becoming more and more uncomfortable and upset. You could see how they were shrinking into themselves. Now imagine all these women in the world experiencing this on a daily basis. I hope this reaches more people. I would love to see other channels remake this.
@purplekittigaming2 жыл бұрын
being asked if i'm pregnant because i feel sick. >_> i have a chronic illness that makes me nauseated all the time, but how convenient it would be if my femaleness would just make me totally immune to any kind of sickness like that. >.
@DimaRakesah2 жыл бұрын
Yes! I once had a headache at work and mentioned it in passing and a coworker asked me if I was pregnant. Particularly in my 20's people seemed to think anything was a sign I was pregnant and that they were entitled to ask me about it. Just stop!
@purplekittigaming2 жыл бұрын
@@DimaRakesah oof.
@LaRanaMordaz2 жыл бұрын
Same. Was sick at work for some time and folks kept asking me if I was pregnant. Worse, they didn't believe me when I said no, nevermind that it was just not possible at the time.
@purplekittigaming2 жыл бұрын
@@LaRanaMordaz oh that's so heartbreaking. i'm so sorry you had to go through that. ugh. i've had my share of intrusive questions/ assumptions about my ability/ willingness/ need to get pregnant and even how many children i was allowed to have. no questions from those people on whether or not i WANTED to have children. (i did, but that didn't make it right.)
@catgotmytongue2 жыл бұрын
"why are you so emotional?" "well... maybe because my mbti is enfp, so i can't help it" this guy is me fr
@Beomgyuu3122 жыл бұрын
at some point while watching this i went to myself "oh no, they're going to leave this place feeling so self conscious about themselves" ... as if I'm not faced with the same questions and more on the daily. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy yet its so normalized
@sophiafenger2 жыл бұрын
I had the same thought, but I didn't think about the fact that they probably will emotionally recover while we gotta normalize it 🙃
@insertunoroginalnamehere61892 жыл бұрын
Yeah I get the feeling that one guy is now a lil self conscious with his makeup :(
@ToniToniChopaaa Жыл бұрын
Wow really? These things are never said at my school it’s more like the lgbt kids are the bullies tbh
@alexandrabelloso21762 жыл бұрын
We stan the guy with the purple tie
@pjmoon2 жыл бұрын
The amount of times people asked me about my sexuality, just cause I like basketball or things they think that is too masculine for females. Honestly, I don't mind it at first, I actually just laughed it off. But, when people kept asking the same question again and again, it is kind of getting annoying. I also remember my grandpa told me he wish I was a boy. Because I can be a basketball player with my height(not even that tall anw 😩) I was like eh, basketball is not only for men. Wydm by that 😩
@Thequeenexx2 жыл бұрын
Imagine
@theshermantanker7043 Жыл бұрын
Good on you, I'm not sure if the kind of sport you play actually has a role in you getting these kinds of questions, interesting to think about
@0kayts4422 жыл бұрын
ok but I love the one with the purple tie- he was so respectful when answering all the questions, no matter how strange it seemed to him
@shahnoosh_2 жыл бұрын
What hurts the most is that I know at least 95% of girls/women (including me) watching this can relate to it and that's awful.
@xsugar-demonx2 жыл бұрын
"Cause I'm ENFP, I can't help it" Lmaooooo me too 😭
@iw8102 жыл бұрын
i'm not even a cis guy but if they just started asking me those questions without explaining what's going on i would start crying
@Isakiwiiii2 жыл бұрын
They are so respectful,😭. I would NEVER. If someone came to me and ask those exact same questions, I would've beat the shit out of them.
@cup1dwon2 жыл бұрын
I- chill.
@Isakiwiiii2 жыл бұрын
@@cup1dwon LMAO HFUDJHFIDS
@cup1dwon2 жыл бұрын
@@Isakiwiiii what?
@lian.tb122 жыл бұрын
@@cup1dwon how can you chill in that type of situation 😭
@Isakiwiiii2 жыл бұрын
THAT'S WHAT I AM SAYING
@ashleyjaff242 жыл бұрын
When he said you look sick without makeup I got so mad. I legit wonder why does no one ever say that to boys. Or look tired, or scary...like it's just a person's FACE! Especially when going to work and clients/patrons say things like this to you it's ludicrous
@knitted_sweater_near_fireplace2 жыл бұрын
My own mother keeps telling me I need to wear makeup to cover my impurities and it's so hurtful, because as you said no one is telling this to boys. I wanted to learn how to wear makeup because I wanted to look cute for myself. I remember putting on some of it and going out to the library to enjoy myself, and now I refuse to wear it, cause I feel like once I start I'll feel ugly without it.
@jessie4502 жыл бұрын
I think a big thing is men are allowed to age while women are not. Women are praised for looking young way more than men are.
@helvete_ingres47172 жыл бұрын
@@jessie450 lol women are 'allowed' to age; you just lose privilege of being regarded as a desirable sex object when you do and that's what you're complaining about. A young, white, conventionally attractive woman is the most privileged it gets (or pretty close anyway) - - but of course it doesn't last an entire life, yet women act like they're oppressed b/c their privilege has a sell-by date. The thing used to be that women would redefine themselves as a mother and head of a family and their life would be about that and not being a hot young girl or w/e. Now it's normalised to have women past 30 trying desperately to stay party-girls in denial of reality; it's sad
@Harkz0r2 жыл бұрын
@@helvete_ingres4717 To play devil's advocate, I can't help but wonder whether part of this is simply a case of subverted expectations as well. It's true that women are valued for youthful looks in terms of sexual attraction disproportionately to men, but there are a whole host of dichotomies and false comparisons in that arena. But if I think of it like this: as a child, I got a free pass for doing a lot of things children do, like playing around or being silly in public, and I was praised and treated positively for seemingly arbitrary reasons. Yet suddenly as I became older, I was lumbered with expectations, you should be doing this, you shouldn't be doing that, and I was less praised for doing things but rather criticised for not doing things. But from my perspective nothing changed. So when girls start developing and becoming attractive, I'm sure it's a novel yet not entirely unpleasant feeling when people, boys especially, start treating them more positively for essentially no reason save their developing secondary sex characteristics. And when this is so often reinforced it becomes the expected norm. So for it to suddenly disappear someday I'm sure there are some women who feel like the rug has been pulled from underneath them. Note for the ladies out there that I'm not trying to "mansplain" anything, merely speculating. Of course, I have seen a good measure of what you describe as well, and I do think it's sad. As _some_ women so often like to remind men, nobody is entitled to sex (or special treatment!) and this does extend to the so-called fairer sex as well. I don't think anyone, men or women, should feel pressured to have children if they don't want them, because that lingering dissatisfaction will surely cause problems for the child(ren) as well. But at the same time there does seem to be something of a cultural attack on the nuclear family and the erosion of traditional family values, which may seem to solve some long-standing issues in that area but also eradicates a whole lot of positives. I wonder what the structure of society will look like in another 50 years or so. I hope I manage to live long enough to see it play out.
@DragonMoth342 жыл бұрын
as a man, Makup is NOT necessary! Depends on a few factors. 9/10 I prefer a girl WITHOUT IT. I feel it is only acceptable for very important or formal gatherings, or if you just have some very unfortunate facial features you would rather not show in public. A couple freckles ADDS CHARACTER
@introvertedaz99632 жыл бұрын
0:35 slay king. That is the correct answer.
@mena19542 жыл бұрын
4:08 this boy was savage the whole video.
@winter30892 жыл бұрын
I get asked those questions alot (im a male) except the period part (since im a male lol) but yeah its actually very traumatizing for me since i still get asked these and not by random people my brothers and parents ask me those and the "is that how boys act?" i forgot what u said but something similar to that i actually hate that question so-so much because i was raised by my sister while she was 6 years old when i turned 1 years old shes the one that started caring for me etc because my dad was always at work or traveling and my mom never paid much attention to me so im feminine and i have female characteristics like alot so when i get asked that i really wanna cry because you werent there for me you never cared for me my sister who was 6 years old raised me cared for me etc till now and now im 15 and she still cares about me more then you do my dad gets mad at me and says why do you act like this? sit properly. thats not how men are supposed to act. sit like a man. why are you moving your hands like a girl? when i was a kid till now i have more female friends then male friends and these questions made me insecure about how i walk how i move how i speak even my own body its not funny to ask a girl or a guy these questions even out of curiosity and im an omniverted but im more introverted then extroverted so sometimes when people ask me these questions or argue with my i get into a mental shock and idk what to do and let them yell at me and listen to them because thats what my parents used to do to me and still do instead of raising me like their son and i was actually born gay like some yall might say "oh a person cant be born gay" false. Ever since i was a baby i never liked a girl i just had female role models and i looked up to them but never liked them but i always liked guys and when i turned 13 i became bisexual but still more interested in men and my parents are asian, west asian to be specific and you know asians are closed-minded people (most of them) so only my female cousin my female friends and school friends and sister know im bi and my parents always tell me "why do you do this are you gay?"and questions similar to that and my parents are muslim but my dad is more religious in islam but i am muslim too but yeah yk and my dad keeps telling me these stories about how gay people were punished by god etc and i get scared because thats not nice to say and especially this sentence "Gay people go to hell" like YOU ARE NOT GOD YOU WONT BE THE PERSON WHO TELLS ME WHERE ILL GO OR WHERE THEYLL GO SO DONT SAY THAT BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW LIKE GOD KNOWS MAYBE IN HEAVEN YOU MIGHT HAVE A GAY NEIGHBOR LIKE NO. DONT SAY THAT. But yeah sorry i just wanted to vent and my parents have my phone so i cannot vent to my therapist about this :) ty to the people who read this lol
@user-vq9lr6ss4z2 жыл бұрын
Hey I'm a lesbian and not accepted also by my parents. I'm from eastern Europe which is the most homophobic part of Europe, being gay is not allowed as part of the law in my country😔. I always explain to people I wish I was straight but I was born lesbian and I cant change that. I'm scared if my parents force me to marry a man one day when I'm older I will be sui*id*al. I'm so sorry about what you have been through, and I can relate to it a lot. Let's hope the world will become a better place in the future c': . Especially for us from countries where being gay is seen as really bad.
@user-vq9lr6ss4z2 жыл бұрын
I think gay people do go to heaven I'm also from a religious family and I have studied a lot about what the holy books say about gay people. I think the people who say we dont go to heaven are wrong. We can still be gay and religious , the people who say we are not allowed by god arent god, they cant speak for god. God created us this way and we are perfect as we are.
@winter30892 жыл бұрын
@@user-vq9lr6ss4z Agreed, lets hope that the laws change and so we (all) can live better lives ^^
@winter30892 жыл бұрын
@@user-vq9lr6ss4z So true 100%
@brianmburumaina38962 жыл бұрын
hey, i hope you know that there are people out there who love you! stay strong and keep being who you are ... have no regrets about it. hold onto the people who have supported you since childhood; they are your biggest allies. ❤
@wistfulrain23702 жыл бұрын
All of these young men are so thoughtful and intelligent. Very impressed with their answers and their responses upon learning the intent of the video. Their parents should be proud to have raised them so well!
@aniselinanishi66682 жыл бұрын
as a girl, i really appreciated this. thank you for bringing awareness to what us females go through throughout our lives
@trudy90532 жыл бұрын
2:58 i thought my phone died lmao
@madhumitha26ss2 жыл бұрын
"Are you a feminist?" Seriously, the word has lost its meaning and it's now being considered as a negative term. Anyone who wants gender equality.. not female superiority nor male superiority, Gender equality. IS a Feminist and supports Feminism! It doesn't matter if it's a Man or a Woman. So Boys don't have get uncomfortable, you could just state your opinion(Same for anyone). The way most of boys answered actually made me smile! 🙃
@witchdust89002 жыл бұрын
Yes well most people see it as a thing for women, and it kind of is because women are the ones who have been treated as less than since the beginning of history so it makes sense. If it's for gender equality, the ones who are arent being treated equal are the ones who agree with feminism.
@madhumitha26ss2 жыл бұрын
@@witchdust8900 Hmm.. Agreed. And it actually makes sense why most men don't agree with Feminism and make the other men who agree with it feel like it's something wrong.
@sylve24742 жыл бұрын
I'm sort of curious if the word also has the same or different connotations in korean, as I recall on a different one of their videos that people in the comments had been explaining that the word that was translated as something in English had different connotations to it and was closer to a different word in korean, so that may also factor into it as well
@oreradovanovi52042 жыл бұрын
That word has had negative connotations in all times and cultures
@witchdust89002 жыл бұрын
@@oreradovanovi5204 yeah its really sad how gender equality has turned into something negative all because men still want to remain surperior and cant handle the idea of equality because theyve been privelaged all their life and as a result of that view equality as oppression and take the word "feminism" as a negative/offensive term. (I understand the situation is different for Korea though)
@ChannelFiend2 жыл бұрын
Talk about feeling uncomfortable with these questions. Jeez! They all did a good job. 👍🏼
@hiii-i2 жыл бұрын
3:18 🥺 that’s so frickin sweet, and I mean it should be the bare minimum but like 🤩
@daijoubu49712 жыл бұрын
I normally don't feel offended by these qns but when they asked them to these guys their level of uneasiness made me realise how accustomed I have become to the stuff said in the video. I am legit so habituated to these qns that I have stopped feeling bad about them. Don't know how I am supposed to process this piece of info
@drippychoco30572 жыл бұрын
Same... haha
@theshermantanker7043 Жыл бұрын
Actually you're doing great, that means you have the ability to disregard insults towards you and remain confident to yourself, I applaud you for that and honestly wish I could do the same :) ~ A man who's probably going to hell, based on all the comments on this video
@astrolisa11692 жыл бұрын
2:52 hats off boy!! true being good looking and being in relationships is totally diff topics!
@gcm28782 жыл бұрын
This made me cry lmao, I never really put much thought in these questions when they are asked about me, it’s annoying and stupid but I didn’t think it actually bothered me, until I watch this video and all of those questions piled up in just a few short minutes, it gets intense, it’s like every single memory of me I being asked about my femininity or weight or appearance or emotions all floated to the surface and I realize how ugly these “minor annoyance” actually is and how much it can actually hurt.
@theshermantanker7043 Жыл бұрын
You're actually doing great, when this shit is thrown at you it means you can ignore it and carry on, that's a respectable mindset :)
@wheeinmakesmehappy88642 жыл бұрын
This boy was literally so nice and kind 2:01
@yunqb15192 жыл бұрын
The way none of them could reply to “Are you a feminist” because in korea feminism is treated like some type of crime, just look at those who burn items from female idols who showed support to feminism in any type of way be it even reading a simple book about it
@brennathecatlover43602 жыл бұрын
This describes how all kpop idols are treated they’re always expected to be polite but when they’re not like any normal human they’re labeled as rude and selfish. Males have to fit into the manly stereotype or else they’re gay and females have to fit the cute stereotype
@josefinasotes7962 жыл бұрын
3:13 with that answer, that boy must've melted at least a thousand girls, I'm on that list.
@IvoryIto142 жыл бұрын
"Why don't u have one? You're pretty attractive..?" "I am?" wow- I- I felt that bro I feel like that guy...like- even though he knew it was fake I feel like he took some of those questions real and his answers were genuine sadness/anxiety/insecureness
@isla_athena21802 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my personal experience living as a woman in our society! When I was 15 I became a victim of human trafficking! I spend two years (2016-17)of my life in hell! During those times I realised that no one will be there to help us when we're in trouble bcz that's how this world has turned into. I was forcefully taken to many places! At first I was kidnapped into a small village, on the outside this place may look so calm but on the inside it was a literal zoo! Everyone were behaving like animals! During the first two three days I somehow managed to get myself out from being chosen ! I was locked inside a shabby building with many other girls of different ages (and some boys as well I think those guys were turning them into trans)! The days I spend there, was literally the most tragic experience in my life! Bcz of my luck I was only chosen once and I somehow managed to break that mf's head!! But the consequence was harsh. A two or three men( I think it was two) came inside the room and they started to beat me up ! My ears and nose were bleeding and I think my back bone was cracked it was so painful but I didn't go to the hospital bcz there were no hospital duhh!! None of the girls dared to touch me! And I sat on the floor bcz I wanted to prove that they can't touch me! And yeah there was a lot of experience, I wanted to share it with y'all but it's a comment section so, I think I'm gonna stop here! From my experience I realised that , "In our society it's not easy to leave as a woman!"It took me three years to become the woman that I'm right now and yeah I'm not at all embarrassed or afraid to share my experience with y'all bcz, we need people to stand up for the crime against women, as well as men!! P.S.Loved your video !
@bakago47462 жыл бұрын
I hope you're doing better.. where did this takes place sounds horrible
@isla_athena21802 жыл бұрын
@@bakago4746 Except for my judgemental family and society I'm okay🥰. Last year I had a backbone surgery! Actually it was in Pakistan.
@luccissimp77582 жыл бұрын
Hope your surgery went well and you're better now. You're strong honestly and stunning too
@isla_athena21802 жыл бұрын
@@luccissimp7758 🥰
@isla_athena21802 жыл бұрын
@linalalisa Actually Human Trafficking is all over the world, not just in Pakistan, you don't have to feel bad about your country!If anything needs to be changed, it's us ,human beings! Thanks a lot for your kindness ❣️
@andedkoi2 жыл бұрын
2:46 who lied to this boy smh
@ritac93322 жыл бұрын
these boys are too humble and wholesome :( i'd like to try and ask those same questions to a a boy from where i am 💀
@misstaylor51042 жыл бұрын
I remember the first time some strange man +/- twice my age told me Id be prettier if I smiled more. I didn't know what to say, and Im a pretty talkative person. Then it just kept happening. Instant mood killer🤗
@nadeshkaholmes95112 жыл бұрын
This is such a great video. I remember one time my former boss had a bad day and was being an idiot. He got mad at my coworker for no reason at all, she literally just answered a question he had and he thought she said it with an attitude (she just stated a fact fr) so he freaking asked her (in front of the clients) why she answered like that and if she was on her period. I get so mad just remembering that. The whole office went silence. I wanted to freaking punch him. Luckly she and I got out of that job and now she has her own business and she's doing amazing.
@unionfire2 жыл бұрын
What unprofessional behaviour from your former boss, was he perhaps on his ''period''? Good for you and her leaving and finding success elsewhere!
@shakira73012 жыл бұрын
Looks like he was the one on his period lmao 💀
@DimaRakesah2 жыл бұрын
OMG I think I would have seen red if my boss did that!
@emelys96162 жыл бұрын
As a girl who heard all of this...... Please everyone (I don't care which gender) you're beautiful and you're a kind soul. Please never forget that your body is personalized just for you. Of cause everyone has something tjey wanna change, that's alright. As long as you're able to laugh, you're beautiful. No, I don't mean you have to laugh and smile all the time, that's impossible, cause life's tough. To those who don't think about the impact of their words: You're words are powerful. Think about them before using. We already lost too many people because of words. You don't wanna get hurt as well, so please don't hurt others thx. (btw most of the girls would talk to you, if you're nice and respectful)
@lex.ietyde2 жыл бұрын
:( this needs to be done more tbh. people need to know what women go through without overlooking
@danielleking2622 жыл бұрын
I really like this experiment. I think they should ask ALL males this, in ALL countries. See how it feels.