ASMR girl talk: Sexuality and Intimacy Q&A - Ep. 3

[@QuietKyASMR]

oh my girl! i am in awe of the way you create space, set loving & firm boundaries, speak with your whole heart, take care of us while also empowering us to tap into our own strength. i feel lucky to being on this earth at the same time as you. you are a gift 🤍

[@ASMRfleur]

🥹 ky……. I love you so much 💓💓💓

[@fisheye44i]

Ive always felt very uncomfortable and anxious around sex and intimacy but recently i discovered that i can in fact say no if i dont feel comfortable and just go at my own pace until it feels right to go all in lol. Im a guy and it feels like we're supossed be more forward and confident about intimacy kind of so ive felt really behind all my friends that are all having relationships and stuff when i just havent gotten there yet i guess, and havent found the right person that i feel comfortable with. Anyways, great video :)

[@JirenYLaFamilia]

Boy here! 👋 I’ve watched all three of these videos and I’ve learnt a huge amount, although your audience is mostly women I just want to say on behalf of your male audience, thank you for making this series! As a guy we barely hear about these kinda topics so it’s been really eye opening for me (and I imagine for the rest of the guys who watch these too). You’ve done a great job! 👍

[@dyroxau]

I agree man!

[@_Schwartz]

The majority of her fans are boys

[@-Dynamite]

Absolutely agreed. It's nice to hear about these topics from a woman, and especially because Fleur is very inclusive, understanding, and thoughtful.. just really helps give me a good perspective. Although a lot of times when watching I find myself wanting to respond, wanting to open a conversation so I can agree/share my thoughts, ask a question, and open up further discussion. But it doesn't feel quite right over a keyboard and comment section. So I guess those moments will be saved for some other time

[@sophieAutumnMay]

Hey Fleur!! As a (quite recently out) trans gal, these chats feel like a lovely opportunity to catch up on some of the girl things I missed as a teen. You've created such a warm and friendly environment here. Love these ❤

[@mila-lj7xx]

congrats on being out! ❤ wishing you all the best and love in the world girlie 💞

[@MyPieceOnThat]

Similar situation, I was thinking about commenting something like this😅 good to know there's others out there🏳️‍⚧️

[@blehblehbleh9685]

congrats on coming out snd welcome to the community!!!

[@Alina-sj9ou]

i wish you the best 🌸

[@Kaygottics]

So glad you are being yourself!! 💕

[@-rianna]

This topic means so much to me :( As someone who's had and continues to have a hard time with relationships and intimacy due to past trauma, there are times when it's hard to remind myself that I shouldn't feel ashamed about it, but these type of videos definitely ground me. It's so validating to hear other people talk about their experiences. Healing is definitely a long, tough journey, but the fact that we're all working towards it is something we should be really proud of :,) sending so much love to everyone here

[@potkettle]

That young women have someone as open and intelligent and willing to shatter taboos is wonderful to see. I wish there'd been a voice like this when I was your age.

[@jnicole510]

18:50 its absolutely okay to care about how your body looks in general, as long as it isnt for anyone else(which is often hard to do)

[@scary5455]

So altruism is bad, and selfishness and narcissism are good?

[@SamyasaSwi]

@@scary5455 You're really trying to put the most negative spin on her comment.

[@patlindau3755]

Hey just a question because i never really understood people saying something like "you should want to look good for yourself but nobody else". If i were the last human on earth I would definetly shave my hair of and only wear sports clothes because it is more convenient. I still have long hair and I like it because people (not only men, just society as a whole) find it attractive. I also find it attractive myself but only because I know that others like it. So my qustion is do you really care about your looks only for yourself? How do you even know if something looks good or bad without society? Also I dont think it is bad to want to look good for others, as long as it stays "healthy" i.e. a bad hair day is not the end of the world

[@jnicole510]

@patlindau3755 It's not BAD to want to look good for others, but your self-worth shouldn't rely on whether other people find you attractive or not. I suppose subconsciously you will always be thinking about how others think of you, how else would you have established your own perceptions of beauty? To answer your first question, I guess all you have to know whether you yourself find yourself beautiful is just... I guess, what you find beautiful in other people 🤷‍♀️

[@klaudiagawronska]

I think this girl talk series is so nice and sweet! I love how we’re growing comfortable with asking questions and pondering them❤️

[@Devon523]

So I don’t know anything about you or your background or who you you are, I just happened across your channel for the first time, and wanted to tell you that I think you answered these questions wonderfully . You are very thoughtful and insightful, sensitive and understanding, and just seemed like you have a really good grasp and outlook on this particular subject matter in general. You handled this delicate topic with such Grace and dignity and I’m very impressed by you! ❤

[@BubblegumStudiosOfficial]

I’m not a girl but I’m always down to learn about these things from different viewpoints, great video

[@yykiee]

i actually cried because of how cozy this video is. thank you so much for bringing this topic up

[@lizabdtg]

i’ve been waiting impatiently for this new girl talk episode, so happy for it to be out now ! thank you so much fleur to talk about this subject. this was so comforting and i’ll try to implement to my daily life your advice on reconnecting with our body. you’re serving, as always 🫶🏻 sending you lots of love.

[@FigburyWitchASMR]

You are what the ASMR community needs. Adore you, proud of you, think you’re the best ❤️

[@ASMRfleur]

Ily ily ily 💓

[@emmaleebelle]

i personally love this video and everything about it. i love how open you are about everything and how you discuss it. it’s very helpful as a future reference seeing as i am fairly young but sometimes feel certain pressures from some people. so thank you fleur 💗

[@SuvuIC]

this is the important sex ed talk I wish our education system arranged for us

[@emmawest3531]

you have literally one of the most beautiful vibes i’ve ever seen over social media 🥺

[@hannahrotter3737]

At this point I just have to thank you so much Fleur. You are one of the kindest persons. The way you talk its just...your words are full of love, respect, tolerance and kindness. Listening to you and your asmr feels like the warmest and softest blanket ever❤

[@kellynemecek5894]

I love the idea of ‘seducing yourself’ We deserve that self attention and love/care for ourselves too. To the question about one night stands- I had a one night stand once and from that experience I personally learned from it that I need a lot of emotional connection and trust to feel arousal/enjoy it. So I would encourage to go forward with your curiosities in a safe way and figure out what feels good to you. You’ll learn more about yourself and about what you like or don’t like which is cool.

[@scary5455]

Just pick somebody who'd be a good father and grandfather

[@camillereadss]

sounds like you could be demisexual! totally okay if you don’t want to label yourself but it might be interesting to look into ❤

[@-Dynamite]

I haven't had a one night stand, but I wonder if I would learn and benefit from it as you have. I'm a 23 year old male virgin, and I think there's two big reasons I haven't found a sexual partner yet. One is that I'm scared of regret, I don't want to have that experience with anyone that I don't fully admire and trust. Two is that like you, I also need an emotional connection to feel interested. It's an absolute must for me. I've had feelings in the past for women my age all the way up for 15 years older than me, and the one thing I find in common for all of them is that we shared an emotional connection through our friendship.All this being said, I do feel like I'm missing out on a crucial part of social connection and motivation by not putting myself out there for intimate relationships. I don't even know why I'm sharing this. I guess your comment just provoked some thought for me and I decided to write it out instead of just thinking it.

[@sopronunciareglignocchi7255]

That's not a real sexuality.

[@camillereadss]

@@sopronunciareglignocchi7255 it is medically proven to be real but ok

[@ninetyeightclub]

Weird question, I'm a male 25 years old, and my girlfriend teaches me a lot about feminism and caring about woman's rights. Maybe it will be a cool idea to start a boys & girls talk? talking about how we as men can help woman in their journey of accepting themselves for who they are, and making them feel more save and appreciated for who they are! Anyway, me and my girlfriend love your voice and content, puts us to sleep right away!

[@-Dynamite]

Cool to hear you and your GF enjoy ASMR together. I'm single at the moment but I wonder how my future girlfriend will react to my interest in ASMR lol. It's something I used to need every single night to fall asleep; These days I don't need it, but I enjoy listening to it. I had a crush on a girl about two years ago, and we were talking about life and the conversation drifted to the topic of sleep. I think she said something that made me think she listens to ASMR, so I asked about it. And sure enough, she did. She wasn't very deep into the niche though, so we didn't relate as hard as I'd hoped for. But it was funny and nice to open up about ASMR to someone who I was worried would judge me for it.

[@JaysonT1]

You need to run for the hills!

[@T.Sh-Youtube]

Sorry bro but its over for you already. It's simple to be proven. Just sorround your GF with a handsome guy and you'll see how she won't make those Feminist rules for him at all but giggles for everything he says Guess what ? You're the one who she is making rules 😂😂, brutally over for u lol

[@adachy]

YAPPING! i can’t tell if im not a romantic person in general or i just have a very niche type of personality, but everyone who’s expressed interest in me has been either weird or manipulative and every time it really makes me feel like i won’t be able to find someone who works with me. and what’s more is i think i have found people who would be good for me but they all found someone else by the time i realized. not to mention the consistent lack of romantic attraction that makes it nearly impossible to tell

[@ripxdoc]

don't mind me, just dropping a little algorithm comment while I listen 🤠

[@ASMRfleur]

Slay

[@sophieAutumnMay]

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[@anotherclassicent]

@@ASMRfleurignore him he only posts comments for attention/ publicity nothing to do with the algo

[@zeqqmka]

THAT’S SUCH A GREAT IDEA TO CREATE ASMR PODCAST

[@thegreatskinkpriest8104]

I am absolutely in love with your hair in this video

[@songoku5847]

I have to say blonde hair looks really good on you, that being said, good video, I liked hearing your thoughts on the matter.

[@nanaisloved2736]

Very interesting to hear about these topics 🤔I only recently am realizing how disconnected I am from all that stuff, I look at my body just performance or physique wise, as I'm very active in sports, but I'd feel so weird looking at myself in another way or anything 😅

[@dmhq-administration]

You look SUPER pretty today! 🥰🤗💖 Your new hair colour matches your skin tone and colour well!

[@bridgetwahlberg6747]

Totally off topic but your bangs are incredible, your whole haircut is so adorable

[@krystofsobotka3069]

Girl I wanna say, these videos are so cute!! I really love you for this and how real and vulnerable you're able to show yourself. Also, your hair is effin stellar

[@kaffesump2211]

your soft spoken voice is really really nice, you should definitely do more videos like this 💞💞

[@MmeAdmin]

@18:54, I love your response to this question about body insecurities

[@alexfarrell1027]

This was a very comforting video this topic has always been uncomfortable for me but this video has made me feel better I love girl talk thanks a lot for this video ❤️

[@robertgandalf6161]

What a nice video!! It’s a shame that ASMR and asmr content creators get sexualized so often. It has had such a profound change on my life personally, and yet there’s an asmr tab on some adult sites… either way I’m sorry to hear it happens to you too. Thanks for helping me sleep and sharing!! :)

[@jnicole510]

GIRL TALK!!!

[@anaiswriting]

little comment for the algorithm because your video is so important and your words are very careful

[@MmeAdmin]

Feel free to continue this series as you will. For I assume you want a certain mindset when you answer these questions.

[@freebird264]

As a guy who just randomly stumbled upon this video and decided to listen out of curiosity, I have to say I'm strongly against one-night-stands. They're so shallow and pointless, it can be fun but also super cheap, and you never know if the type of person you're taking home is actually a decent or honest person or not, and with some people you don't know that until it's too late. If you genuinely feel in the mood to sleep with somebody you've just met, have a bit of fun and flirt and tease, but suggest meeting up some other time so you can spend time one-on-one properly and get a good feel of someone over multiple occasions rather than jumping the gun on a first impression. Build trust, build safety, get an idea of who you're with, and the sex will feel so much better and intimate.

[@TheRealMikeReeves]

ive always felt guilty about touching myself because i never had these discussions with my parents when i was younger were discouraged. id also like to add that i believe its because self pleasure for men is not treated nor looked upon by society as the healthy self-exploratory practice as it is seen to be for women. things like no fap and all this i think are harmful. it’s natural and healthy for men to regularly release their seed and it can be done without p0rm and under the same pretences as you mentioned here. i will some nights take a nice long bath to relax my muscles before lighting some incense and laying in my nice crisp clean sheets tabs exploring my body. alone, free of judgement or performative anxiety so yeah. a really healthy practice for men and women. cheers for the video :)

[@Mrmazowskii]

Not recommended for sleeping Me 5 mins into the video : 😴😴😴😴

[@WalterNaveros]

New subscriber 😊 (pls talk about how women fall in love, body gestures, reactions, chemistry) thx

[@Blacklegshanks]

4:40 Most guys actually respect it if you are a virgin at that age cuz most women are not virgins anymore around that age and sexual purity is respected in religion as well. Since most people are religious, they should not have a problem with that

[@THYMOTHER719]

Not staying because I am a dude but I just wanted to say you look amazing with blonde hair

[@AngelFlores-bi5xw]

What a beautiful voice! New subscriber 😘

[@thomaswalsh289]

She spittin fr

[@r_r_r_r]

You’re the coolest, Fleur!

[@elbohne5636]

In the end it's always only bout the feelings of you AND of course your partner(s). As long as all of you are fine, nobody else has a right to judge. And there are no insecurities nobody likes. Maybe wait - if you want, and if not don't. 🤷🏼‍♂️

[@julieb5122]

Now that you're blonde, you look so much like Maïa Mitchell, it's uncanny 😍

[@juanfelipetiquegonzalez1154]

Loved this video, hopefully you could do it more often like once or twice a month, but yeah, I loved it

[@matthewforrest492]

You're such a beautiful soul

[@Fadzom]

4:40 Lmao BAD?!?! That's probably one of the greatest situations to be in 😭 Esp of you're waiting for the right person. The only guys that I know that dont like that are ones that care more about sex than the relationship

[@sofitaspace]

only 1:56, and i was already getting asleep

[@ASMRfleur]

Slay

[@miau_the_cat]

I like this concept of videos.

[@hayhaymaymay473]

hi fleur!! this is such a great video and your soft spoken voice is just 👏👏

[@nofuncity999]

Hey Fleur ik vind het heel goed advies wat je geeft Heel leuke video 👍🫶😉😁

[@kaylapinkerman4617]

It’s a scary time to be a woman honestly. If I wasn’t 73% asleep rn I’d share the story of the creepy guy that kinda followed me/was making creepy comments to me. Just know it was scary and I hightailed it to my car and locked the doors.

[@callie.the.egyptian]

lovely video!

[@elbohne5636]

I visited my personal physician. He couldn't remove my gravity. 😅

[@nofuncity999]

Hi Fleur you gave us very good advice Thanks really nice video 👍😉😁

[@camillereadss]

Hi Fleur! I would love to see how you film your videos on your Nikon, it would really help out small youtubers like me out, thanks :) ❤

[@ASMRfleur]

Noted!! 💓

[@jaydehy]

Hi fleur, i just started having sex and it’s been mildly painful… when he goes inside I don’t feel anything except pain in the area I estimate my ovaries to be. I would talk about this with him but I’ve been faking it for two months and I thought I would get over it sooner, but now I’m worried…

[@-Dynamite]

I'm not a doctor, but personally I'd recommend you stop having sex for the time being and talk to a trusted Gynecologist in your area about it. Again, I'm not a doctor but I've heard about a condition called Vaginismus that can make sex painful for women. From what I understand it is highly treatable. Even if that's not the condition you have, it sounds like you need to consult a doctor and get this taken care of! You deserve a sex life that isn't painful, prioritize the steps you need to take to get it. I also pray your boyfriend has the maturity and love to support you in this journey. Wishing you the best!

[@dedarcnaif5086]

I had my first sexual interactions (foreplay) at 13 with my first girlfriend, and since than i just had bj/hj from other girls/one boy but never been in a serious relationship after that one. I had my first time 2 years ago but since than NEVER DID IT AGAIN. I dont know if thats my problem or what but, maybe as a guy i should be more “pushy” of course not in a bad way but maybe to get to the SEX (i know its not just penetration) but idk pls help. BTW THANK U SO MUCH, Ur so rare to help people with specific questions and being able to let them feel welcomed and helped. There should be so many more people like u. Dankje veel, ik hou van jou from italy

[@GabrielMercer41]

Nice content,i wish i would have awesome content like yours

[@Crackyy]

i’m bisexual/sexually fluid. took me years to figure it out and be comfortable with it

[@MmeAdmin]

@14:08 for me, I dont like "whore" but at times, I can own being called a "slut". Thats just a personal limit which it feels good when I either praise someone or am praised for being a slut. Sometimes leaning into those stereotypes helps. Just do this with someone you trust to respect you (they make you feel on fire). That said, pretty much any name can be used in a demeaning/derogatory fashion. When this happens, that is hurtful and its valid to react as need be. Hopefully you surround yourself with people who respect your choices to be more open about your sensuality/sexuality. Building this support group up feels good (as you can talk more openly and not feel shamed for sharing your sensuality/sexuality).

[@scary5455]

Just Google "data studies research relationship between sexual history and marriage success" and research it. Men are encouraged to do something that hinders their life success, while women are shamed for it. So the double standard actually favours women. Men should be shamed for it as well. But what's more effective than shame is knowledge. They should teach this in school sex education. For instance, it's a fact that marriages where both people are virgins have the highest success rate, i.e. they stay together the longest and till death the most. It's also a fact people with 10 or more people in their history have the highest divorce rate.

[@MmeAdmin]

@@scary5455 so what lol (this isnt a question).

[@BenChanNYC]

@@scary5455 I agree that knowledge is better than shame, but staying together until death doesn't equal a "successful" partnership. It just means they didn't get divorced.

[@-Dynamite]

Interesting to hear about your personal limits with the name calling. My older sister is engaged and I've heard her Fiance call her some rude things like slut or whore "as a joke". I can only imagine it's worse behind closed doors. But I hope she establishes boundaries with him on it as you have. I don't feel the need to involve myself because she's a grown woman and doesn't really appreciate advice from me, her younger brother. But I pray she has set boundaries to protect herself.

[@thanos4570]

​@@scary5455no men want a woman who fucked by another dude

[@zr0724]

Target audience 👧 actual audience 👦

[@scary5455]

You look like Savannah Brown

[@mohamednoro]

I was gonna watch but u said girl talk :(

[@Moon-sk8hr]

I love you

[@artyomdubrovsky]

Good presentation

[@karalynn1210]

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[@liesbepje]

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[@fchbaby]

Hi hey hello

[@Nueva_cuenta_1.0]

🙂

[@ZackyASMR]

Hi 😊

[@christaylor4120]

You are Beautifulgorgeousityness x

[@shojicchi]

She is so cute(#^^#)❤

[@deneez_]

Ja slay

[@readingbythemoon]

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[@bradmagicspacex]

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[@maxbataglia]

Make a try on haul ASMR video please, will be fantastic for i and us.

[@hemmhumm5182]

Damn bro youre so beautiful

[@jnicole510]

Thinking about downloading instagram just so i can participate in these

[@federalinvestigation9962]

Instagram is bad for your mental health, many people delete it for good reason. I wouldnt download it if I were you. Not because so you dont participate, but because the downsides are bigger than the benefits

[@jnicole510]

@@federalinvestigation9962 yeah, that's why I deleted it in the first place. Also, I wasn't that interested in it

[@ThePathOfLeastResistanc]

@@federalinvestigation9962amen! I got rid of all socials except KZbin and I’m happier than I’ve been since the early 00s

[@oned4life717]

@@federalinvestigation9962yeah very true tbh