ASMR girl talk: All About Dating - Ep. 4

[@nanaisloved2736]

The current dating culture is really making things hard:( I've always been a romantic and don't like doing the physical stuff early, but dating apps are full of poly people in open relationships wanting casual fun etc, and the other ones I've met so far ghosted me or got disintetested after a few days of chatting. Which is extremely frustrating to me as I'm on the autism spectrum and holding up social contact takes lots of effort and courage to me and getting disappointed again and again leads me to just isolate complwtely. And finding someone irl is even more challenging because I don't have one of my roles prepared (like at work I know how people know me and how to behave accordingly) and appear very awkward and shy. I feel like there are so many things to manage with social stuff, especially dating, that it's too exhausting to keep up with

[@mocodalavanderia3507]

I'm in the exact spot lmao

[@jademills9095]

@@nanaisloved2736 honestly everything you said is so relatable to me it’s like we are living the same life It’s really hard and just know your not alone I see you and i hear you 🧩💕

[@kellynemecek5894]

I feel like with the culture today of dating I should just put out while dating instead of wanting to wait until I have a deep emotional connection 😭😭bc ppl are living life so fast and the same with dating

[@mauritsbol4806]

@@nanaisloved2736 "well, on that last part. You said it is hard to keep up what is expected of you". That caught my attention. There is some fashionable aspect with dating. You need it to impress others, but do you care about the latest fashion? Do you care about the latest dating fashion? Why? Why not? Personally, I don't do 'dating'. I'll just see whoever crosses my path. How about you. You don't have to follow *Da Rules* of dating. Play your own game. Finding a partner should be fun, not exhausting. What do you consider fun, interesting, intriguing, inspiring? What do you value in a partner. Go look there. Dating is like fashion. Some like to keep up with the latest trends. I can't be arsed. If that means I'm forever alone so be it. My bargaining power is that I'll either get someone good, or noone

[@Maggi9909]

ive just decided to be nice and talk to people as i would anyone else and if people really are interested or i am getting really good vibes i will politely ask, im over chasing after people

[@mr.bombastic413]

As a guy it always gets me that I’m expected to make the first move. I’ve never been approached before and it’s just getting exhausting. Like have I misjudged signs or missed some completely in some instances? I’ll never know. It’s comforting to know that not all people are like that though. Thank you for touching on that, gives me a little hope

[@jnicole510]

Its crazy how i can be so enlightened and entertained by a video and simultaneously calmed by it

[@veronika2104]

🦋 I love these girls talk videos so much, can't imagine a better way to end my day 🩷

[@madieleri]

Fleur , this video is so relaxing - because of your lovely voice AND your grounding perspectives!! you're so down to earth,, thanks for being you girly

[@ASMRfleur]

Thank you for allowing me this space :). lots of love 💕

[@teddyantoine4922]

I hope that everything with your channel is alright. I'm glad that you still post even though there are some problems. Keep up the good work and have a great time

[@Chuv777]

I believe the word you were looking for is reserved!

[@dmhq-administration]

Fleur, you're NOT "being rambly"! You're having a conversation! Everything you're saying makes sense! 🥰🤗💖

[@AggresarioX]

She's so wise, much wiser than her years. May her choices take her far in life, and keep her content and happy.

[@juliamcelroyart]

what a perfect thing to watch on a cozy sunday

[@lizabdtg]

🦋i am so happy you’re still doing this concept, I think it’s one of my favourite ones. I love the way you think, your perspectives always bring a lot to the table 💞 can’t watch the video yet cause I have to go to bed rn and I want to be fully awake during the video to not miss a single thing lol. still wanted to help with the algorithm though. Hope things are getting better with the report thingy 💞 Lots of love fleur 💞

[@jnicole510]

55:56 wtf ur so poetic and wise Fleur 😭😭 59:56 BRO

[@jnicole510]

You should do an episode on self care/mental health/self fulfillment 🫶

[@ASMRfleur]

That will be the next one then ✍️ 🫡

[@JaN-Pigeon]

I wish asking someone to go on a date wouldn't feel like pointing a weapon at them.

[@spomenkamarkov6797]

Such a smart and genuine girl! Love Fleur!

[@liv-xi8hl]

This is now my favourite video of yours omg love

[@andreea89-p2t]

I could listen to you talk about these things for hours 🦋

[@fatimahdez6368]

You’re so real, romance isn’t easy and the struggles that come with it aren’t any easier. I’ve been a 2 year relationship and it requires so much commitment and patience. I recommend anyone who wants to date is to know yourself before you bring someone else into your life. Know your boundaries, know your hobbies, know the small things about yourself. Don’t forget yourself!!

[@LeeSharpsound]

I almost can't handle the intensity of tingles from this video!

[@princesspuffypawzz6040]

AHHH babes wake up Fleur posted!! 💝💝🤭

[@jnicole510]

It took me a while to get to this video but i am BEYOND excited

[@AnvoGaming]

Thanks Fleur. A bunch of the things you discussed made me rethink some stuff and gave new perspective. Also very relaxing video :D

[@ricksanchez3875]

Thank you so much for this video. I really appreciate it and think it's hard to find someone like you with you're amazing outlook on life 😌💙

[@Killua_x_99]

Idk how to fake confidence If you look at me you can tell, I’m not confident. You can see I’m very shy and anxious. At least that’s what I’m thinking. (I have big social anxiety + overthinking, but those two things go together anyways lol)

[@disconnectedaccount422]

you have to do these podcast thingy a weekly thing😂😂😂♥️♥️♥️♥️ im listening you in an everything shower this is the level of trust i put into youu

[@justkiddingwithahmad999]

You speak so mature for your age. That's wonderful. Wish you the best in your life and relationships.❤

[@mbbm30304]

Hello Flour! I came here for simple asmir but heard so much wisdom. Beautiful thinking! Love the honesty and realness. ❤

[@raphi____6735]

1 hour video of fleur talking about dating is what I live for😌✨ cant forget 🦋

[@julia_or]

Lovely video ❤ I always enjoy listening to your girl talk episodes and find myself thinking about a lot of topics that don't often cross my mind, super helpful!!! It genuinely feels like a chill talk with a friend 🧡 Thank you Fleur 🌺 and goodbye hehe

[@alicestate2967]

New favourite channel

[@kreyatrice]

You are so wise and beautiful, Fleur, thank you so much for making this video ❤️❤️❤️

[@stephenharris3895]

At last someone who living in the real world makes more sence then anyone on KZbin

[@nihalkariyawasam]

Wow... Wife material pure woman. It's so hard to find girls like you ❤🎉

[@ElijahBerg0011]

Even though im not a girl i kind of enjoy this little insight into the female world. Its kind of crazy how similar we all are.

[@merryrodriguez1172]

I'm 21 I've been going out with people and dating and trying to get to know people more but it just never worked out There's always that lack of connection that I felt with people who I went out with Like I can't be fully me with them and if I can't be who I am then I rather stay alone My friends are either in long term relationships since high school or got recently into healthy ones and they're all soon going to be married And I feel like I'm the one who is left out I'm happy with my own company but sometimes I wish I could meet that someone special who doesn't play games and act like a Normal adult with a brain...... Thanks for the video it was so beautiful and helpful These videos feel like hanging out with my old friends so warm safe and magical Lots of love 💜💜💜

[@IL-nl9jn]

hey, i dont know if your friends are in the same age range as you and i hope they thrive in their relationships but 21 is still so young to have your romantic life “figured out” if there’s even such a thing. Connecting with people (in a romantic way, or not) takes vulnerability, time and a whole set of circumstances that are outside of our control. As long as you’re trying (which sometimes means getting out of your comfort zone) you will learn, about yourself and from others, i wish you the best ❤️

[@penultimateh766]

Honestly, nobody is fully themselves with someone they don't know well yet. You're on your best behavior and trying to make a good impression, and there's nothing wrong with that. You might just have higher standards than most of your friends.

[@merryrodriguez1172]

@@IL-nl9jn thank you for your sweet words🌸🌸 Most of them have been together since high school and are now 23 /22... The feeling of them moving around me through life and me being in the same position always sometimes scares me I'm happy with my life thankfully atleast I have no toxic people ruining it but I can't help that feeling of wanting to be wanted for who I'm sometimes

[@merryrodriguez1172]

@@penultimateh766 thank you for saying that 💜🌸

[@lefananda3786]

Great ASMR Voice, very sympathetic ❤. Stay as natural as you are🙏.

[@Corvin152]

Haven't even dated anyone proper in my 20 years of life, just hasn't worked out so far. Don't like dating apps even tho I tried them and haven't had any success either. But I've come to peace with the fact that it's not meant to be for now. Only discouraging fact is that my best friend for 17 years is getting married next year and I'm gonna be his man lol

[@perturbo4253]

Hi, I'm a 22 year old Korean male who has never had an 'official' 'labeled' relationship in their life. This video was very calming for me after I just had a violent situationship break up, and I really thank you for this whole video. It was a lot of help.

[@natalie2343]

🦋 excited to take my afternoon nap to this later!

[@charlessandgren8646]

Healthy, real communication is 🔑! We talk so much about each other, instead of with each other sometimes. You are a very solid person, loved hearing your thoughts and I agree so much. This made me feel better and hopeful about future connections.

[@hp_vnsq]

This is my favourite video of yours

[@alessiop2808]

I am terrible at talking and I prefer someone writing to me(at least at the beginning). Advice for who is bad at writing: don't... if you don't know what to say. It's better to start sharing a meme or a fact than asking "yo what's up?" "What u doing?"

[@alyssavb42]

If you haven’t already you should read the book ‘This Could Be Us’ by Kennedy Ryan. The characters refer to the book ‘all about love’ that you recommended ALOT

[@capucine6689]

Adorable human 💕

[@ry7hym]

I'm commenting before watching this. I'm a 22 y/o guy and want to watch / listen this in the future. Is there any chance I have any use to this video / learn anything?

[@MmeAdmin]

thank you for sharing!!

[@Killua_x_99]

1:01:34 we need a forehead kissing video 🫶🏼

[@VinnyTheRed]

Plz fr

[@JamesE.O.]

3 LTRs for me and lots of other flings… I don’t think authentic initial interactions exist outside of places with established social proof. It is impossible to maintain dignity as a man on the apps so unless you’re hyper passive and only wait for the one girl or two who is comfortable initiating or you have to play a numbers game being hyper opportunistic. The lack of positive feedback from women in talking phases is probably the biggest thing that makes it difficult. It is basically assumed that everything you do is a form of manipulation until you’re past the talking phase. I’m seeing a girl from the apps currently and she says that she doesn’t give compliments/feedback because she says that men take that as an invitation. I am respectful and I receive compliments from strangers and give lots. So for me it’s just normal. So I’m just having trouble getting a first date in the first place but then when I’m seeing them, I’m just not getting enough positivity from them to be encouraged to invest in the relationship. The amount of “rejection” I experience makes little to no sense. I don’t really see it as rejection anymore because I rarely see how I could have done something to turn the person off. Usually rejection for me comes in the form of agreeing on a plan then they don’t follow through and there isn’t communication in that period of time that would have caused them to change their mind. The reality is that I probably would have ended up rejecting these people if I had dated them but I never got the chance. So I don’t really understand the logic of rejecting someone you haven’t actually gone on a date with because on what basis are you making that decision other than vibes? How can you develop a slow burn relationship when you’re turned off by things you can’t even describe? The barrier to first dates in today’s society doesn’t make sense to me. Shouldn’t most rejection happen after the first date not before?

[@timhill1196]

Multiple things have made me realize this but im pretty over the search. I know that my life will be fuckin awesome with or without someone to share it with. So if it happens it happens but if it doesnt oh well. I feel like people put too much pressure on a dream life or what they want to have by X age. Im just gonna live life my way.

[@Asmr__Shin]

I wish I was as relaxing as you in my videos 🫂🤍

[@HermanWillems]

For me when i studied i just did not want a relationship. Because the most important thing was to get my diploma. I don't get why so many young people focus on dating. First build yourself then when you have something to offer go try to search then. Most people these days are super unstable. First become stable then date. Too many people try to solve their problems with relationships.

[@FBuilding]

It's one view, but you sound judgy ! Relationships are awesome, it's nice to learn young to make mistakes and kind of blow it (or not) to learn to be a better partner. Also it's fun to fuck and have sweet sex.

[@conor7422]

Thank you so much, I really needed to hear this. I feel like I’ve been so lost with my emotions and all I really wanted was for someone to give me answers. This gave me validation that I am worthy of love 🫶

[@ronaldonazario4276]

No subtitles 😔I understand most things, but subtitles always help

[@gtr6691]

I must say, that was interesting to listen to, even as a man.

[@terezachocholova342]

❤

[@Juanotubi]

🦋🦋🦋

[@jafarrih]

Wow you look like Bjork

[@leo_tp4728]

I acutally met my current girlfriend on a dating app. We have been together for 1 Year and 7 Months now and everything is going amazing and we now moved in together 🥰 for me meeting someone naturaly was difficult because just starting a convetsation with someone you never met is hard I live in a big city i come from a village and people are so rude here so that was also very new to me xd

[@ASMRfleur]

Ahhhhh I love that for you!!! Wishing you so much happiness and love

[@leo_tp4728]

@@ASMRfleurThank you so much☺️

[@alessiop2808]

Not only dating apps are the problem, Socials made us (at least for me...and I am younger than u) forget how to talk each other...covid didn't help too

[@Silly_Illidan]

So we just gonna ignore the troubled notification you gave a few days ago?

[@ASMRfleur]

still working on it but can't say much about it! Keeping people updated through my insta!

[@Silly_Illidan]

@@ASMRfleur good luck 👍

[@andresretan9759]

Hi Happy Monday

[@WRX3]

Dates voelen altijd zo... meh voor mij. Ergens zijn puur om elkaar te leren kennen 😖, de druk om op je best over te komen is vreselijk. En vrienden adviseren dan altijd om iets leuks te doen als eerste date, maar dan wordt ik eigenlijk alleen maar afgeleid door de activiteit. Met als gevolg dat ik verder niks weet over deze persoon. Tenzij iemand echt beroerd is kan ik er wel mee overweg gaan, met als gevolg dat ik het lastig vind om te bepalen of ik ze wel leuk vind. Hierdoor heb ik nooit echt zin in dates. En als je dan bepaald niet echt al te sociale hobbies hebt gebeurd het ook niet van zichzelf :/ Ramble ramble ramble... in ieder geval, het fenomeen van het ene moment geen relatie te hoeven hebben, en het andere moment gewoon een knuffel willen is bij mannen ook wel aanwezig 🙃

[@peppim9541]

🦋☆

[@ZackyYabes]

Hello there 😊

[@radii]

You kinda look like bjork

[@Aemothkas]

I wonder if gay men and women have the same sentiments as us

[@jonathanrascol]

flowers seed blossoms 🦁 as cute as red pandas 🦁 writing adds breaths-sums 🦁🦁🦁 JAR[RA] [壺 tsubo]

[@smcmyler]

🦋

[@MyCatsHeadBlewUp]

I don't date.

[@VinnyTheRed]

@@MyCatsHeadBlewUp then you must be enjoying yourself because it sucks in this dating market 😭

[@Quzga]

As a guy I don't think I will ever use any dating apps, it's just awful. I've had the best luck just making friends who share the same interests as me, I've realized I won't find the type of person for me on any dating apps

[@gabrielcoelho19]

I'm taking notes

[@michaelcastillo547]

25:49 I think its fine! ive been able to follow along easily and internalize ur advice and reevaluate!

[@yara_s27]

36:58 actually I would be really happy to be set up with someone from the beautiful community that you created here on your channel ❤ people here just feel so nice and cool just like Fleur!

[@trollof229antthevariable9]

Ur what i hoped emma's myspace would be. Lol

[@MmeAdmin]

@38:54, eeep. WTF these kind of boys lol **grabs claws**

[@saskialindenbergh9919]

🦋