How to Know You’re Marrying the Right One

[@athomewiththebeveres]

If you're married, how did you know they were "the one"? If you're not married, what questions do you have about finding "the one"?

[@ordb74]

What are your thoughts on faith levels in terms of one person being at a deeper level of maturity and involved with ministry and they meet someone that is a baby Christian. Not a good idea? Is it wrong to dismiss someone as a possibility because they’re not as far along in their Christian walk?

[@jujuxx03]

When did we know that it is THE time to ask ourselves "he is the one" ? And it is not too early and this will make us loose our peace

[@BunnyWatson-k1w]

Perhaps there is never "the one" but instead "the one in 1000" you could have married and been happy with. There could easily 1000 men a woman could be happy with and vice versa. I do see many Christian women have a long laundry list of requirements for a husband. These include physical and personality traits, the right type of Christian status, being a good provider ($150k plus), and others. These are very unrealistic given the options out there. Too many women are looking for "Mr. Right" when they should be looking for "Mr. Just Good Enough".

[@susanjaderberg690]

I knew my husband was the one very early on. I cant describe it. Just could not stop thinking about him. We have three kids togheter 19,13,6 years old. My husband is so caring, loving, kind and beautiful. He always make me feel safe. He protects, stand up for me. And all he wants is to make me happy. And I really am happy. He is the one for sure❤️

[@annahthegeminitalks7736]

What was the episode called about honoring your parents as an adult

[@moonriversteph]

When you’re submitted to the spirit of God, He will take the simple, the mundane, the everyday and make it miraculous. 🔥🔥 I felt that, thank you and God bless.

[@brendawolf1638]

I would love a whole episode featuring your love story! God bless you both! I enjoy listening to you!

[@lizpaulino8884]

Yeaasssssss all the details!!!!

[@tharynwilliams6253]

Yeah, bringing that back to memory nourishes the relationship in some way! 😀

[@agnesr.4664]

This gave me food for thought... I have been in a long distance relationship and when after six months things didn't really evolve, I decided to not have it anymore as I really believed, I didn't want to focus more on our relationship hope and expectation wise and we mutually agreed to do a huge step back to mere friendship. We're a couple of months in and the only thing I have is a word from God: Give him time. Struggled with it big time at first as I did not understand why things went so very different from what I expected it to be. People ask me how I am doing in the midst of the unknown. I always tell them, as long as I am walking in the Spirit, I am totally fine. That's the crazy thing about this whole situation. Not being bothered too much anymore in my mind trying to figure things out by myself as I did for so long in my life is an indicator that God is in there.

[@yuliannegesse6497]

This conversation wasn’t just intellectual this was spiritual! When she was speaking and was almost in tears I felt the Holy Spirit on me and was praying in my heavenly language😁 it was an edifying moment!

[@c3_victory]

I love the way he looks at her as she is pouring out her heart about what a Marriage submitted to God can bring to the world! ❤❤❤

[@michelledutoit5485]

I love how he so gentle leads her and brings her back on point. We have this perception Godly Leaders of the household have this macho attitude with a submit unto thine, but God has been showing me this in my own marriage. Some men lead with Grace and understanding and we do not realise it because we are looking for a certain type.

[@ChainBreakingGood]

Such a beautiful marriage you two have. You can tell you all are so in love and you can see that you carried that flirtyness into your marriage. It stills feels/looks so fresh! So beautiful you guys!

[@marleneholloway7775]

I wasn't even looking for anyone i was happy and content, he found me a divine connection

[@marleneholloway7775]

I'm 81,been a widow for over 20 years and now inlove. For the first time..

[@curiousintellect6874]

Wut? In love with Christ or u mean u have a partner

[@priscillachinsembu4669]

Wow really... That's beautiful ❤

[@RandomSkitts]

I didn't hear them say what 4 was but here are the topics 09:20 1. Do other trusted people in your life, do they see it. 23:30 2. Do you have peace? 28:13 3. Are you willing to lay down your life for that person? 02:42 Bonus: A commitment to growth

[@nhyiraob7]

Thank you!

[@peacedudes12]

4 was including the bonus at the start for commitment to growth

[@EbenezerN]

Thank you!

[@sallyzielke6703]

I am sharing this with my 13 children. Eight of them are married. My husband of 35 years died of Leukemia. Our keeping our wedding vows was the next best thing to our relationship with Jesus. I am still learning as a single mom now for 10 years.

[@nicolemanning6831]

Thank you for being open and an example of Christian marriage. In my late 40s now, divorced for over 10 yrs. This video has encouraged healing. I rarely throughout my life saw Christian couples to really have an idea of healthy submission to God & each other in marriage, vulnerability , respect & praying for each other. I believewhen I watch your videos that it is evident that you both spend time cultivating, growing not only spiritually as individuals but also as a couple. That your time together is not just for the videos. To me, that shows commitment, time, dedication. This has helped me to truly see beyond my experience & observation of marriage thus far, in a healthy way. Thank you

[@joewilson7631]

Thank you for your faithful words from your hearts. I am in a 19 year marriage. Whoever gets this message, Please pray for my wife.

[@kb-zs5my]

What you said about not focussing on the person you thought was meant to be spoke right to me ❤. This has been something really beating me down lately but thank you!! I’m not on the secondary path, God is still guiding me!!!

[@ladyviola3476]

I SO appreciate the point about keeping the questions simple in the early stages. I needed that desperately.

[@itscatebytheway3764]

I see a bit of Lisa in Julie . Like mom like daughter . God bless this wonderful family of God

[@Rachel-kx5nm]

I thought this! Addison really married a version of his mother

[@hannahhenderson7238]

“If you are doing all this evaluating, trying to gain the peace, that’s not how it’s going to come” As someone who is topically an over thinker, this was for me. Thank you guys!

[@milettemillington]

“Marriage is less about your happiness, and more about your holiness and your wholeness.” - Addison Bevere, referencing Gary Thomas’ book. “Wisdom is better than rubies; and all the things that may be desired are not to be compared to it.” -Proverbs chapter 8, verse 11 32:00 -37:00 ------“Whatever comes, we’ll face it. … We listened to what we believe came from God. …God, you’re going to be on the other side of this, and our relationship will be strengthened.” -Juli Bevere Such a wonderful episode! Thank you Addison and Juli! Amen! ✝️✝️✝️💯💯🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@MahoganyGlaze]

I’m realizing I did so much wrong when I got married… I missed so many red flags and I didn’t have anyone vet us! it makes perfect sense why I got divorced. It’s ok though because I’m learning now. Thank you Jesus that I’m learning now.

[@SheSharpNotFlat]

My heart is so full listening to you both. I’ve laughed and cried. This may be my favorite episode thus far. Not because of your wisdom but because of your testimony and transparency. It’s also beautiful to see what 16 years can look like. I’ve been married for 11 years. Although we’ve had our share of valleys, we’ve reached a point of laughter, fun, and partnership.

[@mistressmerry4]

Yes yes yes. Please take the time to tell your full story on the podcast of your dating and marriage!

[@sungyun1]

🥹 when you’re talking about your husband, calling things in your life at 35:45, that’s amazing. That really made me tear up. Yes, we can call out things in each other!

[@amygetz6711]

you guys are great! "Marriage is about saying yes to the one you are becoming / becoming the one" yess. Sharing in love -- Addison -- it could be me but towards the beginning I noticed what felt a tad like talking over Juli a couple times? I think about this stuff because I have ADHD and interrupt sometimes without realizing it! Juli during those moments-- it seemed like you had a tad bit more ready to bubble out. BUT THEN Juli your words from 32:00 - 37:00 were on fire, and it felt like you really got into a flow of sharing during the second half. There seemed to be a shift! Overall love the dialogue, thank you each so much for your wisdom!

[@elizabetharka]

I interrupt/ talk over ppl. my brother has to reprove me. I don't have ADHD. My mind is moving quickly /thinking and want to get my thoughts out. I'm learning to slow down especially now because I quit my job and have more peace-

[@jandalyndeone]

I love the posture you take on the realities of marriage because I am 50 years old and the Lord has been preparing me for marriage for 32 years. And all the fleshly scenarios that you discussed in the video I went through and I agree that you have to focus more on BECOMING the right one than looking for the one. That mindset is especially necessary in this age we are living in….

[@PrettyTasha-k8q]

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

[@Adakataba]

It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.

[@PrettyTasha-k8q]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Adakataba]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Adakataba]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@PrettyTasha-k8q]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@jj_vw]

Thank you for always praying at the end of your discussions... please never stop praying at the end of your videos!

[@Yahwehel]

I love Julie’s spunkiness 💕 she’s like fire 🔥 and Addison is cool like the ocean 😎 and together, steam ❤

[@Faithhopeandlove777]

Love how you both allowed Holy Spirit to lead and guide you in this podcast. Absolutely beautiful!

[@Alohe2024]

You both are doing a Great Job Addison & Juli Bevere ✊️💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@SusieBeiler]

Thank you for being a beacon and setting templates for the rest of us to succeed in marriage and relationships in general!

[@TheHopeSpark]

wow, this episode really spoke to me-speaking from someone who was married at 24, divorced a year later-there has been a cost and like mel gibson quote in the "Patriot" I have long feared that my sins would return to visit me, and the cost is more than I can bear (speaking of having a 14 year teenage girl that has been alienated from me) and now I find myself in a season of starting over as I am engaged and looking to be married Thanksgiving-God Willing!

[@Angelo20262]

Appreciate this so much! I’m married and it’s a joyful union. It’s good to remember these principles for our children. Thank you so much for sharing. Love you guys with godly love ❤

[@oceansdeeppodcast]

I have such gratitude for this podcast there is depth, truths rich in each one! It feels as if your listening to your wise aunt and uncle. It helps me not only put into practice things y'all have talked about but talking about it with friends. So good!

[@killthemwkindness9064]

I was married to the WRONG ONE for 25 yrs. He was a narcissistist; a liar, cheater & abuser. I've been divorced for over three years! I would ❤ to meet the one & right one; God has revealed to me His plan/purpose for my life in this area. I'm leaning & trusting God to fulfill His promises for my life ❤❤❤

[@usa2342]

Were you in love, when you were getting married to the wrong?

[@Chloe-if5bm]

@@usa2342yea. I hear people talking about how they were married to the wrong person often but i never hear about before they got married. If they weren’t the one why did they get married, what convinced them to married the ‘wrong’ person?

[@mchristr]

@@usa2342What does “in love” mean? Is it like a magic spell that suddenly and mysteriously falls on two people, and can just as mysteriously evaporate? Or is it something that we can actually influence, something within our control to feed or starve?

[@HeLives-4]

Thank you guys for sharing your wisdom with me. This puts a lot into perspective. I’m currently engaged and the enemy has been busy in our emotions & this helped me catch the enemy in his tracks. We both decided recently that there had to be more order in our life and more God because I felt we were doing the bare minimum. ❤ I thank God for the both of you. Praise God!

[@Hillcountrytxhuskies]

Love this conversation - the book is Sacred Search and a great one!

[@felyperez2647]

27:08 Being led by God's peace instead of analyzing trying to find peace.

[@NaturalWifeyandMamaBear]

Gary Thomas ‘Sacred Marriage’ I’ve been reading and wow, it’s been a HUGE blessing!! Lots of highlighting going on in that book 📖 👍 highly recommend!!!

[@afaithfulljourney]

Honestly, I love the small talk between you guys. Even in them, there are gems and nuggets. Don't mind the comment section.

[@sofiadelcielo]

I love the insights you all shared here, prophetic, wise, discerning, gracious. Thank you.

[@CROrsak]

Grateful for yalls testimony and example 🙏🏼. Praise God for this podcast

[@anikaderidder2437]

Incredible video. Learning so so much!

[@candicepoppylee]

Is it possible to unpack how marriage is hard, with some real examples? :) What realistic challenges should singles prepare themselves for? I totally resonate that singles tend to have the idea that getting married is the final point - the point where you suddenly level up into becoming the awesome person/relationshipper you want to be!

[@damarismihaela]

I am also interested in some real life, practical examples for marriage we singles NEED to mentally & practically PREPARE for. ☺️✨️

[@candyxoxo19]

I feel like singles who have romanticism towards marriage that is not based on reality are part of the problem of the divorce rate. Some People also stay married after getting married with only 3 months of knowing their partner. They have a lot of grit I guess.

[@MyMichellle]

Same!! Would love to hear more about that as well

[@AnaSui-l9b]

Indeed the divorce from reality as a single (esp christian) girl is real! For instance my boyfriend of 2 years, both 'good people' and serious about marriage, prayerful about the r/s with family who sensed tog with us that this was a God breathed r/s - revealed to me that though he loved me, he was sexually attracted to other types of women. He had been pleasing himself to thoughts of other women or fictional images for a many years, and seeking help (incl from pastors) left him frustrated and resigned to the fact that this was a "common guy struggle". It was not going to be easy for him to stop. He asked for my understanding. I, being a sheltered christian girly.., was left completely confused and feeling helpless. I don't think anyone I knew who was married, have ever spoken about such things.. and till this day do not know the answer / way forward with that.

[@candyxoxo19]

@@AnaSui-l9b The way you want to be gracious is admirable however choose not to date someone grappling with sexual addiction. This is a serious sin and he needs to focus on that instead of dating. It is not a common guy/girl struggle for disciples of Christ. Find someone who is not in the grips of addiction to date however, you can still be friends with guys struggling like that. Take care.

[@michelledutoit5485]

I love you guys together!!! Just to add my 2c on Family support: I dont fully agree with them being the one only if your family supports you. My husbands mother did not want him to be married (21) because he was suppose to go to college start working for the family and all his money go to only supporting them. When I entered it changed her plan. On my wedding night she hugged me and said I don’t want to have you here but call me mom. Sometimes if your parents are not god fearing christians they do not know how to speak to your life.

[@realchristian__podcast]

Julie that thing you said about the parents what’s so sobering !!! That was good

[@NatashaD-kv5fy]

Definitely want to hear more abt honoring parents but not giving into everything they say!

[@elodieachille3677]

The book is called the sacred search by Gary Thomas

[@rosemarychanga7680]

I am Rosemary from Tanzania.....I am blessed with your teachings....Stay blessed for the Glory of God

[@jskypark5975]

I wouldn’t understand 100% as English is not my mother language yet i think I am touched by your stories. Thank you❤

[@Fitinprayer]

Would love you all to host retreats for married couples!

[@awesomegermany9586]

Lol I was wondering before I clicked on this video if they would talk about marriage becoming and idol and I was right. I've been in this mindset for a long time and worried that if I searched for a wife or even if I wanted to marry really badly then It was an idol because so many Christains says its an idol. While I'm asking God to show me what is right, I was reading through the Bible and stumbled across 1 samuel. In the first chapter it talks about Hannah and how badly she wanted a son. This is one of my favorite chapters now because It taught me It was okay to cry out to God about what I desired instead of making me ashmed for wanting something. Especially if it's something that God has created to be good. Not only that but Colossians 3:5 says "Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your eartlhy nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Aside from worshipping statues and other Gods idolatry was defined right there. Espeacially since God created marriage to combat sexual immorality why would wanting marriage be bad. I think its less about idolizing and more about not trusting that God can make it happen. God loves his children and wants whats good for you. I'm not going to act like I'm so holy that I get rid of the desire that God has put in me. Wanting a spouse can be how God uses people as of now. God wants us to talk to him and because Hannah wanted a son so badly she cried out to God about her desires. And God loves seeing you go to him.

[@goremagala4826]

I actually do have the exact same thing which you just described. I also have the fear that my desire for marriage is so high that it could be an idol. PS: I see you are from Germany? If so, me too 😁.

[@awesomegermany9586]

@@goremagala4826 Germany is actually my last name 😁 Never been to Germany tho.

[@elizabetharka]

Thank you for sharing. I needed to hear this.

[@fivearrows3045]

@@awesomegermany9586😃

[@ChristinaLusia]

True , honestly is crucial

[@erikaenid]

Thank you so much 🙏 it is so important to marry someone who has the same values and who has fear of the lord. I did everything wrong in my marriages that’s so if God is not in the center it won’t work. Intimate friendship is more important first and boundaries. 🙏

[@brightpage1020]

Love ❤ what Mrs. Beaver says about control and guidance as parents.

[@AlyssaMacias-i8h]

I love yalls chattiness! I want a full episode of your guys story pleaaseeeeee!

[@user-mv2tg8hc8c]

It’s important to consider wise, prayerful, virtuous people in your life when making life decisions. It’s a part of the decision process not the only part of the decision. The decision will ultimately fall on us to make and we are responsible for it.

[@brightpage1020]

Wrong question!!!! Guarantee no mattwr who you marry times will come up whek you wonder of you made the wrong choice. Again - wrong question. The right questions is more like: how can I cope and what do I focus on when times come that I want to run? How can I develop parts of my soul so strong that it doesn't matter who I marry, because my relationship with God is strengthened by challenge rather than diminished by it. You'll feel a sense of peace. Of calm. Not of questioning. Your integrirty will grow in and around this relationship opportunities to experience or correct that will present themselves. If difficulty diminishes you - married or not - then a partner won't change that. You with God can change that.

[@sheabutlermedia]

amen. we take who we are into relationships.

[@dangdalandan8040]

This blessed me so much! Praise God! Thank you!

[@sofiadelcielo]

Thanks for this!!

[@SaloméSonwane]

Love the chit chat as well! Its refreshing to see a beautiful friendship! ❤

[@alicewithdimples]

This was so refreshing 😅❤ I love and agree with all you shared. It’s true that commitment to growth is a key thing. Being in a happy relationship requires an ongoing effort and I am so glad I have subscribed to your channel ❤

[@SKimilku]

I love reading the Love and Respect book and old podcast by Dr. and pastor Emerson Eggerichs to learn how to navigate marriage obstacles as well.

[@BunnyWatson-k1w]

My sister went to a marriage seminar years ago. The instructor said too many people place an emphasis on "the one". He said that is a myth. You could go to "Christian Shopping Mall" on a Saturday with all the customers being single Christians. There would be at least 100 worthy men for each woman who would make good husbands. However most women would pass over those 100 men for various superficial reasons despite their potential as a good future husband. Then he went through a lot of the myths of a Christian marriage that women buy into.

[@JasmineMiranda]

Wow i loved this so much!! In a way it healed my relationship with God. Thank you so much 🩷

[@ShineYourLightAlways]

Super powerful 🙏🏽❤️🔥 Praise God!

[@mitc199]

Thank you for your prayer julie!

[@ems2110]

So blessed, so much wisdom🔥

[@elizabeth.ssandor]

Amazing episode! Wow, Julia - you are so wonderful! Be blessed guys!

[@a_j7496]

So beautiful said ! Thank you so much 🥹 Love from Paris 😉🇫🇷

[@lynmclaren3569]

Love your chit chat ! Soo real!

[@BunnyWatson-k1w]

At 3:00. Men and women need to prepare themselves to become the one another wanted to marry. This involves career, education, physical, and financial components. When they do this there will be a day when they do meet that person and be prepared for marriage.

[@brightpage1020]

Whoaaahow! Opening with Sacred Marriage. What an amazing idea! Thank you for the suggestion!! ❤ 🎉

[@blewandthecrew]

Such a blessing. Thank you!!

[@jennyc5100]

Thank you!! ❤

[@TheLivingBreadofLife]

Some of this information is also good for any relationship in general!!! thank you

[@plant-basedpuertorican7272]

Get to it sooner please

[@hallievonkaenel738]

Beautiful couple

[@elizabethsydnor5247]

It's always married people who say we dont need to be married or we should be perfectly fine with staying single.

[@usa2342]

I heard from many happy couples, "you'll meet the one, some day!" Yours married people most likely unhappy in marriage if they advise you to avoid marriage.

[@Doc_Balogun]

Thank you so much for this conversation 🥹

[@LexLaw-z7y]

The content was soo good. Thank you!!❤

[@realchristian__podcast]

Preach Addison !!!

[@BunnyWatson-k1w]

At a young adults conference (ages 18-30) some years ago the Leader giving the talk was asked about should the Holy Ghost tell you who to marry once you meet the person. His response was surprising. He said don't rely on God to tell you what the answer is. You may not get a life shattering "Yes!" from the Holy Ghost. Instead he looked to a talk from a now deceased leader from the 1970s. He said it had never occurred to him to ask God who to marry. Instead he relied on his experience and knowledge. He wanted a Christian woman who loved the Lord. He wanted a person who make a good wife and mother to his children. He finally found that woman and married her. I have met women who thought they had the Holy Ghost tell her to marry the man and it ended in divorce. Perhaps it was never the Holy Ghost but instead an ideal that she wanted to be right since she was in love.

[@esthercave8111]

If you marry as a born again Christian. Unless adultery happens theres no way out if you are very unhappy. You must stick it out, trusting in God to help both parties grow. I think divorce in the church is the same as the world now. This was unheard of years ago.

[@tsionteklu1645]

So timely

[@vennelyst1920]

Thank you so very much for this episod. It made my day. ❤

[@periskamau6067]

thank you so much

[@SKimilku]

Great topic!

[@WholeHeartily]

I don’t think I’ve ever dated well. At my age, it’s hard. I’m not some Bible college freshie. I have a past. My family is complicated… I like to hope there’s a “one” for me, but so often I get discouraged and just go back to relationships/patterns I know because I don’t want to be alone.

[@fivearrows3045]

What you really need is to hunger for a real relationship with Jesus Christ’s . The other thing will come in the right ( God’s) time.

[@BunnyWatson-k1w]

There are maybe 1000 "the ones". It is what you do after marriage that is also important to having a happy marriage.

[@user-ie8sk6sb3f]

Thank you!!!

[@TeresaDeM]

❤️ thank you

[@laurencarmichael2231]

I received that prayer in full. Amen ❤

[@AgapeLuv4Life]

I feel like all I ever hear about marriage from Christians is how you should never romanticise marriage and how it's actually so hard. As a single woman i've found it really difficult to find the beauty in marriage and to watch this lady share the beautiful side to marriage was so refreshing and touched my heart. I wish I could find a video talking about only the beautiful side to marriage. I really have a hunger for that

[@priscillachinsembu4669]

Hi am single too.... I think they try avoiding us BASING our relationship on romance which is usually the nice part of relationships... They want us focusing on the solid stuff and make sure that we build on stuff that lasts.... Romance can diminish and it won't always be lovey dovey so in those moments it may feel the relationship ain't worth it anymore🤷🏿‍♀️

[@janmondragon444]

I loved this podcast. I am curious where they are from though because I heard a heavy southern accent.

[@carmin9550]

God has definitely been showing me I idolized marriage. But He is definitely breaking me from that. I’m so happy in Jesus name. I can be happy with Just Him and Him alone. I don’t need anyone or anything else to make me happy. But I do rebuke negative concepts I’ve heard of marriage too bc I don’t want that to be a reason why I have this feeling. But I really feel like He is helping me a lot.

[@felyperez2647]

20:47 Stages of parenting.

[@MrsCelinaDelacruz]

32:22 yes ! 😭😮‍💨 year 8 here and we have a toddler and infant in this season!

[@karenrehm9423]

Thank you

[@fleur9880]

At the opening the comment about people idolising marriage... I find this notion problematic, and I dont know where Christian leaders are getting it from. First its very insensitive for married people to tell a mostly unmarried audience that the yearning they have to be married is idolatry. Some are even advising us to ' love God more' . When I look at Adam in the garden, this is the first marriage and God while in communion with Adam says that it is not good for him to be alone , that He will send him a helper. So its possible to be in Gods presence and be lonely and need a helper and companion. But every other Christian podcast you turn to for comfort during your waiting time starts with invalidating your Godly desire to be married and have children as idolatry.

[@obehiivie637]

I do not think they invalidated the desire for marriage in any way. Mr Bevere here even goes ahead shortly after that to say that he thinks marriage is pretty awesome, and Mrs Bevere in the end praying for those who are single and trying to find their person that GOD makes that connection for them, I mean, us. I think what they meant there was those who either put their lives on a halt until marriage, or hinge all their happiness and fulfilment in life or their hope of a good life to marriage. And that also is not Biblical, and there seems to be some of that going on in some. I don't think they were calling out those who have a healthy desire for marriage. Let's also consider that the Bible also makes it clear that not all would be married. Jesus says that some were born eunuchs, and some made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom and some were made so by men. So, if all of the success of one's life on earth depends on marriage, then em ... Also, some of the greatest in the Bible were not married - Jesus, John the baptist and apostle Paul, and they really nailed it in terms of living a full life of doing the will of GOD on the earth. I believe that the Beveres here brought a full perspective to the subject, and I pray that if you've listened to others who have spoken inappropriately about the desire for marriage, that you forgive them. Perhaps they were speaking from the pain of seeing a lot of disfunction play out. I pray that you hear exactly and only what the LORD intended you to in this video. Amen! May GOD give us the best spouses for us, and make us the best spouses for our spouses, and help our marriage to become only and all that He had in mind, to the praise of His name and the profit of His kingdom. Amen!

[@elbertrobles8784]

Exodus 20:3 KJV "Thou shalt have no other gods before me." Idolatry, at the most basic level, is putting something before God. Whatever that something is, you will know it becomes an idol when the state of your heart is affected by it... Jeremiah 17:9-10 KJV "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? I the Lord search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings." If your heart is right with God(Proverbs 27:19), then you will experience the fruits of the Holy Spirit which includes love, joy, and peace(Galatians 5:22-23). But if your heart worships something before God, then you will experience the fruits of an evil spirit(1 Samuel 16:14) because rebellion to God's statutes is witchcraft(1 Samuel 15:23). So basically, if you're not content with being single(Hebrews 13:5), and you're experiencing depression or anxiety because of it, then God is chastising you(Proverbs 3:11-12). We are commanded to rejoice always(1 Thessalonians 5:16), even if God doesn't give us the desires of our heart(1 Timothy 6:6-8). By the way, I'm saying this as a single man who's praying that the Lord would bless me with a godly wife(Proverbs 18:22); nevertheless, not my will, but his will be done(Luke 22:42). Colossians 3:5-6 KJV "Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience:"

[@fleur9880]

@@elbertrobles8784 Maan I even read all the verses you have put here, none is talking about the desire of a Godly marriage. Sexual immorality lust etc those are sinful desires of the flesh they are in no way related to a godly marriage. I will just outline one example I feel you are taking out of context( all the rest are out of context, anyway) Hebrews 13:4-6 NIV [4] Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. [5] Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” [6] So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?” I dont see where a desire for a godly marriage here is idolatry. Verse 5 says keep the marriage bed pure, before proceeding to call the love of money idolatry. Lemme ask was Hannahs desire for a child idolatry? Coz she prayed till she appeared as if drunk, and the Lord gave her desire.And Paul says in 1 Cor 7 that even if a person would get to the point of burning with passion they should marry, interestingly he does not call this out as idolatry ( not to say that people should be burning with passion out here, we have self control) 1 Corinthians 7:7-9 NIV [7] I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. [8] Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. [9] But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. Please help me understand brother and quote scriptures in context

[@elbertrobles8784]

@fleur9880 Hebrews 13:5 KJV "Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee." I referenced Hebrews 13:5 regarding the King James Version because it talks about covetousness. Coveting is a sin because it's the same thing as lust, which is why I referenced Colossians 3:5-6... Romans 7:7 KJV "What shall we say then? Is the law sin? God forbid. Nay, I had not known sin, but by the law: for I had not known lust, except the law had said, Thou shalt not covet." If you're lusting after the things of the world, then you are an enemy of God because you're committing adultery against the Lord Jesus Christ(James 4:1-4). As it relates to Hannah. She was sad because Satan kept provoking her infertility. Which God allows because he gives Satan permission to test his children(Job 1:6-12). However, God answered Hannah's prayer only after she vowed/gave that desire to God(1 Samuel 1:11). It's the same thing with us because the Lord will never change(Malachi 3:6). First, you must delight yourself in the Lord, and then he will give you the desires of your heart(Psalm 37:4).

[@fleur9880]

@@elbertrobles8784 Edit Hebrews 13:5 I looked at as many versions as I could get most translate the covetousness as ' love of money' . This said AMPC includes lust as well so maybe lust could come in there That said I still dont get it ( or how it applies here) because the desire of a Godly marriage is not lust, neither is it ' the things of this world', marriage is from God is not outside of him . I am talking about a Godly marriage , so again the context of what you are quoting is wrong. And nowhere does it say that Hannah before making a vow to God had a desire for children outside of Gods will. In short what I am saying is if you want something, within the confines of Gods will for you, it cannot be termed as idolatry. Hannah wanted a child in a godly way, Rachel wanted a child in an ungodly way when she said give me children or I die. So the problem is not wanting the child / the marriage its is the how you want it, and if you want a GODLY MARRIAGE it cannot be equated to idolatry

[@jaynebarrow5126]

I’m tired of hearing about idolizing marriage. Marriage is a gift created by God- it’s a beautiful thing to desire and seek out. I think it’s actually rare that someone who desires marriage is “idolizing” it. I’ve heard this so often and I felt guilty for even wanting to be married- are we supposed to suppress the desire ? I believe marriage is a high calling and most people are called to it. I wish more Christians would encourage marriage.

[@malochy2473]

The idea of idealizing a marriage is extremely important in today’s culture. Putting your spouse into a position within the marriage that makes it impossible to communicate with each other because one of them is afraid of rocking the boat. It has to do with trust issues.

[@jaynebarrow5126]

@@malochy2473 I’m not talking about “idealizing” a marriage. I’m talking about idolizing marriage as someone who isn’t married- there’s been so much said about “be careful to not idolize marriage” .. as if wanting or desiring it is dangerous because you may make an idol out of it. Can that happen, yes I think people can make idols out of anything. But I think it’s rare that a Christian desiring marriage is actually idolizing it. I think it’s a healthy desire and should be pursued.

[@nhyiraob7]

an “idol” is an object of extreme devotion. In my opinion, one that is held in higher esteem than God. So I just think if you hold marriage in higher esteem than the God who created marriage that’s when it goes over being a desire to being idolized

[@jaynebarrow5126]

@@nhyiraob7yes I agree. I think that’s a matter of reflection and prayer to keep one’s desires in balance.