Debunking Three Marriage Myths | Episode 21

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

You can tell that they both desired to really honor God by being cautious with the other person’s heart.

[@isabellestasiumainardes1905]

I'm literally crying here! What Maddy said about Rebecca's story is answer to my prayers and fasting 😭😭 God really bless my life through your guys in every episode.

[@airplane800]

Some people think that there is a difference between Christian dating and other people dating but the reality is that is pretty much the same. People feel attracted to someone most of the time because of the look. Then you invent the person in your mind and see only what you want to see. I watched a TV series called " Two and a half men" and I realized that was the perfect representation how things were in my church. The handsome jerks had all the attention, and many good, honest, Christian men didn't have a chance. James Dobson said once that only 20% of Christians in church were marrying for the right reasons. Many girls marry the handsome jerks in church and then need to spend many hours of conferences, books, etc... trying to fix something that started wrong from the beginning.

[@GG-wi2ij]

Even though you process through dating, getting into marriage always brings deep things to the surface that no one knew... usually about yourself. The wisest thing my husband told me before we married was that marriage wasn't to find sole happiness, but for God to use to refine us and make us more like Christ as we learn to walk out love with each other... one of the single most difficult things we can do in our lives. And even though I understood him intellectually, and he understood it intellectually, once married, real life exposes what's really inside us and then it gets really ugly. If you stick it out and allow it to purge you, that's gold! But it's truly so hard... my once perceived strong faith is being put through the ringer... and so many mistakes, so much failure and hurt...it can happen that way even if you don't intend. But to stay the course, is to reap the irreplaceable reward. Sometimes we have to be broken down so much from our prideful ideological view of ourselves and our faith which is so prevalent coming from a "strong Christian" stand as a young person. Marriage is one of God's greatest gifts, not only for flowers and sunshine, but for storms and trials that bring about more christ likeness, IF we allow.

[@montymonique5317]

You said this very well. Wisdom at its best. Marriage makes you holy, more like Christ

[@sarahd1706]

It’s incredible to think of how many couples have gone through this throughout all of time. It’s doable because it’s part of God’s plan.

[@ItsNicoleAnderson]

I’m absolutely terrified of this

[@mirtadumancic3956]

I think more single people within Christian culture need to hear this message and get the pressure off from needing to get things perfectly in dating and relationships. 🙌🏻😊 It almost feels like this is a measure of how close you are to God or a thing to shame people with in case they fail. Thanks guys!

[@myengles1861]

THIS

[@rachelknowlman9643]

Thank you SO MUCH for this. I am 2 weeks away from marriage. Comparing myself to divorced christians, thinking I don''t have the guts to stay with someone for life, and looking for perfection, when that doesn't exist. This was unbelievably helpful. Thanks.

[@myjoyella8574]

"Perfection is the enemy of progress". This is me right now. And it stops being me by the end of the day in Jesus name! Thank you for this guys. And thank you Addison for your book too, I have it and I can't wait to learn from it. Amen on all that was said on this podcast.

[@elizabethpeterson3180]

Dating over here and this really encouraged me -sooooo many singles in the church need to hear Madi & Alec’s story!! Thank y’all for sharing

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

Yes. I didn’t know Alec was previously engaged. This is such a good episode

[@imarisa7]

Beveres, thank you so much for doing this podcast! In this season of my life, when I’m spending days and weeks by myself, you guys have become “my people”, making me company and enriching my walk with our Lord and Savior. Thank you for being honest, biblical, and Spirit-filled! Hugs and prayers from the Middle East to y’all.

[@BreyonnaLowery]

I really enjoy this so much! I am a single woman but long to have a teachable heart and grow. Sometimes I hesitate to watch the videos because I am tempted to get defensive. But I am learning to press into that and open my ears to hear. And every time I have pressed through that the Lord has blessed me so much. Thank you for challenging me and helping me walk with the Lord.

[@ShanaAlbarran]

What an incredible family! I know it was not easy hearing so many of your family stories however, but God really shines through each and every one of you. Thank you for your vulnerability and having the tough conversations that’s so many need to hear, including myself. God bless you all!

[@audrey.m.w.v]

I just want to say that this episode was amazing. You should have your new sister in law on the podcast more often! Keep coming back to this episode to hear their story.

[@AllaKovch]

I love seeing Alec and Maddy! God has wonderful things for them!

[@sarahd1706]

I just watched a video where he said what he was looking for in a wife. How beautiful to see he found her. If I remember correctly: adventurous, honest/ helping him be better, strong relationship with God that she would go to God if things were struggling in their relationship….

[@juvang742]

This episode is impacting me during this season to choose the right one when I have become the right one and to fix my heart posture back to Jesus.

[@emily_sarah]

This podcast has been such a blessing! Love how real y’all are and the humor cracks me up 🤣

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Thank you for watching and your support! ❤️

[@wanjikuwambui7529]

This has been so great .. and timely for me because this has been my story with my fiancé we getting married in Dec , and it has not been butterflies all through … but you can sense God through it all, sometimes thinking it’s red flag am learning it’s a green flag … extending a lot of grace coz we both finding ourselves.. and refusing to share with people who are only for us as individuals, realizing people can be toxic too … with their advices , so choosing people who are for us both … that has been great wisdom ,,,,

[@delriebooysen]

Thanks so much for the conversation you are having. It amazes me how so many of us have the same expectations and perspective, yet it is not reality. Keep shining the light on the truth.

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Thank you for watching and your support! ❤️

[@eternitysafro1083]

Y’all are a God send and this is my favorite Christian podcast, from your parents to the kids & your spouses. Wow, so good. I was going through struggling with perfection in my walk with Christ and I recently stumbled with lust with my “boyfriend” by sexting/flirting too much (we’re courting/waiting until marriage). I am more concerned with getting closer to God, however he is content not really growing a lot in Christ & just wants to follow the “basics” of the Bible. How can I leave him & give up him while I was sinning too? I am not perfect, in actuality we are similar than I thought we weren’t & we are basically on the same path walking together. However, he did tell me he does wants to pray more and get closer. Basically we want to raise our future kids up in the Lord, and I know if God wants us to be together-which I believe because everything has been intentional this time for both of us that we will BOTH grow together in Christ. Instead of wanting him to be perfect with no mistake & then me too, I need to say we will make mistakes and forgive myself, and try to be with God even more. So, I will just pray for us, and stay with him because ultimately we are trying & have set boundaries to not be lustful towards each other & respect each other as God’s children. I KNEW I could find a video on your channel that would be this good for me, thank you guys again!🤍

[@marieeva7418]

So living the same situation ❤ Amen to this! God bless you!

[@bobthompson5059]

👍👍👍 Thanks to the Holy Spirit and Maddy for directing us to Isaac's and Rebecca's story of hauling water and wondering!!! God's Word is so incredible!!! 🙌 🙌 🙌

[@emmakoeman5565]

Wow thank you so much for sharing. And being so honest.So good to hear about to get the pressure off and relax and trust God. Nowadays we need this… young and older. Again thank you ! Blessings

[@sannymilk]

Thank you all for sharing your stories, I too identify with Maddy in terms of relationship experience, and Alec's comment about single people being somehow viewed as less than married people is still a thing I'm feeling, even though I'm trying not to convict myself on top of society or even the church's messaging. You have all reminded me that what's most impt is to let God's will and plan be done on me, and whether it leads to marriage (I hope!) or not, I'm to trust Him ❤ God bless you all and everyone watching! 😊

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Thank you for watching! Grateful that God used this conversation to speak to you. ❤️

[@ckks0nyoutube]

Marty is soooooooo beauuuurrrriiiiifffffuuuuuullllll Congratulations Alec! All the best to you and Marty

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Thank you for watching and your support! ❤️

[@nadiaumwali7169]

Patiently waiting for part 2 😊

[@justlovejesus1]

Thank you for this message. It was definitely something we needed to hear. The story of the guests are very similar to our own experiences. God sure used your story of failure and success to help others to learn from their mistakes.

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Thank you for watching! Grateful that God used this conversation to speak to you. ❤️

[@AndreaChabanChristianLifeStyle]

I am so grateful that you are being so honest & real about these topics 🧡 this is what truly helps others in their journeys. You really just greatly encouraged me - thank you ❗️

[@EternityNMind]

This is so good only at 26 minutes so far! So authentic my goodness thank you all! God bless this ministry🙏🏾!!

[@leeannsmith_]

WOW! This was such a Godsend! Everything said in this video related to my life one way or another and I loved the way youn guys explained things and your perspective on things! Just wow! Also, Alec's wife is sosososo stunning, she has the prettiest eyes and smile!

[@evansclaudia933]

Thanks for sitting around the kitchen table, I felt I’m there with you all. I loved everything you shared its exactly my stories growing up as a young person, marrying & failing twice without God in the midst with both of us. It makes a HUGE difference. Being Australian myself it was wonderful to hear another Australian voice with similar standards & upbringing of not just going with anyone. I actually was fearful that the young were just jumping into relationships too quickly, maybe it’s my old age just stepping in. :)

[@magicalclosetofash2371]

I love this show. The Bevere Family is amazing.

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Thank you for watching and your support! ❤️

[@hannahlee4861]

love this !!! thank you!

[@judyvanschalkwyk6504]

Nobody is compatible, just start the journey together and make memories together, submitting yourself to God and maturing in your love walk. Never give up.

[@Megz207]

I’ve never heard of these myths and certainly never experienced anything like this. But, I can see it’s good advice for secular couples too. Definitely good for newlyweds and those getting ready to marry.

[@yvonnewilliams8564]

Great practical wisdom - Thanks.

[@elisabethlourens6626]

Wow. Brilliant....thanks so much! From a south african 42 year old single lady. This means a lot.

[@monikaszucs4718]

Lord bless You beautiful young people! Thank you for being voulnerable, to share and b a blessing for others! ❤ Wish You could be my sweet doughters bffs, to give her your godly cunsel n prayers in her fresh married life n motherhood. 🙏 Love n prayers from Hungary!

[@modupeonabajo2665]

28.43, was a prophecy to me. thank you

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

The job is done ✅ That’s all I got: What a profound answer. You couldn’t answer any better than that. That is wisdom.

[@berlindakwafo8509]

God bless you for this episode. Looking forward patiently for the next episode

[@angelicacline]

38:50 Ahhh, content for future videos, man. Something to do with recovering after divorce with children. I know everyone’s story is different but I LIVE for what the Holy Spirit tells me. Ya’lls videos give me so much to ponder and strap onto my tool belt while navigating through life, so thank you all!

[@rileytafaro]

Thank you so much for this. This conversation was so needed

[@CarmenGraf-i5z]

I’m am loving learning from what you share on these podcasts!! Thank you for your surrender to the Father, which makes this channel possible!

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Wow, thank you for watching and your support! ❤️ Grateful God's using these conversations to speak to you.

[@patriciagithae]

well thats a story i never hear, that there are doubts even in moments leading to marriage!! because i feel i would doubt the entire process

[@HolyWarriorPrincess]

AMEN BROTHER! This life IS ALL ABOUT CULTIVATING OUR SECRET PLACE!

[@margartrita]

Wow! Thank you for sharing! So wise and so interesting. I need to hear that 👍🙏

[@jameslammers9826]

Nice, Alec! Good to see you are doing so well! You’ve come so far since Pine Creek days!!

[@makaylamartin3710]

Excellent! Thank you!

[@WindofRefreshment]

Love love this❤❤ God bless you 🙏🏾

[@jilllingenfelter4682]

Amen:) great podcast today:)@At home with the beveres

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Thank you for watching and your support! ❤️

[@berealrb1496]

Please discuss about how to handle wrong suitors. They think you are available to them when you are not!

[@andreadonner1288]

I'm glad I stumbled upon this on my own unique journey thank u for all the wisdom God's given that u have shared

[@disgruntledvet28]

Oh wow that’s freakin awesome my wife and I wedding anniversary is June 22nd and daughter born June 27th but unfortunately we’re getting divorced 🙏

[@dermanydelgado9043]

I'm so glad he talk about it he admitted that's good news

[@SheSharpNotFlat]

This was so great!!

[@briggsfamily90]

Oh my gosh please share your story

[@coritaburks758]

Ive been freed up and confirmed in NUMEROUS ways from this episode! GOODNESS! God has been trying to teach me this for the last 1 1/2 and within the last 3 to 4 months is when Ive started to move on what He's been saying. This episode has helped to solidify what God was wanting to do ALL ALONG! 😭😭😭 Just a snotty nose mess watching this!!! 😭😭😭 Thank You and Bless You! ❤🫂

[@marieeva7418]

Same here! Amen to that❤❤

[@Nelly_1998]

Can you guys do more episodes with Alec and Maddie? 🤍 These conversations are truly a blessing!

[@justlovejesus1]

Question: Do you have a list of gear that you use for your podcast setup? Especially your excellent cameras. Suggestion: Maybe do a behind the scenes video?

[@nathaniel.04]

15:08 to 15:15 22:55 to 23:12

[@shush03]

This was a really good episode. First time watching. Loved the authenticity and honesty 🌹

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

I love that: My red flags became green flags

[@anywhereadria]

This was helpful, thank you!

[@DeborahBriggsDB]

"Through the milk?" got me 😂😂😂😭

[@raq_rivera]

So good! Thank you

[@isaacj8175]

Great episode, great timing for me, thank you father, shoutout to Alec and Maddie for telling their story what a good episode and teaching , God bless yall again

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Thank you for watching and your support! ❤️

[@isaacj8175]

@@athomewiththebeveres ay no thank yall for the content, Love yall 🙏🏼

[@carlibasson2410]

Thanks for sharing guys!!! ❤

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

WOW!!! It’s ok to wonder.

[@911awakening]

So rich! Thank you guys for creating such valuable content!

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Thank you for watching! Grateful that God's using these conversations to speak to you!

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

WOW again. This is such good details.

[@VenetiaRenata]

This is a beautiful, lovely Bv-family 💛 - thank you for all you are opening up through these fresh and real stories 🙏🤍

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Wow, thank you for your support!

[@joannatripp7831]

So good, guys. What a wonderful discussion and such godly ,honesty and perspective.

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Thank you for watching and your support! ❤️

[@dermanydelgado9043]

great to hear

[@imapct]

Shalom! Very Nice show ! How to take part of it if I'm in Paris. Be blessed

[@ellafrisen4581]

Guys the content is treasure. Thank You for letting us know about your struggles. Greeting Form Germany ❤

[@athomewiththebeveres]

Thank you for watching! Grateful that God used this conversation to speak to you. ❤️

[@dermanydelgado9043]

people that cheer ing for both

[@dermanydelgado9043]

God patient love for us

[@RaquelQuel25]

What about marriages that are in pastoral leadership but yet are affected by serious generational curses? It can seem way beyond imperfect- how can you get to that place that isn’t “perfect” but is a place of healthy normal relationship-that reflects God, that reflects relationship depth, that reflects deep love, that is able to pour into the children in order to keep cycles and curses from going to the next generation?

[@magdalinemwangi4189]

Must have been a hard dating relationship between Alec and the wife! Almost feel the weight that comes from such strain. Thank you for sharing - it's so liberating. So glad that the Lord helped you people through.

[@i.was.the.joy.set.before-Him]

Thank you for another lovely episode 💗

[@sinethembaspelman]

I needed this

[@Lovelife10934]

God bless you y’all!❤️✝️🙌🏻🙏🏻

[@JKSCOOTER]

Love and miss y’all thank you for sharing as always ❤

[@athomewiththebeveres]

We're grateful for you! Thank you for all your support!

[@pattiblount2046]

What’s wrong with playing Scripture as the infant nurses? Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God. And of course, live the Life!

[@victorial8764]

I was sick in the hospital with a deadly colon disease. None of my family could come in and visit me because it was too catchy. The nurse I had was a African-American male Christian man he was married. He had a couple little kids and he sat there as I prayed for an angel and played scripture while I slept and shook every single night I was in the hospital he was in there. I will never forget him, and I will always be grateful. It’s saturated my soul, and it helped me out of that dark place and I felt God’s love so much and I think it would’ve been different if the Lord didn’t send him❤

[@elisabethlourens6626]

Lol. You guys are brilliant! ❤

[@choonghyeonlee9421]

Thank you for this video!! Can i get the info of the microphone you guys are using please?

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

Marriage is suppose to be the safe space to figure it out.

[@dermanydelgado9043]

really good show

[@realchristian__podcast]

Here’s a question as well do you feel like that 4 years between when you last got engaged untill meeting Maddie was your wilderness season Alec ?

[@dermanydelgado9043]

We do we miss out because of perfection

[@dermanydelgado9043]

right becoming one not finding the one

[@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle]

It has to first be in me to give it. Nice

[@reelcowboys]

The study that blames botulism on honey is really hard to find nowadays. But they used very faulty data to conclude that honey was dangerous. They asked the mothers of 70 babies who had botulism what the babies had consumed in the last month. Only 20 had consumed honey within that month. The pharmaceuticals that people use for colicky babies is a lot more dangerous. Plus, when is honey ever mentioned in a negative way in the Bible?

[@amaliaarango3068]

What helped maddy and Alec wait till marriage for having sex , would be good so the young generation can hear and follow their advice . God bless and great show .

[@Murdock-hs1cb]

Could you do a talk on arguments, my wife us a young Christian and through hardships where my parents have been against her and the loss of friends through my parents adding strife and not showing how thru really are. It's put her off Christianity and I'm still loosely holding on bit it's very hard, we're saying about parting in most arguments. Hope you read this and can pour into this please, I lived her but it's like to stay in the same room is hard.

[@xmissbelieberx]

You need to put your wife above your parents, ‘A father will *leave* his mother and father and become one flesh with his wife’ (Genesis). I understand it can be hard but it really sounds like the enemy is trying to attack your relationship through your parents, and so as hard as it might be, separation and distance from your parents might be best at least in the meantime whilst you build a good marriage foundation with your wife. Hope this helps :)

[@Murdock-hs1cb]

@@xmissbelieberx it does, I've already put distance between be and my parents, but as Christian and my dad being a pastor, it's not helped the outlook of what Christians are like for her parents and herself.

[@berealrb1496]

What if your calling is a marriage ministry. What about having Godly offspring? You can't do that without a spouse.

[@tonyacanada]

Love this

[@kwanelemtshali499]

can you please share scripture on the screen when reference from the bible

[@berealrb1496]

I think when your attractive and single you get a lot of wrong suitors.😂😂

[@athomewiththebeveres]

😂

[@candyxoxo19]

Everybody gets wrong suitors though. Average and model quality people. I ve had so many wrong suiters beginning at a young age till middle age.

[@berealrb1496]

@@candyxoxo19 yep

[@candyxoxo19]

@@berealrb1496 thanks. I attract so many catfish, scamfish, lazy guys, user guys, sugar baby guys, All of us taste the rainbow no matter what we look like. You gotta be close with God to get a good scenario. If you’re gorgeous it might be a headache bc it may double the amount of crazy people thrown at you but regardless of your attractiveness you will still have to watch your back.

[@laurens8623]

I love the beveres. I've always thought John bevere sounded a bit Australian

[@athomewiththebeveres]

😂

[@dermanydelgado9043]

right don't do that wishing you were with someone else or in another person's shoes don't do it think about Jesus when you are being tempted