The #1 Secret To Keep A Man Interested In You

[@thepassionatebeing3691]

1 Encourage his dreams 2 Justify his failures 3 Allay his fears 4 Confirm his suspicions 5 Help him throw rocks at his enemies

[@boorat3573]

Yes it's a necessity to accept him,make him feel like you are an extremely trustful best friend to him. That's it, simple, period.

[@latinaalma1947]

I could not BE with a man I didnt respect. I dont even want to have a conversation with anyone I dont respect..male or female...romantic or not...I dont want anyone I dont repect anywhere NEAR ME.

[@angelm6497]

I'd suggest that justifying someone's failures is not always healthy. I'd suggest that support in getting through the failures is, identifying what went wrong and support to pick up the pieces, is what is ultimately important. People need to learn from their mistakes to grow. One of the first statements can be, I've made the same mistake myself, we all f up at times, this part was good but I think we could improve this part..... If research is showing that criticism is a bad thing, there is something wrong, because constructive criticism should be a healthy process and if you can't have truth and honesty with the people closest to you, you have nothing.

[@danielledekker1072]

Love this quote from Jason, "No one WANTS a relationship, you think you want a relationship but that's NOT true. You actually want the dream that you get from being in a relationship." Absolutely brilliant, I want this printed on a t-shirt! 😎

[@lisabelton3769]

Oh my goodness. I thought the same thing, lol. Jason is certainly telling the truth

[@andreasleonlandgren3092]

Danielle Dekker in love with having relations-ships In Sweden we say in love with the concept of love.

[@laurahunter1690]

Too many people miss this point in life.

[@paulineschmitt4504]

In support of your comment, dreams are why we grieve and find it difficult to let go. It's not that I want grandpa to hang around forever, it's that I saw us doing more together in my mind's eye.

[@cathybaker2273]

No one...is not everyone. Just beginning any a statement like that..makes that person..a difficult person to be around. That speaker. No one speaks for me.

[@hollypeterson4056]

Just be careful, ladies. If' he's not also doing these things for you, run. RUN! There are some men who absorb all the stuff in that one sentence and want to keep you to keep getting it from you, but never reciprocate. Make sure he reciprocates! A good man will appreciate these things.

[@kathy2trips]

When they don't reciprocate, though, you have to detach and walk away. This has happened to me more than once.

[@EnoI539]

Tuff

[@raiynna2395]

@@EnoI539 Tuff???? What an ignorant comment. Your someone is advising all women to stay away from .

[@juneelle370]

Lots of people have avoidant attachment styles… it’s very eye opening to study attachment styles! Unless someone is willing to work on themselves~ run because it’s a no go!

[@susys8501]

People are meeting, and the second after they are start calling each other “baby” “love”. The same night they meet, they are already having sex. One month after, they are getting married. 10 months later, they are having babies. Two years later they are getting divorced... did you see what’s wrong in this? There was no time to became the friend of that person, find out who he is. People are basing their life on emotions.

[@jozefowiczanna1984]

@Mike Tiwaz She hopped to another marriage because she is a wife-type woman (apart from being narcistic). What for did you divorce? She had to remarry in order to be faithful to her dreams! Why do you find it disgusting?

[@hebamerdas9667]

Susy S exactly!! This is what happened to my sister!

[@susys8501]

@@hebamerdas9667 is so sad! i hope she takes it easy for now on.

[@hebamerdas9667]

Susy S 💕 yeah i think she’ve learned her lesson

[@hazelvigo3255]

This comments is pointing to me,hehe just in a short relationship about 3months and getting married and after 2 years get a Divorce, because we are actually not match, he love himself only, doesn't care about me he keeps going out with his friends mostly every day while me busy doing house chores and taking my child, he can't even help me at nigh if my child is sick, I need to do everything he is not helping me even he has so much time.

[@ScottishLeo]

Someone u can depend on, KNOW that u can ask for help, night/day, 24/7 & receive what you need. My husband is that for me, its why I call him Batman 😻 all I have to do is send up a "signal"

[@greenjewelrysparkle1940]

You are very lucky!! I had one like that he could drives hours to bring me a coffee, and would have defended me against a tiger without thinking about!! I lost my fiance last fall😭😭 Appreciate your man every second of everyday cause life can be a real bitch sometimes!!

[@HH-xj8nh]

Greenjewelrysparkle I’m so sorry you lost your fiancé. I’m thankful you got to know him.

[@mssummerrose1]

Confirming his suspicions, allaying his fears and fighting his enemies doesn't mean you should do things his way or agree totally, it means that you should just for once see things from his/her perspective... and then shut up... JUST LISTEN... the time to bring up your ideas will come later... and then he'll listen to you...

[@lifeasaleina1343]

But Why all advise goes to Women ????? Are they the nagging creatures that need the pausing buttons ? Are they the only ones interested in relationships and their achievement? Let Men be advised too on how, how, how, ....a woman ...etc

[@katrinakaye7997]

Interest comes and goes - but if you have love for that person and it's real then it will never be destroyed.

[@Inateacupfullofgold]

agreed with you

[@mrhollandsopus418]

Experiences is a relationship. 2. Some men do not want to communicate, just believe what they want to believe. 3. Focusing on him and not myself means that everythimg is about him, and I do not find that healthy at all.

[@lazzerbear]

I'm just some dude; I don't even know how I even got to this video. But this guys gives me hope that I won't be alone my whole life.

[@HeartandHomeofJess]

“Seek to understand, not to be understood” - Confucius 🖤 my favorite quote :)

[@nimsayaniaable]

I think both are needed... both need to be understood

[@rndmkt]

Love dont be a door mat

[@HeartandHomeofJess]

Lol I think y’all might be missing the point of this quote.. it’s not meant to deny your own feelings and allow people to walk all over you. It’s more like we are often so quick to defend ourselves that sometimes we don’t realize how much healing we can bring to our relationships if we stopped to listen. Important to enforce boundaries and not be walked all over yes. But seeing where the other person is coming from, especially if you love them, can be a really important move in a truly loving relationship

[@rndmkt]

@@HeartandHomeofJess "not to be understood" thats def pointing out right there that we dont need them to satisfy our needs. But well you can do whatever suits you, it's your life anyway.

[@honeyyork1337]

Kinda like the saying about why we have two ears and one mouth.

[@joywatson95]

It is important to let your man know if you need something, or don't like something, yet it needs to be in a way that its not cutting him down.. . Like I'm dating a over the road trucker, he is out of town a lot. So if he said he going to take me out when he gets home, then he doesn't... I told him that I was disappointed about it , but not mad... Then he said he was sorry that your disappointed... We talked about it.. . Then is was a discussion , not a argument.. . I truly ❤️ him more! This is he didn't yell or swear at me... Both my ex and dad would have ... I love my boyfriend so much ❤️

[@vickieericson8059]

I am finding a common thread in everything I have learned recently in your training and from church marriage/relationship classes and that is "respect". Men would choose respect over love any day. Maybe it's again a primal thing men must have but I have learned that in your advice of not complaining or condemning it's the respect issue, a men will hear you more openly and feel more open with you and safer if he knows you respect him even when he makes mistakes and don't condemn him.

[@francieodendahl9351]

This is good advice, Jason. I've never actually had any man tell me their goals or dreams. That would be a refreshing new start!

[@HereForTheCatContent]

"They don't want a relationship, they want the feelings and experiences that come from the relationship." The feelings and experiences are part of the actual relationship; the relationship is set of experiences: touch, conversation/communication, companionship, the pleasure of doing things for someone or them doing things for us, etc. we have a scientifically-proven (basically) need for relationship with other people. That statement is like saying, "No one wants a house, they just want walls around them and a roof over their head."

[@Aquawoman22]

💙

[@Ezzzaaa]

I was thinking this!

[@deanasmusic1]

Relationship is the VEHICLE to feel these things. A house is the VEHICLE to feel safe, secure, and sheltered.

[@dennislockwood5605]

Love is the key to a lasting relationship , an love is a action word, you have to show it, compassionate,

[@jse4730]

"Let's jump right into this." -- 6:18 mark

[@juliejewels9208]

Omg...he does way too much talking, just saying the same thing over and over.

[@jdstep97]

Jse4730- He's great but does do extra talking.

[@juliejewels9208]

@@jdstep97 he could be good...his incessant talking is about his ego.

[@LeeNacola]

Learn to see the good in others instead of their faults. This is all about your own shortcomings.

[@RUNWAYBEAUTY]

jse4730 😂😂😂

[@arisn32]

Man here. I approve of this message. This is basically the same advice given to men.

[@johannabarnard5353]

I have to say Jason, You never sound haughty. You sound like someone who is honestly instrested in helping others and just trying to express your background so that anyone who may question you, well you've set it straight that your no dummy. Lol. You sound humble. Sincere.

[@Bakerygo]

My man caught me watching this video and said "why???? why are you watching this? you think I'm not interested? " I replied just checking if I'm making any mistakes" and got a look of disapproval and a laughter. I find your videos very interesting and I'm compulsively clicking on them even though I don't need this piece of advice.

[@irsmith5663]

I had a man like that for 8years, now he is my ex. Some men dont get relationships, they just like to criticize you and everybody else. Because nowbody is better than him.

[@XiXiDD]

i laugh out hard.

[@Art-ug4hl]

​@@irsmith5663 Then why on Earth did you give him eight years of your life???

[@candysmith8724]

Bakerygo - I watch many different types of YT videos and my man knows I do this and share many videos with him about different things. He knows it's my guilty pleasure and it's my personal time. Sometimes he chuckles at me with some of the stuff I share with him. No biggie!

[@LifeX2Find]

Candy Smith .. So, he must be a KEEPER! Not intimidated by what you're learning!

[@micahgalin8679]

Hi, actually I'm only 17 years old and I've been watching your videos for quite some time now. Its kinda awkward because I've never been in a relationship but I'm actually watching it because I'm not fan of they're so-called love,my age, really.😐 And I found value on your advises and adds up to me being matured when it comes to relationships and I really feel that I'm ahead of other teens who think love having a shallow meaning and just for fun. For me love is a sacred thing in this world and I really appreciated your works making it valuable with a special someone. So thank you in advance because I know this will come handy for me in the future. 😊♥

[@stephanijeopdevelt5600]

That‘s the most mature and touching comment I‘ve ever read in the comment section of such videos. I‘m impressed 👌🏼

[@ilikecheeserds]

Stephanije Op de Velt me too!!!!

[@ilikecheeserds]

Micah Galin hoe old are u???

[@stephanijeopdevelt5600]

FierceAngel 17 years

[@butterflyapproaches582]

U are really an angel in 17☺️

[@princesshuddini]

His voice is so calming. Honestly, he is the only dating coach on youtube that makes sense and isn’t only detailing the obvious things.

[@katychiu5676]

Love x 100 this Jason! It's not about manipulation, but paying close attention to what the man is looking for, his dream life and who he aspires to be, all of which are essential ingredients in creating a committed and fulfilling relationship. Thank you for the gold x

[@spiritualBaddi]

I am re-watching this months later after meeting a very high value man and also making sure I'm in alignment w being just as high caliber of a quality woman.. It has been my personal experience thst these work extremely well. He was closed bc of his past and now we have blossomed and opened up after curating a harmonious environment between us and we are getting closer and closer. It feels like Heaven 🥰

[@raqueltheoneandonly3084]

You should do a video on how to get a guy after you have made all types of mistakes. Meaning how to change his mind about you. Because you may make the mistake of showing him you were insecure,needy, a queen of high maintenance. But your still a great girl. Or maybe someone bad mouthed you, what about that?

[@yuktiarora7105]

I live in India and ready to travel to any part of this world to thank you personally for this video Mat. This is a life saviour for me. I bow to you. Although it's late for me now. Guy I used to love the most .. I have lost due to my own mistakes .. which you covered all in this video. I promise myself I won't repeat them again , I promise to you too for you opened up me to reality and to myself. I regret losing him a lot. But I wont repeat it all with my next one. I want to hug you for this masterpiece. A complete lesson. And my favourite video from your channel. You are a king indeed Mat.

[@liljerseygirl249]

I went out on one date with a guy and didnt hear from him all week. On Saturday he texts me if I will come over to his house on Sunday to go swimming. He doesn't call or text me all week & then I get a text, and he is persistent in trying to get me to come to his house and go swimming. So far I have told him I have plans already and next time. To which he replies "tomorrow is not promised". So I'm bored already and I think he just wants to get me into bed.

[@agatawitczak8407]

I see your point. Still, I hate tiptoeing around men when they don't seem to put the same effort to meet my needs...

[@memoryrinehart]

I liked your "allay their fears" message. And the platinum rule. Sometimes you can tell people how you need to be treated and it's like they were deaf to it. Or it conflicts with what they want.In that case if it's repeated often it's a dead end.

[@susannugent6211]

No two lives are a blue print copy of each other ... you wait for the RIGHT GUY to come ... all blessings come from the one who loves us unconditionally...all we have to do is pray and he will come ... even if you don’t know you even have a prayer after all the phonies ... he will still come as the answer to your prayers snd I didn’t know it let alone I even had a prayer left . If everyone would be honest then you would say only the honest things to that one special one the true love of your life there wouldn’t be all the confusion . Love all Love comes from God and when we feel Love we feel God bc God is ❤️ Love.

[@lo-fidreamsASMR]

An absolutely brilliant approach. Taking the focus off the self-absorption to understand other people’s psychology is a winning formula for building rapport in every connection.

[@candysmith8724]

It works brilliantly in sales too.

[@sydaday8765]

@@candysmith8724 Yes but does the man do the same for you is the question!

[@MsMesem]

@@sydaday8765 Exactly. The most recent dilemma..... I've looked up meaning of his name, nationality, starsign and fact that he is a red head...Conclusion, someone very difficult but that just makes him a great challenge! I can guarantee that he has done none of the same for me, men don't do that kinda stuff.

[@nimsayaniaable]

Syda Day true.. both need to understand each other

[@latinaalma1947]

@@sydaday8765 Well he should my mate 8f 41 yrs did for me...I had a busy career...he was ALWAYS on my side....he ALWAYS had my back. We sjared our dreams he siad his dream was to sail so was mine...one of mine before we met, for him it was his real driver in life. The funny thing was once we went crusing in the Caribbean our personalities sitched. I had been the worrier MA8NLY how was I going to get him his dream how were we going get there financially mainly..it required retirement by 50 so we still had the muscle mass and tone to handle sails . I took that on sheltering some of my income from taxes by deferement via a 401 K. oNce wgot out there I had total faith we would be fine. I knew he would keep the boat afloat etc...and he did but he worried and fretted about. Far more than I ever thought he would...on land he was very confident it was odd. He ended up not loving the sail ing as much as I did I could still be out there with him living a very simple life zero luxuries. We always wanted the same things though...travel, foreign cultures, experiences over possessions...we lived it for 41 years, we loved it and we loved each other.

[@luisacordero1501]

First, thank you!! You have helped me realize how wrong I’ve been when it comes to dating. I’ve manipulated, text my date when he doesn’t text me, and corrected or criticized men hoping they could change for me. I’m desperate and don’t want to be anymore. I am so tired of checking my phone continuously for a message. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t sleep around and when it’s all set and done, I know I won’t settle. Yet, my behavior has been so counterproductive but I am listening to you. Please don’t stop teaching us women. You are awesome.

[@victoriathompson2246]

You're a super educator and have changed my dating life. I am grateful for your coaching skills. Thank you.

[@isabellamoles1453]

When you get what you asked for, you get EVERYTHING that comes with it, too. Weather you like it or not.

[@EnoI539]

Lol

[@runninginsept]

Video starts at 06:10 - _-

[@maddart4445]

runninginsept this guy can talk

[@Hunter-vp3he]

THANK YOU.

[@DayDreamerbyDhang]

Thank you so much

[@qtusa]

Start at 8:40

[@chrysichrysi7889]

Thanks

[@jaynem1067]

Thank you for quality guidance Jason. It's rare to hear Dating Coaches indicate the science behind real connection as opposed to manipulation. I think a lot of women are being misdirected which ultimately ruins their construct. As a survivor of psychopath abuse this puts me in a more secure and appreciative position to date and efficiently connect..... the last thing I want to do is manipulate someone. Thx.

[@cancanb.2401]

Thank you so much for sharing your Amazing Knowledge! “Treat others how you want to be treated” that’s it!

[@arteliasaikens1553]

I think you are a very (realistic) person. I enjoyed listening to your outlook on relationships. Your conversation is not shallow to me.

[@linhtrinh5730]

Besides, I don’t take revenge!!! I’d rather just walk away

[@linhtrinh5730]

How he is good in business, that’s how I am in human communication. WOW!!! I guess understanding people’s psychology comes naturally to me and I didn’t even know it😂

[@linhtrinh5730]

I don’t criticise!!! I show and express my opinions but it’s up to them to consider my point of view and decide which direction to go!!! I never point the figure and tell them what to do... it’s up to them!!!

[@daniellebrown9134]

I'm at 10+ minutes in and I have yet to hear the secret...he talks a lot but doesn't say much!

[@loridudaniec4582]

All these “coaches” do. All they want is your money. Just another man manipulating vulnerable women.

[@kassokilleri2ff]

So where is the female dating coach doing better?

[@graven2508]

You want a certain man attention? walk up and ask him to take you on a date, we dont value "clues" and we are not psychic

[@Ponyawaken]

Yup! It’s more yap yap than actual information! PsssH!!

[@rv6029]

Can you do one on dating after divorce? I feel everyone is so wounded and weighted down with family issues it’s hard to keep it upbeat as it was in our 20s. Men seem more angry then the younger men, partly because they are paying so much to the ex etc.

[@cor3944]

Or the women have been so betrayed that they got legal abuse syndrome from domestic violence by the Courts and the mean behaviour of their ex-partners….

[@LIDYAEIL]

I agree , I mean learning techniques is like learning how to be more attractive, learning to be better, learning how to understand others and their needs better, even more genuine than learning make up techniques

[@meydiaengka]

Thank you very much for this. I just spent 22 minutes of my life being more aware of how I present myself in relationships. You deserve way more subs Jason!

[@victoriac.attorneyatlaw]

I am super fickle, I lose interest in men so fast! It's a lot of work with the flirting and going through the initial stages. If there is no real reciprocity-I am out of there. My ex (who I dated on and off for 10 years) always took me out, entertained me, and had great chemistry with-spoiled me, BUT he was not the guy for me. I am new to your channel, I hope it helps :-)

[@GenXGianna]

Treat people the way they want to be treated. I like that. Most of us already do that for our elders, our most respected and in many /most cases our bosses. Certainly we all want to be treated with respect so the golden rule is to treat others with respect but when we know certain people have certain ways, expect certain things, out of respect, love, customer care, patient care, etc., this is probably is use for most of us. It's true that when someone introduces themselves with a certain title or name to us directly it usually means that is what they expect us to call them even if everyone around us at that moment is calling the man "Dad" or "Rock". If he says, "Dr. Sing", then that is what you call the man until he says otherwise.

[@Madhra2k25]

*Yes, treat ppl as they want 2 b treated !!!*

[@GilliMarieMoody]

Wow. This was really comprehensive. Just wow. I remember, 30 years ago, Dr. Ph*l once suggesting women ask men what their dreams for themselves were when they were teenagers. The men were being thrilled. Thanks🌬️🕊️.

[@dynamicnlyfemedia4867]

The 5 minute intros be killing me....but the info is worth it

[@58kaylabell]

DynamicNLyfe Media I was thinking the same thing ... I fast forwarded lol

[@goldensprite3373]

🤣🤣

[@wtfwho975]

Do u agree with what they say about what men want what will get there attention turn offs and turn ons?

[@wtfwho975]

@@58kaylabell same

[@dorathompson4421]

I know right

[@sunday1149]

I love this! I have always tried to do pretty much everything you mentioned; just how I have always been. If they are not true; they will show their true colors. I am an understanding & forgiving woman. I have been deceived due to me being so nice. I have learned; however, not to be like them but to try to understand them even more. I try to always listen without judgement. I have failed; so I try harder. I know how it feels to hurt & to be misunderstood so I strive to help others. Thank you for helping people to understand judging is not the answer.

[@Pinkcandy777]

Basically kindness and compassion

[@MarinaB63]

Do these things for yourself and then surround yourself with friends who will support you. When it comes to a man, just have a good time with him, enjoy yourself, and move on. Anything more is too much hard work for measly returns.

[@colilaobalioca]

"Treat people the way how they want to be treated"

[@shereeh8566]

I pulled away because I never thought we were going to fall in love and then I got overwhelmed

[@breesamo8067]

Your Right ..i figured that out looking ahead.. I'm not looking for the Relationship anymore ...i want other things right now..

[@NevenShtaya]

You are my favorite on KZbin .men are the same in every culture .. thank you and peace from Dubai

[@jasonsilveryt]

Cultures are different but certain human psychological principles are universal!

[@tonythegreat4275]

Same with women

[@mimosarocks6206]

This is just what I needed to hear!! I find myself naturally learning these principles too late. I believe I've dated some quality men and that I'm also a woman of quality but just like you said, that's not what I'm portraying! Thanks, will be listening to again!

[@maureenobrien8081]

I'll ask my supervisor what he wants me to do today. Then I will work hard, for him, to get the job done. It makes us both happy!

[@ItsMeSadeNYC]

6:46 "The one sentence" that you supposedly need to know.. Also, quick summary is being yourself it authentic in a relationship is "selfish". People want/ expect to be manipulated. This goes for any kind if dealing with people from my pov, even and esp work situations (in which, just add politics and backstabbing for fun). I guess people act better, like it when you're screwing with them (a good mind f**k short and simple). Yes it's sad, but it's true. I think this really goes for those who are single in their later years, middle aged. Still playing games.

[@lsan11]

Hi Jason! I just subscribed! A lot of what you say makes sense. I disagree with those who commented that you “talk a lot”. In my opinion, you’re organized and thorough in presenting the lessons and concepts in your video. I appreciate that, so I threw in my “like” too! Will be checking out more of what you have to teach. Keep up the great work! Side note.. well.. not so “side” note, it’s a huge deal actually.. Congratulations on transforming into the physical and mental shape that you’re in, watching this video!! I imagine that was tough work. Def thumbs up! 😊

[@arminnicio4836]

I learn a lot from you Jason, how to understand man's feeling, I will continue to learn more about good relationship.

[@simbathecat5789]

Love all ur vids keep them coming I only wish I saw them sooner would have saved me much heaerache I also share them with my. 18 yr old daughter , I also as an offset use your material in general at my work (I’m a nurse ) love how u delve into the human mind , ur smart and funny and very entertaining

[@kellycarlson8799]

Absolutely wonderful Jason, I get somewhat overwhelmed with all this, sooo much hard work to be with the dream man of your life, but I'm trying your suggestions, there awesome, thank you

[@cynthramir333]

Los mejores y mas reales consejos que he escuchado. Si alguien aqui habla español y está aprendiendo inglés, escuchad este tipo de charlas para hacer tu ingles mas natural o en todo caso un poco más americano😂😂

[@Swiftygirl133]

This video has been the best I have watched on KZbin not only on couple relationships, but on personal growth and development really. If y'all listen closely he says you can apply this to everything in Life. Great video. Thanks!

[@mayvortjarnberg6778]

It's easy to put focus on other people if you are honest with yourself and know who you are. Thank you! 🌹🌹

[@Swiftygirl133]

Exactly! Loved this comment

[@dysdaffy6905]

Always being honest, reaching 100% lately. Long relationships? None. What's wrong then?

[@mayvortjarnberg6778]

@@dysdaffy6905 think that you never met another honest person who you klick with. Neither have I.

[@dysdaffy6905]

@@mayvortjarnberg6778 yes, that may be the case. Knowing a man that clicks with me right now, but he got some issues, 2 children and a family mountain to climb. I am there but not for only physical acts

[@LifeX2Find]

Mayvor Tjärnberg .. Perfectly said!!

[@darlenehlady6953]

Thank you I am a single 68 young lady and I thank you for all you communicate to all the people I love all you have to say and I know from my age you eek the truth .

[@cathyrenick8562]

Be their cheerleader and they'll be yours. Promote their Dreams and to grow further find quality man that you both want to Dream with Together. Then you can Build memories, and Experiences. Listen to them and they will tell u who they really are in their Life. Values, morals, and ethically. Make sure they are as well off as you, and stay firm on your values, morals and ethic's as well. Many Ladies comments r very critical or typical of those who choose the wrong type of man. Men have just as many feelings as you and they express them Very differently.

[@anudeshmukh2011]

If he is into you,u wl know 💁n nothing more to say I'm just exhausted of chasing love 🙄got my lesson choose someone who chooses you 🙃

[@johannabarnard5353]

There is, however, a way to approach faults if it's an issue in the relationship. Criticism is one thing and Helping is another. ( Criticism : knocking his identity down, blaming, scolding. ( Helping : encouraging, sees hope, refreshed, identity feel protected) Very delicate grey area. Most times than not, it's best to remain quiet and let them be themselves because most times it's simply about our own perceptions. Not fair game. We wouldn't appreciate it anymore they would. It's only natural.

[@InshasChoice]

I was thinking, in my head love is a fantasy but the reality is that I'll be disappointed if I mix fantasy with reality. Love is unpredictable and from what I've learned love is selfless... and that's that. Lol, cringe 😅 thank you for this valuable information! You're a blessing.

[@mssummerrose1]

17:10 easy recipe if you're doubtful: just do and say what pleases you without arguing and blaming... bam... if you feel like he isn't giving you the attention, then simply don't meet with him if you feel uncomfortable on the whole... let him actively ask for more and more time with you, otherwise your time should be filled with your life activities... you'll see if he gets it or not... because what we need is s.o. who does things for and with us enthusiastically, and not because you have to convince him... that's not the silent treatment, you can talk and explain if he asks, but in a calm way and also there's a limit to talking... that's all I'm saying... no drama, no time wasted... better open up to finding a new man with whom life is easy and fun and whom you don't have to convince to spend time with you... a man who loves you always let's you know where he is and what he's doing, you have no single doubt about his whereabouts...

[@amandashineyourlight2498]

Jason, I wish I had come across you when I was in University instead of studying Oriental Philosophy, Marxism Leninism l and ll (compulsory; ) Politics; Theory of Underdevelopmentalism; Epistemology and Metaphysics; English Lit, - - etc etc. All to gain a Liberal Arts degree, which I do not at all regret. I am making up for lost time watching and learning from you. Your presentations are excellent by the way. Yesterday, I wrote to an interesting man with a military/ legal background- and I think I encouraged, justified, allayed; confirmed and showed I respected him in my reply to him. Guess what, he reached out to thank me , gave me his email and asked me to write to him so he can send me a draft of his book. I swear it is because I listened to you. I would describe myself as an awkward introvert but now I am daring to take action. The days of standing alone and hanging apart are over, as I am ready to connect with the right man.

[@looiart]

"Power polarity goodbye" I love this catchphrase

[@k.wegner]

Gave up at 11:43 cause I couldn’t follow him any longer......😌😩😵

[@Tiffystyles]

I stopped at 13. I thought it was just me. I was confused because he jumped around a lot.

[@victoriachifor1453]

I will ask their dreams and how they see themselfs in 5 years from now..is a great tool to see what are their values.Thank you!I realized I was always on the path on a relation and I did not focused on destination because I belive takes time..you tought me efficiency😉You are inspirational💗

[@sunshinedayz7032]

It totally makes sense to learn how to deal with the opposite sex!! Even though, maybe, our first reaction is to say. "well I want to be loved for who I am or I just want to be who I am and have things work out". It would be like trying to go be a dentist or a doctor and say well I should just be able to do this. I shouldn't have to go to school for it. I have teeth and I have a body. I shouldn't have to learn anything more about it because that's authentically who I am! I think whatever we do in life we need to learn all we can about it, because we don't know it all! We can add to who we are with knowledge and that doesn't mean we're not authentic. Learning just makes us more wise! 😁😎😄🌹

[@Freedom_is_essential1]

I came looking for a different point of view, what advice we give women on attraction. I have to say from a guys point of view, I don’t agree with everything this guy says, but he is very dead on with this video. I would say Ego, pride and accomplishment is what drives a lot of men and this is all about supporting and understanding his essence.

[@Larissa-of3qt]

DURNG CHILDHOOD IS WHEN WE DEVELOP OUR ATTACHMENT STYLE. When people haven't healed this residual childhood pain, they grow up mistaking attachment for LOVE and think their partner's job is to fill their needs. They will COTINUE to look for love in others without finding true self love.

[@agotabernath196]

Jason I like the intelligent way you talk about relationships. Can I ask you something? Is it ok if on the first date I ask questions like: what are your dreams? what are your fears when you seek a relationship?

[@kweengyofficial7153]

You are so articulate & balanced in your suggestions. Love this 👏🏼👏🏼

[@staycdnb]

This is goooood! Very, very good. I am so pleased that I have found your channel. I feel like this video expanded my consciousness 🙏💫🙌

[@mich2417]

So, if a man makes a promise to you and then doesn't keep that promise, what do you say? I recently had a man do this and I told him he didn't keep his promise to treat me the way I wanted to be treated. You're right, it caused a huge fight because he became very defensive. What would you say instead if someone didn't keep their promise?

[@IntegrativeMedicine2024]

Mic h ,we say he is too coward to face the woman to say to her the truth.I believe this thought to face the woman for to say the truth or to explain her “why” he promises things and after with a click pufff and he disappeared,this truth facing makes them trembling...they cannot take tears,crying,screams and to fear from woman the words “you are a liar “...he knows he is...LIAR!!!

[@arizonadreaming4183]

Tells you what you want to hear at the time. Possibly home cooked meals and procrastinating moving forward, so lies to keep you there, until he truly decides. Wrong to lie to women to get things, move on if not a couple kind of guy..

[@nancyregan8236]

Thank you for keeping it real and reminding us that we are working on the dream of our relationship and not the vessel. Great advice as always!

[@jasonsilveryt]

Thanks for the comment Nancy!

[@justinebreedon6845]

You are so smart! I work in psych and you do such a fantastic job.

[@wyethhan7434]

I love that you can influence them by understanding who they are ans what rhey really want... Also the golden rule mentioned here is such great!great!This,video is very helpful.. Thank you jason. God bless You!

[@pjharriscpa]

I think "throwing rocks at your enemies" refers to being in my corner when I face an adversary. Take my side. "Have my back"

[@talknight2]

Also do actually throw rocks at stuff occasionally (preferably not indoors). Surprisingly fun!

[@sunitafisher4758]

🌸 I love all Jason’s intros because it’s just as valid as the tips. Plus his wisdom is something I’m not going to dismiss or take for granted. He has taken the time to not only help us grow and become more ourselves but also to remove the old ways of how we were taught to think. Cutting out things that no longer serve us. It’s very disrespectful & disappointing to keep seeing the tips start at such and such time in his videos Would you skip Jey Shetty also, or Mel Robbins ? All self help videos have certain intros designed to correct our mindset, but if you choose to skip then how can you grow?

[@KattSyllek]

Thank you Jason. Very interesting. I just need to watch again the "justify his failures" cause I didn't get this part well. Have a good day !

[@angelm6497]

That sentence at approx. 7 mins sums up the techniques used by my covert narc X, to keep me tied. Now clearly I also had cognitive dissonance and I am not suggesting the channel owner is suggesting covert manipulation because he clearly states otherwise, merely a testament to the power of that statement.

[@andjelakaralic2588]

Thank you so much. You opened my eyes! I just started a new relationship, and really hope that we match! Fingers crossed, following your tips and rules!

[@ShariceBurrows]

I benefited from this video very much so.. I never knew how powerful psychological approaches were until I went to college. So I absolutely agree with you this is just how we work as human beings, point blank. I love the brilliant perspective you have behind this hidden human instinct. This is for women who want to go out there and get a life partner and want to be the pursuer. But it can also apply to your daily life, if you want that job or position bad enough then you will unconsciously use your psychological abilities to bridge that gap no matter what may stand in your way. I tell people all the time, in society it's all about making your mark, figuring out what purpose you hold, and most importantly your personal human behavior skills/people skills. These factors are extremely important and will take you far but only if you own the open mindedness. Thanks again for sharing this. A+

[@gigi9301]

Great information for me as an older dater. I don't have the time and energy to waste at this point!! Many older men really have no intent of a serious path. I've finally been able to weed out the peter pans and commitment-phobes quickly.

[@crisvlog5321]

thank you so much all your topics and teaching is very helpful and effective for every person and all kind of relationship .

[@mariaa.confortimswlcsw4193]

I'm so sad and at the same time relieved. Im a social worker. I started studying psychology and felt the field was a critical foundation for understanding the creature known as the human...... but then what? Social work takes the fundamentals of psychology which IS the study of the mind.... in other words.... the mechanisms and reasoning behind all behaviors within and between human minds...... and yes it's true... there is more variation within each gender category than between the various groups in general. Social work.... to get back to my point takes the foundation of the data, observations, and potential theoretical frameworks that tie together general identifiable patterns and recognizes that the concept of PIE becomes the guiding principle when understanding people from an individual, group and societal perspective (micro - you, mezzo - us , macro- everyone and then some). PIE stands for person in environment and its like a pie chart. Each slice is "who we are" in each separate environment we function in..... but who we are is the center of the pie where all those parts converge. It's a truly underdeveloped concept. I was thinking as I wrote.... this really needs to be a video or blog I MAKE..... and I will... but in the meantime.... it's time we spread the word...... the new wave of self help and coaching. And business....is actually all very firmly based in psychology, mental health , social sciences, and ....... drum roll.......nueropsychology and physics.....as in quantum..... in the end it really really is all connected...... I love your video... you are basically teaching the concept of FREE WILL as in the universal law, not religious edict.... don't get me started on religions that claim free will as a cornerstone followed by the riot act of rules. Ummmmmmmmm I love you......i have been talking about the platinum rule since I was a kid.... thought I made it up...... kindred spirit!!!! YEEEEESSSSSS. manipulation....... i'm Italian.... so the word roots mean to maneuver something with your "hands" meaning you have to actually change the position of things so that others can actually see your perspective.... not so insidious when you look at it like that...... and add free will..... plus authenticity and........ kindness and mutual respect of these concepts. Ideally we all manipulate a "picture " by the mode of communicating that is most natural and then after everyone had a turn......we study.... discuss..... explore..... inquire lovingly and discern what we each are ok with....or not..... and from here.....co creation has its absolute best petri dish for building a real human connection...... You just have a much more approachable way of saying it than us terribly branded and even less gracefully marketed mental health professionals........ damn medical model ruined it for us all...... I would be super curious if you might ever be willing to collaborate on a project with me. I've been searching for a Male voice who gets it and whose language i understand....... food for thought.....I have wanted to comment like this on all your videos..... but in the name of propriety I thought one good comment will have to do today...... Keep it coming.....I would love to present these concepts simultaneously with a Male and female perspective and for any gender specific readers of this comment........i personally feel there are only 2 energies in humans..... Male and female..... for me.. it's the specific ratio of each that makes the difference planet side of what that looks or feels like so feel free to create any name for your specific recipe .....I am simply keeping things simple...... well......I mean my post already speaks of the rabbit hole i can fall into on pretty much any subject concerning what I call the.......nah..... i'm saving that for the blog..... Love isn't found it's created. Peace. M

[@mariemontgomery4707]

This is a great way to think thanks Jason

[@mariemontgomery4707]

Drilling it in my girls I have 5 I wouldn't want them hurting over a tired dumb man

[@luisacordero1501]

If the man is not reciprocating but still texts me, how do I cut him off. I don’t want to criticize. Can you do a video on how to let go of men who don’t value us? Thank you!!!!

[@cancanb.2401]

Luisa Pierce YES!

[@addie5533]

Block him.

[@laniroma8830]

Wow I'm so blessed to hear from you, exactly your right it really happened to me.

[@mariakesumo010309]

Yes, the video is long. But, for me, it is worth every second... Thanks, Jason. Thorough review about the quote of Blair Warren. Love it...