ATTUNEMENT (The Key To A Good Relationship) - Teal Swan -

To attune is to be or bring into harmony. On an emotional level, it is a feeling of being “at one” with something. To conceptualize of attunement, you need to imagine sitting in your car and using your fingers to adjust the radio dial. Assuming that you want to hear the music being played at a specific frequency, such as 98.2 FM, you need to adjust the radio dial so the radio in your car is tuned to 98.2 FM.
Attunement doesn't stop with radio frequencies though. Ultimately everything in the universe is made up of energy that vibrates. Everything in existence has a unique frequency and vibration, including people. To perceive the other person and to understand them, we need to attune to their special frequency. In this episode, Teal shows us how to attune.
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[@unforgivingfae]

this woman has me sobbing for 19 minutes and ends the video with "have a good week"

[@inkspecialist]

Lmao same

[@niconico4114]

😂

[@alisonc4669]

As a codependent I didn't understand that other people were different than me and were not constantly attuned to everyone. I've always been completely flabbergasted by war, abuse, etc. I didn't understand that my family literally could not see how much pain they were causing me. Thank you Teal for these explanations!

[@zthehero]

u recovered from codependency?

[@vincognito7942]

i can relate to that!

[@iMikkeysat]

You think they dont know what they are doing?

[@AyeWitness]

I hate people now. Why the hell would I want to attune to them.

[@Baptized_in_Fire.]

​@@iMikkeysatgenerally no. They're under the subconscious influence of their pained inner children. They're likely blind to it.

[@jynxkizs]

How-to Summary of Video (8 steps): 1) Choose whether to attune 2) Face resistance to coming out of your bubble 3) Understand others think and feel both similarly and differently 4) Notice whether you are rushing to care only because the person is a problem for you 5) Seek awareness of your own emotions 6) Use Octopus Technique 7) Practice connecting with someone 1 on 1 8) Be willing to be vulnerable

[@anthonymccoy7711]

Thank you for the take away.

[@picapica201]

I feel like the 8th point is a prerequisite of the 2nd, so it should be much higher, otherwise they might not be even able to do or begin this process.

[@exoticblondestripper]

Ur God sent, thanks a million

[@RoseMarieJamesJr]

Thank you Jynx C.

[@menuhin]

8:36

[@Tommy_Ray]

"Youre confusing deliberate creation of your reality, with resisting reality." It hurts so good. Thank you my teacher.

[@AaronDoughty44]

Another word I use for attunement it alignment. I think when someone is in alignment with who they are, they are more likely to either attract someone who feels that level of integration or contribute to reflecting alignment to someone else. Great video Teal.

[@amyxiajing]

Aaron Doughty : I think love is a conscious choice. Pay attention to others feelings and actions. Set up a clear intent to try to understand them.

[@ghouling1111]

I'm not sure what you are saying here?

[@tishkerrville8942]

Nice comment Aaron

[@alex-ander-13]

@@amyxiajing I see your point, but do not try! Either you do it or do not.

[@jessh9988]

So funny I was raised a co-dependant....So I automatically attune to others...But I need to use this information to attune and align with myself!!! Thanks Teal!

[@bairsensei7496]

you're a gift to humanity thank you teal love you ❤

[@juniperstardust5549]

Spiritually is tough, it forces me to have to see myself for the deficiencies and inadequacies that characterize me, to see myself in reality without sugarcoating, it hurts but is very insightful and it give me an idea of all the ways i can improve myself. Thanks teal

[@cagedweller6223]

Ohhh, Teal, you've been blowing my mind all week since I found you. This "you gotta be willing to let yrself not feel good sometimes" has been profound to me at this time in my life. Thanks for all the reminders. Harmony will come

[@graciegracie9187]

As I watch your videos, I become more grateful that I had caring parents. Strong emotions like grief must be felt and it takes courage. Many get uncomfortable and want you to get over the loss of a loved one fast, but grief has its own time.

[@HoneymoonSpirit]

Powerful Truth. This explains to me the essence of why narcissists and empaths magnetize one another. Thank you

[@icicleicicle]

interesting...so narcissists are just adult-sized two year olds... superb video. i needed this

[@macoeur1122]

Yes! That is... "narcissistic"!....I've been considering for some time the question of what is causing the seeming rise in narcissism. I think there are many answers, but this video really makes clear one reason that I believe could make a huge difference if everyone knew how "easy" (relatively speaking) it would be to "attune" to one's children....and everyone else whenever possible.

[@glesiaful]

I agree, and that's what scares me more and more.

[@shamyshamuswow213]

That and aspd. And hpd

[@picapica201]

"so narcissists are just adult-sized two year olds." That's not actually what she means and seems like a bit dangerous oversimplification of the message (although I do think you were partially saying that for the purpose of humour, but I can't be sure). They are probably still more developed than 2yo in many ways. She just used a 2yo as an example because of one of their "properties", namely: not being attuned to others yet, and since we may have some idea of how 2yos behave it may be easier for us to imagine the situation since it's likely closer to our expeirence than other possible images. It's more accurate to say that those enclosed in their egocentric bubble, while having much of the capability of the adult, may treat other people in the caricatural way described, literally holding them emotionally by the neck and having completely no understanding of what's going on and why they respond so strangely to that. Then they may respond with anger etc, because such reactions cause them discomfort like it was said in the video - perhaps implying they're doing something very wrong, whereas their image of themselves is so controlled & perfect, that when the external message and the internal image are in such a stark disagreement that must mean the other person must be lying & be very unreasonable towards them, and that's the (surface) reason for anger. I also like to remember that there's likely no anger without (having experienced) prior violence. Which might in turn be exactly the reason for their bubble in the first place anyway.

[@howmathematicianscreatemat9226]

yes, basically most politicians. How we can notice this? Look how desperate they get if you take away their money...

[@laurentlorenzo4843]

This deserves re-watching several times. Great stuff, thank you Teal.

[@xvlllvlll]

i owe my life to Teal. so grateful she exists

[@ezra7253]

Explains so much of my relationship with someone who didn’t have empathy. Thank you Teal. It makes a lot of sense now.

[@Elliot_97]

This video perfectly explained an experience I had on mushrooms. I felt a whole different way about the girl I was seeing at the time (she's now my girlfriend). During that trip I felt like I could viscerally experience life through her eyes, how she felt about me and particularly how she felt around me. It felt very real. That brief experience really opened my eyes and even though while not on mushrooms I can't experience it to that degree, the knowledge and memory of it has changed how I behave around her and in the relationship in general. I will admit it's still something I need to work on though. It's not easy as a man I think - doesn't come as naturally as it perhaps does for women.

[@demigodlord]

It may have been the happiest bubble, for a time. But it was also the loneliest. My heart goes out to you in creating this content. It was everything i needed to hear. Thank you

[@janineharry2740]

I use to be codependent... but no more. Thanks to Teal 🌻

[@KashiStar]

I think I'm like an egocentric and my husband is a hyperattuned. We are not attuned together... We have got to attune.

[@KashiStar]

Oh god, I've got to get out of this egocentric bubble

[@mnikolaeva6562]

Seems like if its doesnt happen naturally it is ment to let go

[@rhiannonmiller9208]

this aged badly but also happy for you because I miss living in my car xoxo

[@howmathematicianscreatemat9226]

Teal Swan here is teaching us the basics of true social intelligence. Very interesting and hope giving how much we can then give happynes to others.

[@kimelliot5283]

Thank you Teal, you described me throughout this video. I didn't even know I had locked myself in a safety bubble but I have so completely! There is nothing more I want than to connect with people but they frighten me because of a horrific experience I had ... actually I have had many but mostly with my parents so this information is vital to my livelyhood! So much gratitude for you sister! ♥♥

[@scowlsmcjowls2626]

The best explanation for narciscism and codependency i ever heard

[@speshulgay]

I love this and I needed this right now. I hope I can get my bf to watch this. everyone ever should watch this

[@VarietyEllie]

It is soooo crazy how synchronized this is with recent events for me. Not just recent, but literally today. This was the video I eyed in a word search you posted on Instagram saying the first three we see, we should watch. This was the first one I saw and it is literally EXACTLY aligned with recent events of yesterday and today. Okay universe, I see you!

[@vanessapetrea2490]

I've watched this video a few times. I've gotten something out of it each time. I believe I may need to see it a number more times to fully digest the download. I thank you for making the video! It is so very helpful! 😊

[@luraayzit]

I am amazed of your soft communication. And I love how encouraged you make me feel. This is changing the quality of relationships and enables more connection. Thank you Teal!

[@thequietone9785]

Teal you are always so revelatory. You are beautiful both inside and out. Thank you for these enlightening videos

[@marinastant5249]

I am so grateful to Teal for all of her videos. She freely gives so much wisdom and knowledge to help me understand my unconscious mind. What would like be without her? So much less awakened and in so much more pain. Thank you Teal from the bottom of my heart! ❤❤❤

[@DonStorms]

I want to share this with people who make me mad, but I know this is for me

[@sharonjohanna7261]

One of the best videos teal has and one of the most important thing we all need to do in order to make this planet a good place to live.

[@dariocastelao861]

this girl knows what shes talking about !»! tks

[@aight33]

omg!! This is exactly the reason why I was suffering so much and that pain reached it's peack yesterday night. Thank you Teal once again. Perfect synchronicity!!

[@KristinaLaQueen]

I was actually watching one of your interviews here on KZbin, and this video release somehow "attuned" itself onto the screen (in the middle of the interview) like magic!

[@HaythamTrueheartH]

Opppp I cried in this one. Thank you so much Teal. You remind me of Dr. Gabor Maté. ❤❤

[@persia2188]

When we are born, we come from source/oneness so we experience ourself as an extension of our mother. When you’re 2 or more, you have you’re own desires and you start to feel separation & you look at the world through an ego centric world view. Be open & vulnerable with the RIGHT people.

[@phoenix3996]

I'm a natural tuner and this method is kind like mind reading and from my experience I found Attunement could be pretty risky for yourself too. When you feel other's emotion and it could be bitter for you too and you would feel it's your responsibility to help them solve it. But sometimes that issues can be tough. You need to scarify a lot to help them and they wouldn't care about you as you do. You'd feel uneven although it's like a codependency relationship but unconditional love is not that easy to practice.

[@nedames3328]

Being with someone else's emotion without that emotion capturing you takes practice.

[@davidcunningham2984]

I doubt that an un-attuned person would even listen to this video. i bet most listeners are the hyper vigilant.

[@eneasmamadi3452]

Neh I'm unattuned

[@saludosalsol]

Haha I hate being hyper vigilant tho :/ I wish she talked about being “less attuned” instead of being more attuned for hyper vigilant people

[@foshia3]

@@CharlieAnastasia you gave me hope . thank you

[@ronaldnielsen5796]

It's fun to always look at the other person isn't it

[@n.k.63]

Actually, was listening to this video thinking it's not about me, imagining some mean jerk being unattuned. Yet, close to the end, I've realized that I am the unattuned and the detached one, almost like a hermit even in a crowd.

[@richmobmula]

Thanks Teal

[@wakeup_withAshley]

Explaining the seemingly unexplainable and effortlessly painting a beautiful picture as you do...thankful for you Teal ❤️☯️

[@acrokill9169]

One of your best videos. Much better than expected, and really well thought out.

[@gemstar7447]

I’m in the process of figuring out how to relate better and this is so amazingly helpful. Thank you Teal 🙏🏽💜

[@morf5970]

Can't believe I wasn't aware of your channel untill now you are truly inspiration

[@hotmanna2707]

very eye opening. I need another video though to help those of us with the hyper attuning be able to bring it down to a healthy level so we aren't neglecting ourselves.

[@fitforfreelance]

This is a crucial video for self-compassion and understanding yourself for growth

[@divinadivina2017]

When I had my first healing & chakra balance, I was told inside my body was the body of a boy of 8 years old. I was 26. 2 years later and a lot of inner work I'm feeling like a woman between 20-23 years

[@amerikatt]

This is the best, truest and most difficult video I've ever watched because you're talking about me.

[@jmuro3351]

to be free is free from ego!

[@BxN4]

It now see the time it took for me to heal to a state where I could even recieve this type of information. I am excited for what the future will bring as I continue to heal and share an authentic self with the universe. Thank you Teal.

[@blueredcross]

My parents never understood me, they basically aren't very attuned to anyone. How did I become so attuned then to be able to even understand their behavior? Was it because I had a lack of people understanding me that I now understand them instead? I do think that even people who are not attuned are needed in this world, in order to teach something that someone with that ability can not. If everyone were in attunement then the world would be an amazing place I agree, but for the time being everything has pro's and con's to it, and I love it :)

[@NinaPaganaMiller]

The same thing happened to me I think... My parents were not paying much attention to who I was so I ended up not thinking I was of much interest to anyone, but I am very interested in others. Although I enjoy my life and do things for myself, I learned quite late in life to take good care of myself and to love myself. Mostly because I met a wonderful person who loves me and whom I love, someone who kind of experienced something similar. We are extremely aware of each other's feelings and thoughts. It is a wonderful relationship. I feel so blessed 😍

[@AXharoth]

she explains why in the video

[@melonsoda123]

I can somewhat relate to what you're saying, my dad was never been attuned to me (or anyone). Recently, as he's started to get older he's started to change a little bit.

[@117MasterSpartan]

Same here

[@gward9320]

I agree!

[@goadsaid3335]

strong emotions are so icky to me. I quite like my bubble.

[@VareeVongvaravipatr-sd1lt]

Needed this. You explain it so well something thats been on my mind for awhile. Thank you

[@yuta2349]

Love the way she expresses herself ! Such a powerful delivery.

[@bsan362]

Amazing….how your looks….have NOT Diminished…..over the years…❤️❤️❤️

[@1978rayking]

Simply said everyone deserves to live there life as they choose, as long as your not imposing on someone.

[@Rii-jw1sk]

Whenever I wonder about something, Teal has the answer. Thumps up!

[@michaelmalcolm2100]

This is so critical to my inner-peace right now. I needed this so much today.

[@nvinios1]

This video was VERY helpful to me. THANK YOU Teal and her associates for continuing to produce amazing content that has aided me TREMENDOUSLY!!! ❤️👻

[@diezalba_i_ulita]

Very explicit and useful video! Thank you!

[@Aquapsychicreading]

Thank you. Love you. NAMASTE 🙏

[@trmptmenace]

This one was very lovely and eye-opening. Thank you!!

[@stopaskingformyname9386]

Wow. Genuinely surprised and impressed by the video and the message. I'm glad that I found this... Funny enough, I really think I needed to see it

[@davinfreitas9583]

You are amazing!

[@Metaphyical0samak]

Im grateful for you teal swan this has gave me courage and faith to do this with a avoidant attachement style person love i am courage

[@VenusVoice]

I'd wish one of my ex would see this but he let me down and with his lack of awareness and interest in the authentic self, I can't imagine he'd ever end up here and that makes me feel disappointed and let down.

[@WamsyAmsy]

I wish the same for my ex too. He’s just not ready it seems. I’m going through it myself and it’s scary. I have so much to learn and understand, that it is overwhelming at times. I wish I came across her channel a couple years ago when we started having issues. I would have been able to handle a lot of our conflict differently and maybe we would still be together now. 😔🥺

[@periwinkle1]

Maybe his next gf will share this video when she breaks up w/ him 😅

[@lilanedic]

Thanks Teal

[@brqznia336]

A video about humor would be interesting. What does it vibrationaly.

[@AXharoth]

id say its a dispersion of energy

[@picapica201]

I read it helps lightening the brunt force of the truth. It was in channeling from Latwii or Hatonn on llresearch.org

[@cirakovic.ksenija]

A humor is basically a shift in your perspective. And every shift in perspective rises frequency.

[@howmathematicianscreatemat9226]

it opens up our heart chakra for a moment and also the crown chakra is opened. After laughing hard for several hours you will feel suddenly more capable it´s because you are more in touch with the phenomenal wisdom inside you. It brings you to the frequency of love, appreciation and divine ability. This is why abusive tyranns almost never have humor.

[@misslawlesss]

This video speaks directly to me!

[@7heVoiD1]

I think this video will save my life at some point. Thank you, Teal..

[@liambenoit3895]

Teal Swan you know it.

[@MultiWortel]

after seeing all of your videos green screen technology will never be the same for me, thank you

[@DS_398]

Basically most people in the world are still in their two year old egocentric view of the world. I have noticed this in my own life because I remember when I was still in the egocentric child view of the world and that there are many people still acting the same way as a child does. This just shows how immature some people still are and how egocentric many people in the world are still, even when they have a chance to evolve.

[@kenhenry55]

really well done; I see what lack of attunement looks like all around me, in the world. I see it in myself ... and am feeling quite supported in moving more and more towards attunement with me and others.

[@XsatorianX]

Love & Light

[@DezMarivette]

Thank you as always. This comes on the heels of spending a week in close quarters with an old friend - we each experienced the attunement crisis on opposite ends of the spectrum, and I want to take into practice what I’ve processed here today. Lots of Love 💜

[@terryrustad1800]

Wow! ... I resonate with this video in a profound way! Thank You Teal for sharing your knowledge, experience & wisdom to help others! :)

[@christinekangaslampi1425]

Your best video so far Teal.

[@amor2827]

thanks for everything teal youre like the person who i apreciate the most like me now... your teachings save my life and this video is a reminder.

[@stephanied.2488]

Wow! One of your best videos. Thank you Teal! It's been a pleasure to watch your teachings evolve and I must say now that I think they are among the best. Making the esoteric practical and human. Wow. ❤️❤️

[@georgekelley3044]

I just wanted to say thank you so much Teal! You are so refreshingly clear and insightful. Some of your knowledge about relationships has completely opened my eyes. Thank you! So much love to you and yours.

[@georgekelley3044]

@tealswan

[@macoeur1122]

O....M....G......Another amazing video that brings sooooo much clarity. Howwwww! did you get so smart, Teal?

[@tintacarkarratha5764]

Unbelievably profound video.... amazing what comes to you at the right time in life when you are ready for it. Thank you Teal x

[@melissaoconnell5648]

Thank you. This helps. I don't want to be isolated.

[@shaktiveda7041]

I love this video, Teal...I will be watching it over again a couple of more times, at least.You are incredibly sharp, and the time was just right, I needed to hear that.As a child, I used to be hyper-attuned, the way that I can perceive many things even before they happen. I am still quite like that, now a days, but I turned it into a great thing for me and for others. There is nothing wrong to turn something negative into something positive for the self and others...or there is?

[@cyrilgraf5398]

Thank you teal swan

[@117MasterSpartan]

Absolutely wonderful teal, thank you so much I love u loads!

[@FatimaT714]

My ex was the completely unattuned, egocentric one. And I was the hyperattuned one. If we were still talking (which I'm *so* glad we arent), i would send the link of this video to him. I doubt he'd watch it, but I'd send it anyway *if* we were still in contact. After going through that horrible relationship, I realized what I actually *do* want in a partner, and I'm going to seek that when I feel ready. Thank you teal for helping me understand things better.

[@VenusVoice]

Can you do a video for empathic people who have a hard time being empathetic towards the self but easily empathic towards others?

[@barbaraoeltjen2984]

Thank you for helping me understand my codependent life@ 72 years of age and this crazy pandemic world now😘

[@atomcat5031]

The pandemic’s entire problem (& why it’s still here) boils down to this. Thank you for sharing this insight. 💙

[@janetatkinson4440]

Thank you so much Teal . I will practice being attunement in my relationship. ❤

[@rachelmurphy9679]

Omg. Yes. Every word of this is so accurate and exactly how I feel.

[@jackscholze]

Teal, thank you for your profound guidance, it is always a source of healing, promotion of equilibrium, and understanding for me. aloha

[@sethflix]

At 2:35 I was reminded of Lennie in John Steinbeck's "Of Mice and Men" At 4:11 I was reminded of Donal Trump.

[@Keepinitreal55]

your videos are amazing

[@kenadams4142]

Teal Swan, I have been getting attacked while I am sleeping for a while. I will be sleeping then something grabs my arm or chest and pure fear hits me like a switch, and it wont switch off. I am frozen in sleep paralysis also, I immediately know I am in my room I am fully awake and something evil is grabbing me. Once it cuddled up behind me, it felt like a human skeleton. My last encounter it just jumped on me from the waist down, it was really heavy with its arms around me and it screams like you could not imagine. This is a real as anything, I have no history of any crazy stuff until this last few years. I called for my spirit guide to protect me while I slept last night and I woke a few times with something stroking the back of my neck in a downwards motion, almost like a mother would do, and there was no fear. I am hoping this was my spirit guide helping me out. I am not really into this stuff I only started researching it after my attacks. I have never asked for a guides help before, or even know much about them, but I read I should do it for protection if being attacked. Also for the last two months I have been feeling things touch me in my waking life, it feels like fingers stroking my skin gently on my arms, back , legs and a lot on the crown of my head. It feels identical if I repeat touching my finger on my body right after. On refection my last few sleep paralysis and evil spirit encounters ended almost immediately...I though maybe I was getting stronger at breaking out, but now just realized it was probably my guides helping. Maybe that is what the stroking during daytime is, them saying we are here watching over you. I used to laugh at people when they talked about this stuff, now it wont stop happening to me. I am a pretty logical dude and try to face things in a chilled not too serous way as to keep respective...but I could use any tips on dealing with these ''things''. Any solid advice from anyone is appreciated.

[@kenadams4142]

Interesting you say that I have a person who I feel depends on me for comfort/advice. its mutual in a way, but I control the interaction with each other. Not because of the person, I keep controlled distance from everyone, I am pretty individual (whatever that means). This person has bipolar and on may occasions I have said to her she has a really powerful energy feeling. I often lose my thought process around her in the middle of a sentence...it has become a joke between us now. I had no idea living people could effect you like that. Thanks for the information, I might speak to this person and see what she thinks.

[@David53D]

Try Vim Hoff Method breathing and Kundalini Yoga practices. Kundalina Yoga has Crias that address various levels of fear can also strengthen the emotions and the immune system.

[@yiravarga]

There was a lot of advice here for ego centric people. I am on the hyper attuned side, and don’t know anyone who is like me. I also struggle with being aware of my own reality and emotions.

[@sampanthauer]

Really great teal super helpful!!!

[@gbooboop7708]

Amazing! Right on the button! Its not fair that I’m force to be a World Leader.

[@susanyang5870]

"Un-attuned people are like children holding kittens by the neck and don't know what is happening." How do you always find the most accurate analogy to describe something so complicated.

[@helenazavesku7445]

Thank you. You're amazing