Aubrey Gordon is My Opp

[@Ezzie_on_the_internet]

Having lost 30kgs (about 70 pounds) and kept it off for nearly 6 years, I can genuinely say this kind of rhetoric pisses me off. I was so deeply unhappy and unhealthy at 90kgs (200 pounds) and 170cm (5'7"). Now I watch what I eat, exercise and don't blame my medication for my shitty habits. Ozempic could save my mother's life if she could afford it. Morbid obesity is a killer.

[@RatEatRat]

she wants people to gain weight back so badly because she can't stand seeing people succeed where she failed. it's really gross

[@sweettacular9899]

Ding ding ding ding ding! This is all one huuuuuuge big dumb painful charade we all have to endure, just so Aubrey can make herself feel better about poor decisions she’s made and the real-world ramifications that come with them. Literally the entirety of her platform can be boiled down to, “I don’t like thin people because they remind me of what I’m not and wish to be.”

[@sakuradoll7]

@@sweettacular9899sums up fat acceptance

[@venusmcintire3006]

10/10 another banger as per usual! Also I find it very telling that yesterday when Matt was called out on Twitter for invalidating a woman who said “women should be able to fight back against their sexual abusers even if that means killing them” by saying “this is a reactionary take”. When he got called out for speaking over a woman who is speaking from her personal experience and in good faith, he said “oh well you misunderstood me so I don’t have to apologize”. As an excuse to not be hell responsible for his actions. When it was pointed out to him that intentions don’t matter bc harm was done either way, he made it abt himself and posted abt how “sad” he was that he was “misunderstood”. He very clearly has a shallow understanding of political issues yet insists on taking hard stances and speaking over others who are more knowledgeable. He only agrees with what is popular and will gain him profit, and refuses to learn from others that he disagrees with in ANY CAPACITY. the twitter thing is just a more obvious example of the same shit he’s doing here with Aubrey Gordon.

[@emilybrown628]

Maintenance breaks are an important part of the journey!

[@theweyrd]

It took me a few tries to figure that out, but I totally agree.

[@Lackingwanderlust]

After losing 38 lbs four years ago, I have regained 10 in the last 6 months. No mystery - I’ve been in a very stressful season where I’ve been a full time caregiver while working full time. No exercise. Eating out of hospital vending machines. Poor sleep. I’m trying really hard not to best myself up. I went back to the gym this week and am just trying to maintain until after Christmas. Your channel is my motivation!

[@melsky]

That is a lot to deal with! I hope you have a good of a holiday season as possible under the circumstances. I had a really terrible situation going on during Christmas two years ago and I used it as an excuse to eat whatever I wanted. That was a bad idea and I really wish I had found some other ways to deal with all the stress.

[@AngelycaUnfiltered]

I love how much she projects "what thin people think about". Whenever I hang out with my thin friends, we only talk about work, youtube and people we know that are getting married. These are friends I have had for 10-15 years. They have never talked about fat people or dieting. Most thin people literally don't even think about obesity or obese people. They actually live in totally different worlds and algorithms.

[@vegasa2067]

That community is narcissistic as hell. No one fucking cares if a stranger is fat!!!!!!!! Imagine having that much “main character” brain rot that you think every single person you see is thinking about YOU and not all the stressful shit going on in their lives. Their projection could put IMAX out of business.

[@sarahburrier9123]

Wow. This is eye opening and encouraging. I'm going to resist talking about my journey with close friends and family a bit and see how often these topics (don't) come up!

[@sweettacular9899]

This is it. Many FAs like Aubrey are too damn social media brained to even realize just how far outside the mainstream the algorithms and echo-chambers they inhabit have driven them. Aubrey sounds absolutely UNHINGED and beyond out of touch to your everyday American who is just living their life. Most people are NOT hopelessly, pathologically obsessed with fat people and body size like Aubrey is.

[@mercurymay39]

She really is a world-class mindreader

[@lissa3046]

I’ll be at 5 years in like.. April? & I’ve fluctuated 10-20 lbs in those five years but I currently remain 50 lbs lighter than I started & I’m dialing back in to lose 20-30 more lbs after Christmas so I can go from a lil overweight to in the middle of a normal BMI.

[@kclaire2358]

Alex you are so helpful!!

[@Amanda-rd8fl]

Did the host really just say that people aren't normally excited about medical breakthroughs?

[@julia-o8f9h]

I thought the same thing! What an insane statement. Like people don’t get excited by new cancer or Alzheimers research even if they don’t have the condition??

[@vegasa2067]

I know it isn’t true, but damn that kind of hurt because I have worked with Nobel prize winners and I am always excited to talk to people about the research (if they ask). I can’t believe these people think no one cares about science….

[@existentialgamer9206]

Funny you mention Wall-E because when I saw the “happy” ending when the SMO people who’d spent their entire lives in scooters never moving and being SMO my first thought was, if this was real life these guys would probably drop like flies because their entire lives were peak unhealthy to an insanely degree. And now these people are gonna have to recolonize the earth and their bones and hearts are probably not ready for any kind of work 😂 Yes yes it’s overthinking it and I get it was supposed to be feel-good, and I understand the metaphor (the obesity represents infancy and they’re finally being “born” into full lives) but yeah Because everyone knows how incredibly unhealthy that society would be in real life

[@happycocobean9419]

I may go through some imposter syndrome , but thin guilt ???? Don’t care ,dont know her ,and never will 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@l4ym3n8]

I lost 100 lbs what I just realized was 13 years ago - also hypo. I’m 105 lbs now. Did it the old school way, caloric deficit and lots of exercise. It’s strange because I don’t think about having lost weight all these years because it really is like changing your lifestyle to the point where you become a different person or a drastically different version of yourself. What remains the same is the humility. I was 19 and although I had the conscious awareness I was no longer the DUFF, I also didn’t go through my 20s feeling like the hot skinny one either. The fallacy of fat acceptance is that both the physical, social, and behavioral parts of you will all magnetize back towards the fat experience after you have lost weight. In my experience, the if you actually do take on a lifestyle change, the physical and behavioral parts of you will magnetize towards thinness and health, but the social part of you will remain somewhat magnetized towards the fat experience because that’s how you were socialized - that is, if you grew up overweight. “”Thin guilt”” I think is pretty new and only relevant to FA circles and didn’t exist back when I was losing weight so I have never felt it. Cheers to that.

[@aniE1869]

Aubrey, that's not what a vomitorium is! If she did just the slightest bit of research she would know that.

[@RatEatRat]

you're overestimating her. she doesn't even know what a calorie is

[@sweettacular9899]

Honestly it wouldn’t surprise me at all if Aubrey does essentially zero reading or research and just presumes herself to be such an unimpeachable authority on all things fat, that she doesn’t need to. Either way, that small, careless error tells you a lot about the rigor with which she establishes her arguments IMHO.

[@DS-pw1ot]

Am going to feel zero “fit guilt” Zero 😂

[@ghadasaid9857]

Your videos are so sobering! Thank you 🙏

[@Alicia-Rene]

No thin guilt over here. Still waiting on my thin privilege too -⏰

[@YogaYoga-x2k]

Yo , this video has me CACKLING 💀🤣

[@mightykaytor]

To the introverts: it gets easier, just be nice to yourself in the meantime. 8 years out of obesity and I recently had a moment of perspective while working with an extremely socially anxious person. I would always come away from our interactions thinking "they're so cute and nice, I wish they didnt think everyone was judging them so harshly." And then I had to pause, because I could have been talking about my past self. I have social disabilities and will NEVER be completely comfortable around other humans; I used my weight as an excuse to not participate, to preemptively reject myself before others could. Getting to a normal size (being perceived 😱) was a lot to deal with, especially since crazy personal style is a passion of mine. But stick with it and figure out the best way to carry those uncomfortable feelings (uhhh... lift with your knees, I guess?) because being uncomfortable will not cause you to disintergrate or explode into a swarm of bats, and in time and with self-compassion you will get as good at handling your discomfort as you are at maintaining the small changes that make Aubrey Gordon cry.

[@sakuradoll7]

awe luv this ❤

[@existentialgamer9206]

Sorry to spam your comments 😂 but man her excuses about rejecting ozempic tick me off. Now I’m the last person to recommend a drug (because I mostly don’t trust pharmaceuticals and especially ones touted as “miracle drugs”) but she’s so gdamn FLIPPANT about it. She is HUGE. Maintaining a size like hers involves a TON of eating and serious mental health issues that compel you to force the boundaries of your body and eat even more. She sounds like an addict in denial And I know you know, Alex, but I also know because I was only ever a small fat and I ate a LOT. I would literally buy a whole box of cookies and eat the entire thing in one afternoon. I ate an entire bag of plain chips with a whole TUB of onion dip in one day, more than once. I ate lots of takeout not caring what it was. I ate candy and drank energy drinks And I only topped out at 235! 🤯 So to get 200-300lbs overweight, the sheer amount must be astronomically more than I ate, which is the truth that people like Aubrey are trying to LIE about Makes me mad! It’s the gaslighting for me 😡

[@vegasa2067]

Ummm sry sweaty but ppl only get fat from not eating. Food doesn’t make you fat and also type 2 diabetes isn’t real.

[@mackie490]

When Aubrey Gordon brought up Roman vomitoriums in reference to the Hunger Games, I was surprised because a vomitorium is a type of exit not a place to puke your food. It's a myth that a vomitorium was for vomiting food.

[@existentialgamer9206]

@@mackie490 yeah I caught that too, it’s a long-debunked myth

[@meganwalker27]

I was really sad last night and I'm a comfort eater - I ate a shit ton of peanut butter fudge, to the point I actually felt a little sick after. I forgive myself but I will be taking steps to make sure I don't do that again. I have been doing really well in that regard until last night. I'm not going to dwell on it, just going to move forward. I can and will make better choices, I can and will do better!

[@Lackingwanderlust]

Don’t beat yourself up. I’m saying that to myself as well. I’m working on taking off 10 lbs of regain before it turns into 30. We got this!

[@lug358]

The key is changing that mechanism...to find something else to do when you feel a certain way. Or changing some food choices. For me, i discovered the world of tea (good quality real tea) while i was on my weightloss jorney and it helped me a lot. Because literally having a cup of tea would make me feel saciated by a lot. And that helped me so much with my deficit.

[@existentialgamer9206]

So relate to the regret 😔 ugh 20+ years futzing around with my weight and feeling hopeless and the realization it wasn’t ONLY because information in America about certain conditions and diet is totally wrong. It definitely is, hello scammy “food pyramid”. Hello doctors not understanding PCOS: “meh, we don’t understand your crazy ovaries, here’s some birth control pills, see you next year. Ps lose some weight lol.” But no, I can’t only blame others because it was also my own mind prison keeping me stuck. My toxic ritualistic mindsets. It’s like that feeling when you’re trying to solve a puzzle forever and when you finally discover the solution, it was SO EASY the whole time and you were only psyching yourself out and you wasted all this time. Feels bad, man But I can’t stay in the regret, because that’s a subtle way back into the toxic ritualistic mindset! The only way to go is forward

[@Mullethaver]

Amen! Onward and upward! No looking back

[@CassielSardavic]

It kills me that she said Body Positivity was just thin people soothing themselves of their...I guess, guilt. As if BOPO hasn't developed into a mass cope for a majority of fat people to deny reality.

[@mia1191]

What?!? Everyone gets excited about medical breakthrough. Do they think people weren’t celebrating when insulin or EpiPen were invented / introduced to the world??

[@vegasa2067]

These are the same people who don’t believe in the laws of thermodynamics.

[@sweettacular9899]

@@vegasa2067I feel like you’re kinda being facetious, and it is hard to believe, but Aubrey did in fact deny basic thermodynamics in a throwaway comment she made during one of these podcast episodes, where she was saying something to the effect of, “diet, exercise, counting calories, etc. things that we know don’t really do much.” She couches it in tentative statements that sound more palatable because they seem to allow for doubt or interpretation, but when you really sit down and analyze what she’s directly saying, it’s like Flat Earther level denial of basic physics. She’s saying that counting calories and restricting energy consumption somehow won’t work, as if we don’t understand what calories are or how fat gets stored. Aubrey is in profound denial about fundamental and basic principles of physics, i.e. thermodynamics and conservation of energy, as well as essentially the whole framework of modern human anatomy, physiology, and medicine.

[@Beecki]

2025 is our goal weight year

[@Bubbles382]

OMG Survivors guilt killed me😂 I'm dead now.

[@xxx-r4h9u]

1:08:36 "Barf and eat more food oops sorry it's an eating disorder." She is very close to saying the quiet part out loud here. To be diagnosed with bulimia, binge eating must be a present symptom. Her allusion implies that without these weight loss solutions to purge oneself of food/fat, there is still chronic binge eating that which occurs for many overweight individuals. Does she mean to make the indirect claim that someone she knows or potentially herself has BED?

[@Loud2013]

This is shocking! they're trying so hard to treat fatness like an immutable characteristic ( like race) that they've forgotten that people can have changing bodies ( that FA's sometimes say is inescapable as you age but simultaneously losing weight is also impossible 🤔🤔) This is literally nonsense 😂😂😂😂😂

[@existentialgamer9206]

Aubrey isn’t just fat, she is SMO. She must eat a huge amount of food to maintain her weight. This bold faced lie FAs tell, that they just “happen” to be fat and don’t eat more than skinny people is so so dangerous. Fats who are not FA, and former fats, know that this is complete BS.

[@julia-o8f9h]

I think of breaking the deficit as a mini bulk and put an extra emphasis on hypertrophy

[@sarahburrier9123]

"Better looking wallflower" got me! 1🤣

[@julia-o8f9h]

45:32 thin people really don’t think or care that much about fat people. Sorry, they just don’t. “The heros in fat people’s stories” 🙄 give me a break

[@SirThinks2Much]

She's projecting, methinks. She wants to be the hero for fat people so she's assuming thin people want to do that too, and she's mad that Ozempic use is undermining her heroic efforts.

[@missyzorel]

I love your commentary on Aubrey Gordan and other FA's podcasts. I don't dislike Aubrey but it seems her body issues stem from childhood. I notice on her Maintenance Phase podcasts she correlates "living in a fat body" experiences with her childhood. In her defense, we both grew up during the heroine chic era. Kate Moss was the Bella Hadid of our time. Aubrey understands oppression in marginalized communities, but fatness is not a protected group. Like you said, weight is a preventable issue. It can be corrected and this coming from a former 300lb woman.

[@sweettacular9899]

So my question for Aubrey is, when should I expect to suddenly gain all the weight back, and more? I started losing weight in February of 2019, and I’ve gone from 265lbs down to 165lbs. We’re only like two months away from the 6 year mark for me and there’s no weight gain in sight, so I’m just wondering when I’m going to suddenly regain, as Aubrey assures me is inevitable?

[@vodkalatke]

I used to think Maintenance Phase was funny, just a funny podcast about silly diet books. After looking at their reddit I realize it's not about joking around, it's about justifying never improving your health by using a lot of social justice language.

[@alexpeltier3330]

It bothers me that FA misuse disabilities as a cover for their own ends, or want to be treated in similar ways. Autistic here, not doing amazing with my weight, but after hitting a peak at 235 lb at 5’2”, I’ve never gotten back up there. Currently obese, but not morbidly, and I’m able to function much better. Life is more stressful for me, but that doesn’t mean I get to be an FA and give up. (Also, my preference for routine helps me stick to healthy foods- I’m not tired of eating the same breakfast and lunch- and once I fit exercise into my day, I’m unlikely to change my plans by skipping it).

[@sweettacular9899]

They don’t actually care about protecting disabled people or preventing ableism in society. This is all a deeply cynical ploy to weaponize and exploit the goodwill/empathy that already exists for disabled people, and then clumsily graft it onto the bumper of the Fat Acceptance train so they can use it for their own agenda. It’s pretty sick when you think about it.

[@Mullethaver]

I lost 85lbs 7 years ago and kept it off sooo

[@bigdude101ohyeah]

1:08:27 She doesn't even know what Vomitorium means

[@ZenHands]

Have you seen her documentary?

[@vegasa2067]

10:06 gaylor confirmed 😂😂😂😂

[@Beebeeanka]

Aubrey talks and talks but never actually says anything.

[@vegasa2067]

She and Virgie Tovar have that in common.

[@sweettacular9899]

@@vegasa2067vapid pseudo-intellectuals who liberally deploy meaningless buzzwords like “structural, systemic, oppression, marginalized,” etc etc are fairly common in the humanities disciplines. I attended the University of California and these types of individuals were an absolute menace in my classes, lol. The skill they’ve mastered is emotional manipulation, not intellectual stimulation: manipulate emotionally with charged buzzwords that do the work for you, don’t engage the intellect too deeply or directly.