Autism and Haircuts! When You Are Ready For A New Hairstyle!

Gabe is autistic and nonspeaking. He has struggled for years to get his hair cut, but has overcome this challenge! Now he sees two amazing hairdressers who he feels very comfortable with! This is Lilly Nizer and she specializes with neurodivergent individuals! Lilly gave Gabe a Modern Mullet!
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[@janetcarlisle4615]

A very understanding hair stylist, who engaged and included Gabe throughout the whole procedure, letting him know what comes next so there are no surprises. Loving the haircut Gabe, you look so handsome.

[@fortheloveofgabe]

We agree!

[@suehurrell134]

Gabe should be a model he is stunning. ❤

[@Сергей-ъ9ж]

Присоединяюсь к комментариям,мастер молодец он чувствует Гейба и мальчик доверяет ему.

[@Dianah1952]

He is being very patient. I'm impressed with him!

[@patriciasaiia8341]

She is truly a gifted person! Her quiet manner and sweet way of talking and showing is nothing but someone who cares. Bless her.

[@harvestmoon_autumnsky]

Haircuts can be so hard for all of us, but that woman did a good job keeping it streamlined and fast. Gabe did wonderful.

[@bartholomewesperanza3442]

Easy for me, bud. I’m a pro

[@danielpaschjr3547]

My brother and I both have ASDs. My brother has very high functioning autism and I have Asperger's Syndrome with social phobia. When my little brother was very little he would try to bash his head on the ground and occasionally bite himself and sometimes others when upset. A doctor, and some other people asked my mom if she put a helmet on him and she was offended. What we did as a family was to hold him against us when he would try and harm himself. We'd soothingly tell him that we loved him and after a while eventually stopped doing it altogether. He also had trouble with potty training and speech. After he started school he started doing different kinds of therapy and he made unbelievable progress in every area. He never was in special education and eventually he started doing better than the other kids with schoolwork. In 9th grade his teacher developed a special plan/program for him so he would not be bored with the work. He was part of a group of 3 who she did this for. He also blossomed socially, making many friends and even having a couple girlfriends throughout highschool. Now he is 24 and has been working at Meijer for three and a half years. He makes $23/hour full time. Because of how particular and 'by the book he is, which is a common trait in people with his condition, he is the trainer of new employees. What I'm saying is this; autism and other disorders on the spectrum doesn't mean that their/your lives are over with and that they won't be able to lead a normal life. I myself was mute until the age of four, until I started an early childhood program. It's not that I didn't show any emotions;I just didn't speak. I started speaking shortly after I started attending and it was like a highly educated adult. The teacher, Donnette (only I was allowed to call her by her first name) lovingly called me her little professor. I also had trouble going to the bathroom, which I later found scientists said is because of the brain's disconnect with the intestines by not sending the signal to go to the bathroom. I had to spend a week in the hospital when I was five because I didn't go to the bathroom after my mom and the doctor tried everything. But, later on things improved greatly although I still have problems to this day. I'm now 38 and will be 39 on Valentine's Day. My life hasn't always been easy but I have no problem living on my own and taking care of everything a 'normal' adult does. Joel Malone

[@kellymichelley]

Thank you for the insight from someone who has experienced such things. I found it a very interesting read.

[@GoniaB]

Jestem z Polski. Bardzo dziękuję Ci za tę piękną opowieść. Tyle w niej miłości.:)) Pozdrawiam serdecznie i życzę wszystkiego co najlepsze , samego dobra ❤

[@dennistucker9081]

You are very brave; this was enlightening.

[@davidh9844]

Fascinating being able to hear what it's like from the inside, not merely witnessing the deficits. Thank you, and may your life only continue to get better.

[@MilaKorolyova]

You are very strong❤❤❤

[@bbsteele671]

As a cosmetologist myself this brings me so much joy. I left the business to become a caretaker for adults with autism & cerebral palsy. I loved watching this to get some ideas to help me make them more comfortable. I also shave them which is still something I'm perfecting. You have a beautiful soul.

[@catH727]

Love his stylist interactions with him.

[@sachaehn4924]

I cant get over what a handsome young gentleman Gabe has grown into. Happy New Year everyone 🎉

[@mxslick50]

Gabe's eyes are so piercing, you can see him processing everything. He is a fine young man with a bright future. I have an autistic nephew who is verbal, a bit socially challenged but incredibly intelligent and shows a lot of compassion.

[@Christine-g2f]

Love how she told and showed Gabe what she was doing and gave him a moment to take it in.

[@boxerbguy]

I have watched several of Gabes videos and wonder why it took me 84 years to understand this aspect of life. I am sorry I wish I could have understood and done more to reach out. Thank you for bringing some educating to my life. I will teach my childern and grand children what you what us to learn and understand.

[@kellymichelley]

I wish I could "love" this comment, instead of just "like".

[@beccalynn767]

Gabe is such a kind and sweet soul 🥹

[@trendylosercat]

gabe sat SO still throughout that whole haircut. we’re all so proud of you gabe! your progress is amazing ❤️⭐️

[@LoriMcChesney-i8k]

She was really patient and kind; and knew what she was doing. It takes a special person to do what she did . 😯😭🙏

[@BrittanyCocchino]

Both that stylist and Gabe are absolute champs for their own unique reasons.

[@Whyme-w7j]

Bravo to Gabe for being so cooperative during his haircut and brava to that wonderful hairstylist!

[@susanengel-ix8bl]

He did a great job and she was so good with him.😊

[@ChristinaFromFlint]

Gabe, you did great and your new style makes you look so grown up! You're a tall MAN!!

[@markwake3943]

She didn't even cut it properly and it looked like she was rushing it to get it over and done with. His hair looked the exact same as his original hairstyle. I understand that he might not want to sit in that chair for a long time, but he sat there being patient so she had plenty of time to cut it shorter.

[@ChristinaFromFlint]

@markwake3943 If you don't have an autistic child, with sensory processing issues, and a teenage attitude, you truly cannot understand. Even cutting AN INCH is a victory. Have a blessed day, sir 🙏

[@ChristinaFromFlint]

@markwake3943 Cutting one square inch of an autistic child's hair is a victory. MOST barbers/stylists won't even take a moderately to severely autistic client. She did great. Gabe looks great. And I hope you have a great day.

[@BnApFwFT_30]

​@@markwake3943 Well, it just so happened🤷‍♂️everyone need to do their hair btw

[@chichiba2981]

​@@markwake3943 seriously 🤬? mind blowing this...

[@jilajila100]

Your videos help me with my patients who have autism. I am sure to talk directly to them now rather than to only their caregivers. I understand them more now, thank you! Gabe knows the haircut is important and he did awesome! And the stylist talks him through it.

[@kkmcknight5463]

Well done to the stylist. She’s awesome ❤

[@patevans3709]

I so appreciate stylists who focus on their customer, and give positive reinforcement. So many feel a need to have an ongoing conversation with the parent or others in the shop, and that can be upsetting to the one getting a haircut. All children and youth do better in a calm, quiet environment. When the loud music came on in the other room that was almost too much stimulation for me--I am glad Gabe was not distracted. He is so handsome!

[@racheldillinger6881]

Amazing stylist she's really compassionate to Gabe , 😊 looking great Gabe you are a brave young man. ❤ and always make me smile 😊

[@Jenna-Roo]

He has such gorgeous hair to begin with but she's incredible with him! Sooo sweet! ❤😊🙏🏼

[@beth1412001]

I love how calm and patient she is with Gabe. My brother wouldn’t let the barber cut his hair. It was to much for him.

[@patriciabermingham2039]

What an incredible lady. So respectful to Gabe.

[@tinetine2229]

C'est super comme elle implique Gabe sur ce qu'elle fait et utilise. Elle le respecte et s'adapte à lui. Il y a une belle interaction entre eux 🙏🙏🙏

[@robind6300]

That environment was overstimulating for me with ADHD. Can't imagine with autism. Noises, lots of detailed objects and touch. He handled it well.

[@Kendall-LM]

would have been so much better without that tv

[@adrowd40]

So gentle!!! Well done man!!!!!

[@lisad4013]

It’s insane how grown he is! You should ask him how he feels about modelling 😎 I’m blown away - I can’t imagine what it feels like from your perspective 🥹 Mama, you’re a true champion. I’ve said it before but watching you advocate and push for Gabe and expose him to new things and work so tirelessly to hone in on his passions and strengths and always pushing him to be his best self is incredible. More parents need to see this 💕☀️

[@Marcel_Audubon]

modeling? wtf???

[@Ella-fv4hm]

@@Marcel_Audubonhe’s handsome it was supposed to be a compliment 🙂

[@cherryslurpeez]

modeling can be a very stressful environment for young people, much less for people with disabilities

[@kimsule5169]

He is growing into such a HANDSOME young man !! The older he gets, the more rugged & chiseled his features become. 😊

[@sophi463]

Rugged? 🤨🤨

[@kimsule5169]

@sophi463Rugged means a man with strong, masculine features. Chiseled means strongly and clearly defined

[@rolierolie7591]

Haha I really like him he can be hilarious!!! He was really what are you doing with that water 😂 Happy New Year for you all 🍀 Warm hug from Amsterdam

[@feivel33bln]

Gabe is just so sweet and just adorable!!! Thank you to everyone who looks after this/your son, brother, friend or just young person so warmly and lovingly day in and day out, even if it sometimes doesn't seem (is) as easy as the videos suggest. MY DEEPEST RESPECT AND HIGHEST APPRECIATION TO EVERYONE OUT THERE WHO JUST SEE THE PERSON AND NOTHING MORE...!!! THX..!!!

[@rainbowstarmced191]

Forgive my ignorance, just curious if there’s a possibility for Gabe to be able to speak in the future? These videos are so wonderful to watch! The adoration and love between the 3 of you guys is palpable 💜💜

[@Hollister146]

He's been saying a couple words He has a tablet he speaks through but he also has a speech therapist He speaks through by spelling

[@lucialovecraft]

Hi! I have a brother very much like Gabe. He’s non verbal 99 percent of the time but he can say words like “no” “light” “car” “home” he also has echolalia He uses pictures to communicate or hand gestures. Autism is a very wide spectrum, some of more verbal then others. Some will learn to say more words and phrases, some may never talk at all. But I’m so glad in todays society we have so much more tools to help with communication ❤

[@FLIPPY-w3z]

No

[@bakonandguideguy6328]

Spelling has offered him an avenue to communicate. Who knows what the future could offer?

[@poepiebuitendijk3988]

No

[@shirleygiordano7627]

That stylist did so well with comforting Gabe and showing him each step she was taking. Gabe did great, I'm so glad! 😊❤

[@iwantmy_sk844]

She's understanding and gifted, and Gabe´s understanding, gifted, and HANDSOME! 'Seems like a good match you've found, and I hope that she knows the tremendous value of what she's chosen to do (and is rewarded!). GABE WORE THE CAPE!!! ...and I'm sittin' here in my own space, thinking of Gabe and hoping that HE got to celebrate somehow -- I, so much, want for Gabe to benefit from feeling good about himself *from inside-out (not simply complimented)! He has been trying things that he had refused "for forever" (and he will have a different life, for each thing that he blows-through.....seemingly "outta nowhere!")! Go Gabe!

[@miltongurl28]

Amazing stylist! So incredibly sensitive and considerate each step of the cut. And a handsome haircut, Gabe!

[@colleenmccann4431]

Gabe is the best. So sweet and kind.❤

[@janedougherty3327]

Love how professional and understanding the hair stylist is!!!❤

[@tefy1637]

Gabe luce genial! Y su estilista fue muy amable con él. Hermoso vídeo! ❤ Un saludo para la hermosa familia 😊

[@iwasmidnightrain]

More people need to communicate with the autistic community like this hairdresser!

[@racyharris5471]

She was so great with Gabe and patient. Very nice hair cut! Gabe did an awesome job sitting for her. Great Job Gabe!

[@SARGENTO007A]

Gabe is doing great! And his hairstylist is very good. He looks very handsome.

[@shirleygiordano7627]

That stylist is super cool! ❤❤❤

[@melissabalducci4209]

Wow. 🤩 Such a wonderful stylist and he is so sweet and handsome.

[@gregorydavis2568]

both these two are amazing. as well as mom. He could definitely be a model.

[@TayWoode]

I thought that too, apparently he has done it, but it must be difficult as you have to look and walk and act a certain way and do all the pouty style looks. Definitely has the face for it

[@mariegarrett5204]

Such a sweet and handsome fella. He did so well! The hairstylist was fantastic. ❤

[@Eliza_sun]

We have a stylist that is fantastic as well. I’m not always a fan of the cut but he does exactly what my son wants. He comes in on his day off to provide a haircut for him., so the salon is quiet. These types of people are few and far between ❤ as a little tip: let her know somethings that Gabe has really been enjoying and have her chat about that during his cut. And have a photo of what you want his hair to loo like. It really helps her also be able to find some things to distract and also get to know him so he always knows he’s safe with her. Our guy always puts a movie or tv show on while cutting my sons hair (he has a TV in his salon) I’m not sure what Gabe prefers but my son doesn’t want to know what’s next unless it’s the clippers. Unsolicited advice, as of course, you know you’re guy best ❤

[@karliechardi2229]

Now that's a good stylist. Loved Gabe's longer hair because of the waves. But what a handsome guy he is also after the ✂️. Good job Gabe sitting through it.

[@MilaKorolyova]

Everything in this video is cute and right. A knowledgeable master and a wonderful child. I'm hugging you. Hello from Russia❤❤❤ He's a very sweet boy and a wonderful hairdresser.

[@ellencroncota568]

What a wonderful girl! You gave him such a great cut too. Gabe is so handsome!😇

[@maranathacomelord7115]

I love the look he kept giving her with the spray bottle. He such a handsome man.❤

[@NotSarahLee358]

I absolutely treasure the hair stylist!! ❤❤❤ The little things like being cautious for quick movements, knowing that he wants to have eyes on mom, and just explaining the process throughout with positive reinforcement!! Also, Gabe did SO well!!!

[@sliceserve234]

she was SO good with him, bless the hair stylist's heart, the world is in need of a LOT more like her

[@SweetUniverse]

Gabe's physical movements are poetry. He also has a great profile. ✌✌

[@TheTishy44]

Nicely done to both of u. Stylist and customer.😊

[@christineheard4116]

What a Great stylist who knows how to work with him. I love that she showed him and let him feel vibration so he knew what was going to take place!♥️😘

[@thewayitis35]

Wow! He did so well! ❤️ Proud of you, Gabe! ☺️

[@MurphyFarm2014]

What a lovely lady... so gentle with our Darling Boy! Thank you! 😊 ❤ fr CB NS 🇨🇦 🍁

[@user-loismj]

Very great hairdresser. And very well behaved client. Between the both of them, I would never make a change. ♥️ ☺️

[@lisaroberts7926]

Gabe has a great head of hair. He was so patient. The end result looks awesome 👌

[@Transfromjapan]

He's all grown ❤ sending love and warm to gabe 🧿

[@Dogwalker8]

You are truly great at what you do. You have a wonderful way of making him comfortable.

[@carolamato5652]

Nice to see you on KZbin Gabe, looking very handsome as usual!

[@janetp5956]

Gabe is such a handsome young man.

[@grizeldavidal6962]

What a lovely, and understandable hairdresser❤

[@Maruelia]

Such a handsome young man and such a wonderful mom and caring hairstylist. Thanks for sharing

[@Berrr_Is_The_Word]

14:45 Awww he wasn’t ready to leave lol! How handsome! She and Gabe did an excellent job! ❤🎉

[@DaveGrohlsillegitimateChild]

Wow she did an amazing job!!! And so fast!

[@DistilledVoice]

HELLO!!! Well done, Gabe. You did good. I wish people shared or educated themselves more about this stuff. It wasn't until I was diognosed I realised what was happening in my own head. I hope some sort of world wide association comes together for people like us, Gabe. We are amazing people we just need patience ❤❤ have a great day my friend and brother. Much love

[@lauriesparza742]

Hey handsome ❤ You are doing so well with your haircut and being pretty still for that wonderful lady . It’s so nice to see you Gabe ❤

[@lindagrapes8044]

Such a handsome young man, Such beautiful hair. Hairdresser was awesome with Gabe.

[@alinahart1239]

Wow some people are just amazing at their craft! This hairstylist was so understanding. Very good idea to tahr Gabe there!

[@jasimslife]

Perfect work 🙏🙏🙏all of you ❤❤❤

[@itsjustmama]

Gabe has come a long way when it comes to haircuts!! Awesome hair stylist, she has a lot of knowledge and understanding. Great job Gabe... your haircut is awesome!

[@s.d.4877]

Gabe must feel very safe. He allows himself to be vulnerable. Good job moms.!!!!!!

[@kenyugordey9039]

This is insane...... This woman is just naturally calming and soothing and its like he can feel it, literally.... Great job 👍

[@s.d.4877]

Gabe is a beautiful, lovable and loving young man. He's so adorable.

[@ghlargentg]

What a joy to watch Gabe’s journey and growth. Blessing to all of you and your support community. What a glorious young man.

[@kimmiller7539]

She did a great job with Gabe, he is such a handsome happy young man. 😊❤ bless him

[@Marie-CharlotteJeannot]

He looks sooooo kind and soooo nice ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@carsonlogan1969]

Gabe did so awesome!! Such handsomeness with his new haircut! 💯🙌🏻🥰

[@LikeSomeDude]

It is always amazing to see someone who is really good at doing hair, do their thing. She is obviously a natural and understands what makes her clients look best!

[@DollyDaydreamer-t7l]

Great hairdresser, handsome boy. ❤

[@andrewwalker7214]

The lady cutting his hair is awesome! Very good. 👏🏻

[@petertaplin4365]

What a lovely compassionate woman! She can cut my hair any day!

[@KYRA-zx3ry]

Love the haircut! 😍😍😍 Gabe did so well ❤️❤️❤️

[@judym5637]

Gabe did great! The stylist is Amazing!! 😁

[@raesour2806]

Both Gabe and the hairstylist did so well! I love that every step was explained, and Gabe understood the process, which led to a smooth overall haircut, which looks great on him! We need more hairstylists like this lady, who are patient and understanding, but who are also able to engage and explain the process to make a smoother process overall.

[@FlintGirl810]

Haircuts are so relaxing. 🙂

[@lucialovecraft]

He reminds me so much of my little brother ❤❤❤❤ non verbal and very expressive

[@Berrr_Is_The_Word]

3:10 living for this smile right here! ❤ Gabe makes it look so easy! 4:21 I also noticed it sounded like he said scissors too?! Great job Gabe!

[@rebeccamccready1135]

That hair dresser is just incredible with gabe very understandable how to make him feel comfortable with his process with hishaircut and engages with him and how the Electric scissors work and just incredible caring person that hairdressers should be recommended to all families who there child who have disability and who have autism who are scared getting their hair cut and who can’t sit for longer periods of times she very good and she talk to him to reassure him which just really special person there ♥️♥️♥️ gabe looks really handsome with his new haircut ♥️♥️

[@cheryllawrence2743]

❤️❤️❤️ This Angel happens to be a Hairstylist ❤️❤️❤️

[@Patricia-b9u1p]

My son is autistic and being touched by anyone is hard for him. By anyone other than his family. Impossible. I purchased clippers and cut his hair. He is now 25 situationally mute and is brilliant. He can only speak to myself and his sister. She is in Law school and he is as smart as her.

[@danielpaschjr3547]

Thank you for your channel and letting me share my own story. Gabe is a handsome kid and you're lucky to have him. Even though he doesn't speak he has a very good feel for others. I can tell by his actions. Joel

[@maryward613]

What a handsome young man he is! Mom, you should be proud of him, he's sweet!

[@olicoasters]

He did such a good job. She did such a good job. And he has such a great hair structure, what a lucky duck! Looks great

[@CocoChanelBai]

This was so soothing Gabe did an amazing job and it looks amazing! ❤

[@julievanderleest]

Excellent hairstylist. It’s obvious that she is very engaging and has great understanding about working with people who have autism, and other disabilities, or anxiety about haircuts in general. Also Gabe has really good looking hair! Handsome dude!

[@nicholegottselig6974]

He’s such a sweet guy. Fantastic hairdresser!

[@maaikebouwman1168]

The way how she communicates with Gabe is so gentle and kind. She is good at it! And Gabe looks👌