Autism and Help (Why seeking it is difficult)

Todays video is about the difficulty around getting and seeking help from others. There are many reasons for this that may seem odd for many but they're a very real struggle.

[@NenaLavonne]

Fantastic video!

[@logicalameetsworld]

Thank you for your kind words. I hope your books are coming along nicely.

[@dominic.h.3363]

That's an interesting perspective. I have all the dys- beginning afflictions in the book, so I have become accustomed to seeking out experts to answer my specific questions. Especially with dyscalculia the more information I get as an explanation, the less I understand, because more information doesn't lead to more understanding, just more things to memorize, because seeing the why for the what becomes harder with more info. The shorter the explanation, the better I understand why I need to do something that specific way, so getting the specific answer to my specific problem is the only way for me to learn, I can't extrapolate from a tangentially related problem. Learning by doing is still a big part of what I do, but I do not waste time on trying to figure out something, if dropping a question on Discord will be faster, and doing so I still managed to fast-track a decade worth of progress in 2 years within my current software obsession (now teaching people stuff who earn a living with it), and that part was all me. There is really no need for anyone to feel compelled to reinvent the wheel, efficiently curating and applying preexisting information is something you can feel proud of if you acquired useful knowledge through it in a very short amount of time, because that just means you can make that knowledge work for you sooner, or look for the next thing to learn sooner.

[@logicalameetsworld]

It's not that I never ask for help, I simply struggle in this area due to factors I had no control over growing up among other things mentioned in the video. One thing I have talked about in a previous video is self-worth. That one is still a mountain I have to conquer. I greatly appreciate all of your comments. They give me alot to think about.

[@dominic.h.3363]

@@logicalameetsworld Yea, I see how self-worth would play into that, but so far whenever I tried to acquire something that could be even remotely considered a trade-skill, I did that through a paywall, which gave me a bit of an entitlement to get that information. The only exception to that was my weight loss journey (not really a trade skill so not sure if it's an exception), through which I've lost 160 pounds without spending a dime, but in that case, it was easy enough to sift through information and check their validity through trial and error observation on myself. Let me tell you, looking the way I do today did nothing to improve my self-worth, but I never thought of self-worth as something to conquer, rather to circumvent when it becomes a hurdle. I mean, I was born paraplegic to begin with, there is only so much I can do to make me feel better about myself, I'll still be a wheelchair user, so the reasons for being a social pariah are twofold in my case.