Autism, guilt, and forgiveness

[@DrMommyB]

As a neurodivergent parent and Psychologist, I say well done! Please keep making content! My son has Autism and cultivating our relationship/ breaking intergenerational cycles is huge a priority. There is mutual Forgiveness daily, so thanks for explaining his continued grace ❤. He inspires me to be more self compassionate and I love him for that.

[@allneurotypesoffice7037]

Thank you so much for your very kind and encouraging comment! It is wonderful to see your appreciation of your son and how you have developed more self compassion through him. Wishing you and your son the very best.

[@smedleycheswith1272]

In its most pure form, forgiveness is the formal acknowledgement of a transgression. The judgement is left implicit as a courtesy.

[@allneurotypesoffice7037]

Thank you very much for your comment! This is really interesting -- you're right that the acknowledgement of a transgression is essentially the sole factor that every definition of forgiveness shares.

[@peteracton2246]

Thanks for another thought provoking video Sam. I have heaps of "justice sensitivity". I've pondered why and not really got the answer(s). I have an expectation of honesty and an incomprehension of duplicity. I'm a shy loner but open to people and all people are the same (equal) to me so I can't comprehend the tribal politics they use to run the planet. I yearn to be able to help but that would be practical help not emotional support, although I do try with the latter. Sometimes our helpfulness is taken as control-freakery unfortunately. Apparently we are more likely to be whistle-blowers too, which isn't really compatible with a job in intelligence!

[@allneurotypesoffice7037]

Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment, Peter! The whistleblower comment is especially interesting -- I've always wondered if justice sensitivity means autistic people are more likely to report concerns. I think your approach (having a lot of justice sensitivity, treating people equally, and wanting to help in practical ways) is a valuable and needed one. Sorry that your desire to help has been misunderstood so much.

[@peteracton2246]

@@allneurotypesoffice7037 Thanks Sam. When a high profile whistleblower hits the news I wonder are they? ...

[@Segra13]

@@peteracton2246 Edward Snowden comes to mind..

[@erinb2887]

Brilliant, thank you.🙏🏼💓

[@allneurotypesoffice7037]

You're very welcome! Thank you for the encouraging comment.

[@Segra13]

Your videos are always so thoughtful and informative! Thank you!

[@allneurotypesoffice7037]

Thank you so much for your very kind comment!

[@peteracton2246]

Spot on with the comprehensive memory too. I do remember learning to walk (probably younger than two years old). I believe diagnosis helps us realise that a lot of issues are us and not the world. After this we are more likely to accept and confess to our "shortcomings" or biases. I have to add, we do have strengths too!

[@allneurotypesoffice7037]

That's so interesting that your memory starts before 2! I imagine child psychologists could learn a lot if they collaborated with a focus group of autistic individuals who can actually remember these early ages and potentially provide insight on the child's perspective during (typically) early milestones like walking! I definitely agree we have strengths! Personally, I believe most traits (autistic or not) have the potential to used for good.

[@peteracton2246]

@@allneurotypesoffice7037 True Sam. And we compliment each other so the "team" achieves more. Best wishes and thanks again for great content.