Autism Memes that will make you want to live another day

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00:00 Meme time!
00:29 Do you think about dying?
01:06 T-Rex Arms
01:40 DO YOUR TAXES
02:39 Cute aliens
04:26 Autism vs DMs
05:35 Autism vs Phone calls
07:33 Mysterious uncles
07:53 Your life is a prank
08:40 Are you a pigeon?
09:48 Are you comfortable?
10:17 Help
10:55 I'm a box
11:48 Where's your pencil sharpener?
12:48 Are you really relaxing?
13:25 Drowning autistic skeletons
14:50 Your parents' undiagnosed autism
15:29 PINGU
16:59 YOU'RE A MAGIC SKELETON
17:46 Are Crocs Autistic?
18:56 Corporeal husk
19:23 Let's be WORSE
20:17 When I was young...
21:30 Did you go to bed late or are you a good person?
22:07 Comic sans FTW
22:35 Are cats autistic?
22:45 The horrors persist...
23:22 STOP STIMMING
25:26 Are you a snail?
26:08 Autistics, Choose your Pasta
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[@imautisticnowwhat]

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[@AntjedePantje]

These memes were 🔥🔥! I feel so called out by so many of them 😂 I'm kind of sad that I don't have the mental capacity to keep up with a discord now, lol (I get really overwhelmed by all the notifications and the urge to want to read EVERYTHING but also don't want to spend my whole day online)

[@egodeathalone]

​@LewisEthridge_95 unfortunately you have to be a paying patron to join and get kicked out if you stop paying. Pretty disappointing that it's not inclusive, a free one could be easily made...

[@mibouloppe]

Hope you did your taxes!

[@Drawdek]

Now I am curious. Did you do your taxes on time?

[@sunnisideupplz3920]

With the night owl part, I saw another autistic creator say that it makes sense that they prefer the night, because usually there are less expectations of what you are supposed to do with your time, as well as there is far less stimulation typically. It's dark out, and people are asleep. It all resonated with me pretty well. There's a sort of freedom of the night that I've always liked.

[@PossumMedic]

same! 🦉Less sounds, sights and people to make small talk with 🥰😂🙌‍Winter is great for this too!

[@najrenchelf2751]

Hmm, people say that about the early morning hours too, except at least in the summer, you do get some blessed quiet moments with sunlight. :)

[@clicheguevara5282]

That’s exactly it for me too.

[@marcusfridh8489]

I have the sleep pattern that is like this: i fall asleep early in the evening, wakes up about midnight, are awake for about 2-3 hours before i fall asleep again and wake up one or two hours later. And then i cant sleep anymore that night. Sometimes i can take an hour nap in the afternoon. And i allways has to have sounds in the background like radio, podcast, youtube to be able to sleep.

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

Night people are just neurologically different to begin with. The way that sleep works for us is different and there are different needs from our sense organs for being up at night. Being a dedicated night person is probably not that much less severe than being autistic. It impacts a large part of the brain and body.

[@PurpleRhymesWithOrange]

I so connect with the "feeding myself isn't a habit". It is my companion's job to make sure I do not go consecutive days without eating.

[@imautisticnowwhat]

Same here!!

[@TheDopekitty]

I'm abnormally focused on food. I delay the other stuff like sleep and have often had trouble establishing healthy habits like tooth brushing, but I love to eat and my body is very insistent on getting food. When I was a kid I often ended up wetting myself due to being absorbed in playing and not wanting to go.

[@PurpleRhymesWithOrange]

@@TheDopekitty I'm not good at sleeping either. I'm known to hyperfocus on a projects, especially my writing, and go 30-40 hours straight without food or sleep, crash for 10-15 hours and go right back at it.

[@SaHaRaSquad]

Btw there's a free downloadable book called "The Sad Bastard Cookbook: food you can make so you don't die" The title says it all I think, it's the only cookbook I ever found useful.

[@PurpleRhymesWithOrange]

@@SaHaRaSquad I'm actually a fairly good cook and in my of my relationships I did most of the cooking. See I can do it for other people but when I am alone I can't find the motivation to do it only for me.

[@TheMimic12]

Neat organization is a significant part of my childhood autistic trauma. Parents would "clean" and I would be upset because I remembered where I put the thing and now the thing is no longer where I put the thing but in some other foreign arbitrary location

[@zljmbo]

I experienced the same thing! When my mom would ask why don't I tidy up my stuff I would explain that all my things live where they are

[@alpacafish1269]

same

[@codythecat01]

As someone who is still a kid, same.

[@bizarre3228]

My mum used to “tidy” my stuff while I was staying at my nans and when I came back i would have full on meltdowns because it was all wrong, it’s not supposed to be be there that’s not where it goes but she doesn’t know that and now it’s all different and AAAA but luckily she doesn’t do it now because she knows and asks if she is going to

[@orterves]

Yep - hiding objects away ≠ cleaning

[@kaetlynphillips]

I like crocs as a house shoe because 1. No crumbs on feet 2. Can modify warmth by the thickness of the sock 3. Non clunky, quiet steps

[@junacreates]

YES THIS IS EXACTLY WHY I ALSO LOVE CROCS ALSO I GOTTA SAY I ALSO ABSOLUTELY *HATE* WHEN I STEP ON FLOOR CRUMBS™️ ITS LIKE THE WORST SENSORY EXPERIENCE

[@throughcolouredglasses9300]

Also crocs are the very few shoes that are good for wide feet! My feet are triangle shaped. Lil duckie feet. My villain origin story is how society decided my toes should be slimmer than the middle/ball of my foot because *that's Not how it works*

[@bizarre3228]

I love crocs, they’re easy to put on so if I need to I can throw them on and not have to deal with laces and all that and i use them as kitchen shoes because it’s a bit dirty in there and I hate my slippers getting dirty so I wear crocs and they’re great

[@bizarre3228]

I love crocs, they’re easy to put on so if I need to I can throw them on and not have to deal with laces and all that and i use them as kitchen shoes because it’s a bit dirty in there and I hate my slippers getting dirty so I wear crocs and they’re great

[@bizarre3228]

I love crocs, they’re easy to put on so if I need to I can throw them on and not have to deal with laces and all that and i use them as kitchen shoes because it’s a bit dirty in there and I hate my slippers getting dirty so I wear crocs and they’re great

[@nikacomedawn]

I was diagnosed in 1st grade and I still had to do the whole "am I stimming because I want to stim or because I'm pretending to be autistic" thingy. Not as a kid, of course, just as I became more aware of autism and started caring. And now I'm pretty authentic! (Also, I'm amazed I was diagnosed as a kid on account of being a woman.)

[@user-rk3bx6cj9f]

My teachers in yera zero expected I was atistic and were the ones to raise the consern. I then got dignost later on. I was quite lucky considering I was a girl and this was around 2009. Thowe then aden most of my peers were geniuses comperd to me and I did managed to make most of the doys hate me, plues I am ptity shore I was one of the onle students in the class to bite and lash out at my peers. Not to mention my hole class rejected me and I was the slowest kid at enerthing. So it was obvious sumthing was rong.

[@user-rk3bx6cj9f]

In other words I know what you mean.

[@gillb9222]

I had my autism assessment yesterday and they asked if I could read facial expressions and body language. We had just talked about whether I was gullible and had been taken advantage of because of it. I suddenly realised that I think I can understand facial expressions but I cant tell if it is genuine or someone is lying or being manipulative. Huge realisation!

[@misspatvandriverlady7555]

I just assume everyone’s trying to use and abuse me these days. People love to claim that’s not what they’re doing and act all indignant that someone isn’t automatically trusting them, but that’s usually what turns out to be happening regardless.

[@gillb9222]

@@misspatvandriverlady7555 I'm the same. Too many things have happened in the past that it's impossible foe me to trust my own judgement about people so I don't trust anyone anymore. I just live within my own world, by myself and its peaceful

[@gillb9222]

@@misspatvandriverlady7555 I literally had someone who I already didn't trust ask me to take cash and transfer the money to their bank account...and I did. Wtf is wrong with ms, that is so dodgy. I desperately need my adhd meds because my impulsivity and judgement are so affected by being ND. This is ridiculous now

[@Fluzzyshark-tp4lw]

Same-

[@edenwylie8917]

same, i always felt this way, fake body language is a barrier. then i finally connected the weird feeling i get when i am making eye contact with certain people with the fact that they tend to end up being nasty to me. it's a work in progress but we have instincts too.

[@melissad8824]

"Stop Stimming" also so very me. Every. Single. Day. I have to forcibly remind myself that my current "post diagnosis" stims are the same ones I did when I was 2, and 12, and 22, and 42 and have not changed just because I'm now aware of being autistic and stimming.

[@elenamenendezgonalez9881]

Omg everything that you said about the Imposter syndrome when you first realised you were autistic is so helpful. I'm currently getting tested and very anxious about it. I didn't think anyone else felt like that. Theres no one in real life that understands that kind of stuff. The community here has given me so much knowledge and unconscious support. Wether I am autistic or not, I just wanted to thank you all for making me feel less lonely.

[@Drawdek]

The worst ting about imposter syndrome. I think it gets stronger after diagnosis.

[@elenamenendezgonalez9881]

@@Drawdek oh lol

[@Beckyg1016]

Oh my goodness - that whole conversation with family members where they insist you aren't Autistic because "they do that too - everyone does - that's normal".....No.....you do that and half our family does it, because Autisim has a strong genetic component!

[@bizarre3228]

My mum and dad do that when they have clearly visible special interests, they literally stim like flapping and they have 3 autistic kids and they’re going to say that? Also my nan is clearly autistic too and she pretends to look at things she isn’t interested in in shops because she doesn’t know what to do and she also has very specific routines that she does everyday without fail

[@katzenlady5339]

Oh no, it's so true. Whenever there's a change in my girlfriends face, I'm like "Are you okay? Do I need to worry?"

[@imautisticnowwhat]

Glad it's not just me!!

[@slimsonite2111]

Which has always been followed up by gaslighting. "Nothing's wrong. Stop asking me that." Well....your face and energy say different 😕

[@katzenlady5339]

@@slimsonite2111 Oh no. I'm so sorry you've got such bad reactions to this. I'm lucky to have a loving ND girlfriend, so this isn't happening to me anymore. But I also experienced this kind of gaslighting in previous relationships

[@marlyd]

​@@slimsonite2111I've been on both sides of this where my ex used to radiate negative energy but would tell me he was fine, for it to later come out he was, in fact, upset about something. But my current boyfriend, who's autistic, often thinks that anything that isn't me smiling is me being angry, even when I try to look flirty 😅. It isn't much of an issue because he knows I always honestly tell him how I feel and I don't mind telling him over and over again what my current mood is. At work people have also told me I look angry when I'm just really focusing on doing emails and I scrunch my nose thinking. So both are very possible, where you misread it for sure or where they lie to you when you correctly pinpoint the energy. I'm really sorry this has given you such a bad time, I can imagine how hard that is. I found that finding people who enjoy talking abiut their feelings has helped me because not only will they offer their current mindset without having to ask, they also won't mind if you ask and have no reason to lie. They may be hard to find though.

[@ragnarok700]

Haha... I just had a chat with my partner about this! (I watch all the expressions but sometimes ask too many questions, which may be a cause of frustration... :P)

[@-starrysunrise-2908]

16:10 This is why that "i'm silly!"/"but I stay silly"/"I can act rather silly at times" cat meme has become a genuine, healthy coping mechanism for me. The things that bother my self-esteem are NOT the kind of things that can be spun as "good", but both my bad _and good_ nd traits can very much be spun as silly!!! And, it's much more lighthearted than other neutral self-talk, which I find can come across as dehumanizing and disconnected from "me"

[@ImNetheN]

silly 🥰🥰🥰

[@hollyberry0602]

The phone call thing is so real. I literally have "If you need to call, text instead?" in my special delivery instructions from the pizza hut 2 minutes down the road. If I don't know the number, I physically cannot answer a call. Email is so much better lol

[@ohreeta]

Aaaaa I totally get the phone call thing my brain is in “make the right listening sounds” mode so half the information gets lost!!

[@skachor]

6-7 energy burst. Its so nice when the only thing left to do is spend time until bed time. No worrying about hygiene or food. Just interests until its time to do it again tomorrow

[@ArtisanYozora]

In my experience, it isn't that us autistic people don't notice differences in facial or bolidy language. We're super observant of our environment because we have to be constantly aware of any stressors or potential sensory issues. Trust me, we notice that change in expression, that change on body language, that change of tone. We're keenly aware of it, we just have no idea what it means because it's not the same as how we do it. That's how some autistic people can appear to have no social problems. We eventually learn how people we know express emotions, but it's very case specific knowledge, not universal

[@DaughterofDawn]

7:14 I love that random little clip of you as a child, it’s so sweet seeing these sporadically throughout your videos 🤎

[@zumaone3692]

My phone stays off and on the shelf in a thick case unless I am expecting a call or going to make one...I really hate those things...I hope I am not alone in this...I am also 58 years old so maybe that has a little to do with it...yes I am autistic and adhd as well. Thanks Meg for another great video! You always make me smile. :)

[@imautisticnowwhat]

In a thick case! I kind of love that 😅 It is frustrating to be so reachable constantly 😭 Thank you so much 💛

[@LittleKikuyu]

The THICK case for extra security 🤣🤣🤣 love it! ❤️

[@zumaone3692]

In all reality, that is exactly what it is for...I am highly sensitive to frequencies.@@LittleKikuyu

[@user-rk3bx6cj9f]

Persnly I don't know how to ues a phoenix proply. So most of the time my phones silinser is ether on or off. One time it was off I endid up missing sume call that made my mum go in to panic mode.

[@sianchild]

That first meme - when you find another neurodivergent who's also like this it's one of the most wonderful experiences! Some of the best, full-on conversations.

[@AsterBodhran]

The drowning skeletons meme, and every single thing you said after, is beyond true. I think about how I played alone just pacing about outside moving my limbs however they decided to move. And now I'm 30 and only a year past a real diagnosis, painfully trying to claw SOME kind of support for myself out of the clutches of systems that refuse to hand it over unless I go back in time with all the knowledge I have now and get an assessment back then.

[@smugb]

I've managed to go through life completely avoiding crocs. Not sure I'd be able to handle all those holes and edges

[@FuzzyGecko]

Im always wearing boots cause im constantly worried water will get in my shoes haha

[@randomdude8327]

Lol i love these emojis

[@bizarre3228]

I love them because they’re really easy to put on quickly and they could also be used indoor but they’re awful for rain because it goes through the holes unless they’re all filled with the charm thingys

[@sjzara]

Yes - face changes are obvious, but are always followed by questions. These are SO accurate!

[@lazarus8069]

I've never worn Crocs, but I don't like my feet being open to the dirt of the world when I go out lol

[@lorilimper5429]

"Do you guys ever think about dying?". Funny, this week I've been planning a theme party in my head. "We're Not Dead Yet!". Where everyone brings the beer or drink they would choose to be their last beer or drink before dying. I am even thinking "wear what you would choose to be buried in". Even I know this choice of outfit thing is over the top, but I still would love to do it. I finally shared with my husband and I just got "the look".

[@gigahorse1475]

I was made fun of in middle school for wearing crocs and snow boots all day in class. 😂 I didn’t realize why people were laughing at my footwear!

[@aster_11]

I'm a night owl because night is just sensory-wise so calming. It's dark, cold and quiet. I can be under my heavy blanket with no interaction and just relax

[@orsonankers4127]

The fun thing about crocs is that the reason they got popular is because they were bought en mass for the shooting of the film Idiocracy, designed to be futuristic idiot shoes

[@beingmegucaissuffering.5326]

Cross are nice because they have a wide toe box and don't smush your toes in like normal shoes do, that's probably what helped heal your bunion Edit: I replied to the wrong comment, stupid mobile. That's a cool fact though, and ironically crocs are better for your feet because of the aforementioned wide toe box

[@jessicac6189]

Super grateful to have found you and the autism community recently. Everything makes more sense now. I finally feel like people understand me instead of being this broken alien that's struggling to make it in the world. Granted, it still feels pretty impossible to function in this world, but at least I'm no longer alone. This world is so overwhelming and exhausting, and it's so difficult when no one around you understands and just tells you to stop being ridiculous/dramatic, try harder, and power through.

[@O-Demi]

The more I watch your channel, the more I think that my sister is just as autistic as I am, because in you not only do I see the reflection of myself but also of her. Sorry if it's a weird thing to say

[@imautisticnowwhat]

It's not weird at all! 💛

[@Tankekraft]

Not just the implication of "there's something wrong with your child", but also that mothers where often blamed for making the children "wrong". Literally your child is autistic because you're bad mum :( And even though this is a dated notion, my mum still asked my therapist when I got my diagnosis if it was her fault in any way (less than 10 years ago). Cuz she understood intelectually that it's false, but the fear was still there emotionally.

[@imautisticnowwhat]

Yes, you're so right!

[@randomperson6433]

Can confirm. Mom guilt like it’s my fault my son is having a hard time with life. When he cries and asks why he doesn’t have friends like the other kids it kills me. We’re working on it in therapy but I feel like I gave that to him. Ugghh.

[@OdinsSage]

Last week was the first week in a long time where I decided to let myself stay home, have no interactions with anybody, and but no obligations on myself - and it was the happiest, calmest, most relaxed I've felt in I don't even know how long. It was a very sobering reminder that I am at my best when I have reduced contact with people and the outside world (basically anything over stimulating). It was like I got a piece of myself back for a minute, and it was amazing. But then I got flooded with people asking if I was okay, if something was wrong, because I shut myself in my house and didn't want to talk to or see people. Neurotypical people are so funny like that, what they see as depression symptoms is just me living my best life.

[@KowaiZuzu]

Wow that explanation of catching yourself stimming and not being sure if you should stop or not, is so accurate!! I don't know if what I do is considered stimming, or ticks, or what but I've got ADHD and do a lot of weird things when I'm alone and comfortable.

[@stephaniem2743]

I love how you are so expressive with your excitement/happiness! Whenever I've felt that good, I've tried to minimize it because it's weird to express joy I guess? Trying to undo that now. Joy is beautiful. We shouldn't feel weird or guilty about it. We should enjoy it fully. Thank you.

[@archivewarrior8535]

Oh my god, even though I was lucky enough to be diagnosed as autistic young, the bit about masking autistic resonated a lot!

[@ZhovtoBlakytniy]

The self love thing, "cringe" comes to mind. I feel neutral too, but my husband is ultra neutral. He hates compliments and I love to give them to him, so the compromise is "You're pretty ok at that" or something like that. I saw "world's okayest dad" shirt and thought he'd love it, but he was even happier that I didn't buy him a shirt with text on it 😂

[@user-rk3bx6cj9f]

Persly I fined that when people comment me I get realy confident and start being more artistic and boing more impulsive things, this is un till someone insolts and tells me of for acting like that, and then I gust spiral in to self hatred. So uesly to avoid that I maditoly pout my self down and make shore to ceep my self astem to a minimum. Basically reminding my self that being pited is deter than deing hated.

[@alpacafish1269]

I get that. For me I don't mind if someone gives me a compliment, but what I don't like is, what you said, the "self-love" thing where you have to give yourself positive reaffirmation. It just feels *fake* and *icky* and not like me. Like when people ask me if I love myself, I just.. don't know how to respond because I don't want to be like "oh I hate myself" since that's not true, but I also don't want to be icky and start smothering myself with oral positivity. ewwwwww

[@Y-Knott]

Crocs rating : 9/10 I have size 13 feet, so finding comfy slippers is not an option. I wear crocs at home when the floor here in Canada is freezing cold because I hate walking in socks 🤷‍♂️ Also, it prevents me from feeling every single bit of dirt that's on the floor driving me mad

[@ninjakiwigames5418]

Crocs are amazing for what I use them, aka when you have to go out of the house for a bit, like to the garden or you have to throw out the trash. They however shouldn't be used as a replacement for normal shoes. So yeah, all the people hating on them, just aren't using them currently. They definitely aren't hike shoes!

[@T1MB05L1C3]

As a famous person once said several times: “I’m going off the rails on a crazy train.”

[@plushieangela]

If me and my support lady have a discussion on the phone to work through specific things I will literally say 'can you put this in an email after, I will not remember any of it, my brain is a sieve and I can't think (aka I've hit the 'wall of text' point in my brain)' and within the hour there's an email with it all in dot points. Lowkey, she's amazing

[@bigolbearthejammydodger6527]

im sure she would love to hear you say that. preferably in writing, so she can show her boss ;)

[@sewlilah]

Oh my gosh I do the exact same thing with facial expressions! I’ve always felt I wasn’t ‘autistic enough’ because I CAN read facial expression but the SECOND someone changes a face outside what I expect I am like ‘what’s wrong?’ ‘Somethings wrong?’ ‘You’re upset’ and it drives my boyfriend insane because he always says ‘nothing!’ And I don’t believe him because I can’t tell if he is lying or actually okay or like DEEPLY upset 😂🙈 glad it’s not just me…

[@SteinGauslaaStrindhaug]

12:23 I knew I had a pencil sharpener in my drawing pencils case (it's actually a repurposed toiletry bag) on top of the suitcase of colour pencils (that I have yet to actually use for anything) on the cupboard (or whatever that furniture is called; it's "sjenk" in Norwegian I think) next to the dining table where I have my gaming computer. And I checked... and it actually was there... Last time I looked inside that pencil case was in the summer holiday.

[@ginnyjanisse1220]

I had the exact conversation about emotions changing in others with my psychiatrist today. I feel like something’s changed, but what did I miss! 😭

[@ragnarok700]

it is particularly frustrating (to me) when the other person seems completely unaware that something changed (inside their mind, I'm assuming :D) and then deny it vehemently... even though at that point their behavior clearly changed...

[@drtaverner]

Crocs are easy to step in and out of, have actual arch support, and have winter versions. I have a set for the house, for the garden, and a winter set for taking out the trash. Ugly? Yes. But good for my feet/knees/hips/back.

[@therealzahyra]

When I notice a chance in face I always default to "are you okay?" Lol maybe "what does that face mean is better so I can actually learn 😂

[@CoreenMontagna]

Just wanted to say how much I adore all the childhood videos you include in you B-roll!

[@kilo3989]

Regarding replying to DMs: I've gotten better about being able to express to people that just because my executive dysfunction didn't let me respond to them in a "timely" manner doesn't mean I don't like them or want to talk to them 😅

[@agoodwasteoftime]

every day i get more and more tempted to join the patreon..... must hold on until i finally get a job lol

[@SaHaRaSquad]

My crocs review: reasonably comfy, but direct sunlight can massively shrink them to a point they're unusable and if you complain to the crocs employee they'll tell you with a disgusted face that this is obvious and you were using it wrong. 0/10, wouldn't buy again

[@M13C7]

4:20 i relate to this a lot, as a child there were situations where i had a great time, was at peace with myself and everything and adults would come up to me and ask me whats wrong and whats going on; sometimes they would point and giggle at me for some reason (like haha she is so weird). And sometimes they would take me from my comfort zone to place me in the least comfortable circumstances, with other children, and forcing me to interact. It was so frustrating. Also i had to learn to do facial reactions to things, because even if i got a gift and i loved it, smiling doesnt come naturally to me, and i had gotten into so many stupid arguments with adults as a child because i was happy and they kept asking me whats wrong, and telling me i need to be open and honest, and that they can clearly see im upset - when truly i was happy i just forgot to smile because it is not a natural thing to do with my face 9:30 that is exactly me, fee like we really can look into this its super interesting, sleep is complex and we autistic people seem to have a similar pattern - different to NT. I too only get really energized in the evening, then have this burst of energy and hyperfocus until whenever i force myself to shut down and sleep. But being in hyperfocus is joyful and relaxing, and i need it. Hence i do sleep procrastination a lot, staying up long. Cant relax early; but having to sleep 9h a day ....but also needing to be up at like 6:30 on the daily. How do i even upkeep a job, oh right burnout o.o

[@briana9918]

I have never watched one of your videos fully until now. Hello? ADHD and short attention span. But today I have and I'm so happy I did! It's like you're talking about me! Thank you!

[@nannywhumpers5702]

Stimming. I'm of the Gen X generation, I remember studying the Fonz and trying to be like him. I never achieved that, but you know I tried. He always seemed to have control over his limbs and and his face, it always said, in my childish opinion, what he wanted it to say. I'm pretty sure I'm autistic. My daughter is (although when she was diagnosed the doctor told me girls couldn't be autistic, so back in the 90's). I'm also pretty sure my dad was, on reflection. I didn't have a clue I was until I went basically catatonic for a while. I started researching what could be wrong after I had recovered some. Eventually settled on autistic shutdown as being the most likely explanation. But everything fit, every online test says yes, and one I found on high masking, I aced! Not sure if that's good or bad, but I now know. Knowing this, when I started stimming when my husband was in the final stages of cancer, I let myself. I didn't try to maintain the strict control over every body movement I usually do. Working from home, this helped with letting myself. My mate passed, and the stims are chilling as time passes, I'm not sure I'm ever going to want to completely suppress it again. People may just have to get used to my random ways.

[@kingrix]

Crocs are the most comfortable shoes I've ever worn. 10 out of 10. I own several pair and they are pretty much the only shoes I ever wear other than running shoes and boots as activities or weather dictates. I healed a bunion by wearing Crocs.

[@beingmegucaissuffering.5326]

Cross are nice because they have a wide toe box and don't smush your toes in like normal shoes do, that's probably what helped heal your bunion

[@janeb2958]

The night owl thing - I saw someone online suggest it might be because the rest of the world quietens down then, so our ND brains are able to actually enjoy stuff without being overwhelmed by sensory input - it feels like at least part of the reason to me! Also I like crocs because they are quite flat and their shape accommodates my toes needs (I only wear shoes when I have to and the front of my foot is wide and not normal shoe shaped) and I have fleece lined ones as slippers because I've ruined slippers by wandering out of the house absent mindedly and getting them soaked and muddy but the crocs can be washed. I wouldn't wear them for a long walk, and they do not look right, but they feel pretty decent from the inside and are MUCH CHEAPER than the very pricey barefoot trainers that both accommodate my feet and don't make my hip hurt and don't make me more clumsy... so...

[@bosstowndynamics5488]

I think there's probably more to it than that because even when I'm being a stay at home hermit I can't stand mornings. Personally I think I might have a body clock better suited to Mars or something (a bit longer than 24 hours), it constantly seems to drift forwards and I wind up staying up later and later if I don't go out of my way to stop it

[@janeb2958]

I also have a compltely screwed up bodyclock@@bosstowndynamics5488 - left to itself it likes to sleep twice a day, once wee hours to late morning and once late afternoon/early evening, and it drifts about half an hour a day... I wonder if it's part of the sensory stuff, since circadian rhythms can be messed up by changes in sensory input e.g. the cave experiements...

[@izxyseas1669]

My autism testing is happening tomorrow and watching your videos have helped me understand lots about what I’m in the process of being diagnosed for. Love your videos!! :))

[@LittleRedRobyn]

Hi! I love your video's so much. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 21 and got my Autism diagnoses at 25, a little over a year ago. I don't like Crocs at all...but I do have an ADHD and Autistic friend who almost always wears them and loves to change the little Jibbitz charms to whatever her special interests are. :p

[@zaraandrews600]

I have just moved house yesterday and it has been super stressful. Then I have an interview today so it has been very overwhelming. This video has really helped me to calm down. Thank you.

[@hameley12]

I have moved at least six times since I was a child, it is an exhausting experience ZaraAndrews600. Fully drained and were expected to unpack by ourselves as kids. Hope you are doing better and you are able to get the job. ☺❤

[@zaraandrews600]

@hameley12 Thank you! I should be a pro at moving I have moved over 20 times, but this was the first time I have moved back in with a parent. I used to have my own flat and a job, but I lost my job, so now I just have two rooms to try fit all my stuff in.

[@sadie1606]

The PDA is to blame for not responding to emails/texts/messages I bet lmao it’s the demand of having to respond maybe it’s also some rejection sensitivity

[@samijodavis9204]

Crocs: 2-10 I had one pair, I wore them for a couple weeks, I got blisters and my feet were always so weirdly sweaty (My feet hardly ever sweat) and I found them so unpleasant. And, there are so many times, even still as an adult, I'll have someone look at me and say 'Are you okay?' I'll blink at them in confusion and say 'Yes... Why?' They just go 'Oh, okay.' And I spend the next hour trying to figure out why they thought something was wrong with me.

[@furrybastard27]

The thing about not looking happy is *so relatable*. I have a habit of forgetting to show “normal” emotions when I’m tired, so I’ll leave a gathering and go “I had a very good time, this was so fun.” with a straight up scowl.

[@user-wv9sk6lv2l]

12:13 this stock footage talks about my home country in eastern Europe! I’m the happiest person in the world right now (love your videos btw, I’m binge watching them third day and literally can’t stop, help)

[@LittleKikuyu]

Omg, a MAGIC SKELETON 😍😍😍

[@user-co6wc8di5l]

I laughed so hard at that Jason looking at the croc. Just something about the holes in the mask and holes in the shoes got me.

[@giant_internet_nerd]

THE DETACHING FROM REALITY THING!! 24/7 for the past... year? i have not stopped thinking about these little stories i'm making in my head almost to the point where i think that nothing is real. i'm only now realizing how bad this sounds and how bad it was in my childhood. i was so burnt out from masking at the ages of 6-12 (pre-self diagnosis) that i think my entire life was just one big disassociation? i'm sadly not joking when i say this, but i didn't think i would make it to adulthood purely because i couldn't imagine myself masking forever. i 100% genuinely thought that my life was some television show and it would end at the "season finale" aka my 18th birthday.

[@2D.is.anxious]

yesss that whole 'am I faking' ect I'm 19 and am newly diagnosed it's so difficult especially when you just don't know who you are 🐌

[@Chucanelli]

Hey, the part about being neutral on yourself rather than fighting bad thoughts with affirmations - that’s a thing buddhist practices aim to do! I’ve been a buddhist for years and never quite made that connection, that the rebellion against affirmations may just be a wiser instinct to reject jumping to the other side in a battle that doesn’t need to happen! A huge part of formal meditation is developing that skill you described of just observing thoughts - to be able to say, “Hmm, that’s interesting. That is *a* thought,” rather than “That is the truth.” A zen teacher once told me that some people don’t need to meditate. The point isn’t to be good at meditation, it’s to practice in a focused way these very skills. You’re doing it! Pema Chodron talks about refusing to be a battleground. I highly recommend her writing! Start Where You Are would be my recommendation. 😊 Thank you for the lovely videos! Your channel has been a valuable part of my own journey. Much appreciated. ❤

[@-shenanigans.]

I love the memes channel on the Discord, memes are life! 🤌🏼

[@imautisticnowwhat]

You're an amazing meme collector...this video would not have been possible without your hard work 💛🫡

[@-shenanigans.]

@@imautisticnowwhat Thank you! Finally, one of my obsession helps contribute to something. 😂

[@ragnarok700]

@@-shenanigans. I'm certain it is just a matter of time and luck/coincidences for the others ones! :D

[@treasuredwisp]

The stop stimming meme was super relatable today. I was talking with a group of friends from my cohort at University. I started stimming naturally, swaying side to side. Eventually I started pacing in circles. The thoughts came to mind "this seems over the top, you're probably just being influenced by youtubers". Then I had a counter thought "this is what you tend to do naturally, I may not have realized it before, but I have distinct memories of doing this throughout my life". I tried to let myself do it naturally, but then it felt forced so I went to more subtle stims. (Especially since one of my friends pointed out that I wasn't talking at all, just stimming)

[@serenabear6272]

wondering if you would ever be open to sharing struggles of being autistic and being a parent ? if not totally understandable ! unsure if im autistic but definitely feel neurodivergent and struggle with parenting a little one at times .( over stimulation , sometimes very limited time to yourself , the constant demands of being a parent ) appreciate your videos !! ✨️

[@Tytan626]

I’ve had my first appointment to get diagnosed this week

[@skachor]

Good luck!

[@gabrielbruce1977]

re: maintaining the meat suit. I felt that. But thankfully my disability worker understands as much and emails me the moment tax season begins with a deadline so I don't forget it!

[@DesmondDuval]

The thing you have to understand about crocs, is that if you're at summer camp and you spill anything sticky or gross all over your feet and shoes, you can just put your whole shod foot into the sink and spray it with the sprayer and now your foot and shoe are both clean.

[@Mistah_Krinkle]

You really cheered me up thank you fellow magical skeleton

[@senecarus_whitur]

14:30 I remember one teacher who came to me after I had a panic attack in class / meltdown. He kneeled down, waited for me to calm down and then handed me a piece of paper with a phone number and said: „I don’t know if you have been tested for ADHD yet, but I see that you’re struggling. This is the number of a psychiatrist. You can call them and make an appointment for an assessment.“ At the time, I thought that seeing a psychiatrist meant that I was an insane person, so I put the phone number into a box and eventually discarded it without telling anyone. Now me and my sister got diagnosed with adhd in our late twenties and all because I remembered what that teacher said to me. And now I am on a waiting list for an asd assessment. Teachers who go above and beyond for their pupils save lives. That teacher is my hero!

[@crystalkirlia4553]

Omg I saw footage of (I presume) you reading glitter girls! I LOVED that book as a kid!

[@imautisticnowwhat]

It was!! They were my first favourite books 😁

[@angelskysilver5219]

My struggles with understanding emotions shown on people's faces stem mostly from not being able to ever pay attention to them and everything else going on at the same time

[@juliefore]

I feel so seen..and that is wonderful. Thank you for this.

[@cizlerable]

The being positive about yourself thing. It works fine if you just write down 'I did some laundry', 'I called my mum'. Simply things that you said to yourself you wanted to do. The positivity comes from acknowledging you did the task you set yourself. No reason to make yourself believe you're superman.

[@ragnarok700]

Crocs: I have multiple pairs: 1. One for driving/shopping. 2. One for going on the balcony sometimes, when I want to smoke cannabis. 3. One for camping only. I have to say I quite like them for any activity where I don't have to run! :D Rating: High

[@SteamboatWilley]

Ah, the joys of trying to remember what people have told you on the phone, and yes when I was on cruise ships (prior to my diagnosis) I would have to jot down on a scrap of paper anything I was asked for on the phone. Like you say, e-mail leaves a record.

[@BeeWhistler]

Gotta say, one of the best things ever was when the doctors offices in the States started using things like My Chart and text reminders and all of that stuff. SoI can make a call for an appointment, having gotten used to the script, and they’ll send me the print reminder I need in case I messed something up. I do like to have something to write on and with, though. In case anyone is wondering what the script is, I’ve been telling my kids (22 and 25 years old… yeah, it’s hard to launch these days) this: If you’re calling a business, you just have to figure out what to give them to start the script. It’s like an old text video game. They just need the right words. They generally want you to call if it’s something that will give them money, so if you need a dental appointment, or are scheduling a follow-up for something, or want a consultation, then that’s what you lead with. My kids overthink so this helps. Once you say something like, “Hi, I’m calling to verify the time of my appointment,” they take over. Just have insurance and payment cards ready, depending what the call is for. I dunno if anyone wanted that info, or if it sounds overly simplistic, but seriously, my kids lately have been struggling with this the way I do because eye contact is uncomfortable but NO eye contact is The Unknown and that is scary.

[@starcr0ww]

Fun fact re:crocs, they’re popular in animal care professions because of the ease of cleaning. You can spray them with cleaner and hose them off, and they’re easy to get poo off of! 🐾

[@yarydreasadventures3337]

Late diagnosed adult autistic. I moved to Florida and I love crocs mostly because I don’t have to worry about tying shoes. I don’t have to worry about putting on socks it’s just so easy put your foot in and walk away. I don’t have any sensory issues with socks and I don’t have any motor issues with tying my shoes.

[@ingrydjorgensen8110]

We found out I had dyspraxia because my PE teacher emailed my mom and suggested I see a physical therapist

[@kat_nr2676]

I can relate so much to this thought of "was nobody looking and wondering if she's ok"! I was diagnosed with ADHD less than 2 years ago (at 27) and my elementary school reports be like "sometimes we're not sure, where your mind is" and "you're our little scattered-minded professor" (I'm translating here ':D wording was a bit different)...

[@user-wv9sk6lv2l]

I wear crocs at work all the time, 10/10. Easy to maintain, my joints no longer hurt, and they are purple!

[@zellalaing5439]

OH MY GOSH so glad you said that about phone calls, I hate how companies assume everyone ok talking through things on the phone. I can't do it and won't remember anything said - I need emails so there is that trail as you say so I can refer back to.

[@ijustdocomments6777]

11:49 is definitely me also. I buy things and leave them in a place and remember I need them years later and then have to dig them out of a pile.

[@ShaneCourtrille]

Thanks so much for bringing these fun videos to the autism YT space!

[@RisseDesBluts113]

Thank you for helping me reclaim some spoons while I'm at work. It's been a really busy day and i needed this.

[@april6620]

"Lead with my head" while hand flapping (t Rex chapter) is so my 8yo. That video of you doing it , is just like his move! How funny, and sad, that we can feel so alone over something that comes natural to us... just to find out that it's a common thing in the ND community. Channels like this make me feel a little less alone, my heart happy. Thanks.

[@bibsp3556]

Ive been wearing a shirt with the little alien on it saying "im a beacon of joy" without realising what it referred to for like a year. Love that shirt lol.

[@TonyHalle]

Something very wholesome about youre accommodation being going home for lunch to eat buttered pasta with your mom 😄

[@PossumMedic]

16:46 - I think this is the ACT method and it's helped me a lot more than CBD (which feels like reprogramming to be 'normal') 22:36 - As a possum medical professional I can confirm that is in fact a possum! (Or opossum depending on where you live 😝)

[@OdinsSage]

All of these posts deserve a 10/10. Super relatable.

[@imfine_ithink]

this brightened my day

[@erynmorgan1717]

Love this!! Just staryed sharing on discord today and think you all sound like lovely like-minded souls!!

[@Jelly_Skelly]

My girlfriend and I love our crocs. They are so comfortable, convenient, and a huge eff you to society all in one!

[@monkeykoder]

No one will give me time to myself between 7am and 10pm that's why I'm a night owl. Some day the lack of sleep or stress will kill me.

[@henryholden4052]

When I saw Enough (JLo movie early 2000s) there’s a scene where she has to fight a guy twice her size so she rearranges the furniture in his home and memorizes where it is and then knocks out the lights much to her ultimate success. When I tell you that pre-teen me ACTIVELY did this exact thing with their furniture at home and in fact, has kind of stuck with me since so I can get up in pure blackness and get to the bathroom/sink w/out lights….didn’t realize it was just my brain’s natural desire to map and prevent light pollution at night 🤣😂 thanks JLo

[@LittleKikuyu]

For all the habitual scrollers who would like to stop scrolling mindlessly instead of actually relaxing: there ARE apps that turn off your home screen/feed etc on social media. 🤓

[@Aroacerat]

What r they called? Can u name 1?