AUTISTICS, CHOOSE YOUR FORK! | Autism Memes

[@imautisticnowwhat]

Meme time again!! This time we have the fork wars and rusty spoons, apparently… Let me know, did that whole BBC private ADHD diagnosis thing annoy you as much as it annoyed me??? Why didn’t they consult multiple NHS diagnosticians? Why was the NHS automatically the pinnacle of accurate diagnoses? 💛 If you need more memes, here's the playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLEHi2YmjD7gEssdqTn0247t_niQMt2b22 I go on about PDA a lot here for some reason, so here’s the video I did last week about a little test you can take to see if you might have traits of the PDA profile: kzbin.info/www/bejne/joXHqZKliM9_eNU These are sooo much fun to make, so thank you for being here.

[@digiscream]

The stupid thing about that Panorama episode is that the programme is held up as some bastion of perfect journalism, but the amount of smoke and mirrors in that episode is horrifying. For example...they make a big noise about the fact that the NHS assessment was three hours long, implying that the 45-60 minute private assessments were lacking. The fact is that the guy who did the NHS assessment had been head of the ADHD department for three months _and had never been involved with ADHD treatment before that_ - and, not only that, but most NHS assessments are...45 minutes to an hour long. They flat out lied about a lot of the private clinics (eg the prescriptions), and they've completely refused to acknowledge or reply to any criticisms of their methodology, or even confirm that he gave the same answers in each case, or even that he was telling the truth in all of them. They actually had a number of ND organisations contact them before the programme was published to point out all these things, and ignored everything - the one concession being that they changed the title, which means absolutely nothing. Yep, I'm pretty bloody furious. My wife, who's seriously affected by suspected ADHD and has been misdiagnosed and medicated for years, saw that programme and changed her mind about seeking a diagnosis because of the stigma it's created at her workplace.

[@Roanmonster]

It was valid in some points I think, but I'm not familiar with the NHS. Regardless of the way this journalist worked, a 1hr assessment by a psychologist seems pretty short to diagnose someone, especially if you're going to prescribe medication without followup. THAT is a very valid critisism imo. When I got asessed it took at least three visits with some time inbetween, one of which was with my partner, and were mainly meant to really dig up if there wasn't some other explanation for my issues. Which is a good thing btw, because of course ADHD symptoms can overlap with a bunch of other issues as well. And the followup visits were meant to see if the therapy and medication were actually doing the thing. To me the critisism towards the private clinic diagnosis factory is very valid but should be placed in the right context.

[@digiscream]

@@Roanmonster - that's just it, the prescriptions _did_ require a follow up, they just didn't report on it. One of them didn't actually prescribe anything because he didn't show up for the follow up appointment, but they reported the opposite.

[@johnfist6220]

PUT ON THE TELLY FOR THE BBC! PUT ON THE TELLY FOR THE BBC! BBC 1! BBC 2! BBC 3! BBC 4! BBC 5! BBC 6! BBC 7! BBC HEAVEN!!!!

[@Mary-sb6eo]

​@@digiscream up

[@HauntedCadaver]

I don't think it's mere coincidence that so many adults are getting late term diagnoses. I do not understand how people think that autism is a new thing.. It's been around as long as people have been gay. We are just seeing it on the rise thanks to the internet and the spreading of awareness.

[@imautisticnowwhat]

Exactly!

[@jimwilliams3816]

There’s also a huge reservoir, even now, of people who were never diagnosed. I had no diagnosis until age 62. Neither of my parents had any diagnosis at all. It pisses me off to think that my late AuDHD dx may be included in statistics that some use to insist we are in the grip of some trendy overreach. Part of the problem is that in spite of being theory not science, behaviorism still casts a long shadow. I don’t see handwringing media stories about people being incorrectly diagnosed with BPD. I wish I did.

[@babybirdhome]

We should start telling people, “I don’t think you should identify yourself as normal until you’ve been formally diagnosed with nothing.”

[@HauntedCadaver]

@@babybirdhome LOL I'm saving this

[@crazytuffandco.]

Don't forget the reduction of stigma against us.

[@AutheYste]

As an autistic woman, everytime someone say something like "it was better before" , I am asking myself if they are talking about the time I would have been burned, or the one I would have been tortured in the asylum.

[@DrinkYourNailPolish]

We would've gotten lobotomies and hysterectomies, ice baths, and shock therapy.

[@MelHS-gr4lv]

what are you talking about with that? and it's funny spoon 3 circled in thumbnail but ignored in video lol

[@BeautifullyWaking]

I was misdiagnosed with both bipolar and BPD because my ex-husband got in my psychiatrist's ear about my emotional meltdowns and "unstable moods." I think we, as women, are not taken seriously in the eyes of the medical professionals and outsiders alike.

[@imautisticnowwhat]

I'm so sorry 😔

[@BeautifullyWaking]

I was highly over-medicated with drugs that gave me horrible side-effects and had scary contraindications. And being autistic, I researched everything I put in my body. So I brought my concerns to my doctor, he told me he knew what he was doing, so I just had to trust him. He had the medical degree, I didn't.

[@BeautifullyWaking]

When things like that happen you know, and you something's not right, like with the NHS story, it's time to find a different medical professional

[@niki.anddog]

That really sucks. I was misdiagnosed as biopolar instead of adhd because I could focus in school and had mood swings. I was a psych major at the time, so I knew the bipolar diagnosis was wrong. I was diagnosed with adhd until 10 years later thanks to an amazing doctor who listened and didnt jump to conclusions. I agree, if something doesnt seem right and you can find another medical professional, do it.

[@SailorYuki]

I was diagnosed with Emotional unstable personality disorder only because I didn't like my psychiatrist. That diagnosis was removed immediatly by the specialist he sent me to. Didn't get an autism diagnosis then though, apparently I was just depressed. The thing is, I didn't (and still don't) exhibit any of the core symptoms for EUPD. It's just that some of the autistic traits correlate with BPD/EUPD, but if you actually follow up with questions, you'd clearly see they don't fit. I think this is one reason why so many women are diagnosed with either of them. It's the same as saying that everyone with hearburn and bloated bellies are pregnant. I am, after years of fighting for one, going to get my formal assessment soon. The wait list is 1 year. So hopefully this time next year I will finally have my formal and official diagnosis. At least the psychologist said that the assessment is more of a formality since it's is very likely that I am infact, autistic.

[@unpronouncable2442]

Something that teacher told me that still echoes in my mind: "Why are you crying? you are just provoking him" When I was bullied. I think some people should not be allowed within 100m of children.

[@maroonai]

whenever i was bullied as a kid i would be told to "just ignore them" literally how??? there's this bigger kid screaming names at me and making me cry how am i supposed to ignore that

[@MetaGiga]

I immediately chose fork number 1. I can’t stand heavy/big/bulky utensils because it just feels so uncomfortable to use something so heavy/big/bulky to eat with

[@dmgroberts5471]

Fork no. 3 is, to my mind, the superior fork. It's narrow, the tines are nice and long, but all the same length, and it has good shoulders without being blocky. That _is_ my fork, I actually have a couple of those, and they are exclusively for my personal use. 5 and 6 are also serviceable, but they aren't number 3. By contract, fork No. 2 is...an abomination in the sight of God. That is the Devil's Fork, right there. I hate those.

[@Catlily5]

#1 or #5 . I like rounded handles.

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

Ah, see, I like how the nice, heavy fork (6) forces intentionality

[@Nylak-Otter]

Same, I'm for #1 at a quick glance. I have pretty small hands, so I use the smallest cutlery available, if I have to use cutlery at all. Also, small serving bowls, so you can stay mobile and don't have to eat at a table, and they make the portions look larger than they are. My favorite eating "method" at home is using a bamboo bowl that holds about two cups of food, along with a small bamboo utensil. No clinking sounds, and they're lightweight. I can act civilized at formal dinners and have been through cotillion and etiquette training, but I don't really enjoy it.

[@Talmorne]

I would go for either #1 or #5 with the rounded ends, I cannot stand cutlery that has square ends that stab into your hand when you try to hold it

[@LesbianWeirdo]

As someone who recently graduated from middle school, being autistic is NOT considered cool or amazing or desirable. Autism is the butt of almost every joke. When someone wants to call another person stupid they call them autistic. The real world is NOT autism friendly in more ways then one and that includes socially. This idea that people do it to be cool and to be liked by others is so completely inaccurate.

[@gattasara]

Unluckyly i can confirm :( Itz that the right word? Im not english lol

[@chiara914]

Hi...are you from Italy? Io sono italiana :)

[@gattasara]

@@chiara914 pure io lol

[@chiara914]

@@gattasara ah! Mi fa piacere che non sono l'unica italiana...è da poco che ho trovato questo canale però è qualche anno che ho dei dubbi sul fatto di essere autistica e KZbin mi è stato utile..

[@gattasara]

@@chiara914 e... Lo sei?

[@bosstowndynamics5488]

I saw an article in The Guardian recently by someone saying they were diagnosed with ADHD and the medications really helped but they found it fishy that a lot of their friends were also being diagnosed. Not even a hint of awareness of the fact that neurodivergent people find it easier to get along with each other than with neurotypical people who are unwilling to accommodate us, or unaware of the need to do so (if nothing else, due to the underdiagnosis you already mentioned)

[@SadisticSenpai61]

This! As I look back at my childhood, it's become obvious to me that the majority of ppl I befriended were also neurodivergent. We tend to gravitate towards each other - especially if we can strip off the masks and just be ourselves with them. It was always kind of weird hanging out with the few neurotypical friends I had. I'd just be going along and talking about various things and then suddenly, they'd just be like "I love how random you are!" And I was always left standing there wondering why they thought my train of thought was random. It made perfect sense to me and I thought those topics were connected. It was always very jarring.

[@kathymarshall220]

Wait, the phone/notifications thing is a PDA trait? 😮🤯 It’s been a lifelong argument of mine, with literally everyone, that you wouldn’t just walk into someone’s home/office/workplace and demand they speak to you right then and there, so why is it considered “rude” that I have all my phone sounds silenced and respond in my own time? 😂

[@kathymarshall220]

Wait…and the weird reactions to medications is an ASD thing too?? 😮🤯 I’m currently getting ready for my assessment soon, and your videos are so incredibly helpful! There’s still so much that I don’t know, so thank you!❤

[@emilymoran9152]

My colleagues: "Man, I miss the days when you would just walk into someone's office instead of sending an email" Me: "Oh. Oh, god, no. Bless you, internet!"

[@eliannafreely5725]

1,000,000% Pleasantly, I had the experience of arguing this point to social friends of mine and they did immediately realize I was right. It's hard to argue with when you put it that way. It was amusing though, watching the surprise on their faces, as the realization hit them like a truck that it was pretty rude to demand instant gratification and immediate attention! They had clearly never thought about it that way before 🙂

[@beanstheclown]

Since when do people not just barge into your office and expect you to drop everything???

[@umbrakinesis2011]

I keep my phone on do not disturb, with certain individuals allowed who won't call me unless it's really important. It's an awesome feature on android for autistic individuals. I also, sometimes I connect with a scam caller, one on one, scream "stop calling me", and hang up. I rarely ever get them now.

[@leenaparsons9876]

If I found myself suddenly transported back in time to the days of witch burning, I would instantly go to the nearist convent and become a nun. I feel like that would be my best chance of survival but they might still catch me staring into space or stimming and accidently kill me while performing an excorcism.

[@imautisticnowwhat]

😂 There's nowhere to hide!

[@TheCimbrianBull]

You just can't catch a break!

[@DrinkYourNailPolish]

I actually wanted to be a nun at one point. The cloistered life, the routine, devotion to my favorite topic (Jesus- I LOVE HIM!!) definitely would've fit right in! I would've done well in the military too. Oh well....

[@oalevine]

The most important part about a fork is how sharp it is, but assuming they're all equally sharp, for me it's #5! 1 is too small, 6 is too big, 2 3 and 4 have horribly uncomfortable handles

[@imautisticnowwhat]

The roundness of number 5 is quite pleasing 😂

[@MrWuhisn]

5 for me for same rational. Weight and size seem right too. I like the smoothness of 1 though.

[@Philemaphobia]

If 6 wasn’t that long, it would be my choice, I don’t like spiky spikes. And I hate when they don’t have the same length. Not to curvy, so that you don’t bite on them accidentally when sliding the food in your mouth. Same with the big spoon, it often gets in contact with my teeth. Hate that. Wood Chopsticks are best. Have to cut mouth friendly pieces before eating, no metal taste, good to have to go, can double as stirring tool even in non-stick pots and pans.

[@mirjam3553]

Shape of 6, size of 5 would be my perfect fit. 5 looks alright, but it doesn't have the correct bend at the thinnest part of the stem. 2 does, but it also has the bad wider outside tines. 1 Is too small, 3 and 4 have an uncomfortable-looking stem with the angles.

[@bottomofastairwell]

SAME. plus, I like a fork that has a decent bit of weight to it in the handle, because then the tines and handle are balanced. 5 was my pick for all the same reasons lol

[@finx1582]

It recently clicked in my brain that I may be autistic, and I'm literally going through the process right now of looking back on my life and remembering all those bad times that now make sense in this new context, and I just want to say this channel has been really helpful as I come to understand myself better. Also fork #1 all the way

[@sofia_almeida4399]

Im going through the same but I cannot remember as much things from the past so I may ask my parents. I hope U have a good day😊

[@determineddaaf3]

Fork 1 for sure. It has the best "handle" to hold and it's easier to wield due to it being smaller. Just a nice small and simple fork.

[@AutomaticDuck300]

It’s the most compact and aesthetically pleasing but 3 has a wider coverage because the prongs are pointing outwards slightly. And 6 is great because it’s massive. More food in my mouth. I can’t decide. They’re all great.

[@rrrrrfffff]

I like 3. But it would be better if the end of it was rounded instead of squared off, like 1. It's just such a simple design, no weird indentations, etc like 2 & 5 (so you wouldn't feel the bumpiness when gripping), and the bigger ones are too big for my taste. I have a few this size and they are just too obtrusive when trying to eat (for me personally)

[@wanderingpanic7429]

I agree. Fork 1. I've always preferred to eat with smaller cutlery but as I'm only newly diagnosed I hadn't thought that this too could be autistic

[@kiiturii]

it's so uneven with the prongs though, that would bother me so much lol, I'd choose 1 for the size if it was normal, but 6 otherwise

[@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos]

Fork 6 is so bulky and intentional, and the handle is perfect for fidgeting.

[@Autisticheather]

I think it actuality is trendy to say you're autistic in school... but not to actually BE autistic. Cuz then you'd be bullied. It was like the trend to call yourself nerdy and put on nerdy glasses with your designer clothes and beautiful flowing long blond hair, while the actual nerds were still getting beaten up

[@DrinkYourNailPolish]

Exactamundo!!

[@dmgroberts5471]

Back in the day, I had several people tell me high school was going to be "the best days" of my life. I would tell those people that trying to crush my hope for the future like that was cruel, and they shouldn't do that to a teenager. The best days of my life were the brief interludes between disasters, when I had more income than expenditures. On the subject of PDA...I don't like doing anything I'm not currently doing. Like, I'll avoid doing another thing I'd like to do, in favour of the thing I'm already doing.

[@missmatti]

Yep. If high school was our best days of our lives I think that might would mean our lives would be pretty sad afterwards? 🤔 (Luckily the best days of my life are now)

[@ritarevell7195]

Or avoiding doing the thing I’d really like to be doing, because I haven’t finished what I’ve should have been doing.

[@elliottpak]

Pretty sure if you told some high school students that they would have an existential crisis

[@biaberg3448]

I’m F age 63 and have just realized my true self by watching videos like this. It’s mind blowing to watch total strangers explaining my life and behavior. And not only mine, my fathers, husbands and other relatives / family members. My life has been like living in a house with dim light in all the rooms. Watching videos like this is turning on the lights in one room after another. Sometimes I have to pause the video because it’s to much. Now I know why I have been so exhausted all my life, and why I’ve had meltdowns for weeks, (once 2 years) the last 24 years. It’s a bit hard to see my life in retrospect but mostly a huge relief to understand myself. I will try to help relatives who probably also have autism to do the same. A huge help for oneself and can make it easier for partners and other people around you to understand why you behave like you do.

[@SarahS-su3sc]

F 62 still at the now what stage. Knowing for myself is a mixed bag because yes lights come on but the pain comes back too. Do I just keep watching these videos for now? Not sure how to use what I'm learning to make life any better with other people. Stupid paradox of people are so hard for me but I am painfully lonely .

[@MonaLyssa33]

I was mute as a kid and because I learned how to mask well, I wasn't diagnosed with autism until I was 27. There were obvious signs that I was autistic, but I wasn't autistic by the male standards.

[@kitcat2449]

I had great friends in high school but just the other day I was thinking how exhausting and awful the experience was really. Early mornings, too bright lights, uncomfortable chairs, cold, NOISY, crowded, the way you had to sit and learn for an hour straight and fidgeting would get you angry remarks from teachers. My old books and notebooks are filled with drawings, there is no single clean page :'D I remember rewarding myself with drawing every time I answered a question as a motivation.

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

I hired a matchmaker, and I think they were too good. I'm gradually coming to the realization that they matched me up with the only autistic woman they had at the time. I went to a wedding on her side of the family recently, and I don't think I could have thrown a stone and hit a table without somebody with some connection to ASD.

[@turtleanton6539]

Hmmm😊

[@freshelfpie]

Spoon #6. Less ornamentation, and nicely solid. I have huge hands so the length suits me. We have a crazy mix of silverware from a bunch of different roommates. Is it weird I have favorites in every category.

[@MrWuhisn]

🎉congratulations on not going about things the normie way. I’m all for traditional family values but with high divorce rates I think the dating model is flawed. This sounds like the way. Next to strong identical moral convictions in arranged marriage that put the marriage ahead of self. Again🎉🎉🎉 hope things work out.

[@Catlily5]

​@@freshelfpieI have favorite silverware as well. Nothing matches until recently.

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

@@MrWuhisn Around here, it's probably going to be the only way before too long. ASD or not, hardly anybody talks to each other if they're not introduced. It's definitely viewed as not quite right to be chatting up random people to begin with. Even more so if we're talking about attractive women.

[@LeeannG]

It’s always a profound realization for me when I realize how much ND creators thrive as content creators. Like, people are mean on the internet… but a lot of trolls don’t realize that most of us have grown a pretty thick skin after people being face to face rude to us so often 😂 it gives me so much joy that KZbin and TikTok have truly given us all space to make little burrows for community. Your energy makes me smile and say a little “hell yeah” to myself

[@LeeannG]

Also just want to say that girls instinctively do the group bathroom thing for protection, not fun! If one girl in your group says “no I’m fine” you are to understand her club survival instinct is not fully engaged and either 1. Say please or 2. Volunteer as tribute and stay with her and grab a buddy when the group comes back

[@mrsdiss]

that thing about the first person diagnosed with autism being still alive is mindblowing. like, awareness and understanding of autism has changed so much in my lifetime. but that's half the time that autism has even been recognised/diagnosed! that's a huge shift in perspective... ...also, those forks are all horrible. i can feel them in my hands, and they're all nasty. my forks are long and heavy and have no decoration and are super super smooth! ...also also, just remembered that i had to have my special cutlery even back when i was a kid, 40 years ago. i'd forgotten about that...

[@WateryStar]

I was going to say fork #3 until I saw the bottom. I like #1 the best but not if the handle is very short. I have some silverware like these and the rounded ones are my favorite, I'm always searching for them. I got really irked when my s.o. gives me a big spoon to have with yogurt "The spoon is too big!"

[@barbj981]

Fork number 1 for me, thanks! The smaller the better. Small spoon as well. 73 years old, and just diagnosed with autism this past April. I’ve never been so relieved as when I received my diagnosis. To go for this many years wondering why I have always felt like stranger in a strange land, this has been the best gift I’ve ever received. Yup, over the years I’ve had the Bipolar diagnosis, GAD, PTSD, major depressive disorder labels, depending on which doctor I saw. And now, to know all these crazy symptoms are a result of a brain that works differently than the average person, leaves me with a way more positive outlook for my remaining time on earth. I’m now able to look at my quirks and embrace them, rather than keep telling myself that I’m an idiot! What a weight off my shoulders 😊 Thank you Meg for your channel. I really enjoy your content and the way in which you present it. You’re a shining light in the autistic community.

[@steelstrings87]

Re: your frustration about how we are just not far enough along in our knowledge of autism/pda: I'm a teacher in America (yep, big yikes.) I've been teaching autistic (mostly nonverbal) kids for about the last 5 years. I was finally dx'd with ADHD last year (which I've known/suspected for the last two decades) and most likely autism to shortly follow (which has been a little bit more of a shocker.) The horror of actually understanding what these incredible little ppl need to feel safe and thrive (because I took the time to know them as individuals,) implementing that, then literally getting in trouble because I'm not using semi-abusive compliance-driven tactics is REAL. And this is despite the fact that my kids are making greater gains in language and academics because I'm using updated practices which prioritize communication, cooperation and compassion over compliance. But "behavior" is a problem because when another adult who hasn't taken the time to know them walks in, they're unable to force these 4-7 year olds to stay in a seat and do things they're completely uninterested in for 40 minutes at a stretch. It's just wild to me, ya know!? Like you mentioned, everyone has the same 3 "strategies for autism" on lock, and has apparently done no research since 1995. I just keep wanting to shout "hey, do a fucking google search!" and also just remember that these kids are humans in the same way that you and your own children are humans??? Also, I'm currently trying to get a reasonable accommodation as an ND person from my bosses who are/apparently were at some point "special educators" and they're treating me like I'm insane. As much as a lot of us grieve going undiagnosed/unsupported for so long, a lot of us may have been better off tbh :[. (Also, were you a toe walker too? That's where my floaty/bouncy gait comes from.)

[@jimwilliams3816]

Thanks for the work you do. Most of the people that I’ve met, working in schools with kids on the spectrum, have been good people - but yes, institutions tend to focus their approach on what makes life easier for them, rather than what’s best for the people they serve. I’ve seen it both in schools and in elder care.

[@taytribe806]

I would LOVE to tell them "you want these kids to sit still? Here's a game to play. They sit still for as long as you can do a handstand. It's just as hard for them to sit still as it is for you to do a handstand, if not harder." At one point I was trying to get a standing desk at work, and the ergonomic evaluator person kept asking "what happens if you sit still for too long?" I told you - I end up with my feet on the desk or something because I CANNOT sit still like that!

[@thedingdongsunshinefuture]

“Home is where the unmasked self is” I love that💛 I used to collect rocks when I was younger, wanted to be a paleontologist too

[@SailorYuki]

13:45 My son collects rocks, or as he calls them, planetary pieces. He plans on building his own planet one day. I collected bugs as a child. Live ones. Beetles, milliepieds, spiders, whatever my tiny hands could catch. Oh the joy of being my parent.

[@minkwells8434]

When my son was a kid he liked to collect stones and I remember one time he said, "One can never have too many stones." which I always loved and found hilarious and serious at the same time.

[@georgiamunns43]

Thank you for your bit about enjoying clubbing! I feel like when I tell people that I enjoy it they assume that I love being around people all the time and that I must be an extrovert etc. But it's about getting lost in the music and the alcohol and I feel like there's actually less expectation to socialise there than other social situations.

[@cammie49]

That’s me exactly! I love a club or a live band at a tiny pub where everybody dances. I never have to stop moving ie dancing. Win! I can spin for an hour. Win! When I say or do weird things, people assume I’m just drunk or high (I’m not). Win! And it’s too loud to make small talk. Yay! The loud music covers all annoying sounds like chewing or slurping or forks hitting a plate or phones alerts. Total win!

[@towen7349]

I used to get stuck in that conversation trap when I was trying to leave family events. I don't anymore as I just leave when I want to leave without saying goodbye to everybody. 10/10 would recommend.

[@bevishhh]

I was ready to say no fork, am spoon person. But honestly 1 is just a very nice fork. Spoon level fork. Soft edges. Compact. 10/10

[@TheCimbrianBull]

Why choose when you can have both in one; have you ever heard of a spork? Yup, that's a real thing. Spooncepcion!

[@resourceress7]

"spoon-level fork" 😍😀 Smooth edges, yes!

[@PeninsulaCity2024]

The fork thing never bothered me until that meme. Suddenly, its life or death. I never been diagnosed btw, but exploring the possibility after noticing things about myself that "simple" depression, truama, and introversion doesn't quite explain.

[@shylathiel]

Cups to, my cup texture is key

[@Em_Elizabeth]

I always chose smaller forks and spoons. I had no idea other people had a preference, or that it had anything to do with neurodivergence either.

[@Josith13]

6:05 Being 'quirky' or having silly flaws as a woman can just be perceived as cute and endearing. The girl who isnt a "basic bitch" is on a higher pedestal than the rest, if anything. As a guy you're just weird or incompetent and put in the "to be avoided" pile. Or drained for validation like a blood sausage and then dumped after making her feel better. ( My experiences anyway) I guess having autism + majority of my life being single against my will, has given me time to notice the recurring trends. And then when that one girl actually seems to care, I put a lot into them, again maybe because autism, maybe because love starved. And am then devastated emotionally/motivationally when they cut ties. Yeehaw/10 💜

[@robyns5977]

Omg, sitting here in my car, on my lunch break. That sleep longer, skip work, quit your job meme was 100% me this morning lol

[@StephanieDefinitely]

I think I’m fork 1 or 2. Funny enough the flatware we currently use at home was chosen by my grandfather at least 25 years ago, and coincidentally, I’m pretty sure he had autism too. We inherited this flatware from him and they are soooo pleasing to the senses, I love them! They feel great in the hand and all of the pieces are a perfect size and weight imho. (It’s WMF Cromargan “Line” flatware fyi.)

[@ShadoeLandman]

I don't know which fork without seeing their proportions in person. For spoons, I'll usually pick a teaspoon, sometimes even a baby spoon. I hate soup spoons with deep bowls because they're uncomfortable in all directions, but I've heard several people say they like larger spoons.

[@colleenmcbride3656]

Same!

[@nekochadechu]

My mom has always found me weird for not liking beeg spoons and i felt bad (still didnt use them but felt ashamed while using small ones anyways) and now i fully embraced that beeg spoon sucks!!!! I'll never use beeg spoons just because "i need to grow up"

[@MaryannT]

I chose a fork-spoon multitool. I carry it with me as a "purse fork" and use all the time. And yes, it is small and cute :) and can open cans if necessary!

[@TeddyLovesAxl]

🤔 👌🏻

[@margodphd]

I wonder who decided that it's a spork and not a foom.

[@aspidoscelis]

Regarding the "looking back" meme, today's example for me: Sensory sensitivities are still the aspect of autism where I look at myself and say: "Well, I have a little of that, but not much, really." I saw a comment about a parent wanting to find a sunscreen that their child could tolerate. I'm 41 and it was last year that I discovered there was a sunscreen I could tolerate. My strategy until then was just... spend a lot of time outside but don't wear sunscreen. Sunburn is less unpleasant than sunscreen. Oh, right, I've had these sensitivities for long enough that they don't register. In my mind, it's just a choice not to wear sunscreen. I don't really think about the fact that most sunscreens feel icky and intolerable, because I don't experience that sensation. Because I don't wear sunscreen. Because of my sensory sensitivity.

[@aspidoscelis]

For that matter: "Oh, I used to be pretty rigid and upset by change, but I think I've mostly gotten over that." I own a half-dozen forks and a half-dozen spoons. I only use one fork, and I only use one spoon. These have been "my" fork and "my" spoon for something like 25 years. Also, my fork has three tines. This is the correct number. :-)

[@durabelle]

Aaa, this!! I spent years with constant headaches on a sunny weather rather than wearing sunglasses, since I hated the feeling of them on my nose and behind my ears. Then I finally invested some money on a good pair that was properly adjusted to me by an optician, and for the past few years I've worn them all through the year whenever it's even slightly too bright outside. I love them! Unfortunately they're starting to get a bit weary now and I should really get a new pair soon, but I hate the idea of change already. I wish I could go back in time and buy ten pairs to get me through half a decade 😂

[@aspidoscelis]

For that matter, I retired "my" blanket-the one I'd been sleeping with every night since I was something like 3 years old-when I was 39. I still have it, but it has too little structural integrity...

[@cosmickitten22]

This is kinda off topic but the part about misdiagnosis brought it back to my mind; This week I got my first “you can’t be autistic you make eye contact” from the intake therapist I brought it up with and she brought up how ptsd/cptsd can have a lot of the same presentation and it has me really wondering why things with the same symptoms don’t get the same access to accommodations.

[@jimwilliams3816]

I wonder...if you had come in saying you thought you had PTSD, would the intake psychologist have pointed out that autism can present like PTSD? Not that I’m suggesting they have “preferred” diagnoses...

[@RainbowEssence-c3w]

I feel like the problem is, too, that a lot of neurodivergent people also suffer from C-PTSD due to being bullied and/or abused as a child for being different and having special needs/being too "high-maintenance." I haven't been officially diagnosed yet either, but I suspect I may have ADHD or Autism and as a kid I was told several times that I was "too sensitive" or "being a drama queen". I was abused by my elder sibling who would often get annoyed by my oversensitivity and clinginess. I was a very timid child and that annoyed him. He'd also scold me for stupid little things, like spilling something or this one time I poured grape juice from my (clean) cup back into the grape juice bottle. I hadn't drank out of the cup yet, and I was pouring some back because I accidentally poured a little too much. I knew I wasn't gonna drink it all, and I didn't wanna get in trouble for "wasting juice" so I tried to put some back. Apparently that wasn't right either, I just couldn't win. 😅

[@salvadorlloret-farina8767]

@@RainbowEssence-c3w disentangling the chain of cause and effect is why the formal dx process is so time consuming. Ultimately in many cases misdiagniosis is the result of confirmation bias related to the training of the medical professionals which if not sufficiently thorough can lead to mistaking presenting symptoms as first cause. Reflexive masking as a survival instinct means the longer someone lives without support or awareness the more effective their still working adaptive strategies have become. Its no surprise that many diagnoses come to light as a result of a severe burnout event.

[@punkophonized]

Personally, 1 and 2 are the closest to my actual favourite forks. But i have to hold them to know which one is better. I mean, they have to be smooth, their weight has to be properly distributed, well balanced in hand. Spokes have to be a bit curved, not very sharp, well polished and not too close to each other. Fork number 2 is a bit busy on the handle, busier than my pretty vintage fork, but it may work.

[@bottomofastairwell]

Everything you said is just perfect. I bet I would LOVE every fork in your house.

[@sillysnowy108]

Thank you! I need heavier ones, but the weight distribution is such a huge thing. If it's not balanced right its not usable, and you cant tell that from looking!

[@jonathanp___________3606]

All the forks are unsettling. The handles "aren't right." If I had to choose, maybe number one.

[@SmallSpoonBrigade]

LOL yeah, I'm combing through my records as part of formal diagnosis and in retrospect, it was pretty clear that there was something different. Everybody else in my work group wrote nearly a page a day in our collective journal. I wrote like 1/4 of a page and it was basically just the facts. It's almost as if I wasn't cluing in on any of the emotional aspect of what was going on

[@TransGuyShane]

I got misdiagnosed with EUPD at 9 years old. Turns out I was just a ftm with autism. Also me and my niece love collecting rocks, she will find them and bring them to me whenever I see her , I have a shelf of rocks lol I am also a dice goblin and collect them even tho I rarely get to play any dnd , when I do I will have so many dice to pick from ❤

[@flawlix]

A solution to the phone problem for me was pairing an Apple Watch with my iPhone and then using the “find my phone” app on the watch. It’ll ring out even if the phone is on silent. BUT I also had to make sure every unnecessary notice on the watch was also shut off… and that’s when I can bring myself to wear it because I hate the sensation of it around my wrist… Edit: and the trauma versus ADHD thing… I was diagnosed with PTSD as a teen after witnessing domestic violence for years. I think the diagnosis was appropriate, but I also think it caused my ADHD symptoms to be dismissed as “trauma,” even though there were signs before any of the “trauma” ever happened (see, e.g., all of my elementary school progress reports: Flawlix is a great student, but disorganized, has trouble paying attention, and needs to stop daydreaming in class). It can be both! Or either! But the treatment for ADHD was more effective for managing my ADHD-like symptoms than years of PTSD therapy.

[@bobbie9066]

I don't want to dismiss the suffering of all the Autistic people in the past who got even rougher treatment than today, but I also recently found out about these convents that specialised in making point lace and I love the idea of doing that for hours with someone else cooking and a set schedule and... Yeah

[@lorilimper5429]

I imagine the other nuns would have hated me and I'd still have been burned at the stake.

[@DJTripleRRR]

Omg.... I'm male but the girl stuff happened to me. Like I've been misdiagnosed for ages until now when self diagnosed. Now working on getting my official diagnosis. I think my autism was always stemmed down to my sexuality. I think you'd find the gay autistic might struggle with misdiagnosis as well. My stimming was always chalked down to my sexuality... Now I realise all these years later that it was actually stimming...

[@TeddyLovesAxl]

I have 3 stims. Licking my lips, rocking from foot to foot while standing and when I’m laying down I wiggle my left foot until I fall asleep. I was admitted to a psych ward and had a dr tell me, “I’ll give you some medicine to help you with licking ur lips.” Naturally the medicine didn’t work. Thinking back to that 5 yrs ago my thoughts are, “no dr, how about you give me a proper diagnosis!”

[@AstarothFox]

How dare you call out my childhood like that. XD

[@SimplyConeh]

I had almost settled on 4, even considering 3, but then I saw the full picture and I realized that all those forks are absolutely just recycling material. Whoever owns these forks should invest in some proper forks with rounded wooden handles.

[@carolinepugsley-lea3750]

But wooden handles have seams! They're never adequately clean! One piece utensils only in this house hahaha

[@jannettb7930]

I was misdiagnosed with bipolar and treated for 2 years with disastrous results. It took me 15 years to go back to a therapist.

[@megadjc192]

With the fork picture. I have questions. Like, "how large are the forks actually?". I can't pick a fork because I do not know their relative size to me. I'm super tall so I have larger hands and unfortunately the good looking utensils have a tendency to be a bit small. Also, when it comes to forks and spoons the best looking forks and spoons aren't always the best performers so I'd question that too. In many ways this defines my relationships with a lot of different things in my life. Paralyzed by choice...

[@imautisticnowwhat]

True - I feel like we need to give them a test run before we commit 😂

[@dmgroberts5471]

But the real brain twister...is that an NT looks at that picture...and just sees forks. Now, I don't get that kind of thinking at all.

[@strictnonconformist7369]

The question of size is one I didn't ask in my response, but it's true. I solved the problem by buying 2 sets of 12 place settings so I get 2 sizes with the same style that's minimalistic and appropriately rounded, and for me, have the right amount of heft.

[@SaHaRaSquad]

Regarding diagnosis...yeah sometimes even professionals suck at it. I once did a test with a specialist for ADHD and autism and not only was the test negative but his "explanation" for all my problems was "well I guess you get bored quickly", before he tried to bend reality and reported that the problems I had for my whole life were caused by the one-year depression. The depression that, ya know, was caused by three decades of undiagnosed stuff.

[@drowsyfloof]

everything you said about the forks!! 😂😂 i would pick 6 cause of the very nice curvature. i cant deal with flat handled utensils it drives me nutty. i also have a weird thing about wanting a longer utensil, because if it’s short, SOMETHING on the handle is gonna get on my hand. it never fails. plus the sensation of the heaviness is quite nice, being able to absentmindedly teeter it like a pen 😂 i’m ctfu 😂😂😂 the end part really just made me realize that being autistic is like everything you experience/do being “the design is very human” 😭😂😂😂

[@MrShadowbrine]

There’s a scolding phrase for a child that doesn’t clean the environment they played that’s “do you have a maid?” And there was me as a child that never heard that phrase and I didn’t put away a toy and the teacher comes to me and asks “do you have a maid” and me “yes” and the teacher call my parents and tell them I defied them and I didn’t understand why I was getting grounded!

[@WizardKitty723]

I’ve been seen and misdiagnosed by psychiatrists for 35 years. Finally figured out BY MYSELF that in AuDHD and got diagnosed last month

[@lunesterv5802]

I spent 10 years fighting to be diagnosed with autism after being diagnosed with BPD for meeting a doctor for five minutes while in hospital for a severe meltdown. Once that went on my record, I was told I had a personality disorder and to accept it. Something didn't feel right, and I kept fighting. It took meeting the right therapist, clinician, and assessment team to be properly diagnosed before actual progress was made. Now, because of your videos, I understand more of myself and no longer feel like I am alone.

[@Kovad6]

I would choose Fork 2, because the "needles" are shaped in a same way as the fork I like to use. Meg, you've changed my life! You are awesome! Thank you Meg! :)) I am 31M. This year, I have got my heart broken, and I was doing very bad. I was chatting with NT friend who was giving me advice for NTs and that does not work to me. And actually that was the first time I was thinking: "What the hack is wrong with me? The most of people are just different.." Firstly, I thought I had BPD because I was obsessed with that girl and I got the emotional swings -- I am not surprised why ASD can be misdiagnosed as BPD. Later I thought it was AvPD because I really do avoid people IRL. At the end, one of your videos about autism and masking popped to me and opened my eyes. The more I read about it the more it made sense! *Click!* I have to be autistic, but I was "normal" for whole of my life. So I've done the quizes. Result are positive! (Aspie quiz says I am half ND and half NT) I have watched your videos - oh my God. I relate to most of your things. For example, I also started saying: "Have a nice day" after one high school girl said that line to someone. (When I heard that thing from your side I was crying!) Anyway, I am not officially diagnosed, yet one of my ND friends told me that I do have autistic traits. Another NT friend, who has autistic brother, also told me the same thing. Thank you for the one of the last videos! (I am scared of meeting new people!) Anyway part of me wants to write you more, yet I am unsure if you would like to hear my story full of the embarrassment. (I have already written to you a lot!) Once again, THANK YOU! ^_^

[@samarnadra]

Fork #2 for sure. We had silverware like 3 and 4 and silverware with narrow almost pointed handles that had that same sort of embossed flowers slightly set into the handle, and one day all the flower forks and spoons were dirty and I had to use a plain one and I couldn't figure out how it worked. It was the same length as the flower one. I have now diversified my silverware to prevent such issues, but flower forks of all varieties and small spoons and dessert forks (but not quite pickle forks) hold a special place in my heart.

[@ragnose1]

the floral design jsut feels nice while eating doesnt it?

[@jmfs3497]

Hated high school. Hated all school. Too many people, too much bouncing between subjects, too much time spent sitting still while people monologued, too much group work. Shop class and Radio Class was ok. I wish I would have liked that time in my life, but it was stressful and I don't feel like I learned much after 1st Grade. Phone is always on silent unless I accidentally turned it on.

[@NatalieSanguis]

Fork 2 for me because it’s the daintiest and fits with my ideal aesthetic which is important for my mood. But also the other ones are either too bulky or too square looking, I can only deal with soft shapes.

[@imautisticnowwhat]

The square look was the most upsetting to me too, I think!

[@emmaberger3748]

I got a brief psyc assessment done and the response i got when I asked about autism (bc why would that be something they even look for 🙃) was exactly like “there’s no treatment” and I’m like… I kNoW but then I can accommodate instead of trying to fix myself. Like yes I need to deal with the problems but I will indeed handle them differently. DBT is great I think but there’s almost nothing about addressing sensory sensitivities

[@kikml22]

I have never related to anyone more in my entire life. Thanks for helping me decide to go through with adult autism testing. My first appointment is this Saturday. If I remember, maybe I'll come back and update this 🤷

[@MsTriara]

Hey, found your channel from the videos on PDA. Really appreciate your content, it helped reassure me of my self-diagnosis.🥺 Could you make a video on what helps you get things done despite PDA? The more I care about something, the harder it gets for me to get to work. :/

[@imautisticnowwhat]

I'm so glad I could help a little! I completely relate to that. I'm definitely planning on doing a video like that - hopefully I'll have it ready in the next couple of months or so 😊

[@GeorgeWiman]

Yep, I'm super-fussy about which fork to use, and if asked could explain what I like about each one. Same with every single object I handle: a pencil, screwdriver, anything.

[@Yume03]

My high school was awesome, everyone was treated more like adult students at university and that translated to more mature behavior from students. People walked around with ceramic mugs of tea or coffee and as long as you got good grades you could skip some classes without issues. It was very free environment and very minimal noise for a big school 😅. I live in Poland and that was years ago in public school in capital city but not sure if it’s still as good now. Lots changed with new management. 😅

[@emilymoran9152]

LOL - having the phone more or less permanently on silent (unless I'm expecting a call), and then not having that option to find it, is very relatable. And I'm very "two wolves" about clubs. One wolf loves the dancing. One hates the flashing lights and crowds.

[@CarnivoreHipposinBikinis]

63 and given all the labels... autism/add only one that made sense. Anti-psyche meds did everything to me that you said... I resisted the add diagnosis for 10 years i was so resistant to being fixed! Tried vyvanse 6 months ago. Initial dose way too high. Private psyche scary in his lack of care of me personally 63 female & autistic with old age health issues... Settling well on a much lower dose with more flexibility. I was amazed at the experience of silence in my head 4 first time ever. So vyvanse interesting to explore carefully at low doses to remove anxiety depression and a life time of fluff on my needle... Fork one & small spoon every time... for all your reasons. Thought i was only one with severe cutlery fetish! I am also allergic to the sight of bar codes on anything... Taken me 62 years to find a toothbrush i can tolerate. Dear lady you're so illuminating & informative & enlightening & naturally speedy LIKE ME! I have dipped in to heaps of autie-addedy channels... All useful... But baby girl! You got me pegged... So much more makes sense of my life since you offered me PDA! I was correctly diagnosed aged 50. Bi-polar, bpd, schizophrenia were all declared never valid nor appropriate... And now cpstd plus pda is the bow on top! Cautionary Tale. Just turned 63. Four months ago i had to move house. My support network collapsed. I got forcibly medicated against my will with the consultant saying "bi-polar" Just saying... HEAPS OF EDUCATION TO DO. We can never really feel completely safe. Slowly recovering from the psychotic & damaging effects of mega doses of serequel! Keep up your good work.

[@DivingDeveloper]

Found your videos a couple of weeks ago and binged them. Very educational and somehow cathartic too! And the salad fingers meme, eeeeeeek! TY for uploading 🙂

[@imautisticnowwhat]

I'm so glad you like them! Thank you soo much for watching 😊

[@DivingDeveloper]

@@imautisticnowwhat Gotta be fork number 5 btw - simple is better even it is bigger lol.

[@sonoftorin]

Already upvoted, wanted to upvote again for salad fingers! Nvm that I’m 46. That’s post teen, right?

[@hannahowen1801]

Not yet formally diagnosed but ive only just come to terms with the fact that I am indeed autistic. It's been so glaring obvious for my entire life when I look back. I thought that if I ignore the autism it would go away. I was very high masking for a long ass time and then my world started to crumble. I'd convinced myself that I was going to "fix my brain". What a toxic way of looking at my own mind, which although it can be volatile and uncomfortable, has many positive aspects that I'm sure are a byproduct of my autism. You've been such a massive inspiration to me in helping me come to terms with my neurotype and honour my needs, instead of trying to mould myself to the expectations of others ❤

[@kiiyll]

For me, it was either fork 1 or fork 6, but I would probably go with #1 as #6 seems like it would probably be too large, although I don't actually have any sort of scale to go by. All the other ones have weird decorative stuff that just makes the fork more difficult/uncomfortable to use.

[@TeddyLovesAxl]

Aside from the fork sizes, I can’t use anything but plastic plates and cups. I think it’s a weight thing

[@authenticthreads]

That last one about knowing you’re not human… Me: checking the Facebook reactions before I react to make sure I’m reacting appropriately.😂

[@imautisticnowwhat]

Yesss!! I do this too 😂😂

[@SLYKM]

I don't practice how to talk to people bc I don't. I sometimes sound like a person who knows what I'm doing in public, and sometimes I sound like a lost child. Also people often don't realize I'm the parent of my 13 year old haha.

[@alysonw5371]

I'm excited about autism (and others) getting so much attention in the past decade, going forward, because it's pointing out that we're just as diverse internally as we are externally. Giving space for people based on their race, gender, religion, culture, sexuality, etc, has opened the possibility for the same forgiveness and space to those with intellectual variances.

[@archiecook55]

Fork 1 appeals the most to me too, it looks a lot like the small forks I usually use to eat food at home so it just feels familiar and comfortable to me. I have forks that are a bit larger too like 2/3 but it just feels more right using the smaller ones primarily for eating stuff. To me the bigger forks just feel more like they're for preparation/serving rather than actually eating with.

[@stevenspencer306]

My phone is on silent and my voice mail is full. Thank you for not interrupting.

[@kimberlydrennon4982]

Oh my god, that long goodbye thing in the US we call it the Minnesota goodbye. And seriously the closer you get to Minnesota the longer the goodbyes are. But we're not necessarily expected to say goodbye to everyone individually. It's just you get talking with the one individual you really care to say goodbye to and then you have to talk for an hour

[@TheCimbrianBull]

Maybe I'm conflating two things here, but don't you just suddenly slap both your thighs, exclaim "welp!" and get up from your seat and say it's time to leave as part of a Minnesota goodbye?! Genuinely curious about this!

[@wintergray1221]

@@TheCimbrianBull That's definitely what we do in the states near the Ohio River.

[@maroonai]

6:18 literally me right now. im actually quitting this week for several reasons but needing sleep is genuinely one of them

[@amandab7101]

That is so funny about the forks. When we were shopping for silverware to include in our wedding registry, the only ones I could stand to own were just like the ones my mom had. My sister also has the same silverware. It looks like #3. ;)

[@irrelevantduckfan4413]

My husband literally hunted down and bought the same pattern I grew up with because I could never find a fork that was comfortable to use. He gets me

[@ooshiikurai]

I figured this would probably be a good place to share this. I was in a teacher convention where we were learning about how to teach to different learning styles. And the presenter takes a moment to share that her son was recently diagnosed with autism. And my autistic ass proceeded to raise my hand in the air and go “whoop whoop”. It was only on the first whoop that I realized, oh she meant for that to be a sad confession… shit.

[@archiecook55]

Did anyone react to your "whoop"?

[@bethanythatsme]

1. Fork #6 is for me. Large, smooth, sturdy. (But I don't want the big spoon 🙃) 2. I most definitely would have been burnt at the stake 3. Thank you for sharing your experiences and vulnerabilities. Feeling less alone, even if in a parasocial fashion, is so cathartic. Sending greetings and well wishes to all from this AuDHD gal in Oregon 🌲🌊🦉🍄 Edit/4: I never know how to end a conversation with NTs. I fear thar they've grown tired of the exchange, but I just uncomfortably blather on 😂

[@kaisoep]

yes spoon 6 it is! I do want the big spoon especially when eating yoghurt but the problem is that then I eat the entire jar so i should probably stick to the small spoon

[@staunekindchen]

I would go for 5 or 6, but 5 looks too heavy 🤔

[@ravem410]

Yesss. Just the continuing to talk cause you have no idea when or how it should end 🥲

[@teardropteam]

I choose none I eat with a spoon

[@americandingo1109]

Jeez wasn't expecting the Salad Fingers reference in the opening. What a throwback!

[@sofiao1559]

Forks 1 and 6, small plate/food = small fork, makes me feel that everything is in order.

[@Chells_Bells]

Omg not knowing how to end conversations! A co-worker I recently traveled for work with (and actually ended up becoming friends with) revealed to me that she used to think that I talked too much. I ended up telling her I have no idea how to end a conversation and don’t pick up on the other person’s social cues to wrap things up, and that I’ll be standing there thinking omg when will it be over?? And then she ended up asking me if I am autistic or neurodivergent, which felt so validating as I’m currently going through the diagnostic process. Since we came to understand each other better, we ended up becoming friends. ❤

[@badlie4858]

someone: choose a fork me: *anxiety intensifies* this is the most important choice of my life

[@amywright3986]

Fork #1, 100%! In addition to a comfy handle (with just enough texture to rub it if I need to, but not enough to distract me much otherwise), it is nice and small and it doesn't have an aggressive bump on the eating bit like some forks do.

[@Maryaminx]

I just kind of walk away when I'm done with a conversation, which is apparently a very rude thing I've been doing my whole life. But sometimes they just keep talking and I have to keep making agreeing noises until they let me escape.

[@TheCimbrianBull]

I feel you on this one! I suddenly look at my phone with a surprised facial expression and interrupt them and tell them I'm running late for an important meeting.

[@imautisticnowwhat]

That sounds like some of my relatives 😂 I think I can be a bit like this around people I'm comfortable with too...

[@Lynx-29]

About the having your phone on silent after you lost it thing- there’s actually an app called find my phone that can make your phone make noises even when it’s on silent. Also it tracks your phone.

[@anniebeanie710]

Those forks reminided me of the set my parents got to their wedding. I LOVE it. Its so perfect, elegant and perfectlyyyy decorated. I cant stand any OTHER set EVEEEER :-) ==> One of the best days of my life was when i found out it is STILL being made and you can buy more of those. --> Best thing i ever got for christmas was when my father gave me a whole bunch of NEW spoons, forks and knives in my absolutelly most favorite design :D oooooh. (And they are quite expensive)

[@chosensomeonelse]

Oh 'you left us, you ignored us', I can relate SO MUCH. I literally looked for an answer for my entire life, changed countries and only through an access to all of the data and experience I was able to finally verify at least ADHD! With ASD I haven't even stared, it's way too much of a struggle and that would just make it 'official' which doesn't change a thing for me. Hits home

[@DavidLindes]

Salad fingers!!! And lots of good info. Found several useful insights in there. As for forks, I have forks that are sturdier than any of those. Straight handle with a roughly oval cross-section… just dead simple, and strong enough to pry things with, without it bending. Love ‘em.

[@brendandavison5437]

That part about your family and social gatherings hit so close to home. I love to talk a lot about my interests, but for me, a little drinking is a social lubricant, but after a couple Im drinking to wind down the day. But I just feel compelled that I have to stay and be in the room even though I'm wanting to go to bed but I have to stick around and be there for a conversation Im not part of.

[@arisily]

The description of the reaction to your phone 😂 yes! I haaaaate my phone ringing or even just getting notifications even though I also need them to remember things 💀 Also! Just wanted to say thank you so much for sharing these memes and your experience. I'm currently trying to finish my 50 page assessment document (I need to trim it down some! I feel so bad at how long it is lol) for autism, and your content is so affirming!

[@marcusfridh8489]

In stead of choosing a fork, i prefer eating with chop sticks, i can do everything with chopsticks that a fork can do and even more, chop sticks used right are a fork, tongs, stiring the pasta, and much more.

[@lilliestanley6558]

You're one of the reasons I feel better about myself. I grew up feeling like an alien and so alone. My husband helped me a lot but I still had issues with myself. Since learning about neurodivergent, ADHD, and autism I've learned a lot. I don't get as mad at myself for not being able to do things anymore. I'm still learning. I do claim neurodivergent but without a brain scan I would feel like a hypochondriac if I claimed anything else. Though I do realize that that's just how I was conditioned by life in a small town. Like I said, I'm still learning. Anyway, back to the point of the comment, thank you for your videos. You're awesome 👍😎

[@salfordnurse]

I had stones, but down over part of my garden, the daily struggle to fight my autistic need to bring the cool ones in when I see one on a daily basis is so real

[@Autisticheather]

I've been going to therapy off and on for over 30 years and not a single therapist mentioned autism. Clinical d epression, anxiety disorder, ocd, and one agreed with my self adhd diagnosis. The same one thought i had obessive personality disorder, not justified ocd. When i told hey i became characters in books or movies after i saw them she said that's weird. So yeah. I went to get assessed for autism Amma he acknowledged my autism traits, but also added that i had suicidal ideation and hallucinations.... because i told him i had an imaginary friend my whole life and yes i thought about suicide at my lowest times, but would never even attempt it. So i went running. This i remain self diagnosed. Oh yeah, and a professor in college told me i think and learn differently, in a creative round about way. In all of my years, i believe that was the most accurate assessment i ever received. He did not label me, but he described me accurately.

[@SuzetteMorganStudio]

Being self-employed was one of the best decisions I ever made. My life finally started improving when I could design my work around my strengths and challenges. I didn't even know at the time that I'm neurodivergent. If you can't find a job that's a good fit you can make a job that's a good fit.

[@sneakyirishman7090]

9:30, mentioned to friends that I had listed on my profile that I was autistic, but they said that was a no no because it “felt like you were making that your whole thing/personality.” Like bruh, I’m autistic. It’s not some side feature. I was just trying to be clear and upfront in order to not have any problems down the road if anybody I matched with kept thinking I wasn’t responding back to them in the manner they were used to or whatever.

[@Pfhorrest]

I have a running gag where whenever someone else has lost something that isn't a phone, I ask them "have you tried calling it?" and often they will briefly start like they're going to give that a try until it sinks in "...wait".

[@maggierestivo5256]

Self-diagnosed right now (very expensive in the US), at 62. Love your vids! Yes, the BP thing is very prevalent, and one reason I am reluctant to try for a diagnosis. Borderline Personality Disorder, to me, is the 21st century equivalent of the 19th century "diagnosis" of female "hysteria". I am reluctant to get diagnosed, partly, yes, because it is expensive, but also because, as a woman, I have been medically gaslighted so many times, and am terribly afraid of being put on medication. Allergies to lots of meds, but also.... psychic. I do NOT want meds messing with my brain and leaving it open to being influenced. Feeling like an alien? LOL Yes, as a Pagan Autistic Witch and Medium, I can relate.

[@kaisoep]

Not me enthusiastically stimming at every meme because I relate to it so much

[@darkseraph2009]

God. The "found a rock" thing reminded me about when I was real young. I found a piece of metal slag in the parking lot outside the condo and kept it. No idea if wr have it in the storage unit or not.

[@DrinkYourNailPolish]

0:50 THIS SPEAKS TO MY SOUL!!!

[@angelicana9065]

Before I found out I was autistic, I discovered what BPD was, and the immediate thought was, "yep, that's me." 2 1/2 years later, and I'm actually autistic 🫠 (I mean, I COULD still be BPD, and I wouldn't be surprised if I am, but still) Edit: I also had that thought when I found out what bipolar disorder was, and genuinely spent ~3 1/2 months thinking I was bipolar (it's very obvious to me now that I'm not)