Avoid These 3 Nice Guy Behaviors|Dr Robert Glover | The Art of Charm

[@petewangen-groovedrummer8083]

Wow, I had no idea how deep and far my nice guy ness ran.

[@ArtofCharmTV]

Deep, best part is you’re on your way out of it.

[@WitnWisdom64]

Same here! Eye opening..turns my behavior on its head…time for change

[@checkurhead_3472]

You and me both. He looked into my soul....

[@dontevntrip8627]

Regardless if you are nice or not, women will always play games. Don't take it personally and remember your own value. Know you can put in all the work and still get in a bad situation, it's what you do after you realize that which matters.

[@j.davidtaylor2565]

I listened to his audiobook 5 years ago and I've made some progress but I definitely have not figured it all out.

[@TheJimbo1791]

52 years old with a lot of nice guy issues. Just learning. Just realized that my favourite words have been "I am already too old". WHICH in itself is again, avoiding the struggle. Now, even though it IS f_n more difficult when you are older it is also a terrific time - I think - to start understanding and acting on this. I have the awareness NOW. Before this I was 80% a Peter Pan. Thanks so much for this video.

[@Mich-jk2ze]

Never too old to change the way you act and your behaviors. As long as you’re conscious of them, you have a choice. Might as well start now cause never starting will leave you with the regret of what if.

[@TheJimbo1791]

@@Mich-jk2ze Thank you. Encouragement is needed!!

[@matthewjones2190]

Wow Robert was on fire with this one! Cutting straight through it like a knife in butter. Also love the new beard and shirt Robert you look like a rock star

[@kurtvanluven9351]

It is amazing I got as far as I did without having a clue!

[@ArtofCharmTV]

I know the feeling. 🤓

[@brianmeen2158]

Most men are terrible at not only attracting women but keeping their attraction. I still see many 40-50 year old guys that try to lead either their wallet - they have no other route to getting attention from women. Very sad

[@allenblack3785]

When women started realizing they can play men for infinite free dinners, it was all over. when I started realizing what a f****** SIMP I am, it made me sick. There is nothing wrong with giving, but we should not expect anything back. I just hope that Karma works.

[@ArtofCharmTV]

Identifying the behavior is the first step to correct it. You’re well on your way!

[@tgar6663]

don't be too hard on yourself, don't know how familiar you are with Patrice Oneal or 2 Pac but both at some point were "nice guys" so if it could happen to them it can happen to any man.

[@ARdave311]

@@tgar6663really? Do you have the source? I’m a HUGE Patrice O’Neil fan, he has taught me a ton about how to relate to women in his “black Phillips” talks. I never realized he was a former nice guy. You can tell he gets women despite not being conventionaly good looking wich helped me. I always felt you just had to be a Chad to get women

[@Tittelintuure04]

I think we should except something back. Why would you just give free meals for somebody if you not get anything back.

[@danielk6878]

I need to get into psychological book writing. There's good money on that and then I can start working the circuits.

[@julierosana3415]

Don't overcomplicate life....because it is not that complicate

[@Tittelintuure04]

This guy definetly does it

[@hellothere-b6q]

Sometimes is good to be nice..... Sometimes!

[@Mich-jk2ze]

Nice guys and being nice are not to be confused with each other. Being a nice guy is the white knight; the man who does things for people knowing or thinking he’ll have bargaining chips later to cash out favors. Being kind out of charity requires no payment from the receiver and is just an admirable thing to do.

[@backyardrailroader]

Well, I never expect life to be smooth. I do disagree on things. I do help people out, but I also say no. I also do not expect to have people help me after I help them out.

[@pomp4401]

Just set boundaries for yourself. I think that’s the main point of this.

[@bolt-dbtfg]

How do you walk the right tight rope between covert contracts and negotiated desire? You don't want to wait forever, give to receive (covert contract), nor do you want come out and ask her direct to do something and she does because she HAS to for fear of loss (negotiated desire), you want her to WANT to do it .

[@ArtofCharmTV]

Your question infers you’re stuck in your head. You lead towards your destination. If she’s interested she’ll follow. If not you either try again later or move on to some one who is.

[@Mich-jk2ze]

I think it rides on how you navigate the situations. If you scheme and think to yourself “if I do this, she’ll do this or she won’t be able to say no to this.” Now, if you come from a point that mirrors something more like “here are my desires, this is how I care for you, are you coming along for the ride.” The difference is how open you are to failure or saying the wrong thing and how secure you are in your identity.

[@dyates12]

Nice guys finish last!

[@vincentnee5227]

They finish Last because they don't put themselves first!!!!!!

[@z0mgz0mg]

Nice guys finish in the shower

[@ukchris64]

I do wish thes evideo's would stop banging on about sex and relationships. Due to the plandemic, now there is the thing of not having sex with either the jabbed or unjabbed, whichever side of the fence you sit on, the plandemic ruined everything.

[@ArtofCharmTV]

It accelerated where we were heading.

[@_xBrokenxDreamsx_]

there's nothing covert about a date if you have no interest in the other person and are only going for the free meal you're a criminal.

[@bill4270]

I take it the author is not a fan of "How to win friends and influence people".

[@yashsavla9626]

Man that book just boosted all the niceness inside me and made me more of a people pleaser.

[@stefanmihaibitai4176]

That's a shity book. It shows you how to be a people pleaser. The reality is different from that book.

[@Tittelintuure04]

​@@yashsavla9626it means you are not actually nice

[@BloodyHeck]

But for most men, if you don't do those things, you don't get the date in the first place. So you have to be the nice guy to just get your foot in the door.

[@Mich-jk2ze]

You can’t switch it on and off, that’s sideways. You just be the best version of yourself and see where things go. If nowhere, move on to the next one, if something sticks then great.

[@marlonargueta]

That isn't true at all. I suffered from the nice guy syndrome and I failed in dating. It was only until I overcame this that my dating skyrocketed.

[@BloodyHeck]

@@marlonargueta Yes, being the bad boy is extremely successful but most of us can't pull that off.

[@TooBuffed]

Advice for the immature, unaware

[@TheGabrielberki]

It’s actually not immature to try and be a better version of yourself.

[@user-tz9io1ll8p]

Just curious, why is it immature?

[@macraeolinger]

Do cofee first and gauge ger attitude. Go to Waffle House second. Gauge their reaction. If she is a 'keeper', take her to a nice dinner.

[@mariothewizard3710]

Unhelpful

[@davegilbertson]

39 yo man. Thought I had rooted out my nice guyness. Realize there's more. This guy isn't the silver bullet, but trust, there's value here

[@mariothewizard3710]

@@davegilbertson I'm sure there is but after checking him out and emailing him 7 months ago, this isn't for me. If anybody else life genuinely improved because of this that is great

[@menumlor9432]

​@Mario The Wizard mine improved significantly. It's not instant. Took me a year and I'm still improving.

[@mariothewizard3710]

@@menumlor9432 That's good to hear. Keep it up

[@davegilbertson]

@@mariothewizard3710 oh. I would not advise anyone reaching out to him. Based solely on his 3 marriages and his manicured beard. That said, content can be on point. Respect yourself. Understand you have flaws. Own your needs. Understand your wants. You will not be liked by all. You will be misunderstood by many. You are loved. Peace Mario

[@davidholmes2283]

So Jesus Christ was bad when he said "do unto others as you would have them do to you" ?

[@davegilbertson]

Jesus Christ is never wrong. Nice guys don't end up on crosses. A man that is 100 grounded in spirit of God, speaks truth, fully motivated by love...did and do.

[@davegilbertson]

"Whoa unto you when all men speak well of you" JC on 'nice guys'

[@davegilbertson]

Be careful as well. The nice guy approach to life is a manipulation of the enemy. Producing codependency. The grace of God is allowing someone into you life close enough that cuts through the BS and sounds the alarm. The real tragedy is living a nice guy life that ends up leading to 1. Pride/entitlement or 2. Resentment/spite towards God as we believe we're doing all God has asked of us, yet we have not secured love

[@eoinMB3949]

I think as a Christian you're obliged to live in a different way to the world. It's not easy and people will Try take advantage of you, they'll cheat you, lie to your face, they'll let you down, they'll flat out throw you under a bus. But none of that matters, you gotta teat people as you would like to be treated, but it ne er says that they will treat you well in return. But God is just and when all is said and done the one who follows Jesus and lives his life like him will be judged as righteous by God.

[@tidaclockers6214]

Jesus never said that we should "expect" that same treatment back from others, there is where we as nice guys went wrong.