Let go of your old identity and the lies you were told and find your true self. It is so liberating.
@marytaylor95042 ай бұрын
Within Christ I Found My Real Identity!!!!
@jugg91402 ай бұрын
so true, i am 32 years old and all my life before was a lie, only now that i find my true self. I have nothing but hate and anger towards narcissistic people, narcissistic people should be treated as an outcast and should not be allowed in civilization
@rubybegonia70522 ай бұрын
I started doing the Viking Rune cards. The very first one I picked out of 25 cards, was ‘ SEPARATION ‘ . For the longest time I couldn’t make sense of what the card I picked described. But it was so obvious… so obvious. I recommend RALPH BLUM’s ‘Viking Runes’ and ‘Healing Runes’ to anyone who would like to get back to their own self after dealing with malignant and underhanded people.
@GloriaScottCrossland-jj5hiАй бұрын
AMEN 🙌🏻
@shaeholden17432 ай бұрын
Yes, that is EXACTLY what happened ... 24-year marriage and divorce from toxic narcissist caused me to explore underlying childhood conditioning. It's been a journey of discovery and healing these past few years.
@orangecat16722 ай бұрын
Same here. 17 years for me . Now I look back & say I married my mother .
@life-rethought2 ай бұрын
@@orangecat1672 I married my criminally abusive father,. BUT ONLY FOR 10 MONTHS and ran saying HELL NO! I had endured 66 years of generational narc family abuse. I told the X " I DON'T ENDURE ANY MORE"
@Lumi-tv5cc2 ай бұрын
Abuse destroys most. Some it destroys for a period of time. Some evolve into who they were actually meant to be to actualize in a sense.. to transend ..
@sherryfunk61002 ай бұрын
. On@@Lumi-tv5cc
@rwdchannel29012 ай бұрын
It's important to understand that it wasn't your fault. The narcissist wanted you down for life. Any good thing the narcissist did was done with the intent to bait you back in for more abuse.
@SuperReasonabledoubt2 ай бұрын
After you escape and heal you want to fulfil all your dreams...
@orangecat16722 ай бұрын
Or never leave the house , lol
@E4439Qv52 ай бұрын
Both. Both is good.
@allysonwhite50042 ай бұрын
My toxic relationship reminded me of my childhood..it brought memories that haven't been brought to the surface in a long time
@staciehulm45952 ай бұрын
I was 45 when I finally learned about the pathological pattern of NPD. I was bummed to discover that there really are disgusting, hateful people out there who destroy everything they touch - on purpose. It was also difficult to realize that i fed the narcissiticly abusive relationshils in my life due to my own pathology and narcissism. I dont have NPD, but a narc traps you through the lovebomb by using your own narcissism against you. Its taken me 5 years to learn how to engage with new people and to figure out who I am. I'm very different from the person I spent the first 45 years of my life living. My values are different. I always thought I was an extrovert, when I'm actually an introvert. I used to be a city dweller, now I realize how much I actually enjoy solitude and nature more. It's a new way of being that's been difficult to adjust to at my age. But I'm very happy that I at least learned these lessons now. I eliminated all the narcissists from my life 5 years ago, and I'm only now learning how to engage with new people again without being paranoid about whether or not they're a narcissist too. They're sneaky, but if you stop ignoring the red flags, you can protect yourself from getting sucked in again. It's not easy... but it's possible. Good luck out there everyone. Most importantly, remember that Jesus loves you and if you have faith in Him for your salvation, one day you'll never have to worry about narcissists again.
@spaceskipster44122 ай бұрын
Amen! 🙌🏻
@earthrooster19692 ай бұрын
On a similar journey...wishing you the best! 🙏🏽
@WaterBug462 ай бұрын
Yes! Amen and amen.
@kshas32 ай бұрын
43 and just discovered it smh
@GloriaScottCrossland-jj5hiАй бұрын
Same ☺️ ALL this ☝🏻 now, newly accepted introvert , always have been just embraced it now ☺️ nature girl , content , deeply grateful and LOVE JESUS ! 🙌🏻 ❤️
@marijkevandermeer27722 ай бұрын
Exactly...all people that treated me that negative and envious way I blocked them, went no contact or told them who they are...I went through a lot of 'people'... I really think narcissistic people are possessed...and not everybody resonates with my energy...🎉❤
@sewmagicalquilting2 ай бұрын
When I finally broke on 11/21/23 and stood up to the abuse. He then said I was having a midlife crisis. He got even more abusive as I turned the love for him towards myself. I've since lost 100 pounds, started focusing on my self care and mental health, and my hobbies. He got even meaner and more hateful and finally the abuse turned physical. He knew he had lost control and he couldn't stand it. I still love him and am thankful for the chapter he was in my story. If he hadn't broken me so badly, I wouldn't have found myself, grown closer to God, and realized that I am unique and magical, and I should never beg for someone to see my value. I release him with peace and love, and wish there was a way to put a warning on him for the next person. Thank you Kevin for all the videos. I truly appreciate you.
@michelledonnelly8675Ай бұрын
Be proud of yourself 🎉
@mic396Ай бұрын
I don't know you but wish you best ,, happy to know you made changes an shared them here ,, doing same .. 😉
@GloriaScottCrossland-jj5hiАй бұрын
🥰👏🏻
@marytaylor9504Ай бұрын
@sewmagicalquilting Yes I did also! I found Peace IN GOD!!! He is now My MASTER and who I Totally Serve!!!
@marytaylor9504Ай бұрын
@sewmagicalquilting They LOVE TO TURN IT BACK ON YOU!! Saying your the crazy individual!!!
@elizabethbettencourt11162 ай бұрын
Was told to "dumb down my faith" NO WAY! I dumbed down myself for 20 years, and man they just unleashed who I am more! Made the fire 🔥 burn brighter! Amen 💜 Thank you
@beckysafe79902 ай бұрын
My family is doing this to me as well…. It’s horrible They’ve all but rejected me for following Jesus. They certainly don’t want to hear the truth cuz they like their sins better. Hubs left b/c of that very reason. I’m Not perfect, but they all curse/accuse/insult/mock/reject me and I’m Just trying to to walk in forgiveness/love towards them.
@marytaylor95042 ай бұрын
Right NO WAY!!! God enlightened me about this true demonic individual who came to steal kill and destroy My True Sweet Godly Spirit!!!Trying to take my body mind soul and spirit!!!
@marytaylor95042 ай бұрын
@@beckysafe7990Stand Strong in God's Power!!!
@marytaylor95042 ай бұрын
@beckysafe7990 Walk With JESUS!!!
@sistasoul60772 ай бұрын
Thank you for these videos. I was in a 3-year relationship. I started to study and realized who he was🙋🏾♀️..His behavior was not for me.. Thank God I had the strength to walk away and I still had my own house❤️ I did not move in with them🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@WaterBug462 ай бұрын
Absolutely true. Healing for me came from myself reacting so out of character to the narc that I shocked myself and went into therapy. So I’m very thankful for the narcissist pushing me into healing. They weren’t looking for that result.
@Freethnkr2 ай бұрын
I was numb to the abuse from my mother, but when I got married, and I was sleeping with the enemy, that's when things switched, and stuff wasn't adding up and the patterns of behaviors were being observed with more details and being compared to what I had experienced in childhood
@k91602 ай бұрын
I do like to say that “I’ve died to my old self” , the self that was molded by those that wanted me to present and be a certain way. 🙏
@Recoveryasrrrfgrdbgsdff2 ай бұрын
Well at first he took my whole identity. Now after going through alk the trauma im damaged, but fir yhe first time i have zero tolerance for abuse. I want to help others because i understand how they feel and what causes more harm. ❤
@RebeccaRuano2 ай бұрын
In discovering the true me, I realized the degree of which I had been raised by narcissistic people. I blindly loved my parents and believed they were my best guides, despite separating early in my life. Recently, I realized I was always right about myself. It took about 3 or 4 more years until I was able to figure out why I stuffed my own self-belief. ❤ This is great! Thank you!! ❤
@lilyamezcua40472 ай бұрын
🙋♀️
@lindafolks2 ай бұрын
Amen Kevin! 🙏🏻❤️❤️🌟🎶🌹🎚️⚖️💯
@schmittyschmit45992 ай бұрын
Starting to discover myself has been a very fun and rewarding experience. I am currently helping my younger brother do the same.
@GloriaScottCrossland-jj5hiАй бұрын
🥰👏🏻
@RUBYHOLLISBROWNrj2 ай бұрын
True, real talk! I appreciate this.....I am head over heels with my wheels turning!👊
@amoore37342 ай бұрын
This is the only way I have been able to justify enduring the pain of interacting with my family this last time. I had to finally realize.. it really was them, and not me.
@kristienvanlaar56372 ай бұрын
❤🙏🙏🙏 I really needed to hear this !!! I'm 47 now, and i have tried for many years to fit in my dysfunctional family, losing myself, having big inferiority complex because of all the bullying, never be good enough for them, but now, working at it already many 5 years and understanding the impact of all the narc's in my life much better and why i have attracted them all, in all areas of my life. I didn't manage to create my own family, i'm sad because of that, for having no kids, but at the other hand, i see now, it'd be a toxic relation as long as i'm not healed, and having kids with a sociopath is really the worse thing ever. So maybe, i have to be happy with my freedom, being completely alone and independent, and just focusing on myself, becoming very authentic, following all my passions and interests. And being grateful for that possibility.
@Maria_Nicola_Ward2 ай бұрын
OH, KEVIN, EVERYTHING YOU JUST SAID IS SO SO SO TRUE.
@patriciapina16952 ай бұрын
On point, 😢 just experience this
@neoneaglespirit972 ай бұрын
Thanks Kevin for the message! You're loved!
@janicemurphy43732 ай бұрын
Great Great, Great and very true Video, thank you 😊😊😊Kevin!!!!!!!!!!
@SusanWillans-b9q2 ай бұрын
Thanks again Kevin!! Your way of plain speaking takes us from 0-60 in no time flat. I just finished purging my apartment of everything related to narcissistic partner and family of origin. Now this is MY life, MY home, and I’m going to enjoy from here forward.
@pamelakenny2482 ай бұрын
Thank you Kevin! Your messages are gold! I will be scheduling some one on one time with you soon!
@sannajohanna55792 ай бұрын
Thank you, this is an amazing speech!
@blue.50582 ай бұрын
My recent medical event made me see the decades of narcissistic abuse as done by my parents. For example- my narc father said, “ I don’t care if he lives or dies!” when my wife notified him of what happened. He then went into some bizarre 70s self-help BS tailored to suit him. He otherwise made the situation about himself and how he felt instead of providing any meaningful support. My equally narc mother did the same thing, only this was about her recounting all the “good times” she had with the father (these, BTW, were NOT good times- they were fraught with adultery and other examples of crappy parenting). Despite being told to stop, she persisted with her stories, which resulted in my having her banned from my hospital room. On the other hand, my wife’s family was nothing but supportive. Basically put, the situation made a dichotomy between a real family and those who simply claim they are. My parents have since flat out denied saying and acting the way the did, just as narcs do.
@nicolehayes60202 ай бұрын
Yesss! These past few years I’ve been on my healing journey n trying to heal my childhood wounds. Things that I haven’t thought of for years. It’s very challenging but I will live the second half of my life my way on my terms being the person who I was supposed to be…
@julienatoli85612 ай бұрын
Excellent message Kevin .. BTW I love your beard! It compliments you! Yes Sir in these toxic relationships .. as we engage in the toxic tango we definitely abandon ourselves! And get bitter and resentful for sure, because just like you said, we've been taught to "die to ourselves" which just like submission there's been a twisted "understanding" of that. Manipulation is ALWAYS wrong and when we feel like, ... wait a minute I used to love to paint, or do 5k races, or volunteer at the dog shelter .. and I'm not doing ANY of these things now all because he says I should go fishing with him! 🙄🤦 Yuk! .. hate worms! hate fishing! Soo like you said, now I am fully awake and aware of MY authentic self!! Love you Kevin I think your intuition is brilliant!! God bless 🕊️
@lilyamezcua40472 ай бұрын
On point!!!! 30 years!!!
@atpeace006Ай бұрын
I was so numb to the abuse knew the ex Narc for 30 yrs...made me physically sick inside...so much healthier now! Ty God🙏
@heidirojas83882 ай бұрын
Thank you my friend!!!😊
@Dollhousehenderson2 ай бұрын
True this is what has led me to figuring out my husband is a narc bc of depression and anxiety and his lack to do anything to help me in any way.
@denise07772 ай бұрын
Love you, Royal We! You have helped me a lot to deal with my narc spouse and identify things.
@kateparsons48182 ай бұрын
Wow. I needed this. The entire thing. God had me listen to it for a reason. Thank you!!❤
@HarryBarker-yp1xv2 ай бұрын
Spiritual awakening. You realize that you've been dancing with the devil.
@sistasoul60772 ай бұрын
That part🤦🏽♀️
@marytaylor9504Ай бұрын
@HarryBarker-yp1xv SO TRUE. Evil GOD had me remove from my life!!!Through HIS MIGHTY POWER!!!
@seizetheday23572 ай бұрын
Yes!! 44 years together and 40 married!! He’s turned my children his way and I’m the selfish crazy one. I finally filed for divorce July 16th and within 10 days he has already changed his fb relationship status to separated and going out to bars…but on fb he’s the biggest Christian on the planet.
@AskAuntChina2 ай бұрын
I had to click on this one… even with all I thought I’d learned by studying for months , found out how true this was with the craftiest narc coworker ever. The smear campaign ripped me a new one but on the other side- FREEDOM ❤
@5Luckyducky2 ай бұрын
Damn right, I hear you loud and clear. I concur. 💪🏽
@mariannalottering84242 ай бұрын
Thank you Lord for the life I want to Have without feeling quilty. 😊😊
@4Mikes4Mindset42 ай бұрын
A defining point. A right of passage. The heroes journey. Its all connected. Thanks brother. Thanks fellow truth warriors.
@terencehennegan14392 ай бұрын
Will to power. Authenticity.
@nickimccatheran92602 ай бұрын
Best video I have came across during my healing process❤
@magdafrazer70922 ай бұрын
I have LONG ago learnt that the word WE actually means YOU!!
@mic396Ай бұрын
Know what mr kevin royal we glad your around making best videos I just like thank you 💗 !!
@svilenaspiteri98312 ай бұрын
Thank you, Kevin ❤
@rooneytn2 ай бұрын
This is exactly where I'm at right now. I really needed to hear this today. It's so hard to reclaim myself after 16 years of abuse. But it's so worth it.
@patriciajoseph30352 ай бұрын
Yes. It surely helped to crush my Ignorance and destroy my stupidity/foolishness. I am stronger, wiser and better. Hallelujah
@eunikewindycarolina79882 ай бұрын
Thank you ,GOD bless all Colossians 3:8, 10, 12-17 But, NOW, you also PUT OFF all these: Anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth. And have PUT ON "THE NEW MAN", Which is "Renewed in KNOWLEDGE" after the image of HIM, that created HIM, PUT ON therefore, As "The Elect of GOD" Holy and beloved, Bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering, Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any Even, AS CHRIST forgave you, so also do you. And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness. And let THE PEACE Of GOD Rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; And be you thankful. Let THE WORD of CHRIST Dwell in you richly in all WISDOM, Teaching and Admonishing one another in PsalmS and HymnS and Spiritual SongS, Singing with grace in your hearts TO THE LORD GOD. And whatsoever you do, in word or deed, Do all, in The Name of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST, Giving thanks to GOD and The Father by HIM.Amen
@INFJ-Ray2 ай бұрын
Word.
@Barkentin2 ай бұрын
yes Kewin,yes im done, time to repair🤗💌
@Roselynlambatin2 ай бұрын
I just walk away from a 6 year relationship with my narcissistic partner. I just awaken and i cant believe that i am in this situation. I went from therapy and seek professional help and i was shocked that i am under narcissistic abused
@suesipp25752 ай бұрын
i am so grateful for you and your message~~~
@lisaharper43122 ай бұрын
I've been out over 3yrs after 6yrs of abuse, I still feel dead on the inside, isolated and very depressed. This is soo hard, i don't think ill ever feel like me again
@susannacloer35992 ай бұрын
Oh yes you will, Lisa. I was in a bad relationship for 17 years. Lost me, my youth, my looks, my money. At 45 I started the rebuild. A new job. New friends. Yep. I cried a lot, but I put one foot in front of the other. Then one night, I had gotten home from work and was sitting in a chair in my backyard having a glass of wine, watching my dogs play and the sunset and BAM! Like a brick wall it hit me. I was HAPPY. Now if there was pain, it had a good result! Like child birth. After that pain, you have a baby! The pain with the toxic person just goes on and on, and no good comes of it. That was the beginning of the new me, and the new life. It's been slow for me, 27 years, but I have picked up speed. I am tough as nails. but I regained me. I am a caring, loving person again. Don't be hard on yourself. The feelings and joy you had before are still there. They will come back. Trust me. And know what? You will be better for it. Really, you will. I send you a big hug, girlfriend!
@michelledonnelly8675Ай бұрын
You will, I promise. Take heart ❤️
@lisaharper4312Ай бұрын
@@susannacloer3599 thank you soo much for your reply. I'm 53 and living in a caravan in a toxic situation which isn't helping. I keep looking back to when i had a life which has given me some motivation to move forward. I'm really glad you are in a happy place, big hugs to you yoo 🥰❤
@lisaharper4312Ай бұрын
@@michelledonnelly8675 thank you so much ❤️
@privateprivate83662 ай бұрын
Cracks me up though.😂 Because I’ve often seen those moments where narcissists stand there, like the bottom just fell out, because they realized I wasn’t going to live for them.😂
@lowings8482 ай бұрын
Amen dude. The context of that verse is to lay the sinful self down and follow Jesus, who came to give us life and abundantly so. Serving people in love does not mean be in bondage to a human's whims. God never said that.
@IAmLoveTrishAnn2 ай бұрын
Them out-laws can beat it‼️😂
@joshuamutombo49272 ай бұрын
Big up Coach
@danabeatriz296627 күн бұрын
Fabulous man. ..how do you keep up religiously wity these videos ? Very admirable
@Laura-wp6zg2 ай бұрын
Thank you Kevin ☺️This is true I've been noticing this. Change of subject... Are you wearing a silver ballchain necklace? I wear one too but the beads are smaller and I have a pendant on it. I rent a private room in a 2 bedroom apartment in the upper level of this house and share the rest of it with a roommate. This male roommate that's the owner of the house is a narcissist. I think covert but with a side of psycho. I can't move cuz rent is way too high where I live. Thank goodness he's not violent and I'm a tenant not a girlfriend or companion. This guy's Wife (bless her soul) gave him separation papers 3 years ago, after 40 years of marriage and 3 young adult Daughters and a few grandkids later. Anyway he ended up in this rental of theirs. I speak with her and pay her the rent. Long story short. I've been learning about narcissism off and on for the past 10 years coming up in October, cuz one of my grandson's father is a narcissist. So I wanted to educate myself on the subject to help my Daughter and her Son back then and now. It's mind blowing how it turned out that I moved in this private room 2 years and 4 months ago. I can't get over how I'm actually living with a 66 year old male narcissist! Who's wife is in a relationship with an old high school friend and still has to communicate with him cuz they own 7 rental properties, (Poor woman doesn't know that he's a Narcissist but deals with him the best way she knows how) Including this one and their family home that she lives in with her new/old friend. 😂 What a mess right?! Anyway my brain stands up for myself 24/7. It's my second room rental in my entire 57 years of life. I stand up for myself like he's a bully in a playground! 🤣 I laugh but it's cuz it's so unreal, it's like are you kidding me. Wow... As they say just Wow! Good thing I go to church every Sunday (except when I'm sick) and have a calling, family and friends that L💖VE me. 🥰 (not bragging, truth telling) My adult children would take me in, but they're renters too with kids and landlords have rules. That's life. Sorry if this long story of part of my life, as it is in the present time offends anyone. ✨🌝✨Good night sleep tight, don't let the Narc bite!🐍🐁🐖🦨🦡🦇🦂 🤣
@magdafrazer70922 ай бұрын
Married to a narc for 44 years and currently sole carer for my terminally ill narc mother...It is tough. I do however know that one will (hopefully soon, horrible as it might sound!) be gone sometime in the future and I will use my inheritance to escape from him. Already emotionally detached.
@carlenewozniak52252 ай бұрын
Dang I missed it! Hello from okc
@susanorndorff89022 ай бұрын
Ty!! Kevin, Ohhhh Wow! Crazy i Truly always thought I was a strong woman. Then the narcissist came into My life 😮 and I couldn't believe,, i allowed 1, of the 500 things I wouldnt have EVER allowed prior to Him. I had no clue i could be so manipulated. So an Awakening!!! Is an understatement, Loving My life!! Now 😊
@ikawinner9602 ай бұрын
I am an artist, painting and sculpturing, I write poetry, and i playing on cello 4 years,
@arianasha2 ай бұрын
GOOD STUFF KEVIN !
@wendystumpf60302 ай бұрын
Could this be why I have suffered from nightmares my whole life?
@Avashaw-s6v2 ай бұрын
Yes they cause health problems and PTSD.
@rubybegonia70522 ай бұрын
@6:42 ! !
@majolie55528 күн бұрын
Great video. But I always thought the Bible thing about dying of yourself was about the egoic part of us dying, so that we become our true authentic self. The egoic part that says I should do this and that, I should be this…. in any case thank you for all the work you do to bring light to those suffering under narc abuse.
@vivianeprudentiabuelens91422 ай бұрын
You are good hey Kevin ……I follow you know 💫………..😊 10:46
@divinelightlounge2 ай бұрын
☀on a ☁day
@GregtheGrey69692 ай бұрын
All true
@JoTac-zm1hb2 ай бұрын
Not all or every one has been through narssisst abuse but if you are it's a lesson
@vivianebuelens95122 ай бұрын
What z…. get on down here ‼️🤩🤩🤩
@Anoppinion2 ай бұрын
Many men thinks having children will not change their lives😂😂😂. Surprise: if you don’t have a chef, cleaning staff, Nannie’s and planner - you will have to step it up!
@beckysafe79902 ай бұрын
A lot of this makes sense to me; never really knew what a narc was until just a yr or so ago, and i hear these words and am like. YES….to some and question others, so not totally sure if “it” truly was a narc situation Where would I sign up? What is your fee?
@alexandratungstedt43852 ай бұрын
For me it was the worst experience in my life. His parents are the same.tbey are a clan. A cult. Horrible experience
@liuck732 ай бұрын
❤
@dorlistorres80342 ай бұрын
💯
@DrewClark-ov5up2 ай бұрын
Amazing video - I've lived exactly this, especially the resentment against myself for letting myself become small. I've had to fight very hard to get old hobbies and interest back. You mention dance - I took this up as an adult, and finally performed for the first time at age 48. And I surprised myself with what I was able to do. I was stuck in the "die to myself" dynamic for so long, and that took me to some dark places.
@sannajohanna55792 ай бұрын
How about when you suddenly realise that your journey of healing from narcissistic abuse begann from your grandparents, or even earlier ancestors? That it is the CHAIN!
@michelledonnelly8675Ай бұрын
I know exactly what you mean. I can feel it
@vivianebuelens95122 ай бұрын
Com’n 9:15
@vivianebuelens95122 ай бұрын
Sorry Kevin but I can’t download the video’s you are putting on KZbin! My premium has to be updated ! Viviane 💘‼️ 2:15
@whitedaisylovely50342 ай бұрын
Besides the victim mirroring the NPD for preventing a storm the NPD mirrors the victim. This is done to believe they are the greatest they are caring and so lovable. It is all just an act. Once you start showing your freedom individuality that you believe different than them (wake up to their falsehood) and you don't want to be like them as you are you not the same as them politically, educationally, spiritually, psychologically, and your likes and dislikes of everything all hell breaks loose as the NPD gaslights you turns your family and friends against you with their lies. I never was like my exes the NPD's even though as long as I was showing I thought similar to them it was a smoother roller coaster ride. But as soon as I showed any differences in my thoughts beliefs likes and dislikes The NPD would rage and attack the victim blaming them getting family and friends to believe the lies calling them crazy doing things to them behind closed doors to get a reaction to reinforce the lie that the victim is crazy. When one is withe a NPD the victim can not truly be themselves as they are denigrated and belittled for being themselves. The victim then turns into a fractured person afraid to show or be who they really are always afraid of narcissistic rage from the NPD. When the victim finally separates from the NPD it takes years to heal and put ones self back together as a whole as too many triggers of being their true selves remembering the narcissistic rage from the NPD for just wanting to live a life of FREEDOM being themselves who they truly are not a mirror of the NPD. In the END the fractured self of the VICTIM may never truly fully heal and the Victim may never be who they used to be before the NPD's narcissistic abuse. The victim therefore needs to go deep into who they are and find out who they really are by putting themselves first in everything separating themselves from the NPD's thoughts and ways. The victim does matter we are aloud to have our own thoughts and desires without condemnation and be ourselves who we really are as a person including hating evil and wickedness. Also every time even from the beginning of being with the NPD I was threatened that he would get my children not his taken away from me and he would harm me. This put me in a position of being stuck not having anyone to help me as i am disabled as well a TBI he threatened and did use this against me many times. I was never TRAUMA BOND. I always called him out on his NARCISSISTIC RAGE and BS. Even sought help from Church and Government authorities to no avail they sided with the NPD and his lies. I was gaslit long before I spoke out. By not knowing about narcissism puts one at a disadvantage as the victim treats the NPD as a person with EMPATHY until they learn that the NPD does not have EMPATHY and if they show anykind of EMPATHY it is not true empathy but an act/mirroring.