Trying on new non binary names

[@SlugcatEmporium]

I have a slightly funny story about trying a Starbucks name. I was going to test out an alternate spelling of my birth name and it went kind of sideways. I asked the barista to use (not my real name here, just an example) "Eli with a y" (i.e. Ely), and it came back "Yli" 😂 sometimes Starbucks takes fate into its own hands, but you can get .. interesting options out of it.

[@AWylde]

This is hilarious lol

[@weirdogirl1275]

For me, I don’t hate my birth name. In fact, it’s so unique that no one else has one like it. But I’ve been trying to tell myself that it could only refer to me because it’s so unique, and it doesn’t feel right anymore. Every time I tell someone my given name, they always tell me how pretty it is. It’s been that way my whole life. As a kid, I was proud of the fact that I had such a unique name, but now, I think I’ve grown tired of it. It is a pretty name, it’s just a name that should be somewhere else now. It deserves a host that will love it forever. My middle name is very generic and average, but it’s also feminine, so if I do change my name, I need to change my middle name too. I think I like Kay as my first name. Who likes Kay?

[@marshmallowpie42]

I changed my name a couple years ago. But I feel like it's too personal and weird to have as a legal name. So, I've been wrecking my brain trying to find a new 'official' name. I hate still having my birth name everywhere. 🤔

[@AWylde]

Ah Thats tough. It’s almost like the name you chose is “for you,” but you don’t want the courts or the cops to be calling you that. It definitely sounds like another name is out there for you though, if your birth name is making you uncomfortable!

[@salem-01]

Oh that reminds me of something really cool. There’s this one bank, credit card company thingy that’s released a credit card where you can choose your name. It’s for trans and enby people who don’t want to change it legally! (I don’t know much about it, I just heard a little bit about it.)

[@bibibodi8150]

I am still discovering myself as a non-binary person. And I feel like I have no right to have a new name. I don't hate my birth name, I'm used to it, however, I never felt like it was me. I know when they speak they are redirecting me. It's just weird, I remember being at school and writing my name over and over on paper because it didn't feel real, it didn't feel like mine. I think about my mother a lot, I know she chose that name with affection, it's a very beautiful name, it's just... it doesn't sound like me.

[@AWylde]

I think that you have every right to change your name to something you love. You don’t have to. And it may have consequences or be challenging for some people. And you may choose not to which is completely valid. But you are well within your rights to affect change upon your life in whatever way you see fit.

[@monothephantom]

I'm in the same boat ;-;

[@McMerlin11]

I have the same feeling of not having a right to a new name, but it’s because I was named after my grandmother and my own mother. Because of it, I get compared to my grandmother (who died before I was even born so I didn’t know her) and it makes me so uncomfortable. For that, I want a new name, and also because I want something more gender neutral.

[@TheLegendOfRune]

I'm a writer and I find it's really easy to pick names for my characters, but when it comes to picking my pen name and my own name, I find it so much harder.

[@JamaicanRain]

Your characters have limited lives. Yours is so much more complex and rich! That is why slapping on a name is so difficult.

[@EvTheVeg]

Me: "My name's Evan" Starbucks: "Frappuccino for Evie?"

[@AWylde]

WORST

[@phoenix_feathers8]

ayyy, I named myself Evan!

[@jisak107]

I'll try this. Since there is no Starbucks near i will try with my frnd. I love to be called as 'Sam'. Lets see it will work or not.

[@achookangaroo]

I'm slowly transitioning to using my first initial only (switched my email name, name at the gym, email signature). I wondered if you might be willing to talk about choosing to have your channel say A. Wylde instead of Atlas?

[@AWylde]

It’s because I’m not 100% sold yet. About a decade ago I changed my last name, and I used it for several consecutive years before I decided to change it legally. I haven’t decided yet if I want to have Atlas be MY NAME FOREVER. So I’m leaving room to be flexible if I need it.

[@achookangaroo]

@@AWylde Thanks! That helps :)

[@dollijudy54]

Not a Starbucks near me, but there's a burrito place where you can name your burrito, and for takeaway they call out the name of your burrito. I definitely used it multiple times to try out a name or to get my daily dose of euphoria now that I've chosen one.

[@AWylde]

Wow I love this lol. I so badly want to name my burrito

[@gabriellesarao4555]

Here’s another way to try names for nerdy people: trying your new name with a dnd character has been super helpful for me.

[@ivynamnam3288]

Also video games and discord servers

[@AWylde]

Great suggestion!

[@ioselene9232]

Yeah, I started using mine in TikTok and Twitch, which is good for hearing the name being used in lives whenever the host responds to you

[@a-ju7464]

I got a weird euphoria from this video, not even sure if it's gender euphoria. Ether way, thank you for making these awesome content, they helped me so much.

[@incogtiino]

The ending message meant a lot to me, it makes me feel a little more assured in this process. Thank you 💕

[@devynk918]

Okay so I'm struggling a bit. I came out a couple months ago as Dani which was my new name, my brother also uses Danny as a nickname but said he was cool with it until lately when he asked me if I could change my name. Before choosing Dani I has took into consideration that it felt weird to me that me and him would be going by the same type of thing- though he was trying to use a more professional nickname. When I got okay with it with reassurance from my mom and sibling that it was cool, I took some time and came out to the rest of my siblings. I just got used to Dani and now I need to pick a new name and no other name seems to fit so I've been nameless for maybe a month and I'm stuck here. He keeps asking for updates as he doesn't want me to be used to the name Dani (other siblings still call me that as I don't want to confuse them if I don't have a new name) or other people to be used to it that it's hard to start using another name when I choose one.. I'm non binary, more masculine but don't want a wayyy to masculine sharp sounding name. here's my list but idk about any of them: Ash, Billie, Riley, Devyn, Eli, Blue, August

[@notmydidea]

how's Elyn?

[@evelynheppner7775]

I used tip 2, and i got my best friend to call me my new name, Onyx. I love it so far and i have been being called it for a few days now. I chose her because she is so patient with me constantly switching names. Its hard when your genderfluid.

[@sophie9175]

If I change my name again, it'll be the third time I've changed it. That's fine, but the two names I've gone by before have lasted for months before I changed them so I feel kinda bad that everyone might have to adjust again

[@AWylde]

I think about this too. I changed my last name, and then my first name, and I am not 100% certain that I have found my forever name (if that exists?). It’s tough but so far it’s been worth it

[@n0npp120]

Hi. Question. I'm 13 and nonbinary. I can't really go to Starbucks on my own to try out some new names, and the only person I really feel comfortable asking to do this is my sister, and I just recently came out as nonbinary and don't want to ask more of her. Any suggestions?

[@giawallace6983]

I know it’s been a while but I’m in the same situation, try referring to yourself as a name you want to try in your head. That’s what I’ve been doing along with asking friends to use a name I want to try

[@notmydidea]

u could leave urself notes trying out your name ideas

[@xocatherinaa]

What would you do when it comes to changing your name at work if you aren’t ready to legally change your name but want your new name on your work name tag ?

[@notmydidea]

u could ask ur coworkers to try it out before putting it on your tag ig?

[@finleyandfriends8332]

I'm loving my name my 1yr anniversary is coming up

[@user-dl3vn8ze9n]

Well, I'm not even into Starbucks. (Also I can't go out because anxiety) :(

[@your_king649]

i rushed it and am still unsure but everyone is calling me the name i told them to and i asked my teachers and the office all to change it and idk what to do...i dont not like the name i guess..?

[@KameronSkye]

Thanks this video is really helpful. Im genderfluid and my name is Kim but when im habing days wear i feel more like a man sometimes Kim just doesnt feel right so I'm trying to figure out the name I want to go by on those days. I'm thinking Kam or Kameron but idk which one id rather have and if either of then are really the name i wanna go by. I do wanna experiment with this more when im an adult and have other friends and maybe even partners I can try using these names with but for now I just feel like i dont have a lot of options for experimenting with names and I'm just not really comfortable doing that just yet

[@AWylde]

I think Kam is a great name! For any gender, so it could also be used all the time if that’s what felt right. If you’re not in a position to try it out with friends or partners, see if you can find a supportive group online and ask them to try it out!

[@Rettequetette]

In Northern Europe, Kim is a genuine non-binary name. I think in Scandinavia there are even more men than women with the name Kim. I don't know if this is useful to you, just wanted to let you know.

[@SlugcatEmporium]

I have a cis male relative named Kim (in the US), but Kam is also a good name! It's okay if you're not comfortable trying names in practice yet too. I'm still in the mental 'trying on' stage myself, just thinking about what those different names would feel like.

[@Mikazha]

@@Rettequetette Yup, I've met more men than women named Kim in Norway, but also, one of the most well known Norwegian queer activists is a lesbian woman named Kim. Also, Kim is the most common family name in South Korea, and comes from the hanja 金 which means metal/iron/gold.

[@silly_goofy_human]

I'm genderfluid too and I go by Nick and Niki or Nikita. One more femme and one more masc

[@mayak3429]

thank you for this!

[@finleyandfriends8332]

I never knew I was non binary I always considered myself a gender bender lol

[@camizierk2830]

How do you know if your non-bionary,demi-girl,agender etc. Because people say what feels right but idk. Also what do you do if your young and can't go in starbucks

[@notmydidea]

idk if it helps, but most cis people don't question that ; ) edit: in the end gender is just a construct trying to categorize people, so just be your amazing self and if you find a label that fits to that, then so be it and if not, just be you. you dont owe anyone labels

[@winterfire1097]

Atlas? So your real name is Frank Fontaine?

[@Abyssal2808]

I don't want to change my name, because I still kinda like my real one because its rare and unique, though it is feminine. I am between Nova, Mist, and Storm so far.

[@labyrinthine444]

nova is awesome!!! however..you could mix them up. like nova could be noeva or novi or mist could be mis or mi.

[@HotPinkSun]

💕

[@darthjarjarbinks2480]

Bro i am att a small vilage where no shops near say you’r name

[@Johnny-ue6hg]

Nice

[@johnmcaveeneyjr.9475]

I love Starbucks

[@Jon962-h4i]

What's the next step? Some serious couch time with a therapist, sunshine!

[@mycatsaliberal3848]

Hey Ashley

[@snacky687]

Ur a drop kick

[@1981satria]

I would marry u… n u ll get bck to normal , :) because i got experience