The Narcissist Biggest Secret : What They Would Say To You If They Could

[@MedicCop]

The red flags you ignore at the beginning of the relationship will generally become the reasons it ends.

[@elcee7800]

@@MedicCop YES!! Me.

[@bondeappetite703]

Mine sent a message asking why I cut him out of my life when he did nothing. I was shocked. 4 years of abuse cheating and pure sadistic behaviour. They are truly delusional

[@mechweld]

If they came out and told us everything, we could actually help. Its crazy.

[@InvisibleWarrior279]

My observation would be they tell us more than we think but because of the trauma bond, we don’t want to hear it - or we downplay it somehow. They actually DO tell you who they are, if you are really listening. If the situationship is in the past and you think back to a lot of things that were said; they were warnings, of a sort .. the take away needs to be: when someone tells you who they are HEAR THEM and BELIEVE THEM the first time!!!!!

[@cameogutierrez3466]

Agreed!

[@veral2274]

I agree. Sometimes they tell you everything blatantly lying. Sometimes it's what they don't tell. Whatever the case, mine always put a poker face.

[@elcee7800]

Not at all with my narc. If it wasn’t for me nothing would be said or done. Digging and digging, nothing.

[@juliallorente2719]

❤

[@Simone-yz6jt]

💯!!! My narc told me at week 2, “I’m going to start getting greedier of your time.” I completely ignored this statement. It then turned into utter and complete control of all my time and my life.

[@reefsta]

Spot on exactly what it is. So draining even trying with these sad to say soulless beings.

[@mjathisbestandteachingskil6980]

Definitely draining of them.

[@mayamaia1138]

So sad hearing that. My heart is crying how much the Narcissist is alone, how much the Narcisist is unhappy, how much the Narcissist is suffering 😢❤

[@eliz054]

It is sad. But be very careful and put your self first.

[@elcee7800]

“They can’t convey it to you because they don’t see it themselves.” Precisely.

[@blayneleonard4654]

I think that they (many of them) are fully aware of what they are doing and how they gradually break down the victim (empath). Their lack of empathy justifies this all in accordance with their artificially (fake) and superior image of self... Absolutely devastating effect on the victim - usually trauma bonded - with many facing the very real threat of getting stuck in the perpetually repetitive and destructive cycle... Stay grounded in reality, ensure that you have a trusted and loving support network and pride yourself in your majestic uniquness. You are stronger than you may realise - heal and free yourself - BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN. Life is short and oh so fickle - even the darkest srorms do pass to let sunlight in once more❤ 15:50

[@elcee7800]

@@blayneleonard4654 Possibly. If they know they are unempathetic it can only be because it's easier and more their style. (Because it is!)

[@miker4430]

They are toxic and non human psychopaths. We all are responsible for our actions

[@angelahart1479]

I think if you could find a way to be a little bit more understanding of what they have endured as a child it may be easier for your own health.

[@miker4430]

@@angelahart1479 it sucked and I learned to be successful on my own and responsible for my actions, decisions, and mistakes.

[@angelahart1479]

It's a personality disorder. They are generally not psychopaths but can and are very hurtful.

[@miker4430]

@@angelahart1479 it is in the DSM guide as such. Yet they are truly responsible for their own actions, due to the McNaughten test of knowing difference between right and wrong. They knowingly go out of their way to harm spouses, family members, even their own children. It’s ok to want to excuse their behavior, it’s your right, but I will not as they are predators laying in wait and they purposely tear others down at any opportunity. This and their pathological lying=no respect

[@angelahart1479]

I know. But I'm not excusing anything. Anyway you sound pretty angry so will leave it at that. I was dumped by my narc but I don't want to become bitter just recover and move on.

[@AV-qb6bf]

They have really dirty secrets of the past... my ex narc had weird perverted sexual behaviors. I found out in his email that he forgot to delete. He couldn't gaslight his way out of it. He became vulnerable and really ashamed. It triggered narc wound. It's sad because he was abandoned as a child and there's deep wound there. His sexual addiction was to run away from that wound... I can't help it because staying with him was disgusting after knowing his perverted sexual behaviors and had to leave. His sight, touch, smell just made me want to vomit! Their real self is very ugly and disgusting, but the fake image is very opposite. Use your intuition, if you feel something is wrong, it really is!

[@labazoops]

😮Yes only time a narcs eyes light up is when they pulled one over on ya! WATCH for it!

[@user-cy9in5ry9c]

I outwitted the narc and kept my integrity throughout the entire mental warfare. I’m very proud of myself, that I held up my boundaries, learned my lesson’s and healed from this horrible experience.

[@MaroonRose3216]

Congratulations to you 🍾🎉

[@herbjimenez8532]

Exactly! Me too. Congrats.

[@luiscaceres-qk4yk]

I did too.. figure out early enough play the game but carefully without changing my life plans.. and never gave up the work on myself

[@SonataBlue177]

I had to leave mine about a month ago,but i have always found it increadibly sad thst these people can nevet feel real,deep love for anyone.

[@kyyyyau]

Left 3 months ago. Hardest thing I ever did but I got my life back. You'll see. Once the pain subsides. Never look back, they're an illusion.

[@VoxLesPaul]

This format of "...if the narcissist could be perfectly honest" is a useful angle to thinking about this toxic behavior. Thank you.

[@mobileradiofitter]

The dangling carrot and choice. I had to give up my house and move in with her. Nearly lost my job. Slowly loosing relationships and my own parents. Once she said if i didnt come to the party the relationship was over. If i didnt go on holiday with them the relationship was over. After giving up my house 6 months later she asked me to leave hers saying she didnt want to live with someone. When i gave up my house, she said my stuff could go be at hers. Then it would be best to put it all in storage. It was a living knoghtmare. Worst of all, why on earth did i do it all. I really lost myself and i have no idea why or how a 53 year old woman could do this. But she did. Im on the rebuild now but its so hard

[@aleksik4028]

Hanging carrot, yes, eventually nothing is good enough. Always the "next thing".

[@ThunderousNinja]

Prayers to you. I'm digging my way away from my family. They are abusers. All are cultist narcs. Trust me I know how you feel. Hang in there. You got this

[@dcikaruga]

Really struggling to belive this. They have these empty eyes at times, but you can still see their eyes light up when they're being cruel and sadistic.

[@Trueblue222]

This video is a different perspective and an extremely helpful one. I’m in the process of being discarded by a narcissist. It’s so incredibly painful but a few weeks ago whilst I was still trying to understand what was going on and was still asking her to explain herself she said , “I feel emotionally numb” . I think this is probably going to be the closest she gets to telling me the truth. It’s heartbreaking. She didn’t ask to be traumatised as a child ( her father was incredibly cruel physcolologically) and she could have been so different. We have both been robbed of a happy marriage. As it is I know there is no hope and it is devastating.

[@moniquevanleeuwen6514]

The situation is just impossible, it’s just all so distorted! 😞 You’re speaking a whole lot of truth here!

[@pchladkova6242]

Aneska you are brilliant and you described Narcs like nobody else! Thank to you I truly understand this predators and their toxic mind! You are better than Doctor Ramani❣️ Thank you very much for everything‼️

[@mobileradiofitter]

Something that literally led to me getting a headache, was diacovering something after the relationship, she didnt once cry, say she missed me, apologise, showed very little genuine care and concern. She could talk about anything all day long, tell me how to act, how to treat her, what to buy her. But if i ever tried to talk about us she would avoid it as hard as she could. Some times even using abother situation to distract the flow of conversation, typicaly the loss of her dad, that was her go to. Have in mind it was me who kept strong for her, me who found the right place to have the headstone made, i represented her at the church and even gave her a sweet when she wanted to talk but couldnt clear her throat. Around me she was as hard as nails and agressive towards the world. I tried so hard to calm her down many times and try to explain her frantic nature isnt good for her health. It didnt work out between us. I had to call it off. But after it all, i now hear how she cried and got flustered after several of our phone calls, not once did i hear or see this behavior but people close with her tell me how many times she got upset. It must have been a show, she used to hang up on me randomly mid call. Yet she calimed the victim. These people i swear are actors, we see one side of them and then they put on a show to others, making it so difficult to just function with them. I walk into a room after kissing her goodbye then go to work, when i returned depending on who was in the house depended on what version of her i got. It was so incredibly draining, not knowing ever what mood she was in and then not being able to talk about it or run the risk of tears about her dads passing. I do worry she will end up loosing not only everyone around her but also her mind. Just wantwd to share this with you all, has anyone experienced something similar ?

[@AnnaMishel]

They’re not an empty vessel. They’re a different species. Just like a shark is different from a Dolphin. A SHARK IS NOT A DOLFIN THAT HAS BEEN ABUSED

[@chrismiller001]

Yes. They certainly do seem to be a sub species of human. Not normal or natural human beings. No excuses.

[@miker4430]

Agree as she is kind but I believe in telling it like it is

[@Gypsy-lq1xh]

Wow …this is a beautiful compassionate dissection of the narcissist…I often wondered why experts in narcissistic personality never expressed any compassion for these lost souls… thank you for this vitally important explanation…. Long past due amongst the education on narcissism community….🙏♥️

[@realtaravlogs7223]

This is one of the most life changing, mind-shifting videos on narcissism. This needs to go viral!!!!! You described it perfectly. I agree with you. I felt this in my soul. It really shines the light on the fact that these people really are BROKEN, they are LOST, and they can’t even figure it out themselves or save themselves. So, they try to cope by attracting many people and not feel so much in a hole. It’s truly depressing thinking about that, but what a revelation to accept…that is that person’s story and we were just caught in the crossfires. This is amazing information that will lead to so much healing for us victims as this is basically what the narc would say to you if they EVER wanted to give you closer. But they don’t want to, because then you’d know for sure, and you’d run and leave them behind. So they try to trick you and gaslight you into thinking WE’RE the problem. This video is all the closure I’ll need. And I accept that it happened to me, but it’s now a PAST story. And I survived. I got away. Thank you for this! 🙏

[@JacK-qn4zh]

I have seen the non feeling in a persons eyes. It is almost like they are happy seeing you in so much pain. No emotion just a weird sorry.... eerie like.

[@dosmatrix4470]

It's only in Hindsight that I can see the signs I ignored and am starting to understand why and how I was duped.

[@cliffsaitotti2095]

One thing people don’t get about narcissists is that they really don’t care about you. Whether you label them as a narcissist or call them out on their behavior, they just won’t listen. They'll stay around just to get what they want. The only way to put an end to all this is to walk away. Narcissists never truly discard you; it’s just a mind game to get what they need.

[@NancyMichaels-mk3st]

Yes they make you feel like they are….unvalued and unloved

[@janm9610]

Everything was a game. He would say you can't beat me?! Im like, honey, im on your team. Foreign idea to him. One day ill be done with this BS. Healing , 6 months in

[@zulkifflihajimasri3083]

No wonder she was crying a lot because of I leave. She made me compused All time, that why i make no contact with her a long time, after knowing with her convert narc problem. Thanks a lot , my friend . You are so wonderful person and you safe a lot of people.

[@ralphperrotto6985]

YES YES you are on it, Its was a trick all along

[@mos456mos45]

I’ve been watching videos on this topic for months. This was the one that set the lightbulb off for me. Thank you so much.

[@Bob-zh6dw]

Excellent topic and very well done. Thank you Anoushka 😊

[@Nurse_Ella]

Well explained, as I watched and listened, I cried the fact that I left him to protect myself. I’m inlove but I’m not stupid. On our conversation. The time that I left He shout at me, saying “I want a normal life with you” and I think God punishing me. I can’t stop searching I tried but I kept on looking for validation. My brain is so weird it suddenly switch off. But my therapist told me they can’t change even if they tried if they will not going to submit themselves to therapy.

[@brianmoore811]

Read Alexander's Long Gravel Road Journey of Hope. Great read about bullying and narcissism. Very insightful.

[@kekoab2213]

That is what she does, she tells me to go. She would never say ,please stay. She gets angry and throws me out. I left a month ago,again. She wrote me saying she didn’t need me anymore, the purpose for me in her life was for her to grow and reach that higher spiritual place and be a better person. I served the purpose for her to grow and thank me for my patience for her taking me back . I know she suffered as a child from abusive parents and she treats me the way her mother treated her. She blames me for not changing to be in relationship with her. She tells me she hates me for breaking the relationship. Oh my gosh this was an amazing video. It describes her so well.

[@bxstiogk6340]

I cant say it enough but thank you for this video 🙏 There still no excuses for the bad behavior but it helped me a lot to understand some Situations,see through thinks and i can take big step forwards ❤ I will be in your debt forever for helping me through this difficult time with your videos🙏❤

[@linda5684]

This is probably the most heart breaking understanding of a person one cares about that i have ever known. Should I never hear from him again or see him I still wish for him to be whole and healthy, and have the ability to love and be loved. So very sad.

[@mobileradiofitter]

Just thought of something. When they say dont leave me and you dont, they dont know how to manage that becasue they have never had it or reliving their childhood disbandment. So best to say sorry i gota go wish i could stay but i cant. Theh just deal with the sobs on your return.

[@Syrian.Coffee]

This is very damaging to victims of narcissistic abuse

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

The narcissists I have known were not treated badly in fact, they were elevated as special as children and thought they deserve it from everyone. They hurt because they are mean not because they were hurt themselves. Lots of hurting people don't hurt others, having been hurt by others is never an excuse for those who choose to be mean to control others.

[@elizabethcampbell9474]

My ex husband said often “my friends like you more than they like me.” He said “my family loves you more than they love me.”

[@specialk8927]

They are the jealous type

[@mobileradiofitter]

She used to moan at me for not bringing her into my family more, yet every time i did she made an excuse she couldnt. She came to my parents house 2 times in 16 months, once to drop a tool off to me and leave, the second time she gave me a lift home and came in for 30 minites before saying she had to leave. She would go on about wanting a haopy loving family. Yet her family was a car wreck, the only 2 people in her family who saw her on a regular was her 11 and 15 year old. They would fight and argue constantly. Yet she would guilt me to saying its my fault i didnt introduce her into my family more. Utter crazy a no win situation.

[@MarkmanOTW]

Anoushka, I pretty much sensed and saw these things lurking beneath the surface of my former partner. Problem was you felt you had to 'be there' and constantly reassure in spite of the outbursts and insecurity you saw them exhibit. You felt compassion and empathy, but it was never enough and you become drained, emotionally, physically, and financially. It took a while post-discard for me to fully restore my wellbeing, some aspects taking longer than others. I now know and recovered several years later. Thanks again for your insights. I do like to drop by and hear and comment on yours and others channels, as I know it helps others going through it, as it did me several years ago. 🙂🙏

[@DennisSiebrenJacobTolsma]

“Misschien had ik dat niet zo moeten spelen” 😖 That is what she said

[@donaldcummings6439]

Probably your best video presentation to date! Thank you so much!!!

[@marygabriel8800]

Scary!!! I am happy that I am going 21 years of marriage there nothing left it’s just scary I am just lost for words 🙏💯💯

[@mobileradiofitter]

The gas lighting i could handle because im quite a logical person, i know they sky is blue so good luck telling me otherwise. But the mirroring i couldnt manage. From what i figured out, she would mirror the way a situation made her feel emotionally, so if she didnt get her way, she would throw no communication at me, betrayal, abandonment or just become incredibly busy and push me out. All those responses becasue i didnt go running one day she needed help. Your right about they think if you figure them out you could use their tactics against them. This is all part of the blame game and guilt game. All i wanted was to love a nice person i met. I had no idea what i was getting invloved in. I rememeber saying i confused her and i was tiring, oh man i wasnt nearly qualified enough to deal with it all. Oh gas lighting, one time we went for a drive. I wanted to talk to her about a social gathering coming. She didnt want to talk about it. It wasnt talked about. She went to the social gathering without me then had a right go at me becasue i didnt just turn up. I had no idea where what time, didnt have a clue, yet she went nuts a complete over reaction. Then claimed she told me all about it during the car drive. She was trying her best to convince me something that happened was different to what actualy happened. Wow

[@Tony93181]

thanks, well described, as always exllent, your fan from new Zealand, god bless you

[@reporter42657]

Sadly, Narcissism sounds like an entirely fear based condition in which an individual is completely frozen in trauma.

[@BabyWho143]

I really wanted to hear this. Born and raised by possibly the worst narcissist, how can not even a son and the many examples of loving families never work for this person. All she ever did was hurt me to get attention. At home at the super market on every holiday at school and with beatings from her and others to destroy my spirit and kill the soul i was born with. I mean ive almost ended up in a wheelchair. I remember one time i had been in agony sick to my stomach and a grown man crying just to end up in the arms of this person. I have lost all my energy trying to survive. I'm only still fighting for my life and my exit from this home because im still alive. The degree of wickedness is just i have no more words. 😢

[@BabyWho143]

And the worst of it was almost being blind to becoming a carbon copy of my mother. No wonder my life and I have never worked out no matter the blessings. But I always knew something was wrong I just couldn't figure it out. Thank you Anoushka. ❤

[@NicoleH1989]

This makes me sooooo sad they are like this! But my ex was so evil and I have to heal myself, not him. I tried to change him so much for the better but nothing was ever good enough. He was constantly mirroring me. At times I miss him, but it was just the love bombing and feeling at times safe with him. I have to put myself first though. Enough is enough.

[@michaelthompson-li7zs]

My way of dealing with my friend who has npd is emotional detachment and non reaction when they go silent and discard. Just there for them when they come back. Its a good spiritual practice to reduce my own ego and of course i love them for all their imperfections . Who of us can claim to be that ?

[@Bob-zh6dw]

Thanks!

[@anoushkamarcin]

Thank you 😊

[@angelahart1479]

Your explanation is so helpful. I did and still care for my ex 12 months on from her dumping me. She had some great qualities and we did laugh a lot when we were together. I still hope for the best for her even now.❤

[@AndreasLemonis]

Thank u so much for this video 🙏 helps a lot

[@ernhuse7636]

It's true. A few of the things I didn't listen to. "You deserve better" "I don't need attention from anyone else" Latter was completely random in a texting conversation. Struck me odd. But they do tell you. 😅

[@jamelcampbell4984]

If you pay attention to what sets off the narcissist, then you already know the triggers and you can upset them worse than they upset you. I have one again who owns his own home, threatens me to move out, I just keep agreeing to moving out, he changes his mind, he doesn't know what I'm thinking or planning and it bothers him. I brought issues up to him, he gets upset, within 2 days threatens me to move out, I don't cave, and he changes slightly because he doesn't want to lose me yet. He is 78+ and fighting terminal cancer who may live 5 more years+/-, I'm 56+ who doesn't look her age and I cater to him but I don't give up my full control to him. I have a van I can still live in which he is still "suggesting" I sell, nope, not making me vehicle-less. I have lost stuff in my past due to other narcissistic men, not again. Don't call them narcissistic or controlling until you are walking out the door, this way they can not respond to make you feel bad about yourself, and each time they put you down, just keep building yourself up in your mind and be happy and silent (makes mine watch me even more because he is unsure of my thoughts and plans). If you are their best supply, they back down. We go through this every 2-4 weeks. One day I will be walking out that door that he says only swings one way, blocking him, and then living a new life.

[@CPSeymoursSeed]

This was a really good take

[@gouvyrock]

I know she had a trauma in her chilhood-there is no need to confront her with this-i send her a message "i know who you are and i know you suffer"-this was my last message to her!!!! Now i will not see her again -no messages-no contact-block her phone!!! game over !!!!

[@mikejohnson5157]

Were splitting and her entire family thinks I am the one cheating, I'm abusive and a horrible man. I love her family, and her, its really painful. I've been her emotional punching bag for 18 years.

[@utrnagel9441]

Sad!

[@shelleyCollins-o6y]

My narc looks very exhausted when I ask him about it he just says never mind I never get any answers from him makes me very sad.

[@dannydyoh]

I don't think she is a narcissist abused victim or else she would sympathize with the innocent lives that narcissists destroyed.

[@stevethompson2442]

Very thorough.

[@justindearmond1]

What they would say? Mine told me discard phase just before the divorce. She told me that she never really loved me. And I know she meant it because I could see some of her messages on the internet and she was telling her best friends the same thing, that she never really loved me at all. She cheated on me for years was physically emotionally and mentally abusive to me I never laid a hand on her or my children.

[@michaelthompson-li7zs]

Lovely sentiments ❤

[@debbiewilliams1083]

Great Video!!! ❤

[@justint.kennerly5780]

This video strikes a recent nerve when you mention compartmentalizing I recently attended a surprise party in wondered why there was certain friends there but not all.

[@djangopipo5712]

Big Thank you❤

[@Petruss67]

I know.... she told me. (and it stronly shows in het real skills) But i'm powerless to do anything about it.

[@Spartacus2474]

They even take photos of me walking on the sidewalks! Control at all costs! I noticed the flying monkey taking that picture, I just didn’t react the way they wanted! They don’t bother if I notice them, they want me to feel hopeless with that manoeuvre!

[@NightOwlGames]

if no one loved them as a child why dont they apprieciate it when someone loves them as an adult?

[@AzizaMiller]

Great question.

[@edgreen8140]

​@AzizaMiller since they know everything and fear intimacy your love causes a narc injury.

[@paigebenjamin9767]

Ty really really helped. U are teaching me so much. 😊❤

[@steenkristensen6351]

Skønne dig du er super at høre på, ha en vidunderlig aften 😉👍🌼

[@MichaelBastinac]

It helped. Thanks.

[@VictoriaRebecca]

I went no contact with the covert narcissist in my life, because he is destroying every thing about me, but after watching this i can't leave.😥😥 I feel too guilty leaving now. 💔

[@irielion3748]

???? That doesn't make sense. You "went" NC (past) because "he is destroying (present). Your times don't connect. Also, after watching this, you should be able to leave even MORE. They are hell and energy vampires! This video only confirms you must run.

[@utrnagel9441]

You got to. It's not your fault! Therapie could help. Blessing's

[@annettemcclain347]

Thank u so much for this vedio.

[@mjathisbestandteachingskil6980]

Thanks for breaking it down. How they are seen as a person. I had a feeling it was something but not to that extent, though knowing now plus this was the 2nd time I dated someone similar but not as to the craziness as this one doings and exactly they are like three people in one😂😂 though she make some sense on things, though to me a damn field monkey.lol😂 at times. I've seen the cool side, then the stupidity nonsense, then the craziness,, lol😂that's narcissism is terrible. Everything you said you're right in this video💯% woooo👀👀😒 I'm glad you break it down completely. You're right, I can tell she misses me, even drove many, many miles away to talk and possibly more but I wont let her come near me or my home or respond. Thou I saw some of her possibly flying monkeys but by that time in my mind and emotions I'm done its not worth while and the risk even though we have a extremely very very very long history since college days and more on and of. But the playing time and me paying attention to, and over a decades's's of the nonsense that's is suppose to be over thou I didn't know until recently like wow👀👀👀 and at our age we were only suppose to learn, bond, togetherness as 1 and put things in right perspective and get married and enjoy life and have great great memories and live a very beautiful life very. But as I learn of what's going on in her and her mind you cannot trust or how can you truly love and trust someone like that?? Where there scales are at times unbalance👀👀 where they have 3 person inside of them and my job requires me traveling to different cities and states; to me you can't trust someone like that the a person for me have to be discipline and dedicated and honest. So I ended it and thats the 2nd time, not cool at all I ran into these types of people, plus as what she showed me really that was the last stupid goofy sh-t, I'll go through. I know better of okay that's totally disrespectful for either person of a human being, to accept; I'll never tolerate disrespect by no one. I know better and especially me; who knows alot about women like really not me. The world is so huge with beautiful people in it and nice beautiful women and I can pick and choose 1, be my 1st and only wedding with a happy wife and a happy life☺ and build a special great family and successful generation with no imbarrassment to me and my parents and family, we have one life to live in this beautiful earth. Okay. Thou I aint going to lie I do have my good moments about her but you have to be very logical thinking not with my heart. Your heart gets a person in trouble.💯%.. Lastly thanks again for clearing up everything its always great to learn much so. In conclusion I do feel bad about the situation due to the longevity we known each other very much so and finding out what's the real problem with her. I wish her well.

[@michaelosullivan8708]

woah,,,, dropping some hidden truths in this one,, grateful ! (who do you think you are, RFK Jr ? lol )

[@PaulTalbott-x7n]

🎉that really sad my 💜 gosout to them

[@ChristinaVelazquez-jn1re]

😢😢😢that is so sad😢😢😢

[@AzizaMiller]

Well since they will never be honest in their relationships i guess it is safe to say that this is why they would never be honest with a mental therapist..right?

[@michaelturner8420]

They do tell you,but it's all subliminally done. When their gone it all becomes crystal clear,and you can see what they were telling you

[@vickyjones8221]

My son has just cheated on his lovely wife. He has done exactly as his dad did to me. Is this learned behaviour?

[@Leopard_Slots]

Why can't they reach out for trauma help

[@edgreen8140]

Shame and the track record we in psych have in treating these extremely rigid personality types. Prognosis not good. Ever notice the more you try to help the meaner they get- reliving childhood and although your not their parent a ND the anger meant for caregivers or parent is placed on you and they in their distorted way think you deserve it. Love won't save them they adopted intimacy avoidant measures for spouse or coworker.They see someone reaching out and paranoia increases.

[@J87513]

Great video like all your other videos! Question….can narcissist ever be fixed?

[@flowersofthefield340]

No .

[@irielion3748]

​@@flowersofthefield340You need to add more, as your NO is misleading. Whilst there is no cure, they can become self-aware and be better humans and stop abusing people.

[@PaulTalbott-x7n]

The 1 I was in love would not married me that was a red flag

[@TorsteinTheFallen]

Actually very sad

[@cabbista30]

What is their truth?

[@amandamarieyoga]

😭 ... 💔💔💔

[@spectershore4482]

For believers : they are demons in control of a human body. How is it possible, you loved him/her ? You was TRICKED by his/her good appearance. And because of your lack of connection with your Creator, you couldn't see behind. Remember, they are fallen angels of different level in the hierarchy. They missed God's presence ! They suffer. They starve is light. And you're a little God to them because you are loving i.e calm, patient, carring, understanding, kind, etc... The fruits of The Spirit. They are living hell away from The Creator : no light, no love, no kindness, no understanding... And do not know how many youtubers know that on youtuber. But NARC, PN. NPD are just clinical words to humanize these demons. The person you talk to : never exist. They just integrated her/his body through rituals made by family "traditions". And traditions exist all around the world... Wake-up ! You're already BLESSED !! You're the light of this world 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@tiffanyglaspie563]

Ok….so my hopefully soon to be Ex-husband I have come to realize is a narcissist. This was a very long 3 years of discovery. A total of 15 years with this man. Unfortunately the collateral damage to our daughter’s is very serious. I almost wish I didn’t know what I know. Our youngest because of the last 3 years (who is only 12…almost 13) has taken in this family curse of his from the tragic “falling of his mask” and me being so ignorant about the whole education of said mental illness. I’m going to get her into therapy but am worried. Yes this horrible last 3 years has turned our lives upside down but she is just plain mean. She actually try’s to make me cry…..lies and steals too. Has anyone dealt with this and because she is still a child is there hope for a breakthrough at this age?!!

[@keithstewart7514]

Get ur daughter out of that situation if you can't see to do it for your flipping self.

[@tiffanyglaspie563]

It’s too bad that your comment is filled with ignorance. There’s a whole back story. I have my own place and have since Dec 1st of last year. She is mainly with me but I can’t take full custody you should know narcissism’s pretty hard to prove in court. Since you took it upon yourself to take a jab at me without knowing anything, I don’t believe you have any advice that would help. Thank you for showing me that you have absolutely no clue how to deal with what I am dealing with. Take care of yourself.

[@utrnagel9441]

Maybe she is not a Narc! Therapy would help!

[@bobbydavis3723]

Get over it

[@shirleydaniels9310]

in the long run they end up controlling nothing when he said he wanted to be in control i asked of what he said of u u do what u want and never listen to what i need or want i laughed so hard in his face . I thought it was funny i said sorry love i run my life not u or anyone else he curled up in the corner like a child i continued to laugh

[@G.C-e9j]

אנשים אומללים שמאמללים את כל מי שאוהב אותם.

[@mjathisbestandteachingskil6980]

😂😂😂true they are a trip.

[@raidenewalden4354]

Thank you

[@vo7877]

thank you