“Balancing” work and motherhood in my 30s (SOLO episode) | The Real Stuff

[@slyhead66]

I totally agree with you! And as a mom who does have a corporate job and doesn't even really enjoy my job, I still priorotize work because it is a time I can sit and be by myself, drink coffee, be in silence, pee when I want to, get out of the house and while I do that my son is at daycare where he plays with other kids and learns and does acitivities. I think it's a benefit for both of us. His childcare he gets to do new things that he doesn't do at home, and I get time to refresh

[@luciebfink]

Love this!! And LOL that the bar is set to peeing when you want to pee 😂

[@slyhead66]

@@luciebfink I KNOW lol kind of sad that my work is considered relaxing cause I can sit quietly and have free will to pee 🤣

[@loraleelu5003]

This was great to listen to! I totally agree with you Lucie. I am so sick of women being pressured to have to do either, work or stay at home. I personally am excited for the phase of life when I can be a homemaker and stay at home with my kids, and I honestly felt bad sometimes because in college my professors made me feel less than because I didn't have huge career ambitions. I know that mother's who work probably feels the same pressure and judgement because they DO want to work. I agree, society needs to be set up to support the family unit, and whatever they decide is best for each individual family. Thanks for your thoughts Lucie 😊

[@luciebfink]

Thank you for writing!!!! ❤ and for listening.

[@alexandraklimko6416]

Just throwing this out into the universe, Dr. Izzy Sealey as a guest someday : ) She's been speaking about what it's like being pregnant and her thoughts on motherhood and self-identity. I'd love to listen to you two compare, I recognize that you have differing views and it might be a little tense but it would also be quite fascinating to hear you two speak on this and explore each other's differences as well as dive into other topics.

[@MrsPhoenix2020]

You make a lot of great points. I think an option that is not really available to working mother's is part time, flexible, and or hybrid work. I think so many more women would be in the workplace if there were positions like that that provided benefits, got them out of the house, gave them some adult time and still allowed them to parent as needed. But that's not an acceptable option, most companies do not allow for this it's either full time or nothing. You've got college educated women unable to be utilized to their potential because she can't work 40+ hours

[@ninnagomarteli]

This is my favorite episode! Thank you for the insight!

[@caitlinhulsman380]

Love this episode 🤍 I've been following since your Refinery days, and you've been a source of inspiration for me for years while building my career in finance while still maintaining my hobbies, sports and relationships. 😊

[@luciebfink]

Wow thank you so much ❤❤❤ so happy you’ve been here so long!

[@berymod1]

Hits home! Great episode ❤

[@kayapurohit9743]

Love this episode Lucie-- can so so so relate as a business owner and someone who just had their second baby in August and has a husband who is an equal parent. I love my work, AND also daydream about homesteading every other day now that number 2 is in the mix. Curious how things have been going for you with baby number 2 here now. For me, this teetering has gotten SIGNIFICANTLY more intense.

[@christinaburns4798]

I absolutely agree that society needs to be set where women (and men) can make the choice that is best for their them and their families. If I had the means, I’d love to be a stay at home mom. Whereas one of my good friends has the means and chooses to work. And I respect her choice

[@Iceofflower]

Thank you, Lucie, that was definitely a very interesting topic to discuss! You were right saying that this blogger's audience was more old-fashioned as well as her ideas, which seems to be on the spot. Saying that every woman must stay at home with her children just because she was born like this sounds very generalized and as weird as saying that everybody likes milk chocolate, for example. Women are also humans with their own interests, thoughts and ideas and being adults they also can decide their preferences by themseves) Let's not forget that when women were stay-at-home housewives, they were having that life-style long before having kids, it was their standart life and in most cases, not their choice cause they simply couldn't work or get proper education. And now we are living in a completely different society, where women are able to choose their own career, hobbies, friends and all the other stuff. They have never stuck at home before kids so why would they do it after? This drastic change of routine more likey will lead to depression and women will not feel good around their own children! And futhermore, the idea of a working father who is not an equal parent is also can be damaging for the couple because he is not involved into parenting, doesn't know his children and doesn't get to create a special bong with them in most cases. So that being said, I believe that balancing parenting and work is a great idea, not an easy one but very adequate in terms of the modern world!

[@allisonwright7817]

I have definitely experienced a shift in priority from work to family life since getting married and becoming pregnant. I resonate with it being a biological shift. Almost like this is what I was destined for. My maternity leave is almost over and financially I don’t have a choice but to work. So I am definitely experiencing an identity crisis, and a lot of guilt, especially because I don’t have the luxury of choosing and my hours are not flexible. As a result I have resolved to work only my work hours and not a moment longer. This has caused conflicting feelings of not being ambitions enough because I am now choosing to implement firm boundaries and to prioritize my baby outside working hours. I think it is also necessary to recognize that female employment is not geared to family life and a mother’s priorities.

[@Adrablyandco]

YES!!!

[@wavetothecamera]

Lucie, I love the paint color on your walls…what is it?

[@luciebfink]

This is actually my in-laws’ home so I don’t know 😢😢

[@slyhead66]

Also, like you said what if a father gets more fulfillment from being a stay at home parent like just let people do what works for their family