Ben needs to give himself the same grace he’s giving Jay. He matters too
@Kylchytska Жыл бұрын
what a good heart Ben has... He deserve a normal life without sadness
@shaunacurley1032 Жыл бұрын
I agree
@justaperson2222 Жыл бұрын
Ben would do anything for his family 😢 he just needs to learn how to take care of himself too
@littlemy7622 Жыл бұрын
felt teary-eyed by the end. not very often ben says something so sweet and my heart grows two sizes every time these two get a nice scene together lmao. taking on more is only gonna break ben down faster but its nice to have an eye in the storm moment with these two
@shaunacurley1032 Жыл бұрын
Ben will be there for jay lexi and Callum
@briandbedford4178 Жыл бұрын
Ben is great. He proves he isn't just a thug - he really cares about Jay.
@a.l.y.a.m.e.d486 Жыл бұрын
That's what a caring brother does. At the end of the day Ben really cares and loves his brother Jay. Their just all trying to make the best out of what's left of Lola's life for her.
@jlocklear88 Жыл бұрын
I dont know why, But this actually made me cry....Dang it Ben & Jay. Aww and he even said she has 3 Dads
@eljker4640 Жыл бұрын
God I love their friendship 💕
@Terry-dl4nf Жыл бұрын
Great to see Ben stepping up for Jay and Lola. We've all come to love Ben and Callum, and I hope they're not going to make life even harder for Ben with some trumped up eating disorder. I think we'd all rather see Ben and Callum develop and deepen their relationship and love for each other ... rather than have to grapple with more problems. Give the boys a break!
@mechellemybell1000 Жыл бұрын
I don’t think the eating disorder is going to go on for much longer - I mean the tendency for him to revert back to it as a coping mechanism will still be there obv. But they can’t keep Ben at that speed cause his body is going to fall apart, he’s gonna die, & it’s not something that goes hand in hand w him being able to help his child through grief. Also it’s not believable at all lol when he just had a heart attack. Aaaandddd most importantly, they cant have max keep dropping weight. I just think it’s being used as a coping mechanism obv due to the rape and now feeling out of control about Lexi, Lola, and jay. It’s just prob the general audience doesn’t really remember much in detail about the rape (lol just saying) and they don’t want to bring that up too much cause vigilante and cheating garbage questions come into play, so they use this (which is obv common in sexual assault cases) to focus on instead of jumping back into that mess of a plot - which sadly was such a huge mess cause TPTB were morons. Tho I’m v glad Lewis was caught! Huzzah.
@shaunacurley1032 Жыл бұрын
Ben is not going to die his new story line is a eating
@shaunacurley1032 Жыл бұрын
Distor
@Terry-dl4nf Жыл бұрын
@@mechellemybell1000 Thanks Michelle, for one of the most intelligent commentaries I've ever read! I love your statement that "TPTB were morons"! After the excitement and amazing chemistry of the early days when Ben and Callum first got together, so much of the Ballum story-line has been a mess ... they have kept imposing scenarios that didn't really fit or make a lot of sense on Ben and Callum's relationship and never giving them a break. Just hope they don't go way over the top again because Lola's death is going to be harrowing enough as it is. P.S. I'm also disappointed in the way they haven't developed Callum's character lately. He's often been relegated to a bystander? For example, in this scene, why haven't they had Ben discussing what he's doing re Jay with his partner? Cheers, Terry
@Hop3fulRomantic Жыл бұрын
“She’s an Angel. Plus she’s got 3 dads.” They are literally 3 Men and a Little Lady!! Ben = biological daddy Jay = honourary/ adoptive daddy Callum = honourary/step daddy Plus! The biological dad doesn’t get with the mum, his best friend (Jay) falls for the mum and they get married! I’d love eastenders to do a spoof poster of that 🤣
@sbaker8787 Жыл бұрын
Jay is also her step dad he is married to her mother.
@Hop3fulRomantic Жыл бұрын
@@sbaker8787 Yes he is. But since he’s now “adopting” her (sharing parental custody with Ben) he’s also her adoptive dad. I just figured adding step dad in addition to all the other titles was a bit over kill 😆
@sbaker8787 Жыл бұрын
@@Hop3fulRomantic Okay then. I had just noticed elsewhere that some have missed the step dad bit for both Jay and Callum.
@shaunacurley1032 Жыл бұрын
And Ben to
@Js2Jo Жыл бұрын
Ben helps Jay, they're both brothers on the show!!
@torilove4868 Жыл бұрын
If Jay's falling apart now, how is he going to cope with Lexi after Lola dies? And Ben apologising for last week makes me a little sick. They ambushed him and that conversation with Jay was super manipulative.
@Kayleigh-ke8mz Жыл бұрын
But he won’t be the only one looking after lexi, ben and callum will be too
@sbaker8787 Жыл бұрын
@eeperson Thank you!
@justaperson2222 Жыл бұрын
@eeperson intentionally or not, the conversation they had last week felt really manipulative. “remember the baby lola aborted because you were struggling with being deaf? yeah you owe me half of your kid now”. I’m sure jay didn’t mean it like that but thats how it sounded to me and to Ben too. Lexi isn’t some consolation prize for the baby Jola couldn’t have.
@shaunacurley1032 Жыл бұрын
I agree
@sbaker8787 Жыл бұрын
@eeperson YES. RIGHT HERE! Thank you so much I totally agree with everything you said. Blinking brilliant! 100% The stuff Ben has done over the years has been quite bonkers and is massively overlooked!
@Im_Coral Жыл бұрын
idk know why KZbin gave me the notification so late Rude, I've been working on a Ballum playlist that's the only way I can cope with these storylines!
@haunteddreams7856 Жыл бұрын
3 dads..... I was waiting for that to happen
@mechellemybell1000 Жыл бұрын
Aww 🥺 Ben helping Jay. Also finally Jay’s job being addressed ffs. That’s not healthy at all. And Jay saying she’s got 3 dads. 🥺
@YusmazyMdYusup Жыл бұрын
and then putting the pressure on himself n not talking about it with callum..😢
@shaunacurley1032 Жыл бұрын
I agree
@definitely.natasha Жыл бұрын
Classic ben
@Bruced82 Жыл бұрын
Well, Ben and Callum were talking about him not coping, but then the adoption got sprung on him.
@YusmazyMdYusup Жыл бұрын
@@Bruced82 agree..and that talk was cut so short tho..