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[@LouisCentrella]

#1. Being too logical with women. #2. Not taking the lead. #3. Not playing to win.

[@Richard56-f7c]

Legend.

[@kingjamal2785]

Why be logical with women there not logical creatures

[@twt000]

S tier...Be a Gentlemen.

[@alb12345672]

Guilty as charged :(

[@kisms8590]

Big point he mentioned was, don't take any girls words seriously. IOW, he means whatever she says is not important, since it's just playful anyways.

[@AK-hi4hm]

why is your shirt off

[@surfboarding5058]

Cuz he’s chad

[@bhappy2023]

Also didn't get it haha

[@nestorcolt]

I was gonna ask the same. Pointless....

[@AnthonyManzio]

Because he can't get a high value women.

[@ATRTAP]

Making sure you’re straight.

[@edonjashari746]

The only Guy on youtube that makes sence, you really know your shit

[@samuelwebster2769]

Watch develop attraction Chris is also very very good

[@tmitz73]

sence ? really Bro?

[@clays1507]

Scents? Sence? Sense

[@samuelwebster2769]

@@clays1507 cents not sence lol.. It's cheap well of you on public WiFi you can watch it for free..

[@dogesmile2898]

I was in relationship for 2 years with a girl and last week she start hanging out with other dude and when I confront her at first she made me feel peace but second time she brokeup with me saying I don't trust her after she did so much. I was emotional when she breakup and still was talking. 2 days later universe showed me proof that she was disloyal. I then made a letter telling her she was wrong disloyal and in next half I said I was grateful for all those good moments but now this ends. and then I send a gift with that letter and then I said I am deleting you from everywhere wish her best life. now one week later now I got a letter from her where she said she was unfaithful and mistreated me and said sorry and that she lost me bcoz of few moments of fun. and that she was feeling bored with me which made her do that but she learned the lesson that few moments of boredom leds her do wrong things and she is responsible for her actions. I read that letter but didn't reply anything to her.

[@303machine]

You did good and to much for what she is worth. She is a scum. She was "exploring" her options. You were not so interesting and exciting, so she monkey branched to someone worthy of her red flags. You can do much better, don't bother.

[@HandyManny_69]

You deserve better than her, don't beat yourself for it.

[@lynic-0091]

Be glad you found out in 2 years she's disloyal. Instead of after 20 years in a marriage.

[@dogesmile2898]

@@lynic-0091 damn that's a big relief. I miss my time when I had no women and just a teen. there was innocence . I felt complete in myself. now these heart breaks puts a void in you.

[@SrbendaNo1]

Trust me she banged that dude way earlier that the moment you found out. Thats called monkeybranching.

[@salvadorromero9712]

There was no logical reason for my boy to take his shirt off, at night, in a non-exercise video targeted exclusively at men. But he ain't the kind of man to let that stop him. I have to admit it took me a couple seconds to get the joke! S-tier goose rizz btw. Those birds normally have zero chill.

[@realbenjaminseda]

Logic is useless

[@blessedisyou]

Explain the joke pls

[@oghenetegaumukoro113]

This is great information. Thanks Zeus, that phrase "girls just wanna have fun" made me have such drastic improvements in convo with women. This is awesome advice

[@davidz3879]

Do you now get anywhere with them?

[@oghenetegaumukoro113]

@@davidz3879 yeah, getting somewhere is just having the balls to initiate and then being manly enough to plan everything. Be outcome independent and play to win

[@davidz3879]

@@oghenetegaumukoro113 There's also the cost. Are you getting same-day lays?

[@jeanmichellelaurent]

That's the Cyndi Lauper song

[@bogdanchiric241]

FINALLY!!! The video that is directed to me and those like me who are working at themselves and approach women but did not know what were doing wrong! It finally makes sens! Thanks for the awakening!

[@jowurani]

WORD WORD WORD all 3 points Great video Benny

[@danielsantana540]

Based zeus i know a guy who went on a date yesterday. He aint much of a talker but she s madly in love with him and he didnt do anything all he did was show up. In this vid you make meeting so complicated lol 😢😂

[@Haner171]

Hey Zeus, I've been following your method on how to text a girl to ask her out. I got to be honest with you, when I met her for the first time, she told me that I am different than other guys who texted her only about setting up a date. The other guys were always keep texting her daily on asking hey, how are you, how her day was etc.. She was quite amazed on how I approached her thru online dating message without simping and keeping it cool. I can't believe that your method really works! Keep up the good work Zeus! I'm on my way for a 2nd date! Wish me luck! I am in my 30s btw😅

[@davidz3879]

Did you get anywhere on the first date?

[@prophet6557]

I don't know if thats the video where I heard it, but I really appreciate when you said "If you are afraid of saying the wrong thing, then you'll never say the right thing." That stuck in my head as you're 100% correct. Also I'm trying to implement that mindset of playing to win, not to not lose, I've mixed it up a little, in 300 Leonidas said Spartans never retreat and never surrender, and it really got me thinking.. do I want to live just for the sake of it? Or do I want something out of it while I am there? I would rather die than live a miserable and pathetic life. I'm trying to shape my mind into "Win or die" mindset in every aspect of my life instead, and it's partly thanks to you. If I want something, I gotta give it everything until it's certain that I lost, or actually die. If someone would actually want me dead for talking to women.. so be it, I'd rather die defending myself than live miserably and afraid.

[@prophet6557]

Die of loneliness, die of murder, die from everything but never live in fear. Refuse to surrender, refuse to retreat. Win or die like a man. It gives me a sense of power over myself when I talk to myself that way. Thank you

[@danielmella4927]

Commenting to help the algorithm. Great video Benji!

[@tyler2973]

Your logic is undeniable

[@uttamkrishnan1183]

Being to logical Not taking lead Not playing to win I hopes people like this regularly so I don’t forget this advice

[@CyberNova-tf1cp]

Kindly do a video on DEPRESSION and ANXIETY

[@TheDarlowiak]

DO not date girls from apps.

[@stephenjuarez2446]

Such as Instagram?

[@oghenetegaumukoro113]

Listen to the third advice!!

[@davidz3879]

What if she expects/demands to be wined & dined at expensive restaurants?

[@barkirion]

well you know what you can expect in a relationship with her

[@AakashKumar-tn6yh]

Gold digger spotted. Red flag. Get the hell outta there.

[@davidz3879]

@@barkirion I don't want a relationship. I'm looking for NSA action.

[@barkirion]

@@davidz3879 well you kno now how much will cost that with her

[@brandonmcalpin9228]

If you’re taking the lead, you should know what restaurant you’re going to because you should be the one to pick it out. But yeah, if she demands that on the first date, ghost her bro.

[@jasonrocksvegas]

Its easy for attractive men to do these things.

[@lynic-0091]

For non attractive men aswell. And even if the date doesnt lead up to something, atleast you had fun. Change your mindset.

[@cookiesarelikecream]

That’s not necessarily true. I fell for a very average goofy looking guy in my grad school program because he was so extroverted, funny (we had the best banter and played off each others jokes), and made people feel seen. It’s all about charisma

[@youtubeusername1965]

verryy good!

[@austinzizzi1142]

I think the most important thing is understanding that conversation should be emotional not so much logical. That’s what she’ll remember more how the conversation made her feel.

[@cyburntwentytwelve2455]

TMF/Jose Zuniga had the same thumbnail

[@cookiesarelikecream]

Point 1 is so important. I’ll try to be jokey and flirty with a guy on the first date but they end up being so boring and logical. Or aren’t good at keeping up convo. This is why I prefer dating extroverted funny guys

[@MarkoShreds]

I am an introvert and I put out great conversation and jokes. Introversion or extroversion have nothing to do with social skills, sociality or being logical/funny, it is all about where we get our energy from and how we are prefering our time alone.

[@DonRamiro1]

I've done #3 a couple times in the past with good looking girls and it sabotaged me. Now I know better. Gotta be fun, funny, playful and flirtatious.

[@brandonmcalpin9228]

Shit. I didn’t know Zeus was actually a majestic dragon. Because my boi spitting straight 🔥

[@eriksturdevant8589]

Bring back animated Zeus!

[@universesson2007]

Great quality video. Thanks for the advice bro.

[@oladejofriday7791]

Compatibility should also be considered and I think a friendly approach before starting dates is way better…..

[@wesuda]

There is some truth in this vids tbh 🔥🔥🔥

[@armenalexanian]

"If you're afraid to say the wrong thing..." This is true. I heard a guy recently say that if you've never gone a little too far before (and messed it up by mistake) you aren't taking enough risks.

[@FenderStrat19711]

This is a fantastic video, and it really offers some solid advice. As a total left brain guy myself, I often make the mistake of talking about boring shit on first dates, such as careers, stupid stuff like that. It’s no wonder the girl gets bored and wants to head for the exits. I also really appreciated what you said about Playing not to lose as opposed to playing to win. Really helpful advice. Now, if you could only keep your shirt on while you make videos ………..

[@Framidan]

The third one got me, i had being doing that too much

[@ProfWho-ut5he]

Unfortunately, there are no attractive women on dating apps.

[@R-R-R-R-R]

Bullshit

[@davidz3879]

There are, but they tend not to stay on there for long.

[@jennytehlia1724]

There are most just go for the rich dude on boats. Try hinge or bumble.

[@ProfWho-ut5he]

@@jennytehlia1724 Too low volume on Hinge and Bumble where I live. Also, no really attractive women.

[@cookiesarelikecream]

There’s lots of attractive women. You just aren’t matching with them. And like the other person said they tend to delete the apps after a couple of months since they have options online and in real life.

[@ArmandDePoiters]

Be yourself; be a gentleman, period. Since most "experts" appear, the most failures in couples are. Since more "Light" products appear, the obesity is on the rise And so on... Back to basics; it always worked.

[@morganyu812]

I think the term "nice guy" used to ironic term is bery stupid

[@davedonquixote921]

bring back zeus bro

[@MarkoShreds]

1. Be fun/playful with the person who you are, this is the most attractive thing. 2. Be decision maker. She will follow if shes feminine. 3. Be confident in your own skin, to be honest.

[@quotelegends]

the fact he just ditches the tarp within the first minute is fucking hilarious.

[@realbenjaminseda]

Keeping it is too logical

[@JuJitsuXBL]

Hey Benjamin, the thumbnail for this video shows you paying for dinner with a credit card with the caption "stop this" but this is not discussed or shown in your video. So do you recommend that I should not try to pay for dinner dates? I make a lot of money so it makes sense for me to pay for dinner, and I would think it also communicates that I (the man) am taking care of the woman, which women like to be taken care of, so that message is kind of confusing, do you mind if you could clarify? Thanks!

[@bzmanatt]

thanks Ben!

[@Aznisthesame]

This speaks many truths

[@zachmaguire46]

Totally accurate advice. But what's up with the misleading opening image on the video with "don't do this" pointed at a credit card?

[@ottovonwallace830]

Be who you are naturally.. You are who you are. Be proud of ghat. If you start being false from the offset then you have to lie throughout the relationship. If she likes you

[@lynic-0091]

Youre lucky that goose didnt attack you 🤣🤣

[@TomDarby-k3p]

Hey guys Ive been talking to this girl on and off 6 months. I ask to meet up and she says shes busy with work. I then pull back and she comes back after a few weeks. In total Ive asked her out about 5 times. One of the times we met up in a festival. Im going into no contact now. If she reaches out to me should I wait for her to ask me out?

[@xr3nG1Ne1337]

Just move on, she probably has someone but tries to keep you in range

[@SrbendaNo1]

6 months being in the friend zone and after that getting rejected 5 time and you still think there is a chance? You funny. You never had any chance to begin with.

[@TomDarby-k3p]

@@SrbendaNo1 We were never officially friendzoned its just we wouldnt meet up and have a chance for something intimate

[@robbiewinstone88]

Move on!

[@ricardosotosan2279]

You know what, I didn't expect this to be good advice for whatever reason. But Damn, it's on point.

[@mistermetaverse7267]

Benny unintentionally plugging slots LOL

[@MrERDEM12]

Wait a minute. U said, make to a date easy as possible. Invite with event where woman can't say no. Take her where she feels comfortable. But know you are saying, It is wrong to find a place near the girl's house from googlemaps and invite her. Wouldnt the girl feel more comfortable in a familiar location close to her home?

[@zeethree]

I have trouble with all 3. I do not take risks, have trouble planning, and I only think logically. Autism = logical/literal thinking ADHD = can't plan Anxiety Disorder = no risks Life is brutal. At the point where bros feel so bad for me that they're saying "I will get a woman for you."

[@jackpoulin6443]

WOW !! To the point. Very smart analysis and advices.

[@Jornjunior18]

Where’s that shirt from G?

[@dylancooper3690]

I say the wrong thing with women all the time. It never gets me anywhere.

[@AnthonyManzio]

Stop cold approaching it's a total waste of time.

[@DonRamiro1]

@@AnthonyManzio That's bullshit. Cold approaching is a tried and true method. It's a numbers game.

[@AnthonyManzio]

@@DonRamiro1 Trash

[@mAcChaosCh]

I have a question for you Ben. There's a girl I was hitting it off with, but she got a boyfriend while I went on a long business trip. I don't really care though, I still want to take a shot since they just got together. How would you suggest going about this differently? Or would you suggest just being direct as usual?

[@twt000]

Being IMMATURE, yeah you!

[@carguyslifestyle8578]

I rather not date because I don’t like the fact us men have to do a lot to make it right and all the women have to do is show up look purity and get free shit. I’ll stay safe and single for life.

[@keithchegwin1222]

Should i show up with my shirt off?

[@LESLEYYY0]

What microphone are you using?

[@timk4829]

Very good. 👍 Thanks, man.

[@miltonpowell9520]

Facts 🔥🔥

[@eduardosella9764]

Man gotta tell you when life beats you up pretty hard, and not only when it comes to dating, you realize sometimes tiptoeing is a safety measure, we call it prudence

[@ShyMplsMale]

This guy is so nice he will give a stranger the shirt off his back in between takes.

[@Renalda5TV]

Bro stop moving, I'm getting dizzy

[@shmoney-crc]

I just wanna know why out of nowhere you were shirtless, like tf 😂

[@J1Z06]

I give up

[@Reepermax]

Yeah, Ben.. but doesn't being short hv a stone to do with even consideration?

[@marioariasjr7446]

I just be myself. Say what comes to mind first. No cliché questions... nope! Boring. Say/talk about random shit, joke around.. if it works great! If not, move one to the next one.. I've had some really great relationships after a first date. Not everyone clicks.. I've met uptight women.. don't want those. Someone who's down to earth and can take a joke is my speed

[@Herozonex200]

Ok. Im just boring and logical. I must be a too serious guy because i was always a serious guy as a kid. I know how to have fun but its cringey lmao

[@MikeBizzle87]

Why dafuq this guy take his shirt off??? LOOOOOOOOL.

[@casvanschie6937]

Do you own a shirt?

[@GoldenMushroom64]

No offence but are you gonna make a new video within the YEAR my guy??

[@nicco6951]

Wtf dudes shirt randomly came off...why?

[@jianfoster972]

First mistake shirts on rookie mistake

[@TisunganaMakungwa]

Bring back animated Zeus.

[@yahnferral9163]

All this dating advice on KZbin is pointless mental games and not listening to your own body.

[@Hilal_abdelilah]

tempt her to get stuff she will never get. That way, she’ll stick with u

[@Hilal_abdelilah]

Because women love to hear lies

[@arctos333]

Who the fok is this guy and where’s based Zeus?????

[@brandonmcalpin9228]

Benjamin is the physical manifestation of Zeus. Zeus in man form. Accept him, or else. 🔥 😂

[@thesunisout2858]

Either you have got it or not

[@michaelj3385]

I'm 58 and I approve this message 😆

[@Chris-hp2gg]

Nice guys finish last.😂

[@toms2494]

That sounds good until you get divorced, you think different when you get stabbed in the heart through your back.

[@KenMay-v1r]

HAHA Win the Prize...Lose your money.. Quite the paradox!!!

[@mikespear4400]

whats with the shirt off?????????????

[@jamesmakume2630]

While this video is true and it will help you attract good looking women, I'm not convinced it will help you attract high quality keepers.

[@mattraveltheworld3980]

I am more interested to know why he has zero chest hair. What‘s the secret?

[@Will_Ramb0]

MODE ONE BABY, make some shit happen

[@tecdive8045]

He may know about women, but he doesn’t know about men. Dude lost me at shirt off. What is he - insecure? He thinks that by showing his fitness will make potential male clients hire him? Dumb - blocked

[@masteahouse]

facts!!!!!!

[@normandegeorge6526]

Why are you talking to a bunch of guys with no shirt, I’m gone.

[@emiLydad]

where your shirt bro 😭

[@Jazsway910]

Flaking and ghosting didn’t happen thirty-forty years ago. You guys have an uphill battle. Respect for trying. Keep it just fun stay away from courts. Respect for you adapting but I wouldn’t date a person with 200 men her DMs from different corners of the world. Good luck. I had a great woman and I objectively don’t see quality out there.

[@andrewstever5728]

I'm asking the same thing what's the deal with you taking off your shirt

[@davidz3879]

How do you get same-day lays?

[@xMckingwill]

Numbers game some women will some wont 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️. Also depends what arw you looking forna relationship or the lay. If you want a lay i suggest going for a 304

[@tommy.h]

You're shallow if you're looking for that. But best bet is going clubbing/pubbing

[@davidz3879]

@@xMckingwill None of them want me. I'm only looking for casual; I love being single.

[@davidz3879]

@@tommy.h I've tried that many times but have never got a same-day lay.

[@tommy.h]

@@davidz3879 i guess if you want hookups there's always tinder. As for it being in the same day I'm sure you could find someone (although they might not be attractive at all 💀)

[@andrehunter8137]

And you took your shirt off becauseeee 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@MazeedAkanni]

Based Zeus ❌ Based Benjamin✅

[@user-qi3jz4pr1t]

Zeus

[@kevincosta2404]

Don’t be logical with women. Got it

[@daxzerff2598]

Gigachad

[@amerale9640]

Wtf why did take your shirt of 😂

[@Dr.HarshTruth]

Great

[@stephenhall5694]

In summary, be a real man.