Dating and Sikhi @ Uni Short Talk

[@annesmeets9304]

So much truth in this video.. You made me see this subject like I've never seen it before. I come from an atheist household where dating is considered as something great, but the way as it's explained in this video makes much more sense. Thank you for this video!

[@bobbobby9056]

I know it's great, I too never thought of it this way. I've put this on Facebook, more people should think like this!!

[@Neetphysicsbymatharusir]

Stay away from lust, you will figure out most of things in life

[@premsingh-yi4dg]

@@Neetphysicsbymatharusir indeed

[@drick2480]

@annesmeets9304 How has your journey with Sikhi gone,since its been 8 years?

[@drick2480]

I never knew Jagraj Singh but in my darkest days i found his videos on Sikhi and it literally changed my life. When i discovered he had passed i wept, such a loss of a beautiful and inspirational soul. I then watched the documentary his brother made about him and it made me appreciate him even more. He stood up for what he believed and set out on a mission to make Sikhism accessible to everyone regardless of their background and blessed us with the gift and wisdom of the Gurus. Thank you brother, you have truly left a legacy with this channel.

[@molliekaur5228]

I’m a white girl who grew up in the west, I wish the west knew these values. For me I was 14 when I had my first child i now have two children with the same person but we are separated and he has FOUR children altogether. Since then I found Sikhi and through it I found my husband who has the same values as me. I had no idea at the time of when I had kids that I hadn’t even figured out who I was let alone what I wanted in a partner! Same goes for most white people. I will be teaching my now 6 year old and 4 year old this when the time arrives of the dating phase. Waheguru ji maharaj bless all of these clouded mind people with awareness and naam 🙏

[@TheUltimateGeminiHasSurvived]

It’s funny. I disliked this video about a couple years ago. It all makes sense now. I apologize. This video makes 100% sense now.

[@karate2252]

TheUltimateGemini me too . Disliked before but now i like it.

[@priyankachugh9056]

Exactly same here brother

[@deadman4370]

Then u must press the like button for sure😅

[@ਅਰਸ਼ਸਿੰਘ-ਡ3ਰ]

Haha same

[@raidenmaverick8191]

i realize I'm kinda off topic but do anyone know a good website to watch new tv shows online ?

[@Rainen444]

I'm really glad you addressed this subject. I never understood why people made such a big deal of dating. Especially when they can't see themselves marrying their boyfriend or girlfriend. It's a waste of time and emotion. In dating it seems like boyfriends or girlfriends only satisfy trivial, unimportant short term needs rather than satisfying the long term needs and values upon which marriage is built.

[@russellsage4953]

Beautiful Culture is everything We are like quartz, my teacher used to say. Quartz picks up the pigment of its surroundings. We are to keep good company. We must keep wise Sanghat nearby so we are grounded in these values. Waheguru ❤️

[@palakghai_]

This video has helped me in my life. I can say that it saved my heart at the right time. Bhai Jagraj Singh Jee always explained things in details which made sense . It really touched my heart and i felt like cryin at the end of the video. I do do really miss him. He was a beautiful soul and a true sikh. 🙏🙏🙏

[@Hobbit_2024]

Read about your glorious history punjaban khatri or khtrani

[@harjinder117]

Even before getting into Sikhi, this was my thought. Brilliant Bhai sahib ji :)

[@staclynn72]

Made a lot of sense. Dating is an empty form, there is not really anything to be gained from it. Unfortunately now days people make dating a priority with no real goal in mind. Just leads to a lot of heartache and baggage.

[@MotivationalBeast-px6nj]

Ceòl gu bràth o

[@TGBoleyn]

Awesome! Thank you so much for the education! This applies at any age. I just found my 'forever partner', after a series of failed relationship attempts over the past two decades. I just met a Sikhi woman from India. I myself am not of Punjabi or Indian heritage or ancestry, but have since childhood, identified with the morals and ideals of the Sikhi teachings. The Golden Rule, to treat others as you want to be treated, and respect to earn respect, are my guiding principles. Being of Scandinavian ancestry, the part here where you mention that the heart is dangerous and does not follow logic, I have a personal motto to keep me conscious of that: " The Bear should follow the Owl" (the bear is the heart, the owl is the mind), and this corresponds with two tattoos - on my back, a full back piece with a Viking style bear. On my chest, an owl with wigs outstretched. As long as I move forward, the bear will follow the owl. If I walk backward, looking back, I'm going in the wrong direction, and will fail to make progress. Cheers!

[@pranjalparmar2504]

💯💯💯💯💯 Proud to say that I've never been into relationship & I am saving for my wife

[@ianbowden2524]

You got this

[@TheTurbanatore]

Sikhi is about Controlling ones Anger, Lust, Greed, Attachment, and Ego ALL of which are found in Dating. However, there's nothing wrong with just getting to know someone as long as there is no lust involved.

[@TheUltimateGeminiHasSurvived]

Golden Memes lmao you can, there’s a shabad on this as well, but it can only be with your husband. Or wife.

[@Neetphysicsbymatharusir]

Absolutely...but people now relate it to keeping kesh and tying turban only... I believe if you have worked on these 5 sins , you achieve patience to grow and keep hairs...

[@gillharshgill8315]

@@Neetphysicsbymatharusir it's all about how much nam guru ji gave you and with enough kirpa just do an experiment do nitnem and sukhmani sahib for 40 days and not go out partying or in any kind of bad sangat and than 40 days later try to to go back into your old sangat you will feel anxiety like your soul is taking stabs

[@summer7529]

Exactly thats my point why marry?

[@mrawesome6239]

@@summer7529 you marry because we are people of family.

[@lionsviewproduction5768]

Thank you so much bro for giving hope, please spread Sikhism everywhere

[@Juliasblues]

How intelligent this way is. He is so right, about the 'baggage'.

[@ceannasai5731]

As a married man I have to say .... When you know she or he is the one you just know.... Friendship before intimacy was key for me ... I found it.... 13 years later we are still going strong .... Crawling through the pain in life but the goal is in sight always... Through good times and bad... Agree with these fundamentals 👍

[@siuuur9201]

tryna be like you ma bro

[@Foggydraft]

I agree it’s a useful way to protect your heart and time

[@gundaadnug1977]

I love Sikh faith.

[@amrindersandhu299]

THANX a lot finally I GOT MY ANSWER you saved my heart

[@t-starrecords]

this video is very useful for me. I found my all answers. i appreciate and thankful to upload this kind of video because this is a subject need to talk..

[@johnsmithverse7759]

+Jatinderpal Singh Same here... Now to implement....... arrgghhhhhhhh

[@sbssingh2094]

Reverend Giani Jugraj Singh ji I am highly grateful to you for doing this great work. You have touched a very serious and important issue and dealt with it very nicely. Youths really need to be aware of comlocations of dating and how they are ruining their lives because of this.

[@river1304]

We never dated in human evolution. Culturally dating has only existed for a few generations. Partners were always vetted by family and then a marriage took place. It’s then that a couple fell in love. Falling in love is the easiest part, we’ve also made it the most important part. This has never been the case. Alignment of family status and values was always placed before this and the results are clear, families stayed together. We now lead with our emotions and you have broken families. Marriage was in place to protect our women and children and hold a man accountable. I’m so grateful to have woken up to this before it’s too late for my kids. I also fell in love first and I’m reverting back to tradition for my daughters, as I see it always made the most sense.

[@mcdonaldsgaming3974]

Yeah that is what I think as well. No matter what religion or culture, I don't see dating involved in them. Maybe there could be a few cultures where they date. But I want to know why was dating promoted so much in the society. Maybe it helps government or corporates in getting more money and it doesn't let families get too rich. Since dating and all those divorces costs a lot of money.

[@bahjomohamed1636]

Totally agree about the seriousness thing. I don't get the whole dating thing where ppl can have relations but not ready to get married it's always annoyed me so much

[@MissChrisa]

"Not your valet". I LOL @ that one. I miss Jagraj!

[@darshpreetsingh004]

Good video . You talked in depth and said all real words according to gurbani.

[@saraandersson3897]

It makes so much sense... loved this video..

[@WaheguruEK]

Just want to clarify that the char padarth are; Duty, Livelihood, Sex (after marriage) and Naam.

[@siuuur9201]

this is a big wake up call for some people

[@SandeepSinghArtist]

Thanks a lot for this video, veer ji. Learned a lot from it. I realized this. Its a humble request, please make and upload a video on "Pind-daan" and what SGGS ji says about it.

[@khushsran56]

I agree with you paji.. Its true Dating before marriage is just waste of time n emotions In future it will just make you hard to adjust with one you are about to marry..

[@mindfuel__97]

I think the problem these days is that no one is serious when they enter a relationship. You should enter a relationship with only intentions to marry, then there will be no conflicts or confusion in future. I know this myself from personal experience. Sometimes you fall in love and you are soo mesmerised by the feeling, you confuse lust for love. Marriage is when both partners are ready financially and mentally. There’s no issue with dating as long as you confirm with each other your intentions are to marry if you both are right for each other. I think when you meet the one you just know, that they are the one.

[@gursewaksingh3740]

great way to explain a logic👍🏻👍🏻

[@bellasmom2597]

The point of dating is to figure out what you want (in youth) and when older to learn if the person is who they say they are .

[@navunavu6555]

Wow. This video is really helping!!

[@14dhat16]

Bhai Ji, may you please do more videos on this topic and how to deal with break ups and steering away from this cycle of dating and moving towards Naam Bani?

[@84LA84]

+14dhat16 I think finding the right sangat who inspires you is best!

[@harry24n]

join local gurudwara seva community u will find your answers

[@14dhat16]

harry blaze lolll with Mahraj's kirpa I got my answers a year ago. I've been heading in the right direction and path with His support. The power of Ardass is amazing & like the other Gursikh said; changing your Sangat really helped me as well.

[@komaljeet7884]

Do meditation

[@jaggill2324]

Real good video. Good job, keep it up

[@savraj67]

What about dating and then getting married and then living happily ever after... Then the dating before was beneficial as you got to know the person and realised that you want to marry them

[@bobbobby9056]

It's a gamble. If we look at western marriages today, their divorce rates compared to arrange marriages are extremely high. Of Course there are going to be exceptions that's with anything in life but generally his message works out better.

[@jessica9911]

bob bobby i feel like in brown arranged marriages the rates aren’t that high because it’s not ideal to divorce in our culture. I know so manyyyyy of my friends parents who really shouldn’t be together- including mine too but they don’t/wouldn’t separate but i’m guessing it’s because kids come into the equation. Although, i agree with you dating is a gamble

[@Neetphysicsbymatharusir]

@@jessica9911 there r ways to make things work in marriage like celibacy ....

[@sheilakaur4725]

In this day and age, girls are more educated, have careers, drive etc and will not put up with the rubbish our generation put up with, nothing to do with "lab" marriage or arranged 😡

[@stayingalive4lifehill.r328]

So much wisdom. How does a mature adult meet another person properly? I been a widow for years,but am young. My kids are almost done. How do I meet a healthy minded man?

[@glindagoodwitchofnorthview8287]

I tried to get married like this, it’s embarrassingly outdated. Nobody wants to set anyone up

[@serendipityculture1679]

Sometimes the way to look for Husband/Wife material is to learn abt urself and opposite sex, that can mean dating, so u know who u want and like and vice-verse.

[@gillharshgill8315]

I mean even medical studies showed with number of emotional and sexual partners go up the chemical which make the feeling of attachment and love and happiness drastically decreases with it so spiritual it doesn't make sense and scientifically it also doesn't make sense to have more than 2 relationships before marriage

[@serendipityculture1679]

@@gillharshgill8315 Many ppl do. It suits them.

[@mortuaryartist]

Cars blazing..such a legend.

[@amrak-8401]

Thank you!🙏

[@mumo9413]

What if you don't have family? Some of us lost our parents at a young age! So presumptuous!

[@jabeensahera1884]

islam says exactly the same. awesome teachings bro love to listen to ur lectures bro.worth learning.keep up the good work.

[@JagroopSingh-mh4bf]

Jabeen Sahera 👍👍👍

[@dvndrsingh786]

why is everyone agreeing??? i don't want to agree but he is saying truth!!! but now breakup hurts!!!! darn

[@shubhvijayaphalguna1125]

I'm born in Hindu family, respect Sikhism, do naam Simran and visit gurdwara and wish to follow gurumat. One sikh man wants date me but isn't interested in getting married. Says that he can't quit alcoholism and lustful motives. I feel disgusted. Any suggestions? Waheguru.🙏

[@mehar134]

Am also a sikh guy Mam and this sikh man who approached you is a "pseudo sikh". Sikhs don't drink, smoke, sleep around or disrespect women. Its a hukumnama from Guru Gobind singh ji (hukumnama means command/order). I personally advise you to stay away from this man and if you want to marry a sikh, then marry a religious/practicing sikh. But if you're in love with this guy then remind him of sikh gurus and their teachings. Nevertheless, this "pseudo sikh" is a pervert and should be ashamed of himself. You know mam, these kind of people ruin the image of sardars. Even I felt disgusted to read this. More power to you sister. Stay strong and all the best for your future endeavors! Waheguruji ka khalsa Waheguruji ke fateh🙏

[@RunhdeepS.Sandhu]

stay away from him..he sounds like bad news..he is not a real Sikh.

[@Neetphysicsbymatharusir]

@@mehar134 we have so many like this now....actual sardars r very less.

[@mehar134]

@@Neetphysicsbymatharusir I think same goes for any community/religion. Nowadays people in general don't follow religion, they just inherit the name and identity of a religion but don't actually practice it. This situation is way worse in western countries where more and more people are turning atheists. A true sikh will always remain gursikh irrespective of circumstances and will never behave in a shameful manner as described by the girl above.

[@VeraLucia-sl6sl]

Waheguru ji

[@asingh5482]

Very Very well said. Excellent.

[@CocoLópez-k2r]

You should explain the different categories of marriages you are talking about.

[@stephanieh5478]

Looking for my husband, not my boyfriend. I recently met a man who is a Sikh and we had a conversation like this. He has been married before with a western white woman but at the end it didn’t work out because they didn’t have the same values and morals. I am interested in getting to know him more even though we do have different cultures.

[@harry24n]

it means date with the intent of marriage not just gf bf illusion people become gf bf on third dates just like that first be friends then move on to next stage after u have known the person for a while today people out of jeaoulsy want gf/bf fast

[@jayt9384]

Well put brother. Also if you have problems of paap(sin) by lusting for someone, you can get out of it by just marrying them, then you will not be condemning yourself after death. The world is in a very dark place at the moment, the corrupt and rich that run the world are destroying any part of Gods influence on our lives. Soon it will be time for departure before death of the marriage as mentioned in Kirtan Sohila.

[@venkman8765]

This is where I disagree about parents this and that arranging this and that and agreeing if you are both a suitable match. This isnt Pride and Prejudice.

[@saroopsingh5251]

Sad to say this happens is sikhs who wear dastara and kirpans 😌

[@radicalkills123]

Wow a lot of good information

[@joshbieber5191]

What if the ideal girlfriend turns out to be the ideal wife

[@bkalsee]

But we can't stop loving someone....even couple who r marrierd are very much in love ...its not about date or mrg. Its about your thought which makes u ...if u date some one and get married thats gud ... but if u marry someone nd dont love that person that will be more than worse... nd in case of dating when relation ship breaks the reason is they dont wanna sattle down coz they dont have patience..

[@Advaitavedanta635]

Sir you are serving the purpose of guru.👍.

[@jimsonpat7316]

Thank you.

[@harshjotsingh9958]

god is ur bf /gf love god and we will know what is actual lovr

[@harjapsinghkahlon1660]

@XxX some next level shit,bruh

[@trinityteeters8402]

Harshjot Singh no He's not gf/bf. =More like family...after/brother

[@trinityteeters8402]

I meant father

[@CredowXD]

@@trinityteeters8402 True.....and also at the same time he is much like a mother or a friend who guides and saves us at every single moment of life

[@trinityteeters8402]

@@CredowXD yes god's holy spirit is likened to that in character even Tho he's not girl. But my heart desires that all be saved Thru Jesus Christ. No one saves better than He does and none can even come close to a relationship like that.

[@manikaransingh3234]

Hi, There's this one thing I want to ask. I wasn't looking for anything, she wasn't looking for anything, but me(22) and her(18) fell in love with each other. we are both from different religions but we believe in one God, I'm Sikh and I've always taught her about Sikhism and she has been a dedicated learner and follower. We both know that the almighty set us up because of many many miracles in our relationship so far. Kaam breaks my rhythm of my Sikhi schedule, I can feel it fills dirt in my heart which doesn't let me meditate well, which makes my heart ill who just can't remember God with love. I am only attracted to her none else but still since we are not married, it's wrong. Idk what should I do, should we leave each other for the time being till we are ready to get married?

[@RunhdeepS.Sandhu]

get married to her..what are you waiting for.

[@RunhdeepS.Sandhu]

both of you as Sikhs in Anand karaj

[@houdabenyounes5743]

Nice question. Could you tell us what happened with both of you? I hope everything went well..

[@komalpreet.kaur7]

Is she still with you?

[@mehtabsingh1025]

But doesn't having a girlfriend/boyfriend lead to marriage?

[@dalbirbrar9683]

Mehtab Singh but look at the divorce rates for western society (culture that dates) versus the rates for India .

[@satpalsinghcheema8164]

Dalbir Brar that's a stupid argument to make.. the reason divorce's are higher in western culture is because it is socially acceptable. In India girl get beaten and abused by their husbands and still stick with them cause of fear of society shaming them it's patriarchal culture at its best. Look at domestic violence rate of western to India.

[@sukhrajsinghmehrok7443]

The main role of Sikh woman is to stand with his husband, if her husband is Gursikh. Only way sikh woman will get respect, recolonization, Identity etc if she is the wife of true sardar. Thats it. If her husband is Sikh, she will be automatically his Sikhni. So, she should always look towards her Sikh husband. And A Sikh should always look towards Guru. A sikh should have the Ideology of Guru, and his sinhgni should respect and follow his ideology. In this way both will have same ideology ,i.e Ideology of Guru, then they will live with harmony without disagreements or fight i.e Ideology of Guru. Thats how sikhi works or will work.

[@satpalsinghcheema8164]

What a load of absulute hog wash. That is the most anti Sikh thing I have ever read. How can you sit there and spout such patriarchal and sexist remarks. I dare you to say this to mata sahib Kaur. You are confusing culture with religion. Sikhi teaches us that women and men are equal. WOMEN DO NOT NEED MEN TO "GET RESPECT". A woman gets respect from her actions and how she is seen through the guru. How can you sit here and speak such filth about your sisters.. she does not need a man to define her. that's what the guru's have taught us through the ages. I get you are probably from INDIA and not a custom to the thought of equal rights. but please don't go around speaking that anti gurumuck views. a women's"ROLE" IS the exact same as a man. we are all equal. I don;'t claim to be an expert but I can say that from what glorious stories I have read from the guru's equality is a total must in the Sikh ideology.

[@sukhrajsinghmehrok7443]

Satpal Singh Cheema if you are not expert, why are giving arguments. And i said her husband and Gursikh. I said woman has to follow her Gursikh Husband not ang man, what is wrong in that. And it is proved according to gurbani. A woman will have great fortune who has Gursikh husband of she want to go on Gursikhi path too. And you peoples are doing parchar all over the world that man and woman are equal. Tell me how they are equal. Tell me single line in gurbani which says both are equal. Man has different roles woman has different. In gurbani there are lines like "so kyon mannda akhiye, jit jameh rajan" this mean that we should not say woman to be bad, this doesn't mean that woman is equal to man. Offcourse sikhi is very much unique and extraordinary from other religions but this is not the way that sikhi is different that both are equal. Sikhi is different because sikhi clearly states the definitions of nirakar, soul, brahm and parbrahm. The focus of sikhi is on one, what is that one. But other religions are caught up in maya and there focus is not on one Lord.

[@serendipityculture1679]

What if everything is there but disgagreements over interess, views etc. that breaks up marriages.

[@aavgeen]

Your talks are correct. but statistically saying, there are very less sikhs already. Also, very less are looking for marriage material. So, the chances of finding the right partner are pretty slim. So, any tips.?

[@demigothneka]

What if your parents aren't sikh? I don't trust my christian parents to find me someone.

[@basicsofsikhi]

Try to find someone older and respected in the Sangat (holy congregation) in your community and see if they can help.

[@trinamariekaursingh4174]

But I am With a Punjabi also Sikhi and we have a son together, we are not married, we want to be, yes, cultural differences can be hard at times but I have to say I kind of disagree because I wouldn't want anyone else for the rest of my life. I am blessed. and I guess I can say love can make a person change, he makes me want to be a better person, a better woman for him, me being American where dating is the norm I dont understand your take on this.

[@basicsofsikhi]

sister, one example out of a hundred s only an exception to the rule, it does not mean we abandon the rule

[@serendipityculture1679]

Western values disagree, hence why they progress.

[@harshjotsingh9958]

sex is not allowed outside marriage

[@harry24n]

take is simple get married if u keep on living like this u will definitely separate confusion is dangerous take a leap of faith it will work out you both will make it work out

[@RunhdeepS.Sandhu]

you need to get married to him.

[@drawntosweet]

I where with this so much

[@gurneetkaur5764]

waheguru

[@karmangrewal4483]

didn’t complete the video yet but both of my idiols were surprisingly the same.

[@KVG822]

I had to explain this to people. I don’t date. They didn’t understand. People don’t court anymore like they used to, courting leads to marriage. People just date and settle. Divorce rates are high in the west.

[@mandipsingh3262]

Very true

[@emilysingh3824]

So what if u are a Sikh but not Indian ? How are u supposed to find a husband? Does the gudwara help you?

[@harjapsinghkahlon1660]

Not much organised at my place,may or may not,may God help u

[@user-gq3xc9yl5l]

Visit the gurdwara and get in the community i think there is a chance but i dont know

[@RunhdeepS.Sandhu]

Hi Emily. Get out there and get involved in the community. Volunteer and get to know someone as a friend and go from there. It is a little more difficult when coming from another cultire where the connections are not already there..but not impossible.. good luck.

[@mcdonaldsgaming3974]

Yes they do. At least where I live. When you have been in the community and gurudwara for long enough, they will start asking you if you are married or not, when you are of appropriate age for marriage. If you say no, they will ask why? Then you can tell them that you don't have parents or any family or any blood relatives. They will help you find a partner and get married. This exact thing happened to someone I know.

[@sarahsur7664]

dating to get married as 18y/o and waiting to marriage (is what im doing!) i guess dating like that is alright whereas going all the way through isn’t gonna work!

[@Neklank]

Agree with the points, except the only people to tell are parents and if they are not present (maybe deceased) then blood relatives. Friends are not the one giving away a daughter at the Gurdwara. The other important area to consider is level of spirituality and where they are on the Sikhi path compared to the other. Best way is arranged, not heard in history anywhere that a hukam was taken to check if the partner was suitable either, do BoS have any sources that reflect this practice?

[@Neklank]

After 'parents' accept the rishta is ok, then there is no harm in going to Guru Sahib to seek blessings, otherwise it is just being clever after having found ones own partner, like what happens in camps, and shamefully Gurudwaras as well.

[@kiwisloverabbits]

I think that depends in your family. Some people have family who are only Sikh by label and wouldn't help out in situations like these.

[@Neklank]

+Sasha KSK It is unlikely a Gursikh would not have Sangat they can turn to if they do not have family support.

[@kiwisloverabbits]

+Inderjit Singh I know multiple people who've made decisions for Sikhi and gone against their parents at the same time. I even know a woman who got kicked out of her house for believing in Sikhi

[@harry24n]

when u look for suitable partner for marriage and r ready to be married then u will have all the answers i know i am and i know what i want in my partner its the age that makes u wiser concentrate on goals and aims marriage is not a aim serving humanity and connecting to one is

[@terenia27]

Do you get me do you get Me do u get me

[@kikolandzik]

im not english speaker, so i could not understand what did u say in 6min [i am bad at listing in english] So how do you know the person (your husband/wife) is for you? if u do not dating, can u explain me? I mean how do u know this person is good, and that you have same mmhhh inspiration/hobby etc?, Asking a family, they can live in other century, they can have other vievs of their and our life. thanx

[@bobbobby9056]

He's basically saying that first the families will get involved, see if they're thinking/values/ outlook is compatible, then they would ask the man and woman to meet and see if they are compatible. If everything is matching then you go ahead with marriage.

[@burgerqueen1633]

Well ur gonna talk to the person so...

[@ranjeetsingh-mj3ie]

Some points are exactly true like they can live in other century.

[@rdsingh8292]

i believe in sikh gurus. and their path. i want to read history of sikhi in gurumukhi . suggest me some good books. and tell me to follow sikhi is it necessary to adopt all its conditions like 5 k... beard kada hair all??????

[@khushpalkaur1157]

start with listening guru bani

[@RunhdeepS.Sandhu]

do the research yourself.. find it..its out there.

[@lachimolala5735]

Yes, if you want to become a Gurmukh, the 5 kakaar are important :D

[@lachimolala5735]

There's an app called sikh world, it has a lot of information on sikhism, maybe it will help

[@jessejames863]

this never made sense to me. before we drive a car we go to drivers ed and take classes and learn, then we drive a car. before we get a job we go to school and college. before starting anything you first have to learn. how does this make sense that we are not allowed to date but should get married. would you tell someone that has never driven a car before to get in a car and start driving? no right. so this is why no dating in sikhi doesn't make sense to me.

[@jessejames863]

@Goose that doesn't even answer the question. stupidest response ever. the reality is i honestly dont agree with no dating in sikhi. i agree with the fact that there should be no sex before marriage but how are you supposed to understand what a woman wants if you have never been on a date before???? is a genie going to appear and teach you how to successfully manage your marriage once you are married? no right. so that is why you have to date so you can learn what woman want and how women think.

[@premsingh-yi4dg]

@@jessejames863 Guru Ji gives all answers

[@jessejames863]

@@premsingh-yi4dg guru ji gives all the answers this is true but the reality is we can't speak to guru ji like we can another human. that is why our community needs to adjust and try to make our sikh marriage system improved.

[@jessejames863]

@Mr. Duck what are you the riddler? answer the question or don't reply at all.

[@premsingh-yi4dg]

@@jessejames863 No I don't agree. Sikhi given by Guru Sahiban is timeless. Guru Sahib is superior to any one.

[@suhanikathuria7073]

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa waheguru Ji Ki fateh I was dating someone in my degree and he was my school mate and liked for many years but ask me in 2 year of college. My parents get to know and even his parents do as well and my parents liked him so much and find husband material but I went Australia to study after 6 month of dating and problems started due to long distance after 1 year when I was in Australia and now it's been 2.5 in australia for me but he asking me to leave him but he is not guy which is bad or drink. He is too much Sikhi but I dnt wana leave him wat should I do??

[@basicsofsikhi]

+suhani kathuria I understand this is an important issue for you but Sikhi teaches us to act from higher principles of Truth, Contentment, Compassion, Justice and Forgiveness. You should make your own decision after consulting your parents, his parents and him. Sorry cant do more, we are not really trying to give relationship advice to people.

[@mujikonly4tanu]

Where can i get that hoodie!?

[@gurditasingh08]

Gurfateh Jee. how do you go out look for this material when you see all as your brothers and sisters?

[@Raggamuffin23]

Jugraj paji may I ask where you got your kara from? I known it's nothing to do with the topic

[@Raggamuffin23]

The one on your right wrist I've been looking for that specific one for a long time now

[@divnoorsingh3034]

+Raggamuffin23 anandpur sahib and amritsar sahib these 2 places have all sikh articles of faith

[@Raggamuffin23]

+divnoor singh thanks very much, I've been looking around the net and can't find one that even comes close

[@Mahakaallll]

great

[@indikaursidhu]

Bikki'n'Me Love this video ~ So True ~ Been there/done that.

[@Valiantay]

This is just a social commentary on hookup culture and how it does not fit into Sikhi, which is obvious. Guru Ji tells us how to live life and that should be applied to all aspects. As such there are many people who aren't looking into dating in a hookup culture setting. To say there is "no dating" in Sikhi is not correct, Guru Ji does not say that.

[@navneetsingh8941]

Delta read Bani.Love is simply an illusion.Guru ji tells to make vaheguru your true love.All other Ioves are just attachments and dependencies

[@maninder2409]

The statement is not about dating, lust with girlfriend/wife. Its about earthly relationships on the whole.

[@Ami-kl7ky]

I have a bf he z an Amritdhari n I'm Hindu girl.we both love each other and wants to get married. Can we get married??? If yes plz tell me the ways

[@mehar134]

Why do you need society's approval to get married? If you love your bf, you should marry him. Remember sis, true love is very difficult to find these days. Lucky are those people who get it. When you will reach 40s, you will realise this. Go ahead and show middle finger to haters

[@ggtt6122]

You can't have an anand karaj but maybe another way

[@premsingh-yi4dg]

U must take on Sikhi at least follow Reht n give head to Guru Ji

[@KVG822]

@@ggtt6122 i know 2 hindu people who had an anand karaj, the gurdwara did it

[@TatKhalsa]

@@KVG822 well an anand karaj is only supposed to be between gursikhs. you dedicate your whole life to your guru. why would you make a false commitment to the guru? It doesn't make sense, just do a court marraige.

[@m6426]

Thank you

[@GS-km5yu]

❤

[@Leftistbreakfist]

Seems like at 40 with no family, I'll just stay single with this kind of judgement.

[@jagdeepkaur5039]

👍👍👍👍👍

[@summer7529]

Why marry ? Why bother with attachment, greed , lust? Marriage involves all that . When my true husband is Waheguru. Why bother with marriage ?

[@Anon-gs8tn]

Partner can facilitate spiritual growth if you guys have self awareness and genuinely trying to better yourself + you can go beyond lust in sex in marriage. The action of Sex itself is not "lust", the mind being absorbed the desire of sex is lust, sex can in fact in be a vehicle to facilitate love and bond making,

[@iBarkBite]

You can't be born knowing what your ideal person is. Dating allows people to know what they want and do not want. Dating is stepping stone for growth

[@PotentialPlayer]

he means date to marry not for the sake of a bf or gf and not trying to commit

[@matthewjones1949]

Hi, What about if you have a chronic illness like me? I have CFS (chronic fatigue syndrome) quite badly and due to exhaustion I can't work to support myself and probably can't handle having kids while ill. I am almost 28 and stuck being ill living with my parents. Am I supposed to be celibate for life? (unless I recover or if an effective treatment is developed). Any advice much appreciated, Thanks

[@SikhTranslations]

Matt Jones you should get married mate. find someone that will love, regardless of your condition. it may be hard for you to have those type of relations but I think you could have a surrogate. you shouldn't avoid marriage and stay celibate just because of your condition! God bless you with luck!

[@matthewjones1949]

Thanks for the advice! :)

[@harry24n]

r u ready ? there r people who r healthy physically but still in pain emotionally they need someone to care u can be that person r u ready to be that person? when u start living for others thats true happiness make someones life excuses is what heart looks for control it

[@rajbilla76]

Matthew Jones I highly recommend you read books on chronic pain by Dr John Sarno, Dr David Clarke and Dr Howard Scubiner, they're completely life changing books for healing. Also check out Nicole Sachs & Dan Buglio on KZbin. 🙏🏽✨

[@learningboy1400]

sir plzzzz tell me am a Sikh guy and my private part hair. are just causing problem but I dnt want to remove them what should I do

[@basicsofsikhi]

Please speak to a doctor if its a medical problem or else Sikh Helpline

[@learningboy1400]

+Basics of Sikhi sir dnt mind but I want this ans from you cause doctor told me to remove these hair because these hair cause lot of problems for me like etching. but can I remove these hair according to sikhi

[@jagjeetsinghbuttar7394]

+learning boy if you shave it. you have to keep on shaving

[@soorma01]

Mind yobiz.. stop with the gibberish. In sikhi, you dont' cut your hair at all. As long as you stay clear & take shower everyday, hair do not cause any sort of problems. They actually help the body with the friction & actually REDUCE irritation that might cause itching.

[@jagjeetsinghbuttar7394]

Mind YoBiz whats your problem?

[@gordybains249]

Can I get some advice? Is it wrong for me to be desperate for girls and use tinder etc? Even though I’m trying to focus on God and Meditation? I’m so confused all I know is that the girls make me feel sexual and all and I feel like watching that stuff. Please help I need advice! I’m 20 years old and I’m missing work and everything due to excessive lust etc!

[@Neetphysicsbymatharusir]

Try watching benefits of bhramcharya( semen retention ) videos on KZbin..... That will definitely help you...if required I can share some links here...

[@fedam8826]

relationships all are bad whether dating or marriage

[@michellebell9931]

A happy Dating leads to Happy Marriage. 31 + yrs

[@sahibjotsingh4189]

Is our life partner already fixed/destined according to sikhi?..plz i want exact gurbani lines for that

[@harminderkaur192]

Nanak satuguru tina milaya jin dhure pya sanjog 💫

[@singhonyoutube3235]

How to be part of u or like u

[@rai6373]

ok but what do you do if your family or their family doesnt care about finding you a good partener or they dont want to get involved with the selection process? and you contridicted yourself by saying you didnt say find the right one, and the said find the right one?

[@premsingh-yi4dg]

Ask giani Ji at Gurdwara Sahib

[@Bik998]

Most Parents are only scared because they feel that kids might not be serious and they will look like idiots in front of the other family.

[@aumnamashivaya4]

I earnestly carry guru Nanak in my heart and listen to his teachings ( whichever I learnt as a kid)& adore Sikhism although I am far from carrying bani/ memorising it and so on. However I think just as any dogma, philosophy, religion,one most be able to walk his/her talk. Therefore the idea of telling your significant other,my parents are going to talk to your parents for arranging our marriage really seems to make absolutely no sense at all 🤷