Be The Woman He Never Wants To Lose (Do THIS To Elevate Your Value In His Eyes!)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You can learn more about Leigha and get her free gift at leighalake.com/?wpam_id=4. You can learn more about The Feminine Art Of Dating, a 4-week course for women who want to attract lasting love here: courses.leighalake.com/courses/the-feminine-art-of-dating?ref=4d99d9 Get your PERSONAL questions answered by Leigha and tap into your highest feminine frequency in her monthly membership program: courses.leighalake.com/courses/feminine-energy-manifesting-secrets?ref=4d99d9 Check out Leigha's "Make Him Fall In Love All Over Again" eBook here: leighalake.com/make-fall-love-program/?wpam_id=4

[@brianbcpryor112]

Helena Hart : TRUNESS💗💋🏆🥊🥊!!)

[@ivy8504]

Such a potent conversation that will never be outdated! "What's best for me is best for everybody else." This is the takeaway!! Thank you Helena and Leigha!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I’m glad that resonated with you. 💞

[@phanda7877]

Great points: Determine what the empowered feminine queen wants in and from her relationship. Appropriate boundary setting is key - appropriately love and respect oneself Observe his pattern of actions as a barometer of the type of masculine energy that will show up No contact rule works - either the empowered masculine king will come forward or wounded masculine Narcissist and the empowered feminine queen can act accordingly - what’s best for her is best for everyone Valuing queen worth and queen time is the very feminine empowering position

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes!! You got it!

[@blondefire79]

I am so thankfull that we are now living in an age that allows us to access this wisdom so freely!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m grateful for that, too! 💝

[@crystalaucoin300]

Listening to this and looking back on past failed relationships makes it all make sense now! I can now recognize these “wounded energies” and stay away! It has caused so much turmoil in the past but never again! You’re the best Helena and Leah!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Crystal, I’m so glad this gave you some clarity! ❤️

[@kilikihula8864]

What's best for me is best for everyone👌🏻

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes!! 💕

[@Angela-po7cr]

thank you for explaining

[@Angela-po7cr]

I AM AN ODD DUCK, an empath to the extreme, animals love me and talk to me and trust me and i have amazing ventures with them, and alot of super things happen to me, so i have to protect myself from this world of vampires trying to hurt my life, keep the neighbor from coming over, and i am different than others, what works for others does not work for me, i live in a sensitive life of probably 10 times more feelings of extreme than the average person, i dont fit into life's box at all, there is a huge difference in me taking any medicines or the foods i eat i can tell if my body will accept things, i have intuition that i listen too, and i know that the people that lie to theirselves are not being healed but an honest person faces their life things and fix them, unlike a lier they live with lies so they cant fix themselves, a narcsissist is the worst person you never should ever have to experience, devastation and trauma, silent treatment so i am thankful i am just doing my things, i am safe and my rule always "safety first" its what brain starts with in anything.

[@kilikihula8864]

@@Angela-po7cr animals love me to. What is the reason for this?..

[@alissakirby588]

This video was incredible!!! Wow!! Totally new concepts for me, but so much clicked for me watching/ listening to you beautiful women! I'm still new to this work but I already feel stronger and more empowered to speak my boundaries and to be true to my hearts wants and needs! 💕 🌷 I can't thank you enough! What a gift from the universe that I found your channel Helena 💐

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I'm so happy to hear this resonated with you, Alissa! Keep me posted on how everything goes.

[@ajay8521]

It is a little difficult at times to focus on yourself when he is in your head. I tried to get them out of my head and turn the energy to myself but because I have a slow social life I end up thinking about him

[@KP-wv3nn]

One of the best videos you have made! So much interesting and practical advice. Really love when you give concrete examples of what to actually say to a man and do in spesific situations, so helpful 😊💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m so glad this was helpful! 💗

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

cat katta 💖💖💖

[@angelicsparkles]

Watching replay now! Glad you are talking about boundaries -this is important.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes! Here’s another video on boundaries if you’re interested in learning more: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZi3i3SAj9NkhKs

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

💕😍💕

[@Brendac549]

This is a video to be watched more than once . Amazing ! Thanks!

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

Brenda Cabrera love this. Thank you! 💕👑✨

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Brenda, thanks for watching! 💕

[@Brendac549]

Leigha Lake Coaching Love the Queen Crown ! Ha ha . Thanks Leigha!

[@joliemiranda5685]

This is one of your best videos, if not the best yet! Thank you Helena, thank you Leigha! Really appreciate all questions treated. I resonate with some of those situations. God bless you for your work, Helena 💞😘

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m so glad this resonated with you! 💕

[@ericabassi7728]

Helena I love how your programs are always gamer-proof!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Erica! 💜

[@Mrs.T305]

I've yet to meet a man who respects my boundaries. No sex...take me out on dates... reply to texts (with substance not one word msgs)....have actual conversations....want a relationship. They're doing none of these things at all and instead tell me that I'm chasing them away because my expectations are too high! I'm beyond discouraged

[@akat88]

How old are these guys? Maybe try dating some men who are a bit older. I’ve found that they don’t straighten out in this regard until they’re at least 35! Any younger and the experience is usually terrible

[@ingridsinon7133]

This is one of the best videos ever!!! Thank you 🙏

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

Ingrid Sinon thank you!! 🙏👑🌟💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Ingrid, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜

[@ActionJacquelyn]

Great video! I learned so much about myself in this video which is pretty cool. Thanks for this :) xoxo

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so glad this was helpful! ❤️

[@0xox19]

I loved this video so much! It gave me so much insight about myself. So grateful for all the valuable information you two provided!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Joceline, I’m so glad it was helpful! 💕

[@dionnecarter3008]

I will listen to my heart and keep him

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

We'd love to hear how this goes for you, Dionne!

[@cherchelafemme8814]

I've had this saved in the past. But this morning it's hitting me in ways I didn't realise I needed it to hit. Xxx

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I'm happy to hear that this is resonating in new ways for you!

[@lisadavie5282]

I come back to this video for incredibly powerful messages!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad it was helpful for you, Lisa! Here’s the latest livestream I did with Leigha if you’d like to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rmncfJSNg8mkbck

[@QueenBOOO0o]

Omg! This video has been on repeat for me ♡ I can't afford classes but I'm truly grateful for this info.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so glad this was helpful! 💕

[@QueenBOOO0o]

It's a life changing experience for me. Hopefully the changes in my energy's I learned to make will begin to make changes I need in my life.

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

Love hearing this!

[@ciggytwiggy]

oh i learned so much, and it actually aligns so much with the law of attraction! thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️ Here’s the latest livestream I did with Leigha if anyone would like to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rmncfJSNg8mkbck

[@dellchica2373]

Whats best for you is best for everyone else.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I'm glad that resonated with you!

[@DeliciaTrini]

Most powerful video yet! Thank you Beautiful ladies!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome, I'm glad you enjoyed it!

[@Coreannaaa]

Great video. So spot on with my life right now💗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m glad this resonated! 💕

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

gabriellecoreanna 💕💕💕

[@melanielammers1783]

This was an amazing segment. Do you have one that just defines the masculine and feminine energies in men and women? Wounded vs Empowered? What they both look like in both men and women?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜 This article I wrote should be helpful: helenahartcoaching.com/how-to-heal-your-maculine-and-feminine-energies-so-you-can-finally-have-the-love-you-want/

[@awoman6204]

Incredible info!!! Thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome!

[@rashida7777]

I got a girl-crush on Leigha. She's so...beautiful and classy.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Leigha is amazing! I just recorded a new video with her that I'll be posting soon.

[@rashida7777]

@@HelenaHartCoaching 💙.

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

She was a great guest 🙂

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Leigha is awesome! Here’s the latest livestream I did with her if anyone would like to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rmncfJSNg8mkbck

[@jolieinphilly8983]

SOOOOO good! I'm taking notes

[@karenkayanja6188]

Missed it

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Jolie! 💖

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

Jolie in Philly love this! 💕🌺🌟👑

[@namelessme1]

What a great video! Thank you ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

namelessme1 🙏❤️✨

[@samirasmith7567]

This was AMAZING!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Samira!

[@1DNETTA]

Great information in this video💯!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💕

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

1DNETTA 🙏❤️✨

[@kimgordon3695]

ThankYou Ladies 💝💝

[@kimgordon3695]

Wounded vs Empowered ...

[@kimgordon3695]

"ComeOnUp"

[@kimgordon3695]

Is He the Man I need Him to be to live in My world¿🌐

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome, Kim!

[@lindsaytrail1840]

How do you heal wounded feminine and masculine energy? Do you recommend any books?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Lindsay, Leigha and I talk about about this extensively in our program, “The Art Of Getting The Commitment You Want”: helenahartcoaching.com/the-art-of-getting-the-commitment-you-want/ I’ll keep this topic in mind for future videos too!

[@spd6058]

Ladies, Invaluable information. Two questions: what is “raising your vibration “? And, could you explain ones “wounded energy with boundaries” looks like (and how to get out of)? Thank you

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

sherry dansbury great questions! The wounded feminine lacks boundaries and the wounded masculine has boundaries that lack compassion. I just wrote a newsletter about raising your vibration. If you want it, I can forward it to you. Just email me at [e-mail] to say you’d like to revive the newsletter. 💕💕

[@jaclynb4275]

Wow, definitely dealt with a wound feminine energy guy before. Completely cut him off for 2 years but then he tried to come back. Hard when there was always an amazing connection, so much in common, & great chemistry. Kinda looking like he’ll always be stuck in his wounded feminine. 😞

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes - unless he came back with a concrete plan as to how things would be different this time around, it will likely slip back into the same dynamic as before (especially once he feels that he “has” you). That’s why it’s so important to become aware of this pattern! 💜

[@somayej5177]

It was really good. Thank you

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome!

[@daniellem578]

This was good thank you

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@sharonraquel2669]

Incredible video! I'm not even halfway through it yet. A few things you mentioned made me wonder if online dating is too much of a "masculine energy" venture. Hmmmm....🤔

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

It all depends on the energy a person is embodying. Shining your light and being visible = empowered energies. Hoping to be seen, needing attention, feeling frustrated and hopeless, bitter and not having fun with the process = wounded energies. Online dating is simply a tool... and a great way to heal and practice energy mastery. Hope that helps. 💗🌺👑

[@sharonraquel2669]

@@leighalakecoaching9085 Oh my goodness! Thank you so much for replying, Leigha.😁🙌🏽I absolutely LOVE listening to your wisdom! I get what you're saying...I have to check my energy. Going to take a break from online dating though. I met what I considered to be a high-quality, masculine-energy man online. Things looked good. He was coming forward, but he could only invest limited time in a relationship and he said so. He was just shy of 2 years out of a divorce too. Thank you again!💛🙏🏽

[@malaragnauth9093]

Amazing video....!!

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

Mala Ragnauth so glad you loved it!! 💕🌟👑

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Mala! 💝

[@denigrif3]

Great video..where did the time go?? just one thing..No one said anything about when your man asks you for a date the next day or asks to get together but not giving you much time..I would love to ask her this and what the rule on this is if she has one? Sometimes I feel fine about being spontaneous but later regret it by feeling badly..but sometimes it doesn't phase me.???

[@leighalakecoaching9085]

menieres-free thank you. 🙏💎 This has everything to do with your level of trust and confidence in yourself to say “yes” or “no” to what feels good to you. Every situation is different. Lean into trusting that you make good decisions and listen to your body. You can also let your man know how much you love it when you have scheduled plans and plenty of notice. End of story. Then your job is to value your feelings/desires so he can value them. Whether it’s “yes” or “no”.👑💖🌟💎

[@anntv4654]

Hi Helena. We are not yet in a relationship. We're just friends.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Analita, thanks for watching! 💕

[@nunnallyai]

I love ❤️ this

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed this!

[@patriciabrown8660]

What if I have moved on from a past relationship and I’m having a good time with other dates but still thinking about my ex most of the time. This is very frustrating.🤔

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

How long has it been since you've moved on?

[@Jennifer-di4nl]

I put myself on hold for a guy who claims he has depression. My patients is wearing thin.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Jennifer. These videos might be helpful for your situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mJyzgHywh9GgoK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/iamXpad7gLp_has and kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZqPQpqagoK1gopI.

[@PhuongNguyen-uj7se]

thank you so much for this valuable information! so i'm dating a guy for over a month, he said he likes me and i can see that in his actions. he stated that he's not a phone call person and prefers texting and texts me everyday and wants to meet me often. i love that he texts me but i'd appreciate some phone calls here and then. what should i do in this situation? thanks x

[@ypham2453]

Don't respond to his texts so fast. Be busy, not checking your phone often except in early AM, lunch , or past dinner time. Get busy w your life so you are naturally busy ( so you are not projecting a "playing games" vibe). Don't respond to all of his texts. If it's something stupid, chitchatting texts it's ok to ignore. You can just delete that text too. Buy India Kang's books!!!

[@prjdghyt]

I've been talking to a guy who also prefers texting over calling. We're both introverts so it's perfectly fine with me. What I do is, I call him at random times to surprise him, or I ask him if he's busy or not before calling. 😂 I actually do that to annoy him because I'm always making fun of him. He appreciates me calling him. Though we text a lot, I do have days where I don't want to talk because I need to have some time for myself. Like 2 days of no texting. And then I call him before sleeping. Just to check up on him and to hear his voice. But then, there are other times, that I ask him to call me. 😂 I know it seems weird. He always does call me, quickly, and doesn't even complain why I ask him to call instead of me calling him. And there are very few times that he does want to call. And those times are when we are talking about something important like disagreements or misunderstandings. Or when he's drunk, he drunk dials me. 😂😂😂

[@PhuongNguyen-uj7se]

@@prjdghyt hey thanks for replying! Wow i didn't even remember writing this comment haha 🤣 so the guy i was talking about is my bf now and we've been together for almost 2 years today. Looking back at this, i realized that he truly doesnt like calling or even texting! We've been in quarantine together and i observe that he even forgets to reply his friends most of the time as he's too focused on work, and only calls his family on the phone. That just makes me appreciate how much he progressed and made lots of efforts in calling me and keeping in touch while we had to do long distance for a short while. Anw, hope everything goes well with you and your guy! X

[@patriciabrown8660]

What can help the man get into the empowered masculine energy.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video would be a good place to start: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ep25q4aldtR2i9k

[@Amalhirad320]

I like u video great

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Amal!

[@Amalhirad320]

Helena Hart hi helena I have relationship outside the country almost one year and half sometimes his acting cold and silent when I asked him his not giving me any answer what I can do plz explain me I’m here USA 🇺🇸 thanks 🙏

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hmG2oqKcl955gZo I also answer personal questions every week in The Goddess Club if you'd like some personalized help with your situation: feminineenchantment.com/

[@shayleenwebb4021]

Gold🥰🤗😊💗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Shayleen!

[@janesullivan5241]

HELLO MY MAN WHO I WAS ENGAGED WITH JUST BROKE OFF WITH ME SAYING I AM NOT ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH

[@wendystjulien1957]

Jane Sullivan What the what? Seriously, did he not notice what you looked like before now? This is a guy taking the shitty way out and attacking you so he doesn’t have to talk about whatever was the real problem. Sorry for your loss, I know it sucks but it will get better.

[@kayleighm7856]

Screw him. You deserve better!

[@apples-girl9210]

NOTHING more unromantic than online dating! Stay away folks!

[@rashida7777]

it's gotten worse. A meat market

[@Angela-po7cr]

@@rashida7777 my guy was always lieing about being dating sites and asking to meet them he said he loved me and wanted to live here and marry me, but he had nothing to do with me and ghosted me and i had to see online what he was saying and he was backstabbing me with every single person he talked to, his x wife and her boyfriend they all teamed up against me, and i still have no support, its me myself and I. he got mad that i looked on his facebook when he left the room but i explained if you didnt say you love me and wanted to marry me and get your name on my house but never acted like i was anything at all, and just a user he was, very sick man, i felt he could poison me as he said a friend of his put chemicals in his girl friends food and she slowly died of cancer, he has a friend bi-polar who sabotoshed the relationship and when i stopped by their place one time, he was into and running around a young girl saying oh she has a husband who is disabled, more lies. and the room mate girl said they were a thing and that she is up their in his room in the attic of the garage while the 8 year old runs around the yard at dark. he wasnt into sex at all, abused by his sister and tamed down that area by his mother, and his parents bought him and never spent time with him, his dad taught him to lie to the mom cause he was cheating on her with a younger woman so he was told to lie and did and still does in his 50's and thinks he does no wrong and i am to blame for everything, he tryed to say i am crazy gaslighting saying i never said things that i repeated it 5 times as i was used to him degrading me as a human by pretending he didnt know what i said and he would not do what i wanted at my house that i responsible for and just tryed changing things that had been for a purpose and needed to be left alone, syphoning my gas for himself to leave, oh he sucked so bad, thankyou friend of his for relieving me from that piece of xxxx

[@rashida7777]

@@Angela-po7cr GF sounds like you're still hurting. Consider speaking with a counselor. This may be beyond coaching.

[@Angela-po7cr]

@@rashida7777 well when i couldnt get a response i cryed everyday, the reason it still effects me now cause i am over him completely and never again, not interested and i am fine now, it effects me now cause he lied 4 months stalling was gonna move in and lied and made excuses, that was quite a ways back, but i live in the country and it took 4 hours to walk home from forest grove to gaston ore cherry grove, it effects that i have to walk or gain a ride from a neighbor (i only want to use them for extreme emergency's_it effects me cause the Narcsissist wants me to be in foreclosure, and he gave me a ride home after asking him to fix my truck and he cut the hose with a knife and broke off the pcv value on top of the heads, cant be driven the part that he left in is now inside the engine so i cant even start it without damaging it, i can fix it with the right tools, and time is needed amoung my million things on my honey do self list, the truck he promised to come back in an hour or hour and a half and he never came back like he said and he said he had the part, 1.99 part, never has talked to me since and i do not like him at all, no tears here the after math is my truck is needed for a job, so my making homemade Barbie size furniture which is my thing i have done for years and sell on ebay, he made it so i lost my job, i know other mechanics and they failed to come also, one charged 40. just to screw on the oil filter when i asked them to bring the oil filter and the oil and i would have the money, so i ordered the part oil filter sent to me and a 95 year old did the work for me. best guy i guess of em all, no i actually ok, i am thankful for you supporting me and understanding i have been through alot of pain, i have only the pain of now making money on ebay with all the neat things i have, discipline and actually doing it, i spend alot of time on rally roots, you would love those guys and relationship stuff, i am my own counselor that is why i am on your site too because i found that a police officer is interested in me, and that is why i want to do everything right if he comes back around after i had to call the police on a guy who would not leave and kept coming after me to hurt me and mental abuse constant calling me a Moran, drunk i found more bottles of alcohol empty under my bed when he left, they handcuffed him as he chased me to the front door i grabbed the phone knowing i would need it, when he locked me out i called 911, the officer says hey are the animal person i said yes and when he came we talked and he was like a magnet to me and he said angela do you know who i am? i said no, he said the green truck is mine, i said oh yeah, cause i was trying to feed my baby birdies..tall bird house i was trying to get some food bread up on their porch really high on top of my front fence, i was laughing and kept trying as he drove by, i see a green truck swirving watching me, and that was the first time i met him on the day the police came 3 officers, one the wild life guy cause a fox or wolf has been eating ducks and left my indian runner male standing there at 2-3 am with his throat totally exsposed and i brought him in the house, so two police officers in my bedroom getting the drunk out, i do not like drunks, abusive sickening, he was kicked out of his moms house, i had seen him for 3 months on weekends on facebook a local guy, says i have had him on facebook 3 years, wow, they handcuffed the fool and i have court in march, he does not effect me, just glad i have my piece, the 4 hour walk i was sore for 4 days feet, hips behind calves all very painful. long walk applied to fox lumber on my way home, handmade resume, would have to ride a bike about 3-4 miles. doing ebay and gonna win this, i keep in contact with mortgage company after my sister bounced a check i told her to do money order as i had worked for her, i sold 5000 christmas trees for brother in law and sister for them to screw me over and that was my 3 rd of 4 months trial modification to see that i could do 600 by myself. that is my house payment, life is stressful right now for me, my computer has been hacked and doesnt do what i want it to, multiple people could be doing it, but i am safe, all is well, i just wanted to tell you why i am in the shape i am, and i feel that i could do the car work to fix it, but you tube videos here i come, right now making money is my gig, the officer said be good and do nothing wrong, and that the judge would be investigating everything about me and see what i do, most victims go back to the abusive lover, that is not me at all, i will not, the officer is waiting until this is over in one month and he said we'll see, he was swerving because he was attracted to me and things i am adorable, his magnet self was very very enlightening and exciting i could feel extreme really extreme literally coming from his right check and its like a brushing together check to check sensation of loving and spirits or engergy colliding together and very very very super energy of sweet loving magnet, amazing, so i want to see him again and see what this is and he found me, he knew me before i knew him, that is when i found out the swerving truck was actually a police officer going to work who likes me, i am now letting it go and if he comes around i hope to be house wise ready and financially ready and personally a healthy mind to share a friendship that i could get to know him, quite exciting as the bad boys are not like he is, saying do good do nothing wrong, so cute love it, he is fine

[@angelag2662]

I could care if he does not get back to me. Have a ton of options 🤣

[@sudasherel]

wounded feminine male .....ewwwwwww! lol

[@kylieking8163]

I love leigha but i want anya back

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

They are both so amazing! Anya and I will be doing a livestream within the next day or two, we’ll also be releasing our Feminine Empowerment System videos soon!

[@mandihall1986]

We were together for 19 yrs and have 4 kids. We are 47 yr old. We divorced September 2018. Now we have been co parenting since then and having sex with each other since this June. I feel like I have been dating my ex husband without a commitment. We aren’t dating anyone else. He wants sex with me, as do I but nothing in between sex and co parenting. He said last night he doesn’t know what he wants and says we are in a weird space. What do you think? So I have to stop chasing him. I want him to fight to win me back. How will he though because I work 2 jobs and still can’t afford all my bills. I’m considering moving into a smaller/cheaper apartment. I have done the self transformation over the last year. I lost the 85 lbs I needed to lose. I am working again, not a stay at home mom. I understand this a process. I do have to shift my focus away from him just becAuse I want he and I and our 4 kids back together. All 4 of my children have had a hard time with this divorce.

[@elisabethjean]

I'm sorry for your hurt!! It sounds like you have worked on yourself a lot, you deserve love. Give him space to chase you and see what comes of it. It's hard to do when you love someone, but there's nothing you can do to force someone to step up to the plate

[@thezeeyez7151]

Hi, you sound as if you are still very invested and he is in only as a comfort or crutch. It's got to be a difficult space to be in. You've got to pull away, be cordial but nothing more. You are giving him everything he had in the marriage but he also gets to leave and get a break. He's feeling empowered because he can feel your panic and may regard it as desperation. It hurts, but create boundaries. Don't sleep with him, you're still understandably emotionally attached to him. Don't let your vulnerability make you abandon all of your dignity. As Leigha said, men who are masculine empowered know what they want. If he isn't persuing you, he's not worthy of anymore of your time and space. At 47, you still have great options and expectations to set for your future happiness. Don't sell yourself short. There's a good man out there who will treasure you and also model for your children exactly what love and appreciation looks like towards their mom. Let him go. Breathe ..... God can't replace your ex-husband if you haven't made room for someone new. Praying for your strength, courage and joy. 💗🌺😊🙏🏻 Blessings #BetterDaysAhead 🌞😎💎

[@prjdghyt]

I've been in a long term relationship where we broke up and my ex still like having sex with me. Don't do it. It's the worst thing you could do for yourself. Men could have sex with any woman even without love. You could coparent since your divorce doesn't mean he's not a father anymore. But don't let him get everything he wants from you. He can't realize what he really wants because you still give him everything. Try not to flirt with him. And avoid sex. Just talk to him about important things like his responsibilities to your family. Just so he could see what it's really like to lose you.