Never Chase Him. Do These 5 Things Instead (He Will Pursue And Invest In You!)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Here's where you can learn more about Matthew's program, The Forever Woman, and get it while it's still being offered for FREE to my community (you’ll also get your personal questions answered by our coaches when you join!): forever1234.com/ Learn more about Matthew's Long Distance Allure program here: helenahart--mcoast.thrivecart.com/long-distance-allure/

[@angelabowersox4021]

What’s the FB Group you referenced??

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

@@angelabowersox4021 It’s called “Relationship Advice For Women - The Goddess Community.” You can search for it and join on Facebook. 💞

[@johannaj3961]

Smart women know that mixed signals means no. In other words if he’s hot and then cold and then comes back around, you are not his first option. And ladies you should never be an option.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, I talked more about that in these videos: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mn3NZJKqptl2o9Esi=kWx3uX2BU6PZS2ji and kzbin.info/www/bejne/iIvHfZJjlNZlnJYsi=fpqsOAsFi08m9BJW.

[@lilianakeya9868]

True 😊

[@Stelitas]

That’s exactly what I was doing -investing too much in my previous relationship , taking care of him , making surprises for him … I honestly thought he would follow my example and start doing the same for me . But he didn’t . “I’m different “ , he used to say , “not so emotional as you are . Should I make myself do all these romantic things for you ? It’s hard to change myself in my late forties …” After 5 months ( three of which I lived with him at his place ) I broke up with the man , but I learnt my lesson : don’t be too good for smb , don’t try too much , because some men don’t love kind-hearted and nice women , they prefer cold and unattainable ones … Stupidly, I deprived him of the necessary “hunting “. I was too easy to conquer . As a result , he stopped pleasing me . Really , why should he have bothered to do that if his “prey” was already in his hands , willingly cooking delicious meals and always ready to have sex with him ?😂

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many people can relate. 💞

[@1corinthians139]

I did the first part- showing love, surprising, caring and he said the similar that he’s not emotional and doesn’t feel! I should have headed in the other direction sooner, the pain can be unbearable.

[@Stelitas]

@@1corinthians139 I do hope you have found enough courage and strength in yourself to leave the emotional infant !

[@livwithnewinsight]

The right man will appreciate and reciprocate for sure. 💯

[@Stelitas]

@@livwithnewinsight I do hope so

[@SuzannePoschet]

For me faith is my center, if I feel I’m putting a man before my spiritual relationship with God and he’s taking the place of God and my relationship with God, then I need to refocus my attention, my mind, body, soul and spirit to my relationship with God and how much God loves me.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing! 💞

[@mandolaa]

Wow, I love your words, thanks for sharing

[@anjapeters9690]

🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@marilynworton7458]

Very intelligent

[@rietterust9874]

This discussion changed my life. Sending love from South Africa.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that, thanks for sharing! ❤️ The latest video I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=Q6wwSY6aA8ZZzF8m

[@karolinah12]

Find the sweet spot ,flirt and focus mainly on your life but let him know you are interested in a non needy way. Use kind, secure communication even when he is hot and cold ❤🙏🏼

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💞

[@amyroseabdul9059]

Wow thanks for this advice

[@Portia620]

I don’t chase anyone anymore! I will be a supporter and do things but I’m NOT chasing! I’m the prize! 🏆 if they let me go their loss! Im loyal and faithful and a very loving person. I’m also fun and funny! I have intellect and in shape and looking for class! I have man brain sadly! 😂🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing! 💖

[@CadePlaisance]

That completely went over your head, and you fumbled the wisdom.

[@ayisha1978]

Whoa, create positive association by asking him questions about what he likes and is interested in.....BRILLIANT! Thank you for that awesome tip!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=bN9j09aij247LVBq and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=ashn7rZ8Vu6UJAeg.

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

So helpful ❤ I actually don’t even want a man to ‘chase’ me, as because of my history of trauma with men it can freak me out if he’s too intense. But adequate and appropriate effort that feels healthy and balanced for sure! ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this was helpful! 💜

[@shreyashelat4623]

Helena and Mathew are spot on heart to heart is not something you can do there has to be a resonating with who each other is you have to have that click connection etc. ❤❤❤❤❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=TytwjyIRJ7Uthj5_ and kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYqZpmN5a9Jgprssi=1g_XErP-Tv9gTvDQ.

[@Ida-Adriana]

I inadvertently did this with my partner of a decade because of an illness, I can’t cater to him so he caters to me, I’m completely surprised he is still with me because I really do pretty much nothing for him except exist and ‘grace him with my presence’ 👹😅

[@angelm6497]

If you love someone you will look after them with their illness. But it needs to be reciprocal in some way. The breaking point in my last relationship was after years of catering to him, building his career while I lost my own looking after him and my son, when I was ill and the money stopped coming in, he turned. My illness was a nuisance to him. Fortunately, I never gave up my independence, but he left me in a mess financially.

[@Ida-Adriana]

@@angelm6497 I’m sorry you went through that, how unfair of him, I’m glad you kept your independence, I wish I knew how, mental illness and adhd/autism (which im trying to get treatment but uk healthcare is absurd, been on waiting list for over 1 year) make it such a struggle, the most basic things become overwhelming sometimes

[@mgee303]

I really like that perspective, focus on the relationship, not the guy.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞

[@veghzsofia1851]

I really enjoyed this conversation - my favorite of the recent ones. And Matt is so down to earth - great video - thank you to both of you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matt might also be helpful: kzbin.info8jedv4qXtLA?feature=share, kzbin.infojy4jTHVdxgg?feature=share, kzbin.info_Rm3bi1DNT8?feature=share and kzbin.info7z3EDvRBnV4?feature=share.

[@huongHoang-v8k]

thank you guys ! really appreciate you both❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 🩷 The last video I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=3GN5zw7jelfxrqon

[@sunshineonmyshouldersmakes8331]

Really good video and explained a difficult to understand topic so well! Appreciate you both!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 🩷 My latest video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bKnQpJqFmNCiepY

[@falliseerock7734]

The total opposite thought happened to me the first 20 seconds of this video like a light bulb went off thank you so much

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=GoTx7vnYtZxflD3P and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=yGXwR3RCqsGY8klL.

[@candicelondon-hessert8723]

Amazing mindset shift! 💡💡💡

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this resonated with you! 💜 Here’s a link to the latest video I published with Matthew if anyone would like to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=Bs7iZicCI1u415-7

[@renoaczhary1232]

I love matt coast coaching

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, Matt gives great advice! These videos I recorded with him might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=WTeVxkv-fixjdX0A and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=j6IJV-CT-gmCmB6P.

[@Portia620]

I’m such in an awesome place! I have no attachment at all! I am looking to see who a person is and yes they may kiss good or make me feel good but feelings are deceitful and can mislead us. Get to know who they are on a deep level. Time means nothing as I was married to a stranger! Before you sleep with them get to know their parents and them!!!! Logic over love at least that’s the plan! 😂

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💞

[@BeeRejuvenatedStudio]

This is fantastic and clear advice! Sometimes tho, it’s about the opposite outcome where the man is coming on too strong, too fast trying to push and force things along without really including you in the dynamic right out the gate or even after you’ve expressed how you feel and it becomes clear that this man is out to meet his own needs without looking out for the well-being of both of you, what you’re comfortable with, considering how you feel, including you in decisions in plans etc. The man may appear to be crazy about you but his intentions and reasons may be for his own gain solely and this is what we have to be able to discern quickly. Often times women can be thrown off by this thinking that the man is doing all the right things and wanting to move things forward. What can appear to be the man taking on a masculine role actively making plans, calling you, seeing you etc., with the wrong man, can be stemming from a very insecure attachment where this man is looking to control everything, making all the decisions about where you’re going what you’re doing without including you in the dynamic of whether you want to do something or can do some thing. Maybe even showing up unexpectedly multiple times thinking that they’re surprising you or even bringing you gifts in these surprise visits with the idea the gift overrides the disregard of whether your home (or your kids) are home, and if you’re not home and your kid answers the door and the guy is offended that you’re not there and thinks the “joke is on him”. I’m talking in the very early stages of dating, maybe having only been on two or three dates. Yes I’ve actually had this happen! Thankfully I could see this early on and move on. The oddest thing was even after I let him know this wasn’t feeling right and would be moving on he continued to pursue me only to text me that the plans I had with my family and errands I had to do were things that don’t really feel like someone who is interested in him so “see ya around hun” was his text reply in an effort to flip the script and feel like he ended it.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Michelle! 💜 This video might be helpful for anyone who needs help catching those red flags right away and discerning the difference: kzbin.infok8VC2kt7pZE?feature=share

[@Portia620]

Never let a man know where you live until you get him out for this love bombing behavior! Boundaries are being crossed and wow!

[@ilianacastaneda5133]

Consisten reliable dependable. Key words 🎉

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, absolutely! 💞 These recent episodes I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=JB8L3fThiFUFrl5G and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=k2KUrXofmTBu1rnL.

[@elsefallado]

Thank you so much, i am learning...❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 🩷 Here’s the latest episode I recorded with Matthew if anyone would like to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=2_KVUW2o0Od_Q2es

[@angelm6497]

I realised at a very young age, love was like a mental illness. It can make you do and put up with things that you wouldn't do or take from anyone else. Apparently someone wrote this phrase down a long time ago, but it was a realisation for me, then surprised to hear it had already been documented. Can't remember who said it.

[@frankG335]

Can't understand this.

[@angelm6497]

@@frankG335 yeah, sorry I just amended the typos. I need to stop trying to comment without my glasses on!

[@gitanjalinandan]

Words of wisdom!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💜

[@rebeccagarcia1332]

Great video.. I have tried to keep myself busy and concentrate on me but for some reason I keep thinking about him.. it’s not like I haven’t focused deeply on myself before but for some reason I’d like to know why I can’t stop thinking of him.. Any advise?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Rebecca! It may just take some time, it’s important to be gentle and easy on yourself around this. These videos might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y3qtco2XjLqfg9k, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZu7ipeDbpWVibc and kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y4SoaXWmZ9OCfKs.

[@rebeccagarcia1332]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you.. I will do my best!! ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️

[@tourdfrance9263]

Hi hi to both of you🤚👋🤚👋plus à thx, hug and love to both of you🤓🙏🙏🙏

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! ❤️

[@bimbumbam1741]

Very good advises ❤👍

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 🩷 This video I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info8jedv4qXtLA?si=vmEYhP9xIZqDXZy5

[@veraokoyealor7112]

Thank you for this great video

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matt might also be helpful: kzbin.info8jedv4qXtLA?feature=share, kzbin.infojy4jTHVdxgg?feature=share, kzbin.info_Rm3bi1DNT8?feature=share and kzbin.info7z3EDvRBnV4?feature=share.

[@CeciliaSeroke-ud8rb]

I agree and believe that this is going to work for me

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing! 💜 Here’s a link to the latest episode I recorded with Matthew if anyone would like to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=_2NPUQ2BkJmM9fXJ

[@deniseanderson367]

Taking notes!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=jPa2u530Y_Yio8s6 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=2UMvVZA-cUPlmQki.

[@rosaliafeal671]

❤Sweetly.....and Sweeter ❤

[@AngelAnge1]

Maybe I need to join the community 😅

[@lyndaberryment6735]

Great Advice!😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Lynda! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matt might also be helpful: kzbin.info8jedv4qXtLA?feature=share, kzbin.infojy4jTHVdxgg?feature=share, kzbin.info_Rm3bi1DNT8?feature=share and kzbin.info7z3EDvRBnV4?feature=share.

[@geetikaarora5246]

This was super helpful

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These recent episodes I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=JB8L3fThiFUFrl5G and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=k2KUrXofmTBu1rnL.

[@geetikaarora5246]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you for taking the time to reply back. Please know that your efforts help us all! Thank you

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You are welcome! I’m happy to hear that. ❤️

[@audreysteinmeyer8032]

My bf broke up with me recently, accusing me of being ungrateful for all the things he has done for me. He then proceeded to tell me I am a failure and that I am just like all the other women on online dating websites

[@Alba-v9y]

What about if both of you are in a distance, second you censed that he is playing with another woman and you tell him and he doesn’t respond, that should be dropped and discarded he is just playing with your feelings it really hurts but we must keep going it happened to and I had the chance to tell him I’m not going to play this game and I m withdrawn from this, and I did.

[@theresarubino5556]

Cant find the description that you keep talking about. Thank you you guys are very educated. I appreciate everything you said today.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 If you click on the title of the video it opens up the description. The free offer Matthew talked about is no longer available since this video is a year old, but here's where you can get free access to his new Masterclass, "The 4 Steps Guaranteed To Attract Your Forever Man": ⁠helenahart--mcoast.thrivecart.com/sas-fam/

[@ginasky9004]

Thank you for sharing such an amazing video

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=kj2O3f82PmIkC1aB and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=w-DagK6CyNe00eio.

[@SelenaRomero-s5m]

So I have to try to not contact him too much once every now and then reach out to him. I should give him a chance to reach out to me. I got to develop a connection with him when I'm with him and have fun with him. Have a kind secure conversation with him.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=WTeVxkv-fixjdX0A and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=j6IJV-CT-gmCmB6P.

[@4d.4c.4b4]

13:58 14:02, exactly what I did telling him all that, and the moment I sent it's almost like I knew I did it wrong as his reply was that he's not the right person for me at the moment, that he needs to sort himself out and he wishes me well that, etc. All I want to do is try to apologise and maybe go back to how things were but trying to practise this no contact and just leave him alone which is really hard.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

While I don’t know the details of your situation, this video might be helpful if you’re in “no contact“ right now: kzbin.infoEFjOGdW_c60?si=h_nLTW9dn01J3F41

[@marcimorgan1369]

So helpful ❤thank you

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I’m glad it helped. 💗

[@beverlygarcia6475]

What do you do when a guy feels that you have to always text and call them and they just sit there and don't even try to touch bases with you or text you or anything they just want you to do everything

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Personally, I would move on. 💜

[@queenconscious2989]

So good!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💕

[@teenafrench7236]

Hi Helena, hope you and the family are well. I love Matt's advice, I've saved this to a watch list to watch over again😅 I'm hoping to catch up with you in August for some private coaching if you think you might still have Fridays available. I might sign up to Matt's course too. I have several of his books as well 😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed this! Feel free to send an email to [e-mail] when you’re ready, and if I don’t have any availability then I can refer you to a coach who specializes in what you’re looking for. ❤️

[@DanyaThomas]

Awesome put yr passion & energy on yr self Ask him questions from yr heart Great!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=bN9j09aij247LVBq and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=ashn7rZ8Vu6UJAeg.

[@MssM38]

Ok,but what if you feel that you are mostly the one that initiates a conversation when a few days passed. When you write to him, he even says you make him smile, he seems like enjoying to have conversations with you, you flirt, you share , you laugh but then when you decide to give space and see if he takes the initiative to text you first, he just doesn’t . Weeks could pass and he just doesn’t even dare to text you first.. what would we , as women do? Because in a subtle way you end up feeling that you are the chaser.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Is this a man that you’re dating and seeing regularly? In my opinion and experience, a man who’s truly interested isn’t going to let weeks go by without talking to you. 💜

[@frankG335]

That means he's not that into you.

[@cup_o_TMarie]

I have been there so I know how bad this can feel. Sadly dear it’s not subtle, you did become the chaser & he knew you would so he didn’t try. But most men aren’t going to fully reject you because their ego likes the idea of having you as an option when he needs an ego boost. Men circling the block to come back to connect with you doesn’t necessarily mean that he has great intentions with you & that was a hard lesson for me. The unhealthy men often come back because they love the benefits they’re receiving even if you’re not sleeping with him. It can be simply your feminine energy & emotional support. The unhealthy men aren’t into the essence of you as much as what they are getting from you so you’ll see that in their actions or lack thereof. You’ll know when a man is cherishing you vs desiring you. You’ll know if he shows up consistently vs intermittently. It’s honestly mostly in his actions over his words. Take care 🤍

[@lindabanes3434]

I'm interested to join your community

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

The Facebook group is called, “Relationship Advice For Women - The Goddess Community” if you’d like to search for it on there. 💞

[@anamikasingh4541]

Really helpful❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m glad it helped! 💕

[@Callie0818]

Do either of you do personal coaching and where's the link?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If you're interested in private coaching, you can send an email with a few details about your situation to [e-mail], and my assistant will get back to you with some options. If I'm not personally able to help you, I know many coaches that I'd be happy to refer you to if they specialize in your situation. You can learn more about Matthew's coaching program in his free Masterclass, "The 4 Steps Guaranteed To Attract Your Forever Man" here: ⁠helenahart--mcoast.thrivecart.com/sas-fam/

[@margaretahogberg6869]

It's so strange how great they seem to be when the relationship is ended, 😢 I guess Its only the good things I remember,not all time Ive been hurted 👍💖💖💖, im not at all sure now, you if I should write him or not

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, I’ve interviewed a breakup recovery expert a few times and she calls this the “mental highlight reel.” This episode I recorded with her might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qnSWeHuqhdCtf6s

[@sammcintyre6976]

Thanks!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️ These videos I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=bN9j09aij247LVBq and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=ashn7rZ8Vu6UJAeg.

[@heatherberesheim7428]

What is the facebook name for the goddess? I looked and could not find it. Thank you

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

It’s now called, “Relationship Advice For Women - The Goddess Community.” 💜

[@lzol2456]

I couldn't find the goddess community on Facebook. There are similar groups that come up when I search.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I believe the name of the group has been changed to “Relationship Advice For Women - The Goddess Community.” 💞

[@romanahatfield-jo6bo]

Please need your program

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Here’s where you can learn more about it: forever1234.com/

[@jenniferrowley6712]

So if I leaned in too much and he asked for space so I am in no contact to give him his space, do they ever really come back?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💜 While every situation is different, these videos might be helpful: kzbin.infoEFjOGdW_c60?si=zJiFmtshq4HWDUE6 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/jHbOq2CFiLt3mNEsi=tG0HB3GUGciu6SPN.

[@Cissy-u1p]

I’m there

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💜

[@rinanuryani]

If my husband blocks me how to reach out

[@haileynichelle8343]

If he hasn't initiated contact in over a year, how do you communicate with him about that? I tried to let go of him because he was letting me put it all the effort in initiating, but I still struggle with lingering feelings. I don't want to cut him off entirely or have a big fight. I finally broke the silence last week after all this time and texted him with "Hey stranger, it's been a long time since I've heard from you. I thought I would check in and see how you're doing. 🙂" He didn't text back for 2 days, and then texted me after midnight to ask how I was doing and "I miss you so much!". I was asleep when he sent it, and then I was busy with work, so it was several hours before I responded. I was so happy to hear that he missed me that I texted back that missed him too and told him about my life, completely overlooking that he never apologized or really addressed the distance. And then he took another 2 days to respond. We have never kissed or even dated, there was just deep attraction and daily hugs from him before he moved out of state. Maybe he was never really into me in the first place...

[@helenlovell8587]

He’s breadcrumbing you hun. Stop texting him and let him chase you & if he doesn’t then time to move on and meet someone more responsive and suitable for you 🙏

[@Imawhiteboard]

hes just not into you it's pretty obvious SOrry :(

[@sunshineonmyshouldersmakes8331]

Just no. Your worth alot more than this crap.

[@indyd9322]

If you two live in different states now, the likelihood of a potential relationship is low. It's better to invest your energy with someone you can actually be with regularly. ❤

[@DianeCarroll111]

I think comments like this are autogenerated by bots. I keep seeing comments of this type under relationship videos.

[@katiakay]

True.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💕

[@ShellysLivingLife]

Can you make a video like this but for when you live with the person and still together but he’s always acts like I bother him. He doesn’t say/do the sweet things he used to. He doesn’t pursue me anymore. We been on and off for 5 years . I am tired of chasing him or bed for his attention. We have sex maybe once a month or sometimes 2 months -not like that first year.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

While I don’t know the details of your situation, “on and off“ for five years is usually a red flag. That being said, these videos might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b3zbgmSQZZySjs0si=7-vOXbEII-S-H6-X and kzbin.info/www/bejne/hYrTnJiwfbpqpZosi=AzldHYsnjeDxkb8I.

[@mitchy_kles9373]

I asked for his future plan, and he got annoyed, ending, we had an argument.. he asked for space and he did not give me time frame despite of asking him. I reached out after 2 days and still did not receive any response. should i continue providing him space, even tho it means forever?

[@helenlovell8587]

Oh my goodness if he’s reacting like this to a “ normal “ question then he’s not serious about you right now. Maybe later but not now. I would go NO CONTACT. Don’t block. Just stop reaching out. Get busy and go out & watch him come back. And if he doesn’t then he’s not worth ur time. Keep watching these videos for advice 🙏

[@anitaeasamoah]

He's not serious. He's a boy not man. Let him be. Gosh

[@tfushtfushtfush]

Not serious dude

[@cheri6352]

Hi Helen! I'm appreciating the advice on getting my man to chase me, and to invest less so he can invest more! The problem I experience is when he gets talkative...egad!!! He talks more than any woman I know!!! sometimes I want to yell "shut the **** up!" bc he can talk hours about the most boring drivel😞His talking is sometimes ok, but he can more often than not talk for 3 hrs about some pathetically boring topic which makes me anxious! I become anxious bc I feel like I'm wasting large portions of my day as he beats me to death with metaphors (as though I didn't get the point the first time!!!) I cannot for the life of me get him to "Get to the point" in under an hour:-(( What can I try short of avoiding some conversations??? I almost get to the point I don't want to make any comments for fear he'll run with it! Help!!! Any suggestions?? I'm baffled??!!

[@paulahsirkkah486]

😂

[@Calmingrainsounds3163]

😂😂😂😂 I just can’t help but laugh

[@Laura-cx7jj]

And you are after him WHY?? Is it just his looks? Is it just because he's male and is there. Kind of sounds like you may have a disrespect problem (on your part, not his) you might look up what to do if a person you like talks too much I don't know. But you should probably stop your roll your eyes at him attitude, because he may catch on and leave you behind. Right now he enjoys sharing with you.

[@bgonzalezlee]

I’m going thru this right now my bf of a little over 2 yrs ask for space. He said that the relationship is boring and he’s lacking sexual attraction towards me and that he’s really scared for me to move in with him. We’ve talked about moving in several times and he was fine but now he’s scared and the relationship is boring and doesn’t have sexual attraction towards me. I’asked him how much time he needs and he told me he really doesn’t know. Plz help me this is so hard we are both adults in our mid 30’she says he does love me .

[@magdaleneokolo3576]

Why moving in with someone you aren't married to? You want to be used and dumped?

[@fatsilver5905]

You have the answer, you just don't want to see it: he's not into you. Neither are you into you. Learn respect for yourself and you won't have to force anything or anyone. All the love to you❤

[@Portia620]

See ya to him! Move on to greener pastures doll! Time is too precious to let your heart stay stuck on a perosn that could be posionist to you!

[@SS-pz5ib]

Go no contact, it's in people nature to take things for granted,either he will realise your worth or won't but then you would not want to be with someone who doesn't want you

[@Laura-cx7jj]

Honey these are SERIOUS red flags. The things he said to you are serious and harmful and mean. He has said he doesn't want a healthy relationship very meanly. He won't tell you the truth (because he's a coward and dishonest) But he's probably leering out on other women.

[@RoselaSolmeron]

I met rhis guy online we meet and try new things and later i knew his moving on for his ex girlfriend and they atill talking over phone but i feel betrayed of what i dont know l feel so connected to him and two weeks i can explain my self we end up like argued things now he ignore me and a 💔 break to me tell me what are your thoughts about this

[@arasyard]

hes a player. get rid of that kind of man, playing with other girls while hed get back with her ex

[@shonaboris6832]

My punjabi prince is a narcissist. We have known each other for over two years I believe he loves me because he keeps coming back to me and he will do anything for me

[@Portia620]

Becareful they will punish you! You think you’re playing them but these men or women will turn on you. Good luck with that. Yikes!

[@gailfroelich9633]

I can’t find the links. On iPad

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Which links in particular were you looking for? If you click on the title of this video, it will open up the description. There are also some links in the first comment that’s pinned to the top of the comments section. 💜

[@Liz-in8lu]

So this guy says he likes me and spending time with me. Yet he’s sarcastic and cold sometimes over text…. We’re late 30’s… is he just emotionally immature forever? Or just doesn’t respect me.

[@SelenaRomero-s5m]

I'm friends with a guy and I want him to want to spend time with me.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=WTeVxkv-fixjdX0A and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=j6IJV-CT-gmCmB6P.

[@patriciasaldanha7243]

👍👍👍Prioritise the relationship not the man ; Gosh this is harder than learning a language or painting ;You are both so awesome and adorable ; you bring joy and simplicity to people's lives.♡👍🦋♡🔷️🌈🟦☆💜🌕■🎼

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Patricia! ❤️

[@Jay_Lo]

Prioritize YOURSELF ❤

[@sonnita1209]

No kidding 🤦‍♀️😬 but definitely appreciate all this info ❤🙏

[@lyndamcmullen5506]

❤❤❤

[@teresanevins7167]

The question is- Is he worth the effort? lol

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, the latest episode I recorded with Matthew might help you determine that: kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=aF2RugxVogL1OZd2

[@Portia620]

That’s takes time to flesh out as it’s on the inside! Ugh! Takes time

[@Maggie-g1v]

Great answer!!

[@christinejones3314]

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[@pipermcpickles5283]

Thank you for this amazing information! 💖🪷💖

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️

[@flowerchild89]

Thanks for sharing this information 🙏😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 These recent episodes I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gIbLnIafiNmUfJIsi=JB8L3fThiFUFrl5G and kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2fHnHuCosimb68si=k2KUrXofmTBu1rnL.