Parents Who Cheat

Filmed at the California Southern University School of Behavioral Sciences. Visit www.calsouthern.edu/psychology/
The Parents Who Cheat Workshop will explore how children and adult children are impacted by their parents' infidelity, a topic that largely has been ignored in both the mainstream media and professional literature.
Dr. Ana Nogales will present the findings of her Parents Who Cheat Survey, which includes the responses of nearly 1,000 adult children whose parents were unfaithful. Workshop participants will learn about the six core responses to parental infidelity: loss of trust; shame; confusion about the meaning of marriage; anger and ambivalence toward the betraying parent; resentment toward the betrayed parent; and "acting out." Gender differences with regard to a child or adult child's responses to parental infidelity will also be explored.
About Presenter:
Ana Nogales, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, founder of Nogales Psychological Counseling, Inc., and Clinical Director of Casa de la Familia, which she established for victims of crime, including rape, human trafficking, child abuse, and domestic violence. She practices in Los Angeles and Orange Counties, supervising a clinical staff of fifty bicultural-bilingual mental health professionals and an outreach and engagement program.
Dr. Nogales is President of the Association for Latino Mental Health Awareness (ALMA) in Orange County and a board member of the Multi-Cultural Task Force, Las Comadres para las Americas, and the Women's Transitional Living Center.
The author of four books, Dr. Nogales' newest release is LatinaPower: Using Your 7 Strengths to Say No to Abusive Relationships (a Latina Power Workbook). Her previous books include Parents Who Cheat: How Children and Adults Are Affected When Their Parents Are Unfaithful (HCI Books.); LatinaPower! Using the 7 Strengths You Already Have to Create the Success You Deserve (Simon & Schuster); and Dr. Ana Nogales' Book of Love, Sex and Relationships: A Guide for Latino Couples (Broadway Books).
Dr. Nogales' innovative high school curriculum LaTEENa Power! - 7 Inner Strengths for Creating Success will be offered in schools and community groups throughout the country.
This has been a presentation of the School of Behavioral Sciences at California Southern University.
If you would like to receive a certificate of attendance for viewing this lecture, please visit: www.calsouthern.edu/attendance...

[@rominiyi1385]

Dr Ana Nogales ... I couldn't thank you more. I actually believe billions of people alive today would seriously derive peace of mind and equanimity from reading this particular book that you have written. I bought the Kindle edition but this book is so so important to me that I am going to buy the print edition as well, as I need to be physically seeing the book in order to be able make quick references to it without having to go to the trouble of starting up my phone. I can't discuss my case here as it would be too long and I can't summarise it either, ... however, if you heard it you would would be shocked even though you have highlighted quite a number of highly shocking cases in your book. Thanks for this video as well as it brings to light certain things not discussed in the book and illuminates further certain things that are discussed. I also know that just seeing the book and knowing that someone put so much effort into studying, analysing and categorising the issue and the multitude of problems arising therefrom is nearly like having a benign and really helpful person on your side ... when none ever existed before in this particular regard. It's as if you've honoured us that have been through this! Taken together (the book and the video), it's as if I have received hundreds of thousands of pounds of highly effective, mind relieving, and mind liberating much needed therapy in the space of less than a week in order to resolve horrific future shaping and psychological traumatic issues bestowed on me for decades by grossly irresponsible (cheating, highly manipulative, highly religiously manipulative) others (as in the title of your book) who should have known much better. I will search for and fill out your survey if it's still running when my mind has had the time to further digest what I have learnt from you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. The only regret I have is that I didn't find this book earlier as it was published in 2009 ... and we are now in 2024.

[@cdubs5991]

This was a great video. She explained her findings so clearly and they were easy to follow. I wish people could see this before they have kids.

[@mfawls9624]

Was talking to a lawyer, family law lawyer, and told him that in coaching kids I could see differences year to year when parents divorced. I told him it was sad and I clearly felt it was because I was a guy...a father, not theirs but they would be very affectionate toward me because the father was not there all the time anymore. He shook his head. I looked at him questioningly. He clarified, it wasn't about them lacking a father figure. It was because I was "safe". Safe in the sense that they knew me and I cared and that I was NEITHER parent. Ok...so what? The "what" is that if they are affectionate to either parent they feel they are choosing. With me they could be affectionate without choosing, just be affectionate without confusion. It's very sad ☹️

[@nataliasolakian7928]

So many men honestly don't care about their marriages. That is why I am single. Too much heartbreak. Men ruin whole families through their adultery.

[@sarahhumphreys3980]

Spot on. I'm happy that she is including teens and adult children in her survey.

[@farkhrasheed7363]

Great effort

[@SalamSinjab]

Thanks beautiful lady

[@lucyjung5087]

It's kinda reassuring that so many people have All these jumbled up feelings I'm not the weird one😌😅

[@juanmaldonado3288]

In my opinion the kid also must be disappointed in having a cheating parent with no moral compass. They are not the kid's champions anymore. Parents lose moral ground to educate their childrdn and the kids just don't respect ghem no more

[@Killswitch1411]

I was a adult when I found out my mom was cheating and I lost all respect for her.. Things got worse after they were in the middle of separating, with my dad taking his life and it really compounded my issues with my mom.