Behind The Looking Glass - FIRST EVER Documentary about the Wives & Children of Trans-Identified Men

[@limesodafilmsVS]

For subtitles, go to Settings -> caption -> language -> English The film has subtitles in more than 5 languages. Lots more to come. Turn on English if you want subtitles for non English parts!

[@prunabluepepper]

Sadly the topic didn't address the epidemic of lonely men, who desperately try to get a woman, but don't. Their longing is so strong they are so deprived of touch, that they turn to medicine to get what they want on their own bodies. This comment will certainly get censored, but I'm try anyway. Good documentary! ❤

[@Parmesito]

​@@prunabluepepperthat has nothing to do with women. This film is about women, not men. Someone else can make a film about that. In fact, why don't you???

[@oizzepizze]

That problem is created by men and they should be responsible to resolve the issues they’ve created for themselves in society. A snake that eats itself they built their own prisons how they treat each other sad then gang up on how they treat women.

[@johnnywalker9856]

​@@prunabluepepper slow clapping at great deflection

[@Helgamarie46]

@@prunabluepepper Dieses Thema hat mit deinem nichts zu tun. Es ist so typisch, dass derart wichtige Frauenthemen - insbesondere bei diesem Thema, bei dem es um verbale, seelische und körperliche Manipulation/Gewalt/Narzissmus gegen Frauen geht - von Männern immer benutzt werden nach dem Motto: "Aber wir Männer leiden noch so viel mehr als Frauen" Hast du die Dokumentation überhaupt (komplett) angeschaut und dir wenigstens ansatzweise ein paar Gedanken dazu gemacht, bevor du vom Thema abgelenkt hast?

[@NOPENOBODYSPECIAL-ro3xb]

My father was an autogynophelic transvestite who sexually abused myself and my sister. Thank you for sharing this documentary, especially in these troubling times where our side of the story is all too often ignored

[@freakyrettstar]

I am so sorry, sending you love - I'm a transwidow. Make sure you look at the resources for Children of Trans and best of luck on your healing journey.

[@rak4357]

So sorry you had to endure that. I hope you are in a safer place now. ❤

[@AmberMcAvey]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Praying that God brings grace and healing to your precious soul 💜

[@EllaArmstrong25]

Oh my gosh I’m so sorry

[@LB-uo7xy]

Most trans, especially closeted trans adults are child abusers. Just look up the guy that propelled trabs identify to the influence it has now- Dr. John Money.

[@rubykittyruby]

I wish a mainstream TV station would have the guts to show this. It's disturbing, but a superb documentary and needs the widest possible audience. Thank you to everyone involved in making this film.

[@faceless3433]

The ideological institutional capture is off the charts. There are very serious and well-financed agendas at work here. Another film that all must see: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p6rEq3uYp8d4g7s

[@Catmom-gl5nt]

I was in Ottawa on business last week, and while picking up dinner, a trans woman was in front of me. That person had an ill fitting, too short dress, and clown makeup and I had to struggle not to stare. Not because it was a trans woman, but because the outfit looked like drunk pantomime. That’s what I think I resent the most, not even that we’re supposed to accept them as women, but they can present in a manner that would incur strange looks if a woman did it, but because there trans we’re supposed to ignore they look bizarre. If an actual woman presented as this person did, I would have assumed some sort of untreated mental illness.

[@kathyh4804]

This would NEVER be shown mainstream! They don’t want anyone to hear FACTS about the trauma to women or children, it contradicts their agenda! Mainstream now is the biggest propaganda machine ever!

[@hydraxisfrimon9785]

Agreed. But as one contributor pointed out, a man in a dress is a far easier sell to a public hungry for salacious content, than a woman battling for the rights of herself and her children. And yes, it definitely needs showing if any balance is to be restored...here's hoping!

[@fitgiddlin21]

Mainstream media is paid large sums of money to push this gender ideology. There are incentives to support it and consequences for speaking out against it

[@oldbird-zm8qt]

I am a detransitioner. I like to think I wasn't as overtly, aggressively narcissistic as the trans folks depicted in this film. Guess what! Every tranner thinks that they were the truly feminine one; the one pure daisy in the field of weeds. I had that stupid surgery, and it didn't "make me a woman". No surgery can. I needed good therapy, probing questions about psychological and physical abuse in childhood. Instead I got my **** cut off, my body mutilated. Surgery just made more loneliness. It is a fool's paradise. Kudos to these brave women for speaking out. They truly deserve the title "Stunning and brave". Blessings to you ladies.

[@HekateSelini]

& brave of you to speak out so honestly. Best wishes to you

[@iconodule3938]

I pray you find true healing and peace! ☦️ You’ve certainly had a hard time of it, as well!

[@jenniferheale2485]

You've got a hard road ahead but I wish you inner peace. Hope things get easier. We all have regrets but there are better days around the bend. Be well

[@rainyfeathers9148]

@oldbird-zm8qt Stay great🫂

[@redmercury1159]

i am truly sorry you had to go through this. i know there are so many men just like you who are being lead to the slaughter of SRS and it isnt your fault. it is progressive societys fault. it is the greedy doctors and surgeons fault. im disgusted by this. these people EVERYONE involved in persuading you into transitioning should be put in prison for life. they destroy so many men. and so many women have paved the way for it. we wouldnt have this problem if it wasnt for modern feminists welcoming the transwoman with open arms. they show how much they hate biological women by just how much more they love the transwoman. they hold transwomen in higher regard than actual women. so i blame them for enabling this ideology.

[@Stabm]

I just discovered that I am transphobic. In a literal sense. I am scared of these men and scared of these developments. Women's rights get crashed all around the globe... Protect women's rights, protect our children! Thank you for this film!

[@angieb8941]

Actually, you aren’t transphobic because it is rational to be afraid of these men. Someone else pointed this out on X. Phobia is an irrational fear of something. Fear of these men is self preservation. They are dangerous as they often prove when they protest when women speak. They use very violent language in their protests.

[@faithburns8379]

Many trans men/women(?) are still quite physically strong and even w/female hormones they can be very strong and aggressive. They are scary so ok to be "phobic" perhaps.......

[@fantuswitt9063]

Womans rights and priviliges are stronger than ever

[@Sn0wShepherd]

@@Stabm exactly but you see it's not an irrational fear therefore it is not a phobia. It is very rational to be afraid of these horrible men. They are violent unpredictable and very oftentimes will werewolf they even refer to themselves as wolves loon wolves werewolves always the predator hiding in the bushes waiting to snatch up somebody's babies

[@tiasara5967]

❤

[@TheArchiveofEvidence]

I have a Trans identified father. We 4 kids were grown when he came out (as cross dresser 20 years ago). I love him but there are some complex feelings that are hard to unpack. And so much goes unsaid. Especially cuz he has evolved into a public Trans advocate who is invited to international women’s day events. Recently family reminded me that unsaid is best. I cry a lot at the moment. Thank you for gathering these testimonies. Very valuable resource.

[@mmacarty701]

Don’t allow yourself to be silenced. Your experience is as valid as anyone else. Speak out and speak loud. Your father is wrong if he made you feel like you can’t express your pain. It’s even better if he is a public figure it will make your voice important in the debate. Your experience will allow others to feel they can speak out too.

[@gammasmash1924]

I can't imagine. The relationship between parents and their adult offspring can already be so complicated, even under the best of circumstances.

[@teresamartin6989]

🫂

[@TheArchiveofEvidence]

@@mmacarty701 I think you’re right. It’s a fresh wound. Family reminded me not to speak thru eye rolls, ridicule, ghosting, ‘why can’t you just be kind’. It’s isolating. Oh.. And I didn’t mention, my Queer daughter, her Trans man partner (originally a lesbian couple), all their friends and my 4yr old Granddaughter, who sometimes identifies as They/Them. I’m swamped by trans and have exactly ZERO people who will even converse with me about the concerns I have. I’ve been quiet too long. They’re not used to me pushing back. But it’s just gone too far. That’s why I cry. It’s not just my dad. It’s bigger than that. Anyway. Hearing others share is both helpful and haunting. Sorry if overshare

[@frankgradus9474]

a sorry fellow; that's how I would think about myself if I were in his place; but that's just me.

[@annabizaro-doo-dah]

Finally. An honest talk about this whole misogynist mess. Many women have experienced some form of this gaslighting from pornified, fetish saturated men.

[@tiasara5967]

AMEN!!!!❤

[@JoZiggy]

Ohh. Perfectly written. May I quote you please?❤

[@mmacarty701]

No one should ever validate this madness of trans identifying abusers. Our children need us to stand up for women’s rights because it protects our children at the same time.

[@meganbaker9116]

Children have a hard enough time living in a world that has as as much contempt for them as this one does. Adults need to advocate for themselves. We do, after all, have all the power we deny children.

[@anonanon1344]

I ended a relationship with my (very straight, very male) abusive ex when he went on yet another resentful rant about how no one understood him. He had been saying for a few months that he was queer, but this was the first time he said ‘I am trans’. I just knew in a really profound intuitive way that he had hit upon the ultimate stick to beat me with emotionally. He had found something that was unanswerable and unchallengeable, with which he could require me to cater to him and his ‘needs’ and his fetishes, and claim that I was ‘phobic’ or ‘narrow-minded’ or ‘discriminatory’ if I refused or questioned. It just felt so clear to me that this was the beginning of an absolute campaign of control and coercion. Just as the film highlighted, this happened at a time when he was no longer the focus of my attention because we had broken up and got back together, and he was no longer living in my house, and I think he could tell I was starting to really question his control move away from him emotionally.

[@sarahthebowintherain]

I'm so glad you listened to your intuition, and he is now your ex. It's not easy for us women to choose ourselves, even when our sanity and lives are at stake. You got out. You chose safety. You chose healing over hurting. You chose you. I'm so happy for you 🥲🤝❤️‍🩹❤️.

[@Thomas-zx2yt]

congratulations for getting out of that relationship

[@weirdloverwilde]

You did the right thing ❤

[@mskerrykemp]

Nailed it.. I had an abusive x. Years later .. he became an ally to trans. It basically excused his behaviour because I was a bigot now.

[@Momthra1121]

Hugs, sister. Hope you continue to heal

[@samezidrovibes]

Grateful to the women who participated in this important film.

[@sue.F]

This is the darkest thing I’ve ever watched, it’s about erasing women altogether: it’s the absolute epitome of misogyny.

[@valleyvox]

Yes! We're in it NOW. It's happening

[@lancewalker2595]

They call fathers “sperm donors”, so unless I’m being unreasonable in asserting that manhood and fatherhood are more complex and inherently significant than the term “sperm donor” implies, I feel at liberty to point out that this kind of dehumanization is hardly exclusively directed at women. Every objectionable thing that this ideology is doing to women and girls was already being done to men and boys prior to 2015 when the gender insanity begun, it might appear that women and girls are under a disparate degree of attack, but frankly that’s only because: on the one hand, women and girls and the essence of femininity is far less vulnerable to subversion than men and boys and the essence of masculinity are, which makes them a FAR more difficult target; and on the other hand, the attack upon men and boys and masculine identity has been going on for so long that we don’t even notice it as an aberration. The progressive mission to supplant masculinity with misandry has been institutionally and culturally achieved already, what we are now observing is the pursuit to achieve the next item on the progressive agenda: to supplant femininity with misogyny. I will admit that I lament the lack of concern for men and boys, who have been suffering silently in a milieu of misandry for decades now, compared to the much greater and more immediate concern in responding to the same sort of subversion directed at girls and women; but I have some hope that by attacking women and girls the progressive scourge will become necessarily more apparent to people who are (generally) instinctively inclined to notice and respond to the suffering of women and girls. Progressivism is nothing more than the political practice of nihilism, it would benefit humanity greatly to recognize the fact that misogyny and misandry are simply two sides of the same misanthropic coin.

[@bellabuilder4160]

@@lancewalker2595 no, misandry and misogyny is not two sides of the same coin. Nowhere in the world are men being raped, murdered, stalked, having their rights taken away because they are men. Men who hate women, hurt women, women who hate men, avoid men.

[@anonanon1344]

Yes. The hatred of women at the centre of this behaviour just strikes me so so clearly in this.

[@ALT-vz3jn]

Yes. And if we talk we get called terfs

[@InternationalClare]

Trans widows we hear you, we stand by you, and we will add our voice to yours

[@grace-xb8ve]

I am not a trans widow, but listening to the stories of trans widows helped me immensely immediately after I fled my abusive AGP college roommate, immediately after my 19th birthday. I was so alone, confused as to what had happened to me and why, and these women helped me see that I was not crazy, I was not evil, I was not alone in this. Their experiences, while more extreme, reflect so much of my own in that tiny dorm room. I tried to speak out last year and was silenced, bullied, and essentially forced to leave my university campus forever. I'm hoping to find my voice in the coming year as I restart my undergrad at a reputable university with a reasonable freedom of speech policy. Thank you for this documentary. I hope more sisters stand with me next time than did before.

[@HekateSelini]

I'm sorry you had to go through that! In your generation, the gaslighting and bullying is insane... know you're not alone. And I wish you best of luck to find a better place to get the education you deserve.

[@alibrown6268]

There are groups on FB/Meta and Twitter/X that are full of people who stand together against this. You are not alone. Please reach out when needed and don't let the bullies, virtue signalling trans cultists get you down

[@bastetowl3258]

i'm sorry you were expected to share living quarters with a male. just terrible

[@JulieG1897]

You were so brave speaking up. I wish you well for the future.

[@jamiejones8508]

I lived in a women only residence at uni in the UK. It was great - but back then we knew exactly what a woman was without question. I’m so sorry you were forced to share your space with a man :-(

[@hcrone]

Right on Exulansic. Right on Derrick Jensen. Right on Helen Joyce. Right on Genevieve Gluck. Right on to everyone in this film and elsewhere, willing to speak publicly.

[@Sn0wShepherd]

I wondered if I was the only one who recognized all of the experts in this wonderful documentary. I absolutely love Exculancic. When I lost my wife she was the only person who gave me just the right amount of advice to be able to continue forward at all. And yes I'm a TERF, got to wear it with honor I suppose just simply because I don't believe that biological males can magically transform into rainbow unicorns or something. I even have her shirt and bought one of her shirts and beautiful artwork beautiful woman just beautiful and precious. And I know all the other names too. And I know all the names of the monsters who are performing these unforgivable surgeries on our poor little babies.

[@kathrynfuller596]

Right on Ute Heggen

[@susannet-b9734]

@@Sn0wShepherd I know most of them, too - and I live in Germany. Our community is bigger than we think it is!

[@281992pdr]

Helen Joyce: "There is a lie at the centre of it." 100% correct.

[@yomamma4823]

That goes for many delusions of our postmodern age.

[@letamorgan6819]

Helene Joyce is always spot on!

[@Chris-qv5gv]

One thing struck me very forcibly watching this, and that is that AGP is a serious and dangerous mental disorder that is being enabled, applauded and encouraged instead of being recognised and treated before it gets to the horrific levels shown in this film. These women are very brave to talk about their experiences, and I hope it gives more women caught up in this nightmare the courage to leave. I have some sympathy for the men caught up in the escalating obsessive disorder of AGP, but I reserve nothing but total contempt for the medical and psychiatric professionals who refuse to see it for what it is and who enable this behaviour to progress. And we need men to stand up and say to these AGP men, this is not normal masculine behaviour. You need help.

[@scooter-wy3qs]

The medical professionals who enable this don't get enough blame. If they didn't give these men access to hormones none of these women would have had to go through this nightmare.

[@starstorm1267]

I still believe men can participate in femininity in a healthy way (much like some gay men do), and shouldn’t be confined into just masculine behavior. It becomes a problem when men get sexual pleasure from being feminine.

[@paintsilj]

Why on earth would you have any sympathy for obsessive, unhealthy and disrespectful behaviour?

[@Rholenor]

@@paintsilj AGP isn't just a set of behaviors, it's desires that we didn't choose, and they're _huge_ burdens to us. There are many of us - mostly invisible - who haven't given in and who do fight it, but we're fighting against desires that can never be fulfilled and will never go away.

[@altnarrative]

Well said

[@charlottecorday8494]

It's insane what men are allowed to get away with.

[@Sn0wShepherd]

It's really nothing new is it? We carry all of life that we're treating like children like our voices don't matter. We are beautiful and elegant and our greatest attributes are considered weaknesses among men. Yeah it's nothing new. It makes it really easy for totally messed up people like me to start to think that maybe they can become men for 100 different reasons. Two years of testosterone and I'm the biggest dummy on the planet. My wife left me because of it. Yes my same sex wife. But she returned to me as a friend and later lived with me for many many years until go figure uterine cancer led to sepsis and took her away from me again. I'm very happy to have met Exculancic because she went through some of the things I did and she helped me to find a way to leave a part of myself behind with her with my beautiful Rita in order to not delete myself. I love that woman no matter what even if someday she comes to hate me I'll still love her for saving it taking the time to save me

[@kenlau457]

No, rather what women are allowed . These men are literally allowed carte blanche behavior once they identified as women.

[@martymcfly8731]

Oh, but they'll say they are more oppressed just because they can't get a girlfriend or a woman to look their way.

[@lorrainesmith.4995]

THey can turn it on and turn if off...its a choice.. to control women and humiliate them,, ""Men can do it better"" that is what they think.

[@briannabanks1659]

The Johnny Depp VS Amber Heard case is a huge proof of this.

[@starlingswallow]

My ex husband was abused by a girl cousin when he was 13, after his dad died. She dressed him up in girls clothes and did things to him. After we married, he started off with wearing pantyhose. Claimed he liked how it felt on his legs. I thought it was a little strange but I wasn't vanilla so I figured it was a kink. No biggy. Over the years it ramped up to women's underwear, him wearing makeup, heels, nail polish, etc. Then it was things being put up his "back package" which I tried once but then couldn't continue. It all degraded into him being humiliated to get gratification. It was never intimacy, he ignored my pleasure completely. I was used as a prop to degrade him so he could get off. 😢 I've been out 6 years and still healing. He hated women but wanted to be one? He never touched my V in 14 years but wanted to have one? I was in competition with my _husband._ It was so twisted and horrifying for me. I felt lied to, tricked.....because I was. Trauma therapy helped a lot and having a healthy & loving husband that's walked alongside me as I've healed has helped me as well~ big time. ❤ I'm so sorry for all the women who have gone through this, it's very difficult and destructive. 😢

[@starlingswallow]

13:09 Yes! It kept ramping up. It kept getting worse and more disgusting. His porn use took over and he neglected me altogether. Part of me was relieved and part of me was absolutely _crushed._

[@amicableenmity9820]

Exactly like my boss, he's a crossdresser but degrades women at every turn.

[@TheMissKizmet]

Fuckinghell! I’m so glad you are safe, loved by a good man, and healing. Thanks for sharing, God bless! 🙏🏼

[@HerWanderlust]

I worked with agp men for a long while- abuse by a mother who didn’t want a son (dressing him up as a girl, saying she wished he was a girl) or abuse by mother or father humiliating him by forcing him to wear women’s things-both of these were common origin stories. Another common one was simply wearing sister or moms clothing secretly when they were not in the house. Of course, ones own abuse does not excuse abusing others.

[@laurawarman6695]

As someone who has been widowed, I can assure you that the term 'trans widow' is not the least bit disrespectful.

[@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals]

Thanks so much. I've dealt with this many times. I'd love to have a different term but this one evolved.

[@Glenda-px4we]

Also aren't they the ones that refer to there male name as a dead name??

[@v.c.de-beaupre2855]

Right, we say 'golf widow' and talk about 'the death of a relationship'.

[@andrews6952]

i have a feeling that many of those who have a problem with the phrase trans widow may be consumed by the trans ideology. But I don't know.

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

They literally call it "dead name" because that person is dead to them. So "widow" is the correct term for this.

[@charlotteschnook1351]

Im a trans widow, my ex's autogynephillia was an offsoot of his extreme selfishness. Narcisisus fell in love with own image. My ex was more in love with himself in women's clothing, and his drugs. and his infantile hobbies like comic book collecting, than he could ever muster feelings for anyone, including his kids. He was rabidly jealous of me despite my only wanting decent treatment and never doing anything to earn his wrath. He treated our children horribly and tried to trap me economically so i couldn't leave. He was very sexist and treated our daughter poorly yet ŵas jealous of her too. He STILL tries to mess witb us despite divorcing him 20 years ago. I hate him, i will always hate him for the damage he did. I still go to therapy. All the people i know who have had trans people in their life have similar stories. It killed my support for their movement

[@Sarah-ss9pe]

"Women have a right to need things. Women don't have to set themselves aside in a relationship for any man, no matter what his circumstances. It's important to be reminded of that because, unfortunately, the culture has been doing a pretty good job of telling women otherwise."

[@michaelmcgee335]

There are women who feel sorry for trans-women they refuse to see the narcissism. Tried to talk sense into someone of this mindset they just dug their heels in.

[@JaneA544]

There are not women of any sort since you cannot trans a body to something that was never there,, they will always be male with a vicious need to break women into accepting and affirming their lies ​@michaelmcgee335

[@JaniceDove-tt1jz]

@@michaelmcgee335they will say you are phobic.

[@DariaZainabTdad]

Yesssss

[@barbarakauppi9915]

@@JaniceDove-tt1jz So what?? Cowering and kowtowing to sophomoric ad hominem fallacy attacks will guarantee both your loss and all of civilized humanity's.

[@thejables]

Watching this before it gets censored, taken down, age-restricted or otherwise effectively banned at least in the USA. Powerful and well made. This is a men 's sexual rights movement and that's why it's given such a place of importance in law and academia.

[@una-janewinfield1667]

See Professor Sheila Jeffreys, who has written a lot on gender-critical feminism as an academic, including "Penile Imperialism" in 2022. What a title!

[@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals]

I honestly believe they won't take it down because Vaishnavi crafted it so well. And, 30k views in a day!

[@bastetowl3258]

more like a male privilege movement. it's like a MRA's wet dream

[@barbarakauppi9915]

@@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals Truth is, the filmmaker's ethnicity greatly helps to protect their work.. at least from the powers at YT. The misogynistic powers that be in India, however, may be another story...

[@FocusedFighter777]

This The truth always gets silenced.

[@frusia123]

We have to stop telling girls romantic stories, and start teaching them the truth of how vulnerable and dependent motherhood makes a woman. So that they choose fathers for their children so carefully, as if it was a matter of life and death. Because it is.

[@kirst77]

And not just motherhood. Being in a marriage also makes you financially and emotionally vulnerable. There's nothing romantic about having the threat of having nowhere to live used to keep you in that relationship.

[@TheresFuckeryAfoot]

Women have been telling other women for centuries about the derangement of men in all manner of ways. In the age of social media it’s increased 100 fold. In many cases, it’s the proverbial “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink.” Presenting the truth only works if critical thinking and emotional/psychological maturity are being cultivated within society. Currently we have masses of people who hear facts/truth and quite literally deny them or do mental gymnastics to justify them because they have not cultivated the level of maturity & critical thinking required to respond appropriately. We’re going to see the kind of upside down world and not only of the likes of the issues in this documentary, for a while. We have two generations of adults who grew up with the ideology that they are always right, only their desires matter, claiming victimization while simultaneously harming others, anyone who disagrees with them are “evil” or bigots and “acceptance” means that everything and anything should be normalized and if you don’t agree, you are the enemy & “fascist”. So we’re not merely dealing with lack of information or women not sharing important life experiences with other women. We’re dealing with people who quite literally REFUSE to acknowledge the information being presented. That’s a foundational deficit that’s going to take awhile to remedy.

[@urthboundmisfit]

Or, I would propose we stop insisting that women with children lean on the fathers of their children at all. Matrilineal clans are a thing and I honestly believe we should go back to them as much as we can. (Recognizing that some mothers are abusive -- but not so many that *no one* could possibly do this.) Men have had ten thousand years to live up to the responsibility they wanted to claim, and all they've done is ruin our lives trying. Enough.

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

You can tell both! If you never see a healthy romantic relationship and never see an unhealthy ones than you won't know it when you're in one.

[@BellaCarmezia]

The road the world is heading down frightens me. Women are being erased and silenced. Thank you for this film 🙏

[@snu3877]

And it sickens me to my core to see how many fawning women are supporting their own erasure. I said recently in another post: it ain't men buying "Be Kind" lawn signs. Women have this misguided notion that it is loving to "accept" everyone, not playing out all of the consequences of that generic platitude.

[@abunchofcatsstuffedinatren5288]

Thank you for acknowledging this. My ex transitioned after 16 years of marriage and 22 years together. My child and I are still recovering from this experience. Lots of therapy ahead. It almost destroyed me.

[@limesodafilmsVS]

😢

[@jillturner8680]

I’m so sorry! Genuinely really sad you had to experience that and I hope you and your child are well on the road to recovery.

[@vrijbuiterspartei2715]

Crazy times 😐

[@sunshinemuldoon]

"He's in love with himself." I never thought of it that way; lots to consider here - thank you, ladies.💚

[@monicaperez2843]

He can't find his ideal woman (to marry), thus he becomes her.

[@aquaabundance4077]

But these men are married. They used their wives as their case studies to observe and thought they could mimic them smh. Creepy​@@monicaperez2843

[@alimac8312]

A big thank you Lime Soda Films. This film needs to be shown to MP's.

[@una-janewinfield1667]

What a good idea! I will send the link to mine.

[@kathyh4804]

They don’t care! They are part of the agenda

[@abigailrowland5650]

I will be sending it to my MP.

[@OrangeCanna9468]

Ditto

[@katiepert7746]

Well done to the brave women who told their stories & the woman who documented them. Big respect & admiration to you all. 👏 👏 👏

[@nickgreen4731]

So far I see nothing but positive comments for this film. That in itself is a very good and revealing sign. This movement is the Emperor's New Clothes.

[@abigailrowland5650]

A beautiful and very important piece of film-making, I am proud to be a part of it but, even knowing something of the process and the material, I still was blown away by the film's power. What a hero Vaishnavi is.

[@MariaWitlof]

One of the most important documentaries the world needs right now! Thank you to all the brave women involved and the makers! ❤

[@lja000]

I knew it was bad. I did not realize how bad. My heart goes out to these women and children. How sad that some men have devolved to such dark places.

[@kenlau457]

As usual, women will not take any form of accountability. This is of your own making. Being masculine is toxic, remember? Just angry that there is a group that is now more protected than you? Always the victim no matter how much society is set up to your advantage.

[@atsymbolhashtag2335]

A lot of familiar faces in this documentary. Well done. The societal acceptance of this delusion is bewildering. It is so obviously a sexual fetish and not an "orientation" or medical condition.

[@Stumpybear7640]

Do you not think gender Disphoria is not a psychological disregulation? And transitioning eases that Disphoria? No disrespect btw x

[@alisonwren3624]

Yes its a refusal to accept reality and should be treated in the same way as those delusional folks who think they're Napoleon....not celebrated! I wish they'd all just go back to dressing up in private on the weekends and leave women and children alone!

[@CM-hp5nk]

Have to disagree here. It is an orientation. The fetishistic aspect comes from it being supressed most of the time. It is an orientation in the sense that it can't be changed. However, I do believe for some it is a competing orientation with typical heterosexuality.

[@CG-uh5nw]

I think tg dysphoria is a disorder. Many western countries do now not recognise it as such but still pay for all the medical treatment. I think it is way over diagnosed and many people do not profit from hormones/surgeries. The only reliable studies on this show, that surgeries tend to rise the risk of suicide… here in this movie they are also talking about all the other reasons to crossdress (its not only gd). Autogynophilia f.e. I would be highly alert if a middle aged man states that he now wants to be a woman, because then he is most likely not a person with gf. For me the most important thing would be to declare it absolutely illigal to transition children/teenagers and to stop holding the whole society hostage to take part in somebodys delusion.

[@carolmoore83]

It isn't all that accepted. People are just afraid to speak up. The more the merrier.

[@cooshrocket]

I’m surprised KZbin didn’t censor this. Congrats on this brave and important piece of work! Looking forward to watching.

[@wendymoran6759]

Me too! Im watching it now instead of later bc im worried it will be taken down.

[@carmenmenendez9796]

@@wendymoran6759just finished it myself and immediately downloaded it just in case.

[@justmy2cents652]

@@wendymoran6759 Jupp. Watched and shared it instantly bc of that.

[@beewest5704]

Just wait it's early days. 😢

[@Prafik614]

”People who are ment to be about free speech, become all about silencing”. These women deserve to tell their story ❤

[@SarahDavis-d2d]

Thank you for acknowledging the pain we trans widows have experienced and continue to experience.

[@TheRisky9]

This is impeccable timing, because the general narrative right now is that "it doesn't hurt anyone." In fact a friend of mine posted a very misleading meme that said "If we let people choose their gender then what's next? Something else that's none of my business and won't harm me in the slightest. I mean, where does it end?" And this just isn't true! It does harm people.

[@michaelmcgee335]

@@TheRisky9 So many are blind.

[@Qrtuop]

Hugs if you want them, Sarah

[@SarahDavis-d2d]

@@Qrtuop I appreciate your hugs! I'm still standing but I truly doubted I would when this started.

[@alisonwren3624]

@@TheRisky9Lying harms everyone who hears it, and those gaslit by the changes in societal structure to accommodate these reality-deniers.

[@beccywilson1349]

i am a trans widow . Im so pleased this film has been made . I still am in shock , feeling broken , and am coming back to "myself" and to reality , slowly . Iv had terrible experience of therapy around this . Iv become afraid to seek support , for fears of being labelled transphobic , controlling , not kind enough etc etc . I now really see i need to a support group of women who understand the incredibly strange situation , or to speak with other women about this . Dose anyone know of how to find support in this situation ?.

[@ellisdunegan]

There are links at 1:34:57

[@lmn-3927]

Look for Trans Widows threads on internet forums. Look for forums that are for straight spouses only (or women only) because most L G B T support groups offer little to no support to the straight spouse (if gaslighting women into letting their boundaries be crossed can be called "support" at all).

[@YochevedDesigns]

You may find more support in a faith based person, like a pastor or a rabbi.

[@dawnatkinson7704]

​@@YochevedDesignsPersonally I don't think advising someone to seek support in a faith based system which is also misogynistic is wise.

[@pollyparrot9447]

@@dawnatkinson7704 Agree. Faith based advisers tend to put pressure on the woman to preserve the marriage no matter what it costs her.

[@mhm5443]

This is crazy stuff. The level of abuse is just horrible. This is a dangerous movement.

[@lorrainesmith.4995]

Extremally dangerous to women.

[@monicaperez2843]

This movement is from the pit of Hell!

[@cjlsawyer4399]

That was hard to watch, sitting safely in my house without any abusive AGPs in my life, so God alone knows how hard it was for all the women in the film to live with those men, as well as thousands of others still suffering in silence. Well done to the film makers and to the intelligent people interviewed, and a HUGE thank you to actual subjects of the film, the widows and children of those wicked men. I'll be sending this out now to the reluctant GenZs in my life as yet another educational opportunity. The tide continues to turn.

[@TheRisky9]

This is why I'm keeping a close eye on a friend of mine. She's dating a trans-woman right now whom I suspect is an AGP. (She's a lesbian and has been conned into thinking "transwomen are women" rhetoric.) I don't know how our other mutual friends will react if crap hits the fan. They worship her "girlfriend" (whose really a boyfriend) and so entrenched in this ideology. But I will be there.

[@midnightchannel111]

The silence needs to stop.

[@GaiaBD]

@@TheRisky9 Has your friend heard about the cotton ceiling, transmaxxing and AGPs? Is she going into this situation informed or ignorant?

[@clovis2240]

​@@TheRisky9 He's a heterosexual or bisexual transvestite man. "TW" is merely rebranding for marketing purposes that I think is best ignored by the reality-based.. Regarding you "suspect", what straight or bi male transvestite is not an AGP? As they're all selfish, manipulative, draining narcissists, maybe you will be able to get your friend away from him by questioning the inevitable examples of his narc abuse over time, ignoring the fictional 'trans' topic entirely. Good luck supporting your friend!

[@TheRisky9]

​@@GaiaBD I think she's ignorant.

[@suedynamic]

In Regards to pornography. “It’s hard to get enough of something that is almost enough.” Sexual stimulation without another human doesn’t close the loop, and leaves us feeling like it’s not quiet enough. A very important documentary. Well done

[@truerosie]

It's like the old saying about addiction: You can never get enough of what you don't really want. Hard to break from that obfuscating loop.

[@barbarakauppi9915]

That's how addiction works..

[@youcel92]

This was heartbreaking. So important, so overdue. Someone had to do it, at last these women's voices will be heard. YOU are stunning and brave 💚🤍💜 Thank you, all of you.

[@tungsten20]

With this important documentary, I hope every woman and children affected by this phenomenon knows that they are not alone. It breaks my heart to see them lose their husbands/fathers to this social contagion; the ones who thought they loved them only to “live” as their “authentic selves” and if you don’t validate them, you’re a bigot.

[@Aomame77]

I once heard a woman complaining about trans widows saying that adopting the word “widow” was not recognizing the pain “real widows” face. Everyone loses someone very close to them and most people face betrayal of some sort. It seems reasonable to me that a deceased spouse is less painful than one that betrays. This documentary proves it.

[@TheRisky9]

This is from the same group that uses the term "Dead Name" to represent the "death" of their old self... Just thought that was interesting is all.

[@goldenrochelle888]

As an actual widow, and a mother of a trans-ID’ing daughter who’s now cut contact, both are painful but in vastly different ways. One I could grieve with support, while the other I can’t speak about. Also, society continues to openly celebrate trans ideology and the destruction of the family unit. I accept the term ‘trans widow’ as it conveys much, incl the pain and suffering, but please don’t elevate it above the actual loss (death) of a loved one. This isn’t more oppression Olympics. We can all suffer and be compassionate to each other’s pain and needs.

[@pollyparrot9447]

@@TheRisky9 I think it has to do with the thinking that language control is only allowed on their side. Any hyperbolic term they come up with to describe their circumstances is fine, but let someone who is affected by their actions try to describe his/her feelings about them - unacceptable.

[@freakyrettstar]

@@goldenrochelle888 not one woman who uses the moniker transwidow has ever elevated their pain over widows. The idea that we do, is pushed by the trans community.

[@JaneA544]

A deceased spouse is extremely painful, don't downgrade it ever. But the pain and betrayal these wonen feel is very real and devastating to them and their children

[@tracyshannon1991]

So great to hear from several women whose experiences are similar to my own and to those of my children. Thanks for this film.

[@kkoke9347]

I am so sorry.

[@standup2982]

I’m so sorry, sending love ❤

[@abigailrowland5650]

So sorry. Sending sisterly hugs,

[@MartianGirl347]

KZbin seems to know that my ex-husband is getting bottom surgery this week with this recommendation… even though we are no longer together, I am still devastated.

[@serendipityblooming1244]

Sending loving vibes your way. I can only imagine the pain you must feel, but i am so happy to hear he is an ex. You deserve so much better and your heart will heal! One day at a time 💓🙏🌹🫂

[@Happyzebra-sb1vz]

Don't use their language. He's getting castrated and his p*nis mutilated.

[@megsley]

I'm sorry you're going thru this - unfortunately he won't figure it out until he's already permanently mutilated himself. the sx drive will disappear with no testosterone, which means he'll have nothing to fuel his fet!sh.

[@jmlorenzo3639]

I'm so sorry 💔

[@cycledance]

The problem is well known now and the advice should be: Run. Immediately divorce and don't look back.

[@lissarae]

I agree in principle with what you're saying, however I feel it's important to acknowledge that it's overly simplistic as far as advice goes - it doesn't acknowledge all of the barriers that exist that make leaving an abusive relationship so difficult. And these relationships absolutely ARE abusive! Protection orders are difficult to obtain, are often simply ignored, if not worse (sometimes they enrage abusers instead). The isolation, loss of economic stability, and extreme lack of any kind of safety net, lack of access to housing and limited shelter resources leave so many survivors with nowhere to go, no support systems, and no access to external resources. Not to mention that leaving is actually the most dangerous time - something like 70% of domestic violence murders happen during or just after the victim has gotten out.

[@middleofnowhere1313]

And gather evidence of them cheating so you can come out ahead in court

[@Nooj-o7f]

Extraordinary film- made me cry. My children’s father married 20 years is gay and married to a man now- not exactly the same but so many areas of commonality - the gas lighting, manipulation of the children, the fury when I no longer wanted to play my part in keeping the facade going, the lack of recognition for the fact I had been in an abusive situation rather than how great it is for him finding his authentic self. Well done on getting this out there and ❤ to all women going through this

[@rexingtonfunk]

I am a trans widow myself and I have thought a lot about this. About how women who have suddenly gay husbands must go thru some similar things. It must be confusing, invalidating, scary, and frustrating. I'm so sorry you went thru that. I have total empathy for you.

[@abidenoon5133]

What an important film, trans widows voices need to be heard. Learning about how a child of a TIM has coped with his behaviour towards her and how that's affected her, heart breaking. Really well done. Thank you. Edit, woke up thinking about these women, AGPs are a danger to everyone around them. More acknowledgement and support for these wives and children is needed.

[@beeba52]

I can think of many people who need to watch and show this film. Congratulations for making it.

[@chantelibra5160]

Thank you for making this. These voices need to be heard.

[@annlouise8909]

So many people involved in this creation: HEROS

[@legaltenderradfem]

SHEroes 😀

[@Sn0wShepherd]

Heroines! I so totally agree! I am proud to have had conversations with some of these magnificent ladies. I wouldn't be here if it weren't for excellensic spell check me on that I'm sorry lol those trans trenders get into positions of power and then they hire other trenders to bolster their position. It's the sickest form of nepotism imaginable and it's something that dynastic China endured for centuries oscillating between governance by warlords and power cloisters of eunuchs. When you study human society holy bucket see you have to be ready for some really crazy stuff

[@normalaming3943]

@@Sn0wShepherdin Greek mythology, Hero was female

[@Sn0wShepherd]

@@normalaming3943 That's what the boys say! herois, herone, heroina, heroissa, herys...let them keep their filssy "hero" wordses! ;)

[@una-janewinfield1667]

@@Sn0wShepherd I don't think you mean "nepotism". Could you please explain further? Thank you.

[@AmparoDomingo]

Vaishnavi is a trailblazer!! This was so needed!! Well done! Excellent job! 👏👏👏👏

[@Garbeaux.]

MUCH! I am a bisexual man & this is the most important documentary I really think I’ve ever seen. Been sharing it everywhere and I never share videos. 🤷🏼‍♂️

[@tripleyoker2049]

Cultural WARRIOR

[@Atluca96]

I am not a trans widow, but I am a woman. I am scared for us. These men have really brought to light the depth of misogyny in our society. I am young enough to have benefited from rights won by strong women in the past. I see now that the fight is ongoing and I want to thank all the wonderful trans widows who are speaking out, and other women enabling them to speak.

[@kathrynfuller596]

Thanks to all the courageous women who created this film.

[@mojour]

Thank you Vaishnavi Sundar for making this important documentary, at the same time heartbraking and empowering, and deep thanks to all the women who took part, told their stories, thank you to all of you! For being brave, for being human, for being resilient women telling the truth. I am deeply impressed.

[@Cabsnkings]

That was incredible, incredibly sad, and also incredibly brave. Thank you Vaishnavi, and all the women [and man] who contributed to this incredible, historic documentary.

[@acacia_w]

These cases are all clear instances which fit the definition of Domestic Abuse. It's staggering that these men are prioritised, even when children are involved. I don't see how this can possibly continue. It will just take more people to become aware of this phenomenon. Sending love and support to everyone involved in the making of this film. ❤

[@ambreberiault9097]

What a pleasure to finally see the outcome of this project, despite all the emotions these testimonies make you go through. Thank you to anyone that participated in any way to this.

[@Ira_Ross]

A major international step back for women's rights.

[@catherinerobilliard7662]

Watched this yesterday evening and here I am again bearing witness to the forbearance of women who have sacrificed so much, suffered so much and lost so much, including being the one called mother.

[@daTribbleMaker]

This is quite possibly the best documentary I have ever watched on KZbin. And the best i have seen in recent memory. The professionalism and attention to detail shines in this. The content had depth and gave an unbiased look at those that suffer when the husband/father decides he is a "woman". Absolutely fantastic. Seeing Helen Joyce in this and all the other first hand stories along with other professionals gives this documentary the gravitas that you see in much higher costing productions. I hope you win many awards, and I am sharing this all over TwitterX and in forums. A++ 5 STARS- Tragically beautiful.

[@FallopianDismay]

Fantastic doc! Well done! I'm going to pass it along. This is an important film, and if the tide is really turning, it's going to get seen! All my sister solidarity and love to the women who shared their stories with us! And everyone who made the film happen.

[@voightkampff7936]

Huge thank you to everyone involved in the creation of this film. You're bravery is commendable.

[@ThatCurious_Cat]

I can’t thank you enough for putting this together! And the brave women who shared their stories. I have been screaming the erasure of women through this trans ideology for ages, praying that all women will start screaming too. It’s never been more important. Thank you again!

[@BirdistheNerd]

I can't thank you enough for this film. It's like someone out in the ether whispering "I see you." I appreciate this presentation so very much.

[@marilynwarbis7224]

Thank you for giving a voice to those whose voices are silenced.

[@damarcohamby]

Wow I’m utterly amazed and distraught at what these women have gone through and endured with these men 🙏 Thankyou for making this documentary because trans-widows voices need to be heard. I knew about AGP’s but now my understanding has fully peaked me💯

[@scorpina69]

🙏🙏🙏Deep respect for your work and dedication to cracking open an ignorant world. Suddenly women around me are starting to talk about their 'family secrets' and the men who confused them, mothers picking up their kids and leaving, alone. It's a taboo that needs to be broken. 🙏💜

[@greentree5448]

OMG. I know a trans widow and she's told me stories that, until now, I didn't quite believe. But, now, I believe every single word. She could have written this.

[@freakyrettstar]

there's experiences that were shared which are common amongst all women who are transwidows or children of trans

[@juliettejuliette-bf8df]

Nice to know women continue to be not believed 🤨

[@y2ksurvivor]

​@@juliettejuliette-bf8dfoh come on, you can't expect blind affirmation with any claim no matter who makes it. it's OK to have doubt. its a very TRA mindset to think we must believe anything a fellow female says without checking the veracity of her claims.

[@xXxScrattiexXx]

i hope you learn from your mistake and from now on believe women instead of men.

[@BushidoVXX]

Troon ideology is wicked and evil. It must be stopped at all costs.

[@sTraYa249]

My poor mum was told to lay still as if she was some kind of corpse. Shed ring me & say " Ted is walking around in a tangerine mini skirt...sigh!" My step father, Ted, was a fraud for 5 years & hid all this & then just expected my mum to play along😢

[@abigailrowland5650]

My heart breaks for your poor mother.

[@northstar2621]

Lay still...? In what context was this if I may ask?

[@Clint52279]

As if she were no more an accouterment than the lingerie and wigs? Just another masteurbatory aid?

[@batcactus6046]

@@northstar2621 Imagine sex.

[@impossibleagent3663]

I’m left speechless. This just smacks with reality. Beautifully done.

[@eeeeeek2514]

I am a single woman, however, I watched intently as it’s important to identified the signs if / when presented. Thank you to the participating women and their honesty. There are some very important messages in this piece. May God bless all women navigating this path

[@Pammellam]

I am worried about young women looking for a spouse. How can they know who they are marrying… What do they look for??

[@briantbmoth6472]

@@PammellamAsk questions and be observant. If they are abusive in anyway, extrapolate it and leave. Investigate. Verify what they say. Protect yourself, any children you may have, and your assets. We need to add value to each other lives for me to even consider marriage. Not even worth the hassle of dating in this climate currently.

[@kimwells2695]

This documentary hurt my soul. Sickened by the fact that in nearly every case of a real victim speaking out after being harmed by the Gender Ideology Juggernaut is harmed again by captured friends, neighbours, trans activists, media, politicians and law etc, etc. I feel suck to my stomach at the injustice.

[@anonanon1344]

Thank you to all the women who participated in this absolutely vital film. I’m so angry on their behalf.

[@emmawilson1157]

Brilliant film and so important. Thank you for giving these women the chance to tell their stories

[@moodstock]

Merci à toutes ces femmes qui ont témoignées, merci à la réalisatrice pour son travail. Votre parole est essentielle, ce documentaire est essentiel.

[@aqueen3122]

wow. so well put together, calmly presented and so illuminating

[@ellieterf6443]

Wow! That was really powerful. Congratulations, Vaishnavi, and thank you to all the women who told their stories. The injustice must be so hard to take. Fucking self-centred narcissistic perverts!! I'm really glad that you have all found each other. This film is going to have a huge impact. Well done everyone, especially Vaishnavi, for bringing it all together. Vaishnavi, do you still need donations? Lots of Love, and sisterhood to all of you xxx

[@justmy2cents652]

It is shocking that the mainstream, politicians, people who think of themselve as decent and on the "right side" seem to have forgotten that we're still talking about male sexuality and deviancy. As if pron, prostitution, lurkers, flashers, SA don't exist. The imagery in the video was powerful.

[@lorrainesmith.4995]

I loved your comment... my words exactly.

[@lovenature7823]

Thanking all of the courageous women who stood up for themselves in this video, and for your work as a documentary maker. Excellent action in support of Trans Widows, and against trans ideology.

[@kerryAZ24]

That was an amazing film. It summed up a lot of the broader aspects of gender identity ideology while at the same time made it heartbreakingly personal. Well done ❤

[@steph744]

this film needs to be seen by everyone

[@adrienneschugren9790]

Bravisima! Just finished watching, what a wonderful, moving piece. I can't imagine the hours that went into it, just flawless. Thank you so much for creating this, for putting your talent into such an important subject. ❤❤❤

[@vicedetsYT]

Great doc, thanks for uploading! The focus on AGP is apreciated, I think it gets mentioned but not actually discussed enough in discourse around trans issues

[@TheRisky9]

Broken down Into chapters (I think I got them all): 0:00 - Intro 3:15 Why does he want to be a woman? 18:29 Sex 22:25 Misogyny, Male Violence & Manipulation 28:19 Men Claiming Motherhood 36:40 Child Abuse 44:01 Custody Battle 46:48 Control & Isolation 51:16 Playing the Victim & Suicide Baiting 55:19 Why didn't you Leave? 1:01:28 Poor therapeutic Support for the Wives 1:17:25 A Global Phenomenon

[@batcactus6046]

1:29:55 A Message of Hope

[@madcatdad42]

As a Widower, I can say the term "trans widow" is not disrespectful.

[@RuthToddColorado]

Thank you for bringing these stories together in such a clear and compelling documentary.

[@elenaechevarria]

Thank you to all the incredibly resilient women who came forward with their stories and to everybody who participated in the making of this illuminating and neccessary film. Will share far and wide.

[@estefbc2932]

I would like to give this documentary more than one like but unfortunatedly I can't. I'm so glad that this film came to light knowing all the effort you put into it! All of you are very brave and inspiring ❤

[@Uh_huh]

Excellent documentary. The scary thing about this form of abuse is how it has become socially acceptable, normalised. The men are lauded as "stunning and brave" and their wives advised to accept the behaviour, get over it and are made to feel guilty if they leave. This needs to be shared near and far.

[@TheSumax]

Well done to all of you. Excellent storytelling. Love the graphics & illustrations. Happy to have dobbed in a small amount to fund this.

[@Garbeaux.]

Most important documentary or piece of media I’ve ever come cross. NGL.

[@vanessamcc71]

Wishing Vaishnavi every success. Watching from Belgium XX

[@MariaWitlof]

Watching here from the Netherlands, hello! 😅❤

[@Fraususemil]

This video is something absolutely necessary. Many thanks to everybody involved in the making, epecially the brave transwidows speaking up! Are there plans for translations e.g. into German?

[@norissima95]

Pooh Gotta breeze. This was more intense than I anticipated. Thank you so much ❤ 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 .

[@norissima95]

"breathe"

[@annlouise8909]

To the uncaptured: there's a reason why you are uncaptured, that your brain is working, there's a reason.

[@Parmesito]

I will never let some man in lipstick make me say he is a woman. I would rather die.

[@obinwataje]

Brilliant, heartfelt and riveting work both personal and political. Absolutely heartbreaking too. Thanks, Vaishnavi and everyone involved.

[@Cat-wi6je]

Great documentary,thank you to all of the brave,strong and resilient women and children that have had to suffer because these selfish,autogynephillic men and the governments and services that enable them. #NoMenInFemaleSpaces.

[@msshrill3681]

Can’t wait for this important film. V is a fearless warrior

[@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals]

I believe it will take a few days to settle in that we finally have our voices. Thank you Vaishnavi. Well worth the wait~

[@Sn0wShepherd]

Ute!!❤❤❤❤

[@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals]

@@Sn0wShepherd And now, after 1 week, 88k views!

[@twocanplay7976]

Many thanks to women like you who made these stories heard. I cannot believe I went so many years without knowing about this madness.

[@acarrot4686]

Brilliant documentary! I love the use of animation and it's so well made.

[@MarciaMatthews]

I gave Vaishnavi ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️on IMDB.